WEBVTT - Find your people

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to find your people. If you want

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<v Speaker 1>to make progress toward your goals, you can find or

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<v Speaker 1>create a group with similar aspirations and that can help

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<v Speaker 1>you stay on track. In an earlier episode this week,

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<v Speaker 1>I describe the benefits of having a goal group. The

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<v Speaker 1>social aspect makes goal directed behavior more fun. When we

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<v Speaker 1>schedule things, we tend to do them, and group activities

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<v Speaker 1>tend to involve scheduling. A group also provides accountability to

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<v Speaker 1>ensure you make progress. Of course, wanting to achieve a

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<v Speaker 1>goal as a group and actually becoming part of such

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<v Speaker 1>a group are two entirely different things. Especially these days,

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<v Speaker 1>connecting with people can be a little more challenging, but

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<v Speaker 1>don't worry. Your people are out there. You can find

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<v Speaker 1>them when you've identified your specific goal. The first step

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<v Speaker 1>to finding a group is too well. Ask tell friends,

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<v Speaker 1>family members, colleagues that you are looking for some folks

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<v Speaker 1>to help you write that novel, train for a marathon,

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<v Speaker 1>get out of debt, or change careers. Post your question

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<v Speaker 1>on social media and you might be directed to various

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<v Speaker 1>groups oriented to these purposes. Not all of them are

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<v Speaker 1>going to be great, but you might be able to

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<v Speaker 1>study the options and see which best match your style.

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<v Speaker 1>You might also go where the groups might be. Bookstores

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<v Speaker 1>might sponsor book clubs, or clubs looking for new members

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<v Speaker 1>might post flyers there that you can see. Libraries might

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<v Speaker 1>sponsor various groups or have information from community groups on

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<v Speaker 1>display the staff and also direct you. An athletics store

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<v Speaker 1>might sponsor or recommend running or cycling groups. An outdoor

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<v Speaker 1>store can connect you with hiking or kayaking groups. Your

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<v Speaker 1>house of worship might be a source of all sorts

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<v Speaker 1>of group activity too, and anyone who is well connected,

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<v Speaker 1>such as say a pastor, might be able to put

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<v Speaker 1>you in touch with other people aiming in similar directions.

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<v Speaker 1>Small and local is great, but don't discount massive group

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<v Speaker 1>efforts either. Thousands of folks participate in the National Novel

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<v Speaker 1>Writing Month challenge and write a fifty thousand word novel

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<v Speaker 1>draft in November. Vast quantities of people also stop drinking

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<v Speaker 1>during dry January. Even if you're not part of a

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<v Speaker 1>small group, you can take motivation from the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>many other people are doing the same thing at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time of course, you can start groups yourself too.

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<v Speaker 1>This is pretty much the best way to ensure that

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<v Speaker 1>the group you wind up being part of matches your style.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to know a ton of people with

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<v Speaker 1>similar goals. You really just have to find one or

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<v Speaker 1>two and then ask them to tap their networks as

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<v Speaker 1>well until you reach a good size of committed people.

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<v Speaker 1>I took this approach for creating a writing strategy group

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<v Speaker 1>a few years ago. I wanted to feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>had a few more colleagues in this business, so I

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<v Speaker 1>asked some people I knew who had similar business models

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<v Speaker 1>to mine if they'd like to join. We now meet

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<v Speaker 1>every month by video chat. We send our questions around

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<v Speaker 1>beforehand and discussed strategy for a few minutes apiece. The

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<v Speaker 1>upside of video chat, of course, is that you can

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<v Speaker 1>convene people from anywhere, and that's really a good thing.

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<v Speaker 1>The pandemic has taught us that meeting face to face

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<v Speaker 1>isn't the only way to do business. Getting together as

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<v Speaker 1>a group is probably easier. When you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>travel anywhere. You can spend less time on logistics and

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<v Speaker 1>more time focused on your goals. Consistency is key. Come

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<v Speaker 1>up with a regular routine for checking in with each other.

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<v Speaker 1>This can be as formal or informal as you wish.

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<v Speaker 1>A group text could suffice for people working on cooking more.

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<v Speaker 1>Instead of ordering takeout, you send each other photos of

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<v Speaker 1>your creations, which is great for inspiration and accountability. You

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<v Speaker 1>could email a writing group your word count each day,

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<v Speaker 1>or send your running group a screenshot of your workouts.

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<v Speaker 1>Just knowing that your friends are expecting news of your

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<v Speaker 1>accomplishments can fuel you for that next sprint, and if

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<v Speaker 1>you need help or encouragement, you know that they are

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<v Speaker 1>just a text away. If you are part of a

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<v Speaker 1>goal group, I'd love to hear about how you found

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<v Speaker 1>or started your group and how you support each other.

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<v Speaker 1>We might be able to use this as part of

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<v Speaker 1>some future episodes. You can reach me at Laura at

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<v Speaker 1>Laura Vanderkam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening and here's to making the most of

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