Speaker 1: Hey, it's Brook and Jeffrey and this is the Second
Speaker 1: Date podcast and today, honestly like it's incredible to be
Speaker 1: part of anyone's love journey period, right, so they invite
Speaker 1: us in. But today we've got a guy who has
Speaker 1: never been on a date before.
Speaker 2: Ever so wholesome.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, he's twenty five years old.
Speaker 2: It's his very first date and he called us for help.
Speaker 1: I don't know if he should have, but we'll be
Speaker 1: talking him probably the next five years and see how
Speaker 1: dating goes from Yes, yeah.
Speaker 2: So you got you got that brand new episode about
Speaker 2: to start.
Speaker 1: But first comments, Yeah, pop Tarta too, he said the
Speaker 1: other day.
Speaker 2: This is one of the best episodes I've heard. I
Speaker 2: listen to you guys every time I'm driving somewhere, and
Speaker 2: this had me dying. I genuinely hope you guys never
Speaker 2: stopped making these.
Speaker 3: I can see myself being seventy and still listening to
Speaker 3: this podcast.
Speaker 4: I hope.
Speaker 2: It will be one hundred and twenty.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like so telling me.
Speaker 2: That's not a yeah. Did he holograph into your mind?
Speaker 1: Okay, listen, we got a brand new episode started right now.
Speaker 2: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: Second date updates.
Speaker 5: You know, personally, I like the second date updates where
Speaker 5: people haven't really been dating for a while and they
Speaker 5: need to jump back.
Speaker 6: On the horse.
Speaker 5: Hey, you know, slide back into the hot to no time.
Speaker 6: Whatever the saying is, you.
Speaker 2: Know, your key back in the bowl?
Speaker 6: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 5: And I'm assuming that's the case for our listener Sam,
Speaker 5: because he said in his email dating is foreign to him?
Speaker 5: Does that mean he just likes foreign chicks?
Speaker 2: I don't blame him.
Speaker 6: Hard for me to.
Speaker 5: Read between the lines here, So let's find out Sam. Yeah, guys,
Speaker 5: I'm talking to Sam. He's in the foreigner Sam. Can't
Speaker 5: you understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: I don't speak that language.
Speaker 2: French people don't speak that language either.
Speaker 6: I see.
Speaker 5: So what do you mean when you say dating is
Speaker 5: foreign to you? How long has it been since you
Speaker 5: went on a date?
Speaker 4: Uh? Forever?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 4: Wait?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 2: Wait, honestly, like, have you ever been on a date?
Speaker 2: That's not not being sarcastic?
Speaker 4: No, I mean forever. This is the first date I've
Speaker 4: ever been on.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, you're telling you it's awesome. You're saying you've
Speaker 5: never been on an actual date with a woman before.
Speaker 5: In your entire life.
Speaker 4: No, I've always wanted to, but at twenty five I
Speaker 4: finally got my first taste and then it vanished again.
Speaker 6: So don't no good for you?
Speaker 2: I mean it makes sense like you're twenty five, Like the.
Speaker 1: COVID era like really screwed your guys's social lives up,
Speaker 1: you know, like postponed everything.
Speaker 5: So here we are, Yeah, so who are we going
Speaker 5: to be calling here? What's her name?
Speaker 4: Her name is Witty, Witty Witty.
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay cool.
Speaker 2: How'd you meet her?
Speaker 4: So? I'm a graduate assistant at a chemistry lab for
Speaker 4: a local university and we had a situation working with
Speaker 4: this company. They have people come in a few times
Speaker 4: a week to use their lab facilities, and she's one
Speaker 4: of those people. So I got to know her a little.
Speaker 5: This way, you're actually you.
Speaker 1: Learning about each other, right, I have to know how
Speaker 1: long did it take you to work up the nerve
Speaker 1: to ask her out?
Speaker 4: I couldn't really pick up that she was interested the
Speaker 4: first few times, you know, and then she hinted at
Speaker 4: wanting to get together, and then I asked her out.
Speaker 6: Okay, that's good that she kind of stepped up. How
Speaker 6: did you do it? What was your approach.
Speaker 4: I mean, I just basically I wrote on a piece
Speaker 4: of lab paper and I wrote, what would you say
Speaker 4: to a cute guy in a lab coat if you
Speaker 4: want to take you out to dinner?
Speaker 5: And she said, yes, all right, this is all going
Speaker 5: off to a good start, especially for your first date.
Speaker 6: So where did you guys go?
Speaker 4: So it was weird because it was actually the same
Speaker 4: day she was working at the lab, so we kind
Speaker 4: of clocked out at the same time, and she asked, like,
Speaker 4: where are you taking me to? And I realized I
Speaker 4: kind of forgot about that part.
Speaker 6: Oh you didn't think.
Speaker 2: Oh, because it was happening right then.
Speaker 4: In the day. Yeah. So we went to this drink
Speaker 4: place nearby. They had an outdoor patio, but nobody else
Speaker 4: was on the patio because it was cold.
Speaker 1: Oh, so you guys sat on the patio and the cold.
Speaker 4: Well, I didn't want to complain, and I asked to
Speaker 4: serve if the restaurant had some blankets, and yeah, and
Speaker 4: they did, and I ended up with two big blankets
Speaker 4: around me while we got to know each other.
Speaker 5: Oh, just just for you were the blankets. You didn't
Speaker 5: give any blankets to Witty.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Usually if they bring out two. It's one for
Speaker 2: you and one for two for yourself.
Speaker 4: Well, after I had them, I realized, though, I should
Speaker 4: probably offer her one, and I did, and she said
Speaker 4: she was fine.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Daud, you're already snuggled up with the I mean,
Speaker 1: I know it's your first date, but that's like all right.
Speaker 4: At some point I was like, I was just nervous,
Speaker 4: and I went thinking.
Speaker 5: Straight, that's an interesting look to be outdoors on a
Speaker 5: patio wearing two blankets on a first date.
Speaker 4: I know it sounds ridiculous, but I think I made
Speaker 4: it look cool because I had one like a cape.
Speaker 2: Like a superhero Joe.
Speaker 6: Superheroes.
Speaker 2: All right, what did you guys connect about?
Speaker 4: We did like questions like put your stuck on a
Speaker 4: deserted island and you could only bring three things, what
Speaker 4: would you bring? Yeah?
Speaker 6: I always hook up right after that question.
Speaker 2: I don't want to know what you say you bring this.
Speaker 6: It depends on me.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it really depends on how you answer. What was
Speaker 5: your answer?
Speaker 4: Well? I told her first toilet paper, because that's a
Speaker 4: very underrated commodity.
Speaker 6: Okay, that's true. Okay.
Speaker 4: She was like, well, what about food? And I was like, well, sure,
Speaker 4: you couldn't eat anything, but what are you gonna wipe with?
Speaker 6: So you really stuck on that toilet paper answer?
Speaker 1: Okay, were you guys laughing about it or did it
Speaker 1: feel like it kind of evolved into bathroom talk?
Speaker 4: No, it wasn't the whole conversation. It was just she
Speaker 4: kind of was giving me a hard time about it,
Speaker 4: like cracking jokes. So it was fine. But the day
Speaker 4: only lasted an hour, and I mean, it's my first
Speaker 4: date ever, so I don't know if that's normal.
Speaker 1: Or not sitting outside in the cold for an hour
Speaker 1: means she liked you?
Speaker 2: Yeah, especially doesn't this after work too? Yes, that's a.
Speaker 5: Long day after the drinks were all done.
Speaker 6: How did it end?
Speaker 4: Well, I don't know when you're supposed to kiss, so
Speaker 4: I just kind of sat in my car and waited
Speaker 4: for her to make a move, but she didn't. You Well,
Speaker 4: one of my friends he said that he did that
Speaker 4: and he got flapped in the face. So I didn't
Speaker 4: want to offend her.
Speaker 5: You're being extra cautious. Okay, So what's happened since then?
Speaker 4: I saw her in the lab last week, but she
Speaker 4: didn't talk to me, so I don't know.
Speaker 1: Do you know, is she very experienced with dating because
Speaker 1: maybe she didn't talk to you because she was nervous.
Speaker 4: She said she had a couple of boyfriends before.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's helpful for you.
Speaker 5: Wait, did she know that it was your first date?
Speaker 6: Did that come up?
Speaker 4: I did not slat out say it was my first date,
Speaker 4: but I alluded to the fact that I don't date often.
Speaker 6: Okay, Okay, by often you mean forever. And I appreciate
Speaker 6: what she did there.
Speaker 5: So so you and I both know that, Yes, we
Speaker 5: know because we speak French together.
Speaker 2: The language of love.
Speaker 5: Yes, and we're going to get her to hop on
Speaker 5: board the love train. Jeff we'll say it and get
Speaker 5: you another date with your second date update.
Speaker 6: Right after this, hold on.
Speaker 3: Man Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second date update.
Speaker 5: Two chemistry students walk into a lab. One says, hey,
Speaker 5: you want to go on a date. The other says,
Speaker 5: only if it's a stable relationship hip because elements are
Speaker 5: aren't stable and some are electron ratios.
Speaker 2: Aren't laughing, not because they don't get it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh man, the ap M students at Sam's College
Speaker 5: would be going crazy.
Speaker 6: For that joke.
Speaker 2: They would write a way better joke than that.
Speaker 5: I'll tell you. Sam's been going crazy over a woman
Speaker 5: named Witty who works part time at his lab after
Speaker 5: he took her out on his very first date ever.
Speaker 1: I bet he's not going to be able to talk
Speaker 1: to us because he heard your joke and he can't
Speaker 1: stop laughing.
Speaker 6: He's still laughing.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 6: Here's given more time to recover.
Speaker 5: But if you missed it, there were drinks, there were
Speaker 5: blankets involved, but there only on Sam. But there has
Speaker 5: been a total lack of communication since then, so he
Speaker 5: needs our help.
Speaker 6: Sam.
Speaker 5: Have you recovered laughing from my joke yet?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I think so.
Speaker 6: Get one in.
Speaker 2: I enjoyed that pretty laugh. Hey, this is your very
Speaker 2: first date, so I don't think that you. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm just worried that we're gonna get her on the
Speaker 2: phone and she's gonna say something hurtful.
Speaker 6: Ouch, why would she?
Speaker 5: Why would you jump immediately to she's definitely gonna say
Speaker 5: something that's gonna hurt Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean dating can be hard, and don't take that
Speaker 1: personally like, just because you're not a good match with
Speaker 1: this person doesn't mean you won't be with the next.
Speaker 5: Brook has given up on this before we started, Sam,
Speaker 5: So she's saying, get ready for a consolation. Anyone's first
Speaker 5: time for anything. It only goes up from there.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Jose, Jose gets me.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I get you. Sam, Do you get it?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've prepared myself.
Speaker 5: And also on the other side, don't be too excited
Speaker 5: if she says it's the best date that she's ever
Speaker 5: been on.
Speaker 2: You give me excited. Oh sure, take your wins. Take
Speaker 2: your wins.
Speaker 4: Okay, So are we gonna call her, just talk about it.
Speaker 5: We're just gonna think of more scenarios of telling you
Speaker 5: how you should feel when you hear other things.
Speaker 6: We're just gonna go over what if a bunch.
Speaker 2: Jeff I was just trying to be kind, ok.
Speaker 5: Guy, All right, let's be kind to a listeners and
Speaker 5: dial her number and see if she picks up. Here
Speaker 5: we go, Hello, Hey, is this Witty?
Speaker 3: Yes, it is hey Witty.
Speaker 5: This is a radio show. We're called Brooke and Jeffrey
Speaker 5: in the Morning.
Speaker 2: Welcome to the show, Witty, Good morning, Good morning.
Speaker 3: What's this? Why are you calling me?
Speaker 6: Well, we're doing something on our show.
Speaker 5: We call it the second Date Update where we try
Speaker 5: to help out listeners who've gone out with someone recently
Speaker 5: and they're not getting a call back for another date.
Speaker 5: We try to reach out and figure out if there's
Speaker 5: a reason why.
Speaker 3: Oh this seems weird.
Speaker 2: It is a little weird. I think it'd be weird
Speaker 2: to get a phone call like this. That's understandable.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's It's supposed to be like a really fun
Speaker 5: segment because we're trying to help educate people, specially our listeners,
Speaker 5: if they did something wrong. So you went out with
Speaker 5: a guy named Sam, Yes, I did.
Speaker 4: You?
Speaker 2: And say I met at the lab that he works at.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we did go on a date. Okay, and I
Speaker 3: think that's it. That's the end of.
Speaker 5: The end, all right, Well, is there a reason that
Speaker 5: you haven't been talking to Sam a lot since the
Speaker 5: date happened? Because he said, you've run by each other
Speaker 5: in the lab, but you aren't really speaking to one another.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it was just like a kind of a weird date.
Speaker 3: It was just a little strange.
Speaker 7: She seemed really nervous.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, okay, what part was.
Speaker 5: Because you're a great gal?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're a beautiful woman who wouldn't be nervous to
Speaker 2: go out.
Speaker 5: Sure, what part was strange to you?
Speaker 7: Well, I mean their conversation was fine, he asked me, no,
Speaker 7: had I been in a relationship and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 7: We've been in two long term ones in the last
Speaker 7: five years, okay, and I just got out.
Speaker 3: Of one like six months ago. And then he was like, well,
Speaker 3: I went to Amsterdam last year by myself.
Speaker 7: And I was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 6: Cool, traveling the world.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, just trying to share stuff about himself,
Speaker 1: right sure.
Speaker 3: And then he was like, I've been to a lot
Speaker 3: of places like that, like I have experience. Like he
Speaker 3: kind of like leaned in and was like, I have.
Speaker 2: Experience experience what experience traveling?
Speaker 7: I don't know, like in like these places. I was like,
Speaker 7: are you like some pervert that just goes.
Speaker 3: To like different red light districts and am you know, wait.
Speaker 5: Did he bring up red light districts to you or
Speaker 5: are you just assuming that he.
Speaker 7: Didn't mention red light districts. But this is like right.
Speaker 3: After I mentioned I had two boyfriends, so we were
Speaker 3: talking about relationships, we weren't talking about travel.
Speaker 5: So you read that as Sam is bragging about traveling
Speaker 5: all over the world, going to different red light districts
Speaker 5: and has tons of experience.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's how you read it.
Speaker 5: But let's find out if that's really true.
Speaker 2: Is that a question I'm going to ask you.
Speaker 5: Well, Witty deserves to know the answer, because that's exactly
Speaker 5: what's holding her back from talking to again. And I
Speaker 5: need to tell you. Sam's on the other line of
Speaker 5: this phone call listening right now.
Speaker 4: Oh no, yeah.
Speaker 2: He did not pay for this call, just so you know,
Speaker 2: it was free.
Speaker 6: Sam.
Speaker 4: Hey, how is it going?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: Oh wow, I said, I had then to answer, and yeah,
Speaker 4: I told you that way. That was between you and I.
Speaker 5: Are you confirming or denying the red light district thing?
Speaker 4: Oh? I went through? Yeah, I went. I went to
Speaker 4: those places. I was there. That's like part of the experience.
Speaker 2: No, it's not.
Speaker 6: Did you partake in it as a different story?
Speaker 4: Wait?
Speaker 1: No, did you use that as your experience of relationships
Speaker 1: as well?
Speaker 2: On the first date?
Speaker 4: Well, I said that because you said you had so
Speaker 4: many boyfriends, and I wanted to say something to show
Speaker 4: that I have experienced as well.
Speaker 5: Oh why, I don't know if we need the details.
Speaker 4: No, yike, I just.
Speaker 3: I'm totally weirded out by you comparing like relationships with
Speaker 3: meeting up with sex workers.
Speaker 7: Like it's just very odd.
Speaker 3: I'm weirded out by you, to be honest, trying to
Speaker 3: figure out why.
Speaker 4: But maybe Okay, I mean I have to confess you're
Speaker 4: my first day ever.
Speaker 2: Okay, what is that?
Speaker 6: Wasn't your emergency safeguard?
Speaker 5: That's the one thing that you probably didn't know.
Speaker 3: Witty, What do you mean? How is that possible? How
Speaker 3: old are you?
Speaker 4: I've never been on a date before?
Speaker 3: Why not a date?
Speaker 4: I didn't want distractions for a long time of my studies,
Speaker 4: and then now that I'm older, I feel more inclined
Speaker 4: to do that.
Speaker 3: I just can't believe that you've gone this far without
Speaker 3: ever going on a single dated.
Speaker 2: That's another red flag.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just it's red lights and red flags.
Speaker 4: But I meant to Amsterdam before, like I said, so
Speaker 4: I do have experience.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, don't go down.
Speaker 5: I know you haven't been on like any actual dates before,
Speaker 5: but a lot of the times people don't want to
Speaker 5: discuss their experience until, like at least date number two.
Speaker 2: It's not something to talk about, it something to show later.
Speaker 2: Let the work.
Speaker 4: Yes, I can totally do that.
Speaker 5: I don't know if the opportunity is still going to
Speaker 5: be there after that conversation. He has experienced.
Speaker 6: He can totally do that. I like the confidence.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it would be better if you were
Speaker 3: just honest with people and said, hey, this is my
Speaker 3: first date.
Speaker 1: I'm really nervous.
Speaker 3: I don't know, but do not talk about your experience,
Speaker 3: like yeah.
Speaker 4: God, American women are just so tight.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 5: That's more of a cut and dry transaction. But you know,
Speaker 5: this is the part of the call Witty where we
Speaker 5: would normally ask to send you out on another date
Speaker 5: with Sam and we would pay for it.
Speaker 6: But after all the talk about.
Speaker 5: The red light district stuff, I feel like that.
Speaker 6: Even that is going too far.
Speaker 5: Now you're not obligated to do anything.
Speaker 1: No, true, it doesn't doesn't feel right.
Speaker 5: Do you do you have any interest in seeing Sam
Speaker 5: again outside of the lab?
Speaker 3: No? Absolutely not. In fact, like you shouldn't ask out
Speaker 3: any one in the lab.
Speaker 2: Oh wait wait wait have you told people?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm well now I am.
Speaker 4: Now that's fine with me. I'm you know, I'm actually
Speaker 4: kind of proud of it.
Speaker 5: I have been like, yeah, I can't dot any more
Speaker 5: people at work anymore.
Speaker 6: Ran out of people.
Speaker 5: Okay, answer, that's a good.
Speaker 6: Oh wait, do we want to know?
Speaker 4: I kind of think you're crossing the line by asking
Speaker 4: me my sexual history.
Speaker 5: Yeah, have you been too not inappropriate?
Speaker 3: Inappropriate brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 5: You know, maybe Sam wasn't quite ready for his first date,
Speaker 5: but he was definitely.
Speaker 6: Ready for his second, if you know what I mean.
Speaker 5: He doesn't know how to kiss, can't pick a restaurant,
Speaker 5: but boy, can he navigate the streets of that red light.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're a second date type of guy.
Speaker 5: I bet he could lead a guided tour for the
Speaker 5: English speakers in Amsterdam.
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that he's gonna okay, I won't get
Speaker 2: into it, but.
Speaker 5: This one and that one doesn't special.
Speaker 6: Yeah, he knows all the deals. But listen. Definitely not
Speaker 6: defending what he said.
Speaker 5: Is just when you've never been on a date ever
Speaker 5: before in your life and you're trying to figure out
Speaker 5: how it works, you have to learn really quick what's
Speaker 5: good to talk about and what is definitely not good
Speaker 5: to talk about.
Speaker 2: Is that something you have to learn. Isn't this common sense?
Speaker 2: I don't know. It just feels like.
Speaker 5: Buddy, Yeah, I mean you would think.
Speaker 1: But no, okay, now, the whole labs, yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: they learned know just how experienced.
Speaker 5: He really is, so if they have any questions.
Speaker 2: Nothing like a bunch of scientists making fun of you.
Speaker 6: It's much better to have radio hosts do it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, because you can always email our show and we'll
Speaker 5: call that person who's not calling you back, hopefully help
Speaker 5: you out with your dating. Go find out all of
Speaker 5: our Second Day podcasts. They're up online wherever you get
Speaker 5: yours at Brook and Jeffrey