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Speaker 1: I've never been left waiting by the phone. It's the

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Speaker 1: Fred Show, Adam, Welcome to the program.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, what's going on with this woman? Jen?

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Speaker 1: I gotta know how did you meet? Tell us about

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Speaker 1: any dates you've been on, and then what's happening now

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Speaker 1: and how we can help?

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Speaker 2: Okay, sounds good. I met Jen on Hinge. I think

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Speaker 2: you've probably heard of that.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm I'm vaguely familiar with the the app Hinge.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'll be honest.

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Speaker 3: I thought she was hot in her photos, so I

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Speaker 3: was like, let's let's, you know, we chat it briefly

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Speaker 3: and I set up a date. I'm pretty easy to

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Speaker 3: get a we want to get some drinks and go

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Speaker 3: to a comedy show.

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Speaker 1: Okay, and let's see it. By the way, on the

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Speaker 1: dating apps, that's what we're doing here. We're hot or

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Speaker 1: not on the dating apps. I mean, you know, you

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Speaker 1: can dig into the prompts in the bio if you

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Speaker 1: want to, but like, no one's looking at where you

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Speaker 1: went to college really well, and they may once see

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Speaker 1: if you're hot. Like once, if I see someone i'm

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Speaker 1: attracted to, then I might read some of the words

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Speaker 1: words the profile, but usually no, so you were attracted

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Speaker 1: to her, and you plan this date with an activity,

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Speaker 1: even a comedy show.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 3: I felt like it went really well. She you know,

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Speaker 3: we got along, we have a lot of things in common.

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Speaker 3: And I even made her laugh. You know that's always

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Speaker 3: I know, that's always good if she's laughing.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So everything went really well, and I just like,

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Speaker 2: I can't.

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Speaker 3: She kind of goes with me now and I'm like,

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Speaker 3: uh wow, I can't really wrap my head around this

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Speaker 3: one because I didn't.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what I did, made wrong.

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Speaker 1: Or anything like that.

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Speaker 2: There was no awkward moment.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, look at this guy. Look at this guy.

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Speaker 1: He you know, he matches with a woman. He plans

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Speaker 1: more than just a drink state, which I'm guilty of.

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Speaker 1: I'm so guilty of that drink state. That's what I do.

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Speaker 1: Nothing creative. Okay, No, I mean, the first date is

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Speaker 1: a drink state, but then maybe second date we include

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Speaker 1: some form of activity. But this guy like really thought

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Speaker 1: about it. Comedy show, drinks. You know, he was attracted

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Speaker 1: to her, Yeah, he said. The conversation, the chemistry was good.

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Speaker 1: But you have not heard from Jen since the date.

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Speaker 1: You want to know why that would bother most people.

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Speaker 1: So let's call Let's call Jen. We're gonna see what's

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Speaker 1: going on and hopefully straighten things out and then set

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Speaker 1: you guys up on another day.

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Speaker 3: To be played for.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, I'm great, Adam, Yeah, welcome back. Let's call Jen.

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Speaker 1: You met on a dating app, you planned a date,

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Speaker 1: you went, you went to a comedy show. You felt

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Speaker 1: like the conversation was good, you were attracted to her,

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Speaker 1: you were excited to see her again for a second date.

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Speaker 2: But now you can't get a hold of her.

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Speaker 1: She's not responding to you, you're not answering the phones,

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Speaker 1: and you want to know why, Like, what happened? How

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Speaker 1: do we go from a good date and now I

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Speaker 2: Yeah I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, let's call Jen now. Good luck at him?

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

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Speaker 4: Hello?

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Speaker 2: Hi is this Jen?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Jen? Morning? My name is Friend.

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Speaker 1: I'm calling from the Friend Show, the morning radio show,

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Speaker 1: and I have to tell you that we are on

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Speaker 1: the radio right now and I would need your permission

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Speaker 1: to continue with the call. Can we chat for just

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Speaker 1: a second on the show. You can hang up anytime?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Well good? Oh, thank you? Again, I'm gonna take that

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Speaker 2: as a guess.

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Speaker 1: But we're calling on behalf of a guy named Adam

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Speaker 1: who says he matched with you recently on a dating

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Speaker 1: date with him?

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Speaker 1: I do? Okay, Well, he called us and he was

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Speaker 1: But he says he can't get a hold of you

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Speaker 1: Is that what is happening?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Kind of. I mean, look, he seemed fun like before

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Speaker 4: we met, everything being cool, he's been cool. I just okay.

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Speaker 2: So basically he said we were gonna go to a

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Speaker 2: comedy show, right, was fine, comedy, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But we get there and it's just an open like

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Speaker 2: Then he told me that he was trying to like

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Speaker 1: Oh so this wasn't like we didn't go see Dave

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Speaker 1: go to that Nate Brigatesey whatever guy we we you

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Speaker 1: know this was that Sebastian maniscon like this guy he

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Speaker 1: was the comedy show. Yeah, I'm already uncomfortable.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and he didn't do well, like bombed.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, so he goes out there nobody laughs at him.

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Speaker 4: Well it was worse than that because people were like

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Speaker 2: Like. It wasn't just it was bad, like it was offensive,

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Speaker 4: It was like sexist? It was racist?

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Speaker 2: Whoa, oh cool first date. I'm going to do the comedy.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to run the chance that I bomb, and

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Speaker 1: then I'm also going to be racist and sexist in

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Speaker 2: Wow. And you said people were booing him, Yeah, yeah

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Speaker 2: they were him somebody pretty throwing food at him? Wow

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Speaker 2: and not great.

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Speaker 1: Let me bring Adam And I forgot to mention that

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Speaker 1: Adam is here. I'm extremely forgetful and I'm sorry about that. Adam.

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Speaker 1: You said you went to a comedy show. You didn't

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Speaker 3: I'm here.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Hey, Jen, are you doing your set? Now this

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Speaker 2: is an overreaction.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, I was working on a new set, so like

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Speaker 3: I was just practicing my crowd work.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just my chest might have not landed. It

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Speaker 1: I mean, dude, So you go up there and tell

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Speaker 1: all on a first date. I mean, I look, if

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Speaker 1: she knew what she was getting into, that's one thing.

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Speaker 2: But do you realize you embarrass her too? I again, overreaction.

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Speaker 2: This is not my fault that the crowd.

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Speaker 3: Her, or you don't have a good sense of humor,

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Speaker 1: Get it, this is good yea, Jane, it's your fault.

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Speaker 1: It's your fault, it's the audience's fault. Look when I

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Speaker 1: say something, if you don't last, it's your fault. Everybody

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Speaker 3: Regret saying all this when I get a Netflix deal.

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Speaker 3: This is just like how Jerry Seinfeld and Dave Chappelle

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Speaker 2: Before they got really good. So I don't see the problem.

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Speaker 2: Do you think they took women to their practice sets? Maybe?

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Speaker 2: I mean maybe they didn't. They're they're funny though.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. That's a very it's a very

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Speaker 1: he's a little bit controversial.

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Speaker 3: This is just normal stuff that people do these days.

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Speaker 3: I don't understand you, just Jen, why it's just a character?

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Speaker 4: Like I was just putting on a character.

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Speaker 2: It's just a character, Jen, listen to this guy.

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Speaker 4: Oh character?

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Speaker 2: Wow? Why are we playing characters on the first date?

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Speaker 2: I try to get to know someone, That's what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Yourself, right, Like, you plan this date Adam to be

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Speaker 1: the center of attention and the unfortunately you took a

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Speaker 1: been impressed. But I also would argue that the first

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Speaker 1: and make it about the other person, and you made

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Speaker 2: I didn't just get there and go up on stage.

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Speaker 3: That's the thing, Jen, you're acting like you have fun.

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Speaker 2: I saw you laugh.

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Speaker 1: I mean, were you laughing at how? Are you we

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Speaker 1: laughing out of misery? Out of discomfort? Were you laughing

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Speaker 4: If I was laughing at Alder and said it was

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Speaker 4: because I was incredibly uncomfortable, like it is, not because

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Speaker 2: It was funny.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a that's a pretty wild, wild move. All right, Look,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask the question.

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Speaker 2: Jen.

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Speaker 1: I think I know the answer. But would you enjoy

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Speaker 1: going out with Adam again? Let's say we don't do that.

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Speaker 1: Let's say we actually do like a like a dinner

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Speaker 1: and you know, we don't do another comedy show.

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Speaker 2: Don't or something? Yeah? Right right, we don't do another

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Speaker 4: You know, I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Adam, by the way, a racist and sexist. I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: why would you Why wouldn't she assume that you're not

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Speaker 2: It's just a shame.

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Speaker 3: And she's not sophisticated enough to get my humor.

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Speaker 2: That's what it is. It's a sophistication issue. It definitely is.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I would ask you for a joke, but I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not going to do that. No, we really,

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Speaker 1: I'm afraid actually I'm not going to put Jen through

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Speaker 1: that again. So all right, Jen's not interested, Adam. Look,

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Speaker 1: good luck out there, man. I can't wait for the

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Speaker 1: spectrum Bundy to

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Speaker 3: Now