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Speaker 1: This is Mandy be Welcome to Selective Ignorance, a production

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Speaker 1: of the Blackpec Podcast Network and IR Radio.

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Speaker 2: Hey Hey, hey, class may.

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Speaker 1: It is twenty twenty six.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we made it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say New Year knew me. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: let y'all decide if that's the case. This year twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty five was such, I will say, an interesting year.

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Speaker 2: I don't think it was great.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't bad on this side, but I know it

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Speaker 1: it was indifferent for so many people. So baby, if

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Speaker 1: you have a yet, go check out the recap episode

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Speaker 1: where myself and my superproducers talk about what twenty twenty

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Speaker 1: five looked like and felt and meant for us here

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Speaker 1: on the Selective Ignorance Pod. But this is the first

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Speaker 1: episodeisode of the new year, and it is a Friday drop.

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Speaker 1: So I am kicking this year off with an MI

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Speaker 1: ignorant episode. If you would like to submit your MI

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Speaker 1: ignorant sentiments scenarios over to me, make sure you drop

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Speaker 1: that email off at Selective Ignorance Pod pod at gmail

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Speaker 1: dot com. You can also DM it to me or

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Speaker 1: hop yos up in the discord like the girlies have done.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to everyone in the discord. I really fucks

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Speaker 1: communication over on the discord. And you can get access

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Speaker 1: to the discord if you join our Patreon that's patreon

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Speaker 1: dot com backslash with Mandy B. That's right, switching over

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Speaker 1: to Patreon just a little bit. Anyways, So before we

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Speaker 1: get into the MIAs, actually I have them right here,

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Speaker 1: but I'm like, before we get into that, I wanted

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Speaker 1: to update y'all on some of my ignorant thoughts over

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Speaker 1: the last two weeks or so. And both will come, yeah,

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Speaker 1: from the last two weeks. So the first one, I

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Speaker 1: just have to get this off my chest, y'all. I

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Speaker 1: have to y'all know how we talk about recipes are

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Speaker 1: dying and traditions are being lost amongst USTs.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's start with one.

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Speaker 1: That I would like for y'all to really to really

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Speaker 1: go back hard to capture again. So, as y'all know,

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Speaker 1: I went to Kirous Out for my Christmas vacation whatever

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Speaker 1: you want to call it, as a single and i'm

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Speaker 1: single because I'm not married, but I got boyfriends, but

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Speaker 1: we just didn't choose to spend the holidays share together.

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Speaker 1: So as a single, childless adult, I thought, you know,

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Speaker 1: let me go and get a tan because maybe the

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Speaker 1: way my melanin is set up for the wintertime, it's

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Speaker 1: rough out here, and I'm already looking pretty translucent, fairly yellow,

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Speaker 1: and so I was like.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let me go to an island.

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Speaker 1: So, I mean, I guess one of the ignorant parts

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Speaker 1: of going to kiraus Out was that I knew it

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Speaker 1: was an ABC island.

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Speaker 2: But bitch, why did I think the bee was Bermuda.

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Speaker 2: It's not. It's bon Air.

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Speaker 1: So the ABC Islands, y'all are about forty to fifty

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Speaker 2: So I've talked about loving Aruba down baby.

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Speaker 1: Them hotels was a little steep. So I went to

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Speaker 1: kiras Out. Now this is my first week traveling Christmas week.

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Speaker 2: Do y'all tell me.

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Speaker 1: If I'm just ignorant and had no clue. But I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you what I got to say. So I

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Speaker 1: get to keira Sound Christmas week. Normally I travel the

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Speaker 1: first week of January. Now why do I do this?

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Speaker 1: Because if you guys were unfamiliar and if you guys

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Speaker 1: have the opportunity and privileged to do so. This week,

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Speaker 1: this first week of January is cheap and quiet. Baby,

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Speaker 2: Cheap because everybody got to get back home, right.

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Speaker 1: So I should have known there was gonna be an

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Speaker 2: I don't want to be on a boat with churing.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be drinking my servesa in the

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Speaker 1: my issue lied. It's Christmas morning, Christmas Eve. I decided

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Speaker 2: At the pool. It is flooded with children.

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Speaker 1: When I say flooding, like flooded from one years old

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Speaker 2: Hearing kids splash and play and yell and scream, and.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, we talk about why there's, you know, no

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Speaker 1: barbecues on Memorial Day and Labor Day anymore. We talk

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Speaker 1: think about was why the fuck them children was not

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Speaker 1: under a goddamn tree, drinking hot cocoa, watching Christmas movies.

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Speaker 2: I was real.

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Speaker 1: I was like, bitch, ain't in a recession. I'm looking

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Speaker 1: crimal gifts under the tree in your living room? Be home,

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Speaker 1: enjoy the rent you pay for, Let your kids grow

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Speaker 1: taking them around all these drug ass single adults.

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Speaker 2: They might want to work from time to time, bitch.

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Speaker 2: I was baffled.

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Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, Christmas week might not be the

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Speaker 2: Wow wow wow.

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Speaker 1: So that was my little ignorant moment that I had

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Speaker 1: over Christmas. I immediately went to fuck them kids. They

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Speaker 2: This is reserved for adults only. Goddamn it. I was

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Speaker 2: Look at me, Look at me now. I'm just being selfish.

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Speaker 1: And the second ignorant thought that I had, and I

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Speaker 1: don't think it's actually very ignorant. I think I leaned

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Speaker 1: into recognizing that my once ignorant thought was actually very valid.

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Speaker 1: And before I get to that thought, I do want

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Speaker 1: to send prayers to the two lives lost in the

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Speaker 1: believe it was Christmas Eve, Christmas or New Year's Eve.

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Speaker 1: It was a tragic accident that took place celebrating the holidays.

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Speaker 1: I want to say at this point, it's ignorant for

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Speaker 1: people to still be retweeting. There's a video currently up

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Speaker 2: I thought we were past that people.

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Speaker 1: I thought we were past sharing those type of bodies,

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Speaker 2: Very very disheartening.

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Speaker 1: I do hope actually that the driver is charged in this.

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Speaker 2: That will be my opinion on this.

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Speaker 1: If you see the diagram, knowing the speeds that he

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Speaker 1: I want you classmates to advocate for your life. When

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Speaker 1: trying to go in between vehicles, it's just it's dangerous.

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Speaker 1: It's dangerous, and when you have other lives in the car,

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Speaker 1: when you are carrying passengers. And so again, thoughts, prayers,

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Speaker 1: condolences to all of those families.

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Speaker 2: There's so many people impacted there, and.

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Speaker 1: My thoughts to Anthony Joshua and what he's probably currently

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Speaker 1: But the ignorant thought that I had seeing all of

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Speaker 2: But baby, now it's not. So I have said.

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Speaker 1: So, I visited Nigeria to celebrate a friend's birthday. She

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Speaker 1: We stayed in Chevy Lucky which is in Legos, and

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Speaker 1: It made me feel the most paranoid. I was saying

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Speaker 1: probably at any given time, five to ten multiple people

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Speaker 2: Silverware. And I get it, you know, they're trying to

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Speaker 1: But it was just a lot and in terms of

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Speaker 1: the countries that you have to be invited to, so

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Speaker 1: you know I just said, I went to Viator trip advisor,

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Speaker 2: And so.

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Speaker 1: When I saw the lack of medical emergency for a

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Speaker 1: to know that Anthony Joshua sat in that vehicle for

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Speaker 1: Now, y'all know we even talk about the soft life

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Speaker 1: I like that your friend's approach to soft life wasn't

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Speaker 2: The thing is, I think every year.

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Speaker 1: For those three years, I hopped online, sat in front

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Speaker 2: And so I will say you may not know any

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Speaker 1: And so in twenty twenty six, take the time off

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Speaker 2: They told me I was being negative, bitch, not negative? Nancy?

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Speaker 1: Am I ignorant for thinking some people use the new

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Speaker 2: Bitch?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: Because you right as hell.

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Speaker 1: This is where a lot of people, like you said,

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Speaker 1: I'm leaving them back in twenty twenty five. Well did

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Speaker 2: Knew me. I'm going to go into the gym.

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Speaker 1: the vision board ain't helping. At that point, you not

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Speaker 1: Knew Me with the mullet, I'm rocking a mullet in

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Speaker 2: And again.

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Speaker 1: This is an excerpt from the Class Assembly last month

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 4: This might upset the anti vaxxers.

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Speaker 1: Oh goodness, I love before you get ignorant, you have

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Speaker 4: Sugar warning for the anti vaxers.

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Speaker 4: So in Tampa, I've been seeing all of these signs

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Speaker 4: and I'm not going to say the name, but I'm

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Speaker 4: still gonna make up a name. Okay, pray for Susie.

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, yo, I keep seeing all these signs,

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Speaker 4: was like, why are Tampa signs saying pray for Susie?

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Speaker 4: So I come to find out that it's a five

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Speaker 4: they all said the family is asking for privacy as

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Speaker 4: I'm like, she's not vaxxed.

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Speaker 2: She's not like that.

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Speaker 4: All of like all of the signs have like a

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Speaker 4: it was about like how prayer will heal you from

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Speaker 4: she's definitely not vacked.

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Speaker 2: She's five years old.

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Speaker 4: There's been measles outbreaks primarily amongst the conservative community who

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Speaker 4: doesn't believe in vaccinations, am I ignorance? Were not really

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Speaker 4: feeling bad for this five year old little girl?

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Speaker 1: Ooh okay, so we could feel bad for the five

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Speaker 2: Oh, tam, wait is that her worst?

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Speaker 4: But that's how you left.

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Speaker 1: That's how I just thought of it, like the parents

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Speaker 1: there's nothing like a child can't advocate for themselves right

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Speaker 1: to get vaccinations, to get medicines, to be taken to

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Speaker 1: the doctor. Unfortunately, a five year old doesn't have the autonomy.

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Speaker 2: To do that.

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Speaker 1: And so you can feel sad that a child didn't

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Speaker 2: I think that it's very fine to have empathy for

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Speaker 1: I don't feel bad for the parents, because if you

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Speaker 1: through a pandemic.

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Speaker 2: You can't sit here and just think God gonna heal all.

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Speaker 4: And sobbe was born during the pandemic.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: Do you want to know where the parents lie with

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Speaker 4: I don't have any people but people who.

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Speaker 2: Who die from being in a cult. Oh.

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Speaker 1: If you have the mindset to not be logical in

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Speaker 1: the things that we face as human beings. And here

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Speaker 1: I go, not me leaning into science, but there's things

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Speaker 1: be oftentimes death? And what do we know as human beings,

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Speaker 2: One thing's for certain. Death is inevitable.

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Speaker 1: And so if you want to play with God and

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Speaker 1: you want to put your faith there by all means

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Speaker 2: But the same way, we just don't hope for a.

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Speaker 1: our laps for us to pay our bills. I think

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Speaker 1: the idea that a healing blessing from another universe is

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean, like the measles. Yeah, nah,

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Speaker 2: so to me, really good? Am I ignorant?

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Speaker 1: You just gotta move your your lack of empathy to

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Speaker 2: Just just move it over.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm like, this little girl doesn't deserve to go

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Speaker 2: So the child did pass or the child?

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Speaker 4: Because every everything that I'm seeing is still saying pray

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Speaker 4: And there the family really isn't being forthcoming with her status.

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Speaker 4: So again that leads me to believe that they're choosing

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Speaker 2: When that's and.

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Speaker 1: You know what, I'm gonna pray not happen, keeping that

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Speaker 1: baby inside if the baby's still alive, because you don't

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Speaker 1: want to see like measles is contagious. You don't need

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Speaker 1: an outbreak to get to other like. It's just it's

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Speaker 1: But all right, I see, and then when you get

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Speaker 1: to name calling them shit, Trev.

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Speaker 2: Trev raised his hand, go.

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Speaker 5: Ahead, and and the thing about it the worst is

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Speaker 5: that if you know, if she does pull which I

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Speaker 5: hope she does pull through, oh they're just gonna be

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Speaker 5: out here talking about how God is so great and

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Speaker 5: save their baby and this this and how they were

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Speaker 2: It's that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: And Brittany just brought out that there was there's a

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Speaker 1: there there may be also an outbreak of measles in Texas.

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Speaker 1: There was an outbreak in measles maybe two or three

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Speaker 1: years ago in New York. Also love Britney's comment. Brittany said,

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Speaker 1: crazy how they want control over women's bodies but don't

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Speaker 1: want anybody to tell them to bask their kids. Make

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Speaker 1: it makes sense, Make it make sense. It is tricky

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Speaker 1: out here. I mean, I think at the end of

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Speaker 1: the day, we know that we are living in a

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Speaker 1: world of hypocrisy, and the best you could do.

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Speaker 2: Is do the best of what you got because at

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Speaker 2: that's just kind of how we got to live our lives. Y'all.

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