1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,120 Speaker 1: Buggle up and hold on tight. We got it for 2 00:00:02,320 --> 00:00:05,160 Speaker 1: you here. It is to Strawberry letta all right subject. 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:10,360 Speaker 1: My husband lives with my brother Pere Stephen Shirley. I 4 00:00:10,440 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 1: have been married for five years, but my husband moved 5 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 1: out three years ago and moved in with my brother 6 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:20,759 Speaker 1: after he got into a big argument with my son. 7 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:23,800 Speaker 1: My son really didn't know my husband that well when 8 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: we got married, and he thought that my husband was 9 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:29,440 Speaker 1: using me, so he didn't like him. My husband tried 10 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: to come back home twice, and my husband and my 11 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: son disrespected him both times, so he said he would 12 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: never come back. Despite our living situation, my husband and 13 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: I still do everything together. We make love all the time. 14 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:46,839 Speaker 1: We um, but we have to go to hotels. My 15 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: husband says that he loves me very much and I 16 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: love him as well, but years later he still refuses 17 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 1: to move back in, so I moved closer to my 18 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: brother's house to make it more convenient for us to 19 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 1: see each other. He and my son are doing a 20 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: little better now. When they see each other, they speak 21 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:07,720 Speaker 1: and shake hands, but that's it. One of my husband's 22 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:11,479 Speaker 1: female friends told me that he talked about coming home soon. 23 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 1: She knows him very well, So I got excited. But 24 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:17,679 Speaker 1: he said that another one of his female friends told 25 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:20,320 Speaker 1: him if he moves back home, she will never talk 26 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:24,199 Speaker 1: to him again. So he says, to avoid conflict, he'll 27 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: just stay where he is. I pray daily that he 28 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:29,840 Speaker 1: will change his mind. What can I do to get 29 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 1: my husband back home where he belongs, Stephen Shirley, please help. 30 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: You've got to be kidding me, right, You've got to 31 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 1: be kidding me, Temmy, are you pranking us right now? 32 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 1: I mean, this is your husband, your house, your son. 33 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 1: No one has any control over what's going on in 34 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 1: your marriage, but your son, who shouldn't even be at 35 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: your house because if he's young or old enough or 36 00:01:56,280 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 1: grown enough to um to disrespect your your husband and 37 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: fight him, then he should probably be on his own 38 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: and out of your house. Now. Your husband, on the 39 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:10,079 Speaker 1: other hand, uh, something is going on with him and 40 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:14,680 Speaker 1: his so called female friends because he's taking to what 41 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:19,079 Speaker 1: they're saying and uh not listening to you, his wife. 42 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:20,920 Speaker 1: He'll just stay where he is because one of his 43 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 1: female friends will never talk to him again. Okay, so 44 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: what this is really crazy? So to avoid conflict, he'll 45 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 1: just stay where he is. Yeah, he likes staying with 46 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: your brother because he can come and go and do 47 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:36,240 Speaker 1: whatever he wants to do, and then have you, his 48 00:02:36,320 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: wife on the side, convenient whenever he wants you. It's 49 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: a perfect situation for him. You, as his wife, needs 50 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:47,239 Speaker 1: to um set some boundaries, some rules. You he either 51 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: comes back or it's over. Why are you making it 52 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: so easy for him? Why are you allowing him to 53 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:56,560 Speaker 1: do all these things? It's his son, and it's your son, 54 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: and it's him. This is your life. What are you 55 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: gonna do? You need to talk to both of them, Steve, 56 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:07,560 Speaker 1: this is crazy. Yeah, this letter right here. I agree 57 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:12,239 Speaker 1: with most of what you say and Shirley, but let 58 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: me say this first of all, the whole problem in 59 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: this letter the damn boy hell he in charge you? 60 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 1: Who stayed well when he ain't paying for nothing? Now, 61 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,959 Speaker 1: unless your son is real big and your husband is little, 62 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 1: ain't no boy running me out, no house unless I 63 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 1: took it as an opportunity to get out, thank you, 64 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: which could be the case. As you say, your husband 65 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: moved out three years ago, moved in with your brother. 66 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:57,880 Speaker 1: Now he got the big argument with your son. Mhmm, yeah, 67 00:03:57,920 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 1: you know your son didn't know your husband that way 68 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: on again. Man, he thought my husband was using me, 69 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 1: so he didn't like him. How old is this boy? 70 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: That would help if I knew that my husband tried 71 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,800 Speaker 1: to come back home twice, my son disrespected him both times. 72 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: See me and this sun. We're gonna work this out, 73 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:21,919 Speaker 1: because what you're gonna stop doing, a little boy, is 74 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 1: the disrespecting me thing. That's what that's first thing, all right. 75 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 1: So he your husband said he would never ever come back. 76 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 1: He said he would never ever come back. So here's 77 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 1: here's what the deal is. Your husband says he loves 78 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: you very much and you love him as well, but 79 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:51,479 Speaker 1: years later he still refuses to move back in. So 80 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:55,000 Speaker 1: I moved closer to my brother's house. Oh that's the solution. 81 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:59,479 Speaker 1: You don't move in your brother's How do you just 82 00:04:59,680 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 1: move closer to his house? That's smart. That's a marriage 83 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:10,479 Speaker 1: to make it more convenient for us to see each other. 84 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: Now here, my son, they're doing a little bit better 85 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: when they see each other. They speak in shaken. Okay, 86 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: that's the start. But here's the problem. Though, When you 87 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: do see him, you go to hotels. So what the 88 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: hell did you move closer to him for? And y'all 89 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:38,479 Speaker 1: still going to hotels? Why is your son running your life? 90 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: My next point of contention, Your husband sure got a 91 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:50,200 Speaker 1: lot of female friends WHOA, and they got pulled to 92 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 1: his female friends got more poor than you and you 93 00:05:56,279 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 1: the wife. I have to share something with you. Your 94 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:09,720 Speaker 1: husband is a bachelor. Seriously, your husband is a bachelor 95 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 1: should be the title of this left. My husband is 96 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 1: a bachelor because he lived by his self with your brother, 97 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:26,760 Speaker 1: who I bet you ain't married, and he can come 98 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:29,600 Speaker 1: and go like he pleased. And he got female friends. 99 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: One of them has told him if he she goes back, 100 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 1: if he go back to you, she won't talk to 101 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 1: him no more. So you know what he decided, Oh, 102 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: she's not gonna talk to me no more. I gotta 103 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:46,839 Speaker 1: stay in this brother's house. Yeah. Now, when we come back, 104 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:50,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna share another fact with you that no one 105 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:55,400 Speaker 1: has thrown out in this letter. Please, ma'am, be sitting down. 106 00:06:57,440 --> 00:07:02,839 Speaker 1: I'll be right back. We're some more unveiling of the letter. 107 00:07:03,240 --> 00:07:05,839 Speaker 1: All right, you heard Steve. Well, we'll have part two 108 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:08,720 Speaker 1: of his response. Let's get your response to part two 109 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 1: of the Strawberry letters. Don't married this man, this man, 110 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 1: don't get along with her son. Her son is in 111 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 1: charge of her life, in the house and everything. The 112 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: man leaves every time you try to come back. Twice 113 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 1: the board disrespect him. He leave again because the boyd 114 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 1: think he using you, so he moves in with your brother. 115 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:31,360 Speaker 1: You try to keep the relationship together. You move closer 116 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: to your brother. But he got female friends telling him 117 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: not to go back. He says he's coming back, but 118 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 1: it's been years now he still ain't back, and one 119 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: of his girlfriend told him, if you go back, I'll 120 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: never speak to you again. So the whole down confusion. 121 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: He said he's gonna stay where he h his his 122 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 1: female friends have more pool than his wife. The new 123 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: name of this letter I've re entitled it is your husband. 124 00:07:57,360 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: It's a bachelor. Okay, now here's something we haven't explored 125 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: in this letter. I need your undivided attention. Please, I 126 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: need everybody to take a seat. Your husband. It's seeing 127 00:08:14,960 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 1: your brother. Anybody thought it is right here? Oh, your 128 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 1: husband and your brother. Could they be seeing one another? 129 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:40,439 Speaker 1: I don't know this, but he showed like staying with 130 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 1: your brother more than he likes staying with you. Didn't 131 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: We have a strawberry letter like this once upon. Don't know, 132 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,559 Speaker 1: but I just wanted to throw that out there and 133 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:55,840 Speaker 1: put that in the mix. People think we make those 134 00:08:55,960 --> 00:09:00,439 Speaker 1: letters up nowhere in the words of Bill Withers, who 135 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: is he and what is he to you? My friends 136 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: feel is their appointed duty. They keep trying to tell 137 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: me that I ought to not let you just walk 138 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 1: on me. My brother. He set me right down and 139 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:25,560 Speaker 1: he talked to me, and I'm sure he meant, well, yeah, 140 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: But when I talk was through, I said, brother, if 141 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: you're only knew you'd wish that you in my shoes. Oh, 142 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:45,720 Speaker 1: you just keep on using me until you use me. 143 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: Uh Now he at your brother's house getting used up 144 00:09:51,240 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: for real. M. Something is a miss in this letter, 145 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 1: and I think it's your Alright, Steve, we gotta go. 146 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:05,680 Speaker 1: You know that email as her Instagram. That's your thoughts 147 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:09,280 Speaker 1: on this strawberry letter from today At My Girl Shirley, 148 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.