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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is about how to remember names. Everyone loves

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Speaker 1: to hear his or her own name, and some people

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Speaker 1: may be more naturally oriented towards remembering names than others are,

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Speaker 1: but everybody can get better at it, and getting better

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Speaker 1: at it is a good thing to do. Today's tip,

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Speaker 1: like some others this week, comes from Aaron zam at

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Speaker 1: Ruddy's new book, The Little Book of Life Skills. This

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Speaker 1: book features interviews with dozens of experts on how to

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Speaker 1: improve daily life. Her suggestions for remembering names comes from

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Speaker 1: Jim Quick, who runs quick Learning, a company that helps

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Speaker 1: with memory training. His first suggestion is to believe that

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Speaker 1: you can remember names. Telling yourself, oh, I'm not it

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Speaker 1: at names is really just about letting yourself off the hook.

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Speaker 1: You've learned all kinds of other skills that are necessary

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Speaker 1: for your job or your daily life. Learning names is

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Speaker 1: really about believing that other people are important. Second practice

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Speaker 1: remembering the names of people you meet as often as

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Speaker 1: you can. A good way to do this is to

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Speaker 1: repeat the person's name as soon as the person introduces themselves. Hi,

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Speaker 1: I'm Ted is followed by hello Ted, not just hello.

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Speaker 1: If it seems authentic to the conversation, you might ask

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Speaker 1: about the name, the spelling, or where it came from,

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Speaker 1: or why their parents chose it. Then come up with

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Speaker 1: a visual that helps you remember the name. As Ready writes,

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Speaker 1: siding quick, if someone is named Mary, you could picture

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Speaker 1: her carrying two little lambs, queuing the nursery rhyme and

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Speaker 1: hopefully her name in your next encounter. And then finally,

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Speaker 1: when you end the conversation, use the person's name again.

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Speaker 1: It was great talking to you, Lisa. This gives you

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Speaker 1: two opportunities to hear yourself saying the name, which will

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Speaker 1: hopefully help cement it into your brain. Just remind yourself

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Speaker 1: why this matters, and stop with the self defeating talk.

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Speaker 1: I'm not good at remembering names, can become I'm not

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Speaker 1: good at remembering names, Yet you can learn we all

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Speaker 1: remember things when we want to. I never used the

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Speaker 1: wrong form of there and there in my writing, so

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Speaker 1: clearly I'm able to remember details. Names are very important details.

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Speaker 1: They are part of being welcoming and gracious. I've seen

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Speaker 1: evidence of this at of all places. My kid's karate studio,

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Speaker 1: the instructors seem to have a policy that as soon

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Speaker 1: as any child walks in the door, even for a

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Speaker 1: first lesson, all the teachers will know and remember the

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Speaker 1: child its name, and so they do. On little Bobby's

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Speaker 1: first day in class, the teacher will be saying, Bobby, Joe,

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Speaker 1: Chris over to the right corner. And while I'm willing

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Speaker 1: to believe that some people have better name memories than others,

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's the primary thing people are hired

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Speaker 1: for at a karate studio. That's their karate expertise. But

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Speaker 1: it's just a work culture assumption that knowing everyone's name

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Speaker 1: is as important as knowing a particular form, and so

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Speaker 1: people perform to that expectation. The rest of us can too.

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Speaker 1: So today, if you are introduced to someone, make a

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Speaker 1: point of remembering his or her name and using it

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Speaker 1: multiple times in the conversation. Try introducing that person to

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Speaker 1: someone else and using the name again. Maybe make a

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Speaker 1: note to yourself somewhere, writing down I met Henry today

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Speaker 1: and he told me this. Over time, you will become

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Speaker 1: the sort of person who remembers names and as Dale Carnegie,

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Speaker 1: author of How to Win Friends, and influence people. Once

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Speaker 1: wrote to all of us, our own names are the

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Speaker 1: sweetest sound in any language. This matters. We know it does,

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Speaker 1: so we can get it right. In the meantime, this

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Speaker 1: is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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Speaker 1: most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear

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