1
00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:12,879
Speaker 1: I started to realize that not being an expert isn't

2
00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:16,640
Speaker 1: a liability. It's a real guest. If we don't know

3
00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:18,960
Speaker 1: something about ourselves at this point in our life, it's

4
00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:22,439
Speaker 1: probably because it's uncomfortable to know. If you can die

5
00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:25,840
Speaker 1: before you die, then you can really live. There's a

6
00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:30,520
Speaker 1: wisdom at death's door. I thought I was insane. Yeah,

7
00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:32,479
Speaker 1: and I didn't know what to do because there was

8
00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:36,000
Speaker 1: no internet. I don't know, man, I'm like, I feel

9
00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:41,480
Speaker 1: like everything is hard. Hey, y'all, my name is Kat.

10
00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:45,080
Speaker 1: I'm a human first and a licensed therapist second. And

11
00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:48,440
Speaker 1: right now I'm inviting you into conversations that I hope

12
00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:53,960
Speaker 1: encourage you to become more curious and less judgmental about yourself, others,

13
00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:58,080
Speaker 1: and the world around you. Welcome to You Need Therapy.

14
00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:01,840
Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome to a new episode of You

15
00:01:01,880 --> 00:01:04,440
Speaker 1: Need Therapy podcast. My name is Kat. I am the host.

16
00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:07,520
Speaker 1: And for those of you that are new one, thank

17
00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,560
Speaker 1: you for being here. Well, thank you everybody, but also

18
00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:12,680
Speaker 1: for those of you who are new, I have a

19
00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:16,120
Speaker 1: little disclaimer. Although I'm a therapist, although this podcast is

20
00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:18,600
Speaker 1: called You Need Therapy, it does not serve as a

21
00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:23,080
Speaker 1: replacement or a substitute for any actual mental health services. However,

22
00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:25,959
Speaker 1: we always hope that it can still help you in

23
00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:31,640
Speaker 1: some way. So I'm recording this on a Friday, and

24
00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:35,440
Speaker 1: it is the fifth snow day. For anyone who doesn't

25
00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:38,319
Speaker 1: know where I live, I live in Nashville, and it

26
00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:40,880
Speaker 1: doesn't snow here often. It doesn't snow like this often,

27
00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:45,200
Speaker 1: and so everything kind of shuts down, and I personally

28
00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:49,200
Speaker 1: don't know how to exist and do basic tasks when

29
00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:51,680
Speaker 1: the weather is like this and when we can't drive.

30
00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:54,560
Speaker 1: We're just not set up to be able to handle

31
00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:57,120
Speaker 1: this stuff because I guess it only happens every once

32
00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:00,800
Speaker 1: in a while, but still I don't know how a

33
00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:02,320
Speaker 1: lot of things work in the world. But I would

34
00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:04,960
Speaker 1: think that, like we would want to be prepared in

35
00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:09,200
Speaker 1: these moments because they do happen, not multiple times a year,

36
00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,960
Speaker 1: but it happened last year, it happened this year. So anyway,

37
00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:15,880
Speaker 1: that's just my long winded way of saying I've been

38
00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,080
Speaker 1: stuck in my house for five days. Luckily I'm not alone.

39
00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:22,679
Speaker 1: I am with my fiance Patrick. But I've realized I

40
00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:25,440
Speaker 1: think it was on Wednesday I realized I had not

41
00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:28,440
Speaker 1: like felt the sun on my face, so I started

42
00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:32,880
Speaker 1: taking some vitamin D and then Thursday I tried to Yesterday,

43
00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:34,760
Speaker 1: I tried to actually go to work because I just

44
00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:37,160
Speaker 1: wanted to be in the presence of people. I wanted

45
00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:41,480
Speaker 1: to be in the world, and I actually got stuck

46
00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:43,920
Speaker 1: at a stop sign. My car wouldn't go It was

47
00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,800
Speaker 1: like a very baby, baby baby slope and it wouldn't

48
00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:50,080
Speaker 1: go forward, and I kind of panicked because I don't

49
00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:53,120
Speaker 1: understand cars. I'm not a very good driver, and I

50
00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:56,679
Speaker 1: have a lot of driving anxiety. And this very kind

51
00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:59,280
Speaker 1: person pulled up that was behind me. Her car seemed

52
00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:02,040
Speaker 1: to be running just and she kind of helped coach

53
00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:03,640
Speaker 1: me through what to do to get out of the

54
00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,240
Speaker 1: stuck spot I was in. So I'm very grateful to her.

55
00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,520
Speaker 1: I think she probably noticed that I was on edge.

56
00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,480
Speaker 1: It's anxiety provoking it in general to have car trouble,

57
00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:17,679
Speaker 1: and I felt a lot of pressure because people kept

58
00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:20,560
Speaker 1: pulling up behind me and probably being like go. There

59
00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:22,680
Speaker 1: also was a lot of people driving yesterday, and maybe

60
00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:25,880
Speaker 1: they just are more comfortable driving in weather like that,

61
00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:28,919
Speaker 1: and I mean, like the roads were covered with snow

62
00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,880
Speaker 1: and that's not something we are used to, and that

63
00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:34,920
Speaker 1: I grew up knowing how to navigate. I also don't

64
00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:37,120
Speaker 1: have four wheel drive, even though I do have a jeep.

65
00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:39,280
Speaker 1: People are very surprised by that, but not all jeeps

66
00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:41,600
Speaker 1: are four wheel drive or all world drive, which I

67
00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:44,840
Speaker 1: also learned are different things. Anyway, a lot of people

68
00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,520
Speaker 1: were driving very very close to me, and I was

69
00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:50,320
Speaker 1: driving about five miles per hour, which is probably why

70
00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,120
Speaker 1: they're driving that close. I personally would not want to

71
00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:56,760
Speaker 1: drive that close to somebody in an environment where they

72
00:03:56,760 --> 00:04:00,080
Speaker 1: could lose control at any moment. I guess people in

73
00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:02,160
Speaker 1: general don't have the same feelings I have about driving

74
00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:04,920
Speaker 1: in the snow. All that to say, I made it

75
00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:06,840
Speaker 1: to a gas station. I was able to put some

76
00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:08,840
Speaker 1: air in my tire because those were low, and then

77
00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:10,880
Speaker 1: I turned right around and went home. Had to cancel

78
00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:13,640
Speaker 1: some of my clients because of the time that all

79
00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:17,400
Speaker 1: took me, but I made it back, very grateful for that,

80
00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:20,359
Speaker 1: very grateful for the person who helped me, and not

81
00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:23,599
Speaker 1: grateful to be stuck here again because I woke up

82
00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:28,720
Speaker 1: to more snow and a little bit of melting that

83
00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:32,000
Speaker 1: then now is turning into freezing because it is about

84
00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:35,039
Speaker 1: twenty degrees outside and going to continue to drop. I

85
00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:37,479
Speaker 1: wonder if this is very frustrating and annoying for people

86
00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:39,120
Speaker 1: to hear, for people to hear about, or maybe just

87
00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:43,920
Speaker 1: funny that live in more treacherous areas that this is

88
00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:46,599
Speaker 1: like no big deal to them. I know Houston who

89
00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:50,400
Speaker 1: edits this podcast and produces it. The lake behind him

90
00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:54,440
Speaker 1: was frozen and they get like feet of snow. I

91
00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:57,040
Speaker 1: think we got about six inches. I don't know if

92
00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:59,880
Speaker 1: you find this funny or silly. I'd be interested to know,

93
00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,960
Speaker 1: because it's a big deal to me. Hopefully we're able

94
00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:08,160
Speaker 1: to walk somewhere today and maybe get some food or meat. Friends.

95
00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:12,000
Speaker 1: I'm ready to do that, all right. So to the

96
00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:16,080
Speaker 1: podcast content, I thought this week I could offer you

97
00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:20,640
Speaker 1: guys a more lighthearted and fun episode. Part of that,

98
00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:23,600
Speaker 1: full disclosure, is because there are a couple of topics

99
00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:27,120
Speaker 1: I'm really working on, and those episodes are going to

100
00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:30,080
Speaker 1: take a little bit more brain power and energy. I

101
00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:31,920
Speaker 1: really want to take my time on them. So there

102
00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:35,680
Speaker 1: are some deeper not that this won't end up being deep.

103
00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:37,320
Speaker 1: You never know where it can go. There are some

104
00:05:37,920 --> 00:05:41,640
Speaker 1: other episodes that I'm working on that I have in

105
00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:44,919
Speaker 1: the system, and so as I'm doing those it's really nice,

106
00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:48,600
Speaker 1: and I think it can also for me be very invigorating.

107
00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:52,400
Speaker 1: I think to do some episodes that are just about

108
00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,679
Speaker 1: things I'm interested in, like last week's things that I'm

109
00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:58,560
Speaker 1: just thinking about myself, and things that sometimes can just

110
00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:02,760
Speaker 1: be fun. So now there's anything wrong with it, but

111
00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:05,760
Speaker 1: bring levity to some topics that sometimes get really deep.

112
00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:10,240
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's fun to think about more simple things and

113
00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:14,160
Speaker 1: also bring some fun into it, because that's part of

114
00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:16,640
Speaker 1: this process, and that's part of the reason I created

115
00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:19,919
Speaker 1: this podcast is that so we can all see that

116
00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:23,240
Speaker 1: doing work and working on ourselves and all this stuff

117
00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:27,120
Speaker 1: that therapy encompasses also gets to be fun and can

118
00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:29,960
Speaker 1: be lighthearted at times. And we need that in order

119
00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,159
Speaker 1: to continue to do the work. And I need that

120
00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:35,160
Speaker 1: to continue to do the work that I'm doing. Things

121
00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:38,480
Speaker 1: can't always feel heavy all the time, because that's not

122
00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:41,800
Speaker 1: how we're wired to find the most value and enjoyment

123
00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:43,400
Speaker 1: out of our lives. So that's what we're going to

124
00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:47,800
Speaker 1: do today. So lately, and when I say lately, it's

125
00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:50,080
Speaker 1: like a couple of years, it's been a couple of years,

126
00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:54,680
Speaker 1: but it's still happening. I've been becoming more aware and

127
00:06:54,800 --> 00:07:00,400
Speaker 1: more intrigued of the process of getting older, and that

128
00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:03,800
Speaker 1: includes also getting old and feeling old. Those can be

129
00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:07,960
Speaker 1: different and the same, and I think that part of

130
00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:11,040
Speaker 1: that probably comes from the idea that as time goes by,

131
00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:15,720
Speaker 1: I'm solely becoming closer to the great equalizer that is death.

132
00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:19,400
Speaker 1: And that just makes sense, right, as long as we

133
00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:22,559
Speaker 1: are growing, we are also at the same time dying.

134
00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:27,080
Speaker 1: As I age, I'm realizing so do the people that

135
00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:31,800
Speaker 1: are older than me, and the idea that those people

136
00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:34,720
Speaker 1: are going to be frozen in time and here forever

137
00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:40,920
Speaker 1: becomes I think, just more prevalent, and then the idea

138
00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,120
Speaker 1: that I won't be here forever. You know, I think

139
00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:47,920
Speaker 1: we've all probably felt that feeling of indestructibleness as we

140
00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:50,680
Speaker 1: were kids, and as we would look forward into our

141
00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:53,760
Speaker 1: lives like the future and everything felt in front of us.

142
00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:57,280
Speaker 1: And now as I'm getting older and I'm experiencing life,

143
00:07:57,320 --> 00:08:00,440
Speaker 1: a lot of things are behind me, and so is

144
00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:04,560
Speaker 1: bringing some awareness of the cycle of life. And also

145
00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:06,760
Speaker 1: part of me doesn't want to say this out loud,

146
00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:10,320
Speaker 1: but part of that process of me noticing myself getting

147
00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:12,760
Speaker 1: older and then me noticing the people older than me

148
00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:16,400
Speaker 1: getting older, part of the reason that that strikes me

149
00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:20,080
Speaker 1: is so I don't know, it's scary but big of

150
00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:22,480
Speaker 1: a deal. Why it's such a big deal is because

151
00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:27,600
Speaker 1: I see my parents aging and I just become more

152
00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,560
Speaker 1: aware of the fact that they are not always going

153
00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:32,320
Speaker 1: to be here, and also they aren't always going to

154
00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:34,640
Speaker 1: be in the same role that they've been my whole life.

155
00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:37,280
Speaker 1: It's kind of weird, I kind of I don't know.

156
00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:40,040
Speaker 1: My parents have like felt forty five my entire life,

157
00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:44,480
Speaker 1: and now they're not. They're in their sixties. And again,

158
00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:46,079
Speaker 1: I don't really want to say this because I don't

159
00:08:46,120 --> 00:08:48,360
Speaker 1: really know that I want them to know that I

160
00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:52,160
Speaker 1: think about that because it's just sounds so depressing. Again,

161
00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:55,600
Speaker 1: it's reality, and I don't think it's an uncommon thought

162
00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:59,000
Speaker 1: that cycles through a lot of our brains and kind

163
00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:02,360
Speaker 1: of freaks us out at times. So, like I said,

164
00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,240
Speaker 1: this has been happening for a couple of years, I

165
00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:08,920
Speaker 1: think more recently the past three ish years. I'm thirty four,

166
00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,760
Speaker 1: so maybe around like after like the newness and the

167
00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:14,800
Speaker 1: funness of thirty war off also that a lot of

168
00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:16,760
Speaker 1: this has happened throughout the pandemic, and I think that

169
00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:18,800
Speaker 1: has a lot to do with it too, But I've

170
00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:22,800
Speaker 1: just become more acutely aware that I am what I

171
00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:27,040
Speaker 1: used to consider older, maybe not necessarily old, but older,

172
00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:30,640
Speaker 1: and it is such a weird experience. I haven't figured

173
00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:33,400
Speaker 1: out the right word to use. I'm at the age

174
00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:37,000
Speaker 1: where I could have a full fledged family and it

175
00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:41,040
Speaker 1: not be an accident, and if I got pregnant, it

176
00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:44,040
Speaker 1: wouldn't be a scandal like that is. That's an interesting

177
00:09:44,559 --> 00:09:49,200
Speaker 1: realization to come into. And what's also odd is knowing

178
00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:52,560
Speaker 1: you are the age of an adult and I could

179
00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:54,800
Speaker 1: have those things, but I'm also not there yet. I

180
00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:57,359
Speaker 1: don't know if that's unique to millennials. I am millennials,

181
00:09:57,360 --> 00:10:01,320
Speaker 1: so I feel it is because I I imagine that

182
00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:04,160
Speaker 1: our parents' generation, or my parents' generation, didn't feel this,

183
00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:07,360
Speaker 1: maybe because they got married so young. My mom got married,

184
00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:09,240
Speaker 1: I think at twenty or twenty one, and then had

185
00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:11,720
Speaker 1: kids a year or so after she got married. I

186
00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:14,960
Speaker 1: think that's correct. But they just felt like adults very

187
00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:17,800
Speaker 1: early on, and that's maybe what my imaginations played in.

188
00:10:17,840 --> 00:10:20,840
Speaker 1: But I felt like it's been a very slow process

189
00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:22,640
Speaker 1: where I still feel like I'm getting there, even though

190
00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:26,800
Speaker 1: I'm at the age and an adult and I had

191
00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:30,760
Speaker 1: all these assumptions about what adulthood would be and the

192
00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:34,800
Speaker 1: confidence that came with knowing, or even just the confidence

193
00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:37,760
Speaker 1: that came from being an adult, that then I would

194
00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:40,840
Speaker 1: know how to do certain things like pay taxes or

195
00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:44,840
Speaker 1: find a dentist or buy certain kinds of insurance. And

196
00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:47,600
Speaker 1: I don't know, that never really showed up for me.

197
00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:50,839
Speaker 1: I'm still very confused about a lot of those things

198
00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:54,200
Speaker 1: that I thought would just like be implanted. I guess,

199
00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:55,760
Speaker 1: I don't know. I thought I would wake up at

200
00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:58,840
Speaker 1: twenty seven, be married, have a couple kids, and know

201
00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:02,600
Speaker 1: how to shop for insurance. And I'm kind of curious,

202
00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:05,760
Speaker 1: as were my parents faking it? Or does my generation

203
00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:08,480
Speaker 1: did they miss some class we were all supposed to

204
00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:12,440
Speaker 1: do about insurance, or like, maybe it's just me and

205
00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:16,800
Speaker 1: I mean, speaking of insurance, I've had this issue. That's

206
00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:18,480
Speaker 1: why it might be all my brain. I had this

207
00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:20,520
Speaker 1: issue where I mean, I have to buy my own

208
00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:22,800
Speaker 1: insurance and I used to get it on the marketplace

209
00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:26,520
Speaker 1: and then I found it through another company. But I

210
00:11:26,559 --> 00:11:29,560
Speaker 1: have had it for myself because I'm self employed, so

211
00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:32,400
Speaker 1: I don't have like a business or a company that

212
00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:35,080
Speaker 1: offers me certain packages and that I pick I have

213
00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:38,640
Speaker 1: my own and I recently went to a new dentist,

214
00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:42,719
Speaker 1: thought everything's fine. Long story short, I find out that

215
00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:46,719
Speaker 1: I have pediatric dental insurance, and I'm like, how did

216
00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:50,319
Speaker 1: this happen? Does this happen to other people? And it's

217
00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:52,600
Speaker 1: a mistake. I know that it happens to other people,

218
00:11:52,840 --> 00:11:54,760
Speaker 1: but it's one of those things of like, dang, I

219
00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:58,160
Speaker 1: thought I was doing the adult thing, and I thought

220
00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:00,559
Speaker 1: that I would have this knowledge. All goes into what

221
00:12:00,600 --> 00:12:03,480
Speaker 1: I was just saying, and then it's like, no, you

222
00:12:03,559 --> 00:12:08,040
Speaker 1: bought dental insurance for somebody nineteen and younger. I don't

223
00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:10,600
Speaker 1: understand how they let you do that. The people that

224
00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:13,320
Speaker 1: I talked on the customer service line said, I don't know.

225
00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:15,640
Speaker 1: It just seems to happen. Sometimes. I'm like, there should

226
00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:17,760
Speaker 1: be like a block, there should be some kind of

227
00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:22,240
Speaker 1: thing that makes that not possible. But today's episode is

228
00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:26,080
Speaker 1: not about dental insurance. And one of the things that

229
00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:29,240
Speaker 1: I think first contributed to my oldness or my feeling

230
00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:34,679
Speaker 1: of oldness, was realizing that millennials, which is my generation again,

231
00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:38,000
Speaker 1: that we were no longer the problem child. We were

232
00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:41,840
Speaker 1: no longer the generation that people would complain about and

233
00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:46,240
Speaker 1: you know, millennials never want to work and so many things.

234
00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:50,400
Speaker 1: And I've noticed that people were complaining about other generations

235
00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:52,920
Speaker 1: and we are no longer. Sometimes we're the generation that's

236
00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:56,439
Speaker 1: actually complaining about other generations. And that was I think

237
00:12:56,480 --> 00:12:59,600
Speaker 1: a big wake up call. I think that probably started

238
00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:03,360
Speaker 1: happening and during the pandemic at some point when gen

239
00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:05,880
Speaker 1: Z kind of had and started to have more of

240
00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:09,760
Speaker 1: an impression on us, mostly through the rise of I

241
00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:15,120
Speaker 1: think TikTok. And as that happened, what also happened is

242
00:13:15,960 --> 00:13:20,160
Speaker 1: Instagram became to gen Z, which used to be cool, right.

243
00:13:20,160 --> 00:13:23,800
Speaker 1: Instagram used to be cool what Facebook now is to millennials. Right,

244
00:13:23,920 --> 00:13:27,760
Speaker 1: So our parents' generation is using Facebook. We used to

245
00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:30,000
Speaker 1: do that, then they kind of took it over, and

246
00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:32,760
Speaker 1: then we had Instagram, and then gen Z started TikTok

247
00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:35,080
Speaker 1: and then like we're I don't know how to use

248
00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:37,480
Speaker 1: TikTok like that as like this old joke running joke.

249
00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:40,480
Speaker 1: And I think that was also a wake up call, like, oh,

250
00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:42,320
Speaker 1: we aren't even like in the know of like the

251
00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:48,800
Speaker 1: cool social media. And I've talked about this writer journalist

252
00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:52,120
Speaker 1: named Anne Helen Peterson. I've used a lot of her

253
00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:56,559
Speaker 1: writing on other episodes because I find what she has

254
00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:59,720
Speaker 1: to say so interesting, and she does a lot of

255
00:14:00,480 --> 00:14:04,600
Speaker 1: really great culture content and recently came out with a

256
00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:06,720
Speaker 1: new podcast that I'm excited to get into. But I

257
00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:10,240
Speaker 1: found it article as I was doing some internet research

258
00:14:10,320 --> 00:14:12,480
Speaker 1: about the process of getting older and if it was

259
00:14:12,559 --> 00:14:16,040
Speaker 1: just me, and I found this article she wrote about

260
00:14:16,400 --> 00:14:18,680
Speaker 1: millennials getting older, which I was like, this is literally

261
00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:21,200
Speaker 1: perfect and it really spoke to me on so many levels.

262
00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:23,200
Speaker 1: I'm going to link the whole article in case anybody

263
00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:26,440
Speaker 1: wants to read the whole thing, because she talks about

264
00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:28,120
Speaker 1: a lot more than what I'm going to talk about.

265
00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:32,360
Speaker 1: But this part at first really really captured what I

266
00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:34,360
Speaker 1: think I've been trying to save for the past five minutes.

267
00:14:34,880 --> 00:14:44,320
Speaker 1: And in her article she writes, this part at first

268
00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:47,160
Speaker 1: really really captured what I think I've been trying to

269
00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:49,960
Speaker 1: save for the past five minutes. And in her article

270
00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:54,440
Speaker 1: she writes, something interesting happens when you realize your generation

271
00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:58,280
Speaker 1: isn't this center of the discourse anymore. I'm not even

272
00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:01,760
Speaker 1: talking about being the locus of cool. More like you

273
00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:05,960
Speaker 1: just seem to matter less. People are less anxious about you,

274
00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:10,120
Speaker 1: less mad about you. If anything, they seem slightly annoyed

275
00:15:10,120 --> 00:15:13,400
Speaker 1: by you. You're no longer the future, You're the well

276
00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:17,280
Speaker 1: worn middle. And I feel like for me, since the

277
00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:20,880
Speaker 1: war on skinny jeans kind of commenced a couple of

278
00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:24,800
Speaker 1: years ago, I have been forced to realize I am

279
00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:27,880
Speaker 1: now of the same age of people that I used

280
00:15:27,920 --> 00:15:31,000
Speaker 1: to look at and say things like they dress really

281
00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:34,120
Speaker 1: cute for their age, you know, like looking at your

282
00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:38,880
Speaker 1: teachers or maybe your friend's moms and being like, oh, wow,

283
00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:41,360
Speaker 1: they dress really cool for being a mom or something

284
00:15:41,440 --> 00:15:44,480
Speaker 1: like that. I'm at that age, and as that has

285
00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:49,200
Speaker 1: been happening behind the scenes. Somewhere along that process, I

286
00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:52,080
Speaker 1: don't think I realized when exactly this happened, but I

287
00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:56,720
Speaker 1: also started caring more about the comfort and sensibility of

288
00:15:56,760 --> 00:16:01,360
Speaker 1: a shoe versus the style of what it was, and

289
00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:04,520
Speaker 1: that really has been a wake up call to me.

290
00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:06,840
Speaker 1: Me and my sister used to, and we still do,

291
00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:11,640
Speaker 1: joke about wearing a sensible shoe because it's something that

292
00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:17,000
Speaker 1: our grandparents would say. And I now choose shoes because

293
00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:19,520
Speaker 1: of their comfort level and refuse to wear shoes that

294
00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:22,640
Speaker 1: hurt my feet at least for long periods of time,

295
00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:25,800
Speaker 1: it's not worth it. And I'm just having this wake

296
00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:28,600
Speaker 1: up call to a level of adulthood that I thought

297
00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:31,800
Speaker 1: would always be in my future versus my actual reality,

298
00:16:31,840 --> 00:16:35,040
Speaker 1: my present. And I guess also what I'm saying I

299
00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:39,560
Speaker 1: talked about this on Instagram last week is I know

300
00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:42,840
Speaker 1: that I have suffered from some sort of or form

301
00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:47,800
Speaker 1: of forever young delusional syndrome until I found myself in

302
00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:52,200
Speaker 1: my closet getting rid of these nonsensible shoes and digging

303
00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:56,680
Speaker 1: through a closet of skinny jeans and realizing that the

304
00:16:56,720 --> 00:16:58,800
Speaker 1: clothes that I have are not the clothes that the

305
00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,120
Speaker 1: kids are wearing these days. Is for lack of a

306
00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:03,960
Speaker 1: better way to say that. And I don't know if

307
00:17:03,960 --> 00:17:07,280
Speaker 1: that started when I was watching an episode of Call

308
00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:09,920
Speaker 1: Her Daddy, which some of those episodes are really good.

309
00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:12,040
Speaker 1: I used to not like that podcast. Some of those

310
00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:15,439
Speaker 1: episodes have been really fun and interesting to watch and

311
00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,679
Speaker 1: listen to. But I was watching one day this episode

312
00:17:19,080 --> 00:17:22,879
Speaker 1: where Morgan Stewart, who is like a pop culture you know,

313
00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:26,280
Speaker 1: host of sorts, She was telling the host Alex Cooper

314
00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:28,600
Speaker 1: about you know what's in what's out? And she said,

315
00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:33,600
Speaker 1: ankle boots that have a heel are unacceptable. And I

316
00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:37,240
Speaker 1: don't know about the people listening, but half of the

317
00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:41,080
Speaker 1: shoes in my closet were ankle booties that I wore

318
00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:43,720
Speaker 1: with my skinny jeans, and there was that slight, you know,

319
00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:47,360
Speaker 1: you could have that little space of skin between where

320
00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:51,400
Speaker 1: your your skinny jeans stopped and where your ankle booties started.

321
00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:54,600
Speaker 1: And recently I've heard, oh, you know, when you wear

322
00:17:54,600 --> 00:17:56,320
Speaker 1: your tennis shoes, you supposed to wear high socks, and

323
00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:57,639
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I don't. I mean, I thought we

324
00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:01,480
Speaker 1: were sports sports, no show socks. So all of that

325
00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:04,920
Speaker 1: has just been really not that it's the biggest deal

326
00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:06,600
Speaker 1: in the world for me. I think also with all

327
00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:09,720
Speaker 1: of this, it comes to adult part of me saying,

328
00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:11,399
Speaker 1: you know, I don't really care if I have socks

329
00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:15,040
Speaker 1: that are comfortable and I like and they don't show

330
00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:16,640
Speaker 1: the skin when I'm wearing my tennis shoes aill wear,

331
00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:18,040
Speaker 1: but I'm not going to go out of my way

332
00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:21,080
Speaker 1: to continue to buy the right socks with my outfits,

333
00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:24,320
Speaker 1: especially for that part of my outfits. And I'm going

334
00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:26,240
Speaker 1: to keep my skinny jeans. I might buy some other

335
00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:28,879
Speaker 1: jeans because you know, I really have enjoyed this trend

336
00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:32,760
Speaker 1: of the baggier jeans very comfortable, but I don't know

337
00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:35,800
Speaker 1: that I care to throw my skinny jeans away because

338
00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:39,080
Speaker 1: I like them and they have been the highwaysed skinny

339
00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:42,480
Speaker 1: jeans have been good friends of mine for years. And

340
00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:44,680
Speaker 1: so I became very curious about all of this as

341
00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:46,359
Speaker 1: I was thinking about it, And like I said, I

342
00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:50,280
Speaker 1: posted some of this on Instagram last week and I asked,

343
00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:53,919
Speaker 1: what the kind of realities of your own adulthood surprised you?

344
00:18:54,520 --> 00:18:56,399
Speaker 1: What did you think you were going to kind of

345
00:18:56,400 --> 00:18:58,200
Speaker 1: be immune to until you woke up in the middle

346
00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:01,280
Speaker 1: of it and at me some really good answers. I

347
00:19:01,280 --> 00:19:03,720
Speaker 1: want to read some of them and maybe talk about them.

348
00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:06,200
Speaker 1: A lot of them were the same. A lot of

349
00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:07,919
Speaker 1: you guys said the same things, and I think that

350
00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:10,240
Speaker 1: is very interesting. And a lot of you were very

351
00:19:10,359 --> 00:19:12,639
Speaker 1: very confused about the ankle booty thing as well. And

352
00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:15,240
Speaker 1: so I think part of that is we're going to

353
00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:17,679
Speaker 1: unite and continue to wear the shoes that we enjoy

354
00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:20,119
Speaker 1: versus the shoes that somebody is telling us we should

355
00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:22,320
Speaker 1: wear or not. And I do think that part of

356
00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:25,320
Speaker 1: that comes from being an adult, from being older and

357
00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:28,359
Speaker 1: realizing that we aren't the epitome of cool, and that's

358
00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:31,520
Speaker 1: not our goal anymore. And it kind of feels nice

359
00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:33,840
Speaker 1: to be here. Some of the things that you guys

360
00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:36,879
Speaker 1: sent in. I'm like, yeah, me too, and also I

361
00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:39,720
Speaker 1: like it here. So let's get into some of those

362
00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:43,199
Speaker 1: things what they were. So somebody said, as a kid,

363
00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:45,400
Speaker 1: I was confused why my parents didn't know how old

364
00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:48,520
Speaker 1: they were. I'm twenty seven, and I get it now,

365
00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:52,560
Speaker 1: which that's funny because I felt that when I was

366
00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:55,120
Speaker 1: turning I'm thirty four. When I was turning thirty three,

367
00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:57,320
Speaker 1: I was like, wait, am I turning thirty three? Or

368
00:19:57,359 --> 00:20:01,720
Speaker 1: am I thirty three? And as our birthdays start to

369
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:04,399
Speaker 1: kind of matter less and we might not want to

370
00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:06,560
Speaker 1: pay attention to the number as much. Yeah, I totally

371
00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:08,280
Speaker 1: get that, And that used to be I used to

372
00:20:08,359 --> 00:20:11,640
Speaker 1: be so confused by that as well. Somebody else said,

373
00:20:11,680 --> 00:20:15,840
Speaker 1: I save lunch meat, cheese and cool whip containers, which

374
00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:19,480
Speaker 1: you must have really nice lunch meat and cheese containers

375
00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:23,600
Speaker 1: mine coming and bags, but the cool oup containers. I

376
00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:28,320
Speaker 1: made a dish this Christmas or sometime last year that

377
00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,119
Speaker 1: had a lot of cool wip in it, and you

378
00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:34,320
Speaker 1: know that was my grandmother saved the cool containers would

379
00:20:34,320 --> 00:20:37,879
Speaker 1: save actually save ziploc bags. And it's funny because you

380
00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:39,720
Speaker 1: would get something out of the freezer and it would

381
00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:42,440
Speaker 1: have a date on it and like the name of something,

382
00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:44,040
Speaker 1: and it wouldn't mean what was in there. It's because

383
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:48,080
Speaker 1: these are now reusable containers. I've been saving the Chinese

384
00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:51,280
Speaker 1: takeout containers. You know, they don't come in just those

385
00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: you know, paper boxes anymore. You're getting these reusable containers,

386
00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:59,120
Speaker 1: and I'm all for that. It saves us a buck

387
00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:03,600
Speaker 1: or two. At Walmart. Another person said, I've become passionate

388
00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:08,119
Speaker 1: about vacuums functionality, and I talk about it with other people.

389
00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:11,119
Speaker 1: I get that a lot of people talked about vacuums.

390
00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,439
Speaker 1: A lot of people said that vacuums are really important

391
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:16,680
Speaker 1: to them these days, and you know, I agree. Having

392
00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 1: heated discussions about which grocery store is the best with friends,

393
00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,840
Speaker 1: I get that too. You know, there's a debate my

394
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 1: fiance and I used to have about Publics and Trader Joe's.

395
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:28,200
Speaker 1: And while Trader Joe's doesn't have as many items and

396
00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 1: all the things that Publics has, it is a more

397
00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:34,040
Speaker 1: exciting store, I find, and I still miss doing my

398
00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,000
Speaker 1: normal grocery store shopping there because I did lose that battle,

399
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:40,040
Speaker 1: mainly because publics is closer to us. A lot of

400
00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:42,040
Speaker 1: you guys said, but this is just a quote from

401
00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,200
Speaker 1: one person. How much I love going to bed early

402
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,919
Speaker 1: and feeling thankful for feeling rested the next day. That

403
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 1: was a big deal for a lot of you. Is

404
00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 1: the awakening of enjoying going to bed early and enjoying

405
00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:55,919
Speaker 1: waking up early and having the whole day instead of

406
00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,680
Speaker 1: sleeping in. This was interesting, and I get this too.

407
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,919
Speaker 1: Professional sports play peak at a age that is younger

408
00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 1: than me. And somebody else said when I realized celebrities

409
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 1: are younger than me, and that has been wild, especially

410
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 1: as we and as I've noticed that, like the people

411
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:13,719
Speaker 1: that were cool when I was younger, like justin Timberlake,

412
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:17,640
Speaker 1: or I mean like Britney Spears or all of these

413
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:21,680
Speaker 1: like bands, Paramour, Green Day, all these bands that were

414
00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:25,600
Speaker 1: like the bands growing up and the people to go

415
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 1: see like Pink, Avril Levine. A lot of them are

416
00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:30,919
Speaker 1: still making music and still working, but they're not like

417
00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:34,240
Speaker 1: the cool thing anymore. And I think it was in sync.

418
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,880
Speaker 1: Maybe it was the Bactray Boys, one of those boy

419
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:39,120
Speaker 1: bands did like you No, it was in sync because

420
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:42,560
Speaker 1: they recently did this reunion on an awards show of

421
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,960
Speaker 1: some sort and it was the biggest deal ever. And

422
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:47,439
Speaker 1: I'm like, remember when this used to just be like

423
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 1: the act and Justin Timberlake isn't the coolest guy on

424
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:54,440
Speaker 1: the block anymore. I wonder if he feels that or

425
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:57,480
Speaker 1: if anyway that it was actually really interesting? Is that

426
00:22:57,560 --> 00:22:59,800
Speaker 1: like the And it's an experience that you know, we've

427
00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 1: heard our parents talk about of, you know, in my

428
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:03,960
Speaker 1: day or I used to listen to them when I

429
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,440
Speaker 1: was young, and it's like they aren't cool anymore. Mom.

430
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:12,000
Speaker 1: That's been very odd to experience. Also, when like the

431
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:13,959
Speaker 1: people that you're listening to now you're like, oh, that

432
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:17,119
Speaker 1: person's twenty one. I'm a fan of theirs. That feels

433
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:21,200
Speaker 1: so strange. Okay. Another person said increasing the font size

434
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:24,120
Speaker 1: on my phone, and oh my gosh, I haven't done

435
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:26,800
Speaker 1: that yet, but it's one of those things that I've

436
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 1: been known to make fun of my mom for and

437
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:34,199
Speaker 1: I am not going to love the day when that

438
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 1: gets thrown back in my face. Somebody said, becoming my

439
00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:40,879
Speaker 1: father and noticing prince and grime on every door and

440
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,639
Speaker 1: light switch, and oh, my gosh, that's not exactly what

441
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,879
Speaker 1: I've noticed, but in the sense of just caring about

442
00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 1: things that you used to not care about in that way,

443
00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 1: like caring about settling up certain areas of the house

444
00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 1: or organizing certain things, or stuff that just wasn't important

445
00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 1: to you is now actually very important to you. Another

446
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: person said chin hairs, which is so funny to me

447
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 1: waking up and noticing that, like, oh, I get like

448
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:11,720
Speaker 1: a random hair in spots that I used to look

449
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:13,840
Speaker 1: at other people and being like, why do you have

450
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:17,679
Speaker 1: that hair there? Very very interesting. A couple of you

451
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:22,199
Speaker 1: guys said stuff about needing to prioritize stretching. Yeah, I

452
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 1: mean the what sixty seconds of stretching I used to

453
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 1: do as a kid before and after if that soccer practice,

454
00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:31,480
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I don't need a stretch.

455
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:34,400
Speaker 1: I don't stretch. Stretches that important. And now these days

456
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 1: I'm like going to bed using a heating pad on

457
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:39,879
Speaker 1: my back on and off because probably of all those

458
00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:42,400
Speaker 1: years I did not stretch properly. Now my muscles are

459
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,879
Speaker 1: just so fatigued and out of whack, and you know,

460
00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: my hip fuels out of alignment. And all of that

461
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,439
Speaker 1: stuff is actually catching out to me. Refusing to go

462
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 1: to concerts too late and this. Yes, I will say

463
00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,880
Speaker 1: I've always been kind of an early bird, but I've

464
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,399
Speaker 1: said that multiple time. Why does this show have to

465
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 1: start so late? Why did it start at nine pm?

466
00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 1: Can we start at seven? And right before the pandemic hit,

467
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 1: I had tickets to a Chelsea Cutler concert and I

468
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 1: went to my friend's house before and I asked her

469
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,000
Speaker 1: when she started, because I think there might have been

470
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:17,679
Speaker 1: an opener or something like that, and she looked at

471
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 1: me and she was either eight or nine o'clock. I

472
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 1: want to say it was a nine. And I just said,

473
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not going to go. I'm not going

474
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 1: to that concert. And I just bailed right before we're

475
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 1: going to leave. Turns out, literally the world shut down

476
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 1: like two days later. That was the last concert I

477
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,560
Speaker 1: would have gone to in years. I don't though that

478
00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:38,760
Speaker 1: I regretted that though, because I really liked going home

479
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: and being able to just go to bed. Somebody else

480
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:43,240
Speaker 1: said going to work and coming home just to say

481
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:45,880
Speaker 1: my feet hurt, and I agree that goes with kind

482
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:49,399
Speaker 1: of the stretching stuff and the sensible shoes. How frustrating

483
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 1: it is to forget to get me out of the

484
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: freezer for dinner. This is oh my gosh. Yes, yeah,

485
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 1: you would think like, why is it such a big deal,

486
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: But this has become a constant story in my life.

487
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 1: And the last one I'm going to share that somebody

488
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:08,719
Speaker 1: sent in was when they reorganize Target or the grocery store.

489
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 1: It pisces me off more than I realize. Oh my god. Yes,

490
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,399
Speaker 1: especially the seasonal the Target with the seasonal stuff, or

491
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,359
Speaker 1: when you go to a different Target or a different

492
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 1: grocery store and it's not your neighborhood one. It's the

493
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:24,159
Speaker 1: same one, same public, same target, but it's organized different,

494
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 1: and you're like, I can't shop here, this isn't mine.

495
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 1: Like that has become a very big deal for me. Yeah,

496
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 1: you like your systems. Okay, So back to this article

497
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,159
Speaker 1: I mentioned earlier that again I will put in the

498
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 1: show notes in case you guys want to read it.

499
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:46,920
Speaker 1: The whole thing's very interesting and I thought very thought provoking,

500
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:49,280
Speaker 1: but I did want to share just one part, in particular,

501
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:52,960
Speaker 1: more so the conclusion with you before I end this

502
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 1: episode myself and give my final thoughts and for context,

503
00:26:57,280 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: much of this article, and much of the meat of it,

504
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:03,399
Speaker 1: is about why, and particularly millennials are surprised by feeling

505
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 1: old and how we maybe are set up a bit differently,

506
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 1: and certain milestones that feel like they are a pillar

507
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: of adulthood and kind of the entry ticket into what

508
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 1: we perceived as being an adult were just kind of

509
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:18,719
Speaker 1: harder for us or different for us. Examples of that

510
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:22,680
Speaker 1: are buying a house and finding financial security and gaining

511
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 1: financial security. So I want to read this little part

512
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:27,160
Speaker 1: and then I'm going to kind of try to sum

513
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:29,919
Speaker 1: up my thoughts on all of this. So here is

514
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:35,239
Speaker 1: her writing. Some of these millennials have become callous narcissists.

515
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 1: Alienation does wild things to people, but in many cases,

516
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:44,400
Speaker 1: particularly further down the wealth chart, I think the turn inward,

517
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:48,359
Speaker 1: the blinkered concern for me and mine, is guided less

518
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 1: by malice and more by exhaustion. The situation reminds me

519
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: of a conversation I had a few years ago with

520
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: a policy expert in early childhood education. In short, people

521
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 1: don't realize how bad it is until they find themselves

522
00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:05,159
Speaker 1: in the thick of it, and for a few years

523
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 1: they're furious, but amidst that fury. They're also just barely

524
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:13,199
Speaker 1: treading water, trying to balance the costs and sick days

525
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 1: and after care and jobs and other kids. By the

526
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 1: time their kids are out of care, they've depleted their

527
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 1: rage and their desire to do the sort of ongoing

528
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,880
Speaker 1: work that would make things different and better for parents

529
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 1: to come. That's where I fear millennials have found themselves.

530
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 1: We became clear eyed about all the way society is

531
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 1: set up to fail. So many of us came to

532
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:41,040
Speaker 1: understand racism as systemic instead of just interpersonal, rejected or

533
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: refined the politics of our parents. But now we feel

534
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 1: too exhausted, too old to fix things, which is why

535
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 1: I cringe at the end quotes gen Z will Save

536
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 1: Us narrative. Its main purpose is not to praise gen Z,

537
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,280
Speaker 1: but to excuse other generations from the hard work of

538
00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 1: saving ourselves and each other. There's nothing wrong with feeling older.

539
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 1: I like it here, and I know a lot of

540
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 1: you do too. But as our generation ages, we have

541
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:13,720
Speaker 1: to be vigilant about the ways in which fatigue and

542
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 1: fear can blot out even the brightest hopes for a different,

543
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 1: more equitable world. Because even if you do find a

544
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 1: modicum of security, it's still not going to feel like enough.

545
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: You'll want more, and that won't feel like enough either.

546
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 1: When you're this condition to procarity, no personal safety net

547
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 1: is ever robust enough to actually make you feel safe.

548
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 1: You need something more robust, something that's built for and

549
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 1: supported by well everyone. The boomer father of an ex

550
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: boyfriend used to tell me, yeah, you're liberal. Now just

551
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:48,960
Speaker 1: wait till you get older. Have some kids, own a house,

552
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 1: pay property taxes, live in the real world, and you'll

553
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 1: see what happens. You've probably heard some version of that too,

554
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: and yes, that was the way for a whole lot

555
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:01,120
Speaker 1: of our parents and grandparents, but it missed all of

556
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 1: these novel, hilarious and introspective moments of feeling old. I

557
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 1: keep reminding myself, it doesn't have to be ours, and

558
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 1: this is me talking. I kind of started this episode

559
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 1: wanting to just laugh over the funny things that surprised

560
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 1: us about being an adult and how delusional I was

561
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 1: about thinking that that would never be me, even though

562
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 1: that is just a natural and normal progression of life.

563
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 1: And what I'm learning about being an adult is that

564
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 1: as much as it sucks to have to pay for

565
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 1: your own groceries. I always laugh when I think about

566
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 1: this growth in me where like in college, which I'm

567
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 1: pretty sure this is the majority of people. Where in

568
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 1: college I would buy the generic shampoo and body wash

569
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: and literally would take toilet paper from the public bathroom

570
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: and my sorority house downstairs instead of going to buy

571
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 1: my own toilet paper because there was always an endless

572
00:30:57,480 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 1: supply down there. I would do that. But then when

573
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 1: my mom would come in town and my dad would

574
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:05,080
Speaker 1: come in town, I would just like, you know, go rogue.

575
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 1: When they would take me to Costco and buy the

576
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: nicest of all the things, I would like scrounge. I

577
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 1: would literally like fill up my shampoo bottle with water

578
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 1: to make it last longer, and then like to you know,

579
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 1: wait until they got there, and then I would splurge

580
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 1: on this thing that would never buy myself. And even

581
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 1: though now I have to buy my own toilet trees

582
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,239
Speaker 1: and it's so annoying because who wants to spend their

583
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 1: money on that, at the same time, sometimes I just

584
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 1: love going and buying like a luxurious bottle of body wash.

585
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 1: There's something that I like about that. When I was younger,

586
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 1: I was like body wash, I don't want that. I

587
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 1: want something cool. I want to spend my money on

588
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 1: something cooler. So even though I'm kind of getting off

589
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 1: subject here, but as I've grown, my feelings have changed

590
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 1: about spending money on certain things. And you know, not

591
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 1: all my money is fun money, and the things that

592
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 1: are fun to me have changed. Even though that all

593
00:31:57,840 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 1: has happened, and it's some that I would have looked

594
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 1: back on and hoped would have never happened, as I

595
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 1: have settled into it, it comes with this more settling

596
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: sensation of enjoyment. I like she said in that article,

597
00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: I like it here. I like not having to do

598
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: so much in areas that I truly don't care about anymore.

599
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: That pressure is off, and maybe the pressure has moved

600
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 1: to different spaces, but I really enjoy being able to

601
00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 1: spend my money on a nice bottle of shampoo versus

602
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 1: the newest, coolest whatever it is. Maybe it's concert tickets

603
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,479
Speaker 1: of a concert that starts at ten pm, you know, like,

604
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 1: I'm not upset about the shifts that I have taken.

605
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 1: I'm uncool and I'm okay with it. Or maybe I'm cool.

606
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's hard to know. It's cool these days.

607
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 1: And also it's not as it's not important if I

608
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 1: am or not, and I could be called lame, and

609
00:32:58,360 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 1: sometimes that might feel like a compliment because what your

610
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 1: version of lame is is my version of luxury, you know.

611
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 1: And I've even seen a change in like the types

612
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: of workouts I do and the resistance I felt lately

613
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 1: about buying these cute workout clothes or expensive workout stuff

614
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 1: like I used to. I used to love that stuff,

615
00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 1: you know. A matching set to wear to the cycling

616
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 1: studio was like the best day ever. One of my

617
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 1: main motivations for running was a new running outfit like

618
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 1: that was so important to me, And now I'm I've

619
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 1: even had a conversation with this with the trainer that

620
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 1: I work with. I said, I've just got to realize

621
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: that I'm only going to wear black leggings, so I

622
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 1: got to stop buying the colored leggings. I don't like them.

623
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: I don't care if they're super cute, They're not what

624
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 1: I want to wear. And I've I've got to just

625
00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 1: stick with the black leggings, even if it doesn't match

626
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 1: the top that I have. And again, I don't care.

627
00:33:56,600 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 1: I've enjoyed going to a new gym that also doesn't

628
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,239
Speaker 1: care about what you're wearing. It's not the place to

629
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 1: be seen, which is where I used to find myself

630
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 1: working out. I went to the coolest places. I would

631
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 1: go on vacations, and one of my favorite things to

632
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 1: do is to check out their coolest new boutique fitness studio.

633
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 1: Now I'm like, I'll just go on a walk, like

634
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:20,360
Speaker 1: I don't really care to get that picture at that gym,

635
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:24,840
Speaker 1: and I like it here. I'll walk with my hand

636
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 1: weights that to some people might be embarrassing. I'm like,

637
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 1: that sounds pretty cool. And it doesn't mean that buying

638
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:35,439
Speaker 1: those outfits or caring about those gems or doing any

639
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:37,799
Speaker 1: of that stuff that I don't. I'm realizing that I'm

640
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:41,480
Speaker 1: doing less of is bad. It's just noticing that it's different.

641
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 1: And I actually like the difference. And I used to

642
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,400
Speaker 1: assume that I wouldn't. I assume that it must feel

643
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,240
Speaker 1: bad to not have cool clothes or to have an outdating,

644
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:55,800
Speaker 1: outdated haircut, but actually for me, it feels very calm,

645
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: and I guess I really needed to acknowledge that I

646
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:01,880
Speaker 1: don't know that's something that you guys are resonating with

647
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 1: but I really needed to acknowledge that to really continue

648
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: to allow myself to live in it. That like, no, no,

649
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:11,839
Speaker 1: you like this, versus this story in my head that

650
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 1: I shouldn't like this. But it's like, wait, no, you

651
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,880
Speaker 1: do like this, so you can keep doing that. You

652
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:18,799
Speaker 1: don't have to do this anymore. You really don't like

653
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:21,399
Speaker 1: it that much. And part of that was because maybe

654
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 1: I didn't want to feel old. But now that I'm

655
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 1: sitting here having this conversation with you guys, and I've

656
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 1: been thinking about it, is like, feeling old is not

657
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: that bad. And I'm thirty four, so I know that

658
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 1: that might sound annoying to you guys. Maybe I should

659
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 1: use this phrase like feeling older isn't that bad. This

660
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,239
Speaker 1: is a subjective conversation, and some of you guys might say,

661
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 1: like I don't like that terminology, like I feel young

662
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 1: and sure when I use the term old, I'm not

663
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 1: talking about like I feel decrepit and I feel like

664
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:50,720
Speaker 1: I'm about to fall over. It's just like I feel

665
00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 1: not young. I feel like an adult that should know

666
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:58,759
Speaker 1: how to buy insurance. So really, this is again one

667
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 1: of those episodes, just like last week, where there's not

668
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 1: this tangible takeaway, or there's this action item for you,

669
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:06,880
Speaker 1: which sometimes can be hard for me to leave you with,

670
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 1: and it can be hard for me to end to

671
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: episodes without one. But I think what I'm realizing, as

672
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: I'm saying this all out loud and I'm hearing it

673
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 1: back from myself, is that there's a couple of things. One,

674
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 1: it's nice to be here, and I want to continue

675
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 1: to take on that attitude as maybe getting older continues

676
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,919
Speaker 1: to scare me for certain reasons, or I just don't

677
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 1: want to be I have this idea in my head

678
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 1: that I don't want to turn into my parents, when like,

679
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 1: actually it might be nice to turn into them. I

680
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 1: want to keep this mindset of I don't know what

681
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 1: it's going to be like to be there, and so

682
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 1: having an attitude of resistance might not be the most

683
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 1: helpful attitude, because then I might miss out on a

684
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: lot of experiences that feel really good to me. And

685
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 1: the other part I really think is important to note

686
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 1: is this essence of offering grace and compassion and understanding

687
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:03,759
Speaker 1: to generations above and below. And we've been where the

688
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,879
Speaker 1: gen zs are, where we've looked at millennials and they're

689
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 1: looking at us saying like, oh my gosh, that's so

690
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:12,799
Speaker 1: millennial of you, the millennial tuck with the shirt. I'm like, okay,

691
00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 1: I'm still doing that. It's comfortable to me. And they

692
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:17,360
Speaker 1: can be like, oh my god, it's so millennial, you

693
00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 1: know what I mean. I've looked at the generation above

694
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 1: me being like, oh my gosh, that's so not in anymore.

695
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:25,319
Speaker 1: And so I can have a little fun with that

696
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:28,239
Speaker 1: and it doesn't have to be so serious, and I

697
00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 1: can be okay with them thinking that I have an

698
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:35,360
Speaker 1: outdated wardrobe. And again I'm using wardrobe continuously. It's just

699
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:38,760
Speaker 1: an easy thing to talk about insert anything that shifted

700
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,200
Speaker 1: in like some of those examples that I gave, And

701
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 1: so with that also grace, compassion and understanding for the

702
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 1: generation above us, where maybe they know something that we

703
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 1: don't know yet, maybe that there is wisdom that comes

704
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 1: with age and we should take that into account. Sometimes

705
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 1: there's some stubbornness, and I think that's what in the

706
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:01,440
Speaker 1: end of that article is talking about. It doesn't we

707
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:04,200
Speaker 1: don't have to stay in that stubbornness of I'm older

708
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 1: and this is how it is, and this is how

709
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 1: it's gonna be, and that's not what the wisdom is.

710
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: The wisdom is, Oh, maybe they have some information that

711
00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 1: we don't have, and rather than rejecting all of it

712
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: because it feels older and outdated, maybe we should look

713
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: at it and use it to our advantage. Like, what

714
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:21,919
Speaker 1: can we do with this attitude that they have in order?

715
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 1: Maybe there's an attitude we don't want to have, and

716
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 1: so let's look at how they got there. And I

717
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:27,880
Speaker 1: don't know if any of that makes sense, but it

718
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 1: makes sense to me. Yeah, interesting stuff. So if any

719
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:38,239
Speaker 1: of you guys have any thoughts on this, stories, funny, serious,

720
00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 1: all of the above, you can send them to me

721
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: Katherine at You Need Therapy podcast dot com. You can

722
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:47,239
Speaker 1: follow me Catherine dot defada and at you Need Therapy Podcast.

723
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 1: And thanks for being here and listening to my ramblings.

724
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: I am working on an episode, hopefully that one will

725
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:58,680
Speaker 1: come out next week that is focused on some more

726
00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:02,760
Speaker 1: of our more traditional content, some stuff around diet culture,

727
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: and just some trends that I've been seeing lately, so

728
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 1: that interest you. Make sure to stay tuned for that,

729
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:12,799
Speaker 1: And until then, I hope you have the day you

730
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 1: need to have. Bye, guys,