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Speaker 1: Spreading In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio, and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast

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Speaker 1: Your book He Love Everybody. I haven't seen you in

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Speaker 1: a whole week. Sometimes a week feels like seven days,

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Speaker 1: and sometimes a week feels like seven minutes, and sometimes

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Speaker 1: a week feels like seventeen years. Oh wow, those were

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Speaker 1: a lot of extremes. One would say, those are the

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Speaker 1: extremes I feel during quarantine, highs and lows, ebbs and flows.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think we I think we've all experienced

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Speaker 1: those moments. Although it's so strange because this lately I've

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Speaker 1: been going out to dinner more so I'm I feel

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Speaker 1: a little bit more normal like, and I kind of

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Speaker 1: love the outdoor seating, so I too. You know, I'm

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Speaker 1: just trying. I think mentally, the only way to like

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Speaker 1: maintain normal C is to pretend that it's normal and just,

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Speaker 1: you know, go do things that I normally would do. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I went to the nail salon the other day. So

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Speaker 1: I've gone twice now to the nail salon. And the

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Speaker 1: first time I went, it was like during the heat wave,

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Speaker 1: so it was like a hundred something outside and they're outside,

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Speaker 1: so you're outside and they have like a little canopy

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Speaker 1: out there and they put like, um, you know, like

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Speaker 1: you know the doctor's office, and they have that like

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Speaker 1: paper that they put on your bed or whatever. They

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Speaker 1: have those on all the chairs. And mind you, it's

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Speaker 1: like a hundred and whatever degrees, so I'm like sticking

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Speaker 1: to it. It's like flapping on like my sweat and

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Speaker 1: like sticking everywhere. It was not a pleasant experience. But

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Speaker 1: I just went back again and it was like eighty degrees,

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Speaker 1: so it's actually quite nice out there. And the there

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Speaker 1: was a was a woman to the right of me

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Speaker 1: getting her eyebrows wax outside and I was just like,

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Speaker 1: this is so like the fact that we're all watching

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Speaker 1: her get her eyebrows wax. Like I was like, what's next,

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Speaker 1: every We're gonna get a bikini? Don't know you're speaking of.

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Speaker 1: I had my second laser hair removing appointment. Um, and

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Speaker 1: so the first time I went, it was painless, Like

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Speaker 1: I felt nothing. I was like, this is basically like

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Speaker 1: a massage where I'm getting like that's intense. Um. It

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Speaker 1: wasn't a massage, but it had no pain. I go

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Speaker 1: back and it was a different girl and I don't

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Speaker 1: know if she didn't put enough, like so you put

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Speaker 1: like um ultrasound gel. That's where it's It's horribly uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: I hate it. It's like, well, the whole point of

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Speaker 1: the laser hair wibbles each time. It gets paint more

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Speaker 1: painful as you go. So like the first few times

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Speaker 1: its not was hurt at all, and then like once

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Speaker 1: you get to seven and eight, it's like fire on

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Speaker 1: your crotch. Okay, well I'm it. I was at a

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Speaker 1: thirteen and so the girl started. That was the highest

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Speaker 1: I did on my first one, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: I didn't feel any pain. So she started on the thirteen.

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Speaker 1: I don't think she put enough gel or something, because

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Speaker 1: I was like getting zapped on my you. I was like, this,

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Speaker 1: ain't it? Like yeah, I would have to like jerk away.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't I don't totally sympathize because

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Speaker 1: I feel like you can't even get a Brazilian wax.

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Speaker 1: Those are like a walk in the park. Okay, hey,

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Speaker 1: y'all will have to go about this on the Facebook page,

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Speaker 1: because there's no way everyone thinks it was a walk

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Speaker 1: in the park. Getting a Brazilian wax is like is

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Speaker 1: like get giving blood at your doctor. Okay, well, first,

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Speaker 1: it's just like it is what it is like, it's

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Speaker 1: not it's not enjoyable, like it's not like I'm eating

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Speaker 1: a Starburst, but it's not dreadful like I'm going to

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Speaker 1: the dentist. Oh I hate pidentists too. Okay, Yeah, the

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Speaker 1: bikini lacs and the dentist are the same level. For

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Speaker 1: the bikini wax is like going to the grocery store,

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Speaker 1: like you just gotta get it done. Basically, Tany is

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Speaker 1: just admitting to you all that she's numb below her waist.

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Speaker 1: She has no feeling. Let me tell you she's got

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Speaker 1: feeling down there. Yeah, well we know that because of

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Speaker 1: your pelvic floor exercises. That's right. Um. So last week

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Speaker 1: we talked about we answered some questions or our significant others.

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Speaker 1: Red Star answered questions that y'all had for them, Um,

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Speaker 1: kind of just getting to know them a little bit more,

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Speaker 1: and we answered a few and then we're going to

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Speaker 1: answer some more today. Do you feel like you know

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Speaker 1: them better? What do you mean? Not you? I know,

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Speaker 1: you know like Mark Easton? Do you feel like you

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Speaker 1: know them better? Yeah? I think this has actually been

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Speaker 1: pretty darn insightful. I think this is great. I think

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Speaker 1: we're also getting a feel a little bit for the personalities. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean I haven't. I don't think I was shocked

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Speaker 1: by anything last week. Were you the winky face through me? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I do. I do think it's funny though. That answers

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Speaker 1: a lot with ha Hawes. I'm not getting many hot

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Speaker 1: haws from Yeah, they do different ways? Does and then

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Speaker 1: red stores in L O L person I actually use

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Speaker 1: both when I texted what. I also think Red Star

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Speaker 1: is a politician in the sense that he knows that

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Speaker 1: it's important to win over the scrubbing constituency, Yes, to

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Speaker 1: make sure they like him. You think playing it safe?

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Speaker 1: I think I don't think he's being brutally honest, and

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Speaker 1: I'll tell that to his face. I'm being really honest here.

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Speaker 1: Well let's be again, Becca, you're off tiny went left?

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, wow wow. Okay. Well, first up, we have

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Speaker 1: Julia Rose O'Hara, and this is funny. What's the stupidest

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Speaker 1: fight the two of you have had? Why? Why don't

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Speaker 1: you answer that first and see if there's a match.

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Speaker 1: We have so many stupid fights that I don't even

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Speaker 1: know where to begin, I would say, like, in my

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Speaker 1: opinion of our fights are stupid. So I'm always like,

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Speaker 1: why are we fighting about this? This is so dumb

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Speaker 1: because you know, when it's my personality, if it's not

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Speaker 1: a big deal to me, then it's not a big deal,

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Speaker 1: which is not correct because there's two people in relationships,

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Speaker 1: so if it's a big, big deal to the other person,

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Speaker 1: you have to respect that. But in my head, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: this is so dumb. Like every time we're arguing, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: this is so dumb. Pick one because I think you

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Speaker 1: may match if you pick it. I know which one,

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Speaker 1: which one was chosen, and it has to be the biggest.

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Speaker 1: The dumbest, biggest fight we've gotten in two is ever

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Speaker 1: Mario kar Because I did not say congratulate stions one

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Speaker 1: because I always win and I never get congratulated, so

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Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I'm too competitive to congratulate my enemies,

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Speaker 1: my competitors. Now I'm interested to here here's the response.

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Speaker 1: What is the stupidest fight the two of you had

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Speaker 1: too many? Probably the time we played Mario Kart. As

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Speaker 1: you know, Becca is beyond competitive, so if you win,

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Speaker 1: she will congratulate you at all. So she always beats

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Speaker 1: me and absolutely everything, and I finally beat her and

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Speaker 1: Mario and she refused to congratulate me. Refused it was

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Speaker 1: a monumental moment for me. So I got picked and

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Speaker 1: she couldn't be happy for me. Ha ha ha. So

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Speaker 1: Tanya looks over when I said, I don't need to

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Speaker 1: congratulate my competitors, and she said, that's not a good thing.

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Speaker 1: It's not that's not a great quality or anything to

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Speaker 1: honestly be proud of that in like in actual sports

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Speaker 1: or something where there's competition, Like when I played tennis,

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Speaker 1: I'll be oh, good game. If I lose, that's fine, right, sure,

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Speaker 1: But Mario Kart, anything anything, not being able to congratulate somebody, Well,

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Speaker 1: I got so mad that it was a fight that

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Speaker 1: I did not lost congratulate. No, it wasn't even mad

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Speaker 1: that I lost. I like literally didn't even care that

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Speaker 1: defend you back. I play a lot of Mario Kart.

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Speaker 1: They give you a gigantic animated trophy. I mean like,

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Speaker 1: I feel like no external congratulations are required. The congratulations

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Speaker 1: that you need. It gives you a full ceremony with

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Speaker 1: a huge trophy. And it wasn't one race. This was

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Speaker 1: a full cup. It was a full yeah. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was a full race. And so I um, so

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Speaker 1: we we have these this other couple that we play

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Speaker 1: or whatever on the switch. And every time the three

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Speaker 1: of them, one of them beats me, they all congratulate

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Speaker 1: each other like it's like ganged up on me. And

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Speaker 1: so then when I win, I never get congratulated. No

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Speaker 1: one ever tells me good jobs. So I'm like, why

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Speaker 1: do I have to overcompensate for y'all's inability to and

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Speaker 1: eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. You

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Speaker 1: should rise above them, not in Mario Kart. I rise

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Speaker 1: above in other ways. But Mario Kart feels it just was.

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Speaker 1: It was a dumb fight. Mario Karts where it starts.

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Speaker 1: You know, niare similar and it's very stressful for me.

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Speaker 1: Um Tina skip hides. Let's come back to that one.

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Speaker 1: Give me Katie Kray hang on, hang um okay. Katie

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Speaker 1: Kresky says, Red Star does the weight of the Dear

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Speaker 1: Future Husband Journal, intimidate, slash, scare you, or just make

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Speaker 1: you curious slash excited. That's a good question. That is

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Speaker 1: a good question. I'm interested to see what he is.

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Speaker 1: And he is aware of the Dear Future Husband Journal, Yes,

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Speaker 1: And is he aware that you've written to him in

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Speaker 1: the Dear Future Husband Journal? Up. I don't know. Actually probably, Well,

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Speaker 1: here's the red star right to say, honestly, I don't

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Speaker 1: know much about it. I know it exists, but maybe

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Speaker 1: intentionally don't know why, anything specific about it or what's

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Speaker 1: in it. It doesn't scare me. And it's another thing

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Speaker 1: I love about Tania, how intentional and vision oriented she is.

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Speaker 1: But I def don't think she wants me to know

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Speaker 1: the details. L O L. Yeah. I mean he definitely

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Speaker 1: knows I have it. He doesn't know as I have it,

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Speaker 1: and then I like right in it and I'm talking

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Speaker 1: to my dear future husband, But I don't think he

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Speaker 1: knows like what's in it? If that makes sense. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but he does. He does say that he likes that

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Speaker 1: about me, that I like the stuff we did on

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Speaker 1: my birthday and the fact that I make vision boards

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Speaker 1: like he likes that. So if that's what he thinks,

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Speaker 1: the Dear Future Husband Journalist, then great win win M. M. Um. So.

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Speaker 1: The next one is from Reagan Graham and the question

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Speaker 1: is do you share Becca's eating habits? What are your

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Speaker 1: thoughts on buttered pop tarts and Dr Pepper? What do

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Speaker 1: you think the response will be? I I feel like

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get some blame put on me, But the

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Speaker 1: thing is, we all have the ability to say no.

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Speaker 1: I do know that it's harder to eat healthy if

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Speaker 1: the person you're with eats really poorly, so that probably

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Speaker 1: doesn't help the situation. But I mean nine if I

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Speaker 1: ate a lot healthier before before I came into the picture. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean if anybody doesn't like a buttered pop tart

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Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know, then they are an alien. Alright,

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Speaker 1: Well here's the response, So do you share Becca's eating habits?

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Speaker 1: What are your thoughts on buttered poppouts and Dr Pepper?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely not, But since dating her, she has completely attacked

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Speaker 1: my eating habits. I never had sugary foods or fast

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Speaker 1: every kind and definitely gotten me hooked on soda, which

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Speaker 1: I'm upset about. I think pop tarts really fall flat

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Speaker 1: for me personally, but butter makes everything better. Well, that

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Speaker 1: was a great response. Yeah, the soda thing has been

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Speaker 1: a little bit of like a battle, but I've kind

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Speaker 1: of cut back, so I feel like, you know, we're

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Speaker 1: at a we have a good balance now pop tarts,

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Speaker 1: when when it was but butter makes everything better? Which

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Speaker 1: is it's true? Um, yeah, I definitely am not. I'm

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Speaker 1: not a good influence for anyone who wants. I mean,

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Speaker 1: minutes away from here, so I just like pop up,

422
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 1: get ready, come here, and then I'm just here and

423
00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:25,720
Speaker 1: cannot get all out in one day, Whereas if this

424
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:30,760
Speaker 1: was you know, BC before COVID, I would be struggling

425
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 1: to get up because I would have a plane to

426
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 1: catch its sixth day m and then coming from one

427
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 1: place to the next. But the energy is just a

428
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:40,160
Speaker 1: little different, you know, because we're not in person and

429
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 1: it's hard because you can't get that immediate feedback because

430
00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 1: there's always going to be some sort of delay or

431
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,919
Speaker 1: you know that people are talking over each other, like

432
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:51,399
Speaker 1: there's not like there's not like that. Let's fill the

433
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 1: space and feel the vibe in the room. You know.

434
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 1: I'm so happy to hear you say that, because I

435
00:26:56,359 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 1: think that so many people are like seeing the benefit

436
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 1: it's of this time in terms of just like no

437
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,639
Speaker 1: travel expenses and no you know what I mean, Like

438
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:11,600
Speaker 1: it's just easier everybody just doing things remotely. But there's

439
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 1: something that you just really can't grasp on the digital medium,

440
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Like you really I

441
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 1: think we are losing something. And I think I really

442
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,520
Speaker 1: realized it because, um, the other day it was like

443
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 1: National Radio Day or whatever, and so I was like

444
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 1: going back and they were asking me to send like

445
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 1: videos and photos just from like my favorite memories in

446
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: the studio, and I was watching all these things, and

447
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:34,439
Speaker 1: it made me realize how much more energy and like

448
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 1: vibrant our show is when we're together in the same place,

449
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 1: you know, Like it's kind of wild. Yeah, And I

450
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 1: was gonna say, like coming out with new art and

451
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 1: what you're creating. There's this so much excitement about it

452
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: because it's something you've been working so hard on and

453
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 1: you don't even get to feel that like excitement of

454
00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 1: seeing someone else's reaction in real life or in per sin,

455
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,359
Speaker 1: which I think, God we have technology because we do

456
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 1: get um. I mean, Tanya and I have started out

457
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:12,480
Speaker 1: doing the podcast separately and we finally were able to

458
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:16,359
Speaker 1: quarantine and now we're together, and it's the energy so

459
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 1: much different getting to be with each other, and it's

460
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 1: so much different, right, So you're right, it doesn't miss

461
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:27,480
Speaker 1: a huge difference. This song is amazing. Tanya played it

462
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: for me and that's right. It's so fun, Like the

463
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 1: vibe makes you want to be like on a boat

464
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 1: in the middle of the water, just like dancing with

465
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: your friend. That's what I was thinking I wanted to do. Well.

466
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 1: I love that chol I'm so here for that visual.

467
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: That's amazing. And you really do though. I feel like

468
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 1: you're this like Bob Queen, like you kind of just

469
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 1: put out these songs that are like they're kind of

470
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 1: earwarmy good. That's good. I love Rehab too. Is he

471
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 1: just like so fun and easy to work with? So

472
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: fun so easy to work with. What's wild Actually we've

473
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 1: never actually met person. Um. Every time that I've worked

474
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 1: with him has just we've been over like he's over

475
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: Sees and I'm here in l A. So we've just

476
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: our paths have never crossed um in person before, so

477
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 1: we've just had the opportunity, luckily through technology, to to

478
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: to work together. But he's so awesome. I'm such a

479
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 1: fan of all of his work and all of his

480
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 1: music and um, everything that we collaborate on. I I

481
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 1: feel just super proud of and really lucky because You're

482
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:35,040
Speaker 1: right like they're they're definitely earwormy, and I feel like, um.

483
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: I also for some reason, it's like he lives in

484
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 1: my brain because I feel like there's like points in

485
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:43,560
Speaker 1: my life, like in my music career where I'm like, God,

486
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: like I'm really like feeling like I want a song

487
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 1: like this, and then like I hear like his production

488
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 1: on stuff, and I'm like, yeah, That's what I wanted.

489
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 1: He's also like very I mean, I've never met him either.

490
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 1: I've only like like talked to him through instant or

491
00:29:56,440 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: instance and Messenger TV, through a show Instagram, but I

492
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 1: feel like he's just super humble because he's massive, like

493
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 1: massive massive, and he's so super super humble, which I

494
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 1: find to be very refreshing, crazy down to earth. Well,

495
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 1: your song is um kind of it's this really fun,

496
00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: boppy song, but it's it's kind of about the feeling

497
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 1: of unreciprocated love, which it's not a fun feeling. I know.

498
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 1: We just sort of snuck that in there, I know.

499
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 1: And I always think there's so many songs I always

500
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: relate to Taylor Swife when I think about these, but

501
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 1: she has so many that have this great sound. It's

502
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: like you're bobbing your head and then lys's sad the world.

503
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 1: Have you felt that before, like you were like in

504
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 1: love with somebody and they didn't love you back? Of course, yeah,

505
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: And and I think and I think everyone has sort

506
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 1: of felt that, and to a certain extent, you know,

507
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: I think we've all sort of felt like maybe we

508
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 1: weren't getting enough, or maybe we were getting too much,

509
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 1: and in this case, it wasn't at all. So I think,

510
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 1: you know, it definitely is very relatable in that sense.

511
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 1: But I kind of love the idea of, like lyrically

512
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:19,719
Speaker 1: it being this in a sort of in this like

513
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:25,200
Speaker 1: really um vulnerable, not necessarily dark place, but vulnerable, like

514
00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:29,200
Speaker 1: a place where you know you no one really talks

515
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 1: about like how how how they feel after a break

516
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 1: up other than it just being sad, like no one

517
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: actually really goes through like the highs and the lows

518
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 1: and the come over to the rab sack. I'll talk

519
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: about it all perfect. Give yourself one toilet paper roll

520
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 1: to cry. You get one full role, and then once

521
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 1: the role is done, the crying is over. To see

522
00:31:56,760 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: it loved so good. But I love the yeah, like

523
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: lyrically being in that space and then you know, sonically

524
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 1: it's feeling maybe a little bit more uplifting because I

525
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 1: want there to feel like there is hope, because there

526
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 1: is you know, they're there, even though there might not

527
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: be the happiest ending of things. I feel like there's

528
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 1: there's always some sort of uh ending to to go

529
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 1: into the next chapter of life, you know, And I

530
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 1: feel like that's what our hope is. So I think

531
00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 1: that's like why I love this song so much, because yeah,

532
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 1: like it has this role, it has a space where

533
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 1: it's it's vulnerable and um and and there's this innocence there.

534
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:36,560
Speaker 1: But then the song on the production side anyway just

535
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: lifts you up. A lot of our UM So a

536
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 1: lot of our podcast is kind of based on dating

537
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 1: and finding love and heartbreak and that that same feeling

538
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 1: of liking someone and not having the feelings reciprocated. A

539
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 1: lot of our listeners are going through all of those phases.

540
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 1: Are you dating right now? Is? Are you single? What's

541
00:32:55,800 --> 00:33:01,280
Speaker 1: your don't talk about it. I am dating, um and

542
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 1: it's so interesting doing it in Quarantine. That's why I'm

543
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 1: like dating multiples no no, no, no no, no, just one?

544
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 1: Oh just okay. That makes it. That makes it easier,

545
00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:15,040
Speaker 1: makes it way easier. But it's crazy because I'm I

546
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:19,920
Speaker 1: feel like in the last couple of years, I've experienced

547
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 1: dating just like going on dates and doing that thing

548
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 1: like never actually like spending so much quality time with

549
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:32,360
Speaker 1: one singular human being. And I kind of was forced

550
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 1: to do that. I started dating someone at the beginning

551
00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 1: of Quarantine, and then we were sort of like forced

552
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 1: to be in the same space at all times or

553
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: like not at all times. Right, we had to choose

554
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: which one we wanted to do, and we were like,

555
00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 1: I guess we'll just see this through and it's yeah,

556
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 1: and like you you have the option to Like that's

557
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 1: the thing I think, especially like with your schedule, I

558
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:54,719
Speaker 1: think you can default a lot to Like let's say

559
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: you start dating somebody new and you don't really like

560
00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 1: you're like kind of like unsure. You could be like, oh,

561
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 1: have a really crazy early shoot tomorrow in like Japan,

562
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 1: and I gotta get my sleeper, like whatever, do you

563
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like you can really kind of

564
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:10,800
Speaker 1: use that in a way. Yeah, you're nailing it, of course.

565
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 1: And when now, when quarantine hit, you were like, oh,

566
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 1: so all my things are in my house, so I

567
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 1: can't there's I either want to be with you for

568
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,879
Speaker 1: real or like I can't be with you at all.

569
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 1: It's so accurate, it's so trust me, it's wild and

570
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 1: it's like how do you? But I think I think

571
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 1: that's like now we we are experiencing like full on

572
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 1: brutal honesty when it comes to that, and I'm I'm

573
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: super confrontational as it is, so I don't have a

574
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 1: hard time with that, but but it can be tricky

575
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:44,479
Speaker 1: and so I don't know. You're right. You're right though,

576
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 1: either it's either like a yes or no at this

577
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:48,919
Speaker 1: point in life, like you can't you can't have any

578
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 1: sort of fun excuse, like I couldn't imagine like me

579
00:34:53,520 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 1: a year ago, I was like in that pursuit of

580
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:57,919
Speaker 1: just like oh, you want to go on a date

581
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 1: on Monday, Sure you want to go out with me today? Sure?

582
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:03,879
Speaker 1: Like you couldn't pay me to do that. Now, Now,

583
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:06,400
Speaker 1: if I were single and I was like trying to

584
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 1: I wouldn't do that. Like, wait, I need to hear

585
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 1: more about you being confrontational because I could not be

586
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 1: more non confrontational. And most people I know are vocal

587
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,240
Speaker 1: about being non confrontational, but a lot of people aren't

588
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 1: just straight up like I'm confrontational and it like you

589
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 1: just did. I need to know more, you know, I

590
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 1: think that I now that I'm actually saying all of

591
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 1: this out loud, let me let me clarify what I'm

592
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 1: trying to say. I think I think I'm more confrontational

593
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:40,319
Speaker 1: with the people that I love and care about that

594
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:45,240
Speaker 1: are in my life consistently because I feel like there

595
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:47,839
Speaker 1: I could. It's like it's like a space that that's

596
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 1: already very comfortable to where I could just be like

597
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 1: if there's like an issue, I could just it in

598
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: the bud really quickly and there's not any of that

599
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 1: lingering weirdness. I do have a harder time being confrontational

600
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 1: with people that I don't know very Okay, so you're

601
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 1: so basically you're a healthy communicator. You communicate with it,

602
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:07,399
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, yeah, I want to call it confrontational.

603
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:10,840
Speaker 1: I would say, like you are aware of your emotions

604
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:14,959
Speaker 1: and your vocal. Yeah, that's a real honestly from someone

605
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: who couldn't be more opposite. Something I'm working on right now.

606
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 1: Considered a gift because even with the people that I'm

607
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:24,320
Speaker 1: close to, probably even more so, I have to work

608
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: on being direct and communicating because when I get uncomfortable,

609
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 1: I'm just like, well, I'm not going to say anything

610
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: because that saves the relationship. But the truth is that

611
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: talking about it, like is a healthy relationship. Like I

612
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 1: think it's I think yes and no. I think, like,

613
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 1: you do make a good point, But at the same time,

614
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:45,359
Speaker 1: it's like sometimes like we need to like wore things

615
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 1: out in our head for a minute, you know, because

616
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:49,839
Speaker 1: then because then if we just start talking, then some

617
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:51,680
Speaker 1: things are said that didn't need to be said. And

618
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 1: so I think I think there's a balance, you know,

619
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 1: Like I feel like maybe sometimes we need to have

620
00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 1: the talk and just like really like finesse it and

621
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 1: dissect it, or we just need to like work it

622
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 1: out on our head and then when we're ready we chat. Yeah,

623
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:09,240
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm no life for you. When the slightest

624
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 1: I have no idea what I mean saying. I just like,

625
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:13,759
Speaker 1: I mean no one. But I like that you were

626
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 1: just straight up like, yeah, I say what I feel. Um.

627
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 1: Is it weird in being in the public eye having

628
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 1: so many eyes on you. You're an actress, you're singer,

629
00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:26,880
Speaker 1: you kind of do it all. Um, is it weird

630
00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:30,240
Speaker 1: having that type of life where everyone's kind of watching

631
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 1: everything you do? Do you feel like you have to

632
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 1: be so careful about what you post, what you say,

633
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,600
Speaker 1: especially right now, it's like a you know, you need

634
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:41,920
Speaker 1: to make sure you're saying the right thing at all times. Yeah,

635
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 1: I think that I've I think I've struggled with that

636
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 1: since the beginning of my career. I started working when

637
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:50,360
Speaker 1: I was ten years old, and then I think social

638
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 1: media kind of started hitting hard, mostly on Twitter, I

639
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: think when I was like four thirteen or fourteen, and

640
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 1: then Instagram kind of came when I was like fifty

641
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:03,879
Speaker 1: and then it just kind of blew up from there,

642
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 1: and I think, I think, yeah, like I think I've

643
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,800
Speaker 1: definitely like struggled with like what I can say what

644
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 1: I can't say, And a lot of that had to

645
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 1: do with I grew up on UM, a children's network,

646
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 1: and so I had to be very careful about what

647
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:21,359
Speaker 1: I did in life, and not that I was doing

648
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:23,239
Speaker 1: anything that I wasn't supposed to be doing, but I

649
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 1: think even just like the pressure of that was really difficult.

650
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 1: And then I moved on to a show and a

651
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 1: network that was very secretive and everything. I had to

652
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:37,200
Speaker 1: sign an NDA for almost absolutely everything, and every interview

653
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 1: that I did, I was like like holding back so

654
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 1: much air because I was nervous I was gonna like

655
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 1: have like spill like a spoiler. And so you know,

656
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 1: it's like it's tricky like living in like that life

657
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 1: because you can't just be completely can't did you know,

658
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 1: just completely like let go and be yourself. Especially with

659
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 1: social media, it's so hard like finding a balance between

660
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: like how much you want to share about your personal

661
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 1: life or and then wanting it to be like just

662
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 1: a space for work to like show people what you're

663
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 1: working on and to share with them. So I think

664
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 1: I'm still trying to figure it out. I don't know

665
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: if I'm necessarily completely comfortable with how I handle everything,

666
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: but you know, I think I think it's a day

667
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 1: by day kind of feeling and then also trying to

668
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:22,239
Speaker 1: figure out how to express how I feel about what's

669
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 1: happening in the world, whether you know it has everything

670
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 1: to do with the pandemic or what's happening in our

671
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:32,200
Speaker 1: country or or overseas. Like a lot of that is

672
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,879
Speaker 1: like how much do I need to share? How much

673
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 1: do I need to keep to myself? And I think,

674
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,480
Speaker 1: you know, it's important to just, like I think, have

675
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: a space where we can all sort of have like

676
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: an open communication. And that's where it gets difficult though,

677
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:48,759
Speaker 1: because some people feel a little bit more confrontational over

678
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 1: the internet, and then in person they're like, nah, yeah, yeah,

679
00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:54,280
Speaker 1: it's true. A lot of people are brave over the internet.

680
00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 1: Is this like something that because you mentioned that you

681
00:39:56,920 --> 00:40:00,080
Speaker 1: were you're dating right now, is this like a that

682
00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 1: a conversation that you have with somebody that you're dating, Like,

683
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:05,360
Speaker 1: I don't post I'm not going to post anything about

684
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 1: you until X Y Z, or like, is that like

685
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 1: sounds so ridiculous, but these are the conversations I'm having

686
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 1: at the moment, so I'm just curious. No, yeah, yeah, yeah,

687
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: I mean we've had We've definitely had the conversation, and

688
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 1: I think it just really depends on people's opinions and

689
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:27,360
Speaker 1: and there their perspective of what they want to share,

690
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,800
Speaker 1: because I have some friends who are in the industry

691
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 1: who don't want to talk about or share their relationship

692
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 1: at all. They want to be completely private, which I

693
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 1: can totally respect, whereas I'm sort of in the middle.

694
00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 1: I'm definitely like Switzerland on this, Like I don't care

695
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 1: either way. I think, um, I think it's cool when

696
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:45,320
Speaker 1: people post about their relationship and show their partner off,

697
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 1: but also if they don't at all, I don't really

698
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 1: have a I don't think I have an opinion either way.

699
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 1: But yeah, my the person I'm dating right now and

700
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 1: I have had the conversation and we're both sort of

701
00:40:57,000 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 1: just like we don't care either way. So it's like

702
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 1: anyone's anyone's move. Yeah, so that's like a nice place

703
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: to be in. Yeah, totally. Yeah. Um. With during quarantine,

704
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 1: have you found that you've been more creative than ever,

705
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 1: or have you felt like you've you've kind of been

706
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 1: a little almost like I'm gonna give my brain a

707
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:22,120
Speaker 1: break while I have one and then because no one

708
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 1: knew how long this was gonna last, or have you

709
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:27,239
Speaker 1: been like, I'm gonna just use this time and get

710
00:41:27,280 --> 00:41:30,360
Speaker 1: as creative as I can so that the time passes,

711
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 1: Like what's been your method? I mean, I think it's

712
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 1: the beginning of all of this. We really had no

713
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:39,919
Speaker 1: idea what we were getting into. We didn't know the time,

714
00:41:40,160 --> 00:41:41,800
Speaker 1: the time frame of how long we were going to

715
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:44,760
Speaker 1: be doing it for, um, how long we were supposed

716
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:47,840
Speaker 1: to just like completely quarantine. So I think at the beginning,

717
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 1: I was just like, all right, I'm gonna chill because

718
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,160
Speaker 1: I don't I don't know what that's like anymore. So, um,

719
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:57,799
Speaker 1: I chilled for us all it like two months, and

720
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 1: then I just was like what am I doing doing? This?

721
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 1: Isn't I I just don't like to chill, Like I

722
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: like to have my chill like nights and then I

723
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 1: like to like decompress and like have a glass of

724
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 1: wine and like watch TV and like that's like my

725
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:14,400
Speaker 1: version of chill. I can't chill for two months straight,

726
00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 1: like I like, I like the hustle and bustle of

727
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 1: what I do, and um and and traveling and moving

728
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:24,800
Speaker 1: around and working with people different people almost every other day,

729
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:28,360
Speaker 1: and so I it was in a really weird funk

730
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 1: for I think that that first, like that first month,

731
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 1: after the month of the first proportion of quarantine, and

732
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 1: then I was like, all right, I need to do

733
00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 1: something about this. So I kind of started to just

734
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 1: change my perspective a little bit, and I was like,

735
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 1: I just need to embrace the pause and like enjoy

736
00:42:46,600 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 1: this time off, but then also find find ways to

737
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 1: be productive and um, because I felt really uninspired too

738
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:56,319
Speaker 1: because I was just sitting in my house and I

739
00:42:56,440 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: was I was dating, but it wasn't like we were

740
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 1: were we weren't also able to like go and do

741
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:04,840
Speaker 1: anything like normally like when I'm dating somebody I have

742
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 1: so much to like pull from because like we're out

743
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 1: like experiencing life together. But we were just like chilling

744
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 1: in my house, cooking and watching TV, like literally doing nothing,

745
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,680
Speaker 1: so which can also be really great in in in

746
00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 1: you know, on its own, but um, yeah, the inspiration

747
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: just wasn't there. So I was like, Okay, let's like

748
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:26,319
Speaker 1: mix it up, and so I started going on some

749
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:29,719
Speaker 1: road trips and just like finding like even like if

750
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 1: it was just like for the day, just like getting

751
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:34,360
Speaker 1: outside of my house and just like seeing like life

752
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 1: in different formats, and you guys started getting a little

753
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 1: bit more inspiration again. And then over the last year,

754
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 1: I've really been just prioritizing music. I've been in sessions

755
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 1: almost every single day writing and so I started listening

756
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 1: back to all of those songs that I that I

757
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,680
Speaker 1: wrote and just to put me back in the headspace

758
00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 1: that I was in a year ago, and that sort

759
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 1: of motivated me again, and it helped me and it

760
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 1: helped me gain that inspiration, and so I started writing

761
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 1: again and then got back into the studio and now

762
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 1: I'm working and it feels really good. I had to

763
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:09,320
Speaker 1: twelve hour days this past weekend working on music videos,

764
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:13,399
Speaker 1: so I feel really fresh and ready for anything. Now.

765
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 1: I love that everyone's getting there, like re re energized

766
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 1: from working there, like needed a little reset, and now

767
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:23,719
Speaker 1: people are like getting their mojo back. And I think

768
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 1: I was feeling because on Saturday was my second day

769
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:30,239
Speaker 1: and i'd wrapped it was like nine pm, and I

770
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 1: was like, I feel the best kind of exhaustion that

771
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 1: I want to feel like, this is like what I've

772
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:37,920
Speaker 1: been like craving for the last five months is like

773
00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 1: this kind of exhaustion. So it's been good. I always

774
00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 1: bring up the indiogram. Have you ever taken the indiogram

775
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 1: A two? Oh? I was gonna guess three, because I

776
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 1: feel like you have a lot of three, like the

777
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:55,279
Speaker 1: ambition to like being out there creative. I think I'm

778
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 1: a two with the isn't there like a I think

779
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm a wing three? Yeah? I love the Angiograham. I

780
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:04,840
Speaker 1: just feel like, you know, you talk to people, you

781
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:07,400
Speaker 1: kind of understand a little bit more of where where

782
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:12,399
Speaker 1: they come from and why they are, you know the way. Yeah.

783
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 1: It's so funny though, because as you were talking about that,

784
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,160
Speaker 1: I like literally feel like I had those exact same

785
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,359
Speaker 1: feelings during quarantine. Like for me, it was like kind

786
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 1: of in the opposite way though, because right when when

787
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:25,919
Speaker 1: like the quarantine hit, my work was crazier than ever

788
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 1: in terms of like I felt like I was just

789
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:31,799
Speaker 1: going NonStop, uh, and like then you're at home, so

790
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 1: people just think you can pop in and do something

791
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: at any moment. So it was like I didn't really

792
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:38,360
Speaker 1: have that balance. I was like I didn't have boundaries

793
00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 1: or anything. And so I think I was like just

794
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:43,600
Speaker 1: like full speed ahead for the beginning first two months,

795
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,279
Speaker 1: and then I hit that wall of like maybe I

796
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:49,399
Speaker 1: just want to embrace the pause and just like enjoy this.

797
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:51,839
Speaker 1: And I also I was feeling very uninspired too, like

798
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:53,359
Speaker 1: you really hit the nail on the head. It's just

799
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: like we're literally just and I've been trying to make

800
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 1: it cute like I do like cute, like I did

801
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:00,560
Speaker 1: like a Paris night the other and I were like

802
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 1: brought Paris home and like cooked French food. You know.

803
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 1: It's like I'm trying to do things with like a

804
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:08,360
Speaker 1: done double double day where we like we made the

805
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:12,040
Speaker 1: same you know, dishes and did it via zoom and

806
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 1: trying to But yeah, it's just like very uninspired. And

807
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:18,919
Speaker 1: now I'm in that place of like the combo bowl,

808
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 1: like I want to embrace the pause but also like

809
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 1: get my mojo back exactly. Yeah, No, it's definitely tricky,

810
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: But I think I think we're all at least from

811
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 1: the conversations that I've had and like what I've been experiencing,

812
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:34,560
Speaker 1: I think like we're all kind of getting back, but

813
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:41,839
Speaker 1: the first the like this was a tricky summer for everybody. Yeah, totally. Um,

814
00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:43,800
Speaker 1: are you so you said you were you had a

815
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:46,000
Speaker 1: bunch of songs that you've been working on since last year.

816
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 1: Are you planning to release some of singles? Are you

817
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 1: working on an album? What You're a little bit of both? Um, Yeah,

818
00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:57,919
Speaker 1: I'm gonna release I'm gonna release two songs this year

819
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 1: and then I'm going to release one at the big

820
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 1: ding of the year, and then following that is going

821
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 1: to be my debut album, which is quite because I've

822
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 1: never had a debut album before. No, and you only

823
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 1: get one debut album. I know, I know. I'm so excited.

824
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 1: So is it done? Like in the cam like you

825
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:18,040
Speaker 1: have it, It's like it's not completely No, it's not

826
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:23,719
Speaker 1: completely finished. Um, but it's getting there. It's it's and

827
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 1: it's definitely been this It's just been a really special

828
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 1: experience because I think in the past I've I've obviously

829
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:35,600
Speaker 1: had a long journey of music, but I've sort of

830
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: been what you were saying a little bit ago at

831
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,319
Speaker 1: the beginning, just sort of like dropping singles here and there.

832
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 1: But I want, like what I want is I want

833
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:46,439
Speaker 1: there to be a very clear vision and a clear

834
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:48,480
Speaker 1: body of work, and I wanted to feel like a

835
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 1: cohesive project and so um, which is what I'm used

836
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:55,600
Speaker 1: to working on on the acting side, is like something

837
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 1: that like has a start and has a finish, and

838
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 1: that's that's that's what I want, uh for this album

839
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 1: is for it to feel like this really big piece

840
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: of body of work of my life and then I

841
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,919
Speaker 1: can move on to the next chapter. So that's that's

842
00:48:08,040 --> 00:48:10,440
Speaker 1: kind of the vision that I have for it. Um.

843
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:13,439
Speaker 1: So it's not completely done, but it's it's getting there.

844
00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:16,359
Speaker 1: And I'm really really proud of it. And lots of

845
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:21,360
Speaker 1: people lent their amazing creative minds to this project and

846
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,799
Speaker 1: I feel just really lucky and really proud of it. Yeah,

847
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:27,279
Speaker 1: that's so exciting. Mean, how exciting to have a know

848
00:48:27,440 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 1: that your debut album is coming up something to look

849
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 1: forward to? Sure, I know. Um. One more question, Um,

850
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:40,960
Speaker 1: because you're you're beautiful, you're talented, you have such a

851
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:43,919
Speaker 1: you've had a successful career, and you're still so young.

852
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:46,919
Speaker 1: What's something to two girls your age that you would

853
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 1: say is advice when they're dealing with social media and

854
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 1: insecurity and dating and you know, just struggles that we

855
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:55,880
Speaker 1: go through, kind of like growing up and being in

856
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:59,880
Speaker 1: this kind of place in our lives. It's a really

857
00:49:01,239 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 1: really interesting question. I think I would say, like if

858
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:09,719
Speaker 1: I were to look back, I guess when I was

859
00:49:10,000 --> 00:49:13,800
Speaker 1: a teenager, and I mean even now, I think I

860
00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:18,359
Speaker 1: would really just tell myself to not take anything too seriously.

861
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 1: I think I was like so keen on like making

862
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:23,920
Speaker 1: sure that everything was perfect, and I am a perfectionist.

863
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:27,080
Speaker 1: I want everything to be perfect. But I also think

864
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:30,799
Speaker 1: it's really important to just have fun in whatever you're

865
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 1: doing and to not feel tied or strapped down to

866
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 1: something that doesn't make you happy, whether that's a partner,

867
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 1: or whether that's your work, or whether that's a friend group.

868
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:44,040
Speaker 1: I think it's really important to just thrive off of

869
00:49:44,120 --> 00:49:49,560
Speaker 1: whatever you feel most comfortable thriving on. And for me,

870
00:49:49,600 --> 00:49:54,360
Speaker 1: I think social media can be a really fun, amazing place,

871
00:49:54,440 --> 00:49:57,520
Speaker 1: but it can also be our worst enemy. And I

872
00:49:57,560 --> 00:50:01,439
Speaker 1: think again to just let space be a fun one.

873
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:05,080
Speaker 1: Don't don't spend hours and hours and hours of ends

874
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:07,920
Speaker 1: on it because it's it's not fair to yourself. Because

875
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:10,840
Speaker 1: you have a beautiful life that you're out there living

876
00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 1: and you don't want to put that time and energy

877
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:17,439
Speaker 1: into something that isn't even necessarily real. And I'm still

878
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 1: figuring that out, so I don't know if I have

879
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 1: the proper advice for it, but um, I do think that,

880
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:27,480
Speaker 1: you know, life, if anything, if anything has been given

881
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 1: to us this year, it's it's it's that we've have

882
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 1: such little time here, and I think it's so important

883
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:37,400
Speaker 1: and it sounds so repetitive and cheesy. I feel like

884
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: everybody says this, but I think now more than ever,

885
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 1: we really need to just appreciate people and love them

886
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 1: and be kind to them, and um, and do the

887
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:51,360
Speaker 1: same to ourselves, be kind to ourselves and love ourselves

888
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:53,319
Speaker 1: the way that we would want other people to do

889
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:59,280
Speaker 1: that for us. Wow, that was great, great advice for everyone,

890
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:04,600
Speaker 1: I think, us, you, all of our listeners. Enjoy life, Yeah,

891
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 1: don't waste it comparing yourself to what's happening on. I

892
00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 1: think we've got too much pressure on ourselves. I think

893
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:15,080
Speaker 1: it's really just simple. You know, we're gonna have challenging days,

894
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 1: but I think like pushing through those makes the makes

895
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:21,279
Speaker 1: the other day is so much more worth living, you know,

896
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 1: and more exciting. I love that, Um, thank you for

897
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 1: your time. This is fun. Um. Everyone stream by. Listen

898
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:37,439
Speaker 1: to love you again, Olivia Holt with rehab. Um. It's

899
00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 1: such a bop. It's out now, so let's stream it.

900
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 1: Stream it, stream it, stream it to get those numbers up.

901
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:48,600
Speaker 1: Baby yeah. Um, good luck with everything. Thanks for stopping

902
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 1: by and scrubbing in with us, and we'll hopefully talk

903
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:54,720
Speaker 1: to you again soon. Thanks, love you, love you guys,

904
00:51:54,719 --> 00:52:13,600
Speaker 1: appreciate you and your support. Thank you, bye bye. I

905
00:52:13,719 --> 00:52:17,799
Speaker 1: really really like her and her song is what the

906
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 1: kids are calling a bop. The kids are calling what

907
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 1: are the kids? I'm a kid, I call I like bob.

908
00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:26,560
Speaker 1: I know it is a bob. It's just she's so

909
00:52:26,719 --> 00:52:29,719
Speaker 1: cute and like likable. I remember I was at my

910
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:32,880
Speaker 1: um salon where we well, what used to be the

911
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 1: salon where we got her hair done. It's not open

912
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 1: right now, um, and she was getting her hair washed,

913
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:39,840
Speaker 1: and it was like one of the first like famous

914
00:52:39,880 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 1: people I saw being in l A. Thought it was

915
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:46,160
Speaker 1: really cool. Did you say hi? No? No, I think

916
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 1: she was like we were both at the shampoo bowl

917
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 1: and we were both like chatting, but somehow one of

918
00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:54,399
Speaker 1: us overheard the other, so we were talking to each other,

919
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:57,239
Speaker 1: but not direct, you know, we're like looking up getting

920
00:52:57,239 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 1: her hair washed. But she's just really sweet and I

921
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:02,520
Speaker 1: feel like everyone I know that knows her loves her.

922
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 1: Just cool. Yeah, she's really sweet. Um Okay, so are

923
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:09,800
Speaker 1: we getting to emails or are we saving the answer

924
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:13,520
Speaker 1: to a red stars question for when I have one

925
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 1: email and then we can answer the question. This is

926
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:18,600
Speaker 1: from Sarah. I'm twenty three years old and I currently

927
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 1: live in Madison, Wisconsin. That, by the way, is my hometown, Madison, Wisconsin.

928
00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:24,439
Speaker 1: Shout out. Should go there if you get a chance.

929
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:26,959
Speaker 1: As a beautiful city, the downtown is surrounded by lakes.

930
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:30,240
Speaker 1: It couldn't be lovelier anyway. I was with my boyfriend

931
00:53:30,320 --> 00:53:32,640
Speaker 1: for one year and we met during my last clinical

932
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:35,080
Speaker 1: rotation of nursing school. I had already decided to move

933
00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 1: in with my best friend for a year in a

934
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:39,440
Speaker 1: different state, so we did distance for a year. Wait wait, wait, wait,

935
00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:42,040
Speaker 1: wait started over. I was with my boyfriend for a

936
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:46,560
Speaker 1: year and I got a clinical nursing something. She was

937
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 1: in nursing school and she was dating in for a year,

938
00:53:49,719 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 1: and then she got a place out of state with

939
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:54,360
Speaker 1: her friend for a year, so they were a distance

940
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:57,360
Speaker 1: for a year after that, Okay, then I decided to

941
00:53:57,400 --> 00:53:59,480
Speaker 1: get my own apartment in Madison. Since things were going

942
00:53:59,520 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 1: so well, moving in seemed too quick and I was

943
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:04,040
Speaker 1: excited to have a space I could call my own.

944
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:06,799
Speaker 1: He was excited, as was I, and then a month

945
00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:09,960
Speaker 1: after things started to get tense. He's been very unhappy

946
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:13,160
Speaker 1: with his job. He is twenty eight, Sarah's twenty three,

947
00:54:13,520 --> 00:54:15,759
Speaker 1: and he has seemed to fall behind keeping up with

948
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:18,400
Speaker 1: his home. On top of all this, his mom was

949
00:54:18,480 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 1: recently diagnosed with breast cancer. He hides his emotions, and

950
00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:23,480
Speaker 1: I feel like I want to be there for him,

951
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:25,279
Speaker 1: but I wasn't doing a great job because I was

952
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 1: focused on moving and starting a new job. He called

953
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 1: it off with me recently, and it seems very abrupt.

954
00:54:30,920 --> 00:54:32,720
Speaker 1: He said he needs time to cool down and see's

955
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:34,360
Speaker 1: a future with me. But I also told him I

956
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:36,920
Speaker 1: don't want to wait around. We both did things wrong,

957
00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:38,840
Speaker 1: but I feel we just need some time to reset

958
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:41,240
Speaker 1: and figure out how to live in the same city.

959
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:43,279
Speaker 1: He wants to figure his own issues out, but I

960
00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:45,359
Speaker 1: also think if he really loved me, he would want

961
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:47,240
Speaker 1: to be with me, or at least give another shot.

962
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 1: Am I wrong. Do I move on? How long do

963
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:55,960
Speaker 1: I wait? If I even do so? First, I would

964
00:54:55,960 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 1: like to say, I'm sorry you're going through this, But

965
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:02,320
Speaker 1: second I would say, I think has a lot going

966
00:55:02,360 --> 00:55:05,840
Speaker 1: on on his plate, like with his mom being diagnosed

967
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:09,400
Speaker 1: with breast cancer and um struggling in his job or

968
00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:12,560
Speaker 1: whatever it is. And I think if he has made

969
00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:15,960
Speaker 1: the decision to that you being in his life is

970
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:20,600
Speaker 1: over more overwhelming and doesn't make it better or easier.

971
00:55:20,640 --> 00:55:24,200
Speaker 1: I think you need to respect that and also respect yourself.

972
00:55:24,640 --> 00:55:27,279
Speaker 1: And I think you're you're twenty three. Like I would say,

973
00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:30,759
Speaker 1: date other people, put yourself out there. It doesn't mean

974
00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:33,399
Speaker 1: that maybe in the future, when things settle down for him,

975
00:55:33,400 --> 00:55:35,799
Speaker 1: that maybe he'll be ready in timing works out for y'all.

976
00:55:35,840 --> 00:55:38,080
Speaker 1: But I would I would move on, and I would

977
00:55:38,600 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 1: see what else is out there, see who else is

978
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:46,040
Speaker 1: out there, and respect um, what what he needs right now. Yeah,

979
00:55:46,160 --> 00:55:50,840
Speaker 1: I mean, UM. My advice would be similar in the

980
00:55:50,920 --> 00:55:53,839
Speaker 1: sense I actually have gone through this in the past. Um,

981
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 1: somebody that I was with I think people deal with

982
00:55:56,360 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 1: and I'm sorry that you're going through that. I'm really

983
00:55:58,080 --> 00:55:59,839
Speaker 1: sorry for your boyfriend too, because I think you can't

984
00:55:59,840 --> 00:56:04,160
Speaker 1: even imagine what that feels like. Um. But when you

985
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:08,879
Speaker 1: have something like that in your family, and I think

986
00:56:08,920 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 1: people can react in different ways. Um. And like Becca said,

987
00:56:13,000 --> 00:56:16,719
Speaker 1: if he decided that, like he does not want you

988
00:56:16,840 --> 00:56:18,960
Speaker 1: to be involved with that, then like you have to

989
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:21,279
Speaker 1: just like honor that and just you have to just

990
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:26,000
Speaker 1: step aside and move forward. Um. Because I think that

991
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:32,080
Speaker 1: when you're with somebody and you're committed to commitment, um,

992
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:34,799
Speaker 1: you stick it out no matter what's going on going on.

993
00:56:34,880 --> 00:56:37,320
Speaker 1: I mean, everybody kind of deals with a lot of

994
00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:39,239
Speaker 1: different things in life, and you're going to probably deal

995
00:56:39,239 --> 00:56:42,600
Speaker 1: with other tragic and horrible things, you know what I mean.

996
00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:44,879
Speaker 1: And so I think if that's his way of that's

997
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 1: how he handled it this time, Like who's to say

998
00:56:47,560 --> 00:56:51,960
Speaker 1: he's gonna react the same way if something unfortunately happens

999
00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:54,120
Speaker 1: like that again. You know, Like I think, being committed

1000
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:56,840
Speaker 1: to commitment is such like a big thing. And um,

1001
00:56:56,920 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 1: so yeah, I think that you do need to kind

1002
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 1: of just I don't say walk away, be there for

1003
00:57:01,719 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 1: him and offer your support and love and prayer. Um,

1004
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:09,920
Speaker 1: but you do need to kind of start you know,

1005
00:57:10,880 --> 00:57:13,560
Speaker 1: you have to take care of yourself. Yeah, you need

1006
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 1: who because I agree. I think certain people it's like

1007
00:57:18,240 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 1: I need this person to get through this hard time,

1008
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:23,560
Speaker 1: and then someone else is like, the relationship and expectations

1009
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:25,480
Speaker 1: are too much on my plate with everything else. And

1010
00:57:25,520 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 1: I think even a person who it does say that,

1011
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:29,640
Speaker 1: like the relationship is too much for me right now,

1012
00:57:29,720 --> 00:57:31,760
Speaker 1: like then communicate that, you know, I mean, you don't

1013
00:57:31,800 --> 00:57:33,560
Speaker 1: have to break up. You can just say this is

1014
00:57:33,600 --> 00:57:35,920
Speaker 1: really overwhelming. I don't know how to handle this. I

1015
00:57:35,960 --> 00:57:37,720
Speaker 1: need your help, but I don't know how, Like, can

1016
00:57:37,760 --> 00:57:39,280
Speaker 1: you just give me some space? Like you know what

1017
00:57:39,320 --> 00:57:42,200
Speaker 1: I mean. I think there's a difference. I saw I

1018
00:57:42,240 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 1: saw quote the other day. Everyone comes into your life

1019
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 1: for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I don't

1020
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:51,560
Speaker 1: think this guy is a lifetime. And I think the

1021
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:54,480
Speaker 1: timing is just bad and that's okay. It happens and

1022
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:58,040
Speaker 1: it sucks right now. I know that. But um, I

1023
00:57:58,080 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 1: think I think you move on and you guys may

1024
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 1: end up together one day, but that does not mean

1025
00:58:02,320 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 1: you wait for him. It means that he's got his

1026
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:05,680
Speaker 1: own stuff to deal with right now, and you give

1027
00:58:05,760 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 1: him space. You let him do that, and you date

1028
00:58:07,280 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 1: other people and you have a good twenty three year

1029
00:58:09,320 --> 00:58:12,080
Speaker 1: old life and everything's gonna work out the way it

1030
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 1: needs to, so it don't stress it is, but it's true.

1031
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 1: Um yeah, that's so hard. Somebody asked that on the

1032
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 1: Facebook group. They asked what advice you'd give your younger self?

1033
00:58:30,640 --> 00:58:32,320
Speaker 1: And I always enjoy those questions, and I said that

1034
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 1: everything's gonna work out the way it's supposed to work out.

1035
00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:38,240
Speaker 1: And also all of your dreams aren't going to come true,

1036
00:58:38,280 --> 00:58:44,160
Speaker 1: but that's okay because dreams change, and like your desires

1037
00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 1: and your want since you think you need are one

1038
00:58:46,560 --> 00:58:48,760
Speaker 1: at a certain time, is going to change so many

1039
00:58:48,760 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 1: times throughout your life. All right, let's talk about Red

1040
00:58:52,040 --> 00:58:57,520
Speaker 1: Star in bed? Yeah. Wait, so the question was things

1041
00:58:57,560 --> 00:59:01,440
Speaker 1: that he needs to improve? All he said, what what

1042
00:59:01,520 --> 00:59:03,920
Speaker 1: are you Red Star best at? And what can you

1043
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 1: approve upon? In bed? We love? But there was a

1044
00:59:08,440 --> 00:59:13,160
Speaker 1: dot dot dot. Yeah, so I predict to either ignore

1045
00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:15,720
Speaker 1: the dot dot dot and just gave ways he can

1046
00:59:15,800 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 1: improve himself, or can you improve on it? Be I

1047
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 1: don't even wouldn't even know. Well, he added that dot

1048
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:29,439
Speaker 1: dot of his own. He said, l O L I'll

1049
00:59:29,480 --> 00:59:35,640
Speaker 1: let Tanya answer this one dot dot dot what a

1050
00:59:35,880 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 1: little you said? There's nothing? Oh yeah, well, what's your

1051
00:59:40,440 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 1: best at then? Is that appropriate for our PG rated? Okay,

1052
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:51,080
Speaker 1: well let me tell you something. I can keep a PG.

1053
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 1: Oh no, I can keep a PG. Um. He is

1054
01:00:11,840 --> 01:00:21,480
Speaker 1: a very thoughtful giver. A thoughtful giver in bed dot

1055
01:00:21,520 --> 01:00:27,000
Speaker 1: dot dot and in real life. Okay, we can leave

1056
01:00:27,040 --> 01:00:32,000
Speaker 1: it at that. I mean, right, yeah, I don't know,

1057
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Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, I agree. It's just it's interesting

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Speaker 1: because um, like he really just kind of can hit

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Speaker 1: every alright, well, just stop talking. I was gonna say

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Speaker 1: every emotion like it can be very like sweet or

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Speaker 1: very not sweeter, you know what I mean. Like, I'm

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Speaker 1: just gonna range range. He's kind a wide range. I

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Speaker 1: feel like there's a subtle Doe double meaning there. If

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Speaker 1: we did this during truth or Drink, my answer would

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Speaker 1: be very different. It's just so fun to challenge um.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, I feel like that would be fun

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Speaker 1: to do that regularly, where we get questions and ask

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Speaker 1: them because it's interesting. It's like insightful, and I always

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Speaker 1: am curious if our our response or what we think

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Speaker 1: they're going to say, is what they say. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: feel pretty strong about the ones I knew. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: me too. I feel like it's you know, at two

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Speaker 1: years together, it's kind of like everything's out there that

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Speaker 1: you would like. We've talked about our feelings on everything,

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Speaker 1: like when we met, when we fell in love, when

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Speaker 1: I took it back, you know, I've we've talked about

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Speaker 1: all that stuff so much, so it's like we should

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Speaker 1: we should know the answers and you'all have been together

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Speaker 1: for like ten months now almost. Yeah. Well, thank them

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Speaker 1: both for their candor and the answering those questions. That

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Speaker 1: was very nice of them. That took him a while

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Speaker 1: to do. They'd really released it down and think about it.

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Speaker 1: So thanks. Did you respond to either of them? Red

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Speaker 1: Star sent me his directly and I did respond to him. Well.

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Speaker 1: I thanked him. And there were a few places he

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Speaker 1: didn't want to go and I assured him we would not.

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Speaker 1: And but I have not talked because those were forwarded

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Speaker 1: to me from Becca. Yeah, I'll connect to allay. Um.

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Speaker 1: That was so much fun. I love Olivia hold and

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Speaker 1: I love you, I love you all. I love you

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Speaker 1: all too. Um. We'll be back next week. Wait, yeah,

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Speaker 1: we're back every week? Are we? Are we not taking

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Speaker 1: a break? No? This is this is the Labor Day Show.

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Speaker 1: Labor Day weekend Show. Okay, so I can say Happy

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Speaker 1: Labor Day. Oh yeah, then we just celebrate our ten months.

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Speaker 1: Oh celebrated it. So embarrassing. Alright, Happy Labor Day everybody.

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Speaker 1: We love you and we will be back next week. Nah,