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Speaker 2: Ryan is on the phone today for our first Day
Speaker 2: follow up. He's getting ghosted by a woman named Shana.
Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. First, Ryan, how long has it Vince has
Speaker 2: heard from Shana.
Speaker 3: It's been about three days now.
Speaker 4: Three days.
Speaker 3: I know, that doesn't feel like a long time, but after,
Speaker 3: like our data, feels like forever because she was responding
Speaker 3: so much before, you know.
Speaker 1: Okay, why don't you tell us about the day and
Speaker 1: how you met her and stuff.
Speaker 5: Cool.
Speaker 3: So we met during a pub pro It was fun.
Speaker 3: She wasn't out very long, but like I got her
Speaker 3: number before she left, and we thought that, like we
Speaker 3: talked about him, would like we'll have a proper date.
Speaker 3: There's this little pocket of the city that has a park,
Speaker 3: one of my favorite pizza places, and like an ice
Speaker 3: cream spot next door. So I was thinking, like that
Speaker 3: might be actually a really fun date. We get multiple venues,
Speaker 3: a little extra time depending on how well goes, you know.
Speaker 3: Then I found out there was a band performing at
Speaker 3: the pizza place one of the nights, so I asked
Speaker 3: her out for that and she said yes, and like
Speaker 3: it was such a great vibe. We had pizza, we
Speaker 3: had drinks. We left so much like you know, when
Speaker 3: your stomach actually hurts from laughing. Yeah, and then we
Speaker 3: ended the night with like we both didn't want to
Speaker 3: really go home, so we went and we did get
Speaker 3: the ice cream and we had a really nice kiss
Speaker 3: at the end. Oh yeah, I had like so much
Speaker 3: fun with her, and I feel like there's a little
Speaker 3: bit of mystery to her and I really want to
Speaker 3: get to know her more. She's like, guys, she's like
Speaker 3: so pretty, Like I just couldn't get enough.
Speaker 1: Well, what do you think happened? It sounds like it
Speaker 1: was so sweet.
Speaker 3: I made a joke, and sometimes jokes don't always come
Speaker 3: across when you're nervous. She had dropped something on the
Speaker 3: floor and I was like, I noticed that my shoes
Speaker 3: were on time, and I was like, won't you just
Speaker 3: tie my shoes while you're down there? And like I
Speaker 3: was just.
Speaker 2: Gonna lie, yeah, hey, tie my shoes and make me food.
Speaker 4: I like that, Oh no, just might be it.
Speaker 1: What does she do though, when We're like, tie.
Speaker 3: My shoes, actually tied my shoes, and I was like, no,
Speaker 3: actually did h yeah? Does?
Speaker 4: She laughed you were serious?
Speaker 3: I was not serious whatsoever. And at the time I
Speaker 3: didn't really think it was a big deal because it
Speaker 3: kind of felt like playful, like she was like here done,
Speaker 3: you know. But then when I told my buddies about it,
Speaker 3: they couldn't stop like making fun of me. And I
Speaker 3: genuinely feel that because it's just one of those things,
Speaker 3: you know, like when we're nervous, we're out with somebody
Speaker 3: that we like, we sometimes say stupid stuff. And I'm
Speaker 3: not that guy who would be like, you know, like
Speaker 3: you were saying, like tie my shoes and make me
Speaker 3: a sandwich. That's not me. Uh, it is genuinely a
Speaker 3: bad joke. Then that's all it was. But now it's
Speaker 3: been three days and it feels pretty blatant because she
Speaker 3: was always responding like right away, Like I would text her,
Speaker 3: I don't think about like what to say, and I
Speaker 3: text her. I'd spend like twenty minutes and then within
Speaker 3: like thirty seconds she'd be back with like ten texts.
Speaker 3: And now it's just been nothing.
Speaker 1: I mean, you know what Jubil always says. Though Jubil
Speaker 1: always says, it's all about the delivery. So if you
Speaker 1: thought you were being funny, but if it didn't deliver.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm with you, guys. I'm with you, guys. I
Speaker 3: wish I could go back and change.
Speaker 6: You know what.
Speaker 3: She kissed you afterwards, a really nice long kiss too,
Speaker 3: where I was like, Okay, she's feeling the connection too.
Speaker 2: Did it seem like she wanted to kiss you or
Speaker 2: where did you also go and now give me a kiss?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: I was, there's your reward. No, I'm playing.
Speaker 4: My sweet thing.
Speaker 1: And your jokes are funny?
Speaker 3: Is my move is? I always say? Can I kiss you?
Speaker 3: That's my move? And she smiled and she was like yeah,
Speaker 3: and she pulled me in okay, And like the last
Speaker 3: thing that I actually texted her was actually like that.
Speaker 3: I was thinking about her and then I couldn't wait
Speaker 3: for the next date to GISs her again and nothing.
Speaker 2: I was thinking about it because my shoe just came
Speaker 2: on tie. Sorry, I couldn't help it. All right, man,
Speaker 2: we'll figure it out for you. We'll play a song,
Speaker 2: come back and then call her and see if she'll
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting you. Okay, I'm good, all right, places,
Speaker 2: I'll come back get your first day follow up next.
Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first day follow up,
Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Ryan is on the phone
Speaker 2: and he's getting ghosted by Shana. So we're about to
Speaker 2: call her and see if she'll tell us why she's
Speaker 2: ghosting him and maybe get him another date. But real quick, Ryan,
Speaker 2: why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your date with Shana.
Speaker 3: We met during a pop crawl. We ended up going
Speaker 3: to on a separate night pizza, ice cream. There was
Speaker 3: a life band, had a great kiss and made a
Speaker 3: bad joke asking her to tie my shoes. She actually
Speaker 3: did it, And now I think I might have lost
Speaker 3: an amazing opportunity to get to know someone really cool.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you liked her a lot, right, I did.
Speaker 3: She's so pretty. It's crazy and cool and fun and smart.
Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, man? You ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3: Yes? Please?
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man sweak to Shana. Please, mister,
Speaker 2: hey Shana, how are you. My name is Jewbell, and
Speaker 2: I host the radio show. It's called the Jewbil Show.
Speaker 1: Hi, Shana, the whole shows Here, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 4: How are you?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 4: This is the show? No, it's not. Have you ever
Speaker 4: heard the show before?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm on the radio.
Speaker 4: Yes you are.
Speaker 2: We're actually calling you because we do a segment called
Speaker 2: a first day follow up. So if you go out
Speaker 2: on date with somebody and you end up ghosting them,
Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone
Speaker 2: and ask why. And you're currently ghosting somebody, they like
Speaker 2: you a lot and they don't know why they're getting ghosted.
Speaker 4: Okay, any idea who that would be?
Speaker 5: I'm thinking maybe Ryan?
Speaker 6: Is that right?
Speaker 4: It is Ryan?
Speaker 3: Oh my okay?
Speaker 4: Telling us why you're ghosting him.
Speaker 7: I mean, I know this might sound ironically that I'm
Speaker 7: being get picky about him, because basically I'm ghosting him
Speaker 7: because he kept picking on me about how I eat
Speaker 7: my ice cream.
Speaker 4: Picky about how you eat your ice cream.
Speaker 7: Yeah, and I mean, I know it's weird that I
Speaker 7: like caramel on strawberry ice cream, but he started calling
Speaker 7: me a psychopath and he just you know, he wasn't
Speaker 7: letting go of it, and I was like, I know.
Speaker 3: It's weird.
Speaker 5: But then he started commenting how I hold the cone, and.
Speaker 7: Then he started making jokes about, like I don't know,
Speaker 7: just other things like being picky with me.
Speaker 1: Was he joking?
Speaker 5: I don't think so, but like I don't know.
Speaker 7: It was like I just you know, like I say
Speaker 7: parameou and he says it's caramel, and it's just all
Speaker 7: started to be a little bit too much, and it
Speaker 7: just didn't feel like the kind of guy I want
Speaker 7: to spend so much time with.
Speaker 4: Okay, so he felt like he was ripping on you.
Speaker 5: M yeah, like the whole.
Speaker 7: Night, he's pouring my pigtails, you know, And I just
Speaker 7: I just want to have peace with somebody on the date.
Speaker 4: You know, you kissed him after though he told us that.
Speaker 5: I did because he's really cute.
Speaker 7: And he's really nice and I know he's really trying,
Speaker 7: but you know, I just I don't know if I
Speaker 7: want to sign up exactly for another night of that.
Speaker 7: But being picked on the whole time.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that makes sense. Like I just I know that.
Speaker 5: And I don't mean to be a ghoster because it's.
Speaker 7: No fun, you know, But I'm just like, oh god,
Speaker 7: I just don't want to be criticized.
Speaker 1: And I don't know.
Speaker 4: I moved around a.
Speaker 7: Lot, as it can, and I was really shy and
Speaker 7: a little insecure, and I'm trying to get over that,
Speaker 7: but it's just it just.
Speaker 5: Takes it just kind of ruins the night.
Speaker 3: A little bit.
Speaker 1: Constant picking can be a little triggering.
Speaker 4: I get that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, thank you for being honest with us, and
Speaker 2: now I have to be honest with you.
Speaker 4: Ryan is actually on the phone. Listen.
Speaker 7: Yeah, okay, okay, Hi Ryan, Hi, Okay.
Speaker 3: So, first, sorry, I didn't realize that I was doing that,
Speaker 3: But also I'm hugely relieved that it wasn't the shoe
Speaker 3: tying thing, because I was so afraid that you thought
Speaker 3: I was this one guy who's just like time of shoes,
Speaker 3: give me a sandwich, go do this where I was
Speaker 3: just nervous because I was just joking about that.
Speaker 5: By the way, the I'm like, I got the joke.
Speaker 5: I got the joke. I didn't love it, but I
Speaker 5: wouldn't ghost you over it.
Speaker 3: Okay, thanks, but I'm sorry. I am so used to
Speaker 3: hanging out with my butt and all we do is
Speaker 3: roast each other, and I guess that's been affecting me
Speaker 3: so much that I didn't realize that I was doing
Speaker 3: it too much. I honestly think it's so cute the
Speaker 3: way that you were holding your cone and the way
Speaker 3: that you pronounce words. I am just you know, sorry,
Speaker 3: that's not the experience. I wanted you to have a
Speaker 3: bad one. But I will say this, with dating, sometimes
Speaker 3: you write people off so quickly and communication. You're such
Speaker 3: a great communicator, Like thank you for telling me through
Speaker 3: the radio about what I did wrong. Like I would
Speaker 3: be willing to work on that, you know, like I'll
Speaker 3: lock it up, no roasting if you were to go
Speaker 3: out with me again. And if I do make so comptible,
Speaker 3: just call it out.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, okay, exactly.
Speaker 7: And I know, I know I have like weird little
Speaker 7: habits and it's caramel and I know I hold my
Speaker 7: cone funny and all that, and it's what.
Speaker 3: Makes you you. I think it's lovely.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 3: I was just nervous trying to make jokes and trying
Speaker 3: to make sure you have an extra good time and
Speaker 3: then doing so, I kind of messed up. And I'm sorry.
Speaker 5: I thought that No, no, I would think it.
Speaker 3: Uh, you know, I might have gone too far, But honestly,
Speaker 3: like you haven't even seen a real psychopath until you
Speaker 3: see me eat hot dogs. You can always you.
Speaker 6: Know, that's what everybody says. You know, everybody says. I
Speaker 6: just love some meat, all right.
Speaker 2: With Ryan again? And maybe eat a hot dog and
Speaker 2: watch how much he loves me. Eat another day.
Speaker 5: I mean, I just want you.
Speaker 7: To be like I do, get jokes, and I know
Speaker 7: I'm a little sensitive, and I just I don't think
Speaker 7: i'll handle the constant clowning around very well, you know.
Speaker 3: But I mean, no more clowns, no more clowning. I'm
Speaker 3: gonna show up in my suit and high.
Speaker 7: But I still like you to be I don't want
Speaker 7: someone to not be themselves around me too, you know.
Speaker 7: But I mean, you're so nice and you're so lovely,
Speaker 7: and go try to contact me thro at radio station.
Speaker 5: I mean, nobody's ever done that for me before. So
Speaker 5: I mean, I know you put so much effort into
Speaker 5: finding all.
Speaker 7: Those really fun places and on all that.
Speaker 5: So I mean, yeah, let's go on another date. Let's
Speaker 5: give it a shot.
Speaker 4: Sweet congratulations, Ryan, you got another date.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you guys for making it possible, and
Speaker 3: thank you Shane and Hike. You won't regret it, and
Speaker 3: if you do, you can roast me right back.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I will make fun of you. And the way
Speaker 5: you eat hot dogs.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, it's it's really weird. You gotta see it.
Speaker 3: I mean, you will have.
Speaker 4: It's like
Speaker 5: Jule's first date follow up