WEBVTT - Ep 282: The Lost Episode of Brown Ambition 0:00:16.200 --> 0:00:26.680 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, we're brown ambishon. 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:30.800 Hey, hey, hey, how's it going good. 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:34.800 I was like, oh, I'm serving bedbun realists, what about you? 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:36.920 Do you know what I am serving? I woke up 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:39.000 today and my house smelled like a swamp. Thank you, 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:43.240 Hurricane Ida. My Zenden has been tarnished by the swamp 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:45.559 waters of the Bronx River. But you know, we're very 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:48.760 blessed and fortunate that we didn't have a lot of damage. 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:51.040 So my heart goes out to I mean, just so 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:53.920 many family, even in my neighborhood. Somehowses flooded completely. So 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:56.840 you know, we're very lucky. And you know, my heart 0:00:56.880 --> 0:01:00.000 goes out to everyone who's dealing with a complete nightmare, 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:01.080 including to Nedda Bell. 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:05.120 Yeah. Photographed, yeah, logo our artwork. 0:01:05.680 --> 0:01:07.840 So if you see like our Brown Ambition, like our 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:11.800 new Brown Ambition artwork or the one from before, or 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:14.520 any of my headshots, it's my friend. In the cover 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:16.399 of my book Get It with Money, it's my friend 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:20.000 Toanedda Bell, and she lives in New Jersey and her 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:25.120 basement just just flooded and she just lost so much. 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:27.839 And I just saw that she had posted her frustration 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:31.080 that she it looks like FEMA might not be servicing 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:34.160 Essex County where we live. So she's just really it's 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:36.240 just you know, I'm gonna actually call her today, so 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:39.160 you know, just love and light to you. Toan Nedda, 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:42.400 I just can't imagine. I mean to your point, Mandy. 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:44.560 Literally it was like house by house, you know, like 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:47.720 my house was fine, but the one across the street 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:50.640 they're pumping out like gallons and gallons and gallons of water. 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:54.640 So well to everyone recovering from the storm along the 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:56.920 East Coast and in the Gulf Coast for sure, everyone 0:01:56.960 --> 0:02:00.600 listening in New Orleans, Mississippi, Alabama. Why did I say 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:03.200 New Orleans as if that's the entire state Louisiana, I know, 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:07.440 not hearts out. I hope you guys are recovering. And 0:02:07.920 --> 0:02:10.520 you know, if anyone listening to the show has any 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:12.600 stories to share or wants to offer support to be 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.760 a listeners who may be a need, hit us up 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:17.640 Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com, or you can 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:21.240 hit us up on ig We're at Brown Ambition Podcast 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:23.600 or brendambispodcast dot com. 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:25.400 Zach cool. 0:02:27.800 --> 0:02:29.760 So this makes a little specially specih. 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:34.760 Yes, it is super special because we are going to 0:02:34.880 --> 0:02:39.400 take y'all on a very special trip down memory lane. 0:02:40.280 --> 0:02:42.400 That's right to have now. Last week, if you guys listened, 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:43.720 If you haven't, go back and listen. 0:02:44.160 --> 0:02:45.640 It's an episode you don't want to miss. 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:48.760 But we mentioned that our first ever episode of Brown Ambition, 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:51.440 it's actually been eaten up and hidden away by the 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:55.200 podcasting gods somehow. You actually can't find it unless you 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:58.760 know exactly where to look. Our first ever episode actually 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:03.360 aired number fifteenth, two thousand and sixteen. 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:06.320 Wait, that's incorrect. Why did I get our own anniversary wrong? 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:10.560 It eventually hired twenty fifteen, Tiffany, which means we are 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:12.840 just coming up on our six year anniversary. 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:18.800 Gosh, we were such baby podcasters then, so y'all to celebrate, 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:23.600 me and Mandra dug deep, deep, deep into the archives 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:26.359 of the Internet to find our first episode. In y'all, 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:29.680 it does not disappoint you get to hear baby Mandra 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:32.400 and me Tiffany talking about why we started this little 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:35.320 show to begin with, and what we hope and dream 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:39.320 we build together, this community, this beautiful ba fan that 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:41.400 we've come to love so much. 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:45.160 After you listen to our first ever episode stick around, 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:47.240 because after the break, we are also going to have 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:49.520 y'all listen to a throwback to one of our favorite 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:52.640 guests of twenty twenty, doctor Imani Walker, who you might 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:55.680 recognize from a little show called Bravos Married to Medicine. 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:59.960 Yes, Mandra. Doctor Imani is a physician trained in general 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:03.800 adult psychiatry, and she joined us in the thick of 0:04:03.880 --> 0:04:06.840 the Pandemonium last year to give us some solid tips 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:09.720 for staying sane during this quarantine. 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:11.440 That was a little rhyme, but not really. 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:15.120 Now it looks like we're all headed back to the 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:18.840 land of mass mandates in COVID quarantine, so we thought 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:20.719 it would be a good time to bring back doctor 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:23.360 Emani's tips for a refresher on how we can all 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:26.800 be kind to our bodies and minds and each other. 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:31.120 Okay, so deep wusaw breath, I think we need to 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:35.320 bring back that squiggly dreamy sequence music they use whenever 0:04:35.400 --> 0:04:37.080 saved by the bell, Tiffany is saved by the bell 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:38.960 like a your generation thing or a mind generate. 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:40.200 I do know save by the bell. 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:41.400 That was my thank you. 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:42.960 But you know, when they used to go to the 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:45.680 Max and they would like have the squiggly pink glittery 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.760 you know filter come over the screen and the violins 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:49.960 or the harp. 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:51.880 No, the harp would start chiming. 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:54.320 You knew it was a throwback episode, so we need 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:57.800 that music. BA fan, We hope you enjoy this throwback episode. 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:14.279 So Producer Sarah please cue dreamy music. Hey everyone, I'm Mandy. 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:17.800 Hey, it's Tiffany and this is Brown Ambition. 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:23.159 I've been a reporter in New York City for five years. 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:25.880 Right now, I'm a writer at Yahoo Finance. I write 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:29.080 about money, business, career, basically anything to do with the 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:29.600 world and. 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:30.680 How it impacts your wallet. 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:33.599 And I am Tiffany, but much better known as the 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:38.279 Budget Lista and I'm a financial educator, bestselling author, speaker, teacher, 0:05:38.560 --> 0:05:42.440 all things personal finance. Basically, on this podcast, we're going 0:05:42.480 --> 0:05:46.120 to be talking about career, relationships, life and living in 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:47.039 this brown skin. 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:49.919 We work, we start businesses, we help one another. We 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:52.720 do everything we can to make a better life for ourselves. 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:55.520 And that's what Brown Ambition is all about. So here 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:57.839 are some topics you might hear us talk about on 0:05:57.880 --> 0:05:58.520 the podcast. 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:03.160 How to deal with off this bullyes and microaggressions. 0:06:02.400 --> 0:06:05.040 Coping with being the only one in the office. 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:08.320 Yes, how to get money for a new business even 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:11.440 when you have no idea what you're doing. Should you 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:14.479 care if people think you have resting bitch base? 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:16.320 Guilty? 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:19.400 What to do when by earns less. 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:20.800 Than you guilty guilty? 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:24.440 Whether or not we should use the word bay in 0:06:24.600 --> 0:06:25.640 everyday conversation. 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:26.960 I have a lot of thoughts about this. 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:29.920 Yeah, well, thank you so much for joining us. 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:32.480 Guys. We're going to start off the podcast by talking 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:36.400 about some buzzworthy headlines that are cropping up in our lives, 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:37.720 and we want to talk. 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:38.240 More about this. 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:47.720 Week's buzzworthy. 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:49.840 Yes, I'm excited about this one. 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:52.560 I think, I know. I'm excited to have a lot 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:55.320 of opinions about this, and so does the rest of America. Yes, 0:06:55.920 --> 0:06:59.960 so many opinions on how a young woman today decides 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:02.680 it's the right time to step into motherhood. 0:07:02.800 --> 0:07:05.279 Yes, baby limbo, baby limbo. 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:07.600 Ye, right, it's this. You know, I kind of came 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:09.920 up with this terminology for a story I did on 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:14.320 young people millennials eighteen up to their mid thirties who 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:18.400 are stuck between do I have this college debt, or 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:20.440 do you know, pay that off and focus on my 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:23.480 career or do I also have a baby or you know, 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:27.560 what should come first? And honestly, it's such a difficult 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.360 question because mother nature doesn't wait for you to pay 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:32.600 off your student live debt. And I think that women 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:35.200 have to recognize that fact. And it's maybe not so 0:07:35.320 --> 0:07:37.680 comfortable because you know, obviously we want to talk about 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:40.840 how much control we should have over our own bodies, 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:43.080 which is absolutely true. You should, you know, be your 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:44.800 own body's boss. But at the end of the day, 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:46.720 like that clock is ticking. 0:07:46.520 --> 0:07:47.160 Yeah, it's true. 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:50.280 So I'm thirty five and I turned thirty six in October, 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:53.400 which is not far away. And I mean, I've been 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.680 thinking about it a lot because I am in a 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:58.680 serious relationship, me and my boyfriend Superman. 0:07:58.960 --> 0:08:00.960 He already has a daughter. She's eight. She's great. 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:02.960 Day they a man with a daughter. That's some grown 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:04.000 up dating, yes. 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:06.520 But I love it honestly because one, I'm at an 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:09.680 age now and because I work for myself, I realized 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:12.480 I don't necessarily want a huge family. I came from 0:08:12.520 --> 0:08:14.280 a family there was five girls. My mom and dad 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:16.440 raised all five of us, and I don't know that 0:08:16.480 --> 0:08:18.360 I want a big family, but I at least think 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:20.680 I'm pretty sure I want at least one kid of 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:22.520 my own. I mean, according to my mom, I really 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:23.400 need to get on it. 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:25.920 And I kind of feel like that too. 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:28.080 My best friend just had a baby, and my sister 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:30.559 just had a baby, and so their babies are all 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:31.400 under a. 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:34.880 Year old, and so I've been like, yeah, a little bit, 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.000 but sometimes you're over you start to twenty a. 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:40.200 Little bit more so than I'm like, oh, I'm gonna 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.200 be thirty six, So when are you gonna make a choice. 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:44.640 A friend of mine had she made her choice at 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:46.800 thirty six and had her baby at thirty seven, and 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:49.520 she said, I wish I would have started sooner, That's 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:50.040 what I hear. 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:52.720 I'm afraid, yeah, sooner would be. 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:54.600 I'm twenty eight right now, and I feel like, am 0:08:54.640 --> 0:08:57.480 I gonna regret not having a baby now? I don't know, 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.880 but it seems like I just don't want to do it. 0:09:00.160 --> 0:09:01.880 Her reason for saying she wished she would have started 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:03.960 sooner is that she wished she really wants to have 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.480 a second and she doesn't know if she can. Yeah 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:08.640 she can, So that's why I don't know that I 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:10.360 want to have a second. I mean, I would want 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:12.320 to have two kids, but between his one and my one, 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:14.000 I'm like, well, then it goes one plus one max 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:18.000 two for free. Yes, she's the bonus kid and so 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:21.400 and plus I do so much work and I really 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:23.520 want to And I know this might sound a little selfish, 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:27.040 but I want to maintain my individual personality and maintaince 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:28.000 is okay, you know. 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:28.800 As long as you know. 0:09:28.880 --> 0:09:30.680 I mean, I think selfish would be more so having 0:09:30.720 --> 0:09:33.959 ten kids and still wanting to fry around the country 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:36.120 and speak and teach. And you don't have enough time 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:38.520 for your children, So I don't want to spread myself 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:39.240 super thin. 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:41.760 Right mm hm, well, hopefully you just have one kid 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:42.160 to start. 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:44.160 I know, well, my boyfriends are twins, so he is, 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:49.880 Oh Jesus no, I'm like, yo, he told me. I 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:51.319 already like, so I'm aiming. 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:53.760 For Does that gene come from the mail line or 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:56.360 that I don't, which is more likely to go somebody? 0:09:56.480 --> 0:10:02.120 Somebody email us at Brown Ambition, yes and tell us 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:05.120 how exactly our twins formulated. Does that come from the 0:10:05.120 --> 0:10:06.240 male line the female line? 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:06.480 Is that? 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:08.199 Yeah? 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:09.920 Is it hereditary? Or is that like some sort of 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:10.560 random you. 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:12.400 Do you think it skips a generation, so you might 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:14.800 be good. Okay, maybe you're If you have a daughter, 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:15.720 then she's got to worry. 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:17.319 But you're good, So so you say. 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:18.880 And so I come back to the next podcast, and 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:23.400 I'm like, so, y'all, I'm having twins, thanks Manny. 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:25.120 I can talk well, you know, I'm I'm twenty eight, 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:29.520 and I don't necessarily feel pressure to have a baby, Okay, 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:33.680 but I feel I guess that's not true. I don't 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:36.720 feel pressure from myself, Okay, I don't. I look at 0:10:36.760 --> 0:10:39.280 puppies and I feel my my ovaries twins, like I 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:41.600 really want a puppy very badly. Babies not so much, 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:44.520 but they're cute. What I do feel is intense pressure 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:48.120 from you know, I'm dating. I've been dating my partner 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:52.000 boyfriend for through over three years now, which is my 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.160 longest relationship. Okay, and you know, we live together and 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.960 we're kind of we're kind of playing it as we 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:01.440 you know by ear. His fan, however, is not waiting, 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:05.959 especially his mother. He comes from a very traditional, close 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:09.400 knit community and family. I guess it's not giving away 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:11.720 too much if I say he's Dominican. So I'm in 0:11:11.720 --> 0:11:16.359 a mixed race relationship. And his mother is very Catholic 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:18.880 and very old school, and she is like the mother 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:22.280 of mothers. She lives to nurture her son's two sons. 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:27.040 They are school of rotten. But you know, I feel 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.719 her looking at me and wondering. Not just feel, but 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:33.680 I hear because she tells me, Mandy, Amanda, why why 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:34.520 no baby yet? 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:35.720 Why? 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:37.880 Her English isn't very good, but she can she gets 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:42.160 her point of where's the baby yet? Where it's been 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:45.199 three years? I asked her, you know, uh, don't you 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:47.560 want us to get married first, and get married and 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:50.160 do all that and you know the right order of events. 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:52.280 And she's like, no, just have a baby. 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:52.480 Wow? 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:54.080 Would this be her first grandchild? 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:55.120 This will be her first grandchild. 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:56.200 There's so much pressure. 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:58.520 What so how about you come from a family of 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:00.880 five girls and no one has kids. My mother every 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:03.679 day on the phone, so my my Nigerian name is Adoci. 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:06.520 My mother would call me and say, so adult, she's 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:10.800 still not mad. It still no baby. And I'm like, 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:14.440 good morning, older no second oldest. So they're just like 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:16.920 so somebody the oldest is married and she's working on it, 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:20.360 and I'm the second. The third is not married. The 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:22.720 forest is married and she just had a baby, so 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:27.200 we're like, whoa, and but just watching her, she's literally 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:30.720 like the milk machine. So she's only allowed to take 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:33.400 ten paces away from the baby before the milk machine 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:35.319 has to return and dispense milk. 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.600 You mean, it's not glamorous, and she's not like Blake 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:42.280 Lively taking selfies of herself, you know, breastfeeding and a 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:44.080 field of sunflowers is. 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:47.600 Straight beause honestly, she's like, I'm so tired. Her feet 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.840 are swollen, and she's just like, how can I My 0:12:50.880 --> 0:12:52.319 mom is like, my mom is a nurse and her 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:53.720 my mom was telling her you need to put your 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:55.480 feet up. She's like, oh, when when I'm beating the 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:56.080 milk machine. 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:59.000 I work for a company, and obviously Y'allhoo has very 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:04.439 generous eternity and paternity benefit programs, which isn't the norm nationwide. 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:07.840 It's actually America is one of the only developing nations 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:12.000 that doesn't have a federally mandated paid maternity or paternity 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:14.720 lead law. But I'm lucky enough to work for Yahoo 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:18.079 and we have sixteen weeks off that's awesome, and dads 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:20.120 get eight weeks off and at least I know I 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:21.840 have that, Yeah, sort of if I'm still working, you're 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:23.679 gonna have a baby to have that kind of cushion. 0:13:24.000 --> 0:13:26.040 But can you talk about, like I'm curious as an 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:29.240 entrepreneur's self, you know, your own your own business, how 0:13:29.280 --> 0:13:30.640 are you going to plan your leave? 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:34.040 So I've been like, honestly like kind of like planning 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:36.439 now because I'm going to be thirty six, like I said, 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:38.560 and I mentioned, and my boyfriend and I have been 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:41.200 talking about marriage and kids. So right now, the way 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:43.480 my business is is that I start off at zero 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.200 basically like every month, meaning like my income, I never 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:48.480 know what's going to come in. People would just email 0:13:48.520 --> 0:13:50.520 me and call me and say we want you to 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:52.280 speak or teach or whatever. And so as a month 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:55.120 rolls on, I make money. I cannot do that and 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:58.200 the kid because one you know, I'm gonna have to 0:13:58.200 --> 0:14:00.000 be home. I do a lot of speaking around the country, 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:02.520 you know, So that's a worry for me. So I thought, well, 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.400 how am I going to make this work? So one 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:06.720 of the things I'm implementing is I'm looking for other 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:09.439 ways to make passive income. So I have two books 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:11.880 that do fairly well. I'm coming out with a children's 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:14.199 book hopefully that will boost up my income. In two 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:17.959 I'm launching this academy called the Live Richer Academy, where 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:19.800 it's going to be like a monthly fee and you 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:22.280 can take classes on investing in business and all this 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:24.560 kind of stuff. And so the Live Richer Academy will 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:28.480 definitely help to put regular income into my stream without 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:30.080 me having to leave the house because I'm not going 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:31.520 to be able to, at least not for a while. 0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:34.200 So I'd love to hear what the BA audience has 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:38.120 to say. Tweet us at the BA Podcast. You can 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:41.520 find us on Facebook at Brown Ambition and you can 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:46.000 email us at Brownambitionpodcast at gmail dot com. 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:47.880 Let us know. Are you and Baby Limbo? What is 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:48.480 your story? 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:51.560 We'd love to hear it, maybe share it next time 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:51.920 we're on. 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.520 Well, thank y'all so much for walking down memory lane. 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:02.160 It is so crazy to listen to ourselves six years ago. 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:04.040 You know, I used to get onto myself for not 0:15:04.160 --> 0:15:06.240 ever journaling like I'm supposed to be doing. I'm a 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:09.760 writer or whatever, right, But then I remembered I have 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:14.400 got two hundred and eighty hours of journaling because every 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:17.160 episode it feels like we are just sharing what's happening 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:19.320 in our lives and in the world. So we've got 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:22.000 this little time capsule. It's really cool to look back 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:23.840 and to hear what we were going through just six 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:24.280 years ago. 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:25.920 I know. I love that we call like our husband's 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:27.360 not boyfriends, like our boyfriend. 0:15:28.520 --> 0:15:30.800 Yeah, I mean like he might make it. We don't know. 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:34.600 We've grown up so much. 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:41.640 So now it is time for the second half of 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:44.360 our throwback episode. Like we told you guys, this is 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:46.200 a special one. This is one of our favorite guests 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:50.280 of twenty twenty doctor Imani Walker, as a trained physician 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:53.760 in general adult psychiatry. Doctor Imani was one of our 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:56.000 favorite guests because she joined us to talk about how 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:59.960 we could truly cope mentally, physically, health wise with all 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:03.040 that is happening while we were struggling with quarantine, and 0:16:03.080 --> 0:16:05.160 now that we are heading back into the cold, cold, 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.200 falling winter season of twenty twenty one, it seems like 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:10.520 it just seems like deja vu. So I wanted to 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:13.840 bring back doctor Aimani and hopefully y'all will benefit from 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:15.320 some of her tips on how we can just be 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:18.000 a little bit kinder and nicer to ourselves as we 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:18.920 finish out the year. 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:32.920 Cute let music, and we're back and browner. We have 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:38.240 the amazing, the beautiful, the intelligent, and the real doctor Amiani. 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:46.040 Okay, now I like that, hire everybody and hie to 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:48.240 you guys. I like that, though, yes it is browner 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:54.560 just because I'm here. So so yeah, I'm totally like, 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.960 I'm so highed to like meet you guys virtually because 0:16:58.320 --> 0:17:01.480 new normal. But yeah, like this is this is great. 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:02.720 I'm super happy to be here. 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.800 So doctor Amani, you have been a practicing psychiatrist for 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:07.160 how long? 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:11.119 Now let's see my I'm like looking at one of 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.720 my degrees on the wall in my office. Yeah, okay, 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:17.600 that's all right. Sorry, Yeah, like that really wasn't a flex, 0:17:17.640 --> 0:17:20.080 but I realize now it sounds like one of my degrees, 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:22.520 one of my four things on the wall. 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:24.760 You pay for them. Let's let's respect. 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:30.040 Well okay, I will, I will admit, like, honestly I 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:33.959 didn't pay for them. My parents did, right, So so 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:36.879 I actually spoke about my mom. I spoke to my 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:40.040 mom about this because we have a YouTube show. Actually 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:42.919 that we usually do it every Monday, so I have 0:17:43.000 --> 0:17:46.200 to do that in a couple hours. But I never 0:17:47.119 --> 0:17:52.919 let anyone know in school that I didn't receive financial 0:17:52.960 --> 0:17:55.560 aid or that I had a scholarship. So I would 0:17:55.600 --> 0:18:00.239 always memorize where the financial aid office was, because is 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:02.840 at the end of the year, apparently you have to 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:05.640 do like your financial aid wrap up, and I don't 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:08.960 know anything about Like I've heard of loans like Stafford 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:11.280 loans and stuff, but that didn't apply to me. So 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:13.639 I would just memorize where the financial aid office was 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:16.000 because I didn't want people to know, you know, that 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:20.199 my basically my parents saved up for it. And I 0:18:20.280 --> 0:18:23.800 did have a scholarship. My alma maters is Xavier University 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:28.200 in New Orleans, and I had an academic scholarship. Yes, yes, 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:33.600 but yeah, I never My mother told me when I 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:35.600 was a senior in high school. She was like, well, 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:37.560 you know, if you want to go to a school 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:40.719 in the Northeast, and I'd gotten into like Wesleyan and Vassar, 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:43.199 which is my mom's alma mater, she was like, you 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:46.360 can do that. But she like she was really really 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:49.240 adamant about me going to Xavier because I wanted to 0:18:49.240 --> 0:18:52.360 be a doctor, and it's basically a black doctor factory 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:54.760 and has been for decades. So she was like, here's 0:18:54.760 --> 0:18:58.600 the thing. We can pay for your college because it's 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:02.879 significantly cheaper, like was much much cheaper than Northeast, like 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:05.240 Ivy League suition. She was like, I can pay for 0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:07.159 you a college, you can get a car, you know, 0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:10.480 basically like you can be out here. But when but 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:12.480 if you go to a school in the Northeast, you're 0:19:12.520 --> 0:19:14.199 gonna have to take out loans. And I was like, 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:17.520 well then no, I was like, I'm not doing that, 0:19:17.880 --> 0:19:22.120 so my my. So basically that's what happened. So when 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:24.760 I would be at a college, like I said, at Xavier, 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:27.560