WEBVTT - REWIND: 2021 0:00:01.800 --> 0:00:04.880 I heart Radio, now number one for podcasting, presents Sunday 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:07.320 Night Podcast. Every Sunday, we played one of the most 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:09.560 played and most listened to and most share podcasts of 0:00:09.560 --> 0:00:12.000 the week from a two hundred and fifty thousand podcasts 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:14.240 available in the free i heeart radio app. Find your 0:00:14.240 --> 0:00:17.439 next favorite podcast on iHeartRadio. This week is The Breakfast 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:23.079 Club thirty morning. Everybody is DJ Envy, Angela Yee, Charlomagne 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:25.480 the God. We are the Breakfast Club. Now if you 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:28.479 just join us, we're talking the word bitch, the b word. 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:31.120 Who are you calling a bitch? Right now? This conversation 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:33.960 comes from our conversation we had with Academics yesterday where 0:00:34.520 --> 0:00:37.960 people were upset and believe he referred to Little Wayne's daughter, 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:41.560 Regend Carter, little Wayne and uh Toya's daughter, and people 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:44.120 are upset about it. So we're asking, let's talk about 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:47.360 the word bitch. Yeah, I think it's bigger than academics. 0:00:47.400 --> 0:00:49.120 As you started, Yeah, this is this is a this 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:51.640 is a That word has been a cultural staple for 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:53.600 a long time. All right, So we're asking, let's start 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:55.320 with you, what's your what's your doing? Well, I think 0:00:55.360 --> 0:00:57.360 for women, we talk to each other like that in 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:00.880 a positive way, like six we'd be like bitch, you know, 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:05.360 and so I feel like that's not going anywhere. You know. 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:07.640 The problem is that a lot of times, like say 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:09.760 Missy Elliott, she's a bitch or a train us the 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.319 baddest bitch. But like the reason why I remember when 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:14.880 Missy Elliott was talking about that song, she was saying, 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:16.640 that's because a lot of times men try to use 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:21.360 that word for women who are being authoritative and in 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:25.120 a position of power, and sometimes you have to quote 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:26.880 be a bitch, even though you're just doing the same 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:28.479 thing that men do. And so I feel like it's 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:30.800 used as a put down in some ways. So I 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:33.480 think it's just a matter of context. Like a lot 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:35.440 of times women will say that they're taking their power 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:38.240 back by using a word that has been commonly used 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:41.360 to try to talk about all women, and you know, 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:43.240 it has been used that way, So I think for 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:45.760 women using it for each other and done nowt him 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.120 and I had a conversation about him using that word 0:01:48.120 --> 0:01:50.520 too much. So we've both agreed that he can only 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:53.360 use it if he's saying the baddest bitch. And here's 0:01:53.400 --> 0:01:55.840 the thing we all know better in regard to that word. 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:57.680 We know, Dan well, we shouldn't be using that word 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:01.200 in any context, but we do. And it's actually a 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:03.680 staple in hip hop vernacular, have been for years. And 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:05.880 every eld that we've ever had from see the Lords, 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:08.000 Tuck Hood and Malcolm X the minute the prior con 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:10.320 every elder has told us not to use the word 0:02:10.360 --> 0:02:13.280 period in regard to women. But we haven't listened. So 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:15.799 here we are. And it's hilarious to me to watch 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:17.679 people twist themselves and the prench who are trying to 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:19.760 justify who can use the word and who can't, and 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:21.560 getting mad at people for using the word that if 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:25.000 they haven't been using it in reference to women for years. Personally, 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:27.600 it's not my thing. You know, not saying not saying 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:29.640 bitch in reference to women is way easier for me 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:32.600 than you know, not saying nigga in reference to niggas. 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:35.280 Let's go to the phone lines. What about your opinion, 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:39.080 um bige bitch? See here you go. I mean I 0:02:39.120 --> 0:02:41.280 think you once you get to a point where, especially 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:43.480 when you have daughters and you start to evolve, I don't. 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:47.320 I don't use that word. I never lift service in Oakland. 0:02:47.480 --> 0:02:49.680 They kept using it during the lift service live and 0:02:49.680 --> 0:02:51.080 we'd be like yo, stopping and then like we just 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:52.960 use that word all the time. Oakland uses it a lot. 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.080 I mean too short that it's all what's my favorite word? Bh? 0:02:55.280 --> 0:02:56.720 I gonna make it right though now it doesn't make 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:01.080 it right. I mean, see, I don't. I don't have to. 0:03:01.160 --> 0:03:02.919 I just like you said, I got four daughters, so 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:05.480 you know what I mean. I just don't. Um. But 0:03:05.600 --> 0:03:08.760 let's go to the phone lines. But sheelle, good morning. Hey, 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:11.480 what's your thought on the word bitch and especially men 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:14.120 using it? Everybody used the word bit, so I don't 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:17.320 get what's the big So you're not offended by when 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:18.919 when people used the word bitch, they used it so 0:03:19.040 --> 0:03:20.680 much and took the power out of it. Were you 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:23.799 from old? No, you say they used it so much 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:25.520 they took the power out of So what people mad about? 0:03:25.560 --> 0:03:28.400 Then that's what she's saying. She said everybody uses it. 0:03:28.800 --> 0:03:33.880 Everybody doesn't bother her, So for her, she believe you 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:37.680 say that until somebody if my francocle on me a bit, 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:43.040 Why are we offended by anybody else? You mean to 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:44.520 tell me if a random scrange to walk up to 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:46.480 you and say you must be asked, bitch. You ain't 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:51.200 gonna be mad you've broke ass, bitch. I'm probably gonna lie. Really, 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:54.040 maybe she must be no defender. I don't believe you. 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:56.200 I just don't believe you. But if you say so, 0:03:57.120 --> 0:04:00.320 she's unbothered. So you mean to tell me not even 0:04:00.400 --> 0:04:02.320 musty gonna bother. You're not even gonna smell in your 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:05.080 arms and nothing, because I'm not. I know I'm not 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:08.440 a musty ass bitch. So most musty ass bitches can't 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:16.680 smell a hello male off female? Okay, hello, hello, Hey, 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:18.960 good morning. What's what's your thought on the word bitch? 0:04:19.480 --> 0:04:21.960 You know, my fourteen year old listened to a lot 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.320 of rock music, and I just started listening to your 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:26.680 sta and a couple of weeks ago to be able 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:29.200 to embrace it. And I don't know how I feel 0:04:29.200 --> 0:04:31.839 about it when it comes to me compared to my son, 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:35.159 compared to a man saying it, so, I'm actually I 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:38.760 don't really know a man saying that, I understand its generalizing, 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:41.880 a woman saying it, does she really mean bitch? And 0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:45.600 then to my son saying I'm really I'm very perplexed. 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:47.719 About it. It is a conundrum. But I know if 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:49.880 your son called you to B word, I don't know 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:53.760 if you'd have a son, I think, I think you'd 0:04:53.760 --> 0:04:57.800 be playing in a funeral or something. You're able to 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:00.760 use it in conversation, and if it's okay hey to 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:04.640 use it in conversation. I don't. I don't understand how 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:07.920 that's possible. I just don't. I don't know. I I'm 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:09.960 fifty one years old, So I grew up in the 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.599 eighties and there's words back then we use it, we 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:15.440 can't use now. That fact. Now there's the word. Yeah. 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:18.280 Now there's word coming up that I couldn't use before 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.440 that it's okay to use now. I'm a little confused. 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:23.520 So the question I mean Caucasian because you said you 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:25.520 said listening to rap music and you don't really listen. 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:27.919 So are you what are you? Man? What do you? 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:32.720 What do you mean? What I'm saying? What's a white 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:38.320 So when you listen to pout music town, everything is okay. 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:40.680 So when you're when you're standing in music, they don't 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:42.480 say bitch. In country songs, they don't say bitch and 0:05:42.560 --> 0:05:45.280 nothing like that. You know, I don't listen to the country. 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:47.840 I listen to rock, so for me, it's every day 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:51.039 from the seventies and they didn't use words like that, 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:53.400 at least the songs that I use got you the 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:56.280 word bitch and hole when the N word and you know, 0:05:56.360 --> 0:05:58.919 like it's really when you listen to that music, and 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:00.920 I don't mind him listen into it. That's why I'm 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:03.080 trying to embrace it. N word. Are you talking about 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:08.039 the N word? That's like every rap song, boy, naughty neighbor. 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:14.600 I can't say it on my life. You know that 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:17.520 he knows that, But I don't know about the B word. 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:19.080 I know the rule about the N word, but I 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:20.920 don't know the rule about the D word. I don't 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:24.520 know the rule about none of That's what That's what 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:26.159 we try to figure out. When you have a good morning, 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:29.039 Thank you have a great day. All right, this is 0:06:29.080 --> 0:06:32.240 sad A hundred five A five one on five one. 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:34.560 We're talking about the B word, bitch. When can we 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:36.359 use it? When can we not use it? What's your 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:38.320 thoughts on it? All right, let's talk about A eight 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:39.880 hundred and five A five one five one at the 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:42.200 breakfast club. Go Morning. The free i Heeart radio app 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:44.799 has over two hundred and fifty thousand podcasts to explore. 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:48.279 Yes this is the Breakfast Club thirty part of Sunday 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:53.680 Night podcast on iHeartRadio Morning. Everybody is DJ Envy, angelau Ye, 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.160 Charlemagne the Guy. We are the Breakfast Club now for 0:06:56.160 --> 0:06:58.360 you're just joining us. We're talking about the B word. 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:01.880 This conversation sparked from Academic stopping to do yesterday. People 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:04.919 are upset with him because he used the B word 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:09.000 when he was kind of not really referring to Regenate Carter, 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:10.920 and people were hot about it. Yeah, they were saying, 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:13.120 shouldn't talk to Little Wayne's daughter like that, which actually, 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:16.360 you know, shoudn't talk to anybody that's still reinforcing patriarchy 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:18.320 because you know, you're not saying, you know, don't call 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:20.240 her to B word because you shouldn't call women to 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:21.880 be word. You're saying, don't call her to B word 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:25.360 because that's Little Wayne's daughter. So you're still respecting the 0:07:25.400 --> 0:07:27.520 man more in that situation than you are the woman. 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:30.360 So we're asking eight hundred five A five one oh 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:33.400 five one the word bitch? Is it okay to use? One? 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:35.440 Is it okay to use Let's go to the phone lines. Hello, 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:38.800 who's this? Yes, good morning? This just kind from Tampa. Day. 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:41.000 Hey Ken from Tampa, Baker morning, how you feel like 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:44.960 Wheathery're okay, there's holding out. It's gonna get a little 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:49.160 worse flitter on, but you know, I'm just scrateful. Scrateful. 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:51.560 You got your first honors on the show. You got 0:07:51.600 --> 0:07:53.680 your toilet paper and water and all that stuff and 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:58.400 food can food and okay perfect. What's your opinion on 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:02.560 the B word? Yea? So basically, in short, I believe 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:06.120 that the only exception for using the B word is 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:12.200 when you are threatened or uh in a bad positions 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:15.040 like domestic bounce or something like that. Wait wait, wait, 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:17.320 wait wait what do you mean if you if you 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:20.640 be a threatened? What do you yeah, please explain, like 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:22.520 you like just a life that's threatened. It's like a 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:26.120 sense mech don't kill me, bitch, get away from me. 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:30.960 So that would probably the only exception. Otherwise it's really installing. 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:35.280 I would never call a woman that. That's just ridiculous. Okay, 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:37.120 I agree? So what term would you use it? So 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.160 can you explain, like when you see me threatened? Like, 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:42.640 how would you use it in a sentence? Go. Well, 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:46.440 let's say someone comes after you with a weapon or 0:08:46.440 --> 0:08:50.760 something like that. Then you could probably say be please 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:55.560 do not approach me wise. No, no, Now you're really 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:57.839 gonna get it because you called me a bitch. Now 0:08:57.880 --> 0:08:59.800 you're really gonna get it. Now, you're really gonna get it. 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:02.160 To watch your mouth, bitch, Please don't approach me with this. 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:06.679 That ain't gonna work. You can't be polite and slanderous 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:10.880 at the same time. All right, bitch, please don't shoot me. 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:16.280 Don't shoot me, bitch please? What like? What's up? Man? 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:20.280 What are we doing? Yeah? Yeah, don't be my own 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:24.199 exception for that rule. Otherwise that's the wrong work to use. Yes, yes, sir, 0:09:24.400 --> 0:09:27.319 I understand, Thank you kid. Goodness gracious man. Let me 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:30.200 just go to one more live. Tellou who's this? Hey, 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:33.880 it's um Whitney lad on. I actually was calling earlier 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:36.480 to speak about the academics. Bitch word. I'm the girl 0:09:36.520 --> 0:09:38.080 that the he was ulling the gun out on him 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:41.960 on the podcast. That's bad. I remember that you said 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:43.880 you were there, you were reaching in your bag, so 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:45.480 he felt the threatened, but you said you didn't have 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:50.160 a gun. Yeah, Well, you know, here's a bitch, here's 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:54.120 a bit speaking on females that he's speaking on calling 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:56.600 girls out their name, Like, you can't really expect much 0:09:56.640 --> 0:09:59.080 more from That's just what he is. It's his character. 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:01.520 So I feel like all the people that you know 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.600 holding him accountable for that, it's like doing the right 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:06.079 thing because we got to start calling you stay on this. 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:09.679 What about other men calling you to be worried man, Well, 0:10:09.679 --> 0:10:11.719 it's all about the past. Like, it's all about the 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:16.560 the set up, the like how you're the intention, the 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:20.480 intention and pent. Basically, if you're like you you broke bit, 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:22.360 you had it, you know, whatever it is, you got 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:24.720 em their tent, and then obviously I'm getting offended. But 0:10:24.760 --> 0:10:27.160 if you're coming at me and he's like, bitch, feel slid, Bitch, 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:29.360 you'll cidy, Bitch, you'r fun of you here, Bitch, you're stupid. 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:32.760 It's a context. What about this bitch? You got a 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:36.120 good in your postable? Huh yeah, bitch, don't kill me 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:47.520 earlier bit, don't shooper that nice? Well, thank you for 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:50.319 calling me. Y'all got to invite me up here. Y'all 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:53.320 seem like so much fun. No, you got guns, we're 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:54.920 gonna bring you up here to pull up, pull guns 0:10:54.920 --> 0:10:56.679 out on nothing. Then you didn't have a gun, right, 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:59.720 she said she did so when I'm going out over 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:02.880 and now verbal argument, But did you have a gun 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:07.720 in your pocketboat? You can't even lie. You can't even lie. 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:10.640 You should say no. That's why we're not inviting you. No, 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:14.760 I don't have no goods. Where are you from, man, 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:20.680 You're from Florida, right from Cleveland, Oh, Cleveland. Have a 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.600 juice bar, y'all let me know wh y'all come in town. 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:24.600 Let me help y'all avance, let me do some catering. 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:34.640 Y'all all natural juices. What about security? Security? Security? Anytime? Security? Man? 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:38.520 I love black people so much. Man. She went from 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:41.240 pulling a gun on a bit to saying, I got 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:45.959 all natural juices, and y'all we are the most well 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:50.079 rounded people on this planet. You hear me. Can nobody 0:11:50.160 --> 0:12:00.000 do it black people too? Oh? My god? Man? Oh 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:03.440 all the story? I don't know. I forgot what we 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:06.440 were talking about. Man, I guess you're not for me. 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:07.960 It's just like this. Why you can't attempt to stand 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:09.840 on a moral high ground in regards to the B word, 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:12.280 because clearly in hip hop that moral high ground is shaky, 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.440 not even just in hip hop, and in American culture, 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:16.520 that moral high ground is shaking. Folks do not keep 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:19.040 the same energy on who should use it and who shouldn't. 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:21.520 It's based on a person by person basis, and that's 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:22.960 not right. If something's wrong, you should be wrong all 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:26.760 across the board. Thank you, my bit. That didn't even 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:29.880 hit right. No, I ain't even hit when I say. 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:34.120 When I say bend dover, bage bitch. Put that thing up, mommy, 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:36.040 make it row. So if you call me bage bitch, 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:42.559 what can I call you high class black bitch? Okay? 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:47.280 All right? How you like that? You like that? You 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:48.440 like that? You like that? You like that? You like 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:51.880 that better? It's the Breakfast Club. Come on my Heart 0:12:51.960 --> 0:12:55.160 Radio for podcast discovery. This is the Breakfast Club. Third 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:59.160 we go your chance to hear the biggest trending podcast 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:02.320 each week from the Heart Radio Act. I was born 0:13:02.400 --> 0:13:19.360 a donkey. It's the Donkey of the Death Devil Breakfast Club. Yes, 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:22.440 Dunkey Today for Tuesday, September twenty seventh, goes to a 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:24.840 man whose name has not been released yet because he 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.440 has not been charged with anything. But oh, it's just 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:30.520 a matter of time. Now I'm a chance to six 0:13:30.640 --> 0:13:32.439 twenty nine. We out here dropping a clues bums for 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:35.480 all the cancers out there. What's happening? One thing about 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:38.640 us cancers we hold grucious Okay. It is an astrological 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:40.679 fact that cancers who are ruled by the moon have 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:43.640 a common problem of holding a grudge against someone for 0:13:43.679 --> 0:13:46.160 a long time. I called it a common problem for 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:49.440 a reason because it is Okay, we cannot easily forget things. 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:53.200 Cancers are by far one of the most emotional zodiac signs, 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:55.440 where it is very common for US cancers to get 0:13:55.440 --> 0:13:58.319 caught up and how we are feeling. Okay, rather than 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:00.520 trying to be logical about it. When we hold a 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:04.800 grudge against someone, we can do it for years. That's 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:07.080 why therapy is so important. Okay, so we can learn 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:10.240 to let that hurt go, because if we don't, we 0:14:10.280 --> 0:14:12.360 will end up like this man whose name has not 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.400 been released, but apparently he's been holding a grudge for 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:17.720 forty eight years now. I don't know his astrological sign, 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:19.960 but I would bet some money that is can't stand. 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:23.760 I don't even gamble. Okay. See, there's a woman named 0:14:23.800 --> 0:14:27.080 Linda Terrello She died of canter in twenty seventeen. She 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:29.720 was sixty six years old. God bless the dad, rest 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:32.400 in peace to her. And she is buried just over 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:34.280 the state line in Orange Sound in New York. And 0:14:34.280 --> 0:14:38.240 in the nineteen seventies she was briefly married to this man. Now, 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:41.000 I don't know what the hell happened in this brief marriage, 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:44.560 but this man is clearly holding a grudge against this woman. 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:47.600 A matter of fact, holding a grudge is an understatement. 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:50.080 We will discuss after we go to News twelve for 0:14:50.080 --> 0:14:52.720 the report. Please, and we begin tonight with the charge 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:55.880 a man is now facing for continuously urinating on a 0:14:55.960 --> 0:14:58.720 grave in Japan. Let's get right to News twelves Darius 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:02.480 Rodsias with the d tails on why and Darius, what 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:06.000 have you been learning tonight? The family says that they 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:09.120 shared the video with police that showed a man urinating 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:12.520 on the grave here at the Tappen Reform Church cemetery. 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:15.320 The family says they believe it's the ex husband of 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:18.920 the woman buried here. Their daughter, Renee Berrigan, told me 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:21.360 that they started to find bags of feces at the 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.480 grave as early as April. At first, she thought it 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:27.160 was trash, but then notice that the feces was being 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:29.640 left here regularly, and that's why she decided to put 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:37.200 up the camera every morning for forty hys. This man 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:39.840 had been waking up to go see the sunset, and 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:43.360 on the way to go see the sunset, he urinates 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:45.960 on the grave of his ex wife, not just peeing 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:47.840 on the grave, but leaving bags of poop at her 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:51.560 final resting place. Whoever this person is is absolutely taking 0:15:51.680 --> 0:15:54.840 let that go out of context. Okay, for years, someone 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:57.120 who's been telling him to let that go. So he 0:15:57.240 --> 0:16:00.400 decided to not just let that go, but it up 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:02.360 and place it on the grave site of his ex wife. 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:06.600 Not just letting this go, but it's P two. One 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:09.280 of the hardest lessons in life is letting go, whether 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:13.120 it's guilt, anger, love lost, or betrayal. I don't understand 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:15.800 people who hold on the resentment towards other people, especially 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:18.160 for nothing. Okay, I wish I would wake up every 0:16:18.240 --> 0:16:20.720 day and have someone else on my mind so much 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:24.160 that I think about ways to hurt them even in death. 0:16:24.520 --> 0:16:27.320 Do you realize you only hurting yourself. Folks say it 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:30.240 may hurt to let go, but sometimes it hurts more 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:32.680 to hold on. This dude is clearly hurting. This is 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:35.000 one of those times where it's clearly hurting this man 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:37.280 to hold on. I mean, on a scale of one 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:40.440 to fifty cent this is petty levels we have never 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:44.160 seen before. All Right, this dude needs deep psychotherapy and 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:47.040 his ass beat. We keep acting like violences in an option. 0:16:47.080 --> 0:16:49.120 But if you caught a man peeing on your mother's grave, 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:52.480 how would you react? How am I supposed to not 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:55.200 beat your ass when I see you peeing on someone's grave? 0:16:55.360 --> 0:16:58.760 And if the marriage was brief, your grudge can't be 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:02.680 longer in the marriage lasted, Okay, forty eight years of 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:06.800 waking up making sure someone resting piss Nah, man, Nah. 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:10.199 If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the 0:17:10.200 --> 0:17:12.399 consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:15.600 allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind. 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:19.000 Please believe it, believe it, Please please give this man, 0:17:19.040 --> 0:17:20.879 whose name has not been released yet because he's not 0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:28.679 been charged with anything, the biggest he had what you're 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:31.560 looking at me for. I gotta hear both sides. I know, 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:34.159 I know how you gonna hear the other side. I 0:17:34.240 --> 0:17:36.359 know I gotta hear both sides. I mean, you're only 0:17:36.359 --> 0:17:37.919 hearing from one side. You don't you don't know what 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:40.960 happened in that relationship. I don't think we don't know 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:45.080 what she did to him. She's dead. You can't hear herself. 0:17:45.160 --> 0:17:47.840 That doesn't end the beef. She's deceased, well, okay, she's 0:17:47.880 --> 0:17:49.920 no longer with us. He's in a whole other dimension, 0:17:50.200 --> 0:17:53.680 all right. Just her remains are here, okay. I mean, 0:17:53.840 --> 0:17:55.960 I don't care what it is to get up every 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:58.520 day because of a brief marriage and p on her 0:17:58.520 --> 0:18:03.600 grave for forty eight years and leave doodoo. Come on, man, 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:05.440 you ain't gonna tell me that shit. I don't that 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:07.320 I don't know the doodoo things a little far. Ain't 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:09.680 putting doom dudo's too far. And not peeing on the grave, 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:12.400 I mean about to think about the work that goes 0:18:12.440 --> 0:18:16.560 into this forty eight years of bagging up DUDEO Okay, 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:18.720 I mean it was peeing on grade on the way 0:18:18.760 --> 0:18:21.640 to the sunset. And shut up. Man. There's some people's 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:25.480 grave that you know. You gotta let these grudges. It's no, 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:28.760 you won't, Yes, I will, yes, I will. You gotta 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:31.080 let these grudges go. Now, this is a hell of 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:34.600 a This is a hell of a grudge from somebody. 0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:37.920 I don't like. There's nobody's grave. You would pee on it. Yo, 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:44.680 shut up, man, you're wild boy. You hear me, You're 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:48.160 a wild boy. Man. I don't know what see y'all 0:18:48.160 --> 0:18:51.520 people think that y'all people when y'all got beef, Like 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:54.359 when Dominicans look at black people people, the person dies, 0:18:54.440 --> 0:18:56.720 the beef is over. I still have beef with you. 0:18:56.800 --> 0:18:59.280 I still have that resentment. It ain't I think when 0:18:59.320 --> 0:19:03.639 someone's dead, Yeah, right, what if you killed him? You 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:07.720 think he killed his wife? That's just saying. I say that, 0:19:07.800 --> 0:19:09.359 I say, what have you killed them? In? What if 0:19:09.359 --> 0:19:12.840 I I killed him? Then then this came over. That's right? 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:16.320 You should be do you? You won? Right? On all levels? 0:19:16.320 --> 0:19:18.520 I would think. I think. I just think this is 0:19:18.560 --> 0:19:20.800 a ridiculous grudge to hold on to for forty years. 0:19:20.800 --> 0:19:23.439 This is I can't think that nobody who would have 0:19:23.520 --> 0:19:28.960 me mad for forty eight years? No, especially if I'm 0:19:28.960 --> 0:19:31.280 winning it? Like, well, first of all, what races this person? 0:19:31.280 --> 0:19:34.240 Do you know? He looks Caucasian from the camera, the 0:19:34.280 --> 0:19:36.679 camera that set up you look Caucasian, But you know 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:41.680 everybody looks Caucasian at nighttime on them wildlife cameras, right too, right, 0:19:42.080 --> 0:19:44.320 absolutely do So what's the question what are we asking 0:19:44.320 --> 0:19:46.399 people right now? What's the longest you ever held on 0:19:46.440 --> 0:19:49.600 to a grudge? And and and at what point do 0:19:49.680 --> 0:19:52.160 you realize it's unhealthy? Well when if you still hold 0:19:52.160 --> 0:19:53.439 it on to the grudge, how do you just you know, 0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:55.920 determine time? Well, that's true too. Are you still holding 0:19:55.920 --> 0:19:57.760 on to a long time grudge? Maybe that's the question. 0:19:58.280 --> 0:20:00.199 Maybe we just start show prepping before the show. But 0:20:02.040 --> 0:20:05.520 you know what I mean, I just said it. Eighty 0:20:05.640 --> 0:20:07.840 five eighty five, one oh five one? How long do 0:20:07.880 --> 0:20:09.360 you hold on to a grudge? Are you still holding? 0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:11.760 Are you still holding on to a long time grug? 0:20:12.240 --> 0:20:13.920 I'm not mad. I got to hear both side. You 0:20:13.920 --> 0:20:15.920 don't know what she did, man, she's damned so she 0:20:15.920 --> 0:20:18.800 can't hear both sides what she did it she still 0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:21.200 hurt that man, and that man is releasing on her 0:20:21.440 --> 0:20:26.440