WEBVTT - My Joy Is My Job 0:00:01.560 --> 0:00:04.080 Hey, this is Stephen Ferdeck. I'm the pastor of Elevation 0:00:04.360 --> 0:00:06.600 Church and this is our podcast. I wanted to thank 0:00:06.600 --> 0:00:07.760 you for joining us today. 0:00:08.080 --> 0:00:10.680 Hope this inspires you. Hope it builds your faith. 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:12.880 Hope it gives your perspective to see God is moving 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:13.480 in your life. 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:18.400 Enjoy the message. 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:25.160 Welcome back to the Do the New You Mindset Masterclass. 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:27.520 By the way, if you're this far, you might as 0:00:27.560 --> 0:00:30.120 well know there were some alternate titles for this conversation 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:34.440 between me and my friend Brendan Burchard. Brendan is one 0:00:34.440 --> 0:00:36.840 of the most sought after performance coaches in the world, 0:00:37.040 --> 0:00:39.760 so I thought we should call this segment Holy Ghost 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:42.160 Life Coach. And he was like, yeah, no, what about 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:45.280 what about Mindset master Class. I'm like, yeah, yeah, but 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:48.480 what have we called it? Like, what have we called it? 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:48.960 After? 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:52.080 Amen? You know? Because that's my heart, Like we all 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:55.920 say we believe this and in the book, I'm giving 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:59.360 you six truths to say over yourself. But after you 0:00:59.440 --> 0:01:03.080 say amen, like yeah, I believe our last mindset. God 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:05.919 is not against me. He's in it with me, working 0:01:05.920 --> 0:01:09.000 through me, fighting for me. I believe with God there's 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:11.040 always a way by faith, I will find it. I 0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:13.800 believe Christ is in me. I am enough. I believe 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:17.520 I'm not stuck unless I stop now after I say amen, 0:01:17.640 --> 0:01:18.640 which means, so be it? 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:21.480 What action do I take? Right? 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:25.040 And we're putting these conversations together as a gift to 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:28.280 you to take you deeper into what we shared in 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.800 the book, the six mindsets to become who you were 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:34.520 created to be, and this mindset, I really do need 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:37.480 a life coach, because I'll tell you what. Putting this 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:40.600 in the book to me almost felt like an act 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:44.960 of hypocrisy because the mindset this is the shortest one, 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:48.080 I guess and the hardest one for me. It goes 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:53.960 my joy is my job, and it's like, I don't 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:59.920 really want to call joy a job. Joy is supposed 0:01:59.920 --> 0:02:03.200 to be a sensation, right It overtakes me with a 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:06.480 bite of a Hershey bar, or with the glimpse of 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:08.639 the sunset. You know, it doesn't have to be something decadent. 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:13.040 But joy is this rush that I experience that comes 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.840 from an event. And the more I study it Brendan 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:17.760 in the Bible, the more I study it in life. 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:21.360 I'm really hanging on to that quote from Brian Wilson 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:23.040 from the Beach Boys that I put in the book, 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:26.519 and he's had mental health challenges that a lot of 0:02:26.520 --> 0:02:28.760 people know about. But you know, the Beach Boys music 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:32.320 is so happy and so sunny. And he looks at 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:35.240 the documentarian in this movie that I saw about his 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:37.320 life and he says, you know, I found out happiness 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:42.440 is really hard work, and that hit me. I'm like, yeah, 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:46.160 if we're just chasing happiness as an end result and 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:49.760 not really taking responsibility to own our emotions, that's what 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:51.840 we want to get into a little bit today with Brendan, 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:55.040 how to own your emotions so you don't run around 0:02:55.080 --> 0:03:00.840 saying stuff like they didn't make me happy, or I 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:06.840 left that company because it wasn't making me fulfilled. Well, happiness, fulfillment, 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:10.320 all of those things aren't something that someone else can 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:15.080 make you. And I think that ownership process of our 0:03:15.120 --> 0:03:18.640 own joy is a lifelong process, yes, a moment by 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:22.320 moment process. You know in the church, people say they 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.160 stole my joy, Then what in the world were you 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:26.840 doing putting it where they could steal it. 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:28.960 You should have locked it up, You should have had 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:29.760 it somewhere safe. 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:31.880 You should have put your joy somewhere other than just 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:34.520 how somebody else treats you. But really, like I told you, 0:03:35.040 --> 0:03:37.200 in so many of these mindsets, these are the things 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:40.760 that I preach to me. Because nobody is going to 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:44.640 vote me for the naturally happiest human alive. That's not 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:49.640 my disposition. That doesn't mean that it can't be my destination. 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:53.400 Though I can become more joyful, I can become more grateful. 0:03:53.840 --> 0:03:55.440 I can practice these things. 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:58.200 And that's why I brought the world's best life coach 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:00.400 to help me. So make me happy, Brendan, it's your 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:02.960 job make me happy, make me joyful. 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:04.200 I don't know if I can make you happy. I'll 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:07.480 start with the coaching piece. He said. A second ago, 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:10.520 they stole my joy. And a lot of people say that. 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:13.640 I say, no one stole your joy. You gave them 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:18.760 your attention. Wow, that's what happened. You took your That's 0:04:18.760 --> 0:04:21.479 what happened. What happened, No one took it. You gave 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:25.480 them your attention, you, you gave them your belief, you 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:31.120 gave them, you know, your thought pattern. Instead of owning 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:34.279 the fact that you control this. You're the gatekeeper up here, 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:37.520 you're the generator up here, You're the commander up here, 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:40.120 and when you know you own this, you start to 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:42.320 own your emotions. And I always love to tell people 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:48.280 there's a difference between emotion and feelings different. A nice 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:52.279 way to think about is we have impulsive emotions and 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:55.600 we have ongoing feelings. And let me give you a difference. 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:59.520 If you go into a haunted house, right and someone 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:02.400 jumps out the corner, that fear that hits you, that 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:06.640 is automatic, it's physical, and it's impulsive. Fear just hits you. 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:09.359 You get scared, right. But if you go home at 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:12.120 night and now it's seven o'clock at night, you're safe 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:14.240 in your house, the doors are locked, your husband or 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:17.200 your spouse is there, things are good, and you still 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:20.719 you start kind of getting spooked. I feel like something 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:24.719 as bad as going to happen. Now that ongoing feeling, 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:29.000 you're generating that with your thoughts. The first one you 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:33.640 meet it fear scared. That's impulsive, that's automatic. An emotion 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.680 is like that just happens in your body. A psychologists 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:41.040 found emotions pass usually in ninety seconds to three minutes. 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:44.359 The emotion actually pass. Now our thoughts really do take over, 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:48.599 and our thoughts are forming a story. Our thoughts are 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:52.840 telling us what something means. Our thoughts are either taking 0:05:52.880 --> 0:05:54.840 command of us or we're in take command of them, 0:05:54.920 --> 0:05:58.200 because we can say, wait, I'm in the house, everything's okay. 0:05:58.320 --> 0:06:01.400 Oh I just got scared earlier, and I'm holding on 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:08.680 to that. Unhappiness is very similar. Something can happen, it's 0:06:08.720 --> 0:06:13.160 an unhappy situation. Someone was mean to us, you know, 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:17.280 something awful happened. It makes me feel bad. There's grief there, 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:20.840 there's hurt there, and we can feel that like in 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:23.880 that immediate emotion, it's just like, ah, that I feel bad. 0:06:24.960 --> 0:06:28.800 But if later on it's an ongoing feeling of happiness, 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:32.160 I promise you're architecting your thoughts in such a way 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:36.760 it's creating the ongoing happiness. So think about it. Is 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:39.960 the situations of your life, the bad events of your life, 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:44.120 are they still dragging on in the feelings of today. 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:46.480 That's where we say, oh, I got to take back 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:50.400 command of the architecture of my thoughts here, because that's 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:54.440 what's really screwing me up. That's what's stealing my joy 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:57.240 is I'm not architecting the thoughts. It would give me 0:06:57.839 --> 0:07:00.000 that And then you hear me teach all the time, 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:05.120 I'm always sharing this idea that my dominant metaphor in 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.320 my life is about a power plant. 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:10.080 I love it, and you'll listen to the power plant. 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:12.640 This change your life? Is crazy, this changes my life 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:16.760 every day. Yeah, And the idea is, you know, the 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:22.080 power plant doesn't have energy. It actually generates energy. So 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:25.800 technically a power plant takes energy from one level of resource, 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:29.920 a rushing stream or solar or whatever. It's taking energy 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:35.520 from one level, lower level of utilization. It's transforming that 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:39.400 energy into a higher level of utilization, and it's transmitting it. 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.640 And I love it because the power plant doesn't have energy. Oh, 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:46.920 it's it's taking energy from one lower level, it's transforming 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:49.200 it and transmitting into a higher level. That means I 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:51.040 can do that in my own life. You know, I'm 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:54.360 feeling a low level of energy today. I don't have motivation, 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:58.120 I don't have joy, I don't have love in my heart. Actually, 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:00.720 I woke up kind of grumpy. Well, that's a low 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:03.960 level of utilization. It's my job. How do I take 0:08:04.320 --> 0:08:07.520 the energy of the world or my situation, my life, 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:10.040 my relationships, and how do I take ownership as a 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.800 power plant? And how do I up level that? Why 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:15.640 do that with my thoughts. My thoughts are my turbines. 0:08:16.560 --> 0:08:18.840 My thoughts are the thing that can spin that energy 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:21.360 up into a higher level. And now I can be 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:24.440 a person of goodness, I can be a person of cheer, 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:27.240 I can be a person of joy. And is that 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:30.400 choice to be the power plant of the feelings of 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:33.880 my life that has made my life more fulfilling because 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:36.480 before that I was at the whim of everybody else 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:40.160 and everything else. Because see, most of the world right now, 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:43.520 it's a pretty low level energy. There's a lot of 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:48.400 division and vitriol and hate and us against them. It's 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:50.760 low level. But you can say, I'm not going to 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:54.679 live in that mud puddle. I'm going to take the 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:57.040 water out of that mud puddle. I'm going to turn 0:08:57.040 --> 0:09:00.800 it through these turbines of joy and faith and reasoning 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:04.000 and logic and a desire for an extraordinary life. I'm 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.280 gonna spin that up and boom, I'm gonna feel different 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:07.240 and transmit different. 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:09.280 Yes. See, man, now you made me want to be 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.120 in church. I want it to be ten o'clock on 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:14.920 a Sunday morning. I want to him and beat three 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.680 organ because I want to talk about the power plant 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:21.079 and Jesus said, you will receive power when the Holy 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:24.439 Spirit comes on you, and you will be my witnesses 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:26.000 in Jerusalem. Judea Samaria. 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:26.920 What's that. 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:31.439 That's taking the power and then transforming that power into 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:32.040 a witness. 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:33.880 So you see what he just did. 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:37.040 He said, I'm gonna give you power from another place, 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:40.760 and then i want your faith to be the turbine 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:44.719 by which you take what I've given you and take 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:47.760 it to the world. And that's so much more empowering 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:49.880 to me than it is to sit. 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:52.920 There and go, Lord, give me joy. 0:09:53.400 --> 0:09:55.560 I'm trying to get people out of this pattern that 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:58.720 we have Brendan sometimes of going Lord. 0:09:58.520 --> 0:09:59.920 Give me joy, give me joy, give me joy. 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:04.960 And the Lord gave you somebody to help that would 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:08.439 have brought you joy if you would have helped that person. 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:11.360 And I also think that we should talk about this, 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:16.880 isn't the happiness that we want often hidden in the 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:18.199 thing that we resist. 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:23.679 Yeah, and you said it earlier about peace, and our 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:26.800 friend Trent Shelton talks about protecting your peace. So I 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:29.160 think the first part of our conversation today has all 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:33.880 been about generating it, about generating joy, generating the emotions 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:36.240 we want to feel being the power plant. But there's 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:38.480 another job we have. So if the first job we 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:41.160 have is being the generator, the second job we have, 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:43.320 which is really important today, is we got to be 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:48.840 the gatekeeper, the gatekeeper of our joy and our happiness. 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:51.640 He talked about the enemy, and sometimes the enemy is 0:10:51.760 --> 0:10:56.840 taking that and we constantly continue abusing ourselves and taking 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:59.160 away our own happiness by engaging in things that we 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:01.959 know are bad for us or are not good. I'll 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:04.680 give you a convenient example right now about social media. 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:08.000 A lot of people don't understand that. All of social 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:10.200 media research has shown it doesn't make us feel good. 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.960 If you're generating and you're the creator, or you're doing 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:17.520 it to create relationships, it can be a very positive 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:20.120 and entertaining thing, but for most people actually creates a 0:11:20.120 --> 0:11:23.360 low level of anxiety and stress. Because here's what happens 0:11:23.400 --> 0:11:25.400 when you're scrolling. And this is really important to understand. 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:29.239 If you're in a bad mood, be careful about disengaging 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:31.200 from the world and going to social media. Here's what 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:34.160 they found from the research. This is amazing. When you're scrolling. 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:37.560 Every time you scroll past something, the brain has to 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:41.120 do three things. First, as you're scrolling, the brain has 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:44.360 to make a judgment, a decision. Is this worthy of 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:47.640 stopping and paying attention to? Is this worthy of my attention? 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:51.280 So immediate judgment is it worthy? Is it good? Do 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:55.360 I like it? Judgment? Second thing is comparison. Am I 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:57.640 like that? Do I do things like that? Does my 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.200 house look like that? Does my kitchen look like that? 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:03.040 Did I wear that thing like that? So we compare, 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:06.840 and then the third thing is we end up having 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:12.400 what's called contempt, which is division. We go, well, they're 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:17.360 like that, I'm not, And so think about that. Most 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:20.520 people scroll pass over a thousand posts a day, so 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:25.640 a thousand times you just wired your brain for more 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:30.679 judgment and for more comparison. Now, would you ever go 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:32.480 to teenager and go, here's what I want to do. 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:35.400 I want to train you all day to be more judgmental. Wow, 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.560 I want to train you all day to compare yourself 0:12:38.000 --> 0:12:42.240 to more people. We know there's or negative behaviors, but 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:45.480 we do them. And most people are on now social 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:50.280 media an hour to two hours a day, consuming, not generating, consuming, 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:53.439 just like blindly scrolling through. And you have to understand 0:12:54.160 --> 0:12:58.960 you're not being the gatekeeper of your own peace and 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:02.840 your own mind. Every time you're scrolling through, you're training yourself. 0:13:03.360 --> 0:13:07.040 This is not scrolling passively. This is training. You are 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:10.319 training yourself to be more judgmental. That's why you're unhappy. 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:14.120 You judge everything. Why is everyone so judgmental today? Because 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:17.120 they train themselves a thousand times today. Why is everyone 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:19.480 comparing themselves? Why do we have us versus them? Because 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:22.520 we're comparing ourselves all day. We're not gatekeeping our minds. 0:13:22.520 --> 0:13:25.080 It's just like when you hang around bad people. And 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:27.080 I know that's a bad phrase, you know to say 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:31.200 bad people, but you know, people whose behaviors cause negative 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:34.640 results in your life. The more you hang around them, 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:37.720 the more you become like them. Well, the more you 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:39.959 live in a land of judgment in comparison, the more 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:43.080 you become that, and it steals your joy. You're like, well, 0:13:43.080 --> 0:13:45.000 it's stealing my joy. It's like, no, you scroll the 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:47.240 way your joy, and so I really want to be 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:50.600 attentive to that. Pay attention to the news you consume, 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.559 Pay attention to the people you're hanging out with, pay 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:55.800 attention to the quality of what you are consuming, Pay 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:58.439 attention to the quality of your entertainment, because all of 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:02.800 that is either isn't in the well or it's empowering you, 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:05.920 it's lifting you. And I think that that's the number 0:14:05.920 --> 0:14:08.319 one reason most people aren't happy is because we live 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:12.240 in a consumptive society as and we're in that consumer 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.439 mindset and we're just taking everything in and now we're 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:18.760 comparing ourselves and we're judging everybody. It's hard to be 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:22.160 a happy person if I got to judge all day, 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:24.280 if I got to compare all day, and I'll say 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:30.720 this last piece about it, it's mentally exhausting. Remember it's 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:37.880 a thousand decisions. I just made a thousand decisions. No wonder, 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:40.320 no wonder. You get at the end of the day 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:43.800 and you're like, I just don't know why I don't 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:46.320 take more action. I don't know why I didn't decide 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:47.880 to write that book. I don't know why I decide 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:49.600 I didn't decide to write the song today. I didn't 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:51.120 know why I did. You know why you didn't decide 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:56.480 to do anything? Your decision bank account is bankrupt because 0:14:56.480 --> 0:14:59.680 you gave away all your decisions to each scroll and 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:02.160 you do I didn't even know it. You're mentally fatigued, 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:06.080 you're not unhappy, You're exhausted. 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:08.640 And I think it's a thief in the night. In 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:11.760 other words, we don't see it happening. It doesn't break 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:13.320 in in the middle of the day. Hey, here, I 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:17.160 am to steal your joy. I had so many many 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:20.760 thoughts about what you were saying that I will not 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:22.880 possibly be able to recap it as well as you 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:24.240 just said it. But let me ask you if I 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:29.400 heard this part right, Judgment destroys joy. When I'm wired 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:34.200 for judgment, it destroys my capacity for joy. And number two, 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:38.680 sometimes I don't lose my joy, like, oh I've lost 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:44.320 my joy? What happened? No, I leaked it little by little, 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:48.920 scroll by scroll, swipe by swipe, thing that I took 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:51.800 to heart by thing that I took to heart. Why 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:55.320 that's important to me is I don't want to just 0:15:55.360 --> 0:16:01.040 approach this like a crisis management situation, when really it's 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:05.520 about decisions in the moment and training yourself. The training 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:09.280 piece is huge, because I'm not only taking responsibility for 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:12.160 my emotions, but the fact that if I'm not in 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:14.160 a good place, I am not. 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:15.200 Going to be any good. 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.520 Two or four of those around me that I'm called 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:21.160 to serve. So for those who think it's selfish, yeah, 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:24.680 I get it. The idea of just be happy at 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:28.840 all costs, or just make yourself happy, or after all 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:30.920 you deserve to be happy, Yeah, that can start to 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:32.640 get kind of empty for those of us who know 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:36.160 that there's a bigger purpose. And sometimes I'm supposed to 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:38.640 be sad because what I saw was sad, what I 0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:42.120 went through was sad. Sometimes I'm supposed to have seasons 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:46.160 where I don't feel the most excited, and some of 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:49.400 those fallow seasons in my life led to the more 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:50.880 fertile seasons. 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:52.960 And I have to learn to embrace that. So my 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:54.080 joy is my job. 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:58.440 Doesn't mean I'm always reaping blessings and singing praises. No, 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:00.880 sometimes it means I'm sowing in tears. But guess what 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:06.160 the Bible also teaches those who sow in tears will 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:11.920 reap enjoy. Now think about that. What is sewing it's 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:19.080 work and what is the consequence joy? I reap enjoy 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:22.400 when I sow in tears, which is why I want 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:28.080 you to work on this. That's why I go to therapy. Yeah, yeah, 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:32.040 that's not a confessional. I'm actually saying that, like I 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:35.359 tell you that I do physical exercise, of course I 0:17:35.440 --> 0:17:36.320 work on my mind. 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:39.639 Of course I have to use that thing all the time. 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.119 I don't have to do bicep curls to live, but 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:46.480 I have to think to live. I have to think 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:49.600 to speak, I have to think to process my life, 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.480 to decide what to do, to figure out how to respond. 0:17:52.880 --> 0:17:55.520 So of course I'm going to find a gem for 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:57.760 my mind as a man thinking in his heart, So 0:17:57.960 --> 0:18:01.920 is he? Do you owe this to the God who 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:04.159 gave you life to take the mind he gave you 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:07.960 and manage it and just get this as a baseline. 0:18:08.600 --> 0:18:13.920 It's mind to manage, it's mind to manage you. Hear 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:16.800 this saying sometimes in physical exercise, you can't out train 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:19.440 a bad diet. Right, That's like a real popular thing. 0:18:20.320 --> 0:18:25.960 I just heard this in our conversation Brendan. You can't 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:28.840 out gratitude a bad gatekeeper. 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:29.440 M h. 0:18:30.800 --> 0:18:33.919 If you're just letting stuff in, letting stuff in, letting 0:18:33.960 --> 0:18:36.359 stuff in, yeah, I'm gon fix it with a journal 0:18:36.400 --> 0:18:38.120 for two minutes, even if it does have a cat 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:38.760 on the cover, and. 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:42.119 Yourself all day and you're shocked you're not healthy. 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:46.520 So let's stop letting it in and then just trying 0:18:46.560 --> 0:18:48.320 to pray it out, let it in, pray it out. 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:50.320 Of Course, we all have to deal with negative things. 0:18:50.520 --> 0:18:52.800 Of course, we're all from time to time gonna watch something, 0:18:52.840 --> 0:18:54.880 see something. Of Course this is not black and white, 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:58.360 but what is important is that you make a decision 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:01.200 to own it. And I I just want everybody who's 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:03.399 a part of this. I feel like this do the 0:19:03.480 --> 0:19:08.320 new you mentality. It starts out sounding surface like okay, yeah, 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:10.560 I'll do the new me, have my running shoes, I'm 0:19:10.560 --> 0:19:12.840 gonna get after it. And this guy you know, knew me, 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:13.720 knew me, knew me. 0:19:13.800 --> 0:19:14.560 I've heard it before. 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:18.240 And then you start to realize, oh, it's not just 0:19:18.280 --> 0:19:21.560 that I'm going to start doing things different. It's that 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:25.120 I am going to discover the me that was there 0:19:25.160 --> 0:19:27.440 all along. And I just want to give you hope 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:30.080 for this that I believe there is great joy in 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:33.119 your future. I believe there is great joy in your present. 0:19:34.080 --> 0:19:37.360 I believe that there are amazing things happening in your 0:19:37.400 --> 0:19:40.480 life right now. It's okay if you can't see them. 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:42.840 I get to a place every once in a while 0:19:43.480 --> 0:19:46.640 where I feel like I can't find anything that goes right. 0:19:47.880 --> 0:19:51.600 But the difference is what do you do when you 0:19:51.640 --> 0:19:52.560 find yourself there? 0:19:53.320 --> 0:19:56.159 Do you stay in it? Do you blame it away? 0:19:57.000 --> 0:19:59.280 I want this to be a pivotal moment in your 0:19:59.320 --> 0:20:03.080 life where you make the decision. My joy is my 0:20:03.280 --> 0:20:10.640 job and it's very difficult to have breakthrough and blame 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:12.200 at the same time. 0:20:13.240 --> 0:20:14.560 And I want you to get through this. 0:20:15.320 --> 0:20:18.920 Whatever the sadness was, whatever they did to you, whatever 0:20:19.040 --> 0:20:21.719 caused it, I want you to see that there is 0:20:22.280 --> 0:20:26.600 life beyond it. And so for all of us who 0:20:26.640 --> 0:20:30.520 don't wake up singing the Hallelujah chorus, for all of 0:20:30.600 --> 0:20:32.680 us who don't wake up wanting to even see a 0:20:32.760 --> 0:20:35.600 human being, for all of us who feel like our 0:20:35.640 --> 0:20:38.280 mood does this and that and the other, just know 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:40.560 that God is with you in all of it, and 0:20:40.600 --> 0:20:42.880 he wants to bring forth joy, even if it means. 0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:44.880 You have to sow in tears. 0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:49.600 I want you to get your hard work of happiness mindset. 0:20:50.440 --> 0:20:52.840 Stop thinking is something that's just either going to happen 0:20:52.960 --> 0:20:54.560 or it's not. It's something that's going to come from 0:20:54.640 --> 0:20:58.399 somewhere else. Be a power plant, baby, You got power 0:20:58.440 --> 0:21:01.399 from on high, the power of the Holy Spirit, lives 0:21:01.400 --> 0:21:05.919 in you and the turbine that's your tools, whether it's gratitude, 0:21:05.920 --> 0:21:08.560 whether you're going to put on headphones and walk through 0:21:08.600 --> 0:21:11.840 exactly what Brennan did, bringing gratefulness for people in your 0:21:11.880 --> 0:21:15.720 life into your movement until you realize God has been 0:21:15.720 --> 0:21:18.760 good to me, that you'll do it, and do it 0:21:19.320 --> 0:21:23.040 and do it again until it becomes a part of you. 0:21:23.440 --> 0:21:26.960 The Apostle Paul said, rejoice in the Lord always. I'll 0:21:26.960 --> 0:21:32.600 say it again, Rejoice and again and again and again. 0:21:32.920 --> 0:21:36.080 It's not a one time decision. It's a commitment in 0:21:36.119 --> 0:21:39.240 every moment. I hope this helps you today. I hope 0:21:39.280 --> 0:21:42.800 you feel happy right now. But if you don't, you 0:21:42.840 --> 0:21:44.960 know a few things to do to help you get 0:21:44.960 --> 0:21:48.359