Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the
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Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's.
Speaker 3: My name is Amanda. I want to say I love
Speaker 3: this podcast. I went back to listen to all episodes
Speaker 3: and I am honestly obsessed. Any who question is. In
Speaker 3: one of your episodes, you mentioned you recently bought your
Speaker 3: own home. Congrats. I want to know where I should start.
Speaker 3: I don't know if I should maybe go see a
Speaker 3: realtor if I should go to the bank and maybe
Speaker 3: see about alone. How much I qualify. My credit is perfect,
Speaker 3: that's not an issue, but when it comes to buying
Speaker 3: a home, I have nowhere to start. If you can,
Speaker 3: please answer me questioned and let me know how you
Speaker 3: started this whole process. I would really appreciate it. Love
Speaker 3: you bye, Amanda.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for being a Cheeky's and Chill fan.
Speaker 1: We are so excited to have you. Thank you, thank
Speaker 1: you for the feedback. It means a lot in regards
Speaker 1: to your question. Okay, so the first thing the fact
Speaker 1: that you have good credit. Girl, You're in So many
Speaker 1: people do not understand the fact that having good credit
Speaker 1: is even better than having millions of dollars in your
Speaker 1: bank account, because it doesn't matter if you have millions
Speaker 1: of dollars. If your credit isn't on point, your fical
Speaker 1: score isn't high the bank, no one's going to trust
Speaker 1: you with a home with their kind of line. No,
Speaker 1: this person isn't responsible. That's what our credit score is.
Speaker 1: You guys, that's a whole other episode. But that is awesome. Now,
Speaker 1: the first step would be finding a realtor, finding a
Speaker 1: good realtor in your area, and then they can help
Speaker 1: you find a broker and if you need a loan,
Speaker 1: then they have different banks or a broker can help
Speaker 1: you get a loan from a bank. So first step
Speaker 1: is finding a realtor, letting them know what you're looking for,
Speaker 1: your budget. They'll help you depending on how much money
Speaker 1: you make. They'll tell you, Okay, you can buy a
Speaker 1: house in this range, so on and so forth. So, Amanda,
Speaker 1: I think that's awesome that you want to purchase your
Speaker 1: own home. That's great, and yeah, I'm wishing you the best.
Speaker 1: So hopefully my advice helps. So find yourself a realtor, okay,
Speaker 1: and they will guide you. And good job on having
Speaker 1: good credit. That is so sexy girl. Okay, looks like
Speaker 1: Alejandra is up next. I wonder what her question is.
Speaker 1: Let's sear it.
Speaker 2: Hello, Chicky's first of all, girl, it was nice seeing
Speaker 2: you at the Spool Latina Summit last year. Hopefully you
Speaker 2: come back to Houston very soon. We want to get
Speaker 2: drunk anyway. So I had a best friend for so
Speaker 2: many years. We fell apart after I got married and
Speaker 2: started having kids. We kind of no longer shared, you know,
Speaker 2: the same things, and we fell apart and we never
Speaker 2: had like a closure. Recently, I saw that her uncle
Speaker 2: had passed away, and the way it happened it was
Speaker 2: very tragic. So I prayed about it and I reached
Speaker 2: out to her, and whenever I saw the message, she
Speaker 2: read it and she blocked me, and it made me
Speaker 2: wonder like, what did I do wrong? You know, like
Speaker 2: I just started life and I needed to happen. But
Speaker 2: I also find out that she's lesbian and I never
Speaker 2: knew that, So now it makes me wonder like was
Speaker 2: she in love with me? Or what is it that
Speaker 2: I did? And you know, my question is like, how
Speaker 2: do you just get your own closure since I can
Speaker 2: really get it from her? You know, well, thank you
Speaker 2: so much for listening.
Speaker 1: Alejandrasa Aluito's all the way to Age Town. I love
Speaker 1: it over there, such a good time. AnyWho, I completely
Speaker 1: understand what we're talking about. Alei. It kind of happened
Speaker 1: to me, so I get it. Sometimes it's better not
Speaker 1: to know the answer. Sometimes it's just better to say, well,
Speaker 1: this person was meant to be in my life during
Speaker 1: this time of my life, and now moving forward, maybe
Speaker 1: she's not and perhaps she was in love with you,
Speaker 1: and I'm sure you're an amazing person, so I don't
Speaker 1: blame her, and there's nothing wrong with that. I think
Speaker 1: maybe she also feels like she's in a different season
Speaker 1: of her life as well, and I don't think it's embarrassment,
Speaker 1: but maybe she kind of wants to get away from
Speaker 1: her old life. Perhaps I don't know. I mean, we're
Speaker 1: never going to know exactly what it is. But I
Speaker 1: think as long as you know I was a good friend,
Speaker 1: I didn't do anything wrong. And if she blocked you,
Speaker 1: then she's certainly not ready to have that conversation with you,
Speaker 1: and that's okay too. You kind of have to just
Speaker 1: respect that. And I think you did really well with
Speaker 1: sending her a message and saying, hey, I hope everything's okay,
Speaker 1: like checking in on her. I think that shows a
Speaker 1: lot about who you are. So just respect the fact
Speaker 1: that she right now doesn't feel like talking, and you
Speaker 1: just have to be at peace with who you are
Speaker 1: and the friend that you were to her, and you
Speaker 1: know that you didn't do anything wrong and you just
Speaker 1: wanted to start your life, and that's okay. I mean,
Speaker 1: just wish her the best and maybe always in your heart, no, okay,
Speaker 1: if she ever wants to come and talk to me,
Speaker 1: then my doors, the doors to my heart, the doors
Speaker 1: to my home will always be open. But I think
Speaker 1: you're good. I think you're good. I think it's more
Speaker 1: on like what she's feeling and what she's going through,
Speaker 1: so don't take it personally. Okay. Hope that that helped. Okay,
Speaker 1: now let's hear from Sabrina.
Speaker 4: Hi, Cheekiese. I just want to say, first and foremost,
Speaker 4: thank you for all that you do. You are super
Speaker 4: inspiring and I love you. You have a very big
Speaker 4: fan here. But I just wanted advice because I'm torn
Speaker 4: in between two things. I would really like to become
Speaker 4: an actor. It's always been my dream since I was
Speaker 4: a little girl. I remember like being a little girl
Speaker 4: and I wrote like at school they asked like what
Speaker 4: you wanted as a career, and I wrote an actress.
Speaker 4: And I would at least like to die knowing that
Speaker 4: I at least tried to become an actor. But my
Speaker 4: father saysn't very inconsistent, and I agree. I'm very uncommitted,
Speaker 4: like I like to back out on things, and I
Speaker 4: can be very flaky, and that is one quality I
Speaker 4: hate about myself. So I've I've been thinking about the
Speaker 4: Marines as well, because I feel like I can be
Speaker 4: taught skills for life, especially like my inconsistency. So yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm really or like I don't know if I should
Speaker 4: get started on trying to become an actress sor if
Speaker 4: I should take the step into going into the Marines
Speaker 4: so that I can really grow myself. And I think
Speaker 4: them going into the Marines would help.
Speaker 5: Thank you, Sabrina.
Speaker 1: You sound very mature. I wish I knew how old
Speaker 1: you were. But the fact that you are vulnerable enough
Speaker 1: to say that out loud, the things that you don't
Speaker 1: like about yourself or that you want to work on,
Speaker 1: that's awesome, Mama. That's powerful, and that's good that you
Speaker 1: were aware of it and that you accept it, because
Speaker 1: that's the only way that you're going to actually make
Speaker 1: a change now. I think going into the Marines is
Speaker 1: very honorable and you are servicing us all so the
Speaker 1: fact that you're just thinking about that, thank you. Definitely.
Speaker 1: In anything that you want to do, it doesn't matter
Speaker 1: what it is. I can't say it enough. Discipline and
Speaker 1: routine are huge, and when it comes to acting, it's
Speaker 1: even more so because you need to be focused, you
Speaker 1: need to learn your lines like it's a hard job.
Speaker 1: But I think absolutely you're absolutely right. You need to
Speaker 1: try it for sure, take the risk, and I'm always
Speaker 1: that person that says I'd rather try it and fail
Speaker 1: at it than to live my life and know that
Speaker 1: I never did it because I was afraid, because I
Speaker 1: didn't believe in myself, so on and so forth. Now,
Speaker 1: going back to the Marines, they will definitely teach you
Speaker 1: discipline like big time. So if you feel that right
Speaker 1: now you sound young to me, I don't know, But
Speaker 1: if you have that time and you are considering going
Speaker 1: into the Marines, I wouldn't say not to do it.
Speaker 1: I think it would be a good thing. Especially the Marines.
Speaker 1: They teach you, like I said, routine discipline, you have
Speaker 1: to wake up early, like that's huge. And then maybe
Speaker 1: you can still take classes now even on YouTube, and
Speaker 1: I'm telling you YouTube, we could do everything on YouTube,
Speaker 1: even on TikTok. So while you're at the Marines, you
Speaker 1: can still learn certain traits and certain things in regards
Speaker 1: to acting. But I think they're both great and I
Speaker 1: support you either way. You go, just do it and
Speaker 1: just try it, Okay, Sabrina, thank you for your question,
Speaker 1: sending you a big big hug. All right, looks like
Speaker 1: our final question comes from.
Speaker 5: Claudia hi Chiki's I am a huge fan of yours.
Speaker 5: I recently became a fan of your mama's and then
Speaker 5: subsequently became a fan of yours. I want to thank
Speaker 5: you first and foremost for sharing your light with the
Speaker 5: world and all your goodness. You have inspired me in
Speaker 5: so many ways. You inspired me to start going to therapy,
Speaker 5: and in a recent session with my therapist, she pointed
Speaker 5: out to me that worrying is not caring about people.
Speaker 5: Worrying is my anxiety. So I was wondering what kind
Speaker 5: of advice you can give me for caring for people
Speaker 5: without worrying about them. Thank you so much again for
Speaker 5: your time, and I just wanted to also let you know.
Speaker 5: You know that saying never meet your heroes because they
Speaker 5: will disappoint you. You are the complete opposite of that.
Speaker 5: I had the privilege of meeting you at a meet
Speaker 5: and Greek that your concert in La recently. My sister
Speaker 5: surprised me with that, and you are everything and more.
Speaker 5: Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Oh Claudia, You're gonna make me cry. Thank you, Oh
Speaker 1: my god, thank you. Welcome to the family. I know
Speaker 1: you just said that you recently became a fan of
Speaker 1: my mom's and of mine, and thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Thank you for going to my concert. Tell your friend
Speaker 1: I said, thank you for taking you. That means a lot.
Speaker 1: Oh my God, you made my heart feel off, fuzzy
Speaker 1: and warm inside. So in regards to your question, I
Speaker 1: have been a worry bug since forever, and I've learned,
Speaker 1: I think, in the past few years not to worry.
Speaker 1: Like your therapist said, worrying is worrying about something that
Speaker 1: hasn't even happened. That's what causes anxiety, you know, So
Speaker 1: I totally get you. I'm the one that worries about
Speaker 1: my sisters and my all my siblings and their kids
Speaker 1: and what if like they're not watching them. It's all
Speaker 1: these thoughts that we create in our mind that don't
Speaker 1: haven't even happened, that don't even exist. So I think
Speaker 1: what has helped me is leaving them in God's hands,
Speaker 1: Like I'm like, God, please take care of my siblings,
Speaker 1: take care of their and their homes while they're driving. Lord,
Speaker 1: take care of them, like I leave them in your hands,
Speaker 1: like literally saying it out loud and envisioning, like I'm
Speaker 1: putting the people that I'm worrying about in your hands,
Speaker 1: and it just takes this weight off your shoulders. And
Speaker 1: you feel like, ah, like there's nothing we can do
Speaker 1: about it. It's just trusting life and trusting destiny and
Speaker 1: the universe and of course God, as simple as that. Like, honestly,
Speaker 1: that's what has helped me. And even at night when
Speaker 1: I'm worrying about like one of my brothers, he's out
Speaker 1: and he's drinking, and I'm like, I always tell him,
Speaker 1: don't drink and drive, and he won't, but I'm like,
Speaker 1: what if he gets like crazy? And all I got
Speaker 1: to do is send a text, Hey, don't drink and drive.
Speaker 1: I love you, be careful. That's it. And I'm like, God,
Speaker 1: he's in your hands, and it helps me so much
Speaker 1: just saying that. So Claudia, I hope that helps. And honestly,
Speaker 1: worry brings so much sickness to our mind, to our soul.
Speaker 1: So I know it's a lot easier said than done,
Speaker 1: but you just got to shake it off. Literally, just
Speaker 1: shake that shit off. Oh no, we got this, okay.
Speaker 1: So thank you, Thank you guys, Amanda, Alejandra, Sabrina, and Claudia.
Speaker 1: I love hearing each and every one of your voices
Speaker 1: and I love helping you sort through your issues. I
Speaker 1: really do feel like I'm your big sister or best friend.
Speaker 1: So thank you guys. Now you can leave a voice
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