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Speaker 1: Let up, all right, nephew, thank you. Subject I need
Speaker 1: to move out of their house. Dear Stephen Shirley, my
Speaker 1: husband's first wife died eight years ago, and I met
Speaker 1: him two years ago. He's a sweetheart of a man,
Speaker 1: and he is a loving father to his two daughters,
Speaker 1: ages seventeen and fourteen. When he introduced me to the girls,
Speaker 1: I fell in love because they were polite and well mannered.
Speaker 1: They told me that they were happy that their father
Speaker 1: was dating me, and that I must be special because
Speaker 1: he has never introduced them to a woman. That was
Speaker 1: in the beginning. In less than three months, they had
Speaker 1: stopped speaking to me whenever I went to their house.
Speaker 1: If I cooked for their father. They wouldn't eat. We
Speaker 1: announced that we were getting married, and I asked the
Speaker 1: girls if they would be bride to mate. Their maternal
Speaker 1: grandmother called me and said it was too much, too
Speaker 1: soon for the grand for her granddaughters, and I need
Speaker 1: to wait a while to get married. I told her,
Speaker 1: with all due respect, that we're getting married because their
Speaker 1: dad deserves happiness. Again, the daughters came to the wedding,
Speaker 1: but chose not to wear pink like everyone else. I
Speaker 1: moved in with my husband and it's been very tense.
Speaker 1: The girls don't try to hide their feelings and openly
Speaker 1: say negative things and compare me to their mother. I
Speaker 1: would love for my husband to correct them or come
Speaker 1: to my defense, but he won't say anything. I understand
Speaker 1: how he's in the middle. So I suggested we move
Speaker 1: to a new home. He said we can't move because
Speaker 1: of the girl's school. He caters to them. I feel
Speaker 1: like he's chosen them over our happiness. I need to
Speaker 1: move out of their house. What do I do? Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is a mess right here, This is really a mess.
Speaker 1: So now, your husband did all the right things, all
Speaker 1: the right things to get you. Now that he has you,
Speaker 1: he stopped trying. He's wrong, period. I agree with you
Speaker 1: one hundred percent that he should come to your defense
Speaker 1: and say something to these little girls, to the and
Speaker 1: especially to the grandmother. And when you met the girls,
Speaker 1: you said you fell in love with them. They were
Speaker 1: very sweet, they were very polite, they were well mannered.
Speaker 1: So what happened, I'll tell you what happened. What made
Speaker 1: them stop speaking to you. It's that wicked grandmother of theirs.
Speaker 1: She's gotten into their heads. She's poisoned them against you,
Speaker 1: because now when you come over, they don't even speak
Speaker 1: to you. She the grandmother, even called you said it
Speaker 1: was too soon for you guys to get married. Out
Speaker 1: of her business. She overstepped. She shoulders a lot of
Speaker 1: blame for this. But your husband, where is he in
Speaker 1: all of this? Where is the man in this relationship?
Speaker 1: Why hasn't he told his daughters he shouldn't even be
Speaker 1: in the middle of this. Hey, this is my wife
Speaker 1: and this is how it is. Now you're thinking about
Speaker 1: moving out of their house, No, this is your house too,
Speaker 1: And before you make any kind of move, you need
Speaker 1: to have a conversation with him and let him know
Speaker 1: exactly how you feel. If not then you know, I
Speaker 1: don't think this marriage is gonna work, Tommy.
Speaker 3: I don't know, sir. I think something happened in that
Speaker 3: three months. I think after moving in, something happened. Something
Speaker 3: ain't go right. Because these girls liked you at first,
Speaker 3: So something took a spience somewhere where all of a sudden,
Speaker 3: it takes a lot for somebody to just take a
Speaker 3: whole three sixty nine.
Speaker 4: They don't. They don't like you no more.
Speaker 3: Something happened now now, Mama, Mama, Pearl, miss Pearl don't
Speaker 3: like you.
Speaker 4: Let's just get that straight. She don't like you at all. Now.
Speaker 3: I don't know if Pearl is his mama or his
Speaker 3: wife's mother. I don't know which one it is, but
Speaker 3: it don't matter, but my pearl don't like it. It's
Speaker 3: probably it's probably the wife's mother's mom. I'm gonna assume
Speaker 3: that's that's the wife's mother.
Speaker 4: But I don't, I don't.
Speaker 3: Can I is it wrong for me to feel like
Speaker 3: maybe y'all got married a little too quick? But I mean,
Speaker 3: even though she's been deceased for eight years, she's been
Speaker 3: she passed away.
Speaker 2: So yeah, so she met him two years ago.
Speaker 4: This woman, I just I just don't. I don't get it.
Speaker 3: Something is wrong, Something is wrong with these ladies. If
Speaker 3: they they just totally against you now, because all of
Speaker 3: a sudden they was happy for their daddy.
Speaker 4: Everything was going peach and three.
Speaker 3: But then all of a sudden, now you know, they
Speaker 3: don't care no about to wear and they probably oh black,
Speaker 3: they showed him where to pink. Everybody else is playing.
Speaker 3: So they just basically rebelled right in front of you.
Speaker 4: So I don't.
Speaker 3: Telling you, grandmother, but you can't fix it, though, Shirley.
Speaker 3: You can't fix a man with his two daughters.
Speaker 4: He ain't.
Speaker 3: He's not finna leave them. He's not finna not side
Speaker 3: with those girls. He's been with them girls forever.
Speaker 4: He's not. It's not gonna work. This is not gonna work.
Speaker 4: You need to get out of this. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: You know you wasted a couple of years. That's like,
Speaker 3: but you know, talk it up, get on, I find
Speaker 3: you somebody else. I think you should lead this relationship.
Speaker 3: And I don't normally say that.
Speaker 2: M who's going to have to if it doesn't get
Speaker 2: any better. It's not gonna get.
Speaker 1: The grandmother interfering because they were flying at first and.
Speaker 4: Old ladies do.
Speaker 3: Sometime they just hey, I don't know, but but you're
Speaker 3: not finna get an older little woman to stay out
Speaker 3: of especial they help mama and them her grand babies
Speaker 3: all the odds or against you own. You don't ain't
Speaker 3: nobody in your favor at all.
Speaker 2: So it's especially her husband who should be.
Speaker 4: He ain't the man.
Speaker 3: He ain't the man he's supposed to be the man
Speaker 3: you thought he was. So check out. I got no
Speaker 3: jokes for you. Just check out. It's sometimes it's sometimes
Speaker 3: it's all right to just leave it is. It didn't
Speaker 3: it didn't work out. You ain't got no kids with him.
Speaker 3: Get your bag and get on out of there and
Speaker 3: get your own the house. All her stuff still in
Speaker 3: the hut.
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Speaker 1: All right, we're going to recap today's strawberry letter. The
Speaker 1: subject is I need to move out of their house.
Speaker 1: A woman wrote in who's married to a guy whose
Speaker 1: wife died eight years ago. She met the man two
Speaker 1: years ago. She said, he's a sweetheart of a man.
Speaker 1: He's a loving father. He has two daughters who are
Speaker 1: seventeen and fourteen. He introduced her to the girls. She
Speaker 1: fell in love with the girls because they were so
Speaker 1: polite and well mannered, and she They told her that
Speaker 1: they were happy that she got with their father. He's
Speaker 1: never introduced a woman to them, and that she must
Speaker 1: be special. So fast forward to three. That was in
Speaker 1: the beginning. Then three months later they stopped speaking to
Speaker 1: her whenever she goes over there. If she cooked for
Speaker 1: their father, they wouldn't eat the meals. So they announced
Speaker 1: they were getting married, and she wanted the girls. The
Speaker 1: two girls, seventeen and fourteen year old girls to be
Speaker 1: her bridesmaids. Well, the grandmother stepped in. Okay, the grandmother
Speaker 1: stepped in. She called the woman. The fiance said it
Speaker 1: was too soon for the granddaughters and she should wait
Speaker 1: awhile until they got married. Well, the woman said, with
Speaker 1: all due respect, you know, the dad, her fiance deserves
Speaker 1: to be happy too. And after that, all heck broke loose.
Speaker 1: The daughter stopped speaking to her. They didn't want to
Speaker 1: be in the wedding. Everybody was supposed to wear pink.
Speaker 1: They didn't wear pink. I mean, it was just a
Speaker 1: big mess.
Speaker 2: And the father.
Speaker 1: They didn't wear pink. And the father, I think you
Speaker 1: were right earlier when you said black. They probably wore
Speaker 1: black or something red or something like that. But anyway,
Speaker 1: the father has not come to his wife's defense at all.
Speaker 1: The girls don't speak to the woman. She's rude. They're rude,
Speaker 1: all of that. The grand I think it's the grandmother.
Speaker 1: But anyway, Junior, what do you say, because she wants
Speaker 1: to know what to do. She thinks she should just leave.
Speaker 5: No you think, no, no, no, no, no, no, I
Speaker 5: have to say this and this is you know, I
Speaker 5: wouldn't leave. But let's be honest. Though people get remarried
Speaker 5: all the time with children, they're not the first. People
Speaker 5: get remarried with children all the time, they are not
Speaker 5: the first. Now, I'm gonna tell you what I think
Speaker 5: the problem is is when the father broke it down
Speaker 5: to the girls that daddy's about to get remarried and
Speaker 5: that could hurt them because their mother.
Speaker 6: Has passed on.
Speaker 5: But the father said, hey, it's been eight years, I've
Speaker 5: been dating this woman for two years, and I'm just
Speaker 5: gonna let y'all meet her. And then the last three
Speaker 5: months they get upset. Okay, her the maternal grandmother's that
Speaker 5: means the deceased mother.
Speaker 6: Her mother called and told him and said, hey.
Speaker 5: You're not going to take my girls through this because
Speaker 5: you're defending your daughter.
Speaker 6: You're defending your daughter's on that. I get that.
Speaker 5: For eight years, who's been dead for eight years. I
Speaker 5: get that. That's fine. You may you may be, you
Speaker 5: may be grieving still. But this man does have a
Speaker 5: right to happeness. He does have a right to this woman.
Speaker 5: The woman did everything right.
Speaker 6: She did invite them to be bride's maids. She did
Speaker 6: everything she could possibly do.
Speaker 5: She did say, with all due respect, this man deserves
Speaker 5: to be happy and he should get married.
Speaker 6: That's what we plan to do.
Speaker 5: Now.
Speaker 6: What happened to the days when kids didn't have rights
Speaker 6: in houses. What happened to the day is when parents say, listen,
Speaker 6: you may not like this, but this is what happened.
Speaker 5: I give it perfect example when my mother got remarried.
Speaker 5: When my mother got remarried, I didn't know if I
Speaker 5: really like this guy.
Speaker 6: You know, my mama told me that's not your decision.
Speaker 2: Yeah, as long as I like him, I love him.
Speaker 5: And I'm getting married, and you son are going to
Speaker 5: be there to give me away. Now Here, I am
Speaker 5: out in the fifth ward giving her way up under
Speaker 5: the country with a train going by.
Speaker 2: See, that's what I had to do.
Speaker 7: What's that I'm fifth ward giving her way up under
Speaker 7: the country where the train going about. We are gathering
Speaker 7: here today, we just standing here by side.
Speaker 6: I had to do this. I had no say so.
Speaker 6: I didn't want her to marry that man. Stay where
Speaker 6: the kids would feel that way.
Speaker 5: But at the same time, the parents said, this is
Speaker 5: what I'm going to do. And then yes, this is
Speaker 5: gonna be your new step mother. Now we can work
Speaker 5: on the relationship, but right now we're building the love.
Speaker 5: This is what we chose to do. This is where
Speaker 5: she's gonna be. Now, I know I'm gonna miss my
Speaker 5: ex wife to no, no, not ex wife, my wood.
Speaker 6: What do you call these people?
Speaker 1: Now?
Speaker 5: We don't widow? Yeah he's a widow. I'm gonna miss
Speaker 5: my wife too. But now I got another chance. And
Speaker 5: why y'all want to take this from me? Now?
Speaker 6: I know it's women, and yeah, Timmy, you're right, it
Speaker 6: is his daughters. It's kind of hard with fathers and daughters.
Speaker 5: You go out another woman that ain't your mama, that's
Speaker 5: that's gonna be hard.
Speaker 6: But he chose love, and I think he has a
Speaker 6: right to that. He has a right And I don't know.
Speaker 5: I'm sorry. I don't think you should go nowhere. You
Speaker 5: should build with that man. However y'all feel. Now, if
Speaker 5: y'all decide to move into another house to make the
Speaker 5: kids feel fun, y'all have that when we're gonna move
Speaker 5: over here, but we're gonna be together where we go,
Speaker 5: that's all.
Speaker 2: They can just have the house though at seventeen and fourtunes.
Speaker 6: Well, hey, you don't like my wife.
Speaker 2: That's the problem. The grandmother is too involved in this situation.
Speaker 1: I believe she's the one that got into these girls
Speaker 1: heads and poison them because they were so sweet and
Speaker 1: and kind at first.
Speaker 2: I just believe that, you know, because.
Speaker 6: You said, I don't worry by the baby. I'm gonna
Speaker 6: take care of these women. I'll talk to them, and
Speaker 6: you gotta let her have that.
Speaker 5: Yeah that is yeah, your mother in law. Hey, hey,
Speaker 5: she'll take care of that. Y'all still love each other.
Speaker 5: Go ahead, I wouldn't worry about you said, matter of fact,
Speaker 5: when your mam and dad y'all was young, y'all was
Speaker 5: six and nine.
Speaker 1: Yeah, now, y'all alutly they don't even remember. Yeah, a
Speaker 1: whole lot.
Speaker 6: It's some things that happened you don't even know nothing about.
Speaker 4: I don't think she can cook though, because they ain't
Speaker 4: eating none of that. I don't think.
Speaker 2: Because they're mean.
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