WEBVTT - GECKMAIL: “I SEXTED MY DRIVING INSTRUCTOR” 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:05.480 Hello, people of the computer or the phone, whichever one 0:00:05.519 --> 0:00:09.080 of those two or mediums you're using to listen to this, 0:00:09.200 --> 0:00:12.480 or maybe you're listening in your car, or maybe you're 0:00:12.840 --> 0:00:17.119 listening inside the belly of a whale, although probably not 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:23.520 you're probably maybe you're walking, maybe you're on a train. 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:30.520 Maybe maybe you have this podcast playing in like another 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:33.839 room to no one well, and you like left it 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:36.639 on and you forgot, and I'm just speaking into this 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:40.320 void of an empty room while you're off, you know, 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:42.680 doing something else, not even knowing that I'm speaking. Maybe 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:48.479 that's where this podcast is going right now. But what's up, everybody? 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:52.760 How's it going? This is gek Mail. I'm gonna fucking 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.560 shoot the shit with myself for a little bit and 0:00:56.600 --> 0:01:02.360 then I'm gonna read some viewer mail. So I guess 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:06.039 what's going on with me? Real quick? Is I am 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:10.759 in Japan right now. I've been here for two months. 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:16.400 It's been a beautiful, beautiful experience. I'm sad to go back, 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:20.559 but I think it'll be good. I think it'll be grounding, 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:24.520 you know, at the end of the day. At the 0:01:24.640 --> 0:01:28.840 end of the day, right it's like you can go on. 0:01:29.440 --> 0:01:34.120 I've had a been fortunate enough in my life to 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:42.840 go on many, many crazy, beautiful adventures, both thanks to 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:46.560 the therapy Gecko and also just thanks to like, you know, 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:51.680 something in my brain, for better or for worse, requires 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:57.920 me to fucking have like some some sense of novelty 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:02.360 going on. So I'm always running around and doing stuff, 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:05.080 and it's been good. But the old what's that song? 0:02:05.640 --> 0:02:08.320 Been all over the world, only place left to go 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:12.680 is home something like that. Who does that song? Anyway? Yeah, 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:15.520 the song is good. So yeah, man, I'm excited to 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:19.480 return back and see my family and my friends and 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:23.440 it'll be good. You know. That's the meaning of life, 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:26.160 I think is one of the things I've learned over 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:30.079 the past I'm not even gonna say two months, because 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:33.120 I knew it kind of before I came here. But 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:35.640 the quality of your life is always going to be 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:39.520 the quality of the people around you at the end 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:42.720 of the day. I think for me, at least, I 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:46.280 don't know. You might you might be able to go 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:49.160 into the woods. Everyone's different, everyone's brain is wired differently, 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:51.440 So you might be able to just go into the 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:56.200 woods and live there forever and it's awesome for you. 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:59.320 So actually I take back everything I said. I don't 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:03.640 fucking know the life. I don't even I regret even 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:07.799 pretending for a second like I did. But I guess 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:11.040 it's the meaning of I guess my life and probably 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:14.080 the meaning of a lot of people's lives is to 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:18.240 just be around as folks. You know, life is like 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:29.880 a tremendously uh scary and lonely and frightening bizarre experience, 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:35.440 and uh, you know it's everything is cope, but it's good. 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:38.920 Cope is good cope is you know, Yeah, your friends 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:44.120 sending you a meme, it's good cope. So you know, whatever, 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:48.280 connect with other people, it's good. I think this was 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:49.800 a whole I don't know why this is. This is 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:52.560 a whole motivational rant. I'm never trying to tell other 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:54.200 people what to do, but I'm just this is just 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:56.560 me working out my own brain. This is the this 0:03:56.600 --> 0:04:01.760 is the therapy for me, uh portion of this show, 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:06.000 and I'm enjoying it. It feels good. And if you 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:08.000 have me in your ear right now, God bless you. 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:12.840 Thank you, very very very very much. I am honored 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:19.480 to have your listenership, and I'm ready to take to 0:04:19.839 --> 0:04:23.360 read some emails. Let's get into it. Although before we 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:26.719 get into it, I do want to say I am 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:34.479 hosting my very first art exhibition in Bushwick, Brooklyn on 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:39.520 Well it's gonna We're having a gallery exhibition opening on 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:44.120 March fourteenth from seven pm to ten pm at the 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:49.559 Kaleidoscope Gallery in Bushwick, Brooklyn. And if you live in 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:52.320 New York City, if you want to come, you can 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:55.719 check the link to the episode description. I put a 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:59.080 little thing that you can enter in your phone number 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:04.960 into and then you'll get a little text where that says, Hey, 0:05:05.400 --> 0:05:07.320 just a reminder that we're doing this thing. And also 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:09.520 I might do other things in New York City this, 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:12.760 I might do other stupid art exit. Oh, I didn't 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:15.560 even talk about what the exhibition is. I'm taking eight 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:19.479 It's called Lyle Forever presents Trash from around my Room 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:25.680 and I'm gonna be taking eight pieces of trash from 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:30.960 around my room and displaying them and you can come 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:33.039 to take that. It's a free event. It's a free event. 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:35.520 I don't know why I decided to. I had this. 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:37.440 I had this event written down in my notes app 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:40.080 like two years ago, and I was like, you know what, 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:42.240 we just have to do it. If not now, then 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:43.720 when let's just do it. Let's just do the fucking 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:47.120 trash exhibit. And so we're doing the trash exhibit. It's 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:51.320 free to come and to hang out. There'll be a 0:05:51.360 --> 0:05:54.120 bar there. I'll be there. I'll be hanging out. So 0:05:55.040 --> 0:06:01.680 come through March fourteenth, Kaleidoscope Gallery, seven pm, ten pm. 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:07.560 And the link to RSVP is in this episode description. 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:10.560 So come hang out and look at my stupid trash. 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:13.320 All right, let's look at some emails here. This is 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:19.200 from ash. Subject line I told my instructor I'd make 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:24.839 him come. Okay, high Gek. I had my first driving 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:28.600 lesson today and accidentally sexted the instructor two minutes before 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:31.719 he got to my house. On the driving app, it 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:36.320 has a section saying bits out them. What does that mean? 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:39.360 It has a section saying bits out them, and he 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:42.359 just filled them all with coming soon. So okay. I 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:48.600 sent who I thought was my boyfriend a screenshot of 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:51.680 his driving profile and a text saying I'm gonna make 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:56.760 him come. Then almost canceled my driving test when I 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:58.560 saw who I sent it to. Oh okay, So this 0:06:58.640 --> 0:07:05.320 person took us screenshot of their instructor's driving profile and 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:09.560 then meant to send the screenshot to their boyfriend with 0:07:10.400 --> 0:07:14.200 the with the phrase I'm gonna make him come, but 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:18.160 they accidentally sent it to the driver. Okay, he was 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:20.120 actually a good sport about it and we had to laugh, 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:22.920 so it wasn't weird anyway. Odd first driving lesson. Guess 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:30.880 I'm stuck till I graduate. Help your driving instructors come well, 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:32.960 I hope. I don't have anything funny to say about this, 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:37.040 but it is a funny situation. Let's let's see here. 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:41.440 This is from Austin. This is a rant. The subject 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:45.559 line is rant on life. Hey, gek, I graduated almost 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:47.920 two years ago and I've been with the same company since. 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:52.480 They've shown me the corruption and greed that drives capitalism. 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:56.400 I can't do this anymore. My job, which involves providing 0:07:56.440 --> 0:07:59.400 and educating patients on medical equipment, has taken a severe 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:01.880 toll on my mental and emotional health, and I started 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:05.000 therapy because of it. I understand patient's anger due to pain, 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:08.120 but the treatment I received from hospital staff and colleagues 0:08:08.160 --> 0:08:10.760 is unbearable. They don't care about patience. They only want 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:13.360 to milk money from them. Management even told me not 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:16.240 to pick up equipment from a patient until they called 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:19.320 to ask why it hadn't been done so they could 0:08:19.360 --> 0:08:22.800 continue billing them. I've been applying for my dream career 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:25.600 for an entire year, but the constant rejections are overwhelming. 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:29.280 Life feels bleak, and I'm struggling to find meaning in anything. 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:32.360 This repetitive cycle is a never ending hell escape. I 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:40.240 am unable to escape from Austin. Well, Austin, Hey, man, 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:42.280 you know what. Here's the funny thing is, like, normally 0:08:42.360 --> 0:08:43.920 I think I would get an email like this and 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:45.840 I would be like, oh crap, I don't know how 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:51.120 to respond. But you know, let's I don't know, man, 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:53.640 I'm in the mood to give it a try. I've 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:59.080 also been feeling like a little hell scapie here Austin. 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:03.520 So I'm just gonna tell you you how I you know, 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:11.240 I'm feeling in the hellscape land. I mean, look, man, 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:14.720 I think all of my theories and all of my 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:19.840 quote unquote advice or whatever, it's all just theories that 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:26.440 I'm testing and trying. I have no you know, hold on, 0:09:26.440 --> 0:09:29.160 there's a fucking in Japan. They make it. They do 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:31.640 a bell every day at four thirty. I don't know 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:35.080 if you guys can hear this bell? Why four thirty? 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:39.280 It only goes off at four thirty? Does anyone know why? 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:41.360 There's why does a bell always go off in Tokyo 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:44.040 at four to thirty? Hold on, it's about it. It's 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:47.559 about an end. That's another good thing to get you 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:51.959 out of Hellescape is just distractions. Donkey Kong Country Returns 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:54.960 is they release this is not an advertisement, but Donkey 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:58.640 Kong Country Returns is. They released it in HD on 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:01.880 the Nintendo Switch, And I'm gonna use that to help 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:05.920 me cope with the void. But anyway, I don't know. 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:09.800 Austin Man, you seem like, well, well, I'm curious what 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:12.680 you said. You've been applying for your dream career, right, 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:14.920 so what is your dream career? I don't know what 0:10:14.960 --> 0:10:18.280 that is, but let's say whatever your dream career is, 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:21.600 I'm sure it's your dream career for a reason. Right, 0:10:21.679 --> 0:10:25.680 So instead of the one thing I've always felt is 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:31.360 that like there's kind of motivations and then there's vessels 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:36.600 for those motivations, I suppose, And so it's like, uh, 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:40.680 why is your dream career your dream career? Is it 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:43.320 because it puts you around people. Is it because it 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:45.600 lets you travel? Is it because it lets you help people? 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.079 You know? What? Is it? Right? And so instead of 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:54.920 chasing after this specific thing that is kind of a 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:59.080 thing that is like a rejection acceptance thing, and you're 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:02.400 kind of like a allowing other people to tell you 0:11:02.640 --> 0:11:06.840 whether or not you'll be able to achieve those vessels, Like, 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:08.640 why don't you just take whatever the fuck it is 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:11.880 that you like about this career and see if you can, 0:11:13.280 --> 0:11:16.320 you know, see see what all your options are for 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:24.360 kind of satisfying those life desires. I suppose that's what 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:25.880 I guess, that's what I would do. That's what I'm 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:29.240 trying to do. It's funny, man, talking about this ship 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:34.120 on the podcast is helping me kind of reinforce things 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:38.800 for myself. So so that's good. That's what I'm trying 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:45.920 to do. Let's keep going, Let's keep going. Uh. Okay, 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:57.040 this is from this one's a little too long. Hold on. Okay. 0:11:57.120 --> 0:12:01.160 This is from someone who told me not to use 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:03.880 their name. Don't use my name please. My boyfriend of 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:09.800 five years has a baby. My story high from Canada. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:11.400 I've been watching your show a lot lately, and I 0:12:11.440 --> 0:12:14.360 doubt this will even get anywhere. Well, here we are 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:17.520 my story. So I'm twenty one and my now ex 0:12:17.600 --> 0:12:20.440 is twenty three. We started dating in twenty twenty. We 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:22.680 broke up in twenty in October of twenty twenty three 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:25.000 because I found a lot of porn on his phone 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:29.040 and it was pretty disturbing. I found pictures of his 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:32.720 cousin on there. Okay, fast forward. During the time we 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:35.160 broke up, I started seeing someone and he did also. 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:39.640 He was with this emo, mentally ill girl who has 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:45.160 a list of disorders. Okay, whatever, blah blah blah blah blah. Okay, 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:48.360 fast forward again. We got back together in the end 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:51.160 of February twenty twenty four, and we were doing good. 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.360 He was decent, was working on himself, and I saw 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:56.439 some change. Oh she got back together. Then on April first, 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:01.160 the oh Okay. Then on April first, the girl that 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:04.160 he was seeing while we were broken up posted that 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:06.880 she was pregnant and tried to play it off as 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:10.160 an April Fool's joke. She didn't even say anything to 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:13.040 my ex, and she blocked us both on social media 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:16.000 when I confronted her about it. She was playing this 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:18.480 big game of guests for nine months and now it's 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:21.720 February and I finally broke up with him because she 0:13:21.840 --> 0:13:24.280 came out and said, yeah, this is your baby. The 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:27.040 whole situation is fucked. She even tried to say that 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:29.120 we could all be one happy family and have a 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:32.640 three way relationship, which just proves how messed up she 0:13:32.800 --> 0:13:35.600 is in her head. But yeah, living life to the 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:39.560 fullest right now. I guess that is a crazy dude. 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:42.760 That's such a crazy situation considering how fucking young old 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:49.160 you guys are. I mean, goddamn, I mean, well, shit, 0:13:49.240 --> 0:13:53.360 you got out of that one pretty good. Uh yeah, 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:57.720 I mean that's that's that's that's gnarly. That's gnarley. I'm 0:13:57.760 --> 0:13:59.200 not gonna I need something to refer to you as. 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:06.880 I'm just gonna call your that's gnarly, Rachel. Good luck. 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:09.760 That's all I got. I'm gonna start. Sometimes I have 0:14:09.840 --> 0:14:11.800 things to say and sometimes I don't. And this one, 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:17.160 this one, I'm just a little speechless. Good luck, Rachel. 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:21.160 That one's pretty pretty messed up. I mean, I guess 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:27.360 I guess it's good that you guys didn't have a baby, 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:36.720 you know. All right, let's see here, Okay, this is 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:41.400 from Sam subject line just turned twenty and I'm overwhelmed. 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:45.200 Any advice? Hey, Gak, my name is Sam. I just 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.920 turned twenty this past December and the spring semester has 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:50.880 just started. Over the winter, I did some research which 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.280 has gotten the green light to content to continue throughout 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:56.240 the semester as a one credit independent study course kick Ass. 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:58.840 I'm also in another independent study course to be doing 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:01.480 four different projects. I love research, and it's what i 0:15:01.480 --> 0:15:03.560 want to be doing, but I'm doubting my abilities to 0:15:03.560 --> 0:15:05.880 be able to manage my time well and produce good work, 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:09.000 not only in those projects but also my normal classes. 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:11.720 I'm taking KIM and kalk Tu, and I'm struggling a bit, 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:14.240 and I'm afraid to burn out so early. Do you 0:15:14.320 --> 0:15:17.400 have any advice as someone who is older? Thanks? Wishing 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:21.000 you the best, Sam, Sam, I'm terrible, I have. I'm 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:25.480 kind of terrible for this because I studied film in 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:32.600 college and I maybe did work two fucking hours a 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:36.120 week as a film major in cob My roommate was 0:15:36.120 --> 0:15:41.040 a biology major. He fucking hated me because, you know, 0:15:41.120 --> 0:15:45.120 he was doing real stuff with his life and his 0:15:45.720 --> 0:15:47.000 you know, he always had a bunch of work to 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:51.040 do and my you know, I was like getting high 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:55.480 and listening to low fi beats and not doing anything. 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:58.360 So I'm not good at school. I've never been a 0:15:58.360 --> 0:16:02.120 big school person. But I guess we could. I guess 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:03.960 if we were to go a little bit deeper and 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:08.360 get into like the emotions of it, right is like, 0:16:11.680 --> 0:16:14.960 you know, I don't know. It's hard to say because 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:18.000 part of me is like, well, if you're only twenty 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:19.560 and this is what you really want to do, like, 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:23.760 you know, give it. God, dude, I guess give it 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:27.080 your best shot. I know that that's not I know 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:30.840 that that's not great advice, but give it your best shot. 0:16:30.880 --> 0:16:33.560 And if you end up falling short of whatever your 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:36.720 best shot is, just take solace in the fact that 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:42.520 you tried, you know, so, so that's I think that's 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:44.160 what I got for you, sam is is just just 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:46.400 take solace in the fact that you tried. That's all 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:49.320 I think you're gonna ever really care about, is that 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:52.440 you know, when you go to bed at night, you 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:55.440 try your fucking best to do the things that you 0:16:55.440 --> 0:17:00.720 wanted to do with yourself or whatever the hell that 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:11.200 is worth learning. Okay, this is from Andrew subject line 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:14.040 learning to be alone. He says, I think you've got 0:17:14.080 --> 0:17:16.840 to be alone slash single and with no friends for 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:19.040 a part of your life, even if it's just a 0:17:19.080 --> 0:17:22.040 couple of months. It's necessary character development arc. And I 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:24.440 recommend it to everyone. If you read this, you're awesome. 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:32.800 Keep going. You know, it's interesting. I definitely I think 0:17:33.400 --> 0:17:36.520 I'll be up. I'll be a little open on this 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:38.439 this year episode. I'm in the mood for it. You know. 0:17:38.520 --> 0:17:43.000 I think over the years that I've I think over 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:45.240 the years i've all I've been a very like kind 0:17:45.280 --> 0:17:49.520 of you know, wanting to be alone and do things 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.240 on my own kind of vibe. And I and if 0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:55.240 you're gonna do that, right, if you're gonna learn to 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:58.080 be alone, I actually agree with this email. I agree 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:00.280 with this email that you should try to learn how 0:18:00.280 --> 0:18:03.639 to be alone, especially if you're young, like dude, if 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:07.600 you're in your fucking if you're in your like early 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:11.560 twenties or something like that, you gotta it's it's okay 0:18:11.600 --> 0:18:13.320 to learn how to be alone and go on a 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:16.600 little solo trip. And it is, I agree, a necessary 0:18:17.160 --> 0:18:21.199 character development arc. And I think through all the times 0:18:21.200 --> 0:18:23.919 that I've gone on a solo trip or been alone 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:27.000 or struggled with loneliness. I agree, it's been like a 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:35.240 big character arc for me. But also, you know, over 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:38.520 I think over the years, if you do it too much, 0:18:39.080 --> 0:18:42.199 you kind of wake up and you're like, oh, this 0:18:42.400 --> 0:18:45.480 is not I mean again, it's it's It's what I 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:48.879 was saying earlier. Everyone's brain is fucking wired differently, and so, uh, 0:18:50.359 --> 0:18:55.160 you know, I personally think that having quality social connections 0:18:55.200 --> 0:18:58.680 in your life is probably the most important fucking thing 0:18:58.760 --> 0:19:04.080 on the possibly fucking do for yourself. Right, some people 0:19:04.080 --> 0:19:06.840 aren't as lucky to have those things come. Some people 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:09.600 are really fucking lucky and those things just come naturally 0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:12.359 to their lives, and other people aren't and they have 0:19:12.520 --> 0:19:16.240 to kind of work a little bit harder for them. 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:21.719 But uh, you know, I agree with this the spirit 0:19:21.760 --> 0:19:23.639 of this email, and like it's okay to learn, you 0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:26.040 gotta you gotta kind of learn how to be alone, 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:28.399 but you know, don't drag it on too long or 0:19:28.440 --> 0:19:36.520 else you will go insane. Trust me. This is from 0:19:36.840 --> 0:19:41.879 Jane subject line touring musician struggling with daily life after 0:19:42.400 --> 0:19:46.120 Hey Lyle, I'm a musician parentheses DJ who just went 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:48.560 on tour last year in Asia and now I'm doing 0:19:48.640 --> 0:19:51.560 Latin America. I do longish tours where I stay in 0:19:51.600 --> 0:19:53.360 the city I perform for a few weeks to really 0:19:53.400 --> 0:19:56.159 get a feeling for what it's like and to connect 0:19:56.160 --> 0:19:59.000 with the people here. I'm also commissioning a three D 0:19:59.160 --> 0:20:02.600 artist that helps me pay the bills on the go. 0:20:03.680 --> 0:20:05.240 It's hard for me when I head back home to 0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:07.520 cope with daily life. I just kind of stare at 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:09.959 my wall, like why why do I have a space 0:20:10.040 --> 0:20:11.680 when I could just be on the move all the time. 0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:14.000 I can't slow down, even though I feel like I should. 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:16.720 Sometimes As someone who also tours a bunch, how do 0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:20.240 you handle the come down afterwards? Thank you, Jane. Finally 0:20:20.320 --> 0:20:24.040 a fucking email where I feel like I can speak 0:20:24.200 --> 0:20:28.560 on it, dude. So yeah, I mean, I've been touring. 0:20:28.840 --> 0:20:30.640 I've been lucky enough to tour as the therapy get 0:20:30.720 --> 0:20:33.520 go for like basically on and off for two and 0:20:33.560 --> 0:20:36.679 a half years. And yeah, you know, Jane, I'm in 0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:40.520 the same boat here because I'm taking this year off 0:20:40.520 --> 0:20:43.280 of touring, which I think was a necessary thing to 0:20:43.359 --> 0:20:47.240 do because I had to, you know, kind of take 0:20:47.280 --> 0:20:52.200 the time to evaluate a lot of life things and 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:56.639 kind of kind of deal with them, but I'm with 0:20:56.720 --> 0:21:01.720 you too. Like when I'm on the road, life feels 0:21:01.880 --> 0:21:07.119 really like there's a weird linear thing to it, where like, 0:21:08.280 --> 0:21:10.840 when I'm on the road, all I have to worry 0:21:10.880 --> 0:21:16.200 about is the show I am doing tonight in Saint Louis, Missouri. 0:21:16.359 --> 0:21:20.879 It's a very present thing when you have a show 0:21:21.359 --> 0:21:28.560 and you're performing and going all around, because you're focused 0:21:28.600 --> 0:21:31.520 on the present moment and where you are, and it 0:21:31.600 --> 0:21:34.760 kind of gets you like there is linear aspect to 0:21:34.800 --> 0:21:36.480 it where it's like, Okay, I have this many shows 0:21:36.520 --> 0:21:40.399 to do, and let me walk in this straight line. 0:21:40.880 --> 0:21:43.520 And life is a little scary in the fact that 0:21:43.560 --> 0:21:47.760 it doesn't often have straight lines, especially if you're a 0:21:47.880 --> 0:21:54.840 musician or a gecko or something non traditional. You know, 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:57.119 life doesn't have a lot of straight lines to it, 0:21:57.200 --> 0:21:59.879 and so touring gives you a bit of a straight line. 0:22:00.520 --> 0:22:04.160 And when you get off a tour, yet you don't 0:22:04.200 --> 0:22:08.199 have a straight line anymore. And that's fucking spooky. So 0:22:08.240 --> 0:22:11.359 how do I handle the come down afterwards? The truth is, Jane, 0:22:11.359 --> 0:22:13.119 I haven't been doing a great job of handling to 0:22:13.119 --> 0:22:18.399 come down afterwards. But I think it's it's probably, And 0:22:18.480 --> 0:22:21.320 actually I'm happy to be reading this email because it's 0:22:21.359 --> 0:22:23.159 making me have to find an answer to this question. 0:22:23.280 --> 0:22:26.560 And so I think, in this very moment, I'm just 0:22:26.640 --> 0:22:28.439 kind of like, you probably have to establish some kind 0:22:28.480 --> 0:22:31.000 of routine, because when I was on the road, I 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:32.960 felt calm and I felt like I had a routine. 0:22:33.080 --> 0:22:36.879 It was like, you know, go to the airport, do 0:22:37.240 --> 0:22:42.639 fucking this shit, set up the show, do meet with people, 0:22:43.240 --> 0:22:45.639 smoke weed at two o'clock in the morning, and go 0:22:45.640 --> 0:22:48.960 to bed and wake up and do it again. And 0:22:49.040 --> 0:22:52.680 so I think, I think again, Yeah, from person who 0:22:52.720 --> 0:22:55.800 tours to person to tours, it's like touring established a 0:22:55.920 --> 0:23:00.360 routine for me, and then when the routine went way, 0:23:00.440 --> 0:23:05.280 I just started to kind of falter. And so, uh, 0:23:05.359 --> 0:23:06.920 I think the answer is going to be like coming 0:23:07.000 --> 0:23:13.000 up with another routine for yourself, for myself, and so hope, 0:23:13.119 --> 0:23:15.600 hopefully you can find a routine that makes you feel 0:23:16.040 --> 0:23:21.200 some level of excitement, right, Uh, some level of excitement 0:23:22.240 --> 0:23:28.639 for what you had when you were on tour. And yeah, 0:23:28.880 --> 0:23:30.479 it's hard, you know, man, if if you're the kind 0:23:30.520 --> 0:23:34.120 of person where you want you want a lot out 0:23:34.160 --> 0:23:41.639 of life, you want a lot out of uh, you know, 0:23:41.680 --> 0:23:44.000 you live in crazy rock star Land, You're in Asia, 0:23:44.040 --> 0:23:46.520 you're in Latin America, you're you're talking to this person, 0:23:46.520 --> 0:23:49.240 you're doing this. I mean, it's it's, uh, it's beautiful. 0:23:49.280 --> 0:23:53.959 It's it's the kind of you know, it's it's it's 0:23:54.000 --> 0:23:59.000 a beautiful existence. But I don't know if it's sustainable 0:23:59.040 --> 0:24:02.359 to live it forever, or at least you can live 0:24:02.400 --> 0:24:04.080 it forever, but I don't know if it's sustainable to 0:24:04.119 --> 0:24:11.679 live it constantly. And so yeah, you need to kind 0:24:11.680 --> 0:24:13.760 of build some kind of routine. I guess do push 0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:15.680 ups or something. All Right, that was a rant. That 0:24:15.720 --> 0:24:18.000 was a whole rant, But I guess this whole podcast 0:24:18.040 --> 0:24:22.679 is a whole fucking rant. So let's keep going. Caitlin says, 0:24:22.760 --> 0:24:26.440 save me, mister gecko, Hi, gek, I'm having a life crisis, 0:24:26.480 --> 0:24:28.440 and your knowledgeable on these things is a gecko. I 0:24:28.480 --> 0:24:30.320 don't know about that. What are your thoughts on life 0:24:30.320 --> 0:24:33.080 in twenty twenty five and the groundhog from Groundhog Day? 0:24:33.640 --> 0:24:36.040 I don't know much about the groundhog from Groundhog Day, 0:24:36.240 --> 0:24:38.400 but one of my thoughts on life in twenty twenty five, 0:24:38.520 --> 0:24:48.360 I mean, Ski, it's spooky for sure, you know, I'll 0:24:48.400 --> 0:24:50.280 talk about this. This is something that comes up in 0:24:50.280 --> 0:24:53.880 my brain is I don't think it's healthy to know 0:24:54.040 --> 0:24:58.600 so much about other people's lives. And the reason I 0:24:58.640 --> 0:25:02.280 bring that up specifically is that I like, I'm on Instagram, 0:25:02.359 --> 0:25:05.720 as many of us are, and you know, sometimes when 0:25:05.720 --> 0:25:08.119 I'm not doing anything, I'll just find myself scrolling through 0:25:08.119 --> 0:25:11.480 Instagram stories. I mean, you scroll through Instagram stories, You're 0:25:11.560 --> 0:25:16.159 getting all these fucking people's windows into their lives, and 0:25:16.200 --> 0:25:20.159