WEBVTT - Going on Strike

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<v Speaker 1>Wind down with Janet Kramer an I'm Heeart radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, my guys, Hey, Roman learned a Scottish word. What's

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<v Speaker 2>a Scottish word?

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<v Speaker 1>What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Out?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's how they say out words accents.

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<v Speaker 2>Alan goes, get in, get it, And so the other

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<v Speaker 2>day he goes and I think that.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we just talk about something'll be pieces about Roman

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<v Speaker 1>for second.

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<v Speaker 2>Pieces of someone because everyone says, I say, I say

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<v Speaker 2>pieces too much, do you? Apparently in the last one

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, well, this piece and I'm like, there's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of pieces in life. I've never noticed. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a layers girl, though, So that's fine, lots of layers

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<v Speaker 2>when it's a story.

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<v Speaker 1>When it's a story. But can we talk about Roman

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<v Speaker 1>kicking the soccer ball?

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<v Speaker 2>I know it's not crazy wild.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't get past it. Every time you post it,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, how is it doesn't even look real? I know,

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<v Speaker 1>like he's so little, it doesn't even look Actually.

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<v Speaker 2>There's two things that I've aied it. And then also

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<v Speaker 2>you know those crazy crazies that the crazy crazy held

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<v Speaker 2>in something else and he's like, I'm gonna be kind

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<v Speaker 2>how they said I lied about like his birthday like, no, why,

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<v Speaker 2>there's no way, so that I see he's clearly not

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<v Speaker 2>his aim.

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<v Speaker 1>I got he's so like, I mean little though I

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<v Speaker 1>know that's what like.

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<v Speaker 2>So also okay, still not normal For a couple of

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<v Speaker 2>months later, I would think he is. Yeah, so for anyone,

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<v Speaker 2>he is twenty two months old and half Scottish reminding

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<v Speaker 2>you his dad plays professionally. Well, that's just the thing though.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like you, guys, he's dribbling a ball. That's nuts.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not normal. I keep saying, like every time I

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<v Speaker 2>watch it, I text him like, not normal. I know.

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<v Speaker 1>It gets me every time, and I'm like, I have

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<v Speaker 1>to stop responding to her because I know she's getting

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<v Speaker 1>all of these but I'm just like, what is happening.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like the do they play when they do, like

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<v Speaker 2>his ESPN special when he's an.

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<v Speaker 1>Apple program plate.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think it's because I mean he's literally put

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<v Speaker 2>and I put this on my story last week. He's

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<v Speaker 2>been putting a ball at his foot since he was

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<v Speaker 2>a baby.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it's kind of is it twisted, like he's

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<v Speaker 2>programmed him. Every is a kick a ball, kick a ball. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>aren't we just just programming in general.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like a lot of times with kids in sports, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's what they gravitate to, but also it's what's been

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<v Speaker 1>in front of them. True, Like if you don't know lacrosse,

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<v Speaker 1>for instance, my kids have never seen La Cross. They

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. They could be fantastic at it, but who knows,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's what your parents like and are around and

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<v Speaker 1>put in front of them. So he was destined to

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<v Speaker 1>be good at soccer, but it's just or football. But

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<v Speaker 1>like it's just so he's so little doing it. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's unbelievable.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we tried soccer o kish wasn't it for the

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<v Speaker 2>outfit and air quotes is not an elbows out go

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<v Speaker 2>so someone would get like kicking the ball and she

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<v Speaker 2>just moved out of the way, and I'm like, well

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<v Speaker 2>that is not how this works.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's gonna be. Well we got to move back

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<v Speaker 1>because we got to go what I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Most interested for, because let's just pretend that he's going

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<v Speaker 2>to go play soccer in the league in like a year,

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<v Speaker 2>a year a year honest soccer shots, which we had

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<v Speaker 2>to I don't want to have a minute. We did.

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<v Speaker 2>We did lie about his age on his soccer shots.

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<v Speaker 2>Because he had to be two, and I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>it'll be two when it finishes, it's fine, and he.

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<v Speaker 1>Hits like like it's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>I get nervous to see Alan be a sideline dad.

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<v Speaker 2>He was so good at soccer. Shots with him. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>oh right, but it's not a game meeting, it's not

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<v Speaker 2>a game yet.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know what's funny is we were so we

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<v Speaker 2>took We've been taking him to this is insane. We've

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<v Speaker 2>been taking him to the field on weekends Roman like

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<v Speaker 2>just to even for five minutes, just to kick a ball,

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<v Speaker 2>because that's all his attention span does. There was a

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<v Speaker 2>over forties group playing soccer and I was like, baby,

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<v Speaker 2>you should talk to them, like go like be a

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<v Speaker 2>part of the team. And so he ended up talking

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<v Speaker 2>to one of the guys after and he's like, because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like i'd love to watch you play, you should

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<v Speaker 2>play and it's an over forties league and he's like, Babe,

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't be able to play for fun, like someone's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna get hurt or I'll get hurt a little stretcher, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>like they do in the game. So I know, I

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<v Speaker 2>thought it'd be really fun. But anyways, that's mine.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's like men's softball. Plenty of men get

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<v Speaker 1>out there and get hurt because they think that they.

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<v Speaker 2>Plenty irated because they get a husband with a broken

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<v Speaker 2>legs he had to play softball.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's so funny.

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<v Speaker 2>But I got to say, I'm really happy about all

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<v Speaker 2>the positive feels that I got from the car.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone wants to see it. Though I know I know

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<v Speaker 1>the bigger show it. I don't know that makes it

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<v Speaker 1>seem a little bit, but I still think you should, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>finish it. Oh, I finish it. That to me, does

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<v Speaker 1>after you talked about it, I would one hundred percent

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<v Speaker 1>show it doing just showing it from the get go.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you would have gotten more negative feedback without

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<v Speaker 1>talking about it. Why because people will think that it's

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<v Speaker 1>showing off. For sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it wrong to show off?

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<v Speaker 1>Not at all, Not at all. I don't think it's

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's wrong at all. I think you

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<v Speaker 1>would have gotten a lot more negative feedback had you

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<v Speaker 1>done that at first. And I think that you're loyal.

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<v Speaker 1>People that are listening understand and want to see it.

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<v Speaker 1>But you're going to get people that don't listen that

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<v Speaker 1>you're going to get a lot more hate if you

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<v Speaker 1>post it, which I'm fine with, go for it. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not saying. I'm just saying I do think you'll get

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<v Speaker 1>more hate on social media no content, Yeah, for no context.

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<v Speaker 2>All the people that post their private planes and.

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<v Speaker 1>For it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, man, not me, that's not me. You're following with

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<v Speaker 2>the private plane. Well, I mean I follow the Kardashian

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<v Speaker 2>like a few other people, some artists that we follow,

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<v Speaker 2>you know whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm here for me. I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's one of those things where I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I just love the the feed. I love how proud

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<v Speaker 2>they are and happy for me there. I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>so sweet and it's like I get what you're saying,

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<v Speaker 2>but at the same time, like, you know what, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>really proud of it, Like I and I rarely say

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<v Speaker 2>that about anything that I do. Sure that you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not like I always put an asterisk to everything.

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<v Speaker 2>This one, I'm like, no, I'm proud of myself. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I worked hard, I'm gonna I.

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<v Speaker 1>Have a ride in it. I just kind of wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh she's first of all, she has a beautiful voice,

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<v Speaker 2>and she asked what you need and then She also

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<v Speaker 2>massages you a lot of carist massage now though not mine.

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<v Speaker 1>We're still she hugs you.

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<v Speaker 2>I like when she hugs you. Yeah, we went on

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<v Speaker 2>the corner and she like tightened her seatbelt and then

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<v Speaker 2>she hugged my hips and I was like creamer, she cared.

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<v Speaker 1>She doesn't matter for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Speaking of things we're proud of, I'm flying out. Where

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<v Speaker 2>are you going? Cape Cod? Oh? That's right for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Anniversary and you just celebrated ten years. I did, and

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<v Speaker 2>we are taking the trip, which is not easy for

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<v Speaker 2>me to do, and I'm proud.

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<v Speaker 1>Is this the one where we marked it on the

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<v Speaker 1>calendar and we kept it held on the calen calendar?

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<v Speaker 2>We were calendar and then management brought a date and

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<v Speaker 2>then we were going to move it, and then legend

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<v Speaker 2>of first baseball game, But it doesn't matter. We worked

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<v Speaker 2>around all the schedules and here we are. We're going

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<v Speaker 2>to have three nights, two full days. Nice. Yeah, we'll

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<v Speaker 2>be back in time for baseball and cheer. And I'm

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<v Speaker 2>really proud of us. Good. Yeah, I love for an adventure.

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<v Speaker 2>He's never been and I've never been in. It was

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<v Speaker 2>really cute the photo that you did so cute. Got

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<v Speaker 2>your wedding dress ten years ago on what street was

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<v Speaker 2>that downtown Second Avenue and Second Avenue, and then you

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<v Speaker 2>had ten years later in the kids and you go,

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<v Speaker 2>why'd you say a little less love in the second one.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, that's more love? Oh oh, because I felt

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<v Speaker 2>far away from him, like I wish I would have

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<v Speaker 2>studied my pos as I said it to Jan, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, a lot less love. And that

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<v Speaker 2>second photo it looked like he was stretching towards me.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think I was trying to recreate so much.

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<v Speaker 2>But no one, it's just my pickiness. But it was perfect.

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<v Speaker 2>It was so cute, and it was just a fun

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<v Speaker 2>memory too. You know, we were down there and everyone

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<v Speaker 2>kept congratulating me. You just got maratulations and the people

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<v Speaker 2>from the rooftop. It was then the George Jones Museum

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<v Speaker 2>and now it is a different I think it's called

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<v Speaker 2>like playground or something. But the rooftop is where we

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<v Speaker 2>actually got married. And it was completely beautiful and overlooked,

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<v Speaker 2>like you know, the river, and you could see the

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<v Speaker 2>twinkling lights and Nissan and we got married at eight

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<v Speaker 2>o'clock at night, so it was like dark and beautiful

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<v Speaker 2>and when we walked, we were on Second Avenue and

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<v Speaker 2>they were screaming down from the rooftop and they're like,

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<v Speaker 2>my manager says, you guys should come up and have

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<v Speaker 2>a drink. You can bring your kids, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>so we did go up just to have the moment,

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<v Speaker 2>but it is just really different up there. It was

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<v Speaker 2>kind of wild, but it was just a really sweet

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<v Speaker 2>little memory and the kids got to be in there.

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<v Speaker 2>We call the Big Beautiful City at night, and it

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<v Speaker 2>was sweet and the best part of ten years and

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<v Speaker 2>the hardest part of ten years. Oh, that'll make me cry. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>start with the pit.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh. The hardest part.

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<v Speaker 2>Of ten years is this industry, for sure, and that

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<v Speaker 2>makes me emotional. And then the both answers and the best.

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<v Speaker 1>Part of the babies.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. That's so a lot of life in ten years, guys,

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<v Speaker 2>and you have really been there through a lot of it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm falling in love with an artist, which I said

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<v Speaker 2>I never do. To lots of heartbreak, to facetimes too,

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<v Speaker 2>m us making an impact that it'll be us at

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<v Speaker 2>the end of this life, maybe just single you and me.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm really grateful and we've had like a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of fun adventures guys like we've done. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just a really sweet I'm excited. I could tell

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<v Speaker 2>like this the week, the easiest thing to do would

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<v Speaker 2>be to not go, and I kind of felt like

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to go, just a little pms and

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<v Speaker 2>a little like I'm moon the one planning, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I had this moment where I I do

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<v Speaker 2>want to say this because I think any married people

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<v Speaker 2>will super relate. The days that you don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>go or don't want to do the most are probably

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<v Speaker 2>the times you need it the most. That's what I've

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<v Speaker 2>learned in ten years. So I'm excited to just have

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<v Speaker 2>two days. Yeah, it'll be fun.

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<v Speaker 1>It's always the lead up. Yeah, I never want to

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<v Speaker 1>go in the lead up, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>just because it's so much work on our end.

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<v Speaker 2>So much work seems so could just be easier to

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<v Speaker 2>be here. Yeah, it was really like he I actually

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<v Speaker 2>got him home the eve of our anniversary. He did

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<v Speaker 2>a show on our anniversary and I didn't think i'd

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<v Speaker 2>get him home, and I tucked in the babies upstairs,

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<v Speaker 2>and he texted me and said, don't come down just yet.

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<v Speaker 2>And I He's like and please confirm, and I was

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<v Speaker 2>like confirmed. So he had set up like ten dozen

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<v Speaker 2>roses and we opened a bottle of wine which we

0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:39.960
<v Speaker 2>just had a sip of. It felt like a waste,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was wonderful. And he bought us a little

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<v Speaker 2>tiny wedding cake because we didn't have wedding cake on

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<v Speaker 2>our wedding night because I gave it to someone else. Nope.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh no, the wedding cake too, the

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<v Speaker 1>gig giveaway.

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<v Speaker 2>No, So just like sweet and I think just the

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<v Speaker 2>simplicity and like us just really like being proud of ourselves. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but this industry is tough, so it's feeling marriage is

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<v Speaker 2>stre I can't you know, You're like twenty years in

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, whoa, you know how because they made

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<v Speaker 2>a decision to stay and work through it your tough times. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's wild and there hasn't been something so big too. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I would just encourage it.

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<v Speaker 2>Like marriage is tough, so like it's okay that it's tough.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like we over over, you know, like even

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<v Speaker 2>our our pictures, our ten year photos were so beautiful

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<v Speaker 2>and I just loved it that we did it because

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<v Speaker 2>we never take pictures ever, and so I thought that

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<v Speaker 2>was really special, but also just it's okay to just

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<v Speaker 2>be honest that it wasn't easy. Somebody wrote to me

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<v Speaker 2>and said, you know, the thing you wrote about year

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<v Speaker 2>three and year seven really got me. And I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>that's just honest. You know, can't get to your ten

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<v Speaker 2>without year seven. Yeah, and year seven was a doozy

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<v Speaker 2>oh seven years stretch its worst stretch. Anyways, that's that.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait to get to seven.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you guys, yeah, you know there knows there's an

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<v Speaker 2>emotional maturity. I think that you guys have a leg

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<v Speaker 2>up on too that. I just think there's really a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of beauty in what you and Alan have created

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<v Speaker 2>so quickly. I don't worry about your any for.

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<v Speaker 1>You, but if we made it through seven, we're at eighteen,

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<v Speaker 1>so damn I know we can make it for y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>Can do it?

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all got this guys. No one watched my show, did

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<v Speaker 1>they know?

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<v Speaker 2>I knew it.

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<v Speaker 1>I had some people in my DMS. They were like,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't wait for you to talk about this, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I have so much to say, but

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that any you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, I got stuck on love con and I got

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<v Speaker 2>stuck on another one.

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<v Speaker 1>So I feel like, okay, that's fine. So since y'a

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<v Speaker 1>haven't watched this, have y'all watched that documentarynown Unknown Number?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? What?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? And so we have to say spoiler alert if

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to talk about that, I have to.

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<v Speaker 2>But because of the Internet spoiling it, I'm glad I

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<v Speaker 2>watched it when I did because I had no idea.

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<v Speaker 2>You get away shook, which was kind of refreshing.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you see it coming?

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<v Speaker 2>No? I thought game mom. Only reason I did was

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<v Speaker 2>because I saw a Lifetime movie about it, so I

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<v Speaker 2>knew it was Once it started, I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>think this is I think Lifetime did this movie and

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<v Speaker 2>it ends up being the spoiler. Yeah, spoiler them right.

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<v Speaker 2>So but I think what is absolutely wild and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to m.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you should. I'll say it. What do you

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<v Speaker 1>want to say?

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<v Speaker 2>Those pauses are what usually get us in trouble. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to someone we've had recently on the podcast. Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt the same way when when the when the

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<v Speaker 2>Mother of the Unknown said, we've all committed crimes, and

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<v Speaker 2>then someone very recently we've had a guest on, who

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<v Speaker 2>had another narcissistic lack of ownership, said well, we've all

0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:52.040
<v Speaker 2>done things wrong, and I'm like, no, not like, don't

0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:55.760
<v Speaker 2>try and justify. So it's like when she said, well

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<v Speaker 2>we've all we've all broken the law, and I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I've not told my daughter to kill herself, and you

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<v Speaker 2>cannot compare the two.

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<v Speaker 1>You cannot.

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<v Speaker 2>You just can't pare that to anyone the two. I

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<v Speaker 2>think that's why I was so shocked. I'm like, there's

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<v Speaker 2>just quite nothing like that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's still situation. I still find some of it odd.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't I still feel and I'm sorry I shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>say it, but part of me still feels like she

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<v Speaker 1>was she started it, the girl. I feel like she

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<v Speaker 1>might have started it on her own personally. Oh the daughter,

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<v Speaker 1>the daughter Lauren is that her name?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, with a why?

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<v Speaker 1>And I could be wrong, but something just it And

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<v Speaker 1>maybe it is that she just had PTSD or not

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<v Speaker 1>even PTSD.

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<v Speaker 2>She was just you mean, from when the body cam

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<v Speaker 2>showed her mom basically confessing her not having any reaction

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<v Speaker 2>like what or.

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<v Speaker 1>Like nothing, and maybe that is absolute just shock I

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<v Speaker 1>will give and that was my first reaction. But then

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<v Speaker 1>the way her mom was very specific about like, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I did it, but I didn't start it.

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<v Speaker 2>That though too. To me though, thinks that makes me

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<v Speaker 2>go back to someone who is just a liar cheater

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<v Speaker 2>person that go, well, I did this, but I.

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't do that. Maybe maybe but the tone, but the

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<v Speaker 1>tone changed. And then also has that cat if you

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<v Speaker 1>watch the way she was with her daughter when the

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<v Speaker 1>police were there and how she's like comforting her and

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<v Speaker 1>this whole like she needs her either she just needed

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<v Speaker 1>so badly to be that person that her daughter came to.

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<v Speaker 1>So she was so messed up in her mind, which

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<v Speaker 1>I think is it. She was so messed up in

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<v Speaker 1>her mind she wanted her daughter coming to her and

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<v Speaker 1>needing her in some weird, odd way.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like that one detective said, it's that one disease,

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<v Speaker 2>but it munchaus without the medical.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, which I think that's a huge part of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Part of me also goes or is she also did

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<v Speaker 1>she find out her daughter had been doing it and

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<v Speaker 1>either take the wrap for it or her daughter started

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<v Speaker 1>it and she took over.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't know why her daughter would start it

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<v Speaker 2>when she's like happy in her relationship. That's the party.

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<v Speaker 1>She though there's a lot of stuff missing in this.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of pieces that were not like kind

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<v Speaker 1>of covered. But was she though, like was she happy

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<v Speaker 1>in that relationship?

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<v Speaker 2>Was she?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's just it's an interesting take that

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people are.

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<v Speaker 2>I really felt for the dad and that I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 2>this guy is just he's trying us about it or

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<v Speaker 2>his family and this this this bitch is doing this,

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<v Speaker 2>and then like to the dot, I'm just like.

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<v Speaker 1>There was so much in that, like the one girl

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<v Speaker 1>that they even accused at one point who was a bully,

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<v Speaker 1>even if you look at just that piece and how

0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:39.360
<v Speaker 1>messed up things were in that piece because not that

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<v Speaker 1>she got accused, but her parents were so oblivious to

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that their daughter was a bully. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>there's a reason why she was being accused because she

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<v Speaker 1>was a bully. But I just I watched that and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, do y'all have any clue, Like, Okay, maybe

0:16:53.440 --> 0:16:55.440
<v Speaker 1>she didn't do this, let's get down. You know, obviously

0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:57.520
<v Speaker 1>she didn't do it, but like she was a bully

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<v Speaker 1>to so many and they're just so like, couldn't be

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<v Speaker 1>my dad, you know. I just think that there's just

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<v Speaker 1>so much we have to look at and we have

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<v Speaker 1>to go we don't think our children are capable of

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<v Speaker 1>these things, But at the same time, you've got to

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<v Speaker 1>look at it, you've got to consider it, you've got

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<v Speaker 1>to I don't know, there.

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<v Speaker 2>Was just such address it.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to address it. Yeah, and you know, kids

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<v Speaker 1>are kids and they are going to make mistakes. But

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<v Speaker 1>I mean telling your daughter to kill yourself. I all

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<v Speaker 1>of it, all of it, and it was so like nasty,

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<v Speaker 1>the dirty top dirty.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't. I just was so you guys, not much

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<v Speaker 2>shocks me. Yeah, there's like movies I can watch returns

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, oh okay, but like blown away. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean my job was on the just crazy. I

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<v Speaker 2>think because we all just parent so intentionally too, that

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<v Speaker 2>it's just so wild that that even exists to me.

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<v Speaker 2>It's her rationalizing it too though, and trying to compare

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<v Speaker 2>to us, like haven't you been a bad mom? And

0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:55.399
<v Speaker 2>her addition to done something it's like yeah, and then

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<v Speaker 2>to do this, it's like what are you What are

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<v Speaker 2>you thinking is going to happen? Do you think you're

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<v Speaker 2>going to get people that go, oh you got totally

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<v Speaker 2>I get it, well, she wants attention, they said, she

0:18:04.680 --> 0:18:07.080
<v Speaker 2>loves attention. And as she's sitting there, I'm like, nothing

0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:09.920
<v Speaker 2>about this makes you look good. You've explained nothing, You've

0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:13.879
<v Speaker 2>you know, like you're doing this for the fame of

0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:16.960
<v Speaker 2>it too or whatever. When you put your kids into

0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:20.480
<v Speaker 2>that and act that way and talk that way about

0:18:20.480 --> 0:18:23.080
<v Speaker 2>your children to your children, I don't have any Like

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<v Speaker 2>I feel sad that she's sick. I do too, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but I just I don't have I don't really have

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<v Speaker 2>a hard time having any empathy for that woman.

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<v Speaker 1>It's hard. I mean, people that commit crimes like that,

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<v Speaker 1>and to me that this is very equal. She could

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<v Speaker 1>have killed herself, the daughter, Yeah, she could have killed herself.

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<v Speaker 1>So this to me is up there with the highest

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<v Speaker 1>of crimes. I mean, like, you could have easily had

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<v Speaker 1>your daughter kids and it would have been it would

0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:53.200
<v Speaker 1>have been you. I have a hard time. I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I understand she's mentally ill. I understand that, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>just I know that was that was devastating.

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<v Speaker 2>Those friends, the friends of the family, Owen's parents. I'm like, oh,

0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:10.800
<v Speaker 2>like people they trusted, Wow, I know WI trusts around you.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. So that's my safety Net. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>get on the shows because right now I'm on the

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<v Speaker 2>the love com thing and that's just wild too. Being scammed.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I got to watch watch it because I

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<v Speaker 2>have a story from my very past when I was

0:19:27.600 --> 0:19:30.440
<v Speaker 2>with a scammer like that. So well, we have to

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<v Speaker 2>watch it this week and then yeah, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And then another thing we're going to talk about this

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<v Speaker 1>next week as well. We're going to get into it.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you heard about the liac in snelling the case yet?

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<v Speaker 1>Look it up. We'll talk about it later. Don't do

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<v Speaker 1>it everywhere. It'll be controversial, but we're going.

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<v Speaker 2>To talk about it. Okay, that's what we like. Coming

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<v Speaker 2>next week, controversial topics with Cat. We'll take a break

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<v Speaker 2>Cat the pot Star. Well, guys, what do you got Gramer?

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<v Speaker 2>You guys have wine about it because I got something

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<v Speaker 2>I could unpin.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they were waiting for your pin.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a different pin.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm waiting for that pin, but also your whine about it.

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<v Speaker 2>You have a lot pinned. We're just wondering where the

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<v Speaker 2>Baltimore is. So I have to ask this one. So

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<v Speaker 2>I would like to start with my husband is a

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<v Speaker 2>lovely husband.

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<v Speaker 1>I love when start like this. I love when again

0:20:40.480 --> 0:20:42.840
<v Speaker 1>these are my favorite. I love when we know for.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure it's about Alan.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, he's a lovely husband.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, he is the best husband I have to have

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<v Speaker 2>to say all the past, A great lovely friend.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a wonderful socker. Then let's go into what sucks.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, he's respect He is such a good dad. He is.

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<v Speaker 1>All qualifiers.

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<v Speaker 2>He is so supportive, he is just the best and

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<v Speaker 2>like so helpful too. Okay, wow, he is very helpful. Alrighty,

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<v Speaker 2>And I am posing a thought starter whin about it

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<v Speaker 2>challenge potentially have you ladies ever gone on strike? Now,

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<v Speaker 2>before you answer it, I'm just going to say this,

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<v Speaker 2>So this is an incident that happened a couple weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 2>I okay, when something is close to being done, I

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<v Speaker 2>will put on our little skylight calendar jelly because I

0:21:44.800 --> 0:21:48.440
<v Speaker 2>know I'm about two more keepings of jelly left. We're

0:21:48.440 --> 0:21:50.199
<v Speaker 2>going to need, you know, like for grocery list, right,

0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:52.760
<v Speaker 2>same thing with like bread when I'm making the kids lunches,

0:21:52.800 --> 0:21:54.680
<v Speaker 2>which he also helps with, thank you very much, such

0:21:54.800 --> 0:21:57.800
<v Speaker 2>like good helper. So Gray Alberd, does he notify you

0:21:57.840 --> 0:21:59.399
<v Speaker 2>that he's done it? Because that's my favorite part of

0:21:59.440 --> 0:21:59.840
<v Speaker 2>my husband.

0:22:00.280 --> 0:22:01.720
<v Speaker 1>He hasn't just done it. He's made sure that you

0:22:01.800 --> 0:22:05.479
<v Speaker 1>reported that. I'm like, alright, tell us, we've been trained

0:22:05.640 --> 0:22:09.440
<v Speaker 1>to give them positive reinforcement without telling us, Like, we

0:22:09.520 --> 0:22:11.560
<v Speaker 1>can't even say it without making sure that we say

0:22:11.640 --> 0:22:12.240
<v Speaker 1>the positive.

0:22:12.359 --> 0:22:14.760
<v Speaker 2>But he made a sandwich and we're all like, that's

0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:22.160
<v Speaker 2>the guy. He's on my shoulder, like big sandwich maker. Alright, sorry,

0:22:22.200 --> 0:22:22.399
<v Speaker 2>this is.

0:22:22.400 --> 0:22:22.879
<v Speaker 1>A sign up.

0:22:23.359 --> 0:22:26.120
<v Speaker 2>He's like, would you like me to make the lunch

0:22:27.080 --> 0:22:29.800
<v Speaker 2>and then you do the dishwasher. I'm like, or you

0:22:29.880 --> 0:22:32.159
<v Speaker 2>can do both because I do both equally at the

0:22:32.200 --> 0:22:40.159
<v Speaker 2>same time. Do or like He'll be like, I'll make

0:22:40.200 --> 0:22:42.000
<v Speaker 2>the sandwiches and you do the rest, And I'm like,

0:22:42.240 --> 0:22:42.480
<v Speaker 2>or you.

0:22:42.480 --> 0:22:46.280
<v Speaker 1>Can just do the full lunch. That's funny. The sandwiches

0:22:47.520 --> 0:22:49.879
<v Speaker 1>grabbed the chips. That would be profound.

0:22:52.160 --> 0:22:54.360
<v Speaker 2>Wow. So it's just I don't know. He's like, he's

0:22:54.400 --> 0:22:57.200
<v Speaker 2>fine with doing the sandwich, but it's the side little

0:22:57.400 --> 0:23:02.320
<v Speaker 2>trinkets in the lunch box that really get them. Anyway,

0:23:03.240 --> 0:23:08.320
<v Speaker 2>I digress. So I then put things on there, right, So,

0:23:08.480 --> 0:23:10.240
<v Speaker 2>like the bread. When I know there's only a couple

0:23:10.320 --> 0:23:13.359
<v Speaker 2>more pieces left, I'll put bread on the grocery list, right.

0:23:14.480 --> 0:23:17.680
<v Speaker 2>So I was cleaning up and I go into my

0:23:18.320 --> 0:23:22.680
<v Speaker 2>underneath and I can't find my Clorox Wipechlorox wipes because

0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:27.440
<v Speaker 2>something was the refrigerator door was sticky, so I wipe

0:23:27.480 --> 0:23:29.840
<v Speaker 2>it a lot from the jelly. From the jelly, yes,

0:23:30.080 --> 0:23:32.840
<v Speaker 2>keep it full circle, very full circle. And so I

0:23:33.320 --> 0:23:35.440
<v Speaker 2>am like, where are my Clorox wipes? I always I

0:23:35.520 --> 0:23:37.600
<v Speaker 2>know where I put them. I put them back where

0:23:37.640 --> 0:23:42.480
<v Speaker 2>they belong human and it never moves unless somebody else

0:23:42.520 --> 0:23:46.440
<v Speaker 2>touches them, right, So then it's allan. I was like,

0:23:46.600 --> 0:23:48.399
<v Speaker 2>have you seen my Clorox wipes? And he was like

0:23:49.320 --> 0:23:51.639
<v Speaker 2>I haven't, and he goes, oh wait, I finished them.

0:23:51.680 --> 0:23:53.199
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, and did you not replace them

0:23:53.760 --> 0:23:59.920
<v Speaker 2>like that? They absolutely are our michlorox wipes. And he

0:24:00.119 --> 0:24:01.800
<v Speaker 2>is like, it's not like you use them a lot.

0:24:02.680 --> 0:24:05.600
<v Speaker 2>And this is where I went. I went. I was like,

0:24:05.800 --> 0:24:10.160
<v Speaker 2>you do not see the things that I do. All

0:24:10.359 --> 0:24:13.120
<v Speaker 2>around everything that I do do. I was like, I'm

0:24:13.200 --> 0:24:15.880
<v Speaker 2>constantly taking the Clorox wipes and wiping all the little

0:24:15.960 --> 0:24:18.840
<v Speaker 2>like knobs and things and refrigerators and that I was

0:24:18.880 --> 0:24:21.639
<v Speaker 2>like in taking my magic erasers and going around cleaning

0:24:21.720 --> 0:24:25.800
<v Speaker 2>base boards and walls, like on a weekly basis, sometimes daily.

0:24:26.240 --> 0:24:27.920
<v Speaker 2>I was like, you don't see the things that I

0:24:28.040 --> 0:24:30.800
<v Speaker 2>do at all? Then you know what I mean, because

0:24:30.840 --> 0:24:33.560
<v Speaker 2>that's what I do all the time. And on top

0:24:33.600 --> 0:24:35.520
<v Speaker 2>of everything else, I was like, imagine what the house

0:24:35.560 --> 0:24:37.840
<v Speaker 2>would look like if I didn't touch the things that

0:24:37.920 --> 0:24:40.600
<v Speaker 2>I touch, and what it would look like. And then

0:24:40.640 --> 0:24:42.200
<v Speaker 2>I thought, I think I'm going to go on strike

0:24:42.240 --> 0:24:44.760
<v Speaker 2>for a week just so he can see what I do.

0:24:44.920 --> 0:24:48.960
<v Speaker 2>Do you do not yet? I wanted to pose it

0:24:49.000 --> 0:24:55.560
<v Speaker 2>here first, but yeah, what do you think? I can't

0:24:55.600 --> 0:24:57.959
<v Speaker 2>imagine what my home would look like if I went

0:24:58.040 --> 0:25:00.119
<v Speaker 2>on strike. But I feel like they might appreciate what

0:25:00.240 --> 0:25:01.920
<v Speaker 2>we do. I know, we appre again. Here we go.

0:25:02.119 --> 0:25:04.920
<v Speaker 2>I know you appreciate me. Yes, Okay, Having said that,

0:25:06.760 --> 0:25:10.560
<v Speaker 2>they I mean this so respectfully. The laps that I

0:25:10.640 --> 0:25:13.560
<v Speaker 2>do around my husband in that home, yes, I mean

0:25:14.840 --> 0:25:16.760
<v Speaker 2>even just the unloading of the car. I mean, I

0:25:16.960 --> 0:25:21.040
<v Speaker 2>just last night, Preston is a really great guy. He's

0:25:21.080 --> 0:25:26.080
<v Speaker 2>a really great dad, a songwriter, he's a wonderful, super

0:25:26.119 --> 0:25:28.800
<v Speaker 2>good at making up. Okay, Oh, last night, we're leaving

0:25:28.800 --> 0:25:32.919
<v Speaker 2>the baseball field and I just wild. I wish I'm

0:25:32.960 --> 0:25:34.480
<v Speaker 2>next time I'm going to take a picture. We should

0:25:34.520 --> 0:25:37.680
<v Speaker 2>just make a series and people can follow along. So

0:25:37.920 --> 0:25:41.399
<v Speaker 2>I have this wagon overflowing. I had provided snack for

0:25:41.400 --> 0:25:43.360
<v Speaker 2>the baseball blah blah blah. Right, so I have all

0:25:43.400 --> 0:25:45.879
<v Speaker 2>three chairs, a blanket, a toddler who doesn't want to go,

0:25:46.560 --> 0:25:47.840
<v Speaker 2>love who doesn't even want to be there in the

0:25:47.880 --> 0:25:50.800
<v Speaker 2>first place. Everything's overflowing. So I'm pulling the wagon with

0:25:50.840 --> 0:25:53.040
<v Speaker 2>two hands because the wagon I'm holding the chairs on,

0:25:53.400 --> 0:25:56.280
<v Speaker 2>and the attempt to make it over shuffling slowly shuffling

0:25:56.320 --> 0:26:00.240
<v Speaker 2>over to the car. I look up and help me. No,

0:26:01.480 --> 0:26:06.879
<v Speaker 2>Homie's got a bag of veggie straws, and he's just like,

0:26:07.280 --> 0:26:09.200
<v Speaker 2>I mean I at this point, I've almost run my

0:26:09.320 --> 0:26:11.520
<v Speaker 2>child over me over by the wagon, like it's death

0:26:11.560 --> 0:26:14.359
<v Speaker 2>by wagon. And he's like we are literally ten feet

0:26:14.359 --> 0:26:16.880
<v Speaker 2>from the car, and he's like, baby, mean me, help

0:26:16.920 --> 0:26:19.000
<v Speaker 2>with that. And I'm like, oh, no, no, no, this

0:26:19.080 --> 0:26:21.119
<v Speaker 2>has been organ trail for thirty minutes, and if if

0:26:21.119 --> 0:26:22.800
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to bring it to the finish line, right,

0:26:22.880 --> 0:26:26.200
<v Speaker 2>were right? I love when they ask literally like we

0:26:26.640 --> 0:26:28.160
<v Speaker 2>might as well be on the drive home at this point,

0:26:28.920 --> 0:26:31.640
<v Speaker 2>and I'm just like, dude, I just I there's such

0:26:31.760 --> 0:26:34.160
<v Speaker 2>a unique difference in the way we all see the world,

0:26:35.800 --> 0:26:38.800
<v Speaker 2>the amount of things we get done. I want to

0:26:38.880 --> 0:26:42.680
<v Speaker 2>say I can go on strike. I think my euro OSD. Yeah,

0:26:42.800 --> 0:26:46.959
<v Speaker 2>I know, but I feel like I should try more

0:26:47.000 --> 0:26:50.720
<v Speaker 2>than I do. I'm on strike right now. Yeah, Cat's

0:26:50.760 --> 0:26:55.959
<v Speaker 2>like I've striker on for the last seventeen years. Now.

0:26:56.160 --> 0:26:58.960
<v Speaker 1>I pick up more and like put up more and

0:26:59.000 --> 0:27:01.280
<v Speaker 1>stuff like that. But like that kind of stuff he

0:27:01.359 --> 0:27:03.360
<v Speaker 1>does more, so I can't really.

0:27:03.400 --> 0:27:04.480
<v Speaker 2>But he wouldn't be able to do that if you

0:27:04.520 --> 0:27:05.359
<v Speaker 2>didn't pick up the stuff.

0:27:05.720 --> 0:27:08.359
<v Speaker 1>No, he would let this stuff just sit sit and

0:27:08.480 --> 0:27:11.440
<v Speaker 1>stay for sure. But like, yeah, I mean, but I'm

0:27:11.600 --> 0:27:13.800
<v Speaker 1>just not you know me, I'm just not like OCD

0:27:13.920 --> 0:27:17.040
<v Speaker 1>about that. Having said that, the laundry would go to yeah, yeah,

0:27:17.160 --> 0:27:18.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean that is one thing that I am like

0:27:18.800 --> 0:27:21.159
<v Speaker 1>very good at keeping up with for sure, and that

0:27:21.200 --> 0:27:23.520
<v Speaker 1>would go to crap. But I feel like you could

0:27:23.560 --> 0:27:25.440
<v Speaker 1>do it the strike. I think you could do it.

0:27:25.640 --> 0:27:28.400
<v Speaker 2>I probably could, and I think that he would probably

0:27:28.480 --> 0:27:32.480
<v Speaker 2>eventually not notice. No, No, I think he was. He's

0:27:32.560 --> 0:27:33.240
<v Speaker 2>also a very.

0:27:33.160 --> 0:27:36.560
<v Speaker 1>Because in particular, Yeah, it's just because you do it,

0:27:37.400 --> 0:27:38.800
<v Speaker 1>you know. But if you were to go on strike,

0:27:38.800 --> 0:27:40.840
<v Speaker 1>I feel like he'd be like okay and start seeing

0:27:40.880 --> 0:27:43.359
<v Speaker 1>it and would start doing it. You know, only that

0:27:43.480 --> 0:27:45.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm not real sure love him. I mean, I'm you know,

0:27:45.880 --> 0:27:47.959
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what would happen. You would go crazy,

0:27:48.160 --> 0:27:50.560
<v Speaker 1>and I don't know that it's good for your mental health.

0:27:50.640 --> 0:27:52.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. You should rather just do him go

0:27:52.640 --> 0:27:55.040
<v Speaker 2>off like when when he comes home from tour, just

0:27:55.119 --> 0:27:55.800
<v Speaker 2>to see his face.

0:27:57.000 --> 0:27:57.879
<v Speaker 1>I don't think she could do it.

0:27:58.040 --> 0:27:59.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I want to be able to

0:27:59.760 --> 0:28:02.840
<v Speaker 2>do that, because I think it would think it would

0:28:02.880 --> 0:28:05.119
<v Speaker 2>be like even the other night, I tucked all the

0:28:05.160 --> 0:28:07.359
<v Speaker 2>babies in and that's my jam, right one, like candle

0:28:07.440 --> 0:28:09.800
<v Speaker 2>dim lights, clean counters, and I just go through and

0:28:09.880 --> 0:28:12.159
<v Speaker 2>I just to tee myself up for the morning. And

0:28:12.240 --> 0:28:13.560
<v Speaker 2>I thought, what would it look like if I just

0:28:13.680 --> 0:28:17.560
<v Speaker 2>left all of this? How'd it feel? I didn't leave it.

0:28:17.640 --> 0:28:19.200
<v Speaker 2>She just got about it, but I did think about

0:28:19.200 --> 0:28:24.359
<v Speaker 2>It's step one, well, step one a knitting. Let's do

0:28:24.440 --> 0:28:30.800
<v Speaker 2>It's report that, okay, let's do it now next week.

0:28:30.960 --> 0:28:33.960
<v Speaker 2>Let's do it next week, yeah, next okay. Can't wait

0:28:34.040 --> 0:28:37.879
<v Speaker 2>to hear about this. Kim Kardashian explains why she doesn't

0:28:37.920 --> 0:28:42.120
<v Speaker 2>believe in homework. So she has said that they do

0:28:42.240 --> 0:28:45.040
<v Speaker 2>not believe in homework during a recent live stream, but

0:28:45.280 --> 0:28:46.640
<v Speaker 2>she was I'm gonna tell you why kids are in

0:28:46.680 --> 0:28:48.400
<v Speaker 2>school for eight hours a day. When they come home,

0:28:48.440 --> 0:28:50.360
<v Speaker 2>they need to also then do sports, have a life,

0:28:50.360 --> 0:28:52.680
<v Speaker 2>spend time with their family. I think that homework should

0:28:52.680 --> 0:28:56.640
<v Speaker 2>be left for in school thoughts. I totally agree, totally agree.

0:28:56.720 --> 0:28:59.560
<v Speaker 2>I can tell you this, Jolie. Fourth grade is all

0:28:59.600 --> 0:29:03.400
<v Speaker 2>about having responsibility in the classroom and if you don't

0:29:03.400 --> 0:29:04.960
<v Speaker 2>finish it, then that's when you take it home. So

0:29:05.000 --> 0:29:07.360
<v Speaker 2>the whole thing is like teaching them to finish it

0:29:07.640 --> 0:29:12.320
<v Speaker 2>in school. And it has been so stress free having

0:29:12.400 --> 0:29:14.440
<v Speaker 2>both kids come home and not have any homework to

0:29:14.480 --> 0:29:16.320
<v Speaker 2>do because we have the sports and all the things,

0:29:16.720 --> 0:29:19.120
<v Speaker 2>and it's it's been great. Yeah, Oh, it's been a

0:29:19.200 --> 0:29:24.320
<v Speaker 2>dream this year. That's great. Can't imagine y'all even having homework.

0:29:24.400 --> 0:29:27.120
<v Speaker 2>That's wild to because they're there so long. Yeah, I

0:29:27.160 --> 0:29:28.760
<v Speaker 2>mean that just it seems like last year it was

0:29:28.800 --> 0:29:29.720
<v Speaker 2>like so much for joy.

0:29:29.880 --> 0:29:33.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Ramsey does have it. This year, it's a little

0:29:33.760 --> 0:29:36.000
<v Speaker 1>bit less, and I mean, really, you just have to

0:29:36.040 --> 0:29:37.640
<v Speaker 1>do it in a week, so it's not terrible. You

0:29:37.640 --> 0:29:39.320
<v Speaker 1>can do a little bit at a time, but to

0:29:39.480 --> 0:29:42.200
<v Speaker 1>just not have to think about it just would be amazing.

0:29:42.520 --> 0:29:44.719
<v Speaker 1>I've noticed this year for Emmy eighth grade, she's had

0:29:44.760 --> 0:29:47.040
<v Speaker 1>a lot less homework, a lot more tests, a lot

0:29:47.120 --> 0:29:50.000
<v Speaker 1>more quizzes and studying, but a lot less homework and

0:29:50.080 --> 0:29:51.520
<v Speaker 1>it's just still so much less stress.

0:29:52.000 --> 0:29:54.959
<v Speaker 2>I think I wish that, And I don't know if

0:29:55.040 --> 0:29:57.720
<v Speaker 2>this teachers will blow me up in the DMS for sure,

0:29:57.760 --> 0:30:00.560
<v Speaker 2>but I wish that they would take those homework pieces

0:30:00.600 --> 0:30:02.440
<v Speaker 2>and they would start to make some sort of summer

0:30:02.560 --> 0:30:05.560
<v Speaker 2>curriculum may not be a popular opinion, but if you

0:30:06.120 --> 0:30:08.520
<v Speaker 2>don't use it, you lose it. So we do a

0:30:08.720 --> 0:30:12.120
<v Speaker 2>tiny bit of school every week at home during the summer,

0:30:12.360 --> 0:30:15.040
<v Speaker 2>just to like so we're not like cold Turkey, And

0:30:15.160 --> 0:30:18.240
<v Speaker 2>I just think it would be a much better Okay,

0:30:18.760 --> 0:30:21.400
<v Speaker 2>Jollie was, but no, like you know, I hear what

0:30:21.960 --> 0:30:23.880
<v Speaker 2>you're saying. Just take a tiny bit and they could

0:30:23.880 --> 0:30:26.400
<v Speaker 2>do like a worksheet in the morning or something throughout

0:30:26.440 --> 0:30:29.440
<v Speaker 2>the summer just to keep it bak sassah less homework.

0:30:29.560 --> 0:30:31.520
<v Speaker 2>Jolie was supposed to do summer school and her teacher

0:30:31.880 --> 0:30:34.920
<v Speaker 2>was even like decline it because she's like they they

0:30:35.080 --> 0:30:37.800
<v Speaker 2>need that break for their little brains, you know, not

0:30:37.920 --> 0:30:40.920
<v Speaker 2>like full blown school, just like brain warm up once

0:30:40.960 --> 0:30:43.360
<v Speaker 2>a day. I'm probably I think I know where you

0:30:43.440 --> 0:30:47.120
<v Speaker 2>stand on this. But Jolie had come home with a

0:30:48.840 --> 0:30:52.040
<v Speaker 2>a not so great grade on her test and she

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:55.000
<v Speaker 2>had folded it up so that I wouldn't see it

0:30:55.240 --> 0:30:57.560
<v Speaker 2>in her binder, and I was like, oh, why is

0:30:57.640 --> 0:30:59.480
<v Speaker 2>this folded? I looked and I go, oh, good job.

0:30:59.520 --> 0:31:01.360
<v Speaker 2>Girl was like it's all good. She's like, you're not mad.

0:31:01.400 --> 0:31:03.880
<v Speaker 2>I was like, no, it's like you're fine, Like it's

0:31:04.120 --> 0:31:06.800
<v Speaker 2>you know, this isn't You're not going to not be

0:31:06.920 --> 0:31:09.240
<v Speaker 2>successful in life because you got a sixty percent on

0:31:09.440 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 2>a fourth grade percent math test like that. I have

0:31:12.480 --> 0:31:15.360
<v Speaker 2>that like is just do better try, you know, just

0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:16.800
<v Speaker 2>that's what we want to work it out, you know

0:31:16.840 --> 0:31:17.200
<v Speaker 2>what I mean?

0:31:17.320 --> 0:31:20.800
<v Speaker 1>Like I have weight, we carried so find I have

0:31:20.960 --> 0:31:23.480
<v Speaker 1>to say I've learned a lot about that, Like I've

0:31:23.600 --> 0:31:26.560
<v Speaker 1>come a long way when it got pretty okay, The

0:31:26.720 --> 0:31:29.440
<v Speaker 1>problem is is I started with Kayden, who has never

0:31:30.000 --> 0:31:32.680
<v Speaker 1>he's made bad test grades, but he has never made

0:31:32.840 --> 0:31:34.840
<v Speaker 1>less than an A on a report card. Okay, and

0:31:34.920 --> 0:31:38.560
<v Speaker 1>then I finally after sixth grade year, I was pretty

0:31:38.600 --> 0:31:41.480
<v Speaker 1>hard on Emmy, and so I kind of lessened up

0:31:41.560 --> 0:31:43.520
<v Speaker 1>last year, but I was still and this year I'm

0:31:43.680 --> 0:31:47.400
<v Speaker 1>just it's fine, like, hey, let's make sure we're studying.

0:31:47.480 --> 0:31:50.240
<v Speaker 1>As long as you're studying, you know. I've I've loosened

0:31:50.360 --> 0:31:53.800
<v Speaker 1>up a lot. And I feel bad because she still

0:31:53.880 --> 0:31:55.920
<v Speaker 1>kind of has that like reaction of like, oh no,

0:31:56.000 --> 0:31:57.240
<v Speaker 1>are you going to be mad at me? And it

0:31:57.360 --> 0:32:00.440
<v Speaker 1>really makes me feel bad that I did react when

0:32:00.520 --> 0:32:04.800
<v Speaker 1>she had some bad grades. Now, if it's not turning

0:32:04.840 --> 0:32:08.880
<v Speaker 1>stuff in, if it's zero's why I don't like. I

0:32:09.000 --> 0:32:11.120
<v Speaker 1>don't you know, I don't tolerate that. But if there's

0:32:11.120 --> 0:32:13.360
<v Speaker 1>a reason for it, I definitely have. I've gotten better

0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:15.320
<v Speaker 1>about it. Yeah, I've definitely had to loosen up on

0:32:15.400 --> 0:32:16.320
<v Speaker 1>that a little bit for sure.

0:32:16.320 --> 0:32:18.440
<v Speaker 2>And I think, honestly the dyslexia piece has helped me.

0:32:18.920 --> 0:32:22.120
<v Speaker 2>Not because it's like she's got she's the brain's working

0:32:22.120 --> 0:32:24.520
<v Speaker 2>against yourself, so it's like she knew more helpful. I'm

0:32:24.520 --> 0:32:26.560
<v Speaker 2>not going to get I'm not going to discourage that now.

0:32:26.600 --> 0:32:29.160
<v Speaker 2>Of course, same thing. If she's failing at everything, then

0:32:29.200 --> 0:32:31.720
<v Speaker 2>there's a deeper issue to like chat about. But and

0:32:31.800 --> 0:32:35.320
<v Speaker 2>I will say it with my parents. They didn't care

0:32:35.520 --> 0:32:38.480
<v Speaker 2>at all, which I think I didn't like. I wish

0:32:38.520 --> 0:32:41.080
<v Speaker 2>they would have cared a little bit about it, because

0:32:41.520 --> 0:32:44.120
<v Speaker 2>then I just kind of gave up. Yeah, as opposed

0:32:44.120 --> 0:32:46.800
<v Speaker 2>to so I would have liked them to. But at

0:32:46.840 --> 0:32:49.640
<v Speaker 2>the same time, if they were really is hard on it.

0:32:49.640 --> 0:32:51.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean again, I knew I wasn't going to be

0:32:51.160 --> 0:32:55.360
<v Speaker 2>doing anything with schooling. I was like out Hollywood here

0:32:57.520 --> 0:32:59.320
<v Speaker 2>and I still count on my hands and it is

0:32:59.400 --> 0:33:06.440
<v Speaker 2>what it is. It's fine, you're successful. Anyways. Do you

0:33:06.440 --> 0:33:11.240
<v Speaker 2>guys see that stuff about Dean and Tory No, the

0:33:12.080 --> 0:33:15.280
<v Speaker 2>so he's they're you know, going through their ongoing divorce.

0:33:15.480 --> 0:33:19.000
<v Speaker 2>The finances, He basically claims, toy makes this much a

0:33:19.080 --> 0:33:22.040
<v Speaker 2>month a new divorce bowling as he reveals over twenty

0:33:22.080 --> 0:33:25.360
<v Speaker 2>thousand dollars of debt. I don't know if they're like

0:33:25.480 --> 0:33:30.120
<v Speaker 2>reworking the figures or that part. I'm not like too

0:33:30.200 --> 0:33:36.120
<v Speaker 2>sure about. It's I never like seeing people's breakdowns of things.

0:33:36.160 --> 0:33:37.840
<v Speaker 2>I don't I didn't like it when our stuff when

0:33:37.920 --> 0:33:38.440
<v Speaker 2>public and it.

0:33:38.480 --> 0:33:39.440
<v Speaker 1>Makes me uncomfortable.

0:33:39.520 --> 0:33:41.800
<v Speaker 2>It makes really uncomfortable, And I don't want to know

0:33:41.960 --> 0:33:44.320
<v Speaker 2>about what his girlfriend is like a month and like

0:33:44.440 --> 0:33:46.520
<v Speaker 2>first of all that's she shouldn't be a part of

0:33:46.600 --> 0:33:48.960
<v Speaker 2>any thing anyways, Like just as I'm not a part

0:33:49.000 --> 0:33:50.240
<v Speaker 2>of any you know, when it comes.

0:33:50.120 --> 0:33:51.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why she was brought into this.

0:33:51.840 --> 0:33:54.239
<v Speaker 2>I have confusing to me, no idea actually feel bad

0:33:54.280 --> 0:33:56.400
<v Speaker 2>for the girl that she was even brought into it.

0:33:56.720 --> 0:33:59.560
<v Speaker 2>But I just yeah, I mean the whole thing. I

0:33:59.720 --> 0:34:02.200
<v Speaker 2>just honestly, anytime I ever read any of that stuff,

0:34:02.200 --> 0:34:03.760
<v Speaker 2>it's just like it kind of triggers me. I'm like,

0:34:03.800 --> 0:34:05.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't I don't even want to. It's like the

0:34:05.760 --> 0:34:08.800
<v Speaker 2>feeling you guys, I'll probably regret saying this. It's the

0:34:08.840 --> 0:34:10.600
<v Speaker 2>same feeling when you accidentally walk into someone on the

0:34:10.880 --> 0:34:13.360
<v Speaker 2>in the bathroom, Like I'm like, oh, I shouldn't you.

0:34:13.320 --> 0:34:15.759
<v Speaker 1>Shouldn't be It's like none of our business, of our

0:34:15.800 --> 0:34:17.560
<v Speaker 1>people's answer, it's just not.

0:34:18.239 --> 0:34:21.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And it's like, I don't you know, she shouldn't

0:34:21.440 --> 0:34:24.279
<v Speaker 2>be punished for being successful. She has the kids ninety

0:34:24.320 --> 0:34:26.879
<v Speaker 2>percent of the time, you know. I don't know if

0:34:27.239 --> 0:34:28.799
<v Speaker 2>I really don't know if he's like trying to get

0:34:28.880 --> 0:34:30.959
<v Speaker 2>more money. I have no idea. I guess I didn't

0:34:30.960 --> 0:34:33.839
<v Speaker 2>really look that much into it. But I just feel

0:34:33.840 --> 0:34:35.080
<v Speaker 2>like this has been going on a long time.

0:34:35.800 --> 0:34:38.319
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just I think the moral of this whole thing

0:34:38.440 --> 0:34:41.200
<v Speaker 1>is truly we don't want to have a huge opinion

0:34:41.239 --> 0:34:43.279
<v Speaker 1>on it because we don't. It's we don't feel like

0:34:43.320 --> 0:34:45.480
<v Speaker 1>it's our business. Yeah, and really don't want to get

0:34:45.520 --> 0:34:45.840
<v Speaker 1>into it.

0:34:46.080 --> 0:34:46.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I know.

0:34:47.000 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 1>When I saw that headline, I was just like, I

0:34:49.280 --> 0:34:51.600
<v Speaker 1>don't want to know this, Like I don't let them

0:34:51.600 --> 0:34:52.719
<v Speaker 1>work it out, let them figure out.

0:34:52.719 --> 0:34:54.480
<v Speaker 2>I even feel like when we've gone through this with you,

0:34:54.600 --> 0:34:57.800
<v Speaker 2>we didn't know those things finances and yeah, yeah, like

0:34:58.280 --> 0:34:58.640
<v Speaker 2>you're like.

0:34:58.680 --> 0:35:01.839
<v Speaker 1>Our don't talk about your finances kind of person, very

0:35:01.880 --> 0:35:05.080
<v Speaker 1>old school of you. I'm very like Nick and his

0:35:05.239 --> 0:35:07.600
<v Speaker 1>sister used to talk about finances, like in the beginning,

0:35:07.600 --> 0:35:09.719
<v Speaker 1>and she still talks about finances, but I'm like not

0:35:09.760 --> 0:35:10.279
<v Speaker 1>comfortable with it.

0:35:10.320 --> 0:35:11.920
<v Speaker 2>Well, I don't think you should ever talk about finances

0:35:11.920 --> 0:35:14.640
<v Speaker 2>with family. Yeah that's kind of my Yeah, talk about

0:35:14.640 --> 0:35:17.720
<v Speaker 2>it with your husband, but like even and sure agreed,

0:35:17.960 --> 0:35:20.040
<v Speaker 2>but when it comes to family and stuff, like, I

0:35:20.120 --> 0:35:23.440
<v Speaker 2>don't think anybody in my family has any clue and

0:35:23.560 --> 0:35:26.560
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to tell anything. It's just I sometimes

0:35:26.680 --> 0:35:28.440
<v Speaker 2>want to tell ours because I'm like I think you

0:35:28.520 --> 0:35:31.520
<v Speaker 2>guys think it's a lot more than well no, I

0:35:31.560 --> 0:35:33.400
<v Speaker 2>mean I remember like when I was touring with like

0:35:33.440 --> 0:35:35.080
<v Speaker 2>Brad Paisley, and then like my brother's like, oh, you

0:35:35.120 --> 0:35:38.200
<v Speaker 2>must be making like hundreds of thousands of dollars. I'm like,

0:35:38.320 --> 0:35:39.320
<v Speaker 2>I am negative.

0:35:39.480 --> 0:35:44.160
<v Speaker 1>Actually, show people are clueless. Yeah, I'm sorry, they're all

0:35:44.280 --> 0:35:47.840
<v Speaker 1>but man. Yeah. But to me, though, the assumption should

0:35:47.880 --> 0:35:50.960
<v Speaker 1>be no different. That's what's so frustrating to me. They

0:35:51.040 --> 0:35:53.319
<v Speaker 1>might be assuming that you're making all kinds of money.

0:35:53.480 --> 0:35:55.080
<v Speaker 1>What does that make you act differently?

0:35:55.680 --> 0:35:58.279
<v Speaker 2>Like? Why? It does? Depends on how much you're willing

0:35:58.400 --> 0:35:59.000
<v Speaker 2>to do for them.

0:35:59.040 --> 0:36:01.480
<v Speaker 1>I think, oh, well yeah, yeah I said that.

0:36:02.000 --> 0:36:04.879
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. But also like in this situation, like and again

0:36:04.960 --> 0:36:07.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't understand this at all. I don't know if

0:36:07.000 --> 0:36:09.320
<v Speaker 2>he's coming after more money, so I don't even like

0:36:09.880 --> 0:36:14.440
<v Speaker 2>but it's I don't like it. I'm i gonna say that,

0:36:14.800 --> 0:36:21.359
<v Speaker 2>go ahead, I don't like it. This is very old

0:36:21.400 --> 0:36:22.840
<v Speaker 2>school of me. And I know I'm going down in

0:36:22.880 --> 0:36:23.919
<v Speaker 2>a ball of flames.

0:36:24.160 --> 0:36:25.279
<v Speaker 1>Already know what you're going to say.

0:36:25.440 --> 0:36:29.920
<v Speaker 2>Damn it. I just don't. I just don't think it

0:36:30.080 --> 0:36:36.759
<v Speaker 2>is handsome and masculine to go after a woman's money.

0:36:36.800 --> 0:36:39.840
<v Speaker 1>But I can agree with that statement. I also a

0:36:39.880 --> 0:36:41.640
<v Speaker 1>lot of men who agree with that statement.

0:36:41.719 --> 0:36:46.760
<v Speaker 2>I also a lot of baggage myself from previous relationships

0:36:47.600 --> 0:36:49.960
<v Speaker 2>where I was the breadwinner and I'm and I remember

0:36:50.040 --> 0:36:53.840
<v Speaker 2>that being okay with someone, and I'm like now looking

0:36:53.920 --> 0:36:57.480
<v Speaker 2>back now having a husband that's like a provider, And listen,

0:36:57.560 --> 0:36:59.520
<v Speaker 2>this isn't that I want presson to be the provider

0:36:59.600 --> 0:37:01.600
<v Speaker 2>or entire your lives. I truly don't. I have a

0:37:01.880 --> 0:37:05.239
<v Speaker 2>not so secret mission of retiring him, but I do.

0:37:06.600 --> 0:37:10.440
<v Speaker 2>I just think it's so handsome and so protective in

0:37:10.560 --> 0:37:13.879
<v Speaker 2>ways to provide in that way that that's just very

0:37:13.960 --> 0:37:16.600
<v Speaker 2>icky to me in general. But I don't know everything.

0:37:16.719 --> 0:37:20.400
<v Speaker 2>But there are dudes like we know that yes, they

0:37:20.520 --> 0:37:23.520
<v Speaker 2>don't care. No, And I said, because I said, don't

0:37:23.560 --> 0:37:25.920
<v Speaker 2>you care that you're a man taking like, don't you

0:37:25.960 --> 0:37:28.120
<v Speaker 2>want to provide for your kids on your own? I

0:37:28.160 --> 0:37:31.879
<v Speaker 2>don't care. You know they don't. Certain men just that's

0:37:32.000 --> 0:37:32.879
<v Speaker 2>not don't care.

0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:36.960
<v Speaker 1>I understand if you're like in a financial bind for

0:37:37.200 --> 0:37:39.960
<v Speaker 1>a time, you have no choice, you need to ask

0:37:40.040 --> 0:37:42.279
<v Speaker 1>for help because your children could end up on the

0:37:42.320 --> 0:37:44.360
<v Speaker 1>streets like okay, of course.

0:37:44.280 --> 0:37:46.160
<v Speaker 2>And if you were going taking care of the kids,

0:37:46.360 --> 0:37:47.400
<v Speaker 2>maybe underbred.

0:37:47.800 --> 0:37:50.920
<v Speaker 1>Yes, there are circumstances where a man needs to swallow

0:37:50.960 --> 0:37:54.319
<v Speaker 1>his pride and ask for help. Yes, but those men

0:37:55.719 --> 0:37:58.480
<v Speaker 1>then should be doing everything that they can to get

0:37:58.560 --> 0:38:00.560
<v Speaker 1>out of that hole and provide on their own.

0:38:00.680 --> 0:38:03.160
<v Speaker 2>In my opinion, what if that was flip though, because

0:38:03.200 --> 0:38:04.600
<v Speaker 2>people will say, well.

0:38:04.560 --> 0:38:08.000
<v Speaker 1>I know, of course people will say, and here's the deal.

0:38:08.960 --> 0:38:11.440
<v Speaker 1>I actually am very much an advocate for women getting

0:38:11.520 --> 0:38:15.040
<v Speaker 1>up out of it themselves and providing for their families.

0:38:15.440 --> 0:38:18.359
<v Speaker 1>If you're single, you don't have the ability to stay home,

0:38:18.600 --> 0:38:19.680
<v Speaker 1>you're going to have to.

0:38:20.160 --> 0:38:22.400
<v Speaker 2>I just got to think if I'm in a different situation,

0:38:22.760 --> 0:38:26.120
<v Speaker 2>and let's say my ex made more money than I did,

0:38:27.320 --> 0:38:31.839
<v Speaker 2>and you know, I would probably, yeah, I would take

0:38:31.880 --> 0:38:34.799
<v Speaker 2>the money because if I didn't have, if I wasn't

0:38:34.800 --> 0:38:38.160
<v Speaker 2>in this situation right where I'm able to and I

0:38:38.360 --> 0:38:43.320
<v Speaker 2>just have, you know, getting by with the bills, I

0:38:43.560 --> 0:38:45.839
<v Speaker 2>would absolutely probably take his money.

0:38:46.680 --> 0:38:48.759
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. And here's the thing. Nick and I went through this,

0:38:49.000 --> 0:38:51.040
<v Speaker 1>I mean we before. We did not get divorced, but

0:38:51.160 --> 0:38:53.759
<v Speaker 1>we had it all laid out and the reality is,

0:38:54.040 --> 0:38:55.960
<v Speaker 1>and I understand that a lot of people don't get along,

0:38:56.440 --> 0:39:00.479
<v Speaker 1>but we did it to where it benefited both our children,

0:39:00.480 --> 0:39:02.279
<v Speaker 1>I mean our children at the end of the day.

0:39:02.400 --> 0:39:04.359
<v Speaker 1>How much do I need to make sure that they're

0:39:04.400 --> 0:39:06.160
<v Speaker 1>taken care of? And how much do you need to

0:39:06.239 --> 0:39:08.480
<v Speaker 1>make sure that they are taken care of. Yes, that's

0:39:08.560 --> 0:39:10.440
<v Speaker 1>the only way we looked at it, and yes that

0:39:10.520 --> 0:39:12.560
<v Speaker 1>meant I had to take some money from him, but

0:39:12.760 --> 0:39:16.080
<v Speaker 1>it was purely thinking about how do I make sure

0:39:16.120 --> 0:39:17.640
<v Speaker 1>that the bills get paid, how do I make sure

0:39:17.680 --> 0:39:19.839
<v Speaker 1>that the kids have X, Y and Z. It wasn't

0:39:19.960 --> 0:39:21.320
<v Speaker 1>just about taking his money.

0:39:21.880 --> 0:39:24.560
<v Speaker 2>I mean, how is this any different than when we're

0:39:24.560 --> 0:39:27.799
<v Speaker 2>talking about Dean. Maybe he that's what he needs, right.

0:39:27.800 --> 0:39:29.879
<v Speaker 1>Well, that's what I'm saying. I can understand for a time.

0:39:30.360 --> 0:39:34.239
<v Speaker 1>But also if he's needing that much money, then he's

0:39:34.239 --> 0:39:36.480
<v Speaker 1>going to have to get another job. Yeah, you know,

0:39:36.760 --> 0:39:39.719
<v Speaker 1>And I was willing to do that. And I understand that. Yes,

0:39:39.840 --> 0:39:42.400
<v Speaker 1>it is a bit of a Yes, there is a

0:39:42.440 --> 0:39:44.880
<v Speaker 1>little bit of a double standard on this. I do

0:39:45.160 --> 0:39:47.680
<v Speaker 1>understand that. But also I'm the kind of person that

0:39:47.840 --> 0:39:49.600
<v Speaker 1>was willing to go and I even said to him, Hey,

0:39:49.600 --> 0:39:51.440
<v Speaker 1>if I need to get another job so that we

0:39:52.520 --> 0:39:56.520
<v Speaker 1>are financially okay. And I understand that everyone doesn't get along,

0:39:56.560 --> 0:39:57.520
<v Speaker 1>but just being willing.

0:39:57.800 --> 0:39:59.640
<v Speaker 2>Well, I to heare you, because I remember speaking to

0:40:00.160 --> 0:40:03.440
<v Speaker 2>about this and we were having you know, someone we

0:40:03.520 --> 0:40:05.879
<v Speaker 2>know was struggling, and he's like, then get a second job.

0:40:06.480 --> 0:40:08.560
<v Speaker 2>Make that like, if you can't send your kid to

0:40:08.600 --> 0:40:10.520
<v Speaker 2>school with school money, then get a second job. Ye.

0:40:10.800 --> 0:40:13.360
<v Speaker 2>And it's like there's just people that would rather just

0:40:13.440 --> 0:40:15.200
<v Speaker 2>take than from the person that's making the money.

0:40:15.200 --> 0:40:17.279
<v Speaker 1>It's about the effort, yeah, And I'm not saying that

0:40:17.400 --> 0:40:19.160
<v Speaker 1>he's not making an effort. I don't know, and I

0:40:19.200 --> 0:40:21.200
<v Speaker 1>don't want to know. And maybe he is, and maybe

0:40:21.239 --> 0:40:23.759
<v Speaker 1>he just needs that money right now, more power to him.

0:40:24.040 --> 0:40:26.600
<v Speaker 1>But to me, it's very much about the effort level

0:40:26.680 --> 0:40:30.080
<v Speaker 1>behind it and not just sitting there and just taking

0:40:30.160 --> 0:40:31.480
<v Speaker 1>and just accepting how it is.

0:40:31.640 --> 0:40:33.480
<v Speaker 2>I do think it is different though for a man

0:40:33.760 --> 0:40:35.960
<v Speaker 2>versus a woman. I really do. And I guess that

0:40:36.160 --> 0:40:39.520
<v Speaker 2>is just my my thing is is old schoolness, yeah,

0:40:39.560 --> 0:40:41.560
<v Speaker 2>because it's like and I know men like Alan, like

0:40:41.640 --> 0:40:46.520
<v Speaker 2>he's like, I would never, oh, Nick would rather die

0:40:46.960 --> 0:40:49.200
<v Speaker 2>than to take money from me. Yeah, And that's it.

0:40:49.280 --> 0:40:51.960
<v Speaker 1>And that's an old school prideful thing for a man too,

0:40:52.160 --> 0:40:54.040
<v Speaker 1>And that is attractive to us because we all do

0:40:54.239 --> 0:40:57.360
<v Speaker 1>kind of like that old school mentality. But at the

0:40:57.440 --> 0:41:00.279
<v Speaker 1>same time, the reason it's kind of been like this

0:41:00.400 --> 0:41:03.840
<v Speaker 1>and why it's always been is because traditionally, old school

0:41:03.880 --> 0:41:07.040
<v Speaker 1>wise women would stay home. They didn't have the ability

0:41:07.120 --> 0:41:09.359
<v Speaker 1>because they would stay home take care of the kids,

0:41:09.360 --> 0:41:11.040
<v Speaker 1>they didn't have the ability to make the money that

0:41:11.120 --> 0:41:15.200
<v Speaker 1>they did. So if it's reverse, which is probably kind

0:41:15.239 --> 0:41:17.040
<v Speaker 1>of rare, I don't know, I don't know the stats.

0:41:17.080 --> 0:41:21.040
<v Speaker 1>If it's reverse to where you're working, and Mike was

0:41:21.200 --> 0:41:24.680
<v Speaker 1>completely staying home, wasn't working at all, you know, and

0:41:24.880 --> 0:41:27.800
<v Speaker 1>had to couldn't go to school, didn't get the schooling,

0:41:27.880 --> 0:41:29.480
<v Speaker 1>didn't have the chance, and not even them because at

0:41:29.480 --> 0:41:31.840
<v Speaker 1>that point y'all got married a little bit later. But

0:41:32.080 --> 0:41:34.920
<v Speaker 1>that's traditionally what it's for. A woman couldn't go to school,

0:41:35.080 --> 0:41:37.120
<v Speaker 1>she couldn't get a job, she couldn't do those things

0:41:37.120 --> 0:41:38.640
<v Speaker 1>because she had to stay home and take care of

0:41:38.680 --> 0:41:42.480
<v Speaker 1>the kids. That's traditionally why that's even setting place was

0:41:42.600 --> 0:41:46.040
<v Speaker 1>second place. Now it's obviously morphed and changed over the years,

0:41:46.160 --> 0:41:48.280
<v Speaker 1>and it's just but now I feel like it's gotten

0:41:48.360 --> 0:41:50.960
<v Speaker 1>so nitpicky about well, this person's making this much and

0:41:51.040 --> 0:41:53.520
<v Speaker 1>this person's to me, it's just like, can you provide

0:41:53.560 --> 0:41:54.840
<v Speaker 1>for your children or can you not?

0:41:55.280 --> 0:41:55.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:41:55.640 --> 0:41:58.480
<v Speaker 1>And if that person can't and they're taking care of

0:41:58.640 --> 0:42:00.680
<v Speaker 1>their kids, which it doesn't see he doesn't have a

0:42:00.719 --> 0:42:03.000
<v Speaker 1>whole lot of time. Sounds like she's got ninety with

0:42:03.160 --> 0:42:05.719
<v Speaker 1>the kids. Yeah, and then I can understand it.

0:42:05.920 --> 0:42:06.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, It's just I don't know.

0:42:06.920 --> 0:42:09.440
<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of gray area there.

0:42:22.239 --> 0:42:25.040
<v Speaker 2>Hey Jana, After listening to a recent podcast discussing cheating,

0:42:25.080 --> 0:42:27.319
<v Speaker 2>I have a question. My best friend has suspected her

0:42:27.400 --> 0:42:30.880
<v Speaker 2>husband of cheating. She recently took a coworker with her

0:42:31.040 --> 0:42:33.640
<v Speaker 2>to check up on him at a bar he frequents

0:42:33.760 --> 0:42:36.520
<v Speaker 2>with friends. When they walked in, he was sitting with

0:42:36.600 --> 0:42:39.560
<v Speaker 2>a woman and they seemed a little too friendly. When

0:42:39.600 --> 0:42:42.480
<v Speaker 2>they saw her, this woman took off and ran to

0:42:42.560 --> 0:42:45.560
<v Speaker 2>the opposite side of the bar, So that reaction said

0:42:45.560 --> 0:42:47.560
<v Speaker 2>a lot to my friend. Her husband denied it and

0:42:47.640 --> 0:42:49.560
<v Speaker 2>they have been trying to work on their marriage. They

0:42:49.640 --> 0:42:51.760
<v Speaker 2>went away over the weekend, and while they were away,

0:42:52.280 --> 0:42:55.560
<v Speaker 2>my friend received a series of texts from someone using

0:42:55.600 --> 0:42:58.920
<v Speaker 2>a fake number under my name saying her husband was

0:42:59.000 --> 0:43:02.359
<v Speaker 2>cheating and calling their two young children awful names. Her

0:43:02.440 --> 0:43:05.200
<v Speaker 2>husband believes it truly is me and is trying to

0:43:05.239 --> 0:43:07.360
<v Speaker 2>get my husband to turn on me. He went so

0:43:07.520 --> 0:43:10.839
<v Speaker 2>far as to send several lengthy, untrue, nasty texts about

0:43:10.880 --> 0:43:13.759
<v Speaker 2>me to my own husband, my husband, I clearly see

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<v Speaker 2>this for what it is, his desperate attempt to distract

0:43:16.400 --> 0:43:18.719
<v Speaker 2>my friend from the truth and put the blame elsewhere.

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<v Speaker 2>They won't let us see these texts, but her husband

0:43:21.440 --> 0:43:23.560
<v Speaker 2>keeps saying he knows it's me, and he told my

0:43:23.680 --> 0:43:26.000
<v Speaker 2>husband his wife is not allowed to speak to me.

0:43:26.520 --> 0:43:29.080
<v Speaker 2>My friend privately messaged me and said she knows this

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<v Speaker 2>must be the person he's having the affair with who's

0:43:31.520 --> 0:43:34.359
<v Speaker 2>behind all this. She's not happy with her husband coming

0:43:34.440 --> 0:43:36.759
<v Speaker 2>after me, but wants to stay with him. I would

0:43:36.840 --> 0:43:38.400
<v Speaker 2>never tell her what to do, but I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I can't be around her because of the lies her

0:43:40.320 --> 0:43:43.280
<v Speaker 2>husband is now spreading about me and trying to interfere

0:43:43.360 --> 0:43:46.360
<v Speaker 2>in my marriage. Now our children are all close friends.

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<v Speaker 2>I have so much empathy for my friend, but I

0:43:48.120 --> 0:43:50.920
<v Speaker 2>feel like her husband is so unstable we have no

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<v Speaker 2>choice but to cut ties. Any advice.

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<v Speaker 1>That's sad, but I agree, Yeah, I don't think you

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<v Speaker 1>really have much of a choice unless she decides to

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<v Speaker 1>leave them.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if there's a way to just not cut

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<v Speaker 2>ties with the kids. Like I like the idea maybe

0:44:06.640 --> 0:44:08.680
<v Speaker 2>of her picking up the kids and doing activity so

0:44:08.800 --> 0:44:12.719
<v Speaker 2>the kids have something that feels a little consistent. Just

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<v Speaker 2>if they end up do getting divorced. I think the

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<v Speaker 2>consistency in that friendship.

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<v Speaker 1>It would be hard for me to let my kids, though,

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<v Speaker 1>go over there if I don't trust him.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I mean like they could get maybe like an

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<v Speaker 2>off property, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Like I would still offer to take the kids,

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<v Speaker 1>but if he's doing this in my marriage, I'd have

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<v Speaker 1>a really hard time then.

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<v Speaker 2>Just protect the kids always.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that you have to let that friend

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<v Speaker 1>know how much you love them, but because of that,

0:44:39.640 --> 0:44:41.440
<v Speaker 1>you have to step away until she can.

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<v Speaker 2>Because that does make it to your own marriage too,

0:44:44.520 --> 0:44:45.920
<v Speaker 2>you know, like the stress of all you got to

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<v Speaker 2>protect yourself, energy and all that. Yeah, it's a lot,

0:44:49.560 --> 0:44:51.080
<v Speaker 2>and yeah he's totally cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you imagine any of our husbands, first of all,

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<v Speaker 2>go to a bar and sitting with and talking to

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<v Speaker 2>a girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Like what again, take what information you know? And are

0:45:02.160 --> 0:45:05.359
<v Speaker 1>you okay with that? Very little information? I mean might

0:45:05.400 --> 0:45:07.040
<v Speaker 1>not be able to prove more, But do you have

0:45:07.080 --> 0:45:09.279
<v Speaker 1>one I'm going to a bar sitting super friendly with

0:45:09.360 --> 0:45:10.760
<v Speaker 1>a woman anyway.

0:45:10.920 --> 0:45:13.080
<v Speaker 2>No, No, that's the whole thing. Like it's like what's

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<v Speaker 2>tolerated is still inappropriate.

0:45:14.920 --> 0:45:18.520
<v Speaker 1>I know, and they will always convince them. But oh,

0:45:18.600 --> 0:45:20.640
<v Speaker 1>I was just talking to her right on today.

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<v Speaker 2>Why, Well, it drives me insane because they're just that

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<v Speaker 2>way and they always stay that way, even after they

0:45:27.640 --> 0:45:31.040
<v Speaker 2>make their mistakes with their other partners, they continue to

0:45:31.160 --> 0:45:34.680
<v Speaker 2>do the same. Oh the webs we weave. Yeah so,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm sorry that's sucks. That does. Friend Wise, I

0:45:37.239 --> 0:45:40.279
<v Speaker 2>agree with both the girls are saying, text your friend,

0:45:40.600 --> 0:45:43.560
<v Speaker 2>say that, try to somehow keep the kids close if possible.

0:45:43.760 --> 0:45:47.160
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't have my kids over there, but yeah, drop

0:45:47.239 --> 0:45:51.000
<v Speaker 2>off whatever your house. And yeah, I'm sorry that is hard,

0:45:51.040 --> 0:45:54.080
<v Speaker 2>but to yeah, protect yourself, protect your marriage, and hopefully

0:45:54.200 --> 0:45:59.920
<v Speaker 2>she'll see the light because he's clearly not faithful. Yeah. Yeah, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>ladies were oot oh gosh, and word, I love you.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye bye