WEBVTT - "I'M LIVING IN MY CAR, AND IT'S KINDA NICE"

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hi, what's going on with you? Harper?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'll preface this with I am naturally an an introvert.

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<v Speaker 2>I have been living with a lot of roommates more recently.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess I haven't technically lived on my own until

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<v Speaker 2>very recently. But I have been living in my car

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<v Speaker 2>for about a month or so now, and I actually

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<v Speaker 2>really enjoy it. But I'm finding that I'm kind of

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<v Speaker 2>lonely in the friends that I thought I had are

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<v Speaker 2>not as friendly as I thought. I guess.

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<v Speaker 1>This is interesting. Tell me what is it that inspired you?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you? Is this a financial thing? Or are you

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<v Speaker 1>living in your car by choice?

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<v Speaker 2>A little bit of both. I think right now I

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<v Speaker 2>could technically order to live an apartment, but it's really

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<v Speaker 2>expensive here right now, and I wouldn't have any any

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<v Speaker 2>room to save up for anything, or any time to

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<v Speaker 2>pursue anything that would result in me being like paid more,

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<v Speaker 2>if that make sense. And I don't want to get

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<v Speaker 2>stuck in that like spending all my money on apartments

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<v Speaker 2>until I die kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, tell me what you are liking about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I love the solitude, I guess partially, I really like

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<v Speaker 2>the freedom. I just feel like I'm always in my car,

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<v Speaker 2>and if I want to go anywhere, I can just

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<v Speaker 2>get in my car and go. It's made me more

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<v Speaker 2>active since I don't have an apartment to shower in.

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<v Speaker 2>I got a gym membership and I've actually been going

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<v Speaker 2>to the gym for the first time in my life,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm doing my laundering more regularly. I just went

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<v Speaker 2>up into the mountains and took some photographs and edited them,

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<v Speaker 2>just because.

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's always something I've kind of wanted to do

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<v Speaker 2>but never felt like I had the time too. There's

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<v Speaker 2>kind of stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 1>You said that your friends who you said you thought

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<v Speaker 1>were your friends have been not so much fondly to

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<v Speaker 1>you latly tell me about that.

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<v Speaker 3>There's just.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of people that I guess, I don't know I've

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<v Speaker 2>had I've been in Like in high school, you have

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<v Speaker 2>your friends who you see all the time at school,

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<v Speaker 2>and you sometimes see outside of school and you guys

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<v Speaker 2>catch up, and then after high school they just sort

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<v Speaker 2>of fade away even though you were spending time outside

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<v Speaker 2>of high school. Now that you don't have to see

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<v Speaker 2>each other on a regular basis, they just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>don't They aren't there anymore. And so it's like some

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<v Speaker 2>of that from old high school friends that are slowly

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<v Speaker 2>fading away, and friends I thought I made like at jobs.

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<v Speaker 2>When I switched jobs, then they didn't really talk to

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<v Speaker 2>me to hang out outside of work, you know. And

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes I'll offer, I'll, you know, say hey, are you

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<v Speaker 2>free tonight, and then they say yeah, and I say, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>let me know when you get off of work or whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I just don't ever get a response back,

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<v Speaker 2>and just they're not really putting any effort in to

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<v Speaker 2>see me or talk to me or check up on

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<v Speaker 2>me anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>I think.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm curious about something. You seem like you really like

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<v Speaker 1>being alone.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I like being alone because I am an introvert and

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<v Speaker 2>my job right now is dealing with a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people in food service. But I still feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>need some sort of connection friends, people to you know,

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<v Speaker 2>talk to about my day, or like I cut my

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<v Speaker 2>hand open at work and got seven stitches and I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to tell people and I didn't really have people

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<v Speaker 2>to talk to.

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<v Speaker 1>Throughout your life, have you usually had close friends or

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<v Speaker 1>has it been like this kind of for a while.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I've always had at least a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of really close friends, like usually two or three people

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<v Speaker 2>that I hang out at school. Outside of school, I'd

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<v Speaker 2>tell them about all of the deep issues of my life.

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<v Speaker 2>I've never had like a huge your friends, but I

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<v Speaker 2>never really wanted that, just you know, some people that

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<v Speaker 2>were close by.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you see yourself living in your car for a

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<v Speaker 1>long time or do you have plans of eventually getting

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<v Speaker 1>a place anytime soon?

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<v Speaker 2>It kind of depends on financials. I feel like, once

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<v Speaker 2>I feel financially ready enough that I could get my

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<v Speaker 2>own place, that I would, But I'm also kind of

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<v Speaker 2>really liking the car and the life that I'm living.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess besides, the people think.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're experiencing, right, And you told me that before

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<v Speaker 1>this you lived with roommates and that wasn't working out

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<v Speaker 1>for you very well, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Just kind of, you know, needed roommates. I was living

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<v Speaker 2>with my parents, then they went to they left and

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<v Speaker 2>went to Germany when I turned eighteen, and so after

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<v Speaker 2>that I lived with my boyfriend and his family, and

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<v Speaker 2>then we broke up, and then it was roommates. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I actually lived with a friend for a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of months who said, you know, I took some time

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<v Speaker 2>off of work because I was really burnt out from it,

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<v Speaker 2>and so that kind of fucked me. And after the

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<v Speaker 2>police was up with the roommates, they all went their

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<v Speaker 2>separate ways and I couldn't keep the apartment, so I

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<v Speaker 2>was staying with a friend who was offering to help.

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<v Speaker 2>And then that friend kind of kicked me out and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't exactly know why, but she is also very introverted,

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<v Speaker 2>so I think she might have just been overwhelmed by

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<v Speaker 2>me being there in general. And then I was in

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<v Speaker 2>my car.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you generally happy with where your life is at

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<v Speaker 1>right now?

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<v Speaker 2>I I think I'm kind of accepting it, like I'm

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not unhappy with it, but it's you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>the kind of person that's like, it could always be worse,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's never like sure, I'm not upset with it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's really interesting and it'll build character and

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<v Speaker 2>all of that, but you know, I have an image

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<v Speaker 2>of where I'd like to be, and this is not

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<v Speaker 2>really it.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the you have a good perspective about it,

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<v Speaker 1>like the I just I guess the idea that, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, my situation is not my life forever and always.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, how old are.

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<v Speaker 2>You twenty one?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? Cool? All right, So I mean your your perspective

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<v Speaker 1>of it, that this is life right now, I'm actually

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<v Speaker 1>kind of liking it. And you say it's building character.

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<v Speaker 1>What kinds of character do you do? You think it's

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<v Speaker 1>building for you?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, part of it is things that I'm finding out

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<v Speaker 2>that I can do that I never thought I could.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I've always been kind of on the chunkier side

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<v Speaker 2>as a person, but I was never in sports. I

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<v Speaker 2>was never motivated to ever go out and work out.

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<v Speaker 2>And I like back to school, but that was about it.

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<v Speaker 2>And now I'm actually like going to the gym, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>on a regular basis, which I never thought I would

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<v Speaker 2>do because I didn't think I had like the motivation

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<v Speaker 2>for it, and kind of just the resilience of like

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<v Speaker 2>it's you know, it's Colorado in the winter. It's getting cold.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm figuring it out and I'm having a few

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<v Speaker 2>shitty nights here and there, but I think it will

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<v Speaker 2>help with just figuring shit out in the future when

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<v Speaker 2>it goes south.

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<v Speaker 3>Kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. I like at Harper, you have a

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<v Speaker 1>you have a good mindset about things. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>hear you said that it's not how you want to

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<v Speaker 1>live for now you've accepted it and the good and

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<v Speaker 1>the bad as to where you are now, but that

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<v Speaker 1>you have an image in your head of how you

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<v Speaker 1>want life to be and this is not it. Tell

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<v Speaker 1>me more about that image.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the first sentence I ever said as a kid

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<v Speaker 2>was I do it myself, and so I've always been.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's very true to my character. I've always

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<v Speaker 2>been a very like independent, very resilient person, and so

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<v Speaker 2>I always kind of imagine myself, you know, financially comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>with my own job, able to support myself by myself,

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<v Speaker 2>don't need anybody else. And I find that I'm there,

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<v Speaker 2>but in a much poorer situation that I thought I

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<v Speaker 2>would be. I went to School of Mines for metallurgical

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<v Speaker 2>Engineering for a while and had to drop out after COVID,

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<v Speaker 2>and so for a long time I.

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<v Speaker 3>Thought like I was going to be a welder.

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<v Speaker 6>I was going to be an.

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<v Speaker 2>Engineer, like some sort of top not top job cutting,

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<v Speaker 2>but like something more sophisticated. And now I'm working in

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<v Speaker 2>food service, which I don't hate. I actually really liked

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<v Speaker 2>the job, but it obviously doesn't doesn't pay very well.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I'm living in my car, so ideally, in this

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<v Speaker 1>image of your ideal life, what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>I think something. I love the idea of metals, which

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<v Speaker 2>is why I was doing metallurgical engineering, but I also

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<v Speaker 2>I really love being more hands on. I'm not so

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<v Speaker 2>much a paperwork kind of person. I mean, I can

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<v Speaker 2>do calculus like a motherfucker, I'll do that all day,

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<v Speaker 2>but I want to be more like hands on and

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<v Speaker 2>actually doing shit. So I thought of like welding and

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<v Speaker 2>stuff like that in that area.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you see like a practical path in front of

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<v Speaker 1>you as to how you want to move however, fast

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<v Speaker 1>or slow towards that? Do you see away there from

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<v Speaker 1>where you are now?

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<v Speaker 2>I think right now my two main options would be

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<v Speaker 2>either going back to school minds, and I'm still paying

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<v Speaker 2>off debt from that, so the idea of going back

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<v Speaker 2>and then not being able to finish and being an

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<v Speaker 2>even more debt just kind of worsen the problem that

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<v Speaker 2>scares me.

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<v Speaker 4>Well.

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<v Speaker 2>The other option would be going to like a vocational

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<v Speaker 2>school for welding, but I think that would have to

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<v Speaker 2>be something where I was working a job making some

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<v Speaker 2>sort of income as well as doing that, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't really see how I can do that, at least

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<v Speaker 2>in the position that I'm in right now. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think I have the time or the schedule for it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm working every single day this week, and

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<v Speaker 2>I love the job, but it doesn't leave room for

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<v Speaker 2>schooling on the side.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you see a way? I mean, it sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>there are you kind of know what you want to

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<v Speaker 1>do and how to get there, but they're like just

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<v Speaker 1>these these tough financial barriers. I mean, school is fucking expensive,

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<v Speaker 1>and lots of people are just getting railed by debt.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you yeah, either with the job you have right

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<v Speaker 1>now or with what you know of is potentially available

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<v Speaker 1>to you in terms of other jobs, do you see

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<v Speaker 1>a path forward for yourself to be able to overcome

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<v Speaker 1>that financial obstacle. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>I think.

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<v Speaker 2>Another reason I chose to live in my car instead

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<v Speaker 2>of in an apartment is so that I can.

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<v Speaker 3>Save up money.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think if I can save enough where I

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<v Speaker 2>can feel comfortable doing you know, something part time on

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<v Speaker 2>the side and school, that's kind of the goal of

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<v Speaker 2>where I'm working towards just saving up enough.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I I admire you, Harper, because you have

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<v Speaker 1>this vision towards the future that is not free from obstacles.

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<v Speaker 1>But what I what I admire is that you are

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<v Speaker 1>have this ability to look at where your life is

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<v Speaker 1>right now, because we're all on some journey to something,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and you really could think of it as

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<v Speaker 1>you really could waste your whole life waiting to be

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<v Speaker 1>happy until you've achieved the destination of that journey, and

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<v Speaker 1>you really will waste your life doing that. But you

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<v Speaker 1>seem like you have this ability to like kind of

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<v Speaker 1>snuff out whatever is going well, whatever you do, appreciate

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<v Speaker 1>about whatever prong on your journey you're on, and to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to be happy today about that. And I

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<v Speaker 1>really do admire that. I think it's a beautiful thing. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that comes from I've been diagnosed with major

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<v Speaker 2>depression and anxiety and went through the worst times of

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<v Speaker 2>my life in high school and was put on medication

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<v Speaker 2>from my depression and all that, and that helped immensely.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think going through the really fucked up down

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<v Speaker 2>mindset that I was in at that time taught me

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<v Speaker 2>a lot more to kind of appreciate what I do

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<v Speaker 2>have and when I am feeling good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I feel like once you've kind of gone on.

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<v Speaker 1>Once you've ridden the roller coaster a little bit, you

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<v Speaker 1>get a better idea of those ups and downs and

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<v Speaker 1>how to look at it from kind of a more

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<v Speaker 1>macro perspective. Yeah, thanks for sharing all of this, Harper.

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<v Speaker 1>How did this feel? I'm kind of curious. I have

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<v Speaker 1>been asking this to people lately, But how did this

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<v Speaker 1>all feel to talk about?

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's good. It's kind of what I needed

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<v Speaker 2>because obviously, living in your car is not something that

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<v Speaker 2>you talk to everybody about, so I haven't really, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>talked about it much.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that was the one. I guess that was

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<v Speaker 1>the final piece of the puzzle to this is kind

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<v Speaker 1>of because you wrote it down and you told the

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<v Speaker 1>screener about this is the the like stigmatization that you

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<v Speaker 1>feel about living in your car.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Like homelessness in general has gone up, and especially

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<v Speaker 2>in Colorado. You see it in a lot of places.

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<v Speaker 2>I live kind of closer to like the big city Denver,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's really pretty bad, but there's still no talk

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<v Speaker 2>about it. You don't hear anybody talking about it. And

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of times, because you know, I've seen that

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<v Speaker 2>that homelessness around, but never like been in it. You know,

0:16:37.480 --> 0:16:39.960
<v Speaker 2>you hear about how other people talk about it, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's you know, pitiful, it's disgraceful, it's whatever. And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think it.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I think people go through hard shit, but I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think it should be a judge of their character. But

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<v Speaker 2>it is nowadays, it really is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I guess I'm you know, I'm hoping that, like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and having conversations like this, that people can

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<v Speaker 1>kind of see a bit more of a three dimensional

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<v Speaker 1>view of a person in a situation like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, I've always been kind of an advocate for

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<v Speaker 2>homelessness in general, like poverty. I think I've I've always

0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:31.600
<v Speaker 2>wanted to open people's minds up to it, and I

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<v Speaker 2>never liked the idea that a person's situation is who

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<v Speaker 2>they are.

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<v Speaker 6>Kind I think.

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<v Speaker 1>Harper's anything else you want to say to the people

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<v Speaker 1>of the computer before we go.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess just in general that wherever you're at doesn't

0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:52.800
<v Speaker 2>mean that that's where you're going to be, And don't

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<v Speaker 2>be shitty to homeless people.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for calling Harper, Thank you. That was great.

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<v Speaker 1>I liked her a lot. Yeah, I kind of said

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<v Speaker 1>everything that I wanted to say that I admire about her.

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<v Speaker 1>She just seemed I mean, she obviously had a lot

0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:23.360
<v Speaker 1>of problems that she was struggling with, but it didn't

0:18:24.440 --> 0:18:26.679
<v Speaker 1>like she just had this like uncanny ability to like

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<v Speaker 1>look on the bright side of things, you know, like, oh,

0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:39.360
<v Speaker 1>this is the the needing to shower at a at

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<v Speaker 1>a gym has made me more active and I'm getting

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<v Speaker 1>a greater sense of freedom and I'm getting the solitude

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<v Speaker 1>that I've I've been wanting after being with the roommate

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<v Speaker 1>for so long, And she did I don't know. She

0:18:52.880 --> 0:18:57.600
<v Speaker 1>also just seemed like like she had goals for the

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<v Speaker 1>future that she's not in some crazy rush to get

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<v Speaker 1>to in a sense that in a way that would

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<v Speaker 1>make her miserable, but that she is on a conscious

0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:16.800
<v Speaker 1>path towards And yeah, I just I like, I liked

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of things about the way that she was

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<v Speaker 1>thinking and talking about her situation. And I know that

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<v Speaker 1>fucking debt and the education system. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about ship that I have no fucking idea about

0:19:33.680 --> 0:19:37.359
<v Speaker 1>because I'm a get go on the internet, but fucks

0:19:37.520 --> 0:19:41.320
<v Speaker 1>get it gets people fucked over, for sure. I talked

0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:44.520
<v Speaker 1>to a lot of people personal and on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>calls here that get fucked with debt. But but all

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<v Speaker 1>of thatwithstanding, I would not be surprised if Harper, you know,

0:19:57.760 --> 0:20:01.320
<v Speaker 1>many years however, many years from now, it is significantly

0:20:01.359 --> 0:20:06.399
<v Speaker 1>closer to that that ideal image that she was talking about,

0:20:06.440 --> 0:20:10.040
<v Speaker 1>and I hope, I hope she gets there. Hello, Hello, Hi,

0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:10.760
<v Speaker 1>how are you?

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<v Speaker 6>I am, I'm doing good.

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<v Speaker 1>How can I help you?

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<v Speaker 6>My name is Logan. Oh well, I uh, it's it's

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<v Speaker 6>kind of like, Okay, it's gonna sound funny, but I'm addicted.

0:20:24.440 --> 0:20:31.080
<v Speaker 6>I'm addicted to like curtains, Like I don't know, I'm

0:20:31.119 --> 0:20:33.280
<v Speaker 6>just I'm attracted to curtains.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, you're attracted to curtains in what way?

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<v Speaker 6>Like I don't know what like way. It's just kind

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<v Speaker 6>of like, you know, like how your average person is

0:20:44.680 --> 0:20:49.800
<v Speaker 6>attracted to, you know, like another person, or like how

0:20:50.160 --> 0:20:53.879
<v Speaker 6>Jeffrey Dahmer was attracted to whatever he was attracted to.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it's just like logan, Logan, logan, Yes, what

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<v Speaker 1>he's doing.

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<v Speaker 6>M'm I'm I'm coming to get go for therapy. I'm

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<v Speaker 6>like a whole kink thing.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Okay, you really are attracted to curtains? Yeah, okay,

0:21:16.920 --> 0:21:19.120
<v Speaker 1>what do you how do you express your attraction to curtains.

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<v Speaker 6>Uh, well I did well. Instead of using a blanket,

0:21:25.720 --> 0:21:31.480
<v Speaker 6>I use a curtain as a blanket. I don't really

0:21:31.520 --> 0:21:35.199
<v Speaker 6>do anything sexual fuel with the curtains. That's be weird.

0:21:35.760 --> 0:21:37.919
<v Speaker 6>But but yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>How is it is this? How is this a problem

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<v Speaker 1>for you? How has this manifested itself negatively in your life?

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<v Speaker 7>Well?

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<v Speaker 6>What like, it's just people call me weird and stuff.

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<v Speaker 6>If you didn't like when I expressed my problem in

0:21:49.560 --> 0:21:53.080
<v Speaker 6>the chat, I just got slandered or it's so uh,

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<v Speaker 6>I just I just don't know how to. I don't

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<v Speaker 6>know if you could like give me away, like to

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<v Speaker 6>like look at curtains differently.

0:22:01.280 --> 0:22:04.480
<v Speaker 1>Or I can't. I can't. So here's the thing. Look,

0:22:04.520 --> 0:22:09.119
<v Speaker 1>and I can't solve your attraction to curtains. But I

0:22:09.119 --> 0:22:10.800
<v Speaker 1>mean I can tell you what I've told a lot

0:22:10.840 --> 0:22:14.960
<v Speaker 1>of folks who've called in that have you know, sexual

0:22:15.000 --> 0:22:21.000
<v Speaker 1>fetishes that maybe are not of the norm, which is

0:22:21.359 --> 0:22:24.320
<v Speaker 1>that I mean, look, dude, if you want to go

0:22:24.400 --> 0:22:27.360
<v Speaker 1>and take if you want to go into bed, bath

0:22:27.440 --> 0:22:31.320
<v Speaker 1>and beyond, as long as you take the curtains home

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<v Speaker 1>from the store before you do it, wrap your dick

0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:41.280
<v Speaker 1>and curtains all you want. Man, life is short, and

0:22:41.320 --> 0:22:45.960
<v Speaker 1>you're really not hurting anybody by doing that. So if

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<v Speaker 1>the only thing uh standing in between you and having

0:22:52.480 --> 0:22:57.440
<v Speaker 1>sex with curtains is the way that other people feel

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<v Speaker 1>about it, that's not a compelling thing for me. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to think of if there's any moral or ethical

0:23:07.480 --> 0:23:10.000
<v Speaker 1>things here, but I don't think there is. I'm not

0:23:10.119 --> 0:23:14.639
<v Speaker 1>the judge, jury and executioner on that. But if the

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<v Speaker 1>only thing that's really stopping you from having sex with

0:23:18.119 --> 0:23:22.240
<v Speaker 1>these curtains is what your friends might think, this is

0:23:22.320 --> 0:23:24.399
<v Speaker 1>not a compelling reason to me. Logan, I think that

0:23:24.440 --> 0:23:30.359
<v Speaker 1>you should feel compelled to have sex with curtains all

0:23:30.400 --> 0:23:33.880
<v Speaker 1>you want. Now. If you feel as though the curtain

0:23:33.920 --> 0:23:40.879
<v Speaker 1>fucking is preventing you from going out and attempting to

0:23:41.119 --> 0:23:48.280
<v Speaker 1>form sexual relationships with real life people, or it's preventing

0:23:48.280 --> 0:23:54.000
<v Speaker 1>you from moving further positively in your life, then maybe

0:23:54.000 --> 0:23:56.520
<v Speaker 1>it's a problem. But the way that you describe it

0:23:56.560 --> 0:23:58.800
<v Speaker 1>to me, it seems rather harmless.

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<v Speaker 6>No, yeah, totally, I agree with Well, I meant in

0:24:07.320 --> 0:24:11.080
<v Speaker 6>the aspect of like, I just I'm just scared to

0:24:11.119 --> 0:24:15.400
<v Speaker 6>be judged, you know, to like when when I came

0:24:15.440 --> 0:24:19.919
<v Speaker 6>out with this. You know, I just I didn't. I

0:24:19.920 --> 0:24:22.399
<v Speaker 6>didn't know how to tell anyone. I mean, I was

0:24:22.400 --> 0:24:23.639
<v Speaker 6>just super scared to be judged.

0:24:24.000 --> 0:24:26.320
<v Speaker 1>How do you feel about talking about it right now?

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<v Speaker 6>Well, it's like, yeah, it's like it's relieving, I guess.

0:24:33.480 --> 0:24:38.040
<v Speaker 1>Okay, good, good. What kind of curtains do you like

0:24:38.040 --> 0:24:40.320
<v Speaker 1>to have sex with? Is there a color? Is there

0:24:40.320 --> 0:24:45.880
<v Speaker 1>a texture? What specific kind of like are you attracted

0:24:45.920 --> 0:24:48.359
<v Speaker 1>to do? Uh? Uh?

0:24:48.640 --> 0:24:50.359
<v Speaker 6>Gray and white stripes?

0:24:50.800 --> 0:24:54.119
<v Speaker 1>Yes? Okay, you know I thought you were lying, but

0:24:54.160 --> 0:25:02.200
<v Speaker 1>that's actually pretty specific. Yep, thank you for calling Logan.

0:25:03.720 --> 0:25:05.760
<v Speaker 6>All right having a night.

0:25:10.840 --> 0:25:17.880
<v Speaker 1>Now that I think about it, curtains are very soft.

0:25:21.200 --> 0:25:24.360
<v Speaker 1>You know what, I'm gonna go home and fuck my curtains.

0:25:25.040 --> 0:25:27.800
<v Speaker 1>Maybe Logan is onto something. Hello?

0:25:29.560 --> 0:25:37.760
<v Speaker 2>Hello, Hi, Hi, who is this miss Allie?

0:25:39.080 --> 0:25:40.160
<v Speaker 1>What's going on? Ali?

0:25:42.240 --> 0:25:46.159
<v Speaker 5>Well, a lot of the stuff so recently my co

0:25:46.359 --> 0:25:49.600
<v Speaker 5>worker died and it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Been a little rough.

0:25:50.240 --> 0:25:52.359
<v Speaker 5>You know, m hm.

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<v Speaker 1>You were you close with them? Oh?

0:25:57.240 --> 0:26:00.840
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, we well we've been friends for you, you and

0:26:01.800 --> 0:26:04.720
<v Speaker 5>you feels like a long time since I work in

0:26:04.760 --> 0:26:09.960
<v Speaker 5>the food industry and basically you basically walk in and

0:26:10.040 --> 0:26:13.119
<v Speaker 5>work and walk out work together, you know, full they

0:26:13.400 --> 0:26:20.280
<v Speaker 5>in and out to get to know and my one

0:26:20.359 --> 0:26:23.800
<v Speaker 5>coworker who died with friends with another, Well, my friends

0:26:23.800 --> 0:26:33.280
<v Speaker 5>were dating another coworker, So this kind of caused a

0:26:33.800 --> 0:26:36.840
<v Speaker 5>big uh oh.

0:26:37.440 --> 0:26:40.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So let'sten. So you know, you said to the

0:26:40.080 --> 0:26:45.920
<v Speaker 1>call screener that one of your coworkers passed away and

0:26:45.960 --> 0:26:50.320
<v Speaker 1>that this coworker's significant other, the person they were dating.

0:26:51.320 --> 0:26:54.360
<v Speaker 1>You say, they won't leave you alone.

0:26:56.600 --> 0:26:59.800
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, they haven't. They keep treating me as a therapist

0:26:59.840 --> 0:27:03.720
<v Speaker 5>and keeps like even call me after work to talk

0:27:03.760 --> 0:27:06.880
<v Speaker 5>about it, and it is affecting my mental health really bad.

0:27:07.680 --> 0:27:07.880
<v Speaker 6>Mm.

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<v Speaker 1>What a pickle? What a pickle? Okay? So I mean this? Okay,

0:27:16.800 --> 0:27:21.240
<v Speaker 1>So your co worker passed away. Their significant other, who

0:27:21.320 --> 0:27:24.760
<v Speaker 1>you also work with, is having a really tough time

0:27:24.800 --> 0:27:30.040
<v Speaker 1>with it, and they have selected you as the person

0:27:30.960 --> 0:27:35.920
<v Speaker 1>to to to help them through the situation.

0:27:38.119 --> 0:27:41.879
<v Speaker 5>Yeah. They basically tell me that they drink law and

0:27:41.960 --> 0:27:46.440
<v Speaker 5>do drugs and basically all that and it's.

0:27:48.440 --> 0:27:48.800
<v Speaker 7>A lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, huh. I don't really know how to deal

0:27:54.840 --> 0:27:56.439
<v Speaker 1>with this. I don't know how I would deal with this,

0:27:56.520 --> 0:27:59.360
<v Speaker 1>to be honest with you if well.

0:27:59.320 --> 0:28:03.880
<v Speaker 5>Also my friend, so I don't want to like say,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, I don't want to hear this and that

0:28:05.680 --> 0:28:07.399
<v Speaker 5>stuff and don't like, I don't want to sound like

0:28:07.520 --> 0:28:12.280
<v Speaker 5>not supportive because they are like they are like older

0:28:12.280 --> 0:28:14.439
<v Speaker 5>than me, so like I feel like that should have

0:28:14.480 --> 0:28:16.760
<v Speaker 5>been given not to you know, say it.

0:28:16.840 --> 0:28:25.440
<v Speaker 1>But hm, right, it's difficult because you can't. I mean, well, listen,

0:28:25.480 --> 0:28:29.040
<v Speaker 1>if you were to communicate honestly and tell the truth,

0:28:29.920 --> 0:28:32.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you would just tell them what you told me.

0:28:34.000 --> 0:28:38.520
<v Speaker 1>You'd be like, hey, you know, listen, I know that

0:28:38.600 --> 0:28:43.080
<v Speaker 1>this is a really tough thing for you, but I can't.

0:28:43.080 --> 0:28:44.160
<v Speaker 1>I just can't handle it.

0:28:46.920 --> 0:28:48.840
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, I don't.

0:28:49.200 --> 0:28:52.720
<v Speaker 1>Say that, right, what's your what's your reservation with saying that?

0:28:54.560 --> 0:28:56.520
<v Speaker 5>The thing is that I don't want to say it.

0:28:56.560 --> 0:29:00.760
<v Speaker 5>And then she's like, you're not supportive, you know, you know,

0:29:00.880 --> 0:29:04.320
<v Speaker 5>da da da, And you know she's not being friends

0:29:04.320 --> 0:29:06.960
<v Speaker 5>with me because like she's my only like friend in

0:29:07.120 --> 0:29:10.360
<v Speaker 5>the workplace, because everyone makes fun of me and my work.

0:29:11.640 --> 0:29:14.680
<v Speaker 5>So it's a little rough.

0:29:16.080 --> 0:29:20.400
<v Speaker 1>Everyone makes fun of you at your work. Yeah, okay,

0:29:20.480 --> 0:29:25.480
<v Speaker 1>does that make it a significantly bad place to work?

0:29:29.360 --> 0:29:32.680
<v Speaker 5>I wouldn't say. I mean, I'm only there because it

0:29:32.760 --> 0:29:37.360
<v Speaker 5>pays well, you know, puts food on the table. House

0:29:37.440 --> 0:29:42.200
<v Speaker 5>of the like you know, a house that stuff you

0:29:42.240 --> 0:29:45.080
<v Speaker 5>can't like. I can't quit because then I would have

0:29:45.200 --> 0:29:47.360
<v Speaker 5>like nothing basically, you know.

0:29:48.040 --> 0:29:51.400
<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, it sounds like you're dealing with a lot

0:29:51.440 --> 0:29:52.240
<v Speaker 1>of issues at work.

0:29:54.440 --> 0:29:58.320
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but you know you just deal with it?

0:30:01.880 --> 0:30:03.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, how do you? How do you respond with and

0:30:03.680 --> 0:30:05.280
<v Speaker 1>deal with people making fun of you at work?

0:30:07.240 --> 0:30:10.800
<v Speaker 5>A lot of times I just both with it, or

0:30:10.800 --> 0:30:12.840
<v Speaker 5>like I just pretended to like, you know, ha ha,

0:30:12.960 --> 0:30:17.400
<v Speaker 5>I'm you know, joking, but it's kind of obvious. But

0:30:17.920 --> 0:30:19.920
<v Speaker 5>a lot of times I can't like hang over it

0:30:20.000 --> 0:30:23.160
<v Speaker 5>because I'm cooking, you know, I'm making food for people,

0:30:23.280 --> 0:30:26.520
<v Speaker 5>So it's not like an you know right back.

0:30:30.960 --> 0:30:34.160
<v Speaker 1>Can I ask you this? It just in your life

0:30:34.200 --> 0:30:39.680
<v Speaker 1>as a whole, this issue yeah? Uh, I guess both

0:30:39.720 --> 0:30:45.720
<v Speaker 1>the issues of your co worker sort of let's use

0:30:45.760 --> 0:30:50.480
<v Speaker 1>the phrase trauma dumping on you, uh, and then your

0:30:50.520 --> 0:30:55.000
<v Speaker 1>other coworkers making fun of you, just the general uncomfortable

0:30:55.160 --> 0:31:01.520
<v Speaker 1>social vibe of your workplace. How significant of an issue

0:31:01.640 --> 0:31:05.120
<v Speaker 1>is that from the broader perspective of your life as

0:31:05.120 --> 0:31:05.480
<v Speaker 1>a whole.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, it's it's been really tough because I also

0:31:12.480 --> 0:31:15.240
<v Speaker 5>have under mantal illness is on top of it so

0:31:16.040 --> 0:31:17.840
<v Speaker 5>like a big one is like I have the ID,

0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:23.880
<v Speaker 5>which then you know it's in like gang Yelda is

0:31:23.920 --> 0:31:26.840
<v Speaker 5>also another thing that I don't like because of my PTSD.

0:31:27.840 --> 0:31:29.959
<v Speaker 1>But you know what is what is the idea?

0:31:31.520 --> 0:31:33.920
<v Speaker 5>Uh? It's the social identity disorder?

0:31:34.560 --> 0:31:39.120
<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, So like stuff.

0:31:38.760 --> 0:31:42.560
<v Speaker 5>Like that, like being made fun of or maybe getting

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:47.760
<v Speaker 5>you know that uld bullying. Sometimes it makes a new

0:31:47.880 --> 0:31:50.760
<v Speaker 5>person in my head. It's really hard to explain.

0:31:52.040 --> 0:31:54.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, do you go to real therapist?

0:31:56.080 --> 0:31:56.280
<v Speaker 7>Yeah?

0:31:56.320 --> 0:31:56.600
<v Speaker 2>I do.

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<v Speaker 1>What kinds of things does your real therapist tell you

0:31:59.720 --> 0:32:00.400
<v Speaker 1>about this?

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<v Speaker 5>They just tell me about like they tell me about

0:32:06.760 --> 0:32:09.480
<v Speaker 5>ways to cope with it, like writing down my feelings

0:32:09.520 --> 0:32:16.160
<v Speaker 5>and that stuff. But you know, other than that, they

0:32:16.240 --> 0:32:19.200
<v Speaker 5>know that my situation is that good and uh I

0:32:19.240 --> 0:32:21.760
<v Speaker 5>don't go to college or go to school that stuff.

0:32:21.800 --> 0:32:25.680
<v Speaker 5>So they say my job, like my job list is limited,

0:32:26.400 --> 0:32:29.400
<v Speaker 5>and where I live, they don't really look for what

0:32:29.480 --> 0:32:29.920
<v Speaker 5>I have.

0:32:31.360 --> 0:32:34.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Has any of the stuff that they've been telling

0:32:34.920 --> 0:32:35.680
<v Speaker 1>you been helpful for you?

0:32:37.920 --> 0:32:42.040
<v Speaker 5>I mean not really, But I've been trying to find

0:32:42.040 --> 0:32:44.760
<v Speaker 5>new hobbies and that stuff to help with it.

0:32:46.520 --> 0:32:48.600
<v Speaker 1>What do you want out of life? Ali?

0:32:50.600 --> 0:32:54.720
<v Speaker 5>Well, right now I'm going to go to coding. I'm

0:32:54.760 --> 0:32:57.840
<v Speaker 5>trying to get back into the swing of school, trying

0:32:57.880 --> 0:33:01.760
<v Speaker 5>to find money, E scramble some money, save up to

0:33:01.840 --> 0:33:04.880
<v Speaker 5>go to coding school. And I kind of just want

0:33:04.880 --> 0:33:07.000
<v Speaker 5>to you know, I don't have any big dreams, like

0:33:07.240 --> 0:33:08.640
<v Speaker 5>you know how people say they want to be like

0:33:08.640 --> 0:33:12.000
<v Speaker 5>a superstar or they want to get big. I just

0:33:12.040 --> 0:33:14.520
<v Speaker 5>want to live, you know, Yeah, I just want to,

0:33:16.440 --> 0:33:18.480
<v Speaker 5>you know, live a good life.

0:33:19.640 --> 0:33:21.880
<v Speaker 1>What is what is living a good life look like

0:33:21.920 --> 0:33:22.120
<v Speaker 1>to you?

0:33:24.280 --> 0:33:24.600
<v Speaker 7>House?

0:33:24.720 --> 0:33:28.080
<v Speaker 5>Food, maybe a family, nothing big, Just to get by

0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:28.800
<v Speaker 5>in life, you know.

0:33:29.840 --> 0:33:35.959
<v Speaker 1>Okay. I I try not to give advice, but can

0:33:36.000 --> 0:33:37.000
<v Speaker 1>I give some advice?

0:33:38.480 --> 0:33:38.960
<v Speaker 5>Of course?

0:33:39.040 --> 0:33:40.480
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:33:40.640 --> 0:33:42.719
<v Speaker 1>Okay. So you're saying you're trying to get into coding

0:33:42.760 --> 0:33:47.479
<v Speaker 1>with the hopes that that it will allow you to

0:33:47.560 --> 0:33:53.000
<v Speaker 1>pursue a better job than you win you have now, Yeah,

0:33:53.320 --> 0:34:00.680
<v Speaker 1>to whatever degree you can, Ali, I feel like I would.

0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:04.560
<v Speaker 1>I know it probably sucks to get made fun of

0:34:04.760 --> 0:34:07.560
<v Speaker 1>at work, and I know that it sucks to be

0:34:07.960 --> 0:34:15.960
<v Speaker 1>dealing with the trauma of somebody else's dead significant other,

0:34:16.160 --> 0:34:19.840
<v Speaker 1>and that's that's just a fucking lot. But to whatever

0:34:19.920 --> 0:34:26.680
<v Speaker 1>degree you can metaphorically put your head down and just

0:34:26.880 --> 0:34:33.600
<v Speaker 1>with as much single minded focus as you can put

0:34:33.920 --> 0:34:39.719
<v Speaker 1>your energy towards this goal you have of learning the

0:34:39.760 --> 0:34:42.239
<v Speaker 1>coding to get out of the situation. It's you have

0:34:42.280 --> 0:34:44.160
<v Speaker 1>a great it's a great plan. I'm glad that you

0:34:44.160 --> 0:34:47.800
<v Speaker 1>have a plan. I don't know how helpful any of

0:34:47.840 --> 0:34:52.080
<v Speaker 1>this of what I'm saying is, but I would ignore

0:34:52.760 --> 0:34:55.000
<v Speaker 1>and just deal with all this stuff, which it sounds

0:34:55.000 --> 0:34:56.680
<v Speaker 1>like you're already doing from the way that you're talking

0:34:56.719 --> 0:35:00.319
<v Speaker 1>to me about it. I would just put my head I.

0:35:00.239 --> 0:35:01.040
<v Speaker 5>Try to help her.

0:35:01.080 --> 0:35:07.040
<v Speaker 4>You know, you're clearly, uh, you know, a sweet, empathetic person,

0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:09.239
<v Speaker 4>and so you're compelled to do that.

0:35:11.280 --> 0:35:13.480
<v Speaker 1>But focus as much as you can on this, this

0:35:13.480 --> 0:35:15.640
<v Speaker 1>this goal of doing the coding thing and getting out

0:35:15.680 --> 0:35:20.440
<v Speaker 1>of there, because it doesn't sound like a great place

0:35:20.640 --> 0:35:25.560
<v Speaker 1>for you to be, at least from what you've told us.

0:35:26.000 --> 0:35:32.880
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I think I think it's great advice, and I

0:35:33.600 --> 0:35:35.719
<v Speaker 5>am going to take that advice in one with it

0:35:35.760 --> 0:35:41.640
<v Speaker 5>because I think it's a good advice to take and

0:35:41.760 --> 0:35:44.080
<v Speaker 5>I kind of need any advice I can get at

0:35:44.080 --> 0:35:44.520
<v Speaker 5>the moment.

0:35:48.280 --> 0:35:50.840
<v Speaker 1>Keep your head up all you sound, I mean, I

0:35:50.840 --> 0:35:54.640
<v Speaker 1>don't know, you just have this demeanor that I like. Uh,

0:35:55.160 --> 0:35:57.279
<v Speaker 1>you say you want a simple life, you want to

0:35:57.280 --> 0:35:59.680
<v Speaker 1>be able to eat, you want to have a house,

0:36:00.200 --> 0:36:02.560
<v Speaker 1>you want to have a job where people are not

0:36:02.560 --> 0:36:07.200
<v Speaker 1>making fun of you. I feel confident in your ability

0:36:07.239 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 1>to achieve those things.

0:36:10.680 --> 0:36:12.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think I am.

0:36:12.120 --> 0:36:16.320
<v Speaker 5>I mean, I'm starting to learn code on my phone

0:36:16.400 --> 0:36:20.560
<v Speaker 5>and on the laptop and you know, and I'm starting

0:36:20.600 --> 0:36:22.719
<v Speaker 5>to do things, and I'm starting to get the ball

0:36:22.840 --> 0:36:26.759
<v Speaker 5>rolling and I'm thinking about, like this season or next

0:36:26.800 --> 0:36:29.160
<v Speaker 5>season to actually roll it in the school since I

0:36:29.239 --> 0:36:31.839
<v Speaker 5>finally got enough money too, you know.

0:36:33.560 --> 0:36:38.319
<v Speaker 1>Good good. I feel like I feel like it's up

0:36:38.400 --> 0:36:38.880
<v Speaker 1>and up with you.

0:36:41.520 --> 0:36:44.120
<v Speaker 5>I hope. So a lot of stuff has been.

0:36:44.000 --> 0:36:49.080
<v Speaker 1>Happening, Allie. Is there anything else you want to say

0:36:49.080 --> 0:36:50.680
<v Speaker 1>to the people of the computer before we go, or

0:36:50.719 --> 0:36:52.680
<v Speaker 1>any aspect of anything that you feel like we did

0:36:52.680 --> 0:36:53.680
<v Speaker 1>not cover.

0:36:54.360 --> 0:36:59.880
<v Speaker 5>I would say, chat still just keeping chat. You know,

0:37:00.640 --> 0:37:03.919
<v Speaker 5>you guys are amazing. I love reading you guys' comments,

0:37:03.960 --> 0:37:09.040
<v Speaker 5>and I hope that if anything is going on with

0:37:09.160 --> 0:37:12.120
<v Speaker 5>Chat that they get the help and always know that

0:37:12.120 --> 0:37:14.880
<v Speaker 5>there's someone you could talk to. But make sure you

0:37:14.920 --> 0:37:19.680
<v Speaker 5>don't trauma dump on your homies that much because they're

0:37:19.840 --> 0:37:25.080
<v Speaker 5>shitting cool. Sorry, adviceful and I'm not allowed too, But no,

0:37:25.239 --> 0:37:26.320
<v Speaker 5>you can say whatever.

0:37:26.160 --> 0:37:32.319
<v Speaker 1>The hell you want. Man, all right, thank you all,

0:37:32.520 --> 0:37:33.080
<v Speaker 1>have a good night.

0:37:34.680 --> 0:37:34.960
<v Speaker 4>To night.

0:37:37.000 --> 0:37:39.640
<v Speaker 1>I liked her, man, She's cool. She just had this

0:37:39.880 --> 0:37:42.399
<v Speaker 1>like very cool That's what I would say. It's very

0:37:42.440 --> 0:37:46.520
<v Speaker 1>cool demeanor about all of this shit. I mean, she

0:37:46.600 --> 0:37:49.719
<v Speaker 1>was going on about like and I don't know. I

0:37:49.760 --> 0:37:53.880
<v Speaker 1>never know, Like, dude, I don't I don't know what

0:37:55.160 --> 0:37:58.239
<v Speaker 1>the contrast is between how a person presents themselves on

0:37:58.280 --> 0:38:00.680
<v Speaker 1>the phone to me versus what's really going on. And

0:38:00.719 --> 0:38:03.759
<v Speaker 1>I never will know for sure, but from what I

0:38:03.800 --> 0:38:06.120
<v Speaker 1>can gather in our phone call, I mean, she was

0:38:06.160 --> 0:38:10.280
<v Speaker 1>going on about, like, you know, everyone in my workplace

0:38:10.400 --> 0:38:13.080
<v Speaker 1>is fucking bullies. Me and I have all these mental

0:38:13.120 --> 0:38:16.239
<v Speaker 1>health issues and I got this going wrong and this

0:38:16.280 --> 0:38:18.640
<v Speaker 1>going around. But she was so like cool about it,

0:38:19.200 --> 0:38:21.799
<v Speaker 1>like it's just I don't know. I was I was

0:38:21.840 --> 0:38:25.520
<v Speaker 1>inspired by like she was mentioning all these problems and again,

0:38:25.560 --> 0:38:27.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't I don't know what's really going on inside.

0:38:27.640 --> 0:38:33.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what that contrast is. But she was

0:38:33.640 --> 0:38:37.200
<v Speaker 1>cool about it in the sense of she was like, yes,

0:38:37.280 --> 0:38:40.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm dealing with this stuff, and I'm I am dealing

0:38:40.880 --> 0:38:48.759
<v Speaker 1>with it and it's happening, but it's not destroying me.

0:38:50.200 --> 0:38:55.000
<v Speaker 1>And I still am like, you know, I don't want

0:38:55.040 --> 0:38:56.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't need to be a superstar. I don't need

0:38:56.960 --> 0:39:04.640
<v Speaker 1>to fucking become the next m Steve Jobs coder, entrepreneur person.

0:39:04.800 --> 0:39:07.960
<v Speaker 1>But it'd be nice to have a house and life

0:39:08.000 --> 0:39:11.799
<v Speaker 1>and stuff. And uh, I don't know, I appreciated that,

0:39:12.760 --> 0:39:17.920
<v Speaker 1>and uh I I do believe it is on the

0:39:18.000 --> 0:39:28.719
<v Speaker 1>up and up for allie. Hello, Hello, Hi, oh my god?

0:39:28.840 --> 0:39:31.080
<v Speaker 4>Is this is this?

0:39:30.800 --> 0:39:35.360
<v Speaker 1>Is this a gig? Yeah? Who is this?

0:39:35.360 --> 0:39:35.680
<v Speaker 6>This is.

0:39:37.520 --> 0:39:37.560
<v Speaker 4>J?

0:39:39.280 --> 0:39:40.000
<v Speaker 1>This is who? Now?

0:39:40.480 --> 0:39:47.399
<v Speaker 4>All right, yeah, CJ?

0:39:48.440 --> 0:39:50.000
<v Speaker 1>What's up? CJ? What's going on with you?

0:39:52.120 --> 0:39:55.560
<v Speaker 4>Uh? Well, yeah, I came to talk to you about

0:39:55.560 --> 0:39:58.200
<v Speaker 4>this this little predicament that I'm kind of in. All right,

0:39:58.840 --> 0:40:03.160
<v Speaker 4>so much call it my girlfriend, right, she doesn't like

0:40:03.960 --> 0:40:07.560
<v Speaker 4>getting receiving head right, Well, the thing is with me,

0:40:08.080 --> 0:40:10.000
<v Speaker 4>I love it. You know, it's one of my favorite

0:40:10.000 --> 0:40:13.360
<v Speaker 4>things to do. So like, it's kind of a weird

0:40:13.400 --> 0:40:16.160
<v Speaker 4>thing going that she really does not prefer it. But

0:40:16.400 --> 0:40:19.960
<v Speaker 4>that's the way that gets me going. She always says, no,

0:40:20.040 --> 0:40:22.440
<v Speaker 4>I don't like it, and listen, this kind of puts

0:40:22.440 --> 0:40:24.880
<v Speaker 4>me down. By'm like, dam you know, I'm trying to

0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:27.440
<v Speaker 4>make you feel good. But then you know, she doesn't,

0:40:27.600 --> 0:40:31.200
<v Speaker 4>she doesn't like it. So I just I just don't know, all.

0:40:31.160 --> 0:40:36.560
<v Speaker 1>Right, what what do you like about giving giving head?

0:40:38.239 --> 0:40:42.759
<v Speaker 4>Oh? The feeling you know, just I don't know, just

0:40:42.800 --> 0:40:47.520
<v Speaker 4>the feeling of making the my girlfriend just feel good,

0:40:47.560 --> 0:40:50.279
<v Speaker 4>you know, and just having that power over it.

0:40:50.360 --> 0:40:50.560
<v Speaker 5>You know.

0:40:50.600 --> 0:40:53.120
<v Speaker 4>It's like it's like like when you're ever having sex

0:40:53.200 --> 0:40:56.319
<v Speaker 4>and you and you know you're doing good. It's also

0:40:56.360 --> 0:40:59.279
<v Speaker 4>the same kind of feeling when you know you're you're

0:40:59.320 --> 0:41:00.480
<v Speaker 4>doing a good then all.

0:41:00.480 --> 0:41:06.160
<v Speaker 1>Right, So so you enjoy you enjoy giving pleasure? Yes, yes,

0:41:06.480 --> 0:41:08.799
<v Speaker 1>all right? So I mean are there ways that she

0:41:09.400 --> 0:41:15.160
<v Speaker 1>receives pleasure besides just uh, you know, you giving her head?

0:41:15.239 --> 0:41:15.359
<v Speaker 4>Like?

0:41:15.440 --> 0:41:18.360
<v Speaker 1>What else could you do to give her pleasure?

0:41:20.239 --> 0:41:20.399
<v Speaker 6>Oh?

0:41:21.160 --> 0:41:23.120
<v Speaker 4>I do everything. You know she likes to know, the

0:41:23.760 --> 0:41:26.799
<v Speaker 4>neck kisses, all that stuff, grabbing up on her. There's

0:41:26.840 --> 0:41:30.160
<v Speaker 4>plenty of other different things I could do, right, and

0:41:30.239 --> 0:41:33.120
<v Speaker 4>that I do do, like we are, is very good

0:41:33.120 --> 0:41:35.600
<v Speaker 4>and stuff like. So's a lot of different things we've

0:41:35.640 --> 0:41:37.719
<v Speaker 4>tried and stuff like that. But I just really like

0:41:37.800 --> 0:41:40.919
<v Speaker 4>to do that to her, to go down on her.

0:41:41.440 --> 0:41:44.000
<v Speaker 4>Before you get into business, you know, you like to pregame,

0:41:44.120 --> 0:41:45.120
<v Speaker 4>you know, you know, little.

0:41:45.280 --> 0:41:47.799
<v Speaker 1>What is she what is what is what? When you've

0:41:47.840 --> 0:41:51.360
<v Speaker 1>talked to her about this? What does she enjoy doing

0:41:51.400 --> 0:41:51.840
<v Speaker 1>in bed?

0:41:54.080 --> 0:41:56.640
<v Speaker 4>Uh? She she enjoys the floor poor play that we do,

0:41:56.719 --> 0:42:00.520
<v Speaker 4>but just not just me going down her. She likes

0:42:00.520 --> 0:42:02.680
<v Speaker 4>everything else, you know, the next casey and grabbing up

0:42:02.719 --> 0:42:03.080
<v Speaker 4>on her.

0:42:03.880 --> 0:42:04.120
<v Speaker 7>You know.

0:42:04.719 --> 0:42:08.000
<v Speaker 4>She she's very submissive in that way. So then I

0:42:08.680 --> 0:42:10.839
<v Speaker 4>step up and be the more dominant one. And that's

0:42:10.880 --> 0:42:12.440
<v Speaker 4>what That's what she likes, and that's what I like.

0:42:12.480 --> 0:42:12.920
<v Speaker 4>I like to do.

0:42:13.640 --> 0:42:13.880
<v Speaker 5>You know.

0:42:14.800 --> 0:42:18.960
<v Speaker 1>M Well, well, ship man, I mean, why don't you

0:42:19.000 --> 0:42:21.480
<v Speaker 1>if you know what she likes? And it sounds like

0:42:21.520 --> 0:42:27.400
<v Speaker 1>you guys are very very communicative, communicative with one another,

0:42:28.120 --> 0:42:32.640
<v Speaker 1>why don't you use the results of that communication to

0:42:33.239 --> 0:42:35.959
<v Speaker 1>guide whatever it is that you you do in bed?

0:42:37.560 --> 0:42:38.080
<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm.

0:42:39.880 --> 0:42:44.319
<v Speaker 4>That's true. I do do that sometimes, you know, But

0:42:44.360 --> 0:42:47.000
<v Speaker 4>there's also some things that she doesn't like that I'm

0:42:47.080 --> 0:42:53.760
<v Speaker 4>angry now. Yeah, so my girlfriend just came in. But

0:42:53.760 --> 0:42:56.840
<v Speaker 4>but yeah, it's just I do do a lot of

0:42:56.880 --> 0:43:00.360
<v Speaker 4>different things, and I'm trying to get more in to it.

0:43:00.880 --> 0:43:04.680
<v Speaker 4>But you know, because she she she does one thing

0:43:04.680 --> 0:43:07.000
<v Speaker 4>that I don't like that that she would likes. She

0:43:07.160 --> 0:43:09.560
<v Speaker 4>likes to be to get came on. You know, that's

0:43:09.600 --> 0:43:11.560
<v Speaker 4>that's what her thing is. But I don't like that,

0:43:12.440 --> 0:43:14.960
<v Speaker 4>you know, so we're just trying to figure out different ways.

0:43:15.600 --> 0:43:18.239
<v Speaker 1>Why don't why don't you like? Why don't you like

0:43:18.280 --> 0:43:21.719
<v Speaker 1>coming on your girlfriend? I don't know.

0:43:21.800 --> 0:43:23.800
<v Speaker 4>I don't know. Honestly, I feel like it's kind of

0:43:23.840 --> 0:43:26.880
<v Speaker 4>like it's not gross or anything to me. I just

0:43:26.960 --> 0:43:29.520
<v Speaker 4>not my type of tea, you.

0:43:29.480 --> 0:43:32.040
<v Speaker 1>Know, like, let me talk, Let me talk to her.

0:43:32.080 --> 0:43:33.600
<v Speaker 1>Can I talk to her?

0:43:34.239 --> 0:43:38.040
<v Speaker 4>Maybe? Maybe I want to talk to you?

0:43:45.320 --> 0:43:55.080
<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, Hi, Hello, So your boyfriend is talking all about,

0:43:56.840 --> 0:44:02.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, communicating with you about sex stuff. I don't

0:44:02.480 --> 0:44:06.920
<v Speaker 1>know if you've heard everything he's been talking about.

0:44:07.320 --> 0:44:08.919
<v Speaker 3>No, I tuned in a little bit late.

0:44:09.680 --> 0:44:14.640
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So let me ask you this in bed. What

0:44:14.640 --> 0:44:22.200
<v Speaker 1>would you like to sort of get from your boyfriend

0:44:22.719 --> 0:44:24.799
<v Speaker 1>more that that you think he could be doing a

0:44:24.800 --> 0:44:25.760
<v Speaker 1>better job of.

0:44:29.000 --> 0:44:32.799
<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean our sex life is pretty good, Like

0:44:32.800 --> 0:44:35.280
<v Speaker 3>like he said, we like communicate about it and stuff.

0:44:35.880 --> 0:44:40.200
<v Speaker 3>It's literally the only issue. It's just him going down

0:44:40.080 --> 0:44:45.600
<v Speaker 3>on me. I don't really prefer it. Everything else is good,

0:44:45.719 --> 0:44:47.399
<v Speaker 3>like I'd like everything else that we do.

0:44:49.480 --> 0:44:51.440
<v Speaker 1>Well, shit, you know, look, if you don't like it,

0:44:51.480 --> 0:44:55.359
<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's fucking I feel like that's that's that.

0:44:55.480 --> 0:44:59.000
<v Speaker 1>You know, what else is there to really be be

0:44:59.080 --> 0:44:59.760
<v Speaker 1>said and done?

0:45:00.120 --> 0:45:00.200
<v Speaker 7>Know?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's what I keep telling him, because it's not

0:45:04.280 --> 0:45:08.839
<v Speaker 3>like I don't always not let him go down Does

0:45:08.880 --> 0:45:09.479
<v Speaker 3>that make sense?

0:45:10.920 --> 0:45:15.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't always not let him. No, that doesn't make sense.

0:45:18.000 --> 0:45:21.200
<v Speaker 3>Like he does it sometimes, Like I won't like completely

0:45:21.239 --> 0:45:23.520
<v Speaker 3>turn him down from it. You know, if he hits

0:45:23.520 --> 0:45:25.480
<v Speaker 3>the right spots, I'll react to it. It's not like

0:45:25.520 --> 0:45:27.640
<v Speaker 3>I completely hate it. I just don't prefer it.

0:45:28.520 --> 0:45:34.759
<v Speaker 1>M Well, shit, if you don't prefer it, then I

0:45:34.760 --> 0:45:38.279
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I don't really know what else there is

0:45:38.320 --> 0:45:41.640
<v Speaker 1>to do here. I wonder what a real sex here?

0:45:41.840 --> 0:45:43.880
<v Speaker 1>This is some points I just hit break. There's some

0:45:44.000 --> 0:45:46.040
<v Speaker 1>calls I just hip brick walls with and I'm like,

0:45:46.080 --> 0:45:52.920
<v Speaker 1>what an actual fucking person who knows about.

0:45:53.400 --> 0:45:56.479
<v Speaker 3>Here's the thing I I told him that I would,

0:45:56.840 --> 0:45:59.239
<v Speaker 3>I would let him. I would let him go down

0:45:59.320 --> 0:46:01.440
<v Speaker 3>on anymore if he would just like nut on you

0:46:01.480 --> 0:46:02.239
<v Speaker 3>when I asked him to.

0:46:05.560 --> 0:46:08.719
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so we're doing a little bit of sexual barter.

0:46:08.840 --> 0:46:12.560
<v Speaker 3>Bartering bartering is exactly.

0:46:13.840 --> 0:46:19.000
<v Speaker 1>Okay. So we're making a trade here, Yes, exactly. Okay,

0:46:19.080 --> 0:46:22.680
<v Speaker 1>I think a trade is fair, like a trade is fair?

0:46:23.840 --> 0:46:26.319
<v Speaker 1>Is he what? What's his? Is his? How does he

0:46:26.360 --> 0:46:29.200
<v Speaker 1>feel about a trade?

0:46:29.680 --> 0:46:34.640
<v Speaker 4>I mean, there's the trade sounds. Oh, guys, I just don't.

0:46:34.480 --> 0:46:34.919
<v Speaker 3>Know, man.

0:46:35.239 --> 0:46:37.920
<v Speaker 4>I really don't like coming on her.

0:46:37.960 --> 0:46:40.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, because and she doesn't like when you

0:46:40.280 --> 0:46:44.680
<v Speaker 1>lick her for China and you guys are bartering, you're compromising. Yeah,

0:46:45.760 --> 0:46:48.640
<v Speaker 1>that's a trade. That's what a trade is. I give

0:46:48.719 --> 0:46:53.239
<v Speaker 1>somebody twenty dollars for a sandwich. That's one of those

0:46:53.239 --> 0:46:56.960
<v Speaker 1>fucking expensive futus. I don't like giving people twenty dollars,

0:46:56.960 --> 0:47:01.560
<v Speaker 1>but I like sandwiches. Yeah, I guess. I guess it's

0:47:01.560 --> 0:47:02.080
<v Speaker 1>a trade.

0:47:04.480 --> 0:47:05.760
<v Speaker 4>True.

0:47:06.440 --> 0:47:08.839
<v Speaker 1>How do we so, I'm asking both of you guys,

0:47:09.880 --> 0:47:15.399
<v Speaker 1>how do we feel about this trade? Yeah?

0:47:16.239 --> 0:47:19.360
<v Speaker 4>I feel like it's just a good middle ground. I

0:47:19.360 --> 0:47:22.759
<v Speaker 4>feel like this could have worked, you know, because, uh,

0:47:22.960 --> 0:47:24.759
<v Speaker 4>but most of the time I do come on her,

0:47:24.880 --> 0:47:26.359
<v Speaker 4>just on her ask you know, you hit it from

0:47:26.360 --> 0:47:30.239
<v Speaker 4>the back, but you know, but like whenever hitting it

0:47:30.280 --> 0:47:32.040
<v Speaker 4>from like a missionary, you know, from the front.

0:47:32.080 --> 0:47:32.239
<v Speaker 6>You know.

0:47:32.280 --> 0:47:35.120
<v Speaker 4>I just don't like Solily in that moment it's come.

0:47:35.280 --> 0:47:37.480
<v Speaker 4>I don't know if that makes sense. I don't know,

0:47:38.160 --> 0:47:40.560
<v Speaker 4>because I just really liked the way it looks.

0:47:40.800 --> 0:47:44.440
<v Speaker 1>What's your name, c J, c J, c J. Your girlfriends.

0:47:45.160 --> 0:47:47.000
<v Speaker 1>I want you to have samanpathy for sake. I want

0:47:47.040 --> 0:47:50.280
<v Speaker 1>you to think about your girlfriends, what you think about.

0:47:50.800 --> 0:47:53.400
<v Speaker 1>You don't like coming on people, but imagine getting comedne.

0:47:53.440 --> 0:47:58.400
<v Speaker 1>It probably feels nice, you know, come, is you EVERJJJ?

0:47:58.760 --> 0:48:01.800
<v Speaker 1>Listen to me? Okay, have you ever jacked off and

0:48:01.960 --> 0:48:05.000
<v Speaker 1>you accidentally came on your thigh or your hand and

0:48:05.040 --> 0:48:08.719
<v Speaker 1>it is like a warm sensation. It's like you're being hot,

0:48:08.800 --> 0:48:11.800
<v Speaker 1>Like all the little sperm cells in your jeez, they're

0:48:11.840 --> 0:48:14.560
<v Speaker 1>like hugging you. You know, it's a nice feel. It

0:48:14.560 --> 0:48:18.399
<v Speaker 1>feels nice to get comed onne. And so when you

0:48:18.440 --> 0:48:24.839
<v Speaker 1>come on your girlfriends, you're giving her that pleasure of

0:48:24.880 --> 0:48:28.799
<v Speaker 1>the warm sensation of your ejaculate. And that's because that's

0:48:28.840 --> 0:48:33.080
<v Speaker 1>what she desires, that's what she's asking for from you.

0:48:34.480 --> 0:48:36.799
<v Speaker 1>And so just have some empathy for that, you know

0:48:36.840 --> 0:48:37.400
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying?

0:48:39.880 --> 0:48:41.359
<v Speaker 4>Oh, yeah, I got you, I got Yeah.

0:48:41.400 --> 0:48:42.000
<v Speaker 5>That makes sense.

0:48:42.880 --> 0:48:44.360
<v Speaker 4>I guess that we thought of it that way. I

0:48:44.360 --> 0:48:48.160
<v Speaker 4>don't know. From the very young age, I never like.

0:48:49.960 --> 0:48:50.200
<v Speaker 1>Things.

0:48:50.239 --> 0:48:52.719
<v Speaker 4>I don't know, it just kind of grows from a.

0:48:52.920 --> 0:48:58.000
<v Speaker 1>Very young age. You never liked coming on things.

0:48:59.400 --> 0:49:04.120
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I've been a Yeah, I started very young. I'm

0:49:04.120 --> 0:49:07.120
<v Speaker 4>not proud to say that I started very young.

0:49:07.280 --> 0:49:12.239
<v Speaker 1>Well, CJ, I feel like I've heard enough about you

0:49:12.320 --> 0:49:15.160
<v Speaker 1>and your girlfriend's genitals for this evening. Is there anything

0:49:15.160 --> 0:49:18.120
<v Speaker 1>else that you want to say to the people of

0:49:18.160 --> 0:49:19.520
<v Speaker 1>the computer before we go?

0:49:21.080 --> 0:49:28.000
<v Speaker 4>I guess, I guess come on your girlfriend, which he asked.

0:49:28.520 --> 0:49:30.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is good. We have a breakthrough here.

0:49:32.160 --> 0:49:33.239
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, yeah, I think so.

0:49:33.280 --> 0:49:35.200
<v Speaker 4>I think we did. I think I think it might

0:49:35.239 --> 0:49:36.720
<v Speaker 4>try it tonight. See what happened.

0:49:37.280 --> 0:49:40.000
<v Speaker 1>Beautiful, beautiful, you guys have a wonderful rest of the evening.

0:49:41.440 --> 0:49:43.360
<v Speaker 4>I appreciate you. Thanks for getting me.

0:49:45.280 --> 0:49:46.240
<v Speaker 6>Thanks.

0:49:48.239 --> 0:49:52.759
<v Speaker 1>Let's see. I think, Oh, they're gonna have a great time.

0:49:52.840 --> 0:49:53.040
<v Speaker 7>Man.

0:49:54.200 --> 0:49:56.239
<v Speaker 1>It does. By the way, I'm not like I've never

0:49:56.320 --> 0:49:59.600
<v Speaker 1>had somebody else come on me. I don't want I

0:49:59.600 --> 0:50:03.640
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't want to. But every time I come on myself,

0:50:03.680 --> 0:50:08.719
<v Speaker 1>I like, get it. Every time I accidentally come on

0:50:08.760 --> 0:50:14.040
<v Speaker 1>my own stomach, I'm like, oh, this feels nice. So

0:50:14.160 --> 0:50:17.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna say I don't understand. Hello, it is Lyle.

0:50:17.320 --> 0:50:20.239
<v Speaker 1>We have reached the end of the phone. Calls of

0:50:20.320 --> 0:50:22.880
<v Speaker 1>this stream, and I would now like to share with

0:50:22.920 --> 0:50:26.759
<v Speaker 1>you an interview that I did with a frenchwoman on

0:50:26.840 --> 0:50:31.759
<v Speaker 1>the beaches of Cancun in real life. I was in

0:50:31.800 --> 0:50:36.160
<v Speaker 1>Cancun on a little post tour vacation when I realized

0:50:36.200 --> 0:50:41.240
<v Speaker 1>that I get just really antsy sitting around and doing

0:50:41.280 --> 0:50:43.600
<v Speaker 1>nothing on a beach. I like to get out and

0:50:44.360 --> 0:50:47.440
<v Speaker 1>work and do stuff. I know it sounds insane, but

0:50:47.840 --> 0:50:50.960
<v Speaker 1>I set up my Gecko interview station and I did

0:50:51.000 --> 0:50:53.200
<v Speaker 1>a bunch of interviews on the beach there. So if

0:50:53.200 --> 0:50:55.480
<v Speaker 1>you like this segment and you want to hear the

0:50:55.520 --> 0:50:58.520
<v Speaker 1>full thing, you can go to YouTube dot com, slash

0:50:58.600 --> 0:51:03.480
<v Speaker 1>lyle forever, or just search being a Gecko in Cancun. Okay,

0:51:03.640 --> 0:51:06.200
<v Speaker 1>let's get into the interview. Thank you for saying I

0:51:06.239 --> 0:51:09.640
<v Speaker 1>think people. I think most people, and you know rightly enough,

0:51:10.040 --> 0:51:12.240
<v Speaker 1>most people think I'm like trying to charge the money

0:51:12.239 --> 0:51:13.320
<v Speaker 1>for pictures and stuff.

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<v Speaker 7>Honestly, I just find it really fun.

0:51:16.040 --> 0:51:19.560
<v Speaker 1>What's what's your name, Katie? Katie? Very nice to meet you.

0:51:19.719 --> 0:51:22.080
<v Speaker 1>What are you doing here on the beach of Plia

0:51:22.160 --> 0:51:23.440
<v Speaker 1>del Carmen vacation.

0:51:23.600 --> 0:51:25.960
<v Speaker 7>I guess, okay, I guess like you.

0:51:25.800 --> 0:51:28.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, yeah, what What do you do when you're

0:51:28.000 --> 0:51:28.839
<v Speaker 1>not vacationing?

0:51:29.040 --> 0:51:29.640
<v Speaker 7>I'm working?

0:51:29.920 --> 0:51:32.120
<v Speaker 1>You're working. Do you know? Do you like your job?

0:51:32.360 --> 0:51:33.279
<v Speaker 7>I love my job.

0:51:33.360 --> 0:51:33.799
<v Speaker 1>What do you do?

0:51:34.160 --> 0:51:35.040
<v Speaker 7>I work in hotel?

0:51:35.239 --> 0:51:36.040
<v Speaker 1>You work at hotels?

0:51:36.120 --> 0:51:36.319
<v Speaker 7>Yes?

0:51:36.480 --> 0:51:40.279
<v Speaker 1>Okay, well so so like weirdly enough, just going on

0:51:40.400 --> 0:51:43.479
<v Speaker 1>vacation and being at a hotel like make you think

0:51:43.520 --> 0:51:44.200
<v Speaker 1>about work?

0:51:44.680 --> 0:51:48.120
<v Speaker 7>Actually it does, but when you switch it off, it's

0:51:48.280 --> 0:51:48.920
<v Speaker 7>so much better.

0:51:49.040 --> 0:51:51.880
<v Speaker 1>Okay, switch it off. Who are you here with anyone?

0:51:52.000 --> 0:51:52.720
<v Speaker 7>No? By myself?

0:51:52.719 --> 0:51:54.759
<v Speaker 1>Oh you can by yourself. That's great. Do you do

0:51:54.800 --> 0:51:56.200
<v Speaker 1>you take vacations by yourself A lot?

0:51:56.320 --> 0:51:56.960
<v Speaker 7>I do.

0:51:56.960 --> 0:51:59.879
<v Speaker 1>Do you prefer to vacation by yourself and with other people?

0:52:00.080 --> 0:52:02.400
<v Speaker 7>I do? Why is that because I don't have to

0:52:02.440 --> 0:52:06.320
<v Speaker 7>wait for anyone? You know, in the morning, you wake up, okay,

0:52:06.400 --> 0:52:08.319
<v Speaker 7>I might go back to bed, that's okay. There's no

0:52:08.360 --> 0:52:10.680
<v Speaker 7>one next to you say, oh, let's go for breakfast,

0:52:10.800 --> 0:52:13.360
<v Speaker 7>or let's go someone do shopping or something. You decide

0:52:13.400 --> 0:52:14.080
<v Speaker 7>your own schedule.

0:52:14.200 --> 0:52:15.000
<v Speaker 1>Yep, yep, yep.

0:52:15.080 --> 0:52:16.359
<v Speaker 7>So that's what I love about it.

0:52:16.480 --> 0:52:18.640
<v Speaker 1>I like that too, Yeah. I like I like doing

0:52:18.719 --> 0:52:20.319
<v Speaker 1>things by myself all the time. I like going to

0:52:20.360 --> 0:52:23.400
<v Speaker 1>like the aquarium by myself. I can sit and stare

0:52:23.480 --> 0:52:25.840
<v Speaker 1>at one fish for like an hour and there's no

0:52:25.880 --> 0:52:27.560
<v Speaker 1>one tapping me being like, we gotta go.

0:52:27.719 --> 0:52:30.160
<v Speaker 7>Do you use a that's outfit when you do that?

0:52:30.400 --> 0:52:32.120
<v Speaker 1>Sometime it'd be fun to do one of these with

0:52:32.200 --> 0:52:32.800
<v Speaker 1>the aquarium.

0:52:32.880 --> 0:52:33.360
<v Speaker 7>You should.

0:52:34.960 --> 0:52:37.600
<v Speaker 1>So you're on what is your How long are you

0:52:37.640 --> 0:52:38.200
<v Speaker 1>on vacation for?

0:52:39.440 --> 0:52:41.680
<v Speaker 7>I've been here for three days already, so I have

0:52:41.800 --> 0:52:42.520
<v Speaker 7>five more days.

0:52:43.040 --> 0:52:46.799
<v Speaker 1>You're on vacation for eight weeks? No, I mean eight days?

0:52:48.280 --> 0:52:50.680
<v Speaker 1>So I can I ask you? Though? So you're vacationing

0:52:50.680 --> 0:52:53.319
<v Speaker 1>by yourself, and I totally understand. That's how I like

0:52:53.320 --> 0:52:55.840
<v Speaker 1>to do my vacations too. Does it ever get lonely?

0:52:56.400 --> 0:52:59.719
<v Speaker 7>Sometime it does? You know, Sometime you're like, okay, because

0:52:59.760 --> 0:53:01.480
<v Speaker 7>if the thing is, it's easier to meet people when

0:53:01.480 --> 0:53:04.319
<v Speaker 7>you're by yourself. Definitely, when you have like you're in

0:53:04.320 --> 0:53:06.240
<v Speaker 7>the crowd and everything people are maybe you know, worried

0:53:06.280 --> 0:53:09.360
<v Speaker 7>to actually approach true and by yourself, it's so much different.

0:53:09.920 --> 0:53:13.120
<v Speaker 7>But sometimes it does get lonely. You're in the restaurant

0:53:13.320 --> 0:53:15.520
<v Speaker 7>or something, You're looking at all the people, so you

0:53:15.560 --> 0:53:17.480
<v Speaker 7>don't want to disturb them, so you end up being

0:53:17.520 --> 0:53:20.360
<v Speaker 7>alone a little bit. Sometimes you might want to do

0:53:20.560 --> 0:53:23.360
<v Speaker 7>some activities and you have to pair with someone for

0:53:23.400 --> 0:53:26.560
<v Speaker 7>you by yourself. Sometimes it does, but at the end

0:53:26.600 --> 0:53:29.520
<v Speaker 7>of the day, the highlight is because I feel like

0:53:29.560 --> 0:53:32.879
<v Speaker 7>I've met so many people and other people person.

0:53:32.640 --> 0:53:35.600
<v Speaker 1>So I love it definitely. That's my favorite part of

0:53:35.640 --> 0:53:37.759
<v Speaker 1>traveling alone is it makes it easier to meet other people.

0:53:37.840 --> 0:53:39.880
<v Speaker 1>Weirdly enough, exactly have you been meeting a lot of

0:53:39.880 --> 0:53:42.719
<v Speaker 1>people and you travel so far? Honestly, yes, where you

0:53:42.719 --> 0:53:45.000
<v Speaker 1>meet them like you're on at the clubs and anyone.

0:53:45.400 --> 0:53:48.680
<v Speaker 7>Today, I want I meet a French lady. I'm French

0:53:49.000 --> 0:53:51.399
<v Speaker 7>and she's so nice. I was just, you know, doing

0:53:51.440 --> 0:53:55.760
<v Speaker 7>shopping and I met her. So we connect you on Instagram,

0:53:55.800 --> 0:53:56.680
<v Speaker 7>so we'll see how it goes.

0:53:56.719 --> 0:53:59.319
<v Speaker 1>Now, that's great, that's great. Where in Fronts are from?

0:54:00.120 --> 0:54:00.560
<v Speaker 7>In Friends?

0:54:00.640 --> 0:54:00.879
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:54:01.000 --> 0:54:04.200
<v Speaker 7>Actually I was raised in Cholet, the small little town

0:54:04.280 --> 0:54:05.720
<v Speaker 7>next to Note. Do you know friends?

0:54:05.960 --> 0:54:09.040
<v Speaker 1>I know, I know Paris, and I know Nice, which

0:54:09.080 --> 0:54:11.760
<v Speaker 1>I called nice for a very long time until I

0:54:11.760 --> 0:54:13.440
<v Speaker 1>find out always pronounced nice.

0:54:13.320 --> 0:54:17.160
<v Speaker 7>Like the movie movie Bresnie so brusty. Nice is something No,

0:54:17.200 --> 0:54:19.880
<v Speaker 7>I've never heard of any movie you watch this? Okay,

0:54:19.960 --> 0:54:22.520
<v Speaker 7>well I'll write that Dan, I guess we're recording it.

0:54:22.800 --> 0:54:24.239
<v Speaker 1>Hopefully. I hope this thing is on.

0:54:24.360 --> 0:54:26.680
<v Speaker 7>How about you people?

0:54:27.120 --> 0:54:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I said that again?

0:54:28.320 --> 0:54:30.480
<v Speaker 7>Have you did you meet a lot of people?

0:54:31.440 --> 0:54:34.120
<v Speaker 1>Let's see, I met one guy just now who's a

0:54:34.280 --> 0:54:38.480
<v Speaker 1>travel blogger. I met you. It's it's very I'm glad

0:54:38.480 --> 0:54:42.640
<v Speaker 1>I met you because I after about ten people are

0:54:43.160 --> 0:54:46.239
<v Speaker 1>hoards of people are walking by and I'm like trying

0:54:46.239 --> 0:54:47.560
<v Speaker 1>to get them to talk to me, and they're like

0:54:47.680 --> 0:54:50.239
<v Speaker 1>not looking. And it's funny because earlier today I was

0:54:50.280 --> 0:54:54.600
<v Speaker 1>walking around just as myself around the town and other

0:54:54.719 --> 0:54:58.040
<v Speaker 1>people in costumes. Have you seen them? There's like guys

0:54:58.120 --> 0:55:00.560
<v Speaker 1>run around just a spider man or likeeople who like

0:55:00.600 --> 0:55:02.759
<v Speaker 1>are you know, stand outside a restaurants like trying to

0:55:02.760 --> 0:55:04.960
<v Speaker 1>be like, hey come, you know, take a picture or whatever.

0:55:05.000 --> 0:55:07.200
<v Speaker 1>And I do the same thing to them. So I

0:55:07.239 --> 0:55:10.800
<v Speaker 1>feel like I'm on the opposite side of what I've

0:55:10.840 --> 0:55:12.480
<v Speaker 1>been gave out this morning, you know.

0:55:12.800 --> 0:55:16.680
<v Speaker 7>Okay, So my question is you YouTube or you have

0:55:16.760 --> 0:55:17.440
<v Speaker 7>an Instagram?

0:55:17.880 --> 0:55:20.200
<v Speaker 1>I have both. I do YouTube and Instagram. Yeah. Do

0:55:20.239 --> 0:55:22.719
<v Speaker 1>you are you of longer of any kind? Do you

0:55:22.800 --> 0:55:23.960
<v Speaker 1>document your travels?

0:55:24.000 --> 0:55:24.359
<v Speaker 7>I don't.

0:55:24.680 --> 0:55:25.920
<v Speaker 1>Do you Do you have a journal at all?

0:55:26.440 --> 0:55:29.359
<v Speaker 7>I have my personal journal, Yes, Okay, it's a written one.

0:55:29.480 --> 0:55:32.240
<v Speaker 7>Nobody actually have to read it. It's for myself.

0:55:32.440 --> 0:55:33.719
<v Speaker 1>What do you can I ask? What kinds of things

0:55:33.800 --> 0:55:34.760
<v Speaker 1>you talk about in the journal?

0:55:34.840 --> 0:55:35.640
<v Speaker 7>Anyway? Anything?

0:55:35.880 --> 0:55:36.280
<v Speaker 1>Anything?

0:55:36.400 --> 0:55:36.800
<v Speaker 7>Anything?

0:55:37.080 --> 0:55:42.480
<v Speaker 1>What? What did what did your entry sound like yesterday?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you do it every day?

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<v Speaker 7>Not every day? Only when I feel like it? Yesterday

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<v Speaker 7>I was so tired, so actually look like, Okay, that's

0:55:51.880 --> 0:55:53.880
<v Speaker 7>what I did today. And I was talking about the

0:55:53.880 --> 0:55:57.280
<v Speaker 7>fact that you know, when you exhausted, it comes from

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<v Speaker 7>so many things. So it came from I was about society,

0:56:00.840 --> 0:56:02.960
<v Speaker 7>and I was talking about so many things that I once.

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<v Speaker 1>So, okay, you're talking about society. I am you have

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts about society that you've been because when you when

0:56:08.400 --> 0:56:10.440
<v Speaker 1>you're traveling alone. I know this from experience, you got

0:56:10.440 --> 0:56:12.799
<v Speaker 1>lots of time to just think exactly. Can I hear

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<v Speaker 1>like some of your thoughts about society?

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<v Speaker 7>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, fair enough enough myself? Okay, fair enough, fair enough?

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<v Speaker 1>Where are you off to next?

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<v Speaker 7>Next? I'll just work a little bit more, try to

0:56:27.160 --> 0:56:30.239
<v Speaker 7>see you around. I'm not actually staying in play at

0:56:30.239 --> 0:56:32.799
<v Speaker 7>de Camp and I'm actually staying in Tulom, so I

0:56:32.880 --> 0:56:34.960
<v Speaker 7>have to take a collective look back to Tuloom soon.

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<v Speaker 1>So what kinds of things do you do back home

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<v Speaker 1>in France like that when you're not working, when you're

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<v Speaker 1>not vacation, and what do you do with your life?

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<v Speaker 7>I'm boring? No, actually, for some people I'm boring, But

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<v Speaker 7>for myself, I'm not boring.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you're boring at all. You're traveling to

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<v Speaker 1>foreign countries alone, You're zooming all around.

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<v Speaker 7>Well, what I do I need? I drew some time,

0:56:58.000 --> 0:57:02.480
<v Speaker 7>I sing for myself. I go shopping with my friends,

0:57:02.719 --> 0:57:06.560
<v Speaker 7>and honestly, I spent actually my time to actually look

0:57:06.800 --> 0:57:08.080
<v Speaker 7>read a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>You draw? You said, what kinds of things inspire your art?

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<v Speaker 7>People?

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<v Speaker 1>People do you like to draw? People like to do

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<v Speaker 1>you draw your family and friends? What do you What

0:57:19.440 --> 0:57:20.200
<v Speaker 1>kind of people do you draw?

0:57:20.320 --> 0:57:22.120
<v Speaker 7>Just people that I see around, just people.

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<v Speaker 1>You see around? So have you been doing that at all?

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<v Speaker 1>Like just kind of sitting on the beach and no, No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on vacation. Okay, maybe when I go back to

0:57:29.120 --> 0:57:32.520
<v Speaker 1>my room. Okay, I respect that. I was thinking myself.

0:57:32.560 --> 0:57:34.240
<v Speaker 1>I was I was about to not do this because

0:57:34.280 --> 0:57:35.640
<v Speaker 1>I was sitting in my hotel room. I was like,

0:57:35.800 --> 0:57:36.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm on vacation.

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<v Speaker 7>So do.

0:57:37.040 --> 0:57:38.760
<v Speaker 1>I really need to bust out the gecko soup, But

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<v Speaker 1>every time I do, I'm glad I get to meet someone.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, exactly. So question for you, how long you've been

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<v Speaker 7>on vacation.

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<v Speaker 1>For I got here two days ago, two days ago,

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<v Speaker 1>and I leave tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 7>That's a sure vacation.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a sure but I honestly, I, uh, well, I've

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<v Speaker 1>been I I do. I do like live shows and stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was on a tour in the US, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and for about two weeks. And I came straight from

0:58:07.160 --> 0:58:11.280
<v Speaker 1>that tour to me, heret of this your comedian, I

0:58:11.600 --> 0:58:13.960
<v Speaker 1>do that. I actually do. I do this but on

0:58:14.160 --> 0:58:17.080
<v Speaker 1>stage with people, and so I've been doing that for

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<v Speaker 1>two weeks, and I came right here and then I, uh, I.

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<v Speaker 7>Got me curious. Now I'm gonna have to go and

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<v Speaker 7>actually check you out.

0:58:24.600 --> 0:58:27.120
<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, okay, I'll show you. I'll show you the gram.

0:58:27.560 --> 0:58:30.600
<v Speaker 1>But I'm actually like, it was a short trip, but

0:58:30.640 --> 0:58:32.840
<v Speaker 1>it's perfect amount because I'm very ready to go home

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<v Speaker 1>actually and do nothing. I haven't been in my apartment

0:58:35.480 --> 0:58:38.480
<v Speaker 1>for two weeks, so it could be on fire right now.

0:58:38.560 --> 0:58:41.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what's going on there. Oh, mushroom's growing,

0:58:41.480 --> 0:58:45.840
<v Speaker 1>mushrooms growing dead mice. Do you do you live alone?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you not worried that, Like I'm always worried that

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<v Speaker 1>something's gonna happen.

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<v Speaker 7>No, No, I mean I live in Montreal, so oh

0:58:54.200 --> 0:58:56.760
<v Speaker 7>really if something, actually, if my apartment has to catch.

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<v Speaker 1>Fire, I've never been to Montreal before. Is it worth it?

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<v Speaker 6>So?

0:59:02.280 --> 0:59:02.760
<v Speaker 7>Worth it?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, it is amazing.

0:59:04.280 --> 0:59:08.360
<v Speaker 7>It's an amazing city, especially during summer with all the festival.

0:59:08.400 --> 0:59:10.000
<v Speaker 7>If you're like you know meaning people, you know the

0:59:10.080 --> 0:59:11.840
<v Speaker 7>old the festival in music? Do you love music?

0:59:12.040 --> 0:59:13.320
<v Speaker 1>Are you a music festival person?

0:59:13.560 --> 0:59:13.880
<v Speaker 7>I am?

0:59:14.000 --> 0:59:16.880
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I got that vibe from you. You have this like friendly,

0:59:16.960 --> 0:59:19.280
<v Speaker 1>open vibe to yourself that I see whenever I go

0:59:19.360 --> 0:59:21.080
<v Speaker 1>to music festivals exactly.

0:59:21.160 --> 0:59:24.120
<v Speaker 7>So music festivals so many of them in Montreal, so

0:59:24.160 --> 0:59:27.040
<v Speaker 7>you don't get bored and it's always alive. So now

0:59:27.160 --> 0:59:28.480
<v Speaker 7>winter is coming soon.

0:59:29.760 --> 0:59:32.520
<v Speaker 1>And what kind of music do you listen to anything? Anything?

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<v Speaker 7>So this summer, most of it was house because of

0:59:35.440 --> 0:59:37.960
<v Speaker 7>the person I've been spending time with this summer, she

0:59:38.000 --> 0:59:41.320
<v Speaker 7>loves house electro. So we've been going to this kind

0:59:41.320 --> 0:59:44.280
<v Speaker 7>of music festival. But it depends on the mood. I guess.

0:59:44.480 --> 0:59:47.360
<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, what what have you been listening to while

0:59:47.400 --> 0:59:51.120
<v Speaker 1>you've been on vacation. That's classical music? And like do

0:59:52.320 --> 0:59:53.120
<v Speaker 1>like that kind of stuff?

0:59:53.400 --> 0:59:53.560
<v Speaker 4>Well?

0:59:53.640 --> 0:59:55.840
<v Speaker 7>No, mostly, like, yeah, a little bit, but.

0:59:55.800 --> 0:59:59.600
<v Speaker 1>Not the same piano music. Interesting? Interesting? Is that what

0:59:59.600 --> 1:00:01.040
<v Speaker 1>you were listen into while you were walking?

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<v Speaker 7>No, I don't have any No, I really don't.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you when you when you relax on the beach?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you like? Do you listen to music? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>read a book? Or do you do you sleep? Or

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<v Speaker 1>do you just stare at the ocean? What do you

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<v Speaker 1>how do you relax?

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<v Speaker 7>I listened to the ocean? Okay, well, yeah, and I

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<v Speaker 7>read but I don't have my book today so it

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<v Speaker 7>won't work. And yeah, that's it. You just listen to

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<v Speaker 7>the people around you.

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<v Speaker 1>You you eaves drop on folks. No, No, it's boring.

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<v Speaker 7>This it's a you know, like an interesting conversation. No,

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<v Speaker 7>it's boring you.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you've tried eves dropping on people and you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care about your you know, the divorce you're

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<v Speaker 1>going through or the you.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't try, but sometimes it comes up. Okay, I'm

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<v Speaker 7>pretty sure you do that if you ask me. The question.

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<v Speaker 7>It means that you do that.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, my whole thing is, you know, talking to

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<v Speaker 1>I'm always curious what's going on with people. I eaves

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<v Speaker 1>drop on stuff. I also, I like, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>always trying to pay attention to how other people behave

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<v Speaker 1>and talk because it keys me into like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>how should I behave and talk as as I maneuver

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<v Speaker 1>through the universe. And so maybe I'll listen to other people.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be like, man, that guy having this conversation that

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<v Speaker 1>writes to me, he's really confident. I should like take

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<v Speaker 1>notes on what he's you know, saying. So I'll do that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>now I would like literally pull out a pen and

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<v Speaker 1>take notes, but like mental notes, I get it.

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<v Speaker 7>You learn from other people exactly exactly. So my question

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<v Speaker 7>is to speak Spanish?

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<v Speaker 1>Un poquito o poquito? Is that even a word? Piqito?

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<v Speaker 1>I know, and I know a handful of phrases and

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<v Speaker 1>enough that I can like walk around, walk around and

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<v Speaker 1>say a few things, but I can't really have like

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<v Speaker 1>a conversation. What do you what do you do? You

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<v Speaker 1>know any Spanish that fly a key? Okay, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>numbers katiki cat.

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<v Speaker 7>Cat, It's kitty. But in French, okay, if you want,

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<v Speaker 7>and you know French, I'm French.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like Spanish and French are like actually kind

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<v Speaker 1>of similar.

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<v Speaker 7>I guess I've been told that. But you know, with

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<v Speaker 7>the four years trying to learn Spanish, not that much.

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<v Speaker 1>You spent four years trying to learn Spanish really okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, trying in about four years of due lingo exactly.

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<v Speaker 7>You said it, Okay, look like the guy you know?

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<v Speaker 1>Like, are you saying I look like the d lingo bird.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never gotten that before, but that's true. I've gotten

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<v Speaker 1>people say I look like a frog. They said I

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<v Speaker 1>look like, yo, you look like a frog. I'll take that.

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<v Speaker 1>I respect that. I don't I'm not a frog, but

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<v Speaker 1>people have been you know, I I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>think in Spanish the word gecko is just gecko. But

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<v Speaker 1>people have been pointing at me and being like, like

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<v Speaker 1>little kids will be like Poppy's larana, it's larana, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean it's frog, okay, or orlaple, what is it? There's

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<v Speaker 1>a both frogs?

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, is it like it's from a coltoon? I

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<v Speaker 7>don't even know.

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<v Speaker 1>Like me, I'm just like a gecko, okay, so your

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<v Speaker 1>friends and family, are you keeping in touch with them

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<v Speaker 1>while you are here on the beach. Are they like

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<v Speaker 1>not worried about you?

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<v Speaker 7>They're used to it. My dad called me this morning, Okay,

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<v Speaker 7>do you wish maybe a happy body in advance their

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<v Speaker 7>birthday tomorrow?

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<v Speaker 1>What are you gonna do for your birthday?

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<v Speaker 7>Well, I'm gonna go visit the reoms in Tulum in

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<v Speaker 7>the morning. In the afternoon, I booked a extcution. I

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<v Speaker 7>think they're taking me around. I think not too far

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<v Speaker 7>from here, something like that. And in the evening, I

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<v Speaker 7>booked a dinner in a restaurant. From what I understand

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<v Speaker 7>is a U can't start cuisin something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So, yeah, you're kind of asked you a question that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm curious about. I love to solo travel. I love

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<v Speaker 1>going place by myself. I have friends who are women

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<v Speaker 1>that I tell them about it, and they're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I wish I could do that, but they're like afraid

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<v Speaker 1>for their safety. But yet when I'm on the road,

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<v Speaker 1>I do meet a lot of like solo female travelers,

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, well, there are people out there doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have like anything that you would say or

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<v Speaker 1>any advice to anyone who is like afraid to go

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<v Speaker 1>out and travel by themselves, like safety wise, but wants

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<v Speaker 1>to do it.

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<v Speaker 7>The thing is a phrase, Well, we only have one life,

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<v Speaker 7>so if you have to live by your fear, you

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<v Speaker 7>will never leave. That will be something I would say,

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<v Speaker 7>because to be honest with you, I was afraid to

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<v Speaker 7>to come. But every single time I actually good travel,

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<v Speaker 7>I'm always care what if something happens to me? Is

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<v Speaker 7>this happens to me? But as long as you actually

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<v Speaker 7>you know, just do your own research. And actually you

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<v Speaker 7>need to find the places where you're comfortable with and

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<v Speaker 7>you don't have to do things that you don't feel

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<v Speaker 7>comfortable with, so don't force yourself. But at the same time,

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<v Speaker 7>you need to enjoy life.

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<v Speaker 1>So m M, do you feel as though you are

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<v Speaker 1>good at conquering your fears? Me? No, But were you

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<v Speaker 1>were you afraid to come out of here by yourself?

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<v Speaker 7>Well you know into here? No play at the campine

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<v Speaker 7>is different. But tulun Yas because Tulum is in the

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<v Speaker 7>jungle something like that. And my hotel is actually right

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<v Speaker 7>in the middle of the jungle.

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<v Speaker 1>From in the middle of the jungle.

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<v Speaker 7>If something like that, I guess because around it When

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<v Speaker 7>I look at the map, there's nothing just besides this,

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<v Speaker 7>and we're just next to the sea. So beside the sea,

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<v Speaker 7>the result and the jungle. There's some other result next

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<v Speaker 7>to it, but there's nothing around. So that's where we sam.

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<v Speaker 7>But other than that, I mean, now you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 7>scared of spiders, I'm scared of all these things.

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<v Speaker 1>So obviously are you Are you ever going to face

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<v Speaker 1>those fears? Are you ever going to have no choice?

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<v Speaker 7>At some point? I guess if they come up to me,

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<v Speaker 7>what am I going to do?

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<v Speaker 1>I like that? Like what you said, Just say say

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<v Speaker 1>what you said again. You said, if you live by

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<v Speaker 1>your fear, you won't live it all. Something like that.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, So basically, if you have to live by your

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<v Speaker 7>fail you will never live at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me, is that something? Is that a philosophy that

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<v Speaker 1>you kind of had to work your way up towards

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<v Speaker 1>or was that something you've always had within you?

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<v Speaker 7>I had to learn it?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you feel like you learned it? My friends,

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<v Speaker 1>your friends.

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<v Speaker 7>The people surrounding, the people I've been meeting. So, I mean,

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<v Speaker 7>you know, it takes a lot of courage to actually

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<v Speaker 7>decide to leave. You know, where you were raised, so

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<v Speaker 7>leave friends was not easy, but I wanted to leave anyway.

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<v Speaker 7>So I started with London and then I moved after

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<v Speaker 7>that to Canada, and then from Canada, Okay, now I'm

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<v Speaker 7>traveling a little bit more around. So you need to

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<v Speaker 7>start somewhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Right right. I feel like that's like the people I've

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<v Speaker 1>talked to who are like afraid of, you know, traveling.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, go take a weekend to like another state first.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to start by going to Korea exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>That you just start in another state and then you

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<v Speaker 1>kind of work your way up, like you were talking about.

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<v Speaker 7>So just start with something exactly. Just go somewhere where

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<v Speaker 7>is going to be something different, and then slowly, by slowly,

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<v Speaker 7>you will have the confidence to actually go further.

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<v Speaker 1>And what's your next trip that you're going to take.

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<v Speaker 7>I really don't know. Well, technically, yes, I have to

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<v Speaker 7>take a plane back to Montreal, but honestly, I'm hoping

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<v Speaker 7>that next year I'm going to go to Bali, Bali.

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<v Speaker 1>I've heard cool things about Bali me too. I've heard

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<v Speaker 1>that like in all those places like Bali and Vietnam

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<v Speaker 1>and Thailand, there's like a big solo travel you know,

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<v Speaker 1>community there.

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<v Speaker 7>There's a lot of people over there, and surprising there's

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<v Speaker 7>a lot of French people everywhere. So that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you met tell me this. I have been France

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<v Speaker 1>and it was cool. People talk a lot about how

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<v Speaker 1>they think that French people can can be assholes. Now

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<v Speaker 1>you're very nice.

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<v Speaker 7>Everybody can be assholes.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody can be assles. That's why I That's why I

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<v Speaker 1>think too anytime there's any sort of like generalization of like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, well, the people from this part of America,

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<v Speaker 1>this part of Europe can be this.

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<v Speaker 7>But I'm like everywhere, I do get the feeding because

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<v Speaker 7>to benest with you, Paris is another environment. I'm not

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<v Speaker 7>from Paris, so I love Parisian people. I do love them.

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<v Speaker 7>But the environment sometimes when you're on outsider, it's different.

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<v Speaker 7>It's different, but it's the same for big cities, you know,

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<v Speaker 7>like in London is the same. Some people when they

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<v Speaker 7>actually you know, British people, they will go to London,

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<v Speaker 7>but they don't feel comfortable because the vibe is different.

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<v Speaker 7>But it is the same in big cities, you know.

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<v Speaker 7>Same thing for people that comes from Calgary, let's say,

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<v Speaker 7>and they will have to go to Montreal and Montreal

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<v Speaker 7>is a big city or something like that. You know,

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<v Speaker 7>it's the same. But at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 7>I will say, if you go to Friends, don't stop

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<v Speaker 7>at Paris. You have to travel around. Okay, try the

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<v Speaker 7>small cities, my friends. Is such a beautiful country, you know,

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<v Speaker 7>all the history, all the different places, the culture, and

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<v Speaker 7>the food. The food. It's all about the food anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>So yes, what is your name again?

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<v Speaker 7>Katie?

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<v Speaker 1>Katie? Thank you for talking to a gat though. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to say just to anyone who's listening at home,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, I've sat here and I have twenty

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<v Speaker 1>tons of people are walking by. They're not looking at me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm about to get I say this every episode. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>about to give up. I'm like, ah, fuck, nobody's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>come stop. And then a very friendly person stops by.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a good conversation. It always goes to show that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, stick it out for a little bit longer

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<v Speaker 1>and something fun and cool will happen. So thank you

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<v Speaker 1>very much. Is there anything else you want to say

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<v Speaker 1>to the people of the computer, Well.

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<v Speaker 7>Geko's nice and thank you so much for talking to

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<v Speaker 7>me today.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for talking to me today. I appreciate it, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate that. That's awesome. Than you have a good

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<v Speaker 1>rest of the trip. I'm giving you my gecko blessings

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<v Speaker 1>for the remaining five days, and I'll see you out

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<v Speaker 1>there in the universe. Thank you, of course, and goes

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<v Speaker 1>on the line taking your phone calls every night, never

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<v Speaker 1>goes to side. He's teaching you Cloud in the mid

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<v Speaker 1>of your life.

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<v Speaker 7>An expert