WEBVTT - Manifest With Your Kids 0:00:00.640 --> 0:00:02.600 Hey y'all, Happy New Year. 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:06.680 It's our first episode of the motherfucking year. 0:00:06.880 --> 0:00:09.560 We made it. We made it at Chat Yay. 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:13.080 On this week's episode, we're going to be talking about 0:00:13.280 --> 0:00:17.680 our recent trip to Cabo, my psychedelic rebirth, our full 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:19.919 moon ceremony on January twenty. 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:22.560 Eighth, manifesting with our kids. 0:00:21.920 --> 0:00:25.600 And we have an update on our rescheduled LA Live 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:30.560 show happening on February thirteenth. So make sure you tune 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:53.040 into this episode and enjoy. 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:56.520 Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. 0:00:56.720 --> 0:01:01.280 I'm Erica and I'm Mela, and Happy New Year. 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:03.520 Happy New Year, everybody. 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:06.920 It's the new year. It's twenty twenty. 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:13.240 One, finite, fourteen years later, we are finally in twenty 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:16.760 twenty one, and I'm so motherfucking happy. 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:21.200 We both both Jamila and I came back from Mexico yesterday. 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:26.520 We had an epic Mexican journey, epic, and I'm just 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:30.039 so grateful that I took time for myself, that you 0:01:30.120 --> 0:01:33.000 took time for yourself to recharge. 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:35.720 And enter into this new day. 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:44.200 With positivity and hopefulness, gratitude, all the things. 0:01:44.200 --> 0:01:47.240 Speaking of hopefulness, gratitude and all the things, and in 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:50.600 New Year, we are gonna do some new shit. We 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:54.440 decided that we're going to start opening every show pulling 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:57.400 a Tarot card or a goddess card. 0:01:57.240 --> 0:01:58.280 Or saying an affirmation. 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:01.360 We're just going to start mending some positivity at the 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:02.080 top of the show. 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:06.600 So what have we pulled today, ma'am? We pulled the 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:12.520 five of Swords reversed. No, baby, that's not five, sorry, 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:13.679 eight of swords. 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:18.560 Well, can't count eight of swords reversed. So when I 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:21.840 pulled this card, it looks really scary because it's a 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:27.359 woman bound tight with eight swords surrounding her and blindfolded 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:30.000 and blindfolded, and she looks like it doesn't look good 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:30.280 for her. 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:36.200 It's a look you great, But I actually and I 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:37.360 also pulled it in reversed. 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:39.400 So if you guys are new to tarot card reading 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:42.919 and taro, basically you shuffle the cards, you pull a card, 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:46.200 and sometimes that card is either upright or it's upside down, 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.040 and depending on if it's upright or upside down, the 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:50.360 meaning can be different. 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:51.600 So this one was. 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:57.799 Pulled upside down and reversed. It means self limiting beliefs, 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:05.080 inner critique, releasing negative and open to new perspectives. This 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:07.600 description says The Eight of Swords shows a woman bound 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:11.280 and blindfolded, eight swords around her, seemingly trapping her in place, 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:14.560 a symbol of the limiting thoughts, beliefs, and mindset that 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:18.359 prevent her from moving forward in her life. However, look closer, 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:22.000 if the woman removed her blindfold, she would quickly realize 0:03:22.000 --> 0:03:24.560 that she can escape her predicament by letting go of 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:29.560 her limiting beliefs and establishing a new, more empowered mindset. 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:32.840 The water pooled at her feet suggests that her intuition 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:35.560 might see what her eyes cannot. 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:41.760 Some things look scary, but really, are your blessing coming 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:42.040 to you? 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:42.600 Yes? 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:44.880 If you're watching this video on Patreon, you can see 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:47.880 the card that we just pulled, and it's a little screen. 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:49.640 It's a little spooky, but actually I feel like it's 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:53.360 very fitting. I feel like it's very fitting releasing. You know, 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:58.120 first of all, walking in your intuition, understanding your intuition, 0:03:58.160 --> 0:03:59.680 which I know for me has been something that like 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:02.400 I've been journeying in and is like really. 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.400 My my whole. 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:10.800 Goal for twenty twenty one is really tapping in and 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:15.000 trusting my intuition wholeheartedly, because very rarely am I ever 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:21.400 wrong when I'm really following it and it says what 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:32.839 does it say? Releasing wait, establishing a new, more empowered mindset. 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:37.240 And if that is not more accurate, then this motherfucking 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:40.120 new year and this new week, I don't know what is. 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:43.119 I feel renewed as fuck. 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:47.800 When I came back into the States last night and 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.440 this morning, I was feeling like pressures rising how I 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:52.040 get really anxious, and I. 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:54.240 Was like, no, nope, not doing it. I'm in a 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:57.200 good place. So I'm just I'm happy that we pulled 0:04:57.240 --> 0:04:59.640 that card. It's accurate. I hope that means something to 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:06.440 everyone else listening at home. I honest I went. 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:09.719 To Mexico a week before Erica, so I've been gone 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:10.440 like two weeks. 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:11.960 I missed Christmas with. 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:13.960 My kid, and I was feeling guilty about it, but 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:16.679 I went to go meet some of our really great 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:19.400 friends down in Mexico who invited me down to do 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:20.159 some work with them. 0:05:21.240 --> 0:05:22.520 Honestly, I didn't know very well. 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:26.920 I know Ariel from my little Yoni if you haven't 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:30.880 checked out that episode of ours, she my little stuffed 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:33.200 my vagina stuffed Animal. 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:35.200 My Little Stuff, Vagina Animal, No. 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:38.799 My Aunt, my Stuffs for my Stuff. 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:43.960 Something about stuff, animals and vaginas episode My Little NONI 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:48.720 creator founder and her amazing husband. I didn't know them 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:50.080 at all, and I want to spend a week with 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:51.360 them on Christmas Week. 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:53.080 And I was really going out on a whim. But 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:55.360 if you know me, you know that's like my shit. 0:05:56.080 --> 0:06:01.200 I just be like, okay, And honestly, it was maybe 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:06.200 the best, the best decision of the year for me 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:11.040 of last twenty twenty. I had like an amazing experience 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:11.479 with them. 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:13.320 They are married. 0:06:13.400 --> 0:06:15.279 They let me be in their marriage for a week 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:19.279 because basically we were in trouble. They treated me so 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:25.760 nice and we had this amazing ceremony, this psychedelic ceremony, 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:31.880 and when I say I met God and she was 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:36.919 me it was crazy. You guys, I've done psychedelics, but 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.960 never ever, ever, ever, have had an experience like this. 0:06:40.040 --> 0:06:42.360 I just feel like it was so God sent. 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:44.719 And I'm going to talk more about it on Patreon 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:47.120 because I get really into it when I talk about it, 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:49.800 and I want to make the whole episode about my psychedelics. 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:51.800 Yeah, you got to hear matter of fact, I feel 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:53.480 like you needed to do a whole ass roll up 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.799 on Patreon about it, because you need to do the moaning. 0:06:57.240 --> 0:07:01.240 So you need to do the moaning breathwork that you 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:05.280 forced everyone to do in Cabo domi La everywhere she 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:07.440 went was fucking moaning. 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:09.040 Let me explain, Let me explain. 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:13.320 So, Okay, our friends are very hippie, very hippie people, 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:16.920 very hippie whites. They like do Burning Man, some of 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:20.480 my favorite people actually, So the entire time I was 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:22.400 in their space, it was just us three in like 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:25.280 a little beautiful Mexican cottage, and we're doing a lot 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:25.920 of bodywork. 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:27.880 And I didn't realize in the moment that we were 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:28.560 doing bodywork. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:31.240 I was just going with how I felt and knowing that, 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:33.080 knowing that I wasn't being judged doing it. 0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:37.240 So it's like a lot of stretching, a lot of dancing, 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:38.320 dancing however. 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:44.520 Way you want, and a lot of like like looking 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:49.840 at the ocean, like eating food like so good, just 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:52.960 really being in the moment and being present in my body. 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:56.680 And honestly, it was basically one of the best week 0:07:56.760 --> 0:07:59.760 long body high experiences I've ever had. I didn't hold 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:02.440 back anything because they did it, and we just did 0:08:02.520 --> 0:08:05.840 so much wild dancing by fires, so much wild dancing 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:08.240 in public, so much wild dancing alone naked. 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:09.800 It was fucking amazing. 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:12.200 So by the time my friends came to visit me 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:14.880 a week later, I was trying to encourage them all. 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:17.160 To moan with me and get in tune with the 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:20.280 like Home of Earth and so Erica. 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:21.600 She got into it. 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:23.440 So don't try to front on it. I'm not friendly 0:08:23.480 --> 0:08:24.520 on it, not funny. 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.520 I'm just telling you that you were on a mum, 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:31.320 So let's just do a mission with everyone, no matter what. 0:08:31.520 --> 0:08:34.000 And everybody's not into it, especially black people apparently, but 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:36.079 I want to do it one time for the people 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:36.400 with me. 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:37.560 Come on, bring it in. 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:54.520 So I hope you, wherever you're at, you did that 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:56.960 with us, because it's great. I don't know what the 0:08:57.000 --> 0:09:00.000 fuck I tapped into doing that shit for a week long, 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.240 but I was like I by the end of the trip, 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:07.080 I had I birthed myself and I was one with 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:10.720 the Earth and everyone else. And so I encourage everyone 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:15.120 at home everywhere to start tapping in that way. And also, 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:16.520 I know, I don't know if you follow me on 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:18.959 Instagram at Mila Underscore Mapo. 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:21.240 I do a lot of bodywork with. 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:23.640 Luna on a daily basis where we just get crazy 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:25.760 and dance in our bedrooms and. 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:28.480 It's honestly, it's the key to life. 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:32.360 So if you could just like spread your arms, spread 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:35.760 your legs, do some floorwork, get crazy, dance, stretch, whatever 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:37.679 makes you feel good, that doesn't matter, if it looks good, 0:09:37.679 --> 0:09:39.120 if you have rhythm, it doesn't even matter. 0:09:39.160 --> 0:09:39.560 It just. 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:43.080 Getting into your body. 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:45.040 And it's really been a blessing, and so I just 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:46.880 thought I should share it with you all. I'll share 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:49.240 the rest on Patreon. So if you're not a patron, 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:50.959 there's so much. 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:53.120 More, guys, there's so much more. 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.160 Wait, I just want to go back really quickly because 0:09:56.160 --> 0:09:59.080 I went deeper into this card and actually I feel 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:03.240 like this needs to be so so the reverse of 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:06.600 eighth sword signals that skeletons in the closet need clearing out. 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:09.680 Allow yourself to let go of the old patterns of 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:13.720 behavior and belief systems holding you back. On the positive side, 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:15.920 when the eighth sword appears reversed, it can show that 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:19.280 you are releasing yourself from negative patterns and belief systems. 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:21.040 You can see the light at the end of the 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:24.920 tunnel and can create a more positive reality for yourself. 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:28.920 By letting go of those self limiting beliefs, you made 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:31.160 it through a difficult time and you are more open 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:34.080 to change in self acceptance, reflect on the work in 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:38.360 the past and change your perspective and approach, acknowledge the 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:40.920 options in front of you, and refuse to play the 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:44.720 role of the victim. Taking greater accountability for where you 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:46.320 are in life. 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:48.880 Girl, And if that is not, what the fuck we're 0:10:48.920 --> 0:10:49.840 on and where? 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:52.280 And so funny makes me think of Orlando, because Orlando 0:10:52.360 --> 0:10:54.760 kept saying that he or he's your accountability partner. 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:57.679 He did he did it, Remember he said that, He's like, 0:10:57.720 --> 0:11:00.720 we're working on accountability. Strip really said. 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:04.560 I was like, no, it's not my fault. No, yeah 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:04.880 he did. 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:08.520 I mean, I hear what I want to, but no, 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:11.480 but that I just want to read that because yes, 0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:13.520 letting go of old pattern and seeing the light at 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:15.079 the end of the tunnel. At the end, like the 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:17.720 last week of the year, I was kind of not 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:19.760 in a good place, like Jamila left me and my 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:22.000 best friend left and she was like having time in 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:24.240 her life, and meanwhile I was like fucking unraveling. 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:26.199 I was dying slowly and. 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:28.320 I was like, I'm the light, we are the bomb. 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:32.079 Don't worry. I was in the most hippie, fucking, energetic, 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:34.120 fucking bliss. She's like, I don't want to come. 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:36.240 I'm like, listen to your gut, but I think this 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:38.640 is a good idea. I think you need to get 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:41.920 down here in Mexico because there's something in there's something 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:45.120 in the air here, and I honestly like that that 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:52.000 psychedelic orgasm I'll call it I had. I literally saw 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:53.719 the light at the end of the tunnel. And when 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:56.320 I say, when I got out of it, I woke 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:59.880 up and I was like, I felt like I remembered 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:02.320 who I was. And I kept telling Erica that. But 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:05.600 there is something about the ending and the beginning of 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:10.040 this year, these years that and the alignment of Jupiter 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:14.079 and Saturn is are those the right ones? Whatever the 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:17.840 planets that recently aligned after like twelve hundred years, it 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:22.640 is such a magical time for women and for people. 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:25.520 If you are willing to release that old shit, it 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:28.960 is so motherfucking powerful. Where what we are about to 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:33.520 tap into as a community, as the wife ship, as 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:36.880 a tribe. It is so real and even first of all, 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:39.480 me and Erica, literally I don't know how the fuck 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:42.120 God made us the same people. I woke up this 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:43.960 morning and I was just like, I had this crazy 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:46.920 ass dream. But I've been having very weird dreams the 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:49.360 last couple of days, and some have been like really 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:54.600 violent me running from things. And she was like, oh 0:12:54.600 --> 0:12:58.040 my god, me too. I've had similar dreams, and. 0:12:57.840 --> 0:12:58.800 It's the release. 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:02.480 It's the release of these old things that is like 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:05.320 shedding in our subconscious to get to this new place. 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:09.160 So if anybody is experiencing any of those things, please. 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:11.760 Dm us, share, email us and share. 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:14.880 We also want to incorporate more of everybody else's stories 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:16.200 and advice this season. 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:19.079 We don't have seasons but this year, and. 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:22.440 So please pour in because we are a community, we 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:24.080 are a collective, and we want to hear from you 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:26.800 because there's no way that we're aligned and we're not 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:28.080 all aligned together. 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:31.800 Right, absolutely, yes, please please share. I want to hear 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:34.000 positive stories. I want to hear I want to hear 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:35.360 all of them, and I want to share them. I 0:13:35.400 --> 0:13:36.520 want to share your guys with stories. 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:39.200 If you need advice, hit us. We're not like advice experts, 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:40.559 but we try. 0:13:42.360 --> 0:13:43.920 Do you have an affirmation for today? 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:47.160 Speaking okay, so speaking of affirmation, speaking of all the shit, 0:13:47.200 --> 0:13:48.960 that's all the shit that we're on right now, right 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:53.720 we really wanted to get into enter into the year 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:59.679 really being intentional, really tapping into you know, our manifestation powers. 0:14:00.240 --> 0:14:03.520 And one of those things is, you know, talking nice 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:04.120 to yourself. 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:06.480 You know, I know some of our episodes, you know, 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:08.920 they get deep, they get heavy, they get hard, but 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.600 at least if we can start the episode on a 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:14.280 positive note, like I want to do that because I 0:14:14.320 --> 0:14:17.920 need reminders. I need I need affirmations weekly and if 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:20.040 I can help you guys have affirmations. 0:14:20.080 --> 0:14:23.000 You don't. They don't have to be bees, but I 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:23.280 want to. 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:26.320 I really want to encourage everyone listening to try to 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:29.280 have one affirmation a week and remember it all week. 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:31.640 One of my affirmations that I heard while I was away, 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:34.720 and when again during my ceremony, you gotta hear about 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:35.040 this all year. 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:36.080 It's highlight of my life. 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:43.480 Is you know that I welcome the lessons and the growth, 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:47.520 and I also know that they will be gentle lessons 0:14:47.520 --> 0:14:51.520 and growth. I want the lessons and the growth, And 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:53.960 I also would like them to be as gentle as possible, 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:56.240 because I think we're allowed to ask for that. And 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:57.960 I think another thing is a lot of. 0:14:57.920 --> 0:14:59.840 Us go into the new year. 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:04.600 We're having these resolutions, these resolutions, these resolutions, and by 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:07.240 fucking March, we don't hear about the resolutions no more. 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:10.720 But the difference between you know, a resolution and versus 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:15.120 an intention, I think is the compassion that you you 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:18.640 allow yourself to have with an intention versus a resolution. 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:22.240 Resolutions always feel so daunting and like scary, and we 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:25.120 must accomplish them, and if you don't, you failed the year. 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:27.320 You know, it's like, did you accomplish your resolutions from 0:15:27.400 --> 0:15:27.800 last year? 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:28.400 Probably not? 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:29.240 What were they? 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:29.560 I don't know? 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:32.480 Maybe you maybe because we do, like we speak so 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:34.960 much more compassionately and gently to ourselves, and we when 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:36.360 we set intentions. 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:38.120 And how we speak to ourselves and the words and 0:15:38.160 --> 0:15:41.080 the language that we choose to use is so fucking powerful. 0:15:41.320 --> 0:15:44.720 And like, even I this is a random It seems 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:47.600 small and silly, but this morning I was rushing to 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:51.240 get here and maybe because like I've moved recently, but 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:53.040 I just think it's just me, and actually it hasn't 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:54.080 because I was going to move. When I was doing 0:15:54.080 --> 0:15:54.520 this before. 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:57.960 One of the things I was struggling, like probably a 0:15:58.080 --> 0:15:59.840 year and a half ago, and I was talking to 0:15:59.840 --> 0:16:02.880 it therapists like kind of and I was just being 0:16:02.880 --> 0:16:05.320 hard on myself about the things I wasn't accomplishing. I 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:08.400 was sleeping in really hardcore and like just not getting 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:11.440 shit done. And she told me, she's like, just start small. 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:15.600 She told me, make your bed every day. And I 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:18.160 was like, that's stupid. She's not helping me. And she's like, 0:16:18.160 --> 0:16:20.080 make your bed every day. Just start there. And you 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:22.480 know what, today and every day I've made my bed 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:24.760 for the last six months. Not because of that conversation, 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.000 but this morning as I was rushing out the house, 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.680 and I was like making that bed really quickly and 0:16:29.680 --> 0:16:31.240 straightening up because I know when I come back to 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:33.160 my house, I want to come back to my house 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:34.000 looking a certain way. 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:38.360 I was like, huh, look at that there, that subconscious 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:38.920 one word. 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:40.840 Like a year and a half ago. 0:16:41.360 --> 0:16:44.400 Somehow, I wake up every day before my alarm goes off, 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:46.240 usually like six or thirty five in the morning, usually 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:49.840 texting Erica, and I make my bed and it's those 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:53.200 little things that I didn't like beat myself up about, 0:16:53.240 --> 0:16:57.000 but just slightly was compassionate and just made an intention 0:16:57.080 --> 0:16:59.240 of doing these little things that has really helped me 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:01.400 come full circle. 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:04.600 And it's stupid and small. It's not stupid, it's important 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:07.320 and it's small, but you know, it felt like a 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:07.960 win for me. 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:10.240 No, I think that's a really great tip. 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:12.560 I think that's a really great tip of some of 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:14.200 like you don't know where to start. 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:15.879 It can just be as simple as that. 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:18.680 And for me too, like coming home and like coming 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:21.240 back to like a made bed. It's something that like 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.120 you take for granted until you go to a hotel 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:24.159 and then. 0:17:24.000 --> 0:17:26.160 You're like, oh shit, I came back, my shit is made. 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:27.960 Oh I feel good. You're like, why the fuck do 0:17:28.000 --> 0:17:29.800 I feel good that my bed is made? And it's like, 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:31.800 because it's that simple sometimes. Yeah. 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:36.439 So my affirmation is I'm committed to setting intentions that 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:39.640 will better myself and I'm committed to being compassionate with myself. 0:17:40.600 --> 0:17:42.120 I like that, I'm gonna do the same thing. 0:17:42.240 --> 0:17:46.080 I am committed to setting intentions with myself and committed 0:17:46.160 --> 0:17:47.960 to being compassionate with myself. 0:17:56.920 --> 0:18:02.280 Anyway, the rest of our Mexico trip was christ So 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:03.280 I guess the cat's out. 0:18:03.160 --> 0:18:03.560 Of the bag. 0:18:03.680 --> 0:18:04.840 You said Orlando's name? 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:07.000 Oh was it? I mean, I'm pretty sure everyone was 0:18:07.000 --> 0:18:09.679 that only close friends and no. I got a slock girl, Like, 0:18:09.720 --> 0:18:11.520 it's everywhere? What do you mean? Like, what the fuck 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:11.960 do you mean? 0:18:12.000 --> 0:18:15.760 It was on your personal everybody's not on Instagram? 0:18:15.880 --> 0:18:18.159 Okay, well, and not everyone knows who Orlando is listening? 0:18:18.920 --> 0:18:23.120 Yeah, I have a new boo. Let's call him big 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:24.160 Booty Bee. 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:26.399 Big. 0:18:26.680 --> 0:18:28.560 It's a big booty. Okay, you got something better? 0:18:28.720 --> 0:18:31.959 Only fans by Okay, only fans Bay or I don't know. 0:18:32.440 --> 0:18:34.160 This is so hard. 0:18:36.000 --> 0:18:38.280 Uh, what's a good name for him? What should we 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:40.480 call him? Bad bitch? 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.760 But he's a bad bitch? 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:44.199 Oh god, are you doing that? 0:18:44.560 --> 0:18:45.320 He loves it. 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:48.200 That's that's what poetry Bay used to say about himself, 0:18:48.200 --> 0:18:51.199 and I like literally he did. Oh yeah, I hate that. 0:18:51.280 --> 0:18:53.399 I hate when men call themselves bad bitches. It's like 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:55.119 a pet peep of mine, like stay in your lane, 0:18:55.280 --> 0:18:58.440 or you don't get everything. Okay, calm the full also 0:18:58.480 --> 0:18:59.320 get to be a bad bitch and. 0:18:59.280 --> 0:18:59.840 A good Okay. 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:03.560 I'm like, okay, whoa relax? 0:19:04.520 --> 0:19:05.199 Sorry Orlando? 0:19:05.640 --> 0:19:08.800 Now, Oh my God, I support you Booth. 0:19:09.119 --> 0:19:13.320 First of all, Orlando's our fellow podcast homie from Hardersoft, 0:19:13.760 --> 0:19:16.560 who also has only fans. They have only fans, so 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:18.800 I guess, for lack of better terms, right now, he 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:19.639 can be only fans. 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:22.800 But he met me in Mexico like a. 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:26.720 Couple of days before Erica, and then my other three 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:29.600 best friends met me, and then like apparently everybody in 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:31.920 the world was in Cabo San Lucas, which was great. 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:35.040 Me and Me and Jamila went to Coachella in Mexico, 0:19:35.400 --> 0:19:38.560 so we have relived Coachella. We thought we missed it, 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:40.840 but then the universe said, no, no, no, bitches, we 0:19:40.880 --> 0:19:42.639 know you need Coachella. We're about to give it to 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:44.800