WEBVTT - Episode 19: BJ The Chicago Kid 0:00:01.480 --> 0:00:05.600 West app is Angela. Ye, I'm Stephanie Santiago and is 0:00:05.680 --> 0:00:10.120 back and it's a lip service. Today. We had BJ 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:15.040 to Chicago kid with us what's up Hey, and our 0:00:15.120 --> 0:00:17.160 guy Chris Green told us in your schedule, he said 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:19.040 that at this point in time, you're gonna be talking 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:22.000 about sex and drugs and all those things. Yeah, yeah, 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:26.279 that's what a great tapic. We don't really talk about drugs, No, 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:28.200 we talked about the weed every once in a while. 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:31.080 We say no to drugs on lip service, right, and 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:35.879 this is like sex enough to find everything that they 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:41.479 uncle his own. So he's say, my nieces the other um, 0:00:41.520 --> 0:00:45.239 the youngest one is five, what she is not old 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:51.040 enough to know about? I'm breaking it down. The youngest 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:56.160 one is five, key Ki is like eleven, Destiny is fourteen, 0:00:56.280 --> 0:01:01.600 and Taylor is nineteen. Taylor Taylor Man my daughter about 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:05.200 to be nineteen, so I know all about Taylor days. 0:01:05.200 --> 0:01:09.760 They really so only Chailer is allowed to listen. I mean, 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:12.920 I don't even want her listeners. But he was saying that. 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:15.600 He was saying that they are at the age where 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:19.440 they could search without yeah, without anybody being around. Long 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:21.400 as you know how to read you can. All right, 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:23.800 we gotta get some basic information about you down before 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:25.960 we get into some of these topics. Was good, okay, 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:28.600 b J to Chicago. Kare Are you married? Are you 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:38.840 in a relationship? Okay? No girlfriend? No girlfriend? You're sucking singing? 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:43.920 Everybody got something. When's the last time you had a girlfriend? Uh? Man, 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:46.680 it's been a few years ago, a couple of years. 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:50.840 You haven't been in love for that long in that 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:55.360 time after her. Yeah, I wouldn't say love, no, no, 0:01:56.760 --> 0:02:00.200 but you've had some serious situations. Maybe you know you 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.160 trying to dating interest, but I don't. I don't really 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:05.160 even date like we gotta. I'm not even have a 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:07.920 guy even had game like I don't. If we don't 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:10.000 have no common interests, we can't have a conversation. Basic. 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:11.359 You don't even enter my phone, and I hope I 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:13.040 shouldn't enter yours if you don't know what I mean, 0:02:13.639 --> 0:02:16.880 even if we just so you don't just have one 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:18.720 night stands or anything like that, you know, I mean, 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:20.160 now you're saying what I'm doing, what I do, But 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:26.359 I'm just saying I do have needs for shure no, 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:28.160 But you're saying you're not even going to fu somebody 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:30.200 unless y'all have some comments. I said, I'm not even 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:33.640 gonna put the name in my phone. Okay, I'm happy 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:38.239 he recording this tock. Now it's interesting. Now let me 0:02:38.280 --> 0:02:40.640 ask you this. How do you feel about women and makeup? 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:43.079 We were having a conversation before you came in while 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:46.200 we were getting our makeup done, and we were talking 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:48.440 about whether or not guys like when women wear makeup. 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:50.720 Some guys say, all like women who are natural blah 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:53.160 blah blah. I'm not mad at makeup, but I love 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:55.400 to see the natural you. You know what I'm saying. Um, 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.840 I got a song called Perfect that's that speaks on 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:02.359 that totally. Um and the body. You know what I'm saying. 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:04.040 It speaks on all of that. I feel like, Um, 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:09.280 there's many different um shades, faces, shapes, sizes that you know, 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:11.480 man love. I mean, you're speaking of myself. I can't 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:14.160 you know? But yeah, So, do you have like a 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:19.040 particular shape, size, whatever that you love? What's your preference? No? No, no, Actually, 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:23.560 can I tell y'all secret? Some guys, some guys, some guys, 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:26.760 some guys. Probably pretty feet before like and like she 0:03:26.800 --> 0:03:29.040 probably have pretty feet or she had pretty attitude or 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:31.880 this is like guys don't guys have a weir weird thinking. 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:34.440 That's just forgot. I always say that guys will find 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:36.800 anything good to find a reason to somebody. I mean, 0:03:36.880 --> 0:03:39.480 it's kind of saying the same thing, but but because 0:03:39.480 --> 0:03:43.120 I'm a guy in a different way, I'm gonna try 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:44.440 to explain it a little bit better than you know 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:46.080 what I mean. When she's probably not because they'd be 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:48.920 like she ugly, Well, yeah, but she had a fat 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:52.800 ask though, but yeah, you've seen her feet. I like 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:54.720 pretty feet, though I ain't glad that's a that's a 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:57.440 that's the thing I do like definitely flip flops on. Yeah, 0:03:57.520 --> 0:03:59.480 I don't. I don't like feet. I don't like to 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:03.080 talk about feet. I don't feed her kid. I have 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:06.280 big feet, you know, don't matter. I have to deal 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:09.160 with that. Like God gave me big feet, so I 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:13.560 just have to deal with do you have pretty feet? 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:16.320 Pretty feet? I played basketball for the first ninety years 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:17.800 of my life. I don't think I would. You know, 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:20.520 you feet messed up? They're not messed up. My toe 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:22.799 structure is good, but I wouldn't can sit on myself. 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:25.599 You get what I mean by my toe strucks. Ain't 0:04:25.600 --> 0:04:28.159 like you know, he messed up. But I played basketball 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:30.279 every so you're not getting in the pool with socks 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:32.280 on or nothing like that. No, I don't like it. 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:34.119 Ain't that jacked up. But you know, if I'm getting 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:36.840 the pool, I think that's retarded. You get pedicures. I 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:38.599 was just about that. I take care of my feet, 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:40.640 but as I can, because I know they you know me, 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:44.600 because I can't relate. I did balet for most of 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.040 my life and then I was a stripper, so I 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:48.960 ain't got the best feed either. So what if a 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:50.800 girl wants to have sex with her socks on, she's 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:54.960 hired in her feet, that's fine. That's fine with Yeah, yes, 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:57.040 I'm fine with that. He said, hate on some girl 0:04:57.080 --> 0:04:59.840 because she had pretty feet before, But I did. I 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:06.440 you guys, baby had them toad. Okay, what's somewhere, Stephanie. 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.159 What's important to you when it comes to a guy. 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:12.400 What's important to meet attraction wise? Attraction wise, I like 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:14.920 a guy to always have a nice mouth. That's when 0:05:14.960 --> 0:05:18.880 I'm attracted when I first meet a guy, being with them, 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:22.280 when I'm in love. I like the mouth because I 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:25.520 like to kiss. What so I like to have. I like, 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:28.800 I like guys to have a really nice mouth, like 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:32.320 good teeth, nice lips, you know, a good skill to 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:35.480 you know, like the skill of kissing. I like for 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:38.880 guys to have. It's very important to me because a 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:42.840 lot of guys can't kiss. A lot of got to 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:44.560 have a nice mouth. He used it all the time. 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:47.800 He does have him a nice mother. I'm sitting. I 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:55.000 don't know what else you do? What about check? You 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:59.680 to a guy? Authority? Okay, a boss. I like a boss, 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:02.120 like a man who takes charge. I like a man 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:04.920 who is in a position of power and not just 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.280 saying job wise, but just in life. Like I'm like 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:10.119 a man who like that know where he got going himself. 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:12.360 I don't like a slow chance bum mass niggod that 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:15.800 ain't about but nobody like no bumps nobody, but not 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:20.039 bum meaning like financially, but like an alpha man. Yeah, yeah, 0:06:20.080 --> 0:06:22.680 that's what I like to I definitely like I need 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:25.000 a god to for people to be scared of him, 0:06:27.120 --> 0:06:29.160 scared my man. I want people to be scared of 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:33.720 my man for sure, for sure. Very important to me. Well, 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:37.320 we know you like thugs, Yeah, exactly know what I 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:39.680 like she's gonna grow out of that one day, you 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:43.280 know what I mean? Former tugs? When did you get 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:45.960 I like former thugs? I used to be at the 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:50.760 I used to and when did you grow out of that? 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:57.240 Not too long ago, just recently. Hey man, it's it's 0:06:57.560 --> 0:06:59.880 it's thugs out there. They got some shing legitimate now, 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:02.919 you know, so they graduate. We call those corporate thugs. 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:06.480 That's what. That's what. That's what you're from, Chicago, as 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:09.520 you ever that. I would never consider myself a thug, 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:12.680 but I definitely I'm a for sure, you're a bus 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:16.320 people people scared of you. It ain't about people being 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:18.800 scared of me. I'm not into you know what I'm 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:20.880 saying making short calls fit like, look where I'm from. 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:23.680 I don't gotta it is what it is, and I 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:28.000 go where I go. You know what I'm saying. Chicago place, Ye, Chicago. 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:31.480 Those projects they've had to build a wall around them 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:36.000 and they're gone now. They took them down. Now that's 0:07:36.000 --> 0:07:41.600 what cannyman. Yeah, yeah, everybody away. Wait, wasn't that where 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:43.200 they wasn't that where they feel to open in the 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:46.520 good times too? Wasn't that? Yes, supposedly yet that's not 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:51.400 where canny Man was from. Supposedly. Yeah, but they like 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:54.520 build a brick wall around those projects because innocent bystanders 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:57.600 who don't live there, who weren't living there, those builders 0:07:57.720 --> 0:07:59.760 like one way in, one way out. After certain times, 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:03.080 like you know, like back in the eighties, like the 0:08:03.120 --> 0:08:05.960 mayor that was the mayor. Then she tried to moving 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:07.680 in to tell people like that it wasn't that bad. 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:09.440 She got out of there within two or three days. 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:11.400 Did you ever look in the mirror when you was 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:16.240 going up and be like, canny Man, turn the damn 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:21.320 lights on? Now? Do you ever listened to your own 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:25.360 music during sex? No? No, impossible, No, that's a turn off. 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:29.320 Why off? Even if a woman asked me to sing, 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:30.880 like if we had a date, like if it's just 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:32.440 you and I, if we had a day you asked 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:33.880 me to sing, it kind of turn me off. Why 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:36.400 would that turn you off? Because I'm not working right now, 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:39.280 but if you want to, you know, that was her job. 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:41.960 You wouldn't want to get a little aside if she offered, 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:43.640 I wouldn't ask her to go to work right now. 0:08:44.280 --> 0:08:46.240 I wouldn't ask her to do that. Like sometimes work 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:48.600 would be so much. I come to you for my relief, 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:50.600 So why would I make you a part of this now? 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:52.679 Soon or later we're gonna start having issues because I'm 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:54.959 want this and you're gonna be like, I'm tired, but 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:58.160 you that's fair because I remember back in the day 0:08:58.200 --> 0:09:00.319 when I was a stripper. I couldn't deal with a 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:02.200 guy who would want me to be like, oh, you're 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:08.360 super You'd be like those some money at me. Then Hello, Honestly, 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:10.640 I wouldn't. If I want to dance, I would go 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:12.120 to the club. But I want to ask my woman 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:14.280 to dance for me. I mean, I am into lingerate, 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:17.920 like I love women that you know, that type of thing, 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:20.280 But you don't, you know, I mean, yeah, we talked 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:22.520 about lingerie previously. A lot of guys said they're not 0:09:22.600 --> 0:09:25.480 reallead that into it. For some reason, I'm r sing 0:09:26.120 --> 0:09:28.439 every time I've worn lingerie for a guy, it's on 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:31.240 as soon as he sees it for a couple of seconds. 0:09:31.800 --> 0:09:34.760 But that's because you gotta you know, like you got enjoyed. 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:37.040 Find ways to enjoy it if you can't think of it. 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:40.640 Now take your time, don't rush it, y'all. Head chill, relax, 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:46.680 that roll up whatever it takes for you to relax, 0:09:46.800 --> 0:09:49.319 because that's really that's what enjoyment is. If you don't relax, 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:52.400 it's terrible for both of y'all and you ain't coming back. Now, 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:54.880 do you ever val Have you ever voluntarily saying for 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:57.559 a woman like she adn't asked you too? But I have? 0:09:57.840 --> 0:09:59.880 I have. I have saying happy birthday to somebody that 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.319 thought I would never do it, just to be like 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:04.280 you know it was it was dope and it wasn't 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:10.040 even her birthday. That I'm not really into like playing 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:11.760 my music to set the moment. I would rather play 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:13.599 somebody else music and I can really enjoy it, and 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.040 you get the most authentic me. I'm too busy. Listen 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:19.280 to me. I should have turned that kick drunk. That sucks. Yeah, exactly. 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:21.720 My brain immediately goes to work because I'm such a workaholic. 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:24.280 When I leave work, let's leave work like my pop 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.120 will be like yo, man hasn't like my pop? Man, 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:27.959 Just let's post them yak up or something. Let's talk 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:30.600 about something else because I can't talk about work right now. 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:33.319 I'm here to chill, relax. You know that's understandable, but 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.920 as an R and b singer right. You know, women 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.000 of course, are a huge audience for you. Do you 0:10:38.040 --> 0:10:40.319 ever play like if you're dating somebody, like, hey, I 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:42.400 want you to hear this song? Do you do that? No? 0:10:42.720 --> 0:10:44.640 But if it's it's like we cool. When I know 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:46.319 you and you asked to hear some I might play 0:10:46.360 --> 0:10:48.160 your song or two, but that's about it. I'm not 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:51.160 going to be performing anything. No, I'm saying you might 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:52.800 be like, Yo, I just did this song last night, 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:55.200 I want you to hear it. No, I have role 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:57.000 songs about females that I sent it to him. Though, 0:10:57.360 --> 0:11:10.160 are you doing girmantic if you heard the song? You 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:12.719 think you write better when you are going through some 0:11:12.920 --> 0:11:18.280 bullshit or you write better when you love both. Um, 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:20.360 And it's too as the creativity, it's about where you 0:11:20.440 --> 0:11:23.000 allow yourself to be. Um. I'm able to put myself 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:25.319 for any type of shoes. Like sometimes I write songs 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:27.079 starting at the first line of the first verse, not 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:30.280 having a hook yet, and that's like you actually get 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:31.839 there when you get there type of writing, you know 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:34.199 what I'm saying. So it's many different ways that I create. 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:38.319 But um, I wrote I've written the last song I've 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:41.360 written about like what I was going through was the 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:43.599 end of the last relationship. I was saying, it's the 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:50.280 song car Hard Crush Cry. Is it gonna make us cry? No, 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:52.400 it ain't gonna make you cry. But you're black, Okay, 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:55.160 I tell the truth. Excuse me. I'll tell the truth 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:57.520 in the record, because I just come from that kind 0:11:57.520 --> 0:11:58.800 of R and B where you felt, at least you 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:00.600 felt like the nigger wasn't line. You know what I'm saying. 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:04.160 It's like, at least even if it is, feel like yeah, yeah, 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.319 and that's that's That's what I'm into. But before we 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:08.199 came up here, we were also talking about honesty, like 0:12:08.840 --> 0:12:12.600 why can't guys just be honest about certain situations? Sometimes 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:15.160 all be honest? That's true, yeah, because I'd be lying 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:21.079 everybody's lies at times. When I say we all lie, though, 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:24.480 that puts me in it too, like we oh yeah, 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:28.240 we all in this room have lied about something completely 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:34.040 honest with my boyfriend. I think sometimes right there, I 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:39.400 just I think honestly, But I think sometimes I'm overly honest, 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:41.280 like sometimes I might need a lot of stuft from 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:43.160 the blow a little bit because I'm like brutally honest 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:45.839 and people take that the wrong way, like they take 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:48.559 it as like I'm being a bit or like you know, 0:12:48.800 --> 0:12:51.880 but sometimes a lie is to not hurt somebody's feelings. 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:56.840 That's that's that's very true. That's very true. Sometimes sometimes 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:59.520 you just gotta like, you gotta understand either it's gonna 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:02.880 blow up later or this could really be over. So 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:06.040 you gotta you gotta wear your options with your lives. Nobody. 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:08.120 But we was saying earlier, and I agree with her. 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:10.839 I say this to all the time. Are rather you 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:13.559 be honest with me and let me make my choice? Yeah, 0:13:13.880 --> 0:13:17.320 you know what I mean. When it comes to let's 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:21.040 just say you dealing, you meet this guy and come 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:23.000 to find out he's still in a relationship or maybe 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:24.800 trying to work his way out of the relationship, and 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:27.360 you have fallen from him and you have feelings from him. 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:29.840 And then you found out six months into you guys 0:13:29.920 --> 0:13:31.920 this relationship, that he has this other thing going on 0:13:32.120 --> 0:13:35.839 on Facebook with a matching outfit with his wife and 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:40.839 then they got matching Cheeto flames out six flags. So 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:43.120 it's just like at that point then you're like, Okay, 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:47.760 had you been honest about your situation, then you would 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:49.480 have allowed me to make the decision if I wanted 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:51.360 to get involved or not, but just allowing me to 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:53.319 fall for you and throwing me into this situation that 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:54.839 I had an exit being, because then what if you 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:57.320 get caught up into baby mama drama and now your 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:59.640 baby mama calling me but I don't know what's going on, said, 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:02.520 I can't I feel But had you been able, had 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:03.880 you been honest with me, then we could have wrote 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:05.760 this thing out if it was that type of situation. 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:08.319 But guys don't they don't realize that some girls is 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:10.120 down a round, some girls not. But you just gotta 0:14:10.440 --> 0:14:12.480 your options. So how would you feel if a guy 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:14.280 was like when you just met him, like, well, not 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:15.959 only when you just met him, like he want to 0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:20.040 be come more right, and he's like, I still flirt, 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:21.920 but that ain't don't don't you know that ain't nothing 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:27.400 against you. I'm not having it exactly that at the 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:30.320 end of the day. At the at the end of 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:31.760 the day, ain't no guy gonna tell you that the 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:34.000 beginning knowing that you know what I'm saying, something could 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:35.880 happened later to the point where he do more than flirts. 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:40.080 So he shut his mouth I mean, it's not when 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.360 you first meet somebody and you're not completely honest, and 0:14:42.400 --> 0:14:44.760 then you can't double back and be like, well, I 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:46.400 know I said this when we first met, but we 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:48.120 didn't know each other like that, so I was lying. 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:50.200 But the truth of the man, sometimes you just tell 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:51.920 a line. You gotta keep on going with it because 0:14:51.920 --> 0:14:54.720 you had no idea on lying. You have to keep on. 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:56.280 I'm an old school guy. I just think you' all 0:14:56.320 --> 0:15:00.880 the college players. I will never think a woman told 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:03.760 me that, what's you talking about? The women of the 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:07.680 woman told me? That woman told me A married woman 0:15:07.760 --> 0:15:10.120 told me that Mary when you were sleeping with I 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:14.920 don't kidding. That's one thing I've never done. Married woman now, 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:21.600 it's usually separated. I don't got no game. Honestly, listen, 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:23.680 listen if she still if she's separated, I think she's 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:25.680 just still married to me. I mean, I grew up 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:27.040 my mom and dad in the house, so I just 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:29.960 look at a different way. Separated, you still married until 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:32.880 so what if they don't live in the same house anymore? 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:36.360 That may that may that may make me forget. Like 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:38.000 if we check on the couch and heat at a 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:42.040 whole another location yeah, you know where you live at, though, 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:50.040 what do you mean who exactly? So in Chicago, you 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:51.720 might have to keep somebody in the count, the corner 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:53.240 something just to make sure I'm good, why I'm up 0:15:53.240 --> 0:15:55.080 and there, because if you know your address right, he 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:58.280 might just come on. Think it's still crazy out here 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:01.120 some of them. Now let me ask you this, um, 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:03.840 would you eat pussy for a girl the first time 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:05.400 you'll have sex or is that something that you don't 0:16:05.440 --> 0:16:10.000 do right away if I've known her? Actually I've done 0:16:10.000 --> 0:16:11.800 that before, but I've known the girl for four years 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:14.720 before we ever even had sex. I never touched that. 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.120 I thought she was gorgeous, honestly, but I I didn't 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:18.480 want to seem like I was trying to be a friend, 0:16:18.560 --> 0:16:20.640 act like I'm waiting in line like I was. She 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:23.440 was really my friend for four years, but maybe a 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:25.800 little bit more than that. I was like, yeah, why 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:28.360 are we playing? Man? Why are we playing? And she 0:16:28.480 --> 0:16:30.320 was like, what are you talking about? She played dumb 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:33.960 for however long she could, and it end up happening. 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:35.360 But yep, that that time, I did it for the 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.520 first but that was the only time. It's not something regular. 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:40.360 That's the time I'm telling y'all, so it might be 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:44.840 regular yall, it's not on the regular. It's not nice. 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:47.120 I'm an R and B artist. I can't. I would 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.120 not have myself out there like that. Then somebody see 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:50.320 us and now they're trying to write up on me 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:53.560 on media take out that the truth is what it is. 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:54.960 When I'm telling you that was the last time that 0:16:55.000 --> 0:16:57.480 that happened. It's the honest truth. This is gonna it's 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:00.280 you know, it's gonna service purpose to to be proven. Reckon. 0:17:01.320 --> 0:17:03.560 I feel like RNBA artists do that anyway, Like we 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:05.400 all look at R n batists like, oh, y'all gotta 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:08.920 be Do you consider yourself romantic in my own way? 0:17:09.440 --> 0:17:12.240 Because honestly, what somebody else may think is romantic as 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:15.120 I might think it's terrible. Like that's why I don't 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:16.520 feel like I could walk up to him and then 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:18.720 have game. You know what I'm saying, Like if we 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:22.080 can't literally, like if he tripped, we both laugh something whatever, 0:17:22.119 --> 0:17:24.800 we end up talking about something else and our conversation continue. 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:27.600 Then you get what I'm saying. I like, yeah, I've 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:31.080 grown with it, and that you have no game if 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:32.640 that's how you want to look at it or say 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:35.200 it maybe I can learn Maybe I can learn it 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:38.159 that way, but that's honestly, but just think about it, 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:40.800 like she could get so awkward and so many weird moments, man, 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:43.040 and I hate acro moments for people like that. So 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:45.280 if you got some kind of sense of just being 0:17:45.280 --> 0:17:49.920 a little bit, you could be gorgeous. But if you 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:52.200 I'm cool, I don't want to be somewhere and you 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:55.560 like b J, I've never had moments. For me, I've 0:17:55.640 --> 0:17:57.640 never had the moments and I plan and never ever 0:17:57.760 --> 0:17:59.760 have them. So if you really can't just be civilized, 0:17:59.880 --> 0:18:01.800 we ain't be a dose. Even if we agree to disagree, 0:18:01.880 --> 0:18:03.639 I really can't funk with you. So you're not one 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:05.440 of those guys who like to argue with women and stuff. 0:18:05.800 --> 0:18:07.800 I don't like to argue, but I've been in arguments. 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:11.200 But some guy that turns the mind, I'm like, no, see, 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:14.040 now that's if we if we face to face, it 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:16.480 might it might do some things for real, but in 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:19.280 the sense you know it over the phone. Now, I'm 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:21.520 gonna try to end it quick because honestly, people i'm 0:18:21.560 --> 0:18:23.879 around like looking like that kind of guy, like who what? 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:26.320 Then I look like arguing who you feel my girl, 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:31.760 man tripper, that's definitely I'm just saying, I don't feel 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:34.520 like you know you're single, you shouldn't be arguing with nobody. 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:36.359 I mean, even if I'm in a relationship, I'm not 0:18:36.440 --> 0:18:39.600 gonna really like if but you can't me on everything. 0:18:39.720 --> 0:18:41.760 You know that That's exactly what I'm saying. But if 0:18:41.800 --> 0:18:45.080 you ain't got to even have an argument, yeah, because 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:49.480 I'm not gonna lieous relationships. You know, we do. We've 0:18:49.640 --> 0:18:56.440 had very a whole lot of pettiars argument that maybe 0:18:57.520 --> 0:19:06.040 I mean it, but it's not only me accept I 0:19:06.119 --> 0:19:07.760 think that's what should help you pick and choose your 0:19:07.800 --> 0:19:11.320 batter if not you, but just absolutely I was like, Yo, 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:13.919 you don't know what that ain't even that bad? Yea 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:17.440 even that bad because it's it's something. It's just like you. 0:19:17.840 --> 0:19:19.360 It may be a problem to you, but you could 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:23.320 just be a picky motherfucker. Yeah, And how you know 0:19:23.520 --> 0:19:25.440 she ain't saying it about you because of the ship 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:27.960 you're doing. So it's like, you know, I've lived with 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:29.800 you know, a woman before, so it's like I just 0:19:29.960 --> 0:19:32.639 understand the dudes, and it dunts to some degree, you know, 0:19:32.800 --> 0:19:34.800 that's what I'm saying. Like I'm sure I've had a 0:19:34.880 --> 0:19:37.720 lot of petty arguments that were mind fault. But you know, 0:19:37.760 --> 0:19:41.840 it's two ways, and it's sometimes you can't let everything, 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:44.200 you can't let things go. You gotta, like you said, 0:19:44.200 --> 0:19:46.439 you gotta choose what you're going to accept. And if 0:19:46.480 --> 0:19:48.480 you don't say, if you don't put your foot down, 0:19:48.760 --> 0:19:51.160 if something's bothering you right away, it's gonna happen again 0:19:51.240 --> 0:19:53.560