WEBVTT - Summer Break: Tony Robbins 0:00:01.680 --> 0:00:05.000 Hi Brian, Hi Katie, and hello everyone out there in 0:00:05.120 --> 0:00:08.960 podcast land. So, Brian, guess how I started my morning? Uh? 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:13.360 The usual pilates and a Hi Colonic, and I didn't 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:17.680 take an Instagram picture of my breakfast smoothie. I'm obsessed 0:00:17.680 --> 0:00:20.919 with stories, though, but I decided to change it up today. 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.480 So I hopped out of bed and jumped into an 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:26.440 ice cold plunge pool. I find that a little hard 0:00:26.480 --> 0:00:29.680 to play. I'm a different woman altogether. Actually I didn't 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:32.120 do this listeners, But you know who does jump into 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:35.479 ice cold water every single morning? Well? He told us 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:38.720 our guest, Tony Robin. That's right. He starts every day 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:41.360 with a literal splash. It's part of his strict morning 0:00:41.440 --> 0:00:44.840 routine and he swears by it. Yeah, I'm not so surprised. 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:47.519 I mean, Tony, If I'm a man, Tony is like 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:50.760 ten times a man. He's a superman, and he's also 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:53.160 kind of what i'd call a force of nature. He's 0:00:53.159 --> 0:00:56.040 certainly a go go go kind of guy for sure. 0:00:56.120 --> 0:00:59.720 Not only is he a best selling author, motivational speaker, entrepreneur, 0:00:59.840 --> 0:01:04.600 and philanthropist, he's also coached CEO celebrities like Richard Branson, 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:07.520 and Serena Williams, and even presidents of the United States. 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:10.240 In fact, in our conversation with Tony, we talked about 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:12.399 his work with President Clinton at the height of his 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:15.800 impeachment scandal. Has a reminder. This month, we're on a 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.680 little summer break, so we're revisiting some of our favorite 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:23.720 conversations from the podcast Vaults, very heavily guarded vaults. Anyway, 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:26.880 our conversation with Tony was one of our most popular 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:29.720 episodes ever, and I'm really not surprised because he's a 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:33.959 captivating speaker. People flocked by the thousands and thousands to 0:01:34.080 --> 0:01:36.520 listen to his seminars. By the way, Tony is a 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:39.959 very enthusiastic guy, so if you hear a sound, you're 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:43.920 not crazy. Those are Tony's hands slamming the table for 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:46.959 emphasis with the force that I couldn't muster if I tried. 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:50.080 And those are some big hands that Tony Robbins has. 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:55.080 But that's another subject there. I asked Tony to describe 0:01:55.120 --> 0:02:02.080 himself in his own words. I'm a you know, I'm 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:04.760 a peak performance coach. I'm a consultant for people, but 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:07.400 you know, I'm also an entrepreneur and philanthropist. You know, 0:02:07.560 --> 0:02:10.720 big part of my life today is besides helping people 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:12.560 and events and things of that nature, I have thirty 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:16.480 one companies, so they're in very different industries. You know, 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:19.320 I'm everything from I have a unique opportunity to do 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:21.880 some some of the best stem cell work in the world. 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:25.359 While simultaneously we've got virtual reality, the exclusive with the NBA, 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:27.240 so you know, you see Monday Night Football, We're having 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:29.799 Tuesday Night NBA. We have the exclusive with Live Nation, 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:32.680 so we have I have about twelve hundred employees across 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.560 four continents. We do five billion in sales each year. 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:37.400 And then I have my day job, which is about 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:40.119 of my time because I love it so much, which 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:43.399 is helping people improve their lives. And then philanthropy wise, 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:45.799 you know, I'm feeding a hundred million people a year now. 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:47.160 I've done that for two years in a row. I'm 0:02:47.160 --> 0:02:49.160 gonna feed a billion people over the next eight years 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:51.120 and it's not gonna I'm such a good guy. It's 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:53.280 just when I was eleven years old, we had no 0:02:53.360 --> 0:02:56.000 money and no food on Thanksgiving and a man came 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:58.480 to the door and delivered food and my father did 0:02:58.480 --> 0:03:00.480 not respond well to it, but I did my Dad 0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:02.720 always said, strangers don't care. And I think the biggest 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:05.240 impact for me was not just that there was food, 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:07.560 but the fact that I had evidence of strangers cared 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:09.760 about my family and made me. It shifted me to 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:12.880 really care about strangers. So I promised myself I'd feed people, 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:15.200 and I got to seventeen. I've had two families in 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:17.280 the next year, four and eventually got to a million, 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:19.200 two million, And I've had four million people a year 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.799 for about eight years, and then two million myself and 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:24.120 two millions through my foundation. Because I thought I had 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:26.320 forty two million in a lifetime. What if I had 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:29.040 fifty million this year? And then I got excited, made 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:30.960 a hundred million, and I got Feeding America to be 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:34.000 my partner, and they deliver. I mean, their efficiency is amazing. 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:36.440 So we've partnered, so we're gonna feed a billion people, 0:03:36.560 --> 0:03:39.640 and then the numbers were getting should provide an ongoing 0:03:39.720 --> 0:03:42.280 hundred million new meals per year ongoing from there on. 0:03:42.360 --> 0:03:44.560 Can I just say I give up? I feel so 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:49.680 lazy and useless after just hearing that, I think we 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:56.440 should just Wow, this is really impressive. Now, you talked 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:59.360 about growing up in a tough environment and you did. 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:01.520 Your dad left, as I understand, when you were very 0:04:01.840 --> 0:04:04.560 had four fathers, Yes, they all left. Your mom was 0:04:04.640 --> 0:04:07.200 quite abusive. In fact, you left home when you were 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:09.840 seventeen when your mom came after you with a knife. 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:13.760 Can you describe how that upbringing kind of shaped the 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:16.400 man you've become since then? I never talked about my 0:04:16.400 --> 0:04:18.279 mom when she's alive. I didn't, you know. I still 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:20.640 love her to this day. She she had been the 0:04:20.680 --> 0:04:22.240 mother that I wanted her to be, I wouldn't be 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:25.039 the man I'm proud to be because the fact that 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:27.400 I suffered so much, I mean she would. She was 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:30.960 addicted to you know, prescription drugs and alcohol, and the 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:33.400 mixed is not a good mix. And she got very violent. 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:35.200 And I have a younger brother and younger sister five 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:37.880 and seven years younger. So for me, I had to 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:40.920 become a practical psychologist just to figure out to keep 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:43.560 her in control, not hurt them much less hurt me. 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:46.480 And so I really really grew as a result of that. 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:48.279 I mean, I have suffered so much that I don't 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:50.480 want to see any human suffer. And I became obsessed 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:53.560 with finding answers to how to help people and their suffering, 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:55.400 how to have them have the beauty that they want 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:57.760 for their life. And it just turned into a forty 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:00.679 year enterprise. Uh, you know, and I've had the privilege 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:02.800 of living in a time where you know, I go 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:05.080 to twelve thirteen countries a year, I see a quarter 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:07.719 of a million people live. I mean, you couldn't have 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:10.120 done that, you know, fifty years ago, you know, Tony, 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:12.920 you know, I think that kind of childhood experience would 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:17.720 have destroyed so many people. What was it about you 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:22.160 and about sort of your psyche, your constitution, your outlook 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:25.320 on life that you were able to turn it into 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:28.520 something so positive. I'm sure you've examined that. I have. 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:31.800 I think that what saved me was reading my I 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:34.839 early in my life I got exposed to personal improvement 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:38.000 and personal development, and I took a speed reading class, 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:39.720 and I promised myself I'd read a book of dad 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:41.800 and do that. But I read seven hundred books in 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:45.960 seven years and they're all psychology, physiology, anything that could 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:48.200 improve the quality of life. And so because I was 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:51.200 feeding my mind so much, I think that really gave it. 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:53.680 The other part was I just love people, and so 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:56.120 you know, I love my brother and sister. To start with, 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:57.320 I just want to help them. But by the time 0:05:57.360 --> 0:05:58.680 I was in high school, I would I had so 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:00.719 many answers. I was, Mr Lucian, you have a problem, 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:03.200 especially if you're a girl. I was highly to help 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:06.880 you get over that stupid boy in your life. Either 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:10.120 you were. I have such strong memories as a kid 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:13.840 watching your infomercials on TV. That's how I first got 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:16.680 introduced to you. That's Brian's way of reminding us how 0:06:16.720 --> 0:06:19.839 young he is. I'm not so young. I'm practically middle 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:23.919 aged now, but practically but but the point is, I 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:26.400 think a lot of people who may have gotten introduced 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:29.400 to you that way don't know that you've become this 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:34.040 advisor to CEOs like Mark Bennie Off and Paul Tutor Jones, 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:38.039 that you've advised Richard Branson, Steve Wins, Serena Williams, pat 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:41.600 Riley on and on. How is your career kind of 0:06:41.680 --> 0:06:47.880 gone from you know, TV self improvement guru to advisor 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:51.320 to the CEO stars. Well, I was always even early 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:53.159 my life. Quite frankly, I was a young kid, but 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:56.679 I had unique insights because I had loaded my brain. 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:58.359 You know, I'd gone for so many answers that I 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:00.880 had them. I didn't have all the life experience yet, 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:04.120 but I had this incredible passion to help people, and 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.560 so it allowed me at early age, I was turning around. 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:08.920 You know, when I was gosh hose, I was twenty 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:12.240 let's say the eighteen nineteen nineteen, twenty years old. I 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:15.040 was turning around Olympic athletes. Twenty four. I turned around 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:17.080 Andrea Agassi when he'd been number one and dropped to 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:18.600 twenty nine, and got him back to number one, and 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:21.560 he gave me enormous credit. Maybe too much, maybe not, 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:25.480 but I helped him turn around either, I'm grateful. And 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:27.320 then you know when I got to the President Clinton 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:30.040 at that stage, and mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela at 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:32.720 the game. Yeah, no, I have a name dropping because 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:36.360 they were just incredible human beings that I got the 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:39.200 privilege to coach. I was pinching myself, but I also 0:07:39.320 --> 0:07:41.560 wasn't stupid enough to only coach them. I was learning 0:07:41.560 --> 0:07:44.200 from them. So for forty years I've not just been 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:46.720 coaching others thinking I got all the answers. I've been 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:49.200 sucking the juice out of the brains of the smartest 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:51.360 people I can find and most heartfelt people I could 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:53.240 find doing the same thing I did with the financial 0:07:53.280 --> 0:07:55.160 And I said, if I want to, really, I've taught 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:57.720 this for years, but I was so angry what happened 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:59.320 in two thousand eight and that no one paid a 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:01.960 price for it that by I said, I got to 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:04.360 use my skill. I've got. I have this unique gift 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:06.720 I've coached Paul Tutor Jones for at that point, I 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:08.760 think twenty years and twenty four years and now one 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:11.680 of the leading investment managers. When to uv A with me? 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:15.960 And I asked him after many years after we graduated, Hey, Paul, 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.320 where were you when I was at u v A thinking, 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:19.960 you know, that would have been a nice person to 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:22.080 hook up with it you know what I'm saying. And 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:25.400 he said, he said to me, I was probably drunk, 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:28.000 And I said, no, wonder we didn't meet. But anyway, 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:31.080 continue well, Paul, as you know, as a gift to 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:32.880 this country and a gift to the city for sure. 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:34.719 With Robin Hood and albody's done. And I've learned so 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.160 much from him. But but that's really what I've tried 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:39.000 to do along the way, as I've tried to learn 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.839 by other people's experiences because you know, in business, other 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:44.839 people's money is leverage. I think what's much more valuable 0:08:44.880 --> 0:08:46.840 in other people's money is other people's experience. When that 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:50.240 other person's experiences dynamic and extraordinary, you know, it's wild. 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:54.280 So really, in helping them, they're helping you. They all 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:56.760 tell about Tony changed my life, saved my life. You know, 0:08:56.960 --> 0:08:58.720 you bring Mark any off some of my dearest friends. 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:01.000 And I can remember Mark coming up to me after 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:03.160 attending three seminars. Are aw, he's hard to miss. He's 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:05.319 standing in the front row. He's as big as I am. Right, 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:07.120 he comes up and shakes my hand. He goes, this 0:09:07.120 --> 0:09:09.679 is my third seminar. I said, yeah, I know, he says. 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:12.040 He goes, you just convinced me. You finally pushed me 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:14.360 off the edge. He he says, I'm I'm leaving my 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:17.080 job and I'm gonna start this new company called Salesforce 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:19.040 dot com, and we're gonna change the business world, and 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:20.760 you're gonna remember, and you're gonna come on the journey 0:09:20.760 --> 0:09:22.520 with me. And he goes, and I'll everybody he looked 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:24.319 at me. He goes, Mark my words, we're gonna do 0:09:24.360 --> 0:09:26.800 a hundred million dollars in business. Of course it's gonna 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.560 do ten billion this year, right, So it's just a 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:33.080 fun journey to see. But he says, if this is 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:35.640 my favorite quote because it certainly serves me, goes around 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:38.240 and tells everybody Salesforce wouldn't exist if it wasn't for 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:40.600 Tony Robbins. That's bullshit. But I really like that he 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:42.920 sets it. But I think what people may have trouble 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:46.440 understanding is, you know, you're sitting down with President Bill 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:49.640 Clinton during the height or the depths of the Lewinsky scandal, 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:52.839 and he's looking to you for advice. What can you 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:57.199 tell him that he doesn't already know the truth? Um, 0:09:57.240 --> 0:09:58.600 I was with Peter Goober. I don't know if you 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:01.600 know Peter owns the Udgers and the Golden State Warriors 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:07.640 and a dear friend. No, but his partner dated confused 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:09.280 the two. We don't want to spread that rumor you 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:11.560 can get in trouble his wife. But I was at 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:13.679 Peter's house that was you spend every Christmas with him 0:10:13.800 --> 0:10:16.200 and askemen. And he calls me and says, presidents on 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:18.000 the line. So what So I got a line? The 0:10:18.040 --> 0:10:20.240 President said, you know, I've had ten people tell me 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:22.080 that right now I'm going through a tough time, you're 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.439 the right guy. Would you come to Camp David and 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:26.040 spend the weekend and talk with me? And I said, 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:27.320 I can't come for the weekend and come for the 0:10:27.360 --> 0:10:29.480 day because this holiday I gotta be with my family. 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:30.920 But I said, I just want you to know I'm 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:34.600 not a fan. And Peter, I'll never get Peter's face. 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:37.120 I said, I'm completely respectful. It would be a privilege 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:38.680 to serve you. But if you're looking for someone who's 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:39.880 going to tell you what you want to hear, I'm 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:42.400 the wrong guy. And there's a long pause, and then 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:45.240 President Clinton said, I like that. I'm looking for something. 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:47.600 I'm not looking to be told what I believe. I said, great, 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:49.439 then I'm happy to come. I have the phone. And 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:50.920 Peter said, you just told the President of State you're 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:52.480 not his fan. Have to invite you come? What the 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:54.559 how's the matter with you? You know? So I went 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:57.200 met the President and developed a real great friendship. But 0:10:57.240 --> 0:10:59.560 I can remember after the Blue Dress, we were an 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:02.000 aspen together and going down the Red Mountain if you 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:04.000 know that area, you know, and it's snowy and there's 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:06.680 it's surreal. You know, the President's motorcade in the middle 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:09.280 of the night, going down this icy mountaintop and he 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.360 said to me, goes, he said, you know, god, I'd 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:13.120 run again if I could. And I was like, dude, 0:11:13.120 --> 0:11:14.440 if I were you, I'd get the hell out of 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.280 dodge us teasing him, and he goes, no, Tony, what 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:18.960 am I gonna do with the rest of my life? 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:21.120 I'm fifty or fifty one whatever he was at the time, 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:23.719 and h it's kind of crazy now because I just 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:26.079 saw him last weekend and just to see what he's 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:28.559 done with his life. I know he's obviously massively disappointed 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:30.600 what happened in the election, but to see what he's 0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:34.600 done out of office is truly inspiring. It's inspiring that 0:11:34.640 --> 0:11:36.600 you can't imagine. But to address what you said, I 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:38.720 was thirty one and I'm advising the President United States. 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:40.920 It's kind of trippy. I'm you know, a deer went 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:42.720 running by. It's in the middle of the snow, and 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:45.040 the President's telling me how bad the media is. It's 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:46.640 so funny. You see him telling me at that time 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:48.880 and they don't listen, and you know, he's the first 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:52.000 president that doesn't have an external enemy, so now everybody's 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:54.679 turning internally, was his view. I remember thinking, this guy's 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:57.800 president United States and he's whining, and it's like, I 0:11:57.840 --> 0:11:59.559 guess we all whine at times. And I got to 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:01.040 figure out what to do to help this man and 0:12:02.160 --> 0:12:04.200 term relationship. Well. I don't talk about what I do 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:06.280 with people unless they talk about it publicly. Something I 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:07.800 can tell you is one day, one of the more 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:10.400 interesting calls I got can call me. One day I 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:13.640 was at my office, people paid me and I get 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:15.280 him the phone and he says, they're gonna impeach me 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:18.800 in the morning. What should I do? And I'm like, first, 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:21.880 could you have called me sooner? Yes, tomorrow morning, right? 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:24.280 And I said, that's the wrong question. And the question 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:26.040 you got to ask is what do you really want? 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:28.560 Because what to do is based on the outcome you're after. 0:12:28.679 --> 0:12:30.400 If you want to stay in office, do nothing because 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:33.280 the Senate's not gonna impeach you. Easy for me to say, 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:35.120 I'm not the president under pressure, but you know as 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:37.120 well as I do, they're not gonna teach you. I said, 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:38.920 so you can do nothing if you want to be 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:44.280 respected then by American people, by children, by parents. Then 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:45.880 I said, I know you're not gonna put yourself You're 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:47.439 a lawyer, You're not gonna put yourself in jail. But 0:12:47.480 --> 0:12:50.400 you've got to communicate with more clarity about what's really 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.400 going on and take responsibility for the things that were 0:12:52.400 --> 0:12:54.959 a mess up. And I had this moment where he said, 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:57.760 you're so right, You're so right. So I'm so glad 0:12:57.800 --> 0:12:59.560 I called you, So I'll call you back. I'm gonna 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:02.240 call you back in forty five minutes, and I thought, 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:04.560 holy shit, I'd influenced the president move in the right direction, 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:06.920 right what I could ser the right direction. And then 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:09.200 his secretary called me about thirty minutes later. He's still 0:13:09.400 --> 0:13:11.240 with the group, but he wants to know he's focused 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:13.120 on it. In about three hours called at a time 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:15.119 at four hours later, he was stadding, with all the Democrats, 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:16.880 you know, and they're saying, you know, this is all 0:13:16.920 --> 0:13:18.960 bullshit and we're going to fight this thing. But so 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:20.920 I've had some wild rides. I've had a chance to 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:23.640 sit down with Mr Gorbachoff, you know, right after you know, 0:13:23.720 --> 0:13:25.560 he was taken out of office, and spend time and 0:13:25.600 --> 0:13:28.000 bring him. I've I've had a ticket to history and 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:30.600 it's been an incredible privilege and I've learned so much 0:13:30.640 --> 0:13:33.000 and I try to take that make it practical for 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:35.160 the average person so they can prove their life or 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:37.200 you know, the leader that calls when it's time to 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:40.480 inter the intervene. Just on the on the President Clinton front. 0:13:40.880 --> 0:13:43.160 You got to know Hillary Clinton well as well? Have 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:46.880 you Trump as well? Yeah, well we'll get to that 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:49.160 in a moment. But one of the things I thought 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:52.080 about was Monica Lewinsky. I saw her not long ago 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:58.480 in Los Angeles, and I always felt that she had 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:00.600 I mean, I was going to say she got the 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:02.640 short end of the stick, and then I just realized 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:08.040 that I'm sorry that I was searching. I was searching 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:14.360 Alec Baldwin and Donald Trump apression so unfairly and I, 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:19.040 you know, and and so villainized, and she was. You know, 0:14:19.080 --> 0:14:21.400 I have a daughter who's twenty one years old, Tony, 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:25.440 and I think about she, Well, you know, she's a kid, 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:28.960 she's a college girl, and I felt like she was 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:32.000 she made a mistake but also taking advantage of in 0:14:32.000 --> 0:14:35.720 a very serious way. Did you ever think about her 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:39.280 or reaching out to her? Actually, um, I've reached out 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:40.880 all the time when something there like I reached out 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:43.480 to Tiger Woods. Actually, probably a dozen people reached out 0:14:43.480 --> 0:14:45.600 for me to Tiger Woods, but he got in motors 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:47.160 like I don't want to help, and he didn't do it. 0:14:47.240 --> 0:14:49.240 So Um, as far as her, I didn't reach out 0:14:49.240 --> 0:14:52.000 her directly, but I always let people know that I'm available, 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:53.640 and I work with people on both sides of the aisle. 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:56.440 I'm an independent personally. I worked with whoever I think 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:58.840 is a great leader. Um, but you know she's the 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:00.400 kind of person if you know her and want to 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:02.320 invite her. I'm doing an event. I think she's based 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:04.320 in l A now is and she years if she 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:06.400 wants to come, I'm doing one for ten thousand people 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:08.200 in two weeks and she could come as our guests 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:09.680 and would blow her mind. I can promise you that. 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:11.080 So if she wants, if you want invite her as 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.640 my guests, will do it. But it's interesting, europe psychology expert, 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:19.040 you're clearly really great at leadership coaching, but you never 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:23.440 went to college. There's no formal training for this. You 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:25.560 said you've learned from the people with whom you've had 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:29.040 these discussions, But what do you think you offer. What 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:32.040 is the value add when somebody's sitting across the table 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:36.040 from you besides telling them the truth? Well, I'm I've 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:39.720 spent forty years now at this stage where I've gotten 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:41.520 the call and I got to produce the result. Now, 0:15:41.600 --> 0:15:44.600 Serena Williams is melting down on national television. What do 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:46.760 I do? She's gone through all these problems turn around 0:15:46.800 --> 0:15:50.200 right now? Um, you know kid is suicidal. Knock on wood. 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:53.480 I've never lost one suicide in forty years out of thousands. 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:56.440 So my whole approach has been how do I just 0:15:56.560 --> 0:15:59.680 really deliver results for people? And what every area it 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:02.320 is to be sports or would be business. And you know, 0:16:02.320 --> 0:16:04.440 I've been obsessed with finding principles that are the best 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.960 principles from find like somebody's been together twenty five years 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:10.160 and they're still passionate for each other, not just hanging out. 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:12.520 They're not lucky. They do things differently than other people. 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:14.960 If you're fit and you've stayed fit for thirty years, 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:17.920 you're not lucky. You're doing something different. If you're financially 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:20.840 set and you've started with nothing and you've built it that, 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:23.320 you're not lucky. You did something different. So I codify 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:25.280 what that difference is, but then I put it into 0:16:25.400 --> 0:16:29.560 a delivery system that's so enjoyable that you love while 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:31.600 you're learning, and so as a result, you tend to 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:33.920 really apply it because there's more emotion to it. You know, 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:36.400 information without emotions not retained. If I said, do you 0:16:36.440 --> 0:16:39.920 remember where you were on nine eleven? Everybody in this country, 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:41.680 in fact, most countries know where they were when they 0:16:41.720 --> 0:16:43.480 heard it. They can describe where they were, who was around, 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:45.520 and what they saw. But I asked you where you 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:48.680 were on eight eleven, you have no clue because information 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:51.320 without emotion is not retained. What I do is I 0:16:51.360 --> 0:16:54.680 put people in states, psychological emotional states where what they 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:57.240 learned they feel it, they embed it, they experience it, 0:16:57.280 --> 0:16:59.000 and they live it. And because they live it, they 0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:01.840 get results. And then that's grown my brand and reputation 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:04.520 for fourty years. You're also almost telepathic, you know, I 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:07.480 watched the documentary, and when you have a huge crowd 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:11.280 of people, you can almost you do feel them. You 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:15.000 can zero in on the person who really seems to 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.840 need your help. It's almost like the Long Island medium 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:22.840 was shorter nails. How you do that? How do you 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:26.199 do that, well, I'm extremely empathetic and and if you 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:29.040 know anything about the human brain, we have these things 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:31.600 called mirror neurons, whereas if you're sitting there and you 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:34.240 watch somebody going rowing by, and you keep watching them, 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:36.520 your brain will actually start to do their rowing in 0:17:36.560 --> 0:17:38.800 your nervous system, right, And the more empathetic you are, 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:41.000 the more your mirror neurons tend to turn on. So 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:44.600 mine are highly developed for forty years to enter someone's 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:47.080 world rapidly feel who they are. And then I have 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:50.560 so many you know, there's only so many patterns, right, 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:53.000 There's there's only so many ways. We're the only creatures 0:17:53.000 --> 0:17:55.879 on earth that can make ourselves angry with one thought, 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:59.760 happy with another, piste off another, excited with another. And 0:17:59.800 --> 0:18:02.200 so I've studied the system of how the brain works, 0:18:02.200 --> 0:18:05.359