WEBVTT - HUMPDAY HELPER- Jamie Bronstein

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<v Speaker 1>Britney spears, I'm a slave for you one or two

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<v Speaker 1>point seven kiss FM seacrest here. Ah. Yeah, it's our

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<v Speaker 1>hump Day Helper segment. We've got Jamie Bronstein on the line,

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<v Speaker 1>relationship coach, author speaker, so you can text your questions

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<v Speaker 1>to four one or two seven. Let's bring a rain, Jamie.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you? Thanks for coming on. I am good,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you? I'm so excited. I want to learn.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to learn. So oh all right, so you

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<v Speaker 1>are an author speaker named the number one relationship coach

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<v Speaker 1>transforming lives by Yahoo Finance. Congrats, that's cool, thank you. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it was very exciting, and um, I just I love

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<v Speaker 1>helping people, so it just makes me so happy. And

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<v Speaker 1>your new book is called Manifesting. So listen, We've got

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people that want answers, you know, in

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship world, and these are text messages, so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>looking at them. Coming now from the seven one four,

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<v Speaker 1>Orange County says, I've been married for nineteen years. We

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<v Speaker 1>have four kids. His sex drive hasn't slowed down, but

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<v Speaker 1>I have no desire. Even though I love him and

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<v Speaker 1>think he's sexy. I wish I didn't feel this way,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't know how to fix it. What do

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<v Speaker 1>you think? Okay, so the great news is that you

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<v Speaker 1>are way ahead of the gang here because most people

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<v Speaker 1>don't um, yeah, I mean unfortunately I would say, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>So you've already won half the battle. So here's my advice.

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<v Speaker 1>Want go on date nights as much as you can,

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<v Speaker 1>because I think with COVID and everything has been a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of swept pants and it's hard to go from

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<v Speaker 1>sweat pants to sexy time. So go on dates. Have

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<v Speaker 1>a new experiences, new novel experiences. When we have new experiences,

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<v Speaker 1>our oxytocin levels rise, and that's the love hormone, and

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<v Speaker 1>our dopening rises. And when dopamine activates, then test us

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<v Speaker 1>their own drive sexual desires. So you want to have

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<v Speaker 1>new experiences together, all right? From the nine oh nine high?

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<v Speaker 1>From the I e. My husband is so insecure, constantly

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<v Speaker 1>accusing me of cheating when all I do is stay

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<v Speaker 1>home with our kids. What do I do? How do

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<v Speaker 1>I fix it? That's a good question. Okay, First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>you've done nothing wrong. Please don't feel guilty. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, it's not me, it's you. Okay, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not you. It's him. Okay, so communicate that it bothers.

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<v Speaker 1>You tell him it's unattractive if you want to give

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<v Speaker 1>him compliments to make him feel better, but also have

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<v Speaker 1>compassion about like, get curious, why does he have these issues?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like they're probably unresolved issues, and therapy on

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<v Speaker 1>a therapist. I always recommend it. Therapy can one percent

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<v Speaker 1>help and if one is a jealous person, they can

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<v Speaker 1>get rid of that feeling. Yes, it's only it's only

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<v Speaker 1>an unresolved issue. So you have to look at why

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<v Speaker 1>do I have this? Usually? I mean it's usually from

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<v Speaker 1>past relationships. It could be from childhood. Who knows, they

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<v Speaker 1>come from anywhere and everywhere. So whatever you can do

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<v Speaker 1>to resolve that issue, then your relationship we'll get better.

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<v Speaker 1>Got it? Good? Okay, one more from THEE. What are

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<v Speaker 1>some realistic things couples with children and busy schedules can

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<v Speaker 1>do to stay close and really have good intimacy? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>First of all the benefits of sex. It connects to you,

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<v Speaker 1>It relieves stress, it boosts immune system, and it helps

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<v Speaker 1>you to sleep. So just remember that. Because it's motivation.

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<v Speaker 1>What I recommend schedule time. Just schedule it. You can

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<v Speaker 1>do it. There's always time for sex, okay. And once again,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't go from floatpants to sexy times, so you

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<v Speaker 1>need to have that. You know, something is to look

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<v Speaker 1>forward to, get dressed up. You can have a noon er.

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<v Speaker 1>Nothing wrong with a nooner, a little quickie, we can

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<v Speaker 1>see surveyor that way. Wow, Okay, keep keep going. And also,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, stocks in the morning, like our horble

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<v Speaker 1>novels are like skyrocketing in the morning. So I recommend

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<v Speaker 1>after the kids, if after the kids go to sleep

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<v Speaker 1>at night by a lock, I'm not even kidding, get

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<v Speaker 1>a lock for your door and have a sex at night,

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<v Speaker 1>watch TV, start touching each other, you know what. That

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<v Speaker 1>could leads you. And then the weekends, if the kids

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<v Speaker 1>are old enough to tell them put the lock in

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<v Speaker 1>the door. You can't get us until like ton thirty. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>sexting during the day, you're never too old and you've

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<v Speaker 1>never been with someone too long to sex during the day.

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<v Speaker 1>It keeps the keeps the excitement up. This is good stuff. So,

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<v Speaker 1>Jennie Bronstein, do you want to give your Instagram? Sure,

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<v Speaker 1>it's at the relationship expert. There's no E at the

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<v Speaker 1>beginning of expert. So it's just the relationships letter x

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<v Speaker 1>p R. Perfect. So nice to meet you, Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for coming on, Thank you so much for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>This is fun. Okay, bye bye. Wait can we go

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<v Speaker 1>back to that Noon I can't do it and morning

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<v Speaker 1>I can't do Morning is good is because and this

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<v Speaker 1>is earlier on, especially during the pandemic, because that's when

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<v Speaker 1>the twins would be napping between noon and two, and

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<v Speaker 1>so that was literally like only alone time that we

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<v Speaker 1>would have and also when we wouldn't be tired, because

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<v Speaker 1>we're always tired at night. And so you have like

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<v Speaker 1>this energy in the middle of the day and we

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<v Speaker 1>were like, we have two hours, but are you rushed

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning time? You're like, I'm always know, it's

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<v Speaker 1>like a weekend thing. I was seeing the weekends. We

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<v Speaker 1>can't come in our room at six in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>not give it a try afternoon to dlight. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>good in the daylight. Don't you have blackout curtains to

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<v Speaker 1>put those down? I mean it's like, try morning, I

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<v Speaker 1>think you like it really starts your you have I

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<v Speaker 1>think a bang. I can tell you well, but all right,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you very much for that second. If we do

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<v Speaker 1>it once a week coming up, next, I'm gonna pay

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<v Speaker 1>a bill.