WEBVTT - Back on Land | Golden Hour

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back everybody to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>again for joining us, and we are so excited to

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<v Speaker 1>be back at Kathy how about it. We got to

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<v Speaker 1>share so much with them.

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<v Speaker 2>So we just got back from our cruise. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>we're not only going to answer fan questions today, but

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<v Speaker 2>we're going to tell you some of the great things

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<v Speaker 2>we did on our cruise. But in the meantime, make

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<v Speaker 2>sure you're submitting all of your questions to us and

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, send us everything, your questions, your updates, all of it,

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<v Speaker 1>and questions for us about our journeys that we've been

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<v Speaker 1>on recently.

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<v Speaker 3>Boyd, do we have a lot to tell you know

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<v Speaker 3>what to do?

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<v Speaker 1>You can also dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Susan, I don't even know where to be in

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<v Speaker 2>on the cruise. We've got to talk. We have to

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<v Speaker 2>talk about our Holland husbands. These two guys are gay,

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<v Speaker 2>they've been together fourteen years. They are Dutch, they speak

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<v Speaker 2>impeccable English. We sat next to them at dinner one

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<v Speaker 2>night and we got chatting and we just hung out

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<v Speaker 2>with him for the rest of the cruise. We went

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<v Speaker 2>off the ship with him. We ate meals with them,

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<v Speaker 2>we had cocktails with them, we took photos with them.

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<v Speaker 2>We had such a blast. They are the best guys.

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<v Speaker 2>And in fact, Susan and I have another trip coming

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<v Speaker 2>up next spring where a were going.

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<v Speaker 1>Susan, We're going to Holland We're going to stay in

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<v Speaker 1>their house and they have actually a guesthouse on their

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<v Speaker 1>property and they live right on the river and they

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<v Speaker 1>want us to come when it's warm because they have

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<v Speaker 1>a boat. These guys were like our best friends. We

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<v Speaker 1>met them night one, like you said, at dinner, and

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<v Speaker 1>we were inseparable ever since.

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<v Speaker 3>They were great.

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<v Speaker 2>They made They made the cruise for me.

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<v Speaker 3>One other thing made the cruise. I didn't do anything

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<v Speaker 3>for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Really well.

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<v Speaker 3>Then I took you to the wear potato frack. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>so we go.

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<v Speaker 2>We go to Istanbul our first time. We started in Athens.

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<v Speaker 2>Susan was sleeping and so Kathy got up and went

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<v Speaker 2>to the acropolis. Found my way to the acropolis. They

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<v Speaker 2>were sold out of tickets. Where there's a will, there's

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<v Speaker 2>a way, I got a ticket, I went walked the Acropolis,

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<v Speaker 2>did the whole thing. Anyway, we have so much more

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<v Speaker 2>to tell, but right now we got to get into

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<v Speaker 2>our question of the day. We do Are you ready?

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<v Speaker 2>Here we go? I still I want to talk more

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<v Speaker 2>about the trip, but we'll do it. We'll do it

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<v Speaker 2>another time. You are fans. You wait, we have so

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<v Speaker 2>many stories for you. Okay, here's the question of the day. Susan.

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<v Speaker 2>When was the time you realized you were wrong in

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<v Speaker 2>an argument with your significant other? And how did you

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<v Speaker 2>handle it?

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<v Speaker 3>I hate it when i'm wrong. First of all, are

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<v Speaker 3>you ever wrong?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>I am? You know what, Kathy, I know? Like boom,

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<v Speaker 3>I go, oh my god, I'm so sorry, Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so sorry. I had no I'm wrong, I'm wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Forgive me, like I immediately apologize, not to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Hide, Oh it's significant other, not me, not me, She says,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm never wrong with you know what? I got to

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<v Speaker 2>be honest here. I think when my husband was alive,

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<v Speaker 2>what is it I'd rather be right than happy or something?

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<v Speaker 2>There's expressions, Yeah, there's an expression. Do you want to

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<v Speaker 2>be right or happy? I think I focused a lot

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<v Speaker 2>on wanting to be right. And but now I've learned

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<v Speaker 2>that when I'm wrong, I am so quick to say

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<v Speaker 2>I am so sorry. I can't you know, I apologize.

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<v Speaker 1>When you were happily married, way back, when you were wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't admit it.

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<v Speaker 3>You just I was.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm telling you I was rarely wrong in my brain.

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<v Speaker 3>You heard it from her mouth herself.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I'm saying, that's what I'm telling you. In my brain,

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted I was right, and so now I would

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<v Speaker 2>rather be happy than right. And so you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you're wearing a beautiful pink shirt today. If

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<v Speaker 2>I say it's a blue shirt, you say it's an

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<v Speaker 2>orange shirt. Whatever color you want makes me happy. I

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<v Speaker 2>just don't care.

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<v Speaker 3>One thing that comes to mind.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember griping to my my ex husband, Dicky, like

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<v Speaker 1>when they play golf, what takes you so long? If

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<v Speaker 1>you were done until I started playing, when I started

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<v Speaker 1>playing the game, I'll never forget calling him up and said, Dicky,

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<v Speaker 1>I owe you an apology.

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<v Speaker 3>He said for what I said. I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's you're done the eighteenth cold. It's long before you

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<v Speaker 1>get home. And I understood why, And I apologize for

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<v Speaker 1>all those times. Oh I wish I want him with

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<v Speaker 1>three kids while he's had a day off.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm just saying I wish I had only

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<v Speaker 2>been wrong about golf games. I just think that, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I think little things. It's easy sometimes to say I'm wrong, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>my bad, But I think some of those bigger things,

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<v Speaker 2>I just indignant. You know. It was like I wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to be right. I think again, Susan, how often do

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<v Speaker 2>you and I talk about you have to get to

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<v Speaker 2>a certain age where you know what it's okay in

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<v Speaker 2>your head, be right in your heads, and just give

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<v Speaker 2>the apology and move on with life, as.

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<v Speaker 1>Well as sometimes when you're accused of something that you

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<v Speaker 1>did not do or did not say, or yeah, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>the case may be. And I am a stickler like

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<v Speaker 1>I will fight to the end when I know I

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<v Speaker 1>am correct.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't anymore. I used to.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well now it's not worth it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying now at my age there, I'd

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<v Speaker 2>rather be happy than right, And so sometimes I know

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<v Speaker 2>I'm right and I let it go. Sometimes you know

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<v Speaker 2>I'm wrong, and when i'm wrong now I'm jumped to

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<v Speaker 2>say I'm sorry. So I think again, It's one of

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<v Speaker 2>these things. With age comes maturity, It comes discerning whether

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<v Speaker 2>something is worth going to the mat and fighting about.

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<v Speaker 1>How about you guys out there, anybody else still feel

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<v Speaker 1>like we do at this point, like it's okay to

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<v Speaker 1>be wrong and you just accept it and apologize whatever

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<v Speaker 1>the case may be.

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<v Speaker 3>Or do you guys still yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Do your kids? Do your kids admit when they're wrong?

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<v Speaker 3>No, definitely not. They're not there yet.

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<v Speaker 2>I figured you and I are going to be six

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<v Speaker 2>feet under the ground, you know, be manure for somebody's

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<v Speaker 2>plants by the time kids are ready to admit they're wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh god, whatever, all right, we're going to start our

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<v Speaker 1>fan questions. My favorite part, Okay, I'll start.

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<v Speaker 2>Excuse me. I thought your favorite part was playing games.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh geez. She loves that as long as it's not

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<v Speaker 1>the one game. Although the last few episodes we did

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<v Speaker 1>play some cool game.

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<v Speaker 2>Moral quandary. I'm kind we're bringing out accidents.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, no, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>This is from Laura, Hi, Kathy, and Susan. My husband

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<v Speaker 1>is very nonchalant and doesn't have many opinions about things.

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<v Speaker 2>Was he when I was looking?

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<v Speaker 1>I think in general that's probably good, but it's hard

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<v Speaker 1>for me when we are discussing future plans and goals.

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<v Speaker 1>He says he just wants to do whatever makes me

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<v Speaker 1>happy and that he'll be happy with that, and she's wondering, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Am I just lucky in that way? Because sometimes I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like with important decisions like where we live, or

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<v Speaker 1>what jobs we have, or whether we have kids, et cetera,

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<v Speaker 1>are things that are someone should be opinionated about. So

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<v Speaker 1>it makes it hard for me because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I have to be the end all decision maker in

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship, which causes me a lot of stress.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh God, I say, where do I sign up?

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<v Speaker 1>I was wondering what your thoughts are. Am I just

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<v Speaker 1>lucky and should just take it on the chin? Or

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<v Speaker 1>do you think it's something I should be concerned about?

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for your help. Well, first and foremost, I do

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<v Speaker 1>think I would need an opinion about having children. You

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<v Speaker 1>want to know if the man is interested in having

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<v Speaker 1>a family owned don't care.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's a good point. You know, It's funny.

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<v Speaker 2>In my marriage, we Daryl and I used to joke

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<v Speaker 2>that I made the big decisions in life, like what

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<v Speaker 2>we're going to have for dinners? Yeah, I made the big,

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<v Speaker 2>those big decisions. He made the little decisions like where

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<v Speaker 2>we were going to live, what city, what jobs, where

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<v Speaker 2>we were going to invest our money? Like you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I think you have. In some ways people have evolved.

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<v Speaker 2>There used to be a division of labor where women

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<v Speaker 2>did the housework and the kids and the husband. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's a time gone by. I think you

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<v Speaker 2>don't think it's time going on.

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<v Speaker 3>I think women have jobs as well, and they.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh people I know who are young, they really divided equally.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, a lot of them do now.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm with you, Susan, I would be concerned. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>on the one hand, jeez, you know, a guy just

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<v Speaker 2>wants to make me happy. Where let me sign up?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I have an older brother of father.

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<v Speaker 1>His name, He just wants to make me happy. Whatever

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<v Speaker 1>makes me happy. You're looking at a gift towards there.

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<v Speaker 3>Shut your mouth, but think about it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I mean, on the one hand, yes, it seems

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<v Speaker 2>that way, but let's look at it in another way.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe she thinks he doesn't really care, you know that

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<v Speaker 3>kind of.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, maybe you know, whether they're in bed whenever

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<v Speaker 2>you want, Where do you want to live? Where do

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<v Speaker 2>you want to go to dinner. I don't care what

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<v Speaker 2>you wear. I don't care what do you want to

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<v Speaker 2>name the kids? I don't care. If the first thing

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<v Speaker 2>out of his mouth is I don't care, that doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>bode well. I don't think for an integrated marriage where

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<v Speaker 2>we have equal parts. But damn, I'd like to try

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<v Speaker 2>it for a year or two.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, But look again, Laura, and think about it. Yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 1>he just wants to make you happy. And if you're

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<v Speaker 1>maybe she's not a type A, Kathy. Maybe she's not

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<v Speaker 1>like us because we can control the world, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we go and loves in.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait a minute, she has to be a type A.

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<v Speaker 2>He's the one that's not the type A. If she's

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<v Speaker 2>making all the decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's saying I feel like it's end all decision

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<v Speaker 1>maker in the relationship, which causes her stress.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, Laura, I've got the answer for you. Call Susan

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<v Speaker 2>and me. List your questions, list your concerns, find you know.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll tell you. Susan will tay how to decorate your house,

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<v Speaker 2>what to buy, I'll tell you you know where to travel. Yeah, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I will not tell her what to cook. I'll tell

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<v Speaker 2>you where to make a reservation.

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<v Speaker 3>I really don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I can see it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think you should just chill and let him be.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're not concerned that he cares, you know, he's

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<v Speaker 1>really doing it because he loves you and he wants

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<v Speaker 1>you happy, then then roll with it.

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<v Speaker 2>However, I think she definitely should talk about the kids. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>force that one, Laura. You don't want to end up

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<v Speaker 2>with three kids. And he wakes up one day and says,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, Laura, I never wanted any kids. You

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<v Speaker 2>wanted them, so you know, have that conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Usually you already have jobs. You don't say what kind

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<v Speaker 1>of job we're going to have.

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<v Speaker 3>And where we're going to live. You're going to live

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<v Speaker 3>where you were?

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<v Speaker 2>No, But like with my husband's case, you know, he

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<v Speaker 2>had he was an investment banker, and so he had

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<v Speaker 2>opportunities to move to other cities and work in other places.

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<v Speaker 2>And I never you know, I figured he was one

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<v Speaker 2>in that career, so I didn't really you know, you'd.

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<v Speaker 1>Be okay if he came to you and just said, Kathy,

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<v Speaker 1>where I'm going to take this job here and we're moving.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you susan funny you ask. My husband

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<v Speaker 2>was old enough that he was at the tail end

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<v Speaker 2>of the Vietnam War, so he was an officer in

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<v Speaker 2>the Navy, United States Navy. I loved it. I wanted

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<v Speaker 2>him to stay in the Navy. I loved meeting people.

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<v Speaker 2>I loved moving all the time. I loved traveling. That's

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<v Speaker 2>where I got the travel bug. So yeah, I would

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<v Speaker 2>have been every time he said we were going to move.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember when we when he finish graduate school and

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<v Speaker 2>we moved to Houston for his first job out of

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<v Speaker 2>business school. We were going to stay there five years.

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<v Speaker 2>Twenty two years later, I was like, when are we leaving?

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<v Speaker 2>When are we leaving? And then we moved to Austin

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<v Speaker 2>and I've been here, what twenty three years? I'm so

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<v Speaker 2>ready to go live. You know where I'm going. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to live with the Holland husbands in Holland.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you the nice life, all right, well that

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<v Speaker 1>we had, Oh my god, were the best.

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<v Speaker 2>They are the best? All right? Okay, okay, The next

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<v Speaker 2>one is from anonymous. Okay, here we go. I watched

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<v Speaker 2>my daughter's two little ones four days a week, full

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<v Speaker 2>time at my daughter's house. I arrived in the morning

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<v Speaker 2>very early, and immediately I get angry. The house is

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<v Speaker 2>a disaster. There are dishes in the sink, clothes all over,

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<v Speaker 2>overflowing garbage, cans, et cetera. I can't stand it. Excuse

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<v Speaker 2>I wish I could see Susan's face. Your eyes are

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<v Speaker 2>bugging out of her for you, because Susan lives like

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<v Speaker 2>a meat nick Anonymous, you do not want to be

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<v Speaker 2>anywhere near Susan. Okay, so everything's overflowing garbage. I can't

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<v Speaker 2>stand it, says Anonymous. I start cleaning up right away,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm resentful that I have to stay in that

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<v Speaker 2>environment all day. It would be hard to take them

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<v Speaker 2>to my house, as my one grandchild has to go

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<v Speaker 2>to school nearby and be picked up. Plus all their

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<v Speaker 2>inside and outside toys are there. My daughter and I

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<v Speaker 2>end up fighting every time. She has a very busy life,

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<v Speaker 2>as does her husband. They both work long hours, and

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<v Speaker 2>I get there is limited time to clean, but when

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<v Speaker 2>the weekends come, they go out all weekend and do

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<v Speaker 2>nothing do I just stay quiet and suck it up.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the only thing we fight about, Susan. I got

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<v Speaker 2>to jump in here. This is the easiest, easiest thing

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<v Speaker 2>to answer, Anonymous. You have two choices. One is keep

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<v Speaker 2>doing what you've been doing. You're going to keep getting

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<v Speaker 2>what you've been getting. The other option is to say,

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<v Speaker 2>lovely daughter, who I adore. I can't do this. It

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<v Speaker 2>causes me stress. I love my grandchildren, but you either

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<v Speaker 2>have to hire a housekeeper or something, because I can't

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<v Speaker 2>come here anymore. So I'm giving you a month's notice

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<v Speaker 2>that you either have to find other childcare or get

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<v Speaker 2>somebody here to clean this house. Because while you're working

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<v Speaker 2>all day in a sterile, clean environment, I'm here trying

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<v Speaker 2>to clean up the mess that is your house. And

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't think I would say it, Susan, you

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<v Speaker 2>know I would.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I know you would. I don't tell it for

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<v Speaker 1>a second. And I am a little bit feeling the

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<v Speaker 1>same way. I would definitely hire somebody. When I read

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<v Speaker 1>that she watches them four days a week, it occurs

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<v Speaker 1>to me that maybe because of finances they can't hire

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<v Speaker 1>a professional.

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<v Speaker 3>They want mom to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>And if that's the case, I can really because the weekends,

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<v Speaker 1>come there out all weekend.

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<v Speaker 3>And spend time with their family, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe that's why I get what she trust me, you

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<v Speaker 1>know me, Kathy, I was having issues from the first sentence,

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<v Speaker 1>I really get it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry. If they're out partying all weekend, stay home

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<v Speaker 2>one night and hire a housekeeper.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, but we can't tell them what to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Then, if that's what I just said, she has two choices.

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<v Speaker 2>One you give them a month to get their act together,

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<v Speaker 2>get the house clean and say it's got to be

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<v Speaker 2>kept clean. Or you tell them to hire someone. What

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<v Speaker 2>you The third choice is not a choice. You you

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<v Speaker 2>keep living in that mess. I wouldn't do it. You

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't either for me.

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<v Speaker 1>She says, all their toys inside and out are there,

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<v Speaker 1>and the child goes to school. When the child's at school,

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<v Speaker 1>that's when you're cleaning up.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's part of it. I would do the.

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<v Speaker 1>Same exact thing, or get some toys for your home,

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<v Speaker 1>inside and out. How far does she live from them

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<v Speaker 1>to go pick them up, or have your children, your

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<v Speaker 1>daughter drop her kids off to you in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, and that could be the reason when she explains,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't live like that. I can't stay in your house.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a total disaster. I'm not telling you how to live,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't approve, and it makes me crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I agree with all that, but when here, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. Maybe I had too much vacation in Greece,

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<v Speaker 2>but I feel like this is not your daughter's problem.

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<v Speaker 2>This is your problem, Anonymous. Don't make her problems your problems.

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<v Speaker 3>If the house, she says, they fight. Every time, you're

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<v Speaker 3>fighting over the same thing. It's not going to change.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I said. If you keep doing what you've

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<v Speaker 2>been doing, you keep getting what you've been getting.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's a toleration of insanity. They say, if you

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<v Speaker 1>keep doing the same thing over and over, you expect

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<v Speaker 1>a different result.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So I know, Anonymous, when you hear this, you're

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<v Speaker 2>going to say. Easy for you guys to say, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I can assure you both Susan and I have said

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<v Speaker 2>no to our children on babysitting, and I got to

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<v Speaker 2>be honest with you. I love my grandchildren, Anonymous, I

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't do it four days a week now. That tells

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<v Speaker 2>me you need to get yourself a life. And I

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<v Speaker 2>realized that's maybe unfair. But you know, you can't complain

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<v Speaker 2>about something you're doing. You're choosing to do. You can't

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<v Speaker 2>be resentful if you're choosing. Is that right? Do you agree? Yes?

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<v Speaker 2>If you're choosing to do it, you can't be resentful.

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<v Speaker 2>Make a different choice, Anonymous, and have.

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<v Speaker 3>A sit down with your daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't fight with her every week because it'll strain the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>But when you say have a sit down, what's the

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<v Speaker 2>sit down?

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<v Speaker 3>Say, honey, I can't live like this. I can't come

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<v Speaker 3>here and clean your house. I bet you. The daughter

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<v Speaker 3>turns and says, I'm not expecting you to clean it.

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<v Speaker 2>Your point, she's not comfortable being in it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, it's it's her compared to that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why it's anonymous problem. Anonymous. You need to say

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<v Speaker 2>I love you, but I can't do this anymore. I'll

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<v Speaker 2>have the kids one day at my house, or you

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<v Speaker 2>need to hire a housekeeper. Something has to change, Anonymous.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess as Susan's in my point here, would you agree? Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>Good luck though it's a tough one.

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<v Speaker 2>And if nothing else works, I'll give you Susan's phone numbers.

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<v Speaker 2>She cleans like no other. That place will be spanning about. Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>give her two hours. Did not eat off the floors

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<v Speaker 2>the story.

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<v Speaker 1>I went over to my son's house and his wife

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<v Speaker 1>and the baby, and I thought i'd be helpful. The

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<v Speaker 1>piles of laundry up in the room. It was like

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<v Speaker 1>I started at seven thirty in the morning. I must

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<v Speaker 1>have did nine loads of laundry, folded ready to be

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<v Speaker 1>put away.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait where were way back up? Where was the laundry

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<v Speaker 2>dirty or clean?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it looked like piles of dirty laundry in their bedroom.

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<v Speaker 1>And Stella and I were upstairs and we got her

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<v Speaker 1>mommy's blow dryer when I.

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<v Speaker 3>Gave her a bath. Blah blah blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyhow, I go, let me help them, because they both

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<v Speaker 1>work full time. It's long hours, right, I do all

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<v Speaker 1>this laundry. They come home and she was like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, I can't believe you did all that for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I really And the baby was young.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the first time, Mommy, you know, I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>And Christopher says, mom, those three piles right there, they're clean.

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<v Speaker 2>I Susan, I knew where you were going to win. Kyle,

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<v Speaker 2>who's if you all forgot? Susan officiated his wedding a

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<v Speaker 2>year and a half ago, so Susan knows Kyle. Kyle

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<v Speaker 2>went before he was married, he lived in an apartment

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<v Speaker 2>and he was moving and my sister from Canada. Susan,

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<v Speaker 2>my sister is also Susan. Susan came to visit and

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<v Speaker 2>we went over to Kyle's apartment to drop off some

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<v Speaker 2>boxes because he was moving. And we walked in. I

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<v Speaker 2>swear to God, I said, was there a robber in here?

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<v Speaker 2>Like everything closed on the kitchen table, under the kitchen table.

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<v Speaker 2>My sister was like, Holy God, does he live here?

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<v Speaker 2>I said, I'm not sure. He may have been robbed.

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<v Speaker 2>So I call him up and sure enough, that's how

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<v Speaker 2>we lived. And I said, Kyle, there are clothes in

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<v Speaker 2>the laundry basket on the table under the tablecos Mom,

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<v Speaker 2>it's easy, I said, what's easy? He goes the clothes,

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<v Speaker 2>You're gonna die. You should give Kyle hard time about this.

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<v Speaker 2>The clothes on the kitchen table, you understandile you couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>see the table are all clean. The ones under the

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<v Speaker 2>table are dirty. So when I wear them, I just

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<v Speaker 2>throw them under the table. I swear to God. Now

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<v Speaker 2>he is married. Now his house it looks like yours.

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<v Speaker 2>His wife has got his act together? Is that hysterical?

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<v Speaker 1>I could never Oh, and my boys when they were

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<v Speaker 1>growing up, I would teach my children. I'd do the

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<v Speaker 1>laundry for them, of course, And I'd say, all you

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<v Speaker 1>have to do is put it away, and they did.

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<v Speaker 3>It's so easy. I could just grab it out of

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<v Speaker 3>the basket. No, that's a thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you know there are people that don't mind doing

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<v Speaker 2>laundry and folding, but they don't want to put it away.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, that's the easiest part. It's it's the sorting

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<v Speaker 2>the laundry, putting in the bleach, putting.

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<v Speaker 1>You ask me for something, I could tell you exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>Go to the third drawer on the right. I can

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<v Speaker 1>test you this.

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<v Speaker 2>I literally will say this Susan when I met our house, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>can I borrow a pair of running shorts to go

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<v Speaker 2>out and walk? Yes? In the guest room. Go into

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<v Speaker 2>the third drawer on the right. Behind the black box

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<v Speaker 2>are three pairs. I swear to god, she's not lying.

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<v Speaker 1>It's same with the eyeliner. Somebody needs top drawer centered,

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<v Speaker 1>not on the other side.

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<v Speaker 2>Third row back the third because the first two rows

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<v Speaker 2>are black and then brown the third six.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, all right, anyhow, Oh my god, that was Those.

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<v Speaker 2>Are good good Hey Anonymous, good luck with your daughter.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you gotta be real.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's really stressful. Then some people can turn the

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<v Speaker 1>other cheek. I admire people like this, Kathy. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>can roll and not let it bother. It's not their problem.

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<v Speaker 3>They just do what they do. I can't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't built that way.

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<v Speaker 2>I have one more quick straight before we move on

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<v Speaker 2>to our our last Golden Spotlight segment. When we were

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<v Speaker 2>on the cruise, I swear to God, people, I'm not joking.

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<v Speaker 2>You walked into Susan's room. I was like, is anyone

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<v Speaker 2>say every day?

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<v Speaker 3>She said?

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<v Speaker 2>Every day you'd walk into a room. There was nothing

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<v Speaker 2>in sight. It was like, Susan, are you sleeping here?

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<v Speaker 3>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>Everything is packed in neat, tidy bags, in drawers, in

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<v Speaker 2>put away. Ever put it away. That's Susan's You know,

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<v Speaker 2>what are your tombstone? Sus And I'm going to tell

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<v Speaker 2>your children Susan knowles.

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<v Speaker 3>She always put it away, always put it away. Everything

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<v Speaker 3>has a home.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that's right, everything has a home. All right, let's

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<v Speaker 2>move on there.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Now we're going to be doing a Golden Spotlight

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<v Speaker 3>where we discuss something that is impacting the Golden community.

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<v Speaker 3>Today's Golden Spotlight is all about life in an empty nest.

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<v Speaker 3>What is the transition like going from having kids in

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<v Speaker 3>the house and being a full time parent to when

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<v Speaker 3>your children have their own lives and families. What are

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<v Speaker 3>the pros and cons and how did you get through

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<v Speaker 3>that tree? Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>Most people have tears and it's really hard. I did

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<v Speaker 1>cry when the first day, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was like, yes, everything's going to be neat

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<v Speaker 1>like I leave it. When I come home, it's exactly

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<v Speaker 1>like I left it. You do miss them, but when

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<v Speaker 1>they come back and stay for a couple of days,

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<v Speaker 1>I go insane because as much as I spend time

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<v Speaker 1>with them, stuff all over the place. So some people

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<v Speaker 1>really really have a hard time. And I personally think

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<v Speaker 1>that they devoted their lives totally one hundred percent, as

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<v Speaker 1>we all do to our children. But I kept my

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<v Speaker 1>own life. Yes, I kept things for me as well,

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<v Speaker 1>and they didn't. They lost friends or hobbies or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything was about their children.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm in the middle there. I had hobbies and friends,

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<v Speaker 2>but I and I worked on and off, but I

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<v Speaker 2>raised my kids. And this is a very true story.

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<v Speaker 2>We were living in Austin by the time Caitlyn went

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<v Speaker 2>to college, and we had bought a big family house

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<v Speaker 2>and upstairs everyone there were three bedrooms, three bathrooms, and

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<v Speaker 2>a playroom and now our bedroom and the rest of

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<v Speaker 2>the living was downstairs, and we had a pool. And

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<v Speaker 2>I remember when we bought this house, I said to Darryl,

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<v Speaker 2>to my husband, this is going to be our family home.

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<v Speaker 2>This is where everybody's going to come back and bring

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<v Speaker 2>their grandchildren. This is going to be like the family

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<v Speaker 2>gathering place. When Caitlyn went off to college, I remember

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<v Speaker 2>Daryl came home from work every night. I was sitting crying.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, what's wrong. I said, it's so lonely upstairs.

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<v Speaker 2>They're all gone. I mean, I couldn't stand it. I

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<v Speaker 2>would go from room to room crying because they were

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<v Speaker 2>gone and I missed them so much. Can I tell

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<v Speaker 2>you we sold that house? Oh, I don't know. About

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<v Speaker 2>three months later, he goes, I can't take it anymore

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<v Speaker 2>because I I realized they weren't going to come back.

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<v Speaker 2>My oldest son was living in Michigan, and then.

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<v Speaker 3>He went to college. She was coming back, no Caitlyn.

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<v Speaker 2>When Kaitlyn graduated from high school, she went to college

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<v Speaker 2>in California. Then she lived overseas for a while. Then

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<v Speaker 2>she lived in San Francisco, then she lived in New York.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've told you this when she called and then

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<v Speaker 2>she went to grad school in Boston, And when she

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<v Speaker 2>ever called us and said she was moving back to Austin,

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<v Speaker 2>I almost fell over. Kyle came home. He came home

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<v Speaker 2>after college. Douglas has never lived back in Austin. He

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<v Speaker 2>hates the heat, and Caitlyn took her like fifteen years

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<v Speaker 2>to come back. So for me, the transition, I will

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<v Speaker 2>be very honest, was very difficult. I loved I cried

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<v Speaker 2>at the end of the summer when my kids went

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<v Speaker 2>to school. My friends used to call me Captain Kangaroo

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<v Speaker 2>for those of you who are old enough to know

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<v Speaker 2>who Captain Kangaroo is. I loved being with my kids

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<v Speaker 2>and taking him to the park and museums and reading

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<v Speaker 2>to them. I just I loved it. So for me,

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<v Speaker 2>being an empty nester originally was very difficult. Now fast forward,

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<v Speaker 2>because my youngest child is thirty eight, I freaking love it.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 3>When you moved that it got better.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Oh, and in fact, I live in the same

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<v Speaker 2>home now that Daryl and I moved to when we

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<v Speaker 2>sold that big house.

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<v Speaker 3>And I love it and kids never lived there. They

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<v Speaker 3>come and stay, period.

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<v Speaker 2>They come and stay. One of the room's upstairs. I

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<v Speaker 2>used to call it Caitlin's room because she did live

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<v Speaker 2>in it for a while after college, between before she

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<v Speaker 2>moved to Dallas and then back to San Francisco. But yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 2>I just think it's like anything else in life. Transitions

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<v Speaker 2>are just that, their transitions, and it takes time to adapt,

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<v Speaker 2>to create new arteries, if you will, for your life,

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<v Speaker 2>new interests, because now you have the time, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to put yourself first, and that is the biggest pro

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<v Speaker 2>I think.

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<v Speaker 3>And redecorate the room and take over the closet.

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<v Speaker 2>And Susan, yeah, I mean you get to do things

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<v Speaker 2>for you and your spouse or your partner or your

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<v Speaker 2>girlfriend or whoever it is you or yourself. You get

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<v Speaker 2>to do some things you haven't had time to. And

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<v Speaker 2>then when grandchildren come along, you know, that's a whole

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<v Speaker 2>other fabulous sam layer.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't you agree, Kathy.

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<v Speaker 1>One the kids get their place, you're over there a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're helping them decorate, and you're helping them get

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<v Speaker 1>new things for the bathroom and all that stuff. It's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of exciting because it is starting a life.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so funny you said that when I had the

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<v Speaker 2>big house. I love decorating it. I really did buying

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<v Speaker 2>things for it. Now my daughter comes over and says, Mom,

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<v Speaker 2>I really like that mirror. Take it. It's your furnishings

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<v Speaker 2>and things to my kids because they like it. They're

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<v Speaker 2>in a building mode. You and I are in a

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<v Speaker 2>do we really need this anymore? Mode? Right? That's how

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<v Speaker 2>it is, her one way this mode. Yes, yeah, so

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's the pros. You get to do things

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<v Speaker 2>for yourself and your spouse or your partner. You get

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<v Speaker 2>to create new interest, travel, do all the things you

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<v Speaker 2>kind of put off. The cons are. It's a new

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<v Speaker 2>stage of life and you have to say goodbye, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to that stage of raising kids. And for some people

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<v Speaker 2>that's harder than it is for others.

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<v Speaker 3>It is, it is, but it's all part of life.

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<v Speaker 2>It's all part of life. And now you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't want to go back with you.

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<v Speaker 1>No, No, that's why young people have babies.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why we have grandchildren, so we can spoil them

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<v Speaker 2>and send them off.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely. I had a huge party here yesterday. Instell of God.

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<v Speaker 1>The things she says at our mouth she's so funny.

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<v Speaker 2>But they're funny, but you know, might be.

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<v Speaker 1>And she's just having the time of her life. And

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<v Speaker 1>when it was all over, there was a huge mess.

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<v Speaker 1>We cooked on the grill of it.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't care, don't you don't have to help me

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<v Speaker 3>clean up. It's all good.

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<v Speaker 2>And I guarantee you, folks, if students in Philly and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in Austin, but I will bet you you the

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<v Speaker 2>bottom dollar in my bank account, that if I went

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<v Speaker 2>to Susan's house right now, you would never know that

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<v Speaker 2>her family was there yesterday.

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<v Speaker 3>You could have came last night. I don't go to

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<v Speaker 3>bed with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh God, All right, Well, this has been so so

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<v Speaker 2>much fun. We want to thank you all for listening.

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