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Speaker 2: It looks great in here.

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Speaker 1: Thanks man. I've got the new yee Fall Lunch tan hat.

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Speaker 1: This is Ayee Outdoors. I really like this hat. You

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man, We're so pumped for this next phase in

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Speaker 2: YEEZ life with you being off the road where pump

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like back to being a full time employee

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Speaker 1: Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. We'll walk through these

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Speaker 1: first one. This one came today at eight fourteen am.

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Speaker 1: Subject line says, needing motivation on my walk with Christ.

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Speaker 1: Good day, Grangeer, Hope all is well with you and

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Speaker 1: Amber and London and Lincoln and Maverick. I've been inspired

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Speaker 1: And you could be there for each of them. You

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Speaker 1: of gift ideas, like a River would be a great gift.

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Speaker 1: I'm a little bit biased with my book Like a River.

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Speaker 1: I think could be the perfect gift to somebody that

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Speaker 1: is perhaps needing a word of encouragement me up, or

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Speaker 1: someone that's actually going through some kind of grief, suffering, loss,

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Speaker 1: heartache right now. And that person could be yourself as

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Speaker 1: we get closer to the holidays coming up now that

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Speaker 1: it's fall already.

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Speaker 2: Grab a few of them.

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Speaker 1: It really helps me out, It helps the algorithm out.

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Speaker 1: And whenever you get a book from whatever website that is,

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Speaker 1: say it's Amazon, give us a good review. That really

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Speaker 1: helps the book Like a River and its message get

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Speaker 1: to more people. I appreciate you guys for that. Parker's

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Speaker 1: over here. Were actually gonna shoot a EE Apparel Fall

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Speaker 1: launch little promo over here at the house as we

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Speaker 1: record the podcast, and always pumped about that. Parker, what

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Speaker 1: day that's comes out? The fifteenth September fifteenth September fifteenth

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Speaker 1: ten ame dot com. Going back to these questions, if

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Speaker 1: you have one for me, email Granger Smith podcast at

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Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Interesting subject line here says he only

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Speaker 1: likes me when he's drunk. Hey Granger, I'm twenty two

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Speaker 1: years old. I'm a woman. In early twenty twenty two,

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Speaker 1: I was talking to going on dates with a guy

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Speaker 1: for two months. He was really cute, fun, country, sweet

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Speaker 1: and cool. He's a bull rider. Then I found out

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Speaker 1: he had a girlfriend and I told her, but they

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Speaker 1: stayed together for about ten more months. It absolutely devastated me.

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Speaker 1: It may be super insecure, and I still compare myself

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Speaker 1: to this now ex girlfriend that she is. I ran

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Speaker 1: into him in public in January and he apologized to me,

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Speaker 1: of course he did the rest of the night, he

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Speaker 1: was very nice to me, but then ruined it by

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Speaker 1: asking me asking me to go home with him, obviously

462
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Speaker 1: meaning to have sex. I'm waiting for marriage, so I

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Speaker 1: said no. But in June he began reaching out to

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Speaker 1: me again. He unblocked me on everything, and now we

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Speaker 1: snapchat every day. Occasionally he'll call me in the wee

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Speaker 1: hours when he's drunk and he tells me all these

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Speaker 1: things He remembers about me when we talked, and compliments

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Speaker 1: me and hents it wanting to hook up. I feel

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Speaker 1: pathetic because even though I know I shouldn't be talking

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Speaker 1: to him, deep down I still like him. If he

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Speaker 1: asked me on a real date, I know I would

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Speaker 1: say yes. And I don't know why. How could I

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Speaker 1: move past him? I've talked to other guys since him,

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Speaker 1: but for some reason, he's the one I can't get over. Sincerely, Vicky, Oh,

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Speaker 1: those bull Riders. There's this scenario on that TV show

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00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 1: Friday Night Lights that Amber and I used to watch

477
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:48,120
Speaker 1: years and years ago, that had a scenario that played

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Speaker 1: out just like this bull rider that's always got Hey

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Speaker 1: this guy. First of all, before we get into this question,

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Speaker 1: the guy's got multiple girlfriends in multiple towns, no doubt,

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Speaker 1: no doubt, he's texting you in the wee hours of

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Speaker 1: the night. Let me ask Let me ask you a question, Vicky,

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Speaker 1: Do you really think you're the only one he's texting?

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Speaker 1: Do you think you're the only one he's trying to

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Speaker 1: hook up with? No, of course not absolutely not. So Park,

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Speaker 1: what you got? What do you say for Vicky here?

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm thinking of what Vicky would be asking you

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Speaker 2: if she was here, and it would be I mean,

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Speaker 2: she obviously can't. She knows that this is not the

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Speaker 2: guy that she wants to be the father of her children,

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Speaker 2: but she can't stop herself from being attracted to him.

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Speaker 2: And so, yeah, I don't know. I think in today's age,

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Speaker 2: I mean, how many songs are like your Love's a drug.

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Speaker 2: I can't get enough. You always leave me, but I

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Speaker 2: always keep one like wanting to come back from more. So, Vicky,

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Speaker 2: I would just encourage you to just sit back and

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Speaker 2: be like, what is it about me that is so?

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Speaker 2: Why am I I attracted to this type of man?

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Speaker 2: And there's a guy that I like, JP who who

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Speaker 2: says people come up to me and they're like, why

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Speaker 2: am I always attracted to bad boys? Why am I

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Speaker 2: always attracted to these these terrible guys that end up

503
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Speaker 2: just like being a player? Why do I always keep

504
00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 2: wanting to go to them? And he's like, well, what

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Speaker 2: kind of TV shows are you watching? And they're like, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: you're not hearing me, Like I'm having problems with guys.

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00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 2: And he's like, well, what kind of music are you

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Speaker 2: listening to? And they're like like, what are you talking

509
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: about I'm talking about dating advice, and it's just like

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Speaker 2: He's like, man, could you be aware of, like subconsciously,

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Speaker 2: these things that you're consuming, the types of people that

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Speaker 2: you're around, where you're going to look for these guys.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever thought that you're you're training your heart

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Speaker 2: to look for the wrong things based on what you're consuming.

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Speaker 2: That's the first thing that comes to mind.

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Speaker 1: That's so good. So what you said is in the

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Speaker 1: analogy of a song, your love is a drug. Right,

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Speaker 1: So if this guy, this bull Rider guy, what if

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00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 1: the if he was a drug then and you that

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00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 1: you're addicted to it and you're trying to quit it,

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00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 1: what do you do? I mean, you could also rephrase

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Speaker 1: it that same way. And Parker's right, there's a great

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Speaker 1: point to think about. Okay, he's obviously not my future.

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Speaker 1: He's obviously not the father of my children. I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm obviously not walking down the aisle in a white

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Speaker 1: dress with this guy. You're you're saving yourself from marriage, VICKI.

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Speaker 1: This is the not the guy you're gonna you're gonna

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Speaker 1: walk down the aisle with, Right, that's obvious. So he's

529
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Speaker 1: just a drug that you're addicted to. So what do

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Speaker 1: you do? You make a decision when you're sober, not

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Speaker 1: at three am. No I'm not I'm not talking about

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Speaker 1: actually drunk. I'm talking about love drunk. You make a

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Speaker 1: decision when you're sober and not love drunk at midnight

534
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: or lonely. You make a decision, just like you go

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Speaker 1: to the grocery store when you're you're not hungry or

536
00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 1: you're gonna buy more. You go to the grocery store

537
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 1: when you're starving. You're gonna buy more. You're gonna go

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00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:04,640
Speaker 1: down all the aisles and be like, oh, i'm starving,

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00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 1: I'll actually want this and this. So avoid the grocery

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Speaker 1: store when you're starving, and avoid making these kind of

541
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 1: decisions when you're love drunk. So wait till you're sober. Whenever.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you're with your girlfriends. They're giving you confidence, they're

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00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 1: giving your strength, And you do this. You go through

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00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 1: your phone, block his number, You go to snapchat. First

545
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 1: of all, while you on Snapchat, delete it or block him,

546
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 1: block him out of your life. Protect yourself, Guard your

547
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 1: heart like it's valuable, like it actually matters, and because

548
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 1: it does, guard it because it's fragile, and you give

549
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,760
Speaker 1: it away, you lose yourself. You slip up one night,

550
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 1: you will regret it for a long long time. So

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00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:50,840
Speaker 1: you guard your heart. You build a wall, you build

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Speaker 1: a vault around this heart. With this cowboy guy. If

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Speaker 1: this was London, if this was my daughter and she

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00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 1: was dating this roady oh dude, and this is how

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00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 1: he treats women. This is the respect he has for women. No,

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00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 1: this is what we're talking about. Guarding your heart like

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00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: a treasure, like a fine pearl. You're guarding your heart, okay,

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00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 1: And you're going to do this when you're love sober,

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00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 1: and you're gonna block him on everything. Then you're gonna

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00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 1: get an accountability buddy, some girlfriend that you trust, maybe

561
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:30,360
Speaker 1: your parents, sister, brother, whoever it might be. And you say, look,

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00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: I have to admit something. I know. I'm a twenty

563
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:36,480
Speaker 1: one year old woman and I can make my own decisions.

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00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 1: But there's this guy and he's not a good guy,

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00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 1: and I need to make sure that I stay away

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00:32:43,280 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 1: from him because I have a tendency to like him,

567
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 1: and I need your accountability. I need you to say

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00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 1: get away from him, let's go. I need you to

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00:32:52,520 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: help me use this community. Yeah, and then go back

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00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 1: and listen to what Parker said about where you're listening to,

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00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 1: what you're watching, how you're training your heart. Next question,

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00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 1: I'm just literally going down the line here on these emails,

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00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 1: it says podcast question. Hey Granger, now that your music

574
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 1: career is finished, I have a couple questions for you.

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Speaker 1: What is one song that you have recorded in your

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Speaker 1: career that you look forward to not ever singing again?

577
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 1: And what is one song that you have recorded that

578
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 1: you're gonna miss singing? The most comes from Michael Man. Michael,

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Speaker 1: I don't have a song that I'm going to look

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00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 1: forward to not ever singing again. I don't, Honestly, I

581
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,080
Speaker 1: know that's probably a common question. I think I've heard

582
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:50,880
Speaker 1: Jimmy Buffett say that about Margaritaville. Nah. I legitimately, if

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00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 1: we play it consistently, if we used to play it,

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00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 1: if it was a song that was popular, I've legitimately

585
00:33:57,040 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 1: loved it. Not because I particularly love the craft of

586
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 1: that particular song. It's just because it's associated with my

587
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 1: band and and and the crowds, and it was fulfilling

588
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 1: in that way. So I don't have that number one.

589
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 1: I don't have a song like that. Number two, What

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00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 1: song that you have recorded? Are you gonna miss singing

591
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:22,960
Speaker 1: the most? I don't. I don't have that either. Yeah.

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00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: I actually was just singing down there in a Maverick

593
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 1: earlier song called Stutter Yeah, a little microphone. I was like, Hey,

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00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: mav it's Friday night only I'll do this because at

595
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 1: the time we're recording this, it's a Friday night, so

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00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 1: I would be at a concert right now. I don't

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00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 1: have that either. Man, I don't have either one of

598
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 1: those questions, both of it. It's like, yeah, yeah, I'm

599
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:44,280
Speaker 1: good either way.

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Speaker 2: Is there one of your songs if you're gonna play

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Speaker 2: it live.

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00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: That is.

603
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 2: That comes to mind that's more difficult to play or

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00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 2: perform or sing live where you're like, oh, I really

605
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:56,320
Speaker 2: gotta be on it for this song.

606
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's there's songs that are for easy to do.

607
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:03,840
Speaker 2: What's an example of like a really hard one? I

608
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:06,240
Speaker 2: think they might find that interesting.

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00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 1: I can remember never too Old that song Never too old.

610
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 1: We never played it that much because it just it

611
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 1: takes them a little bit of vocal gymnastics to play

612
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 1: that song, even though I loved it, And there's a

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00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 1: lot of songs that I have to like really be

614
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 1: warmed up for. And then there's songs like Maerica that

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00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 1: I literally just can't play on the guitar. It's too complicated.

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00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 1: I could sing it fine, but I have to have

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00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 1: Todd with me. I can't play Do Do Do Do Do,

618
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 1: can't do all that crazy stuff. So and then there's

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00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: songs that are just like peanut Butter and Jelly, like

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00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:47,839
Speaker 1: Silver Oda bench Seat that's just so easy. It's that's

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00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 1: the best sound check song because it's easy to sing,

622
00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 1: the chord structures are super simple. And then there's other

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00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:58,719
Speaker 1: songs that are harder for me to remember all of

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00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 1: the words, songs like four wheel Drive. There's a lot

625
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 1: of like intricate words in four wheel Drive, and it's

626
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: easier for me to fumble up words and mix them up.

627
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, let's go to the next one. Says Hey Granger.

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Speaker 1: I always enjoy listening to your podcast and the wisdom

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Speaker 1: you give. I just finished reading Like a River, and

630
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 1: I cried through every chapter. My question is this, I

631
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 1: was listening to your podcast last week and you were

632
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 1: talking about not over spiritualizing, and I am thirty four

633
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 1: years old, and the way I was raised and always

634
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:36,400
Speaker 1: taught was that in order to get married, you have

635
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 1: to get inspiration from the prophet on who you're supposed

636
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 1: to marry. About a year ago, I left that church

637
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Speaker 1: to follow Christ and study the Bible. Sometimes I feel

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Speaker 1: a law at a loss to know how to pursue

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Speaker 1: finding a partner for marriage because of my past life

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Speaker 1: in that church. Any advice you can give would be

641
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Speaker 1: greatly appreciated.

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Speaker 2: So say I left that church to follow Christ instead.

643
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Speaker 1: Of the Bible and study the Bible.

644
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Speaker 2: Oh, and study the Bible.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, so I could just condense this question down

646
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Speaker 1: to how do you find a partner for marriage? Dude, Parker,

647
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:22,359
Speaker 1: You're great at this. This is like your This is

648
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 1: your peanut, butter and jelly. This is your bread and butter. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: When I first became a Christian in early twenty twenty one,

650
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 2: I had I had dated girls kind of on and

651
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Speaker 2: off throughout my life. I was twenty seven at the time,

652
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 2: and I heard an analogy that that really helped me,

653
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 2: and that was man, when you when you start following

654
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 2: Christ with all your heart, soul, mind and strength, and

655
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Speaker 2: you see that He's all that you really need, then

656
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Speaker 2: you don't idolize marriage like the rest of society does,

657
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 2: like Hollywood does, like music tells you to do. Just

658
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:05,720
Speaker 2: like we were talking about Vicki, the world is telling

659
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Speaker 2: you that you need to find the one or it's

660
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Speaker 2: all for nothing. But when you find Christ and you

661
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 2: find his value and you see how short life is

662
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Speaker 2: and how long eternity is, then you start chasing after

663
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Speaker 2: him with everything that you have. You start loving others,

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Speaker 2: you get involved with your church, you're reading scripture, and

665
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Speaker 2: you are running that race towards Christ with everything that

666
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Speaker 2: you have, completely content. And then while you're running that,

667
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:35,359
Speaker 2: you look to your left and you look to your right,

668
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Speaker 2: and you see someone to your right who's also chasing

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Speaker 2: Christ with everything that they have, and they see that

670
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 2: treasure too, and you turn in them and you say, man,

671
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:46,360
Speaker 2: we're running to the same place. Do you want to

672
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Speaker 2: just run this race with me? And that helped me

673
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Speaker 2: so much and my clarity and knowing for sure that

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Speaker 2: I was gonna marry Amy because we just kept seeing

675
00:38:56,320 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 2: each other at volunteer events and at church, and I

676
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 2: could see, you know, what was coming out of her

677
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 2: mouth also reflected her heart, and so that analogy helped me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's great and thirty four years old. Does that

679
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Speaker 1: change anything.

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Speaker 2: At the end of the day.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, I totally agree.

682
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Speaker 2: The world tells you that you are behind and you

683
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Speaker 2: need to hurry.

684
00:39:24,440 --> 00:39:26,720
Speaker 1: That's good. You better hurry because.

685
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Speaker 2: Because the girls can only have kids for so long

686
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Speaker 2: once you' I mean, I mean, I'm stick. You know

687
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Speaker 2: the clock's ticking. If you're forty Are you seriously not

688
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 2: going to be married when you're forty? Are you seriously

689
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Speaker 2: not going to be married when you're forty five or

690
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Speaker 2: fifty or fifty five? That's what the world's telling you.

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Speaker 2: But man, you just got to you got to block

692
00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 2: out what the world's telling you and think about how

693
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 2: short this life is and how ultimately marriage is not

694
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Speaker 2: going to fill that void for you, not to say

695
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Speaker 2: that you shouldn't desire it and that you shouldn't be looking.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, how freeing is it now that you get to

697
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Speaker 1: do this chase after Christ, fall in love with someone

698
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:10,920
Speaker 1: that is also chasing after Christ and you don't have

699
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Speaker 1: to get inspiration from the prophet to do any of that.

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Speaker 1: How freeing that must be. And I'm very encouraged by

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Speaker 1: you and the strength that it must have taken I

702
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 1: can't can't imagine, and I just, if anything, I just

703
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Speaker 1: want to encourage you in that and say I'm so

704
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Speaker 1: I'm so happy with what's going on and how the

705
00:40:36,520 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 1: Lord is moving in you right now, even so much

706
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Speaker 1: so that you emailed this podcast asking a really good question,

707
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:49,279
Speaker 1: chase after the Lord, plug into your church, serve at

708
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:52,839
Speaker 1: your church, you'll find someone who's running, like Parker said,

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Speaker 1: right alongside you. Next question subjectline yee Ye Hey Grangeer.

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Speaker 1: I'm a fan from North Dakote. Love your music and

711
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 1: I'm proud of you for going after your dream of ministry.

712
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 1: I was just wondering with you leaving country music, are

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Speaker 1: you getting rid of EEE and Ye Nation and the

714
00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:13,359
Speaker 1: Ranch and all that too? Are just the music touring part.

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Speaker 1: It's a good question. I am so excited to lean

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Speaker 1: into EEE Apparel, which Parker is the CEO of and

717
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 1: Tyler and Tyler is there every day, and I have

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Speaker 1: not had the opportunity to go to the ee Farm.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what you're talking about instead of Ranch

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Speaker 1: since COVID. I spent a lot of time there during COVID.

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Speaker 1: That was the only time in my life. In fact,

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Speaker 1: if it wasn't for COVID, I wouldn't even know what

723
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Speaker 1: it's like at all to consistently go to the farm

724
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Speaker 1: and hang out with you guys. And an interesting way,

725
00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:58,880
Speaker 1: COVID that probably a bunch of people could say the

726
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 1: same thing. But COVID talk me so much. And one

727
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Speaker 1: of the things COVID taught me was you don't have

728
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:11,279
Speaker 1: the tour. You're okay, You've got an infrastructure here. God

729
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 1: will provide. I had to learn that through COVID and

730
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Speaker 1: it has given me confidence now that going into this

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Speaker 1: new season. No, to answer your question, Ryan is too

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Speaker 1: emailed from North Dakota. No, Ye, he's not going anywhere. No,

733
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Speaker 1: the farm is not going anywhere. I'm hoping that Ye

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Speaker 1: Nation will still be alive and well, I'll still be

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Speaker 1: traveling occasionally going out, maybe doing a Smith tour, maybe

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Speaker 1: doing a live podcast tour. Comment below if you would

737
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Speaker 1: like to see that with Bernie and Parker and maybe

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Speaker 1: pastor Chad. Maybe Amber can come on that trip. You know,

739
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Speaker 1: Chris Lee will be with us. We'll travel around and

740
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 1: do that. We have so many ideas and so many

741
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:52,279
Speaker 1: things that we're going to be able to do with

742
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 1: Ye Nation. And as we go into the holiday season

743
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Speaker 1: coming up, doing a lot with ee as far as

744
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 1: pop up shop, maybe having a brick and mortar storefront

745
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 1: coming up. We're working through all of these different kind

746
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 1: of dreams and ideas and very very excited about the

747
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 1: future of EEE.

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Speaker 2: Would you say the same, Yeah, we're really excited. We've

749
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 2: always wanted ee to be something that could live past

750
00:43:18,800 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 2: your music career and was just talking to Tyler this

751
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 2: week and we're like, this is one of the most

752
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 2: important weeks of our professional careers because this is officially

753
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 2: like a little turtle that just hatched, that's on the

754
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 2: beach with all these predators and it's like, all right,

755
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 2: that is done with music. Now let's get to the water.

756
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:40,960
Speaker 2: And ye he's always been I think able to live

757
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 2: on its own. So really excited for this next chapter

758
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 2: and for you to be more involved. And we're looking

759
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 2: to get into stores too, in late this year and

760
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:54,440
Speaker 2: twenty twenty four. So if you want your local if

761
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 2: you know of a local store that could carry EEE,

762
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 2: go tell them, tell them to shoot us an email.

763
00:43:59,160 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 2: We'd love to do it.

764
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 1: We have a lot of plans for EEE. A lot

765
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,360
Speaker 1: of things we talk about behind closed doors, Tyler and

766
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:09,800
Speaker 1: Parker and I the three brothers talking about the future

767
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: of VEE, what we want from it. But we desire

768
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:15,439
Speaker 1: for it to continue and to be just a great

769
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 1: company that's essentially our tent making company that allows us

770
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: to do all kinds of things all over the world,

771
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:26,799
Speaker 1: and we're very blessed to have EEE. I'm by no

772
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,480
Speaker 1: means shutting it down, and really, I mean, let's be

773
00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 1: honest here, I'm not shutting down music either. That would

774
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:38,960
Speaker 1: really technically be impossible. Music is not something I could

775
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 1: stop doing. I guarantee there's going to be some kind

776
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 1: of inspiration I'll have at some point, or I've been

777
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:49,400
Speaker 1: thinking about doing a hymn record. I would love to do,

778
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: like a traditional hymns record. There's gonna be a lot

779
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:56,360
Speaker 1: of things like that that I'll be exploring. It's the

780
00:44:56,520 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 1: touring that's shutting down, because a traditional tour where we

781
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 1: have buses and a truck and twelve people on salary

782
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: and we're heading out on a Wednesday and we're coming

783
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 1: back on a Sunday afternoon, and we're playing these contracted

784
00:45:11,600 --> 00:45:14,320
Speaker 1: dates that we've had on the books for six months,

785
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:19,520
Speaker 1: and the structure of that is too much. It's getting

786
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 1: in the way of everything else that I need to

787
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:25,240
Speaker 1: be doing that I feel like I have to be doing,

788
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 1: so a traditional structured tour is in the way of that.

789
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that you're not going to hear one

790
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 1: day me come out with a hymns record or write

791
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:38,760
Speaker 1: a new song. I think that those are all totally

792
00:45:38,800 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: within bounds of what you could expect from me and

793
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: Yee in the future. Also comment below if you think

794
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: Parker could come back on the podcast. It's been a

795
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,879
Speaker 1: little bit since he's been a guest on here. And

796
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: we are also, hopefully Lord Willing going to get more

797
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:02,080
Speaker 1: consistent with the EEE podcast, which is completely different subject

798
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 1: matter than we have on this one, but that's completely

799
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 1: open too. There's a lot of things I can go

800
00:46:07,960 --> 00:46:10,879
Speaker 1: down a list this long of things that we want

801
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:13,800
Speaker 1: to do in the future with all of the platform

802
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:17,240
Speaker 1: that we have. It's not going away just music touring.

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Speaker 1: I love you guys, See you next Monday. Thanks for

804
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:25,680
Speaker 1: joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all

805
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:27,840
Speaker 1: of you guys. You could help me out by rating

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Speaker 1: like me to answer, email Graingersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: Yi