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Speaker 1: hump Day Helper segment. We've got Jamie Bronstein on the line,
Speaker 1: relationship coach, author speaker, so you can text your questions
Speaker 1: to four one or two seven. Let's bring a rain, Jamie.
Speaker 1: How are you? Thanks for coming on. I am good,
Speaker 1: how are you? I'm so excited. I want to learn.
Speaker 1: I want to learn. So oh all right, so you
Speaker 1: are an author speaker named the number one relationship coach
Speaker 1: transforming lives by Yahoo Finance. Congrats, that's cool, thank you. Yes,
Speaker 1: it was very exciting, and um, I just I love
Speaker 1: helping people, so it just makes me so happy. And
Speaker 1: your new book is called Manifesting. So listen, We've got
Speaker 1: a lot of people that want answers, you know, in
Speaker 1: the relationship world, and these are text messages, so I'm
Speaker 1: looking at them. Coming now from the seven one four,
Speaker 1: Orange County says, I've been married for nineteen years. We
Speaker 1: have four kids. His sex drive hasn't slowed down, but
Speaker 1: I have no desire. Even though I love him and
Speaker 1: think he's sexy. I wish I didn't feel this way,
Speaker 1: but I don't know how to fix it. What do
Speaker 1: you think? Okay, so the great news is that you
Speaker 1: are way ahead of the gang here because most people
Speaker 1: don't um, yeah, I mean unfortunately I would say, yeah,
Speaker 1: So you've already won half the battle. So here's my advice.
Speaker 1: Want go on date nights as much as you can,
Speaker 1: because I think with COVID and everything has been a
Speaker 1: lot of swept pants and it's hard to go from
Speaker 1: sweat pants to sexy time. So go on dates. Have
Speaker 1: a new experiences, new novel experiences. When we have new experiences,
Speaker 1: our oxytocin levels rise, and that's the love hormone, and
Speaker 1: our dopening rises. And when dopamine activates, then test us
Speaker 1: their own drive sexual desires. So you want to have
Speaker 1: new experiences together, all right? From the nine oh nine high?
Speaker 1: From the I e. My husband is so insecure, constantly
Speaker 1: accusing me of cheating when all I do is stay
Speaker 1: home with our kids. What do I do? How do
Speaker 1: I fix it? That's a good question. Okay, First of all,
Speaker 1: you've done nothing wrong. Please don't feel guilty. You know,
Speaker 1: it's like, it's not me, it's you. Okay, this is
Speaker 1: not you. It's him. Okay, so communicate that it bothers.
Speaker 1: You tell him it's unattractive if you want to give
Speaker 1: him compliments to make him feel better, but also have
Speaker 1: compassion about like, get curious, why does he have these issues?
Speaker 1: I feel like they're probably unresolved issues, and therapy on
Speaker 1: a therapist. I always recommend it. Therapy can one percent
Speaker 1: help and if one is a jealous person, they can
Speaker 1: get rid of that feeling. Yes, it's only it's only
Speaker 1: an unresolved issue. So you have to look at why
Speaker 1: do I have this? Usually? I mean it's usually from
Speaker 1: past relationships. It could be from childhood. Who knows, they
Speaker 1: come from anywhere and everywhere. So whatever you can do
Speaker 1: to resolve that issue, then your relationship we'll get better.
Speaker 1: Got it? Good? Okay, one more from THEE. What are
Speaker 1: some realistic things couples with children and busy schedules can
Speaker 1: do to stay close and really have good intimacy? Okay?
Speaker 1: First of all the benefits of sex. It connects to you,
Speaker 1: It relieves stress, it boosts immune system, and it helps
Speaker 1: you to sleep. So just remember that. Because it's motivation.
Speaker 1: What I recommend schedule time. Just schedule it. You can
Speaker 1: do it. There's always time for sex, okay. And once again,
Speaker 1: you can't go from floatpants to sexy times, so you
Speaker 1: need to have that. You know, something is to look
Speaker 1: forward to, get dressed up. You can have a noon er.
Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with a nooner, a little quickie, we can
Speaker 1: see surveyor that way. Wow, Okay, keep keep going. And also,
Speaker 1: by the way, stocks in the morning, like our horble
Speaker 1: novels are like skyrocketing in the morning. So I recommend
Speaker 1: after the kids, if after the kids go to sleep
Speaker 1: at night by a lock, I'm not even kidding, get
Speaker 1: a lock for your door and have a sex at night,
Speaker 1: watch TV, start touching each other, you know what. That
Speaker 1: could leads you. And then the weekends, if the kids
Speaker 1: are old enough to tell them put the lock in
Speaker 1: the door. You can't get us until like ton thirty. Also,
Speaker 1: sexting during the day, you're never too old and you've
Speaker 1: never been with someone too long to sex during the day.
Speaker 1: It keeps the keeps the excitement up. This is good stuff. So,
Speaker 1: Jennie Bronstein, do you want to give your Instagram? Sure,
Speaker 1: it's at the relationship expert. There's no E at the
Speaker 1: beginning of expert. So it's just the relationships letter x
Speaker 1: p R. Perfect. So nice to meet you, Thank you
Speaker 1: for coming on, Thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 1: This is fun. Okay, bye bye. Wait can we go
Speaker 1: back to that Noon I can't do it and morning
Speaker 1: I can't do Morning is good is because and this
Speaker 1: is earlier on, especially during the pandemic, because that's when
Speaker 1: the twins would be napping between noon and two, and
Speaker 1: so that was literally like only alone time that we
Speaker 1: would have and also when we wouldn't be tired, because
Speaker 1: we're always tired at night. And so you have like
Speaker 1: this energy in the middle of the day and we
Speaker 1: were like, we have two hours, but are you rushed
Speaker 1: in the morning time? You're like, I'm always know, it's
Speaker 1: like a weekend thing. I was seeing the weekends. We
Speaker 1: can't come in our room at six in the morning,
Speaker 1: not give it a try afternoon to dlight. I'm not
Speaker 1: good in the daylight. Don't you have blackout curtains to
Speaker 1: put those down? I mean it's like, try morning, I
Speaker 1: think you like it really starts your you have I
Speaker 1: think a bang. I can tell you well, but all right,
Speaker 1: thank you very much for that second. If we do
Speaker 1: it once a week coming up, next, I'm gonna pay
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