Speaker 1: All he said to me is it's from Europe. Can't
Speaker 1: keep it on the shelf, And I'm like, I'm in
Speaker 1: calm down with Erin and Carissa. Is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 1: When was the last time that we recorded? I don't know,
Speaker 1: but are you okay? Oh my god, no, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I wish you could see this setup that I've got
Speaker 1: going on right now because I forgot my computer, I
Speaker 1: forgot my headphones. We haven't recorded a podcast in what
Speaker 1: feels like a month, so I obviously don't know what
Speaker 1: I'm doing. So you are a patient friend. I know.
Speaker 1: I was just catching up on everything in how many
Speaker 1: I saw in prety days. We'll be back thirteen days
Speaker 1: for the NFL season, which means my hair is on fire.
Speaker 1: Yours looks great. This is my new move now everything
Speaker 1: I think I'm an unpregnant Haley Beaver. I just you're
Speaker 1: my hairberry and it's so bad. But welcome to the pregame. Guys.
Speaker 1: You know what this means. We have a lot to
Speaker 1: talk about in the big show, But do you want
Speaker 1: to get to the pregame questions first? Before we get
Speaker 1: this announcement with the little foot and then all I
Speaker 1: could look at which I know we're celebrating the arrival
Speaker 1: of the baby. Is I act like I know them.
Speaker 1: I don't. It's her nails. I was like, should I
Speaker 1: do that with my nails? The French tip. I think
Speaker 1: the gossip was that Justin picked out the Polish. I mean,
Speaker 1: oh my god. You know it really is a group effort,
Speaker 1: all right. My husband loves a Pinterest, but he doesn't
Speaker 1: love a Polish. I thought save that for the big show.
Speaker 1: The emails and I get because I'm on Jarrett's Pinterest
Speaker 1: page because obviously I asked to be a part of it,
Speaker 1: are amazing. I know. I feel so invasive, like I
Speaker 1: know every step of what you guys are doing. Okay,
Speaker 1: we'll discuss that later. Welcome everyone, free game. We're back
Speaker 1: sort of and more frazzlin than ever. Go for it, sister, okay,
Speaker 1: melodied ten twelve. Will you not go into a store
Speaker 1: if you see someone you know walking in question mark?
Speaker 1: It depends on who it is. You got to be
Speaker 1: on it, so that's it. I know it's going to
Speaker 1: be the same for both of us. That means about
Speaker 1: ninety percent of the time, if we know them, we
Speaker 1: won't walk in. There's a ten percent chance that we
Speaker 1: walk in because there's ten percent of the people that
Speaker 1: we know that we like smellulator. I for sure have
Speaker 1: done the whole like go the other way. You know,
Speaker 1: you got to be in the mood, you know, like
Speaker 1: are we doing the small talk, we're catching up. I
Speaker 1: haven't seen you in forever. What are you doing here? No?
Speaker 1: And it also depends on how like much time you
Speaker 1: have where It's like I wanted to get in, I
Speaker 1: wanted to get out. I don't have time. I left
Speaker 1: my car double parked in a frickin area that I shouldn't. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: so yes. I got to be honest. I was going
Speaker 1: through something last week, and you were doing fifty thousand
Speaker 1: things in like home good stores, not home goods, but
Speaker 1: home good stores, grabbing coffee, table books, grabbing i don't know, appliances, television,
Speaker 1: you even were setting them up. And here I was
Speaker 1: like crying about shit that was happening in my life,
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, yeah, I'll just wrap them up.
Speaker 1: I know it's okay, Erin, it's gonna be fine. You're
Speaker 1: amazing with that. Well, because the truth of that is,
Speaker 1: I'd rather be talking to you than doing what I
Speaker 1: was doing. So Melanie, will you go No, we're not
Speaker 1: going in to the store. If we know anybody anonymous
Speaker 1: quitting my job in a week? How honest should I
Speaker 1: be in the exit interview regarding my Miranda Priestley in
Speaker 1: quotes boss who is disregarding our team and others? It's
Speaker 1: a good question, how honest should you be? Grading Hi?
Speaker 1: It was an eronism. What did I say disregarding did
Speaker 1: so much? Yeah? That was an Aaron Andrews. I think
Speaker 1: God that I'm out of it. I can't wait for
Speaker 1: the teleprompter in eleven days or be on television that'll
Speaker 1: be good, stay tuned, can't wait for the season degrading? Wow,
Speaker 1: read a book, CHRISA. I don't know what the question
Speaker 1: was now putting how honest should I be in an
Speaker 1: exit interview? I always believe that you should not burn
Speaker 1: bridges that you need to walk back over. So if
Speaker 1: this is an industry that you plan on staying in,
Speaker 1: if there is enough people in your respective profession, even
Speaker 1: if you're exiting, that you respect or that you know
Speaker 1: you'll cross paths with again, I would not be too
Speaker 1: honest about stuff unless you want to just burn it
Speaker 1: down system then have at it. But very rarely do
Speaker 1: I encourage that because I think in a world that
Speaker 1: ends up being six degrees sometimes three degrees of separation,
Speaker 1: careful what you end up doing, because it may burn
Speaker 1: you in the butt later, bite you and the ass
Speaker 1: later you. This is pretty timely for me. My bosses
Speaker 1: aren't Miranda Priestley, but I've had to have some real
Speaker 1: honest discussions with them lately, and I found a couple
Speaker 1: of things. Vent to the people in your life, get
Speaker 1: a ton of advice. Yeah, Like I mean I to
Speaker 1: say two things, walking in and not being what is
Speaker 1: the word not demonstrative? That's not the right word. That's
Speaker 1: I don't know, degrading. So nowell unarming Is that a word?
Speaker 1: Did I just make that? Disarming? Good? I can't wait
Speaker 1: to be on television maybe also disarming. I liked that.
Speaker 1: That was some advice I got. Also, my boss had
Speaker 1: an idea last week. We took a walk around the block,
Speaker 1: which I liked that better than sitting in his office
Speaker 1: yep and chatter wronging with him. So yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: think it's good to just burn it down because you
Speaker 1: never know who's going to be your boss again, or
Speaker 1: where you're going to run or who they're going to
Speaker 1: tell it that you may or may not unloaded on them.
Speaker 1: I just don't think it's a smart move, not a
Speaker 1: good move, not a good move. And this is not
Speaker 1: the question. But to add to what you're talking about,
Speaker 1: and we obviously talked about it at length, it's just
Speaker 1: I wait for this phrase at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: There keep wait for the end of the day. I
Speaker 1: feel like it's the end of the day. Where's my wine?
Speaker 1: What time is it? Jesus Rois? Maybe I can read then.
Speaker 1: I think you should just treat people, even if they're
Speaker 1: your boss's superiors whatever, they're human, and the more honest
Speaker 1: you are without being burn it down, I think it
Speaker 1: proves to be beneficial. So being honest doesn't always mean
Speaker 1: being so cuckoo, you know what I mean? Does that
Speaker 1: make sense? Probably not, It makes a ton of sense.
Speaker 1: I think another thing, and I believe that this was
Speaker 1: advice from you. If you just show in the end
Speaker 1: how much you love the gig and you love where
Speaker 1: you are, that's I think the most important message. Now.
Speaker 1: If you don't love where you are and you hate
Speaker 1: the gi yeah, that's important exactly. We could go on
Speaker 1: and on about this because or maybe we should in
Speaker 1: the larger conversation, because I want to keep at it
Speaker 1: in our hollies. Kimmy and nineteen oh, this is you Stster,
Speaker 1: go for it. Yep, Kimmy and nineteen seventy nine. My
Speaker 1: son is leaving for college soon. Any advice for coping
Speaker 1: with transitions? This is hard. I was actually just talking
Speaker 1: to my friend about this, who dropped his daughter off
Speaker 1: at Michigan his son at Florida State. I remember when
Speaker 1: my dad dropped me off at school. It was a
Speaker 1: big family hug in the middle of my dorm room.
Speaker 1: We were bawling our brains out. My parents only had
Speaker 1: to drive two hours back to Tampa from the University
Speaker 1: of Florida, but that felt so long now. When Kendra
Speaker 1: was sent to school and we dropped her off, my
Speaker 1: dad was so upset because that was his baby. And
Speaker 1: I don't really remember what happened, but something got locked
Speaker 1: in our house, like we couldn't get back in. We
Speaker 1: didn't have the key. I don't know what in the
Speaker 1: hell happened. Obviously we didn't have an automatic garage either,
Speaker 1: but or the garage door wasn't working. My dad had
Speaker 1: to break away. That's how dramatic it was. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: there was a lot going on for the Andrews that day.
Speaker 1: I would just say this, there's a couple of people
Speaker 1: that I had known or just that time maybe, or
Speaker 1: people going back to school, and as we get older,
Speaker 1: all the kids of the people that we know get older.
Speaker 1: And a couple of conversations I've had where they've been like, oh,
Speaker 1: I had to drop my kid off at college arm
Speaker 1: an empty nester. I'm always like, good for you, you did it,
Speaker 1: because I remember my parents had this thing where it's
Speaker 1: our job to raise you and when you turn eighteen,
Speaker 1: like you're on your own. So if you've gotten them
Speaker 1: to that point, I know obviously you're not, you know,
Speaker 1: not being a parent anymore. But hopefully the job that
Speaker 1: you did prepared them to go out into the world,
Speaker 1: So you should actually be excited for them to go
Speaker 1: off to college because now they get to put to
Speaker 1: use all of the skills that you've taught them. So
Speaker 1: for coping with transition, I would just say, if you
Speaker 1: like your spouse, hopefully you do you get to reconnect
Speaker 1: with them, or if you now have only a couple
Speaker 1: other kids in the house, you get to spend more
Speaker 1: time with them. I think I'm always a big, big
Speaker 1: believer in different chapters in your life, so this is
Speaker 1: a new chapter where you even also can maybe put
Speaker 1: more focus on yourself. So be proud of the job
Speaker 1: you've done it as a parent. They're off to school,
Speaker 1: off to college, and applaud them because you know what.
Speaker 1: Also to I don't mean my parents crying when I leave,
Speaker 1: which but my parents didn't. They were like, see yah,
Speaker 1: she's gone. Because it's like then I feel guilty if
Speaker 1: like my parents are so sad, Like I want my
Speaker 1: parents to be like, go get them kids, So save
Speaker 1: the tears. Oh see, we balled our brains out. Okay,
Speaker 1: I drove. I drove my parents took me down in
Speaker 1: a U hall. They dropped me off in California, and
Speaker 1: then they said good luck to you kid. No, they
Speaker 1: were not crying. I love this. Next question, Yeah, read
Speaker 1: it anonymous? What do you do when read it? Would
Speaker 1: you do good luck? Is this a test? What do
Speaker 1: you do when your children's dad gets married and she
Speaker 1: wears my son's jersey's name a jersey name. So I
Speaker 1: have a story about this different. And then wait, she
Speaker 1: wrote you I love it, So this is different. My
Speaker 1: sister got was cheated on. Maybe she doesn't want me
Speaker 1: to say it. She doesn't care. My sister doesn't care.
Speaker 1: We're long past it. She has been remarried and has
Speaker 1: the most amazing husband. What up, Chris, we love you.
Speaker 1: Her first marriage she got cheated on, and the person
Speaker 1: that cheated on my old brother in law cheated on
Speaker 1: with They ended up getting married, and my sister and
Speaker 1: them all still worked together, which is so freaking nuts,
Speaker 1: because there's no chance in hell I could have went
Speaker 1: to the same office with my ex husband and his
Speaker 1: new bride. But there's like that whole thing where you
Speaker 1: share kids in the name and all that stuff. I
Speaker 1: would not be as classy as my sister was with
Speaker 1: that whole thing. I would definitely need to be restrained.
Speaker 1: I would not want to see that. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: we have no idea if Anonymous was cheated on, this
Speaker 1: was an affair, but the dad got married, yeah, and
Speaker 1: the new woman is wearing the son's name on her jersey,
Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't know if i'd handle it well either.
Speaker 1: But if you saw a mac's name, it got a
Speaker 1: bit you never will if you and Jerik Gott divorce,
Speaker 1: if somebody was wearing Max's name on their like you know,
Speaker 1: whatever soccer thing or something, you would fricking lose your shit.
Speaker 1: Oh for sure. I just love how she ended it
Speaker 1: with you. I have the utmost respect for people that
Speaker 1: can harmoniously conscious uncoupling and like make it all work,
Speaker 1: because I am tom petty with that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: Like I've never even had to like share a dog
Speaker 1: in a breakup or I'm just like bear mine, Like
Speaker 1: there's the idea of having to share children and obviously,
Speaker 1: you know there's the mature side of that where you're
Speaker 1: doing it for the kids because they see it all
Speaker 1: and that kind of stuff. Like, good for you if
Speaker 1: you can be amicable with that, because that is easier
Speaker 1: said than done. Thank God I didn't have children in
Speaker 1: my uh divorce situations. Yeah, we may not be the
Speaker 1: person for this question. Jewels, Jewels, I EQ sorry, micro
Speaker 1: needling or lasers. I haven't done micro needling before, but
Speaker 1: I'd love to try it. Here's my issue right now.
Speaker 1: From the girl we just got her next shot up
Speaker 1: with doctor Daniel Poor. He did a number on me. Wow,
Speaker 1: I got my face Brozen yesterday ready to go for
Speaker 1: this season. We're back, baby, I don't want to see anything.
Speaker 1: You would get off an international flight and go straight
Speaker 1: to a boat. Holy shit, your shit had done in
Speaker 1: your like twelve hours hard. But anyways, he shot my
Speaker 1: neck up with because you know how we are about
Speaker 1: our next with this botox, but it also kind of
Speaker 1: has a filler, but it's not filler, but it's also hydrating,
Speaker 1: so on camera it'll look plumper. I mean, can you imagine,
Speaker 1: like what was the what was the movie with Gwyneth Paltrow, Like, well,
Speaker 1: that would be what my neck looks like on TV.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but this is what I was saying
Speaker 1: to some Oh. I was saying this to Kylie, Daniella
Speaker 1: and Julian on a text chain as I was driving
Speaker 1: home from doctor Daniel Poor's office. I said to them,
Speaker 1: they go, what is this thing you put in your neck?
Speaker 1: All he said to me is it's from Europe. Can't
Speaker 1: keep it on the shelf. And I'm like, I'm in yeah, sorry, Julie,
Speaker 1: We'll get to your question in a second. We're making
Speaker 1: this about us. I went to doctor Daniel Board's office.
Speaker 1: This was like a month ago. And I asked them
Speaker 1: for botox or whatever filler in my neck because you
Speaker 1: said to do that, and they said I was not
Speaker 1: allowed to get that, so they did the I don't know,
Speaker 1: I wasn't a candidate forard or something, so they gave
Speaker 1: me what So, what you're saying is you have a
Speaker 1: better neck than I. They also agreed to give me
Speaker 1: surgery on that said neck if I would have had
Speaker 1: enough time. But they the hydro filler thing or whatever
Speaker 1: is that they also gave me. Did it? Look I
Speaker 1: need more. It's not hydroing enough. I gotta tell you.
Speaker 1: I didn't know myself. And he's like, all over me.
Speaker 1: I will like the chick for beetlejuice right now with
Speaker 1: the like the slash neck and like the smoke coming
Speaker 1: out of it. It hurts so bad. And he was like, wow,
Speaker 1: you're so good. You're not even flinching. And then it
Speaker 1: turned into a game with myself, like I had a
Speaker 1: tear coming down and I'm like, oh, I'm going to
Speaker 1: get through this. I'm going to get through this. And
Speaker 1: I was like hit and argy. My favorite thing is
Speaker 1: with those when they're like, oh, we'll need to numb
Speaker 1: you and I'm like, oh no, I'm I'm pain tolerance.
Speaker 1: I'm good, and halfway through it, I'm like, yeah, exactly,
Speaker 1: but I don't. Of course, you and I are the same.
Speaker 1: We're competitive and we don't want to say that we
Speaker 1: actually needed the numbing cream. So Julie, to answer your
Speaker 1: question in a very circuitous way, micro needling or lasers.
Speaker 1: I don't know what micro needling either. Clearly I need
Speaker 1: to figure that out because I'll try everything once. Lasers
Speaker 1: are the best thing ever. I've lasered a lot of things,
Speaker 1: and I swear by it. In fact, sometimes I forget
Speaker 1: that I've lasered everything, and then I'll like, look underneath
Speaker 1: my arms. I'm like, wow, forgot about that, because it'll
Speaker 1: come in. Hair will come in every now and then,
Speaker 1: So laser it up. Girl. Are we at a time? No,
Speaker 1: Bridget bert One, how do you deal with the egos
Speaker 1: of players and coaches? Bridget I'm just gonna say this
Speaker 1: right now, a Bridge Burt look at me making up names? Now, Hey,
Speaker 1: brit Bridge, Burt Bridge. They never are dear the Bridge
Speaker 1: Burt one. I will speak for myself because Aaron's obviously
Speaker 1: have different experiences, but I think she's going to say
Speaker 1: something similar. There have been over the almost twenty years
Speaker 1: we've been doing this, very very very very very very
Speaker 1: few I'm talking like five percent that have ego or arrogance.
Speaker 1: That is just they all have ego, but they don't
Speaker 1: us good to us. I don't know. I feel like
Speaker 1: I've just been so lucky that these guys, players, coaches,
Speaker 1: colleagues have all been unbelievable. I actually experienced this way
Speaker 1: more in my Hollywood days. I don't know if you
Speaker 1: did with the Dancing with the Stars tenure of yours,
Speaker 1: but I felt like Hollywood, Hollywood definitely had the arrogance
Speaker 1: way more than athletes, because athletes are used to being
Speaker 1: part of a team. So that's where I found the difference.
Speaker 1: And how did I deal with it. I didn't deal
Speaker 1: with it very well, which is why that entertainment gig
Speaker 1: was short lived because I had a hard time with
Speaker 1: that where people acted like they were better than me,
Speaker 1: and I was like, we're cool here, relax, Okay, your movie, Yeah,
Speaker 1: your movie sucks, and you're lucky we're even promoting it.
Speaker 1: But you we are so lucky with our relationships that
Speaker 1: we have with these players and coaches. I think you know.
Speaker 1: A great example of that was we were in San
Speaker 1: Francisco together for preseason game, You, myself, Julian, Tom Brady,
Speaker 1: Kevin Burkhart. We had a I had a blast walking
Speaker 1: up on the sidelines with you. You know, George Kittle
Speaker 1: in the middle of the game, he's not playing, comes over,
Speaker 1: gives us a hug. We were in the center of
Speaker 1: the field talking to guys, you know, you know Penner
Speaker 1: about his new baby. Congratulations exactly to Mario Davis, Like
Speaker 1: just so, we're so fortunate, and I think a lot
Speaker 1: of the time, the guys in the league that we
Speaker 1: are so fortunate to cover understand we are there to
Speaker 1: do a job, but we're also there not to make
Speaker 1: them look bad. We respect the hell out of what
Speaker 1: they do, and we're huge fans of theirs. And it's
Speaker 1: just cool, Like it was so fun, like just standing
Speaker 1: there both that comes by, we give him a huge hug.
Speaker 1: John Lynch his wife. It's it actually turns out to
Speaker 1: be a big family. So we're grateful for that, very
Speaker 1: very grateful. Last, but not least, Anonymous, my bff's brother
Speaker 1: and I like each other. Do I chance ruining the
Speaker 1: friendship and go for it? Yeah, this is so because
Speaker 1: the risk award is huge. Imagine it works out and
Speaker 1: you get to be like family with your best friend.
Speaker 1: Aaron doesn't have a brother, and my brother was married
Speaker 1: is happily married with children, so that was never a
Speaker 1: case for Aaron and I. But like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: if you and here's the thing, you, if she's your
Speaker 1: best friend, you can obviously gauge what her reaction will
Speaker 1: be if she like has like a super close protective
Speaker 1: relationship with her brother and she I don't know. I
Speaker 1: feel like you'll you'll definitely know if she would be
Speaker 1: for it or against it. But if you're her best friend,
Speaker 1: why wouldn't she want you to be with her brother too,
Speaker 1: because she would want the best for you. And if
Speaker 1: she has a great really unless unless the brother's bad
Speaker 1: news bears and she's like he's gonna hurt you and
Speaker 1: you're gonna end up being upset, and like, don't even
Speaker 1: go down that road. But I think that you definitely
Speaker 1: know if your girlfriend, your best friend, would be into
Speaker 1: it or not. So yeah, in the words of Steve Candarry,
Speaker 1: hell yeah, helly, hell yah, hell yeah, see Candary, it's
Speaker 1: me right now. Steve Candary is out in the one
Speaker 1: hundred and fifteen degrees hate with my father, my father,
Speaker 1: Mom's your father building an equestrian center. I'm not even
Speaker 1: a horse scalp. Okay, I finally owed my first horse
Speaker 1: at the age of forty two and act as if
Speaker 1: I need the goddamn you know FIP setup for the
Speaker 1: equestrian center because he can hell, I mean, my god,
Speaker 1: I wish. But yeah, they're doing their due diligence out there,
Speaker 1: and I shouldn't say due diligence. I can't even talk.
Speaker 1: They're doing me a solid by building this thing. So
Speaker 1: Steve hates me, and the last thing he's going to
Speaker 1: say next time I ask him to do something as
Speaker 1: hell Yeah, hell yeah. But as for this, Anonymous, go
Speaker 1: for it and keep us posted. We love an anonymous
Speaker 1: follow up. So we have your studio host your transitions. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well I need to transition from the off season to
Speaker 1: the season with the way that I'm speaking today. Here
Speaker 1: we go anonymous follow up. Okay, you guys. The original
Speaker 1: question last year from August was Aaron go caught close
Speaker 1: friend cheating on her husband? Confront or stay quiet? We
Speaker 1: told her to confront it. So here's the update. Aaron.
Speaker 1: She did not confront her friend about it. I'm still
Speaker 1: friendly with the person, however, we're nowhere near as close
Speaker 1: as we used to be. The guy is still in
Speaker 1: the picture, and she only mentions him when her husband
Speaker 1: isn't around, to include a recent weekend when we were
Speaker 1: on a day trip with a couple other law I'm
Speaker 1: confused already, what's going on? Okay, so the guy is
Speaker 1: still in the picture. So the guy because she caught
Speaker 1: a close friend cheating on her husband. Okay, so the
Speaker 1: other guy is still in the picture. She only talks
Speaker 1: about that guy when her husband isn't around. She's given
Speaker 1: an example a recent weekend when we were on a
Speaker 1: day trip with another couple of girlfriends. I reached out
Speaker 1: to a therapist and worked through the unresolved stuff I
Speaker 1: had going on that came back up going through this
Speaker 1: doing much better now, and I recognize that it's her
Speaker 1: problem to figure out and not and fix or not.
Speaker 1: So basically, she's like, I'm not going to met in
Speaker 1: this person's business, like that's her deal. She's cheating on
Speaker 1: her husband. I'm not going to confront it and get
Speaker 1: in the middle of this nasty stuff, which I got
Speaker 1: to tell you. You know exactly what I'm about to say.
Speaker 1: I can't say it, but god, I wish I could.
Speaker 1: I know something right now about someone, and I want
Speaker 1: so bad to call this person who I've never met
Speaker 1: in my entry. I know that, oh you know them.
Speaker 1: I want to call them and be like, hey, by
Speaker 1: the way, your so and so has this and this
Speaker 1: and this and this. He's not telling you. But I'm
Speaker 1: not going to do it because it is not my
Speaker 1: problem and it is none of my business. And you
Speaker 1: know what, I'm not trying to do bring any drama
Speaker 1: into my little peaceful life. So this person, oh, Aaron Andrews,
Speaker 1: Not only do you know this person? We have talked
Speaker 1: so much about this, although I haven't talked to you
Speaker 1: so long, you might have forgot while you were swimming
Speaker 1: in Lake Homo without me. Congratulations to the Purcells. It's wild,
Speaker 1: but knowing information that could totally help someone else, like
Speaker 1: I want to tell her, but it is I don't
Speaker 1: know this person, and I can't call her. I can't
Speaker 1: be involved in the drama. Oh my god. All right,
Speaker 1: we will continue this conversation and more on the Big
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