Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to not quit something by accident. If
Speaker 1: you've decided to stop working toward a goal, that is fine,
Speaker 1: but be honest about it and see what you can
Speaker 1: learn from the experience. Many people make New Year's resolutions.
Speaker 1: We start out the year with vim and vigor, and
Speaker 1: then at some point many people stop pursuing their goals
Speaker 1: or keeping up with their new habits. What often happens
Speaker 1: is that something changes the new routine. Someone gets sick,
Speaker 1: work gets busy, or maybe new COVID restrictions make an
Speaker 1: original resolution like going to the gym harder to pursue
Speaker 1: in that form. In any case, people don't do something
Speaker 1: for a few days and then it gets harder to
Speaker 1: start up again. There was no actual decision to quit.
Speaker 1: It just happens. But it doesn't have to just happen.
Speaker 1: I am not saying all goals need to continue indefinitely.
Speaker 1: I have stopped doing plenty of things in my life,
Speaker 1: but I think it's good to acknowledge what is happening
Speaker 1: and why it is happening, so we can learn important
Speaker 1: lessons that will help us with future goals. For instance,
Speaker 1: maybe you thought you would wake up at six am
Speaker 1: to exercise every morning, and then you don't. Why Well,
Speaker 1: I can think of several reasons. First, does every morning
Speaker 1: really means seven mornings a week? Even pretty committed exercisers
Speaker 1: seldom do that. Maybe a more reasonable goal would have
Speaker 1: been three week day mornings at six am and one
Speaker 1: weekend day with no particular time goal on that one.
Speaker 1: That would have allowed for the occasional oversleeping or grace
Speaker 1: for when it was a later night. Or maybe you
Speaker 1: set a goal to lose ten pounds. I am not
Speaker 1: a big fan of that type of goal, but plenty
Speaker 1: of people do set these type of goals, and two
Speaker 1: weeks into the year, maybe the scale hasn't budged, so
Speaker 1: you feel discouraged and just stop trying. But maybe it
Speaker 1: would have been better to focus on process goals forget
Speaker 1: the scale. Instead, you choose to limit beverages with calories,
Speaker 1: eat vegetables with lunch and dinner, in aim for ten
Speaker 1: thousand steps a day on at least five days of
Speaker 1: the week. Now there is a reasonable chance that those
Speaker 1: steps will lead to losing ten pounds. Over time, but
Speaker 1: even if they don't, you'll be a lot healthier. Recognizing
Speaker 1: why the goal felt discouraging will lead to smarter goals
Speaker 1: in the future. Or maybe you realize that you just
Speaker 1: don't feel motivated. You plan to read more and you're
Speaker 1: not reading more. There are lots of questions to ask
Speaker 1: before you just feel bad every time you look at
Speaker 1: your short list of books read. Maybe reading isn't a
Speaker 1: priority for you right now, and that's fine. Things that
Speaker 1: other people value don't need to be things that you value.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's a better goal for a later time in
Speaker 1: life when you have fewer other commitments. It's good to
Speaker 1: be reasonable. Or maybe you just need something different to
Speaker 1: motivate you. A competition with your brother over who could
Speaker 1: read more this year might be just the thing, or
Speaker 1: joining a book club or some other external motivator. We
Speaker 1: all respond to different incentives. In any case, When you
Speaker 1: find yourself rolling toward quitting, pause and ask yourself a
Speaker 1: few things. First, do you truly want to quit? If so, fine,
Speaker 1: If not, maybe you can recast the goal. Second, if
Speaker 1: you are going to quit, what can you learn from
Speaker 1: the experience that will help you set future goals? Knowing
Speaker 1: ourselves is one of the best ways to succeed at
Speaker 1: what we intend to do. If you can figure out
Speaker 1: more about yourself, you will be well positioned for the future.
Speaker 1: In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening and
Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our talk. Hey, everybody,
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