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Speaker 1: for having me. I had to have someone, you know, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I suppose so. Was that? Was that a dick thing

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Speaker 2: No, No, I just didn't. I didn't want to be

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Speaker 2: one of those people to ask how are you? But

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Speaker 1: What do you? Why is it? Why is such a

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Speaker 2: It seems like everyone does and we know you're doing fine?

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Speaker 1: How do you know I'm doing fine? I could be

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Speaker 1: doing that, could be severely depressed. Daniel here, you're from Philadelphia,

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Speaker 1: twenty six years old? You said, he says you have

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Speaker 1: that is that correct? Is that what you wanted to

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Speaker 2: Well, he's he's just no, he's kind of a dick

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Speaker 2: in general. I've lived next to him for about ten years.

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Speaker 2: I live with my parents still. And he comes up

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Speaker 2: and I certainly have sympathy for him, but I don't

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Speaker 1: Why why is this? Why? Why do you feel as

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Speaker 2: Like empathy and more of a sense like I don't

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Speaker 2: But he's just not really someone I spark up a

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Speaker 1: Hmm, and uh, do you feel as though he is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so background, he's he's he's older, I'd say, maybe

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Speaker 1: Mm hm, And well, like I said, is he is

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Speaker 2: He's been out a little more. I stand outside in

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Speaker 2: But anyway, Yeah, he's he's been outside more and trying

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Speaker 1: Know, Daniel, I'm I'm not a moral authority of any kind,

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Speaker 1: you do you doa wants to be nice to this guy? Like?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my next stark.

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Speaker 1: Beautiful. Well, anything else you want to say to the

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Speaker 1: Advice for sure, Man, thank you for calling.

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Speaker 6: I did pay decently. I get paid above men. I'm

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Speaker 6: Oh no, no, I'm looking for another job. I'm thinking

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm learning a lot about companies today.

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Speaker 1: What's the name of this we Care?

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Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, great, great?

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Speaker 6: Oh we Care w ee and then care? Now?

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Speaker 1: How do they background check you to make sure that

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Speaker 6: Yes, you do have to go through a background. So

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Speaker 1: What is it that you enjoy about working with children?

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Speaker 6: I think that it's they're just like little little sponges

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Speaker 5: You could be different every day.

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Speaker 1: Mmmmmmm. Do you which do you enjoy better between working

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Speaker 5: I want to be a principal or a superintendent.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you want to be a principal when you when

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Speaker 1: you Uh, I was gonna say when you grow up,

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Speaker 1: I believe it's fine say that again. Wasn't it twenty

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Speaker 1: So that's pretty wild. I couldn't imagine going to the

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Speaker 1: could be in your class. Yeah, what do you want

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Speaker 6: I'm more into education or independency. So independency kind of

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Speaker 1: It's true, it's true. I feel like that makes sense,

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Speaker 1: never taught us how to pay taxes. It's crazy. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: We learned how to start, We learned how to do things,

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Speaker 5: How to go.

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Speaker 6: About getting a car. What's a good interest rate? What's

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Speaker 1: Oh man, that sounds incredibly interesting. What was your relationship

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Speaker 6: For school, I was what would you call a handbook reader.

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Speaker 6: So if we didn't do what the handbook said, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 6: I boked the rule so that we.

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Speaker 6: So I was I being on.

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Speaker 5: The edge of the rule book. I guess you could say.

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Speaker 1: You were on the edge of the rule book. You said,

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 6: Okay, So one time, I believe it was full of

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Speaker 6: And so then when we got to school, they also

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Speaker 1: The dorm in your dorm. Okay, all right, So you

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Speaker 1: went to like some boarding school, it sounds like, right, okay,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I was sixteen, and they told me that they

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Speaker 1: Really, that's crazy. They didn't ask you for any sort

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Speaker 6: I have no idea, I don't I don't even know

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Speaker 6: they're going to sell it to him, make some money.

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Speaker 1: You know what I get? You know, I feel like

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Speaker 1: just don't want to get involved. At all. They don't

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Speaker 1: It was just like, I'm not touching this with a

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Speaker 6: And it was funny because to like get it onto

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Speaker 5: At the airport.

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Speaker 6: So I took it out and it was like twelve

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Speaker 6: when they checked it, they didn't check that area of us.

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Speaker 6: So it was just like basically wrapped around my waist and.

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Speaker 1: Then you wrapped it around your waist like a belt.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, if I saw if I were like a

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Speaker 1: But now I feel like, Okay, so you're going to

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Speaker 1: of principle? Okay, Well you said your style is going

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Speaker 1: If you were a principal and you saw some kid

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Speaker 6: Oh, well, that would be happening in mine because in

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Speaker 5: But in public school.

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Speaker 1: Well, hold on, well, hold on and answer the question.

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Speaker 1: If you were a principal and you saw that happening.

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Speaker 1: What would you do?

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Speaker 6: I would laugh and stop, stop them and take it.

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Speaker 1: You said, obviously you would take it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I would have to take it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, okay, what are you gonna do with it? Though?

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Speaker 1: You know you're a kid. Just keep it in your office?

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Speaker 5: No, you just you just solved the best.

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Speaker 6: So hopefully he don't go dumpster diving or they don't

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Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. So when you said you would confront them,

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Speaker 1: how would you do, Like, what would you say to them?

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Speaker 6: Like?

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Speaker 1: What would you like? I assume you would sit them

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Speaker 1: What would that would that sound like?

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Speaker 6: I don't really know on that part because I kind

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Speaker 6: So if they're freaking out kind of like, oh I

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Speaker 5: But if it's someone who's like kind of just dared to.

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Speaker 1: The disposal part is tricky because you would have to

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Speaker 6: Be fucked up of you should report me and says

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Speaker 1: Well listen. I hope that that doesn't happen to you, Ian,

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Speaker 1: I hope that your principal career is filled with children

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Speaker 1: following the rules to the t of your handbook and

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Speaker 1: that it's a smooth ride for you. Breck, thank you

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Speaker 1: very much for calling in. Anything else you want to

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Speaker 6: We go, don't buy Janny pigs from pep smart.

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Speaker 1: Perfect. Thank you for calling in.

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Speaker 5: GOP bye bye.

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Speaker 1: Ian sounded like a good person. Their phone, on the

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Speaker 1: other hand, really sucked. The reason why they said that

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Speaker 1: And all your friends are like guinea pig people. No,

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Speaker 1: That's what Ian wanted to talk about when we talked

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Speaker 1: about the principal thing. You know what. The guinea pig

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Speaker 1: lost in time now and we will never get closure

441
00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 1: on the murderous guinea pig. But to give some context

442
00:24:55,520 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 1: to Ian's advice, I would probably ta it to heart

443
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 1: if they tell us not to buy guinea pigs from

444
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 1: pet smart Bunny.

445
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 2: Hello, how are you?

446
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 7: Oh my gosh, I didn't know if this is real.

447
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: This is uh. I have as much of a diagnosis

448
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,400
Speaker 1: on whether or not this is real as you do, Bunny.

449
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:29,880
Speaker 7: But well, here's the thing. All everyone everyone like, there's

450
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 7: like four voices. They all sound the same. It's like

451
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 7: you have two guys and then two girls, and I

452
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 7: feel like they just call in and they just have

453
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 7: like little prompts and everybody just, you know, just does

454
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:40,440
Speaker 7: their little thing.

455
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 6: So I'm I'm stoked, you.

456
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 1: Know what, You're one hundred percent right. I get fucking

457
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,159
Speaker 1: comments all the time of people being like all the

458
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: callers sound the same, it's just some guy. This guy

459
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 1: just has his friends call in and stuff, and it's

460
00:25:55,840 --> 00:26:00,919
Speaker 1: like that that's not true. But you're right. There's like

461
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,679
Speaker 1: a sort of a high pitched male voice and a

462
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 1: low pitched male voice, and everyone fits into one of

463
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 1: those two categories. And then there's two girl voices that

464
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,879
Speaker 1: everyone fits into those categories. Which girl voice do you

465
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 1: think you are of the two that are on the show?

466
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 7: Ask you what you think I am?

467
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:24,639
Speaker 1: I don't know, And you know what, you don't need

468
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 1: to know. You don't need to know a damn thing

469
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 1: to be on here. Bunny. But listen, Bunny, it says

470
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:34,680
Speaker 1: here that you're twenty four years old, you're from Wisconsin. Yes,

471
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:38,640
Speaker 1: I wonder what that's like. You hate compliments. You get

472
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 1: compliments on your appearance a lot, and you say that

473
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:45,680
Speaker 1: it actually makes you more self conscious to receive a compliment.

474
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 1: Tell me about that.

475
00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 7: I don't know, it's just ever been since like junior high,

476
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 7: Like whenever i'd like wear a shirt and someone would

477
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,199
Speaker 7: be like, oh, hey, I like your shirt, like it

478
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,400
Speaker 7: makes me just super self conscious, like, oh, what's wrong

479
00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:00,840
Speaker 7: with my outfit? Like it in the back because my

480
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 7: underwear sticking out, you know, like what's going on? And

481
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 7: like still to this day, like I still have that fear,

482
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 7: and I've tried to get over it, but I just can't.

483
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 7: And you know, I dress kind of eccentric and I

484
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:14,640
Speaker 7: really like the way I dress and I feel really

485
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 7: good about it until somebody, like I'm out and somebody

486
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,360
Speaker 7: gives me a compliment, and then I'm just like, oh,

487
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,359
Speaker 7: I just like want to go and change into something

488
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 7: normal and just like not want to be seen, and

489
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 7: I don't know why.

490
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 1: So are we talking mainly compliments of regarding your your appearance?

491
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:35,360
Speaker 2: Yeah?

492
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 7: Mostly in my appearance. Sometimes I'll get it about my

493
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 7: personality and they're just lying, They're just trying to be nice.

494
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 7: Look I don't believe them, but it's like not as

495
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 7: severe as like the outfit compliments. And sometimes when I

496
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,359
Speaker 7: go into sorts, I usually get it mostly just like

497
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 7: some strange. I like pretend I'm on the phone when

498
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 7: I'm walking through stores, just so like I don't get

499
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 7: people talking to me or you know.

500
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 1: Interesting. Interesting, Have you ever received a compliment that did

501
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: not have this effect?

502
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 7: Not from a stranger? Probably not, But like if it's

503
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 7: from like a sister or like a really close friend,

504
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 7: and I know that they're genuine about it, then it

505
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:25,240
Speaker 7: doesn't bug me. But from strangers, it just like drives

506
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:25,960
Speaker 7: me up the wall.

507
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 1: M Okay, So if you receive a compliment from someone

508
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: you know, like a close friend or a family member,

509
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: you do not have the same thought train as when

510
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: it's a stranger. Why do you think that is?

511
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 7: Just because I know their intentions and I know that

512
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 7: they're genuine about it, and it's not like if I

513
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 7: did have something wrong with my outfits, then they would

514
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 7: tell me, whereas like a stranger, it's like, oh are

515
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:54,719
Speaker 7: they trying to tell me something.

516
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 1: So I was going to say that. I mean, I

517
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 1: feel like, typically this is I'm gonna do some armchair

518
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: therapy here. I feel like, typically this is like a

519
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: self esteem thing. But you're telling me that you actually

520
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 1: you like how you dressed. You sound to me, well,

521
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 1: you know, at least when you were talking about the

522
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 1: way that you present yourself, you sound to me like

523
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 1: you like it. That there is a sort of fire

524
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:26,960
Speaker 1: of confidence within you in regards to how you dress,

525
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: and your opinion of yourself sounds to be in a

526
00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 1: good place. What I mean, do you agree with that.

527
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 7: Totally?

528
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: Okay? So if your opinion of yourself seems to be

529
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 1: in a good place, do you are you does? Does

530
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: that get rattled when people, I mean, you know, confirm

531
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 1: it and you know, say hey, you know they really

532
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 1: do like your dress or fingernails or whatever it is.

533
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 7: I don't know, see, like, I just like, I still

534
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 7: feel good about my outfit, but just like, I don't know,

535
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 7: something about getting a compliment just throws it off. And

536
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 7: then I go home and I'm like, yeah, I do

537
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:13,680
Speaker 7: look good, I do look bomb. I'm like, why did

538
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 7: I ever feel self conscious about somebody?

539
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 1: Saying something right, Well, I mean the foundation of your confidence,

540
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 1: uh should come from you, and it sounds like it does.

541
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 1: Is that accurate?

542
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:39,080
Speaker 7: I would say you?

543
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:47,240
Speaker 1: Okay? Mm hm you have you ever talked to a

544
00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 1: real therapist about this?

545
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:56,360
Speaker 7: Not really? I probably should though.

546
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 1: How is your confidence in general?

547
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 7: I'm pretty good. It's gotten a lot better of the years.

548
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 7: I do tend to be quiet and shy, but over

549
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 7: the years I've been able to be more confident and

550
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 7: be able to show myself except for just getting compliments

551
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 7: that just on my outfits.

552
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 1: That okay, now, I don't know. Now, how do you

553
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 1: feel about insults? If somebody came up to you and

554
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 1: they were like, your your dress looks like shit and

555
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 1: your fingernails suck? How would that make you feel?

556
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 2: Oh?

557
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:34,400
Speaker 6: I would love that.

558
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 7: I want people to be more mean to me. And

559
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:39,160
Speaker 7: it's like, I think that's the problem is everybody's just

560
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 7: so nice to me that I just want somebody to

561
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 7: walk up and just like give me the worst and

562
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 7: just tell me straight up what I.

563
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: What's your name again?

564
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 5: Oh?

565
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 8: What was it?

566
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:55,080
Speaker 1: What's your name?

567
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 4: Oh?

568
00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 7: Bunny?

569
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 1: Bunny? I fully empathize with you. I I people, I

570
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 1: totally I totally get it you're making I'm sort of

571
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 1: realizing now that I have a similar thing that you have,

572
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 1: where like you know, people will tell me things about

573
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 1: myself and I'll be like, ah, they're just saying that.

574
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:18,200
Speaker 1: But when people say a negative thing to me, I'm like,

575
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 1: finally someone's telling me the fucking business. Here, Someone's telling

576
00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 1: me the truth. Okay, not everything can be positive all

577
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 1: the time. I love it too. I'm totally with you,

578
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 1: not alone. I love it too.

579
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:33,040
Speaker 7: And I get it because I can't be negative to

580
00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 7: other people. To show that that's what I want, I

581
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 7: have to be so nice to them too because they're

582
00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 7: so nice to me. It's just like I just I

583
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 7: can't handle it.

584
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's hard. I'm always trying to let people know,

585
00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 1: like listen, if you have a genuine criticism of me,

586
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 1: I want you to tell me, and I want people

587
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 1: to know I can handle it. You know. I just

588
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 1: want people to know I can have But nobody wants

589
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 1: to wants to wants to do it. People are afraid

590
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: to criticize other people because of you know whatever social

591
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 1: Soka shows social conventions. So I mean, look, if you

592
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 1: leave this call with anything, just you know, know, that

593
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 1: you are. You are not alone in this very fucking

594
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: weird thing that that we see him to share because

595
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:22,760
Speaker 1: I also I love I love when people tell me that,

596
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 1: you know, some insult about uh me that is that

597
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 1: confirms something that I was self conscious about, because I'm like, okay,

598
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 1: I'm not funcuse that I see. Someone will be like,

599
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 1: you know, oh, your fucking show sucks, and I'll be like, Okay,

600
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 1: I'm not crazy here, but these thoughts that I've been

601
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 1: having are Okay, I'm not insane in having these thoughts.

602
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 7: Mm hmm, but I honestly don't think you show so

603
00:33:58,040 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 7: I can't see that.

604
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 1: Get the fuck out of here.

605
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 7: That's what I'm calling it. Okay, next time I'll call

606
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 7: you and.

607
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 1: No, no, no, Well, Bunny, I think uh, I think

608
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 1: I think you've been. You've been. I'm trying to think

609
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 1: of a compliments that's not weird. Uh you have been

610
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 1: nice to talk to.

611
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 7: Oh, thank you, of course.

612
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 1: Is there anything you want to say to the people

613
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:34,319
Speaker 1: of the computer before we go.

614
00:34:38,840 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 7: Probiotics will change your life. I just started taking them

615
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 7: this week, and I have never felt freedom like I

616
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 7: have this week. I endorsed you probiotics please.

617
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: Medical and you know what's great is you don't need

618
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 1: to have any sort of medical background to endorse something.

619
00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 1: You can just do it. You don't even have to

620
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:02,400
Speaker 1: believe in it. You don't even have to know what

621
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,320
Speaker 1: it is. You can just endorse it.

622
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:06,239
Speaker 4: It's beautiful life.

623
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: Thank you for calling, buddy.

624
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:11,440
Speaker 7: I think you goodbye.

625
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 1: I agree with that. I like when when people are

626
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 1: mean to me because people I'm I'm very luck, I'm

627
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: very low, I'm very lucky. I'm very lucky. Most people

628
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 1: are pretty nice to me. I'm blessed that, like the

629
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 1: majority of people are not. I don't I never get

630
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 1: offended by anything that I read on the internet because

631
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 1: it's like, most people are pretty nice to me. So

632
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 1: it's every time I see something that is me and

633
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:50,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, finally, when I was way up because I'm prepared,

634
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's this inevitable. You can't get too upset

635
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 1: when someone's a dick to you because there's like seven billion,

636
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 1: seven hundred thousand, there's like seven there's infinite people in

637
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:08,399
Speaker 1: the universe, and what they're all supposed to be nice

638
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 1: to you? What are you nuts? Of course, of course

639
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:16,080
Speaker 1: somebody is going to be mean to you. So when

640
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 1: it happens, I don't get upset because I'm like, all right,

641
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:21,960
Speaker 1: this was just an inevitability. This is to be expected.

642
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 1: This is part of the process of being a human being,

643
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:28,839
Speaker 1: especially being someone who's you know, putting themselves out there.

644
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: So I just accept it as part of the thing.

645
00:36:34,080 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 1: I'm lucky that everyone is. Most people are nice to me,

646
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,760
Speaker 1: but it's exciting when they're not. It's a break in form.

647
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:46,720
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for every single message that I respond to them.

648
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 1: When I can messages of people being like I love

649
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 1: the show and you've been great, I'm like, thank you

650
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:55,279
Speaker 1: very much. But sometimes you get something that's like, you know,

651
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:59,720
Speaker 1: you're a fucking fat piece of shit and I hope

652
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 1: that uh, and you should quit. And I'm like, finally,

653
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 1: I've been waiting for this. It's like, uh, it's inevitable.

654
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:08,440
Speaker 1: I just want to get it over with. I just

655
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,080
Speaker 1: want to get the you know, you know the punch

656
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: is coming. You know that people being jerks is just

657
00:37:15,120 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 1: an inevitability of existing in society. So when it happens,

658
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 1: I don't get upset. I'm just going through the motions.

659
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:29,760
Speaker 1: I'm driving down the road, I'm stopping at stop signs,

660
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 1: I'm eating food, I'm sleeping, I'm brushing my teeth, and

661
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:45,399
Speaker 1: I'm getting yelled at. Occasionally it's fine, Hello.

662
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:48,600
Speaker 5: Hello, Hi?

663
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 4: Is this John?

664
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 5: Uh? John Carlo?

665
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:55,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, John Carlo? How you? Oh wait? Okay, so is

666
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:59,040
Speaker 1: your like your first name is John Carlo?

667
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 5: Yeah?

668
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 4: Call one word.

669
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 1: I have a friend his name is John Tom and

670
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:09,879
Speaker 1: he hates when people call him John or when they

671
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 1: call him Tom because a lot of the times he'll say, hey,

672
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 1: my name is John Tom. People go with that's a

673
00:38:14,760 --> 00:38:16,200
Speaker 1: that's a cross that I feel like both of you

674
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:18,319
Speaker 1: guys have to bear where you tell people your name

675
00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 1: and they go, what is it is that your full name?

676
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:22,719
Speaker 1: Is that your first name? What's you know? The deal? Here?

677
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 1: Go ahead.

678
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:27,759
Speaker 4: It's so it's so annoying because all my life I've

679
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,279
Speaker 4: grown up and just had to accept that people will

680
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 4: assume that my last name is Carlow and have to

681
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:36,359
Speaker 4: be like no, and it's just such a hassle. But yeah,

682
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 4: I don't totally understand that and get it.

683
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:39,399
Speaker 1: It's the way.

684
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 4: No.

685
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:41,400
Speaker 1: My friend he says the same thing. He's like, I

686
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:44,320
Speaker 1: hate it. People won't just accept it. It's a hassle.

687
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: It's a whole thing, and you know, I I tell him,

688
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:49,759
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, if it really bothers you that much,

689
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 1: just go by John. And he's like, no, that's my

690
00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 1: fucking name. He got pissed off of me when I

691
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:59,680
Speaker 1: suggested that. So I respect you guys for, even in

692
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 1: the face of such a hassle, continuing to live by

693
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:04,879
Speaker 1: your actual name, because if I were you, I would

694
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:06,640
Speaker 1: have changed or if I were you, or if I

695
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 1: were my friend John Tom, I would have changed my

696
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:10,880
Speaker 1: name to John when I was you know, eleven. So

697
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: I am not as strong.

698
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 6: As you use this for me.

699
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 4: I feel like I would be more upset at my

700
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 4: mom for like choosing the name, because the creativity with

701
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 4: their like just went downhill right after my name.

702
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 1: Why, what's what are your brother's names?

703
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:33,439
Speaker 4: So there's me John Carlow, and there's Joseph Nicole, Bobby.

704
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:37,399
Speaker 1: Randy jose Okay, so they did They were like, Okay,

705
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: we're not going to do the weird double name thing

706
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,600
Speaker 1: for two kids, and then they were they named their

707
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:47,239
Speaker 1: last kid Bobby Randy just for nostalgia. By the way,

708
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 1: Bobby Randy has it way worse than you do. I mean,

709
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 1: that is an incomprehensible to name name.

710
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 4: It's the worst.

711
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 1: How can I get you this evening, John car though.

712
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 4: So my dilemma pretty much starts with the fact that

713
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 4: my half brother recently immigrated to the United States and

714
00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 4: he is living at my aunt's house in my hometown. Unfortunately,

715
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 4: I've been feeling a lot of pressure from all of

716
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 4: my family members to interact and reach out and like,

717
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:24,280
Speaker 4: you know, say hi. But I'm an extremely anxious person

718
00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 4: and don't I've never been in this situation before, so

719
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 4: I don't exactly know how I'm supposed to just drive

720
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:33,440
Speaker 4: over there and like say hi or anything.

721
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: So your half brother, he recently immigrated to Let's see,

722
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 1: where does it say you live? Where do you live?

723
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:43,760
Speaker 4: I live in Indiana?

724
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:46,400
Speaker 1: You live in Indiana and your half brother immigrated to

725
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 1: Indiana from where.

726
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:50,240
Speaker 4: Honduras?

727
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 1: From Honduras? And do you live with any of your

728
00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 1: other family in Indiana or not necessarily with them, but

729
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 1: are any of them or any other of your family

730
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 1: in Indiana.

731
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, So, like I'd say, like of my family live

732
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 4: in Indiana and then the rest are split between Honduras

733
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:16,480
Speaker 4: and then North Carolina. Believe I don't live with any

734
00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 4: of my family members. I live with my roommate and

735
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 4: my girlfriend.

736
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: So I'm confused because it'd be one thing if you

737
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 1: lived in some place and your family lived in a

738
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 1: different place, and your half brother was coming and your

739
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 1: family was like, hey, take care of your half brother

740
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:33,360
Speaker 1: when you're there, and you're like, I'm kind of anxious.

741
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:35,720
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that. But if your family

742
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 1: lives there too, why don't you see your half brother

743
00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 1: alongside the rest of your family. Why don't you like

744
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 1: plan a you know, a whole you know, dinner or

745
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:46,880
Speaker 1: something like that, or if if they care so much

746
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 1: about entertaining and why don't they plan a dinner and

747
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:50,760
Speaker 1: invite you. What's why does it have to be your

748
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:53,840
Speaker 1: thing to take care of them.

749
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 4: So it's a tricky situation because all of my family's

750
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 4: on my mother's side, and as for my aunt and

751
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 4: him there on my dad's side, and I don't really

752
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:07,160
Speaker 4: have a whole lot of family on that side except

753
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 4: for my aunt, him and like maybe two other people.

754
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 1: Okay, so the family that is, so the family that

755
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 1: is related to the half brother, you do not have

756
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 1: a lot of in Indiana.

757
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:23,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, Like I don't really have any relationship with

758
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 4: them like at all.

759
00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:27,719
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, that makes a little bit more sense.

760
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 1: So you're the so in the eye from the perspective

761
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 1: of your half brother, you are the only family member

762
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 1: of his living in Indiana.

763
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 4: Except for my brother because he my Joseph, he's also

764
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:49,319
Speaker 4: his half brother, so it's only him and I.

765
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 1: Okay, So why don't you go visit him with your brother?

766
00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:00,399
Speaker 4: We were supposed to this weekend. He ended up going

767
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:04,160
Speaker 4: to see him without me, and I was too caught

768
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:06,880
Speaker 4: up in doing something so I wasn't able to And

769
00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 4: I feel like I kind of like blew that opportunity

770
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 4: to try to break the ice and like kind of

771
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 4: tag team it. But now it's just where I'm kind

772
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 4: of in the situation where I have to do it myself.

773
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:22,399
Speaker 4: So I'm extremely anxious about it.

774
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 1: Tell me, Tell me why you're anxious about it.

775
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 4: So it's just like a really weird new situation for

776
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 4: me to be in, especially because they don't go out

777
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 4: of my way to really interact or talk to too

778
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,319
Speaker 4: many people, so I don't know too much about what

779
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:41,840
Speaker 4: I should really do or like how I should go

780
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 4: about it, or like what I should like invite him

781
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 4: to do because I don't want to take him to

782
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:48,680
Speaker 4: go see a movie where we just sit in the

783
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 4: dark for an hour hour movie.

784
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm do take it? How old he twenty twenty one?

785
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:58,880
Speaker 1: Why did you take it? Do you drink? Does he drink?

786
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 4: I don't know, honestly. I know that he's a couple

787
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 4: months older than I am, but I really don't know

788
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 4: anything about him or like what he's into. So I

789
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 4: feel like drinking him could.

790
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: Be kind of fit or bess, look, ask him if

791
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:14,719
Speaker 1: he wants to go to a bar, Ask him if

792
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 1: he wants to go to a restaurant, anything like that.

793
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 1: Although for you this doesn't feel like a like a

794
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:22,960
Speaker 1: what to do situation because we already know what to do.

795
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 1: If the problem lies in the fact that you're just

796
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 1: kind of anxious to do what it sounds Yeah, and

797
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:33,760
Speaker 1: so you have just a general anxiety you said about

798
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:36,760
Speaker 1: meeting other people and interact with them.

799
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, hmmmmmmmmmmm.

800
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:49,200
Speaker 1: When's the last time that you, well, you have a girlfriends, right, maybe?

801
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:50,000
Speaker 4: Yeah?

802
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: And you have friends?

803
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 4: I have like two friends.

804
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:59,279
Speaker 1: Did any part of you desire because there's a lot

805
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 1: of people out there the world that they're like cool with,

806
00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 1: you know, staying inside and not talking to a lot

807
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 1: of people and having a few friends and being comfortable

808
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:09,239
Speaker 1: and sort of living life that way. And that's a

809
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 1: fine way to live life. Is that is that you

810
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 1: would you describe yourself as that? Or are you you know,

811
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 1: do you do you desire to uh heighten your social

812
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:21,919
Speaker 1: skills at all?

813
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 4: So I used to be a very social person, but

814
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 4: then like when the pandemic like hit, my social skills

815
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 4: just like went down the gutter. So my friend groups

816
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 4: have become my very close knit and ever since I

817
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:37,600
Speaker 4: got into three D printing, it's just been like my

818
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 4: entire life. So I don't really think it interacts people.

819
00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:44,400
Speaker 1: Damn three D printing. We thought it was gonna be

820
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:46,920
Speaker 1: video games. We thought it was gonna be VR porn.

821
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 1: We thought it was gonna be the wife who bed pillows.

822
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 1: All these are all the things that we thought we're

823
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:58,360
Speaker 1: going to keep people inside forever. But no, it was

824
00:45:58,440 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 1: three D printing.

825
00:46:01,080 --> 00:46:05,440
Speaker 4: I'm really obsessed with it, like it's like it's bad, Like,

826
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:08,840
Speaker 4: oh my lord, I spent so much time watching videos

827
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 4: and like learning about it.

828
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:15,719
Speaker 1: John Carlo, I would you know, here's this is this

829
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 1: is the issue that I have when I when I

830
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:21,040
Speaker 1: talk to people who have like because I can't magically

831
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:28,120
Speaker 1: bestow upon you the confidence or desire to go and

832
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 1: hang out with your half brother. But I will say

833
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:37,760
Speaker 1: I think this is an opportunity for you to jump

834
00:46:37,880 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: into the cold water and just go and and sort

835
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 1: of in a way be forced to put yourself out

836
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 1: there and make conversation with a new person. And maybe

837
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 1: that could be a helpful chance for you to take.

838
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 4: Well, if it does make you feel better. I had

839
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 4: already like decided that if you had picked up my call,

840
00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:01,320
Speaker 4: I was going to go do it anyway.

841
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 1: Perfect weekend, Okay, good, well, I mean I.

842
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 4: Am going to do it now. I'm just like trying

843
00:47:05,560 --> 00:47:07,600
Speaker 4: to figure out what to do and how to go

844
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 4: about the situation.

845
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 1: Great news is this is the easy part.

846
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 3: Dude.

847
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 1: You can just go to a bar and hang out

848
00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 1: with him at the bar. Easy, peasy.

849
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 4: I am worried that there might be a slight language

850
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 4: barrier because I don't know if he speaks English and

851
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:23,839
Speaker 4: my Spanish just kind of shit.

852
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:26,400
Speaker 1: You know what, That'll be a fun thing for you

853
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 1: guys to work through. All right, consider it a good

854
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 1: challenge for you.

855
00:47:33,760 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 4: I will think of it as a mighty challenge.

856
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 1: Good luck to you, John. Okay, you want to keep

857
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: what is John? Good luck to you John Carlow. Wow, yeah, man,

858
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 1: go kill it. It's your cousin. Wait, no, not your cousin,

859
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 1: your half brother. He's your half brother, so there's no

860
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:58,319
Speaker 1: way for you to really embarrass yourself in front of him,

861
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 1: because he's also has your blood. So anything he thinks

862
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:07,440
Speaker 1: of you, he's a little bit thinking of himself as well. Half.

863
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:08,760
Speaker 4: I think it'll be funny.

864
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:13,520
Speaker 1: Thanks for Coln, John Carlo. I keep thinking, I keep

865
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:16,839
Speaker 1: thinking of your name is Juan Carlow because I've heard

866
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:19,719
Speaker 1: oh yeah, because I've never I've never met someone named

867
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 1: John Carlo, but I've heard the name Wan Carlo a lot.

868
00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:26,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, Won Carlo is a lot more common than John Carlow. Like,

869
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 4: it's just it's so annoying. I actually go by GC

870
00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 4: a lot of the time just to make it easier

871
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 4: for people. And I tend to like kind of whitewash

872
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:36,719
Speaker 4: my name so that like people can say it or

873
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 4: pronounce it a lot easier, just to make my life easier.

874
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 1: Well, JC, have fun with your brother, right, Thank you,

875
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:53,359
Speaker 1: have a good night. Take care of boss. Yeah, let's

876
00:48:53,400 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 1: see John Carlow. The only way sometimes to do this

877
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 1: shit of getting confidence and put yourself out there is

878
00:49:05,239 --> 00:49:09,719
Speaker 1: to just jump into the cold water. I've tried many

879
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:12,919
Speaker 1: times to get to improve my social skills, to learn

880
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 1: how to talk to more people, and some people they

881
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 1: like connecting with others just inherently more than other people do.

882
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:23,000
Speaker 1: And it's hard if you're not one of those people

883
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 1: to force yourself to do it. But I feel like

884
00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 1: this whole half brother thing is a little little opportunity

885
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:36,359
Speaker 1: for John Carlow to work up with social skills in

886
00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 1: like a pretty safe environment. I mean, they have plenty

887
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 1: to talk about. They're both of the same ilk, and

888
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:46,720
Speaker 1: it's not like he's just going up to some girl

889
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 1: at a bar and trying to make conversation out of nothing.

890
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 1: You know, it's a solid, solid arena for him to

891
00:49:54,600 --> 00:50:04,480
Speaker 1: practice in. Hello, Lyle, Hi.

892
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:07,240
Speaker 3: Is this Lyle?

893
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 1: This is is? It's definitely someone? What's your name? I'm Pixie, Pixie.

894
00:50:17,280 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 1: How's it going?

895
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 3: I'm I'm doing great, it's going good. Is this actually Lyle?

896
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 3: I can't tell? You sound so different?

897
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 1: I sound differ in what way? Do I sound different?

898
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:31,840
Speaker 3: You sound so different? You literally sound so different.

899
00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 1: I don't know in what way. How if you could,

900
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 1: in any way, shape orform, describe how I sound different,

901
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 1: how would you describe it?

902
00:50:37,320 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 3: You sound more normal? You sound more normal.

903
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:42,360
Speaker 1: Well, now I'm offended that you ever assumed that I

904
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 1: sounded weird.

905
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 3: Well maybe it's like without the visual, without the get

906
00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 3: go costume. Yeah?

907
00:50:52,800 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 1: Uh so, Pixie, are you Are you with somebody? It

908
00:50:56,719 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 1: says that you're with somebody or that you wanted to

909
00:50:59,040 --> 00:51:00,120
Speaker 1: talk about somebody.

910
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:07,360
Speaker 3: Yep, I got my girlfriend right here. She is in

911
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 3: the background. Her name is Moss.

912
00:51:10,840 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 1: Moth and Pixie. Interesting, both are the did you guys

913
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 1: can ask? Did you guys pick those names for yourselves?

914
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:22,560
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah we did. We're both trans.

915
00:51:22,840 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 1: Now did you two both like kind of agree to

916
00:51:28,480 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 1: uh do? Because because you both picked winged characters, I

917
00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: guess they're not care your winged beings.

918
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 3: Well, her name is actually moss m o s s

919
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:44,239
Speaker 3: like the plant like that.

920
00:51:44,160 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 8: Grows on trees.

921
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 3: She also she also goes by moth like m O

922
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:56,920
Speaker 3: t h. She goes by that online for selling content.

923
00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Interesting. I feel like it's I'd rather be

924
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 1: a pixie than a moth. I feel like that's a

925
00:52:05,080 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 1: more glamorous life.

926
00:52:06,360 --> 00:52:09,960
Speaker 3: Oh, I think you're right. I think it is a

927
00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 3: more glamorous life. But that I think that describes us

928
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 3: pretty well, like in comparison to each other.

929
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 1: So, Pixie and Moth, what is it that you guys,

930
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 1: if anything at all? What is it that you guys

931
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about today?

932
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 3: Well, you were talking a lot about existentialism and whatnot,

933
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:30,160
Speaker 3: and I was resonating a lot with that because I

934
00:52:30,200 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 3: have a really hard time like even perceiving other people

935
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:41,440
Speaker 3: perceiving me, Like I can't I can't even understand that

936
00:52:41,960 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 3: these people have their own consciousness just like me, and

937
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:48,960
Speaker 3: that they have to figure everything out like I'm doing

938
00:52:49,000 --> 00:52:49,680
Speaker 3: it right now.

939
00:52:50,239 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

940
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:54,920
Speaker 3: And it's also really really hard because I don't see

941
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 3: how half of these people are even wanting to do

942
00:52:58,239 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 3: it because I don't want to do it most of

943
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 3: the time. So I don't understand how Like.

944
00:53:03,040 --> 00:53:08,080
Speaker 1: Slow down real quick, like, sorry, what is what is it?

945
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:11,800
Speaker 1: What is it? Just? Life?

946
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:12,440
Speaker 4: All of it?

947
00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 1: Man?

948
00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:13,920
Speaker 4: Just the shit.

949
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:19,239
Speaker 1: Can I tell you this one thing about because you're

950
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 1: talking about you don't understand, uh, people perceiving you and whatnot? Yeah,

951
00:53:25,040 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 1: your life? Well, and I've just this is just my

952
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:33,400
Speaker 1: own opinion from my own experience. Uh. The I think

953
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: it's important to a degree to understand that other people

954
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:42,080
Speaker 1: have perceptions and thoughts the same as you do, because

955
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:46,239
Speaker 1: it makes you more empathetic towards them. But uh, the

956
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 1: more that you just fucking completely ignore the fact that

957
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:52,680
Speaker 1: other people have thoughts and perceptions, you'll feel a little

958
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:55,680
Speaker 1: bit better because if you're always thinking about how other

959
00:53:55,680 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 1: people have thoughts and perceptions, do it enough that you

960
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:00,799
Speaker 1: have empathy for people, but not too much that you're

961
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 1: self conscious about yourself all the time? You know what

962
00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:04,439
Speaker 1: I'm saying.

963
00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that makes a lot of sense. I spend

964
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 3: a lot of time just wondering looking at people and

965
00:54:12,600 --> 00:54:15,960
Speaker 3: being like, is that like an AI that I created

966
00:54:16,000 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 3: in my brain? Or are they real? Because it's hard

967
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:22,880
Speaker 3: for me to perceive that. Like, you exist, and you

968
00:54:22,920 --> 00:54:25,239
Speaker 3: have a brain right now, and you're thinking things just

969
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:28,359
Speaker 3: like I am, Like, sure, am, oh, I've never done

970
00:54:28,440 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 3: this before.

971
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:34,360
Speaker 1: How a much I'm thinking? I am thinking horrible, horrible

972
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:38,439
Speaker 1: thoughts that I could never share with anyone else. Oh No,

973
00:54:38,560 --> 00:54:40,600
Speaker 1: if anyone ever found out about the thoughts that I

974
00:54:40,640 --> 00:54:43,359
Speaker 1: think they would be disgusted with me and that's why

975
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:44,319
Speaker 1: I never share them.

976
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 3: No, I disagree. I think like that too, but I have,

977
00:54:51,840 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 3: but I tell them. I tell people the thoughts because

978
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:57,240
Speaker 3: I want to remove the tabooists from it. Like, here's

979
00:54:57,239 --> 00:54:59,120
Speaker 3: the thing I haven't trusted thoughts, And I mean this

980
00:54:59,239 --> 00:55:01,719
Speaker 3: in the in the that's way possible if you can.

981
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 3: I've thought about killing you before. And it's not that

982
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 3: I want to. It's just like bad interessive thoughts, and

983
00:55:09,239 --> 00:55:13,879
Speaker 3: that's okay. We can share them because then it'll be like, hey, hey,

984
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 3: actually I think about that too, and then we can

985
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 3: be like, oh, okay, cool, we're both awful people like

986
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 3: you know.

987
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:23,080
Speaker 1: And it's thoughts. Let's say is that? Can we talk

988
00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 1: about that? I relaxed. I feel like we're totally not

989
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 1: talking about that, but well we're talking about it in

990
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 1: a theory, we're talking about it in thoughts. No, of course,

991
00:55:33,400 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 1: I hate the Internet. I hate that we have to

992
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 1: think about what we are talking about because I don't

993
00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:38,680
Speaker 1: think you actually, I don't think you want to kill

994
00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:42,399
Speaker 1: at all. No, I get what you're saying. I get

995
00:55:42,400 --> 00:55:45,040
Speaker 1: what you're saying. Your brain, your brain does this thing,

996
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:48,760
Speaker 1: and ever anyone who doesn't under anyone who's like actively

997
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:51,919
Speaker 1: trying to not understand what we're talking about right now,

998
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:54,839
Speaker 1: is lying to themselves. But your brain does this thing

999
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:58,839
Speaker 1: sometimes where it just sort of independently of you as

1000
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:02,760
Speaker 1: a real person and your own morality, your brain just goes,

1001
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 1: what's the most fucked up thing I could possibly think

1002
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:09,600
Speaker 1: right now? Just recreation? Your brain just does that with

1003
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:12,759
Speaker 1: awful leash. Not it's not a real thought, it's not

1004
00:56:12,800 --> 00:56:19,160
Speaker 1: something you have any actual uh what what is the word?

1005
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:24,959
Speaker 1: Not something you have any actual whatever to like, real

1006
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:29,720
Speaker 1: genuine feelings about. But your brain just goes, like for sport,

1007
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stretch the limits. It's almost like when you're

1008
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:35,239
Speaker 1: this is I don't know if this is a good

1009
00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:37,919
Speaker 1: analogy or not, but like when you're in the gym, uh,

1010
00:56:38,000 --> 00:56:41,400
Speaker 1: you're you expand by picking by you just pick up

1011
00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 1: a heavier weight when you picked before, And maybe your

1012
00:56:44,560 --> 00:56:47,120
Speaker 1: brain does this weird thing that's like, in order to expand,

1013
00:56:47,160 --> 00:56:50,080
Speaker 1: I'm going to think something more fucked up than I've

1014
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:52,240
Speaker 1: ever thought before in my life, just so I can.

1015
00:56:52,760 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 1: And you're and you're not you're not even an active

1016
00:56:55,120 --> 00:57:00,359
Speaker 1: participant in your thoughts. Sometimes you just watch, Yeah, so

1017
00:57:00,560 --> 00:57:09,759
Speaker 1: I get where you're coming from in a sense what

1018
00:57:09,920 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 1: I don't know if I should answer this question. What

1019
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:12,319
Speaker 1: else do you think about?

1020
00:57:14,960 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 3: Always think about a lot of things. I like to

1021
00:57:16,840 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 3: propose this what I do have, Like, uh, I'm psychoactive,

1022
00:57:20,040 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 3: and I have like a BPD and o CD. And

1023
00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:25,640
Speaker 3: there's a name for those and they're called intrusive thoughts.

1024
00:57:25,680 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 3: And they just thoughts that like you can't control and stuff.

1025
00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 3: And I think about it a lot. My therapist told

1026
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 3: me this a few years ago. Think of them like cars,

1027
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 3: like passing. Like you're sitting by a highway. All these

1028
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:40,640
Speaker 3: cars is zooming, and like you don't have to stop

1029
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 3: and stare at all of them, like not at all.

1030
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:44,200
Speaker 3: You don't have to go run into it. You can

1031
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:46,840
Speaker 3: just like watch them pass because you have no control

1032
00:57:46,880 --> 00:57:49,880
Speaker 3: over it. And I think I think that makes it

1033
00:57:49,880 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 3: a lot.

1034
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 8: Easier to understand.

1035
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:55,240
Speaker 1: Okay, we did it, we got.

1036
00:57:55,040 --> 00:58:00,560
Speaker 3: Through that psychotic. I'm not psychotic. Psychoactive is like a

1037
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 3: trait of like depression. But I don't sorry, I'm reading

1038
00:58:03,200 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 3: the chat. No, I'm not.

1039
00:58:05,640 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 1: What's the pixie? Pixie, don't pixie, don't read, don't read

1040
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 1: the stupid chat. Don't No, I know, I know I know.

1041
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:13,919
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm upset at you that you're reading.

1042
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:15,880
Speaker 3: Sorry, I'm so sorry.

1043
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 1: Low, don't do it. Okay, well, okay, we're done. Okay,

1044
00:58:20,920 --> 00:58:26,160
Speaker 1: all right, done, completely right. How did you and moth me?

1045
00:58:28,320 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 3: You won't believe this. We met don't know megl We

1046
00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 3: met don't know Meg.

1047
00:58:32,240 --> 00:58:34,120
Speaker 1: Megal and then you guys both are in the same

1048
00:58:34,160 --> 00:58:35,480
Speaker 1: How are you guys both in the same room. I

1049
00:58:35,480 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 1: feel like you're meeting matching people. Yeah, no random places.

1050
00:58:39,480 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 3: Yep, there's a story. We were both we don't even

1051
00:58:45,480 --> 00:58:50,360
Speaker 3: use the megal and we both we're on there and

1052
00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:53,720
Speaker 3: we found out like to find other people our age,

1053
00:58:53,920 --> 00:58:58,560
Speaker 3: like eighteen nineteen, we're both eighteen. Uh, we had to

1054
00:58:58,600 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 3: go on like the TikTok chat to find like cool

1055
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:04,640
Speaker 3: people that are like us. I guess I don't know,

1056
00:59:04,840 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 3: just like but a lot of people will know suck.

1057
00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:11,760
Speaker 3: So I was about to get off anyways, but I

1058
00:59:11,800 --> 00:59:14,040
Speaker 3: saw her on there and she was dancing in her room,

1059
00:59:14,080 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 3: and I was like, I gotta get her number. So

1060
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:19,480
Speaker 3: I literally asked and she was like yeah, and then

1061
00:59:19,480 --> 00:59:22,600
Speaker 3: we started talking, and two weeks later I bought her

1062
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:25,280
Speaker 3: a plane ticket to come see me for Christmas. Which

1063
00:59:25,320 --> 00:59:28,000
Speaker 3: was a really dumb idea in hindsight, like why would

1064
00:59:28,040 --> 00:59:30,960
Speaker 3: you do that? But it worked out great, and it's great,

1065
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:32,240
Speaker 3: it worked out perfectly.

1066
00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:39,440
Speaker 1: Well, I'm glad to hear the things. Uh what what

1067
00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:40,240
Speaker 1: is Moth saying?

1068
00:59:41,640 --> 00:59:44,800
Speaker 3: She said, I was looking at the chat, but I wasn't.

1069
00:59:47,120 --> 00:59:49,920
Speaker 1: You don't have the check you know what. Well, listen,

1070
00:59:50,840 --> 00:59:54,600
Speaker 1: Pixie Moth, thank you guys for sharing about the intrusive thoughts,

1071
00:59:54,600 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 1: and she was, the thoughts thing is a weird thing. Yeah,

1072
00:59:58,600 --> 01:00:02,120
Speaker 1: we're definitely gonna have to censor. Uh, we're neverthing that

1073
01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 1: a censor part of that, but yes, intrusive thoughts thing

1074
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:07,919
Speaker 1: is a weird It's a weird thing that I think

1075
01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:10,479
Speaker 1: happens to everyone that we just don't talk about because

1076
01:00:10,520 --> 01:00:14,120
Speaker 1: it's too fucked up to talk about. I've always expressed this.

1077
01:00:14,200 --> 01:00:18,919
Speaker 1: I feel like like thoughts and feelings are like kind

1078
01:00:18,920 --> 01:00:23,800
Speaker 1: of fair. You can think and feel anything at all

1079
01:00:24,760 --> 01:00:27,840
Speaker 1: in the realm of whatever, and I don't think that

1080
01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 1: it taints your your soul or your morality or anything

1081
01:00:32,280 --> 01:00:36,680
Speaker 1: like that. I think it's when the thoughts become, you know,

1082
01:00:36,760 --> 01:00:40,000
Speaker 1: more than just thoughts, is when it's when things start

1083
01:00:40,040 --> 01:00:46,360
Speaker 1: to get tricky. But just the thoughts there. That's that's

1084
01:00:46,360 --> 01:00:48,200
Speaker 1: when they're in a realm of like, Okay, maybe we

1085
01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:50,360
Speaker 1: should do something about this. But the intrusive thoughts, I

1086
01:00:50,360 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 1: mean that that's not real. You know, that's just your brain.

1087
01:00:55,080 --> 01:00:58,920
Speaker 1: That's just your brain off a leash, going crazy for sport.

1088
01:00:59,680 --> 01:01:03,480
Speaker 1: You know. I'm glad you have a real therapist to

1089
01:01:03,520 --> 01:01:04,480
Speaker 1: talk about with this stuff.

1090
01:01:07,120 --> 01:01:09,160
Speaker 3: Yes, I do, But I don't think I said that.

1091
01:01:09,840 --> 01:01:10,680
Speaker 1: No you did?

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01:01:12,120 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 3: Oh I did? Oh yeah, no I did. Yeah, you're right,

1093
01:01:15,240 --> 01:01:15,680
Speaker 3: you don't.

1094
01:01:15,480 --> 01:01:17,240
Speaker 1: Want your therapist was telling you. I like what I

1095
01:01:17,280 --> 01:01:18,440
Speaker 1: like what they said with the cars.

1096
01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:21,360
Speaker 3: I like that, Yeah, the cars, the cars.

1097
01:01:21,440 --> 01:01:24,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, Pixie, is there anything else you want to

1098
01:01:24,000 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 1: say to the people of the computer before we go? Oh?

1099
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:31,120
Speaker 3: Yes, I I think that there's something else. I don't

1100
01:01:31,120 --> 01:01:35,240
Speaker 3: know if the the person wrote it down the screener that.

1101
01:01:35,400 --> 01:01:37,680
Speaker 3: I don't know if you'd be interested to talk about

1102
01:01:38,480 --> 01:01:42,160
Speaker 3: related in like pirates and goblins? Did you see that

1103
01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 3: on there?

1104
01:01:43,520 --> 01:01:46,520
Speaker 1: Uh? I did? What did? What did? Uh? What did

1105
01:01:46,560 --> 01:01:49,040
Speaker 1: you want to talk about in terms of goblins?

1106
01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:55,280
Speaker 3: Well, m this is a complete flip a whole one eighty.

1107
01:01:55,400 --> 01:01:59,440
Speaker 3: But we we really like to role play like goblins

1108
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:02,280
Speaker 3: and pirates bed and that's like our favorite thing, like

1109
01:02:02,560 --> 01:02:06,200
Speaker 3: number one turn on And I guess that's like kind

1110
01:02:06,240 --> 01:02:06,640
Speaker 3: of weird.

1111
01:02:07,760 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 1: Who is the pirate and who is the goblin? Or

1112
01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:10,800
Speaker 1: do you guys take.

1113
01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:14,000
Speaker 3: Turns no One at a time, like like we do

1114
01:02:14,080 --> 01:02:17,280
Speaker 3: pirates and then we do goblins. Like we're both pirates

1115
01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 3: and we're both Scotlins.

1116
01:02:20,920 --> 01:02:25,720
Speaker 1: What is it that turns you on about pirates like.

1117
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:27,480
Speaker 3: Our I don't.

1118
01:02:27,200 --> 01:02:31,080
Speaker 8: Know, like our it's like your level of aggressiveness and

1119
01:02:31,160 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 8: like uh oh okay, hello. It's like there's like there

1120
01:02:36,920 --> 01:02:40,400
Speaker 8: are kind of different things. Like with goblins, it's like

1121
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 8: this animalistic like mischievous nature that makes it fun. But

1122
01:02:47,400 --> 01:02:49,920
Speaker 8: with pirates, the pirates are a new thing. Like we

1123
01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:53,560
Speaker 8: kind of just go our yeah, and then and then

1124
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:57,760
Speaker 8: it escalates them and then we like make those kinds

1125
01:02:57,760 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 8: of noises. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. No

1126
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:02,920
Speaker 8: oh yeah, you know.

1127
01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:05,520
Speaker 1: I I just uh, you know, it's it's a pleasure

1128
01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:08,760
Speaker 1: talking to you guys, because yeah, it's great to know

1129
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:11,640
Speaker 1: that this big, beautiful world's got something for everyone. You know.

1130
01:03:13,080 --> 01:03:15,520
Speaker 8: Yeah, there's something for everybody.

1131
01:03:15,200 --> 01:03:20,480
Speaker 1: Something for everybody. Uh see, that's you know, in terms

1132
01:03:20,480 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 1: of the things that people you know, have going on

1133
01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:26,200
Speaker 1: they don't talk about. There's a there's probably five hundred

1134
01:03:26,200 --> 01:03:28,720
Speaker 1: people and maybe more on the podcast, uh that will

1135
01:03:28,720 --> 01:03:32,280
Speaker 1: listen to this, And one of those motherfuckers wants to

1136
01:03:32,320 --> 01:03:35,840
Speaker 1: fuck a pirate or a goblin, and they're like and

1137
01:03:35,840 --> 01:03:38,160
Speaker 1: and they probably it's like one of the most shameful

1138
01:03:38,160 --> 01:03:41,000
Speaker 1: things and to them in their brain and they have

1139
01:03:41,080 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 1: no idea that there's other human beings out there that

1140
01:03:43,040 --> 01:03:45,360
Speaker 1: want to fuck pirates and goblins. And so you've you've

1141
01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:50,160
Speaker 1: comforted that with that. So thank you for your openness,

1142
01:03:50,160 --> 01:03:52,080
Speaker 1: Pixie and Moth, and I hope you both have a

1143
01:03:52,080 --> 01:03:52,919
Speaker 1: great rest of the day.

1144
01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:54,920
Speaker 7: Exactly.

1145
01:03:55,080 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's good to know the other people out there

1146
01:03:56,960 --> 01:03:59,280
Speaker 8: share experiences and stuff, and thank you for talking to us.

1147
01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:00,440
Speaker 2: We appreciate a good night.

1148
01:04:00,480 --> 01:04:04,760
Speaker 6: Guess hello you not night?

1149
01:04:06,840 --> 01:04:13,520
Speaker 1: All right, Brandon, we're gonna censor the word. We're gonna

1150
01:04:13,560 --> 01:04:18,400
Speaker 1: censor the word, Brandon, Okay, and then and then in

1151
01:04:18,440 --> 01:04:20,680
Speaker 1: the post this can be part of the post call.

1152
01:04:20,800 --> 01:04:24,840
Speaker 1: You can even censor the word when I say, you

1153
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:29,720
Speaker 1: can censor the word when I say to censor it.

1154
01:04:29,880 --> 01:04:36,200
Speaker 1: Just now you can include this part. Yeah, I have

1155
01:04:36,240 --> 01:04:39,960
Speaker 1: intrusive thoughts of course, everyone I have, everyone has intrusive thoughts.

1156
01:04:40,480 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 1: There's nobody in the world. Then you're just fucking lying.

1157
01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:48,040
Speaker 1: There's nobody in the world that puts every single maybe there,

1158
01:04:48,040 --> 01:04:50,560
Speaker 1: maybe there is, I'm not gonna I don't know anything

1159
01:04:50,560 --> 01:04:52,480
Speaker 1: for sure, but there's very few people in the world

1160
01:04:52,520 --> 01:04:56,440
Speaker 1: who put every single thing out there on the table.

1161
01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:04,080
Speaker 1: Oh practically no one. Why would you? And we all

1162
01:05:04,080 --> 01:05:09,520
Speaker 1: have crazy thoughts because of our brains. I think the

1163
01:05:09,600 --> 01:05:13,520
Speaker 1: danger is when those crazy thoughts manifest themselves to things

1164
01:05:13,520 --> 01:05:14,880
Speaker 1: that are not just thoughts.

1165
01:05:16,000 --> 01:05:16,400
Speaker 7: But that.

1166
01:05:18,840 --> 01:05:25,720
Speaker 1: Is a thought process, breakdown, whatever have you for. A

1167
01:05:25,760 --> 01:05:32,080
Speaker 1: person who is a real therapist and not a gecko.

1168
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:36,840
Speaker 8: Really goes on the line taking your phone calls every night.

1169
01:05:37,240 --> 01:05:40,400
Speaker 1: Demon goes to his d just teaching you cloud in

1170
01:05:40,480 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 1: the memory life, but he's not really an expert.