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Speaker 1: Here it is the Strawberry Letter. All right, here we go. Subject.

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Speaker 1: My husband's girlfriend has got to go. Here's Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: All right, you said your wife didn't write it. Ju,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm twenty seven years old, and my

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Speaker 1: I recently filed for divorce, and I cannot believe that

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Speaker 1: certain that our youngest daughter is my husband's child. I

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Speaker 1: has not been active in our children's lives. He's done

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Speaker 1: So how can I convince him to leave this woman?

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Speaker 1: I don't see any reason for your husband to come

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Speaker 1: your third child is really your husband's. You've had several affairs,

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Speaker 1: You've done some stuff in this marriage. Uh. And you

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Speaker 1: You're feeling badly now? Why? Because he has moved on

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Speaker 1: You have a man you haven't said anything about. You

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Speaker 1: know you can if you can, because you play games.

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Speaker 1: You play too many games. Divorce is nothing to play with.

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Speaker 1: You file divorce just because you thought it would make

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Speaker 1: That's what I can say to you. You need help.

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Speaker 1: And how can you convince your husband to leave this woman?

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Speaker 1: I don't think you can, Steve? Yeah, no, this is

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Speaker 1: What's wrong with both of y'all? But you're tripping you know.

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Speaker 1: First of all, we've been legally separated for three years.

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Speaker 1: at what you did. I had another man's name tattooed

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Speaker 1: just you trifling. You're not evil, you're trifling. You're having

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Speaker 1: his what's the difference, Steve, What between evil and trifling?

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Speaker 1: You're saying evil as a person that do wrong. Trifling

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Speaker 1: After that, what after? That's evil? But you took evil

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Speaker 1: and trifling letter. Uh my husband's girlfriend has got to

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Speaker 1: you're evil for saying you're gonna get hi another man.

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Speaker 1: I put somebody else's name on my chest. That's evil.

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Speaker 1: So I'm not in a relationship with a woman that's

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Speaker 1: she is trifling, She's done, she's done. Okay, I bet

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Speaker 1: I bet my husband misses me. Oh, yes he does.

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Speaker 1: I missed that name cross sh ship. I miss you

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Speaker 1: Hell no, he can't because he ain't stupid. But she

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Speaker 1: This is a rap. The best thing he did was

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Speaker 1: back then yeah? Yeah, but but what what name is

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Speaker 1: I know you were name? She's only seven? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: she got real. She got a Spanish name, a vantage. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she got the new name Emilio Garish. Yeah, Mellion. Ain't

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Speaker 1: after or Nesta and I got married tattooed Amelia on

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Speaker 1: They're different though. Okay, okay, back to the letter. I'm

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Speaker 1: just saying, when you when you get through going alway,

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Speaker 1: cross your chest, y'all, y'all gonna see an allow? Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's crazy. So from Reefort to Javonte, it could be

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Speaker 1: any of those Bernard, but yes, but oltis Alright, Steve,

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Speaker 1: we got to get out of here. You you can

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