1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: Britney spears, I'm a slave for you one or two 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:09,319 Speaker 1: point seven kiss FM seacrest here. Ah. Yeah, it's our 3 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 1: hump Day Helper segment. We've got Jamie Bronstein on the line, 4 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 1: relationship coach, author speaker, so you can text your questions 5 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 1: to four one or two seven. Let's bring a rain, Jamie. 6 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:26,440 Speaker 1: How are you? Thanks for coming on. I am good, 7 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: how are you? I'm so excited. I want to learn. 8 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: I want to learn. So oh all right, so you 9 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 1: are an author speaker named the number one relationship coach 10 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:42,160 Speaker 1: transforming lives by Yahoo Finance. Congrats, that's cool, thank you. Yes, 11 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: it was very exciting, and um, I just I love 12 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: helping people, so it just makes me so happy. And 13 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:52,879 Speaker 1: your new book is called Manifesting. So listen, We've got 14 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: a lot of people that want answers, you know, in 15 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,639 Speaker 1: the relationship world, and these are text messages, so I'm 16 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: looking at them. Coming now from the seven one four, 17 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: Orange County says, I've been married for nineteen years. We 18 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 1: have four kids. His sex drive hasn't slowed down, but 19 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 1: I have no desire. Even though I love him and 20 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,199 Speaker 1: think he's sexy. I wish I didn't feel this way, 21 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:16,959 Speaker 1: but I don't know how to fix it. What do 22 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: you think? Okay, so the great news is that you 23 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 1: are way ahead of the gang here because most people 24 00:01:24,360 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 1: don't um, yeah, I mean unfortunately I would say, yeah, 25 00:01:31,040 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 1: So you've already won half the battle. So here's my advice. 26 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:38,479 Speaker 1: Want go on date nights as much as you can, 27 00:01:38,959 --> 00:01:40,960 Speaker 1: because I think with COVID and everything has been a 28 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 1: lot of swept pants and it's hard to go from 29 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: sweat pants to sexy time. So go on dates. Have 30 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: a new experiences, new novel experiences. When we have new experiences, 31 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: our oxytocin levels rise, and that's the love hormone, and 32 00:01:56,160 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 1: our dopening rises. And when dopamine activates, then test us 33 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: their own drive sexual desires. So you want to have 34 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: new experiences together, all right? From the nine oh nine high? 35 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:13,079 Speaker 1: From the I e. My husband is so insecure, constantly 36 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: accusing me of cheating when all I do is stay 37 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 1: home with our kids. What do I do? How do 38 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:21,359 Speaker 1: I fix it? That's a good question. Okay, First of all, 39 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: you've done nothing wrong. Please don't feel guilty. You know, 40 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:27,720 Speaker 1: it's like, it's not me, it's you. Okay, this is 41 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 1: not you. It's him. Okay, so communicate that it bothers. 42 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:35,720 Speaker 1: You tell him it's unattractive if you want to give 43 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,640 Speaker 1: him compliments to make him feel better, but also have 44 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: compassion about like, get curious, why does he have these issues? 45 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: I feel like they're probably unresolved issues, and therapy on 46 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: a therapist. I always recommend it. Therapy can one percent 47 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: help and if one is a jealous person, they can 48 00:02:56,160 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: get rid of that feeling. Yes, it's only it's only 49 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: an unresolved issue. So you have to look at why 50 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:06,359 Speaker 1: do I have this? Usually? I mean it's usually from 51 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: past relationships. It could be from childhood. Who knows, they 52 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 1: come from anywhere and everywhere. So whatever you can do 53 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: to resolve that issue, then your relationship we'll get better. 54 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: Got it? Good? Okay, one more from THEE. What are 55 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: some realistic things couples with children and busy schedules can 56 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:32,800 Speaker 1: do to stay close and really have good intimacy? Okay? 57 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 1: First of all the benefits of sex. It connects to you, 58 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 1: It relieves stress, it boosts immune system, and it helps 59 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:41,920 Speaker 1: you to sleep. So just remember that. Because it's motivation. 60 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 1: What I recommend schedule time. Just schedule it. You can 61 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: do it. There's always time for sex, okay. And once again, 62 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: you can't go from floatpants to sexy times, so you 63 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: need to have that. You know, something is to look 64 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: forward to, get dressed up. You can have a noon er. 65 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with a nooner, a little quickie, we can 66 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 1: see surveyor that way. Wow, Okay, keep keep going. And also, 67 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 1: by the way, stocks in the morning, like our horble 68 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: novels are like skyrocketing in the morning. So I recommend 69 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:18,839 Speaker 1: after the kids, if after the kids go to sleep 70 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 1: at night by a lock, I'm not even kidding, get 71 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 1: a lock for your door and have a sex at night, 72 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 1: watch TV, start touching each other, you know what. That 73 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:30,160 Speaker 1: could leads you. And then the weekends, if the kids 74 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: are old enough to tell them put the lock in 75 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:35,719 Speaker 1: the door. You can't get us until like ton thirty. Also, 76 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: sexting during the day, you're never too old and you've 77 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:43,680 Speaker 1: never been with someone too long to sex during the day. 78 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 1: It keeps the keeps the excitement up. This is good stuff. So, 79 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: Jennie Bronstein, do you want to give your Instagram? Sure, 80 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:56,680 Speaker 1: it's at the relationship expert. There's no E at the 81 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 1: beginning of expert. So it's just the relationships letter x 82 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 1: p R. Perfect. So nice to meet you, Thank you 83 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: for coming on, Thank you so much for having me. 84 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:07,919 Speaker 1: This is fun. Okay, bye bye. Wait can we go 85 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: back to that Noon I can't do it and morning 86 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 1: I can't do Morning is good is because and this 87 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: is earlier on, especially during the pandemic, because that's when 88 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: the twins would be napping between noon and two, and 89 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 1: so that was literally like only alone time that we 90 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:26,480 Speaker 1: would have and also when we wouldn't be tired, because 91 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:29,599 Speaker 1: we're always tired at night. And so you have like 92 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: this energy in the middle of the day and we 93 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 1: were like, we have two hours, but are you rushed 94 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:37,280 Speaker 1: in the morning time? You're like, I'm always know, it's 95 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 1: like a weekend thing. I was seeing the weekends. We 96 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 1: can't come in our room at six in the morning, 97 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:49,039 Speaker 1: not give it a try afternoon to dlight. I'm not 98 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 1: good in the daylight. Don't you have blackout curtains to 99 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:58,599 Speaker 1: put those down? I mean it's like, try morning, I 100 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 1: think you like it really starts your you have I 101 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 1: think a bang. I can tell you well, but all right, 102 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: thank you very much for that second. If we do 103 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 1: it once a week coming up, next, I'm gonna pay 104 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:08,040 Speaker 1: a bill.