WEBVTT - Keep things short with natural end points

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to keep it short with natural endpoints. With

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<v Speaker 1>careful scheduling, you can potentially avoid conversations running a lot

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<v Speaker 1>longer than you want them to. So. I was talking

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<v Speaker 1>recently with someone who mentioned always calling a particular relative

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<v Speaker 1>during a very short car trip. She could say hello

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<v Speaker 1>and check in see how things were going, but the

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<v Speaker 1>trip was going to end in a few minutes. This

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<v Speaker 1>provided a natural endpoint and avoided any worries that this relative,

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<v Speaker 1>who was known for being a bit talkative, would be

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<v Speaker 1>able to extend the conversation too long. This made the

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<v Speaker 1>conversations feel more pleasant for her, and because of that,

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<v Speaker 1>she kept calling. I think this is wise. I know

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<v Speaker 1>people have varied feelings about talking on the phone in

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<v Speaker 1>the car, but in general, it might be possible to

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<v Speaker 1>schedule conversations that you would like to keep short to

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<v Speaker 1>times when there are natural endpoints. You could call someone

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<v Speaker 1>you want to speak with briefly in the ten minutes

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<v Speaker 1>before a meeting starts. You could call someone from the

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<v Speaker 1>boarding area of a plane when you are about to

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<v Speaker 1>get on The idea is to identify points in your

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<v Speaker 1>schedule where there are natural transitions to something else that

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<v Speaker 1>you are going to need to do and there is

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<v Speaker 1>not much to be done about that. Then when you

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<v Speaker 1>are beginning the conversation, you can mention that you need

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<v Speaker 1>to be off in ten minutes for whatever the reason is,

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<v Speaker 1>and you are so excited to talk and catch up. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>obviously you can always just get off the phone and

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<v Speaker 1>you can tell people you only have ten minutes, even

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<v Speaker 1>if you have all the time in the world. But

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<v Speaker 1>I know that many of us have a hard time

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<v Speaker 1>doing that. Boundaries can be challenging, and sometimes people push back,

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<v Speaker 1>so conversations can go on for a while. The problem

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<v Speaker 1>with that is that then you pull away from having

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<v Speaker 1>conversations that you don't actually have to have. It is

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<v Speaker 1>hard to motivate yourself to make a call when you

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<v Speaker 1>know it is going to take an hour on a

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<v Speaker 1>day when you don't have an hour. Calling on a

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<v Speaker 1>short car trip works because then you do it, there

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<v Speaker 1>is something else beyond you enforcing the boundary. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to clock in at work or go to your first meeting.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to go get on that train. So if

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<v Speaker 1>there's anything you would like to keep short. Look to

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<v Speaker 1>schedule it at a time with a natural endpoint. You

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<v Speaker 1>may be more likely to make it happen when you

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<v Speaker 1>know it won't go on forever. In the meantime, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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<v Speaker 1>most of our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast.

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