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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you

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Speaker 1: it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter subject

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Speaker 1: he is treating me like a bad business deal. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty four year old divorced former

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Speaker 1: model and beauty pageant winner. Five years ago, I met

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Speaker 1: and married the most perfect man. My husband is the

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Speaker 1: CEO of a major company, so we had an ideal lifestyle.

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Speaker 1: I was young, wealthy, and beautiful with a passion for

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Speaker 1: bad boys. I went to the gym daily, and a

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Speaker 1: year ago I met a man that was my age

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Speaker 1: with the best body I had seen in my life.

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Speaker 1: I started around and sleeping with the guy. Although my

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Speaker 1: six months until one day I walked into the house

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Speaker 1: and there was an envelope in the kitchen that had

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Speaker 1: my name on it. The envelope contained divorce papers, a

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Speaker 1: letter from my husband's attorney, a check for two hundred

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Speaker 1: guy I had been sleeping with. What breath My breath

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Speaker 1: and life stopped immediately, and I tried to call my

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Speaker 1: husband to beg for forgiveness and plead with him, but

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Speaker 1: he wouldn't take my calls. His attorney called, and he

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Speaker 1: was very cold towards me, like he did not know

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Speaker 1: me personally. The attorney made it clear that my husband

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Speaker 1: was being more than generous to let me stay in

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Speaker 1: a prenuptial agreement, I wouldn't be getting a penny more

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Speaker 1: than the two hundred thousand dollars check he left for me.

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Speaker 1: This made me feel like my marriage was just a

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Speaker 1: business transaction the whole time. I think my husband has

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Speaker 1: started dating again. Should I keep trying to save my

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Speaker 1: marriage or move on? Please advise move on and move

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Speaker 1: on immediately, Okay, because yeah, your husband is done and

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Speaker 1: I can't even feel sorry for you here You are

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Speaker 1: a woman with everything, I mean everything. Okay. You got beauty,

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Speaker 1: You got a wealthy, faithful, devoted, attentive, loving husband. These

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Speaker 1: are your words. You have a beautiful home, a beautiful lifestyle,

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Speaker 1: a life many women it could only dream of, and

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Speaker 1: you messed it up for just a dude at the

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Speaker 1: gym with a great body. I mean, you threw your

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Speaker 1: fairy tale life away for a six month fling. And

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Speaker 1: it probably we would have gone on longer than that

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Speaker 1: if you hadn't gotten caught. You didn't say your husband

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Speaker 1: was a cheater, and the letter, you didn't say he

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Speaker 1: You just hinted that, you know, maybe he was a

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Speaker 1: little older and maybe out of shape, because you said

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Speaker 1: you like bad boys and the guy at the gym

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Speaker 1: had the best body you'd ever seen. Um, so you

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Speaker 1: cheat it because your husband is older and not a

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Speaker 1: bad boy. A bad mistake, I'll tell you that, and

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Speaker 1: not really it was really a stupid mistake, okay, because

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Speaker 1: you risked it all. You risked everything for nothing. I mean, well,

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Speaker 1: I have to tell you spend your two hundred thousand

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Speaker 1: dollars wisely, because that's all you're getting. You signed the

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Speaker 1: pre nup. I hope you learned a lesson from all

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Speaker 1: of this, I really do. You just can't take a

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Speaker 1: know he had you signed the prenup for a reason,

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Speaker 1: and he also had you followed. Okay, you were reckless.

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Speaker 1: You were reckless. You were just reckless in the gym

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Speaker 1: so he was still being kind to you. He gave

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Speaker 1: you the house, the car. This was no business deal,

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Speaker 1: so don't try to put it on that. How very

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Speaker 1: immature of you to even think that. I just think

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Speaker 1: you just ruined this with your trifling disregard for the

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Speaker 1: vows you took with your husband. Period. And you're done.

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Speaker 1: He's done, You're out, Steve, great answer, Shirlotte Norman. I

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Speaker 1: of course. Yeah, that's what you trifling. Thank you, good

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Speaker 1: and trifling. He's treating me like a bad business deal.

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Speaker 1: How was you treating him? See, people always want to

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Speaker 1: How were you treating him? You're thirty four year old,

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Speaker 1: wrote all over this letter. Five years ago, I met

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Speaker 1: notice letter's not good major company. We had an ideal lifestyle.

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Speaker 1: She didn't say she had an ideal marriage. She had

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Speaker 1: assuming he was older, wealthy and whatever, with a passion

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Speaker 1: for bad boys. This is how the letter keeps getting worse.

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Speaker 1: You married a man because not of the marriage, but

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Speaker 1: of the lifestyle. But when you married this older, square

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Speaker 1: dude who's making a lot of money because he's a CEO.

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Speaker 1: Oh you have a passion for bad boys, Well that's

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Speaker 1: who you should have married. I went to the gym

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Speaker 1: cute with the best body I've ever seen in my life.

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Speaker 1: loving and very attentive husband. But that wasn't enough because

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Speaker 1: you need the lifestyle, the attentative, the devotedness, the lifestyle.

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Speaker 1: But you needed a rush too. Hang up, Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject is treating

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Speaker 1: me like a bad business deal. This dirty chick, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: thirty fold he treated me like a bad business deal.

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Speaker 1: Perfect man CEO of a company obviously older than her.

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Speaker 1: Now they have the ideal lifestyle. She didn't say marriage,

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Speaker 1: she said lifestyle. Then she described herself as I was young, wealthy,

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Speaker 1: beautiful with a passion for bad boys. Excuse me, what

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Speaker 1: with the guy from the gym. Gave me the rush

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Speaker 1: I needed. Now this is a fair y'all went on

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Speaker 1: It was an envelope in the kitchen had my name

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Speaker 1: on it. See this gangster now. The envelope contained the

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Speaker 1: voice papers, a letter from my husband's attorney, check for

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Speaker 1: two hundred thousand dollars, and twenty nine pictures of me

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Speaker 1: got your ass on every angle that cover everything. Photographer

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Speaker 1: nine picture day ain't all with his zoom lives all right,

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Speaker 1: So now here you go. My breath and my life

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Speaker 1: stopped immediately. I tried to call my husband and beg

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Speaker 1: he ain't know me personally. He don't see lawyers work

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Speaker 1: for who got the money? You hand on money? So

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Speaker 1: he's been working for your husband the whole time. He

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Speaker 1: the one wrote you the two hundred thousand dollars check.

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Speaker 1: So what is he fit to be friendly for? And

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Speaker 1: so the attorney made it clear to my husband was

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Speaker 1: being more than generous to let me stay in the house,

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Speaker 1: keep your car. And since you signed a prenuptial agreement,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't be getting a penny mold than the two

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Speaker 1: hundred thousand dollars check he left for me, not a

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Speaker 1: damn dime. You can't go to court and ague about nothing,

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Speaker 1: because all twenty nine of them pictures is coming to

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Speaker 1: court and all he gonna be standing there man hurt

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Speaker 1: crime you on TV. And even the Strawberry letter is

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Speaker 1: a piece of evidence. Now, all this is evidence. I

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Speaker 1: have a passion for bad boys. I was at the

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Speaker 1: gym for six months. All this is Everden. You know

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Speaker 1: you really kind of stupid, But Shelley was exactly right.

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Speaker 1: You threw away your life for mister muscles down at

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Speaker 1: the gym. Who and you? And if he found out

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Speaker 1: you got two hundred thousand, you ain't gonna have that

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Speaker 1: long because he don't have two hundred thousand. Tell you

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Speaker 1: right now, he don't have two hundred thousand, but Steve,

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Speaker 1: he don't. Yes, surely she acts like she doesn't get it. No,

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Speaker 1: she doesn't. That's why I'm talking to a crazy And

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Speaker 1: a business transaction? That's how you treated it. You didn't

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Speaker 1: hot boys for bad boys boys, Okay, that's it. Dare

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Speaker 1: you have it? Dare you have it? And now he

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Speaker 1: because they're hard working there and they're smart. You all

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Speaker 1: little pieces of T shirt snapped ontil your brawl, empty

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Speaker 1: all on your arm? How you got being gaying on

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Speaker 1: I think my husband has started dating again. Should I

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Speaker 1: keep trying to save my marriage or move on? You

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Speaker 1: don't have a marriage. You got two hundred thousand. Say something, man,

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Speaker 1: When a man cut you a check, he threw with

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Speaker 1: your ass. Yeah, I'll tell you that right now. If

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Speaker 1: got to check. You got to check the pictures, the

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Speaker 1: Go back down that to that gym, to little muscle

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Speaker 1: boy and find you find to find out he don't

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Speaker 1: make two hundred thousand dollars in three years. Wow, that's

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Speaker 1: no sense going down. Now take them pictures with you,

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Speaker 1: because you're trifling and you got what you deserve, and

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Speaker 1: you're lucky getting that two hundred thousand. Nicely he wrote

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Speaker 1: that ship because let me tell you something. You you

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Speaker 1: time for you because you're trifling. Take the two hundred

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