Speaker 1: Another thing about work.
Speaker 2: Partnerships, lawyers, agents, real estate agents, contractors, designers, construction, admit
Speaker 2: what you don't know. I run into so many business
Speaker 2: problems because people are so either insecure or paranoid or
Speaker 2: think they're going to get fired or in fear and
Speaker 2: have to prove that they know everything, that they act
Speaker 2: like they know everything, like you're doing a deal and
Speaker 2: they just have answers for everything. You're doing this, and
Speaker 2: they have answers for everything. You're traveling somewhere. They have
Speaker 2: to act like they know everything. You're designing something. Nobody
Speaker 2: knows everything, and don't ever assume anyone's smarter than you.
Speaker 2: And I like to be surrounded by people, whether it's
Speaker 2: the president of my company, an agent or representative, a doctor,
Speaker 2: that will say what they don't know. Of course they
Speaker 2: should know many things, but they will say what they
Speaker 2: don't know. A lawyer like I, listen, I haven't seen
Speaker 2: this before. We will figure it out together. I don't
Speaker 2: exactly understand this, what do you think? Or let's all
Speaker 2: crowdsource and I'll be then we can have a workshop
Speaker 2: and talk about it. Because most times I'll be like, right, listen,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna call three people, and it could literally be
Speaker 2: I'm calling Mark Cuban, I'm calling this big powerhouse, I'm
Speaker 2: calling Steve Cohen, I'm calling you know some of my
Speaker 2: powerhouse women that I know, and I'm gonna ask and
Speaker 2: I'm in a crowdsource and I'll get back to you
Speaker 2: and we're gonna figure it out. Or I'm gonna call
Speaker 2: this lawyer, or I'm gonna call this class action lawyer,
Speaker 2: or i'm gonna call this one. I'm gonna call this
Speaker 2: intellectual property. I'll fucking figure it out. If you don't know,
Speaker 2: you better act somebody, Okay, do not act like you
Speaker 2: know everything. It's immature, it's insecure, and it's for losers.
Speaker 2: And as we get into dating sometimes this guy was
Speaker 2: this guy on social who gives dating advice. He basically
Speaker 2: text his own back immediately and said like, I'm not
Speaker 2: gonna play games and I'm gonna text you back right
Speaker 2: away because of blah blah blah. And I put in
Speaker 2: his comments. I was like, dude, you don't need to
Speaker 2: say all that. You need to be all that. Like
Speaker 2: if someone texts you in a weird way and they
Speaker 2: are not responsive or they seem like it could take
Speaker 2: like twenty four hours, Like I had a guy that
Speaker 2: had his cadences to text and then like you won't
Speaker 2: hear from him again. You'll respond, you may not hear
Speaker 2: from him for twenty four hours, could be eight hours,
Speaker 2: could be the next day, and they'll be like, oh, hey, sorry,
Speaker 2: was that my kids?
Speaker 1: Whatever?
Speaker 2: It's like, really, you don't have fingers. You're a successful person.
Speaker 2: I know how successful youyre, because it wouldn't be fucking
Speaker 2: going out with you if you weren't successful. But you
Speaker 2: don't have fingers in a telephone. Like fuck, you're a
Speaker 2: fucking loser.
Speaker 1: So I don't care. I dismiss those people because they're
Speaker 1: fucking losers.
Speaker 2: And I text back right away because I'm a grown
Speaker 2: ass woman who text back right away. I'm not gonna
Speaker 2: go if you go jump off a bridge, I'm not
Speaker 2: jumping off if you go after a moron, I'm not
Speaker 2: acting like a moron. A text right away because I'm
Speaker 2: secure and I'm a grown ass woman, and obviously we'll
Speaker 2: get to where we need to get to. Meaning if
Speaker 2: I text right away and you go every time four days,
Speaker 2: you're never gonna hear from me again anyway.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, yeah, anybody got time for this. I'm not.
Speaker 2: And again this is because this person is used to
Speaker 2: dealing with thirty five year olds. We've talked about that before.
Speaker 2: So here's what goes on with the thirty five year
Speaker 2: old or the young women. And here's what goes on
Speaker 2: why women need to work for their own money. Why
Speaker 2: you need to have financial independence. I don't give a
Speaker 2: shit about any of you that are going to be
Speaker 2: like it's a valuable job to be a stay at
Speaker 2: home mom, because it is.
Speaker 1: I know that. I agree with that. It's not just
Speaker 1: a lie.
Speaker 2: It is harder to be a mom and manage multiple
Speaker 2: children than it is to work and be an entrepreneur.
Speaker 2: I know all that. All this is true. It is gnarly,
Speaker 2: it is hardcore. It is a dance. It is organizational hell.
Speaker 2: It is insufferable. It's very difficult to run a household,
Speaker 2: to cook, to clean, to have children, to do the costumes,
Speaker 2: to do it all, to be a wife, to have
Speaker 2: sex look good, asked and answered. And it's not just
Speaker 2: a pat like bullshit check the box thing.
Speaker 1: I know that. Here's what I also know.
Speaker 2: Women need to be financially independent so they have options.
Speaker 2: Something goes sideway. Someone dies as you were married to
Speaker 2: was lying to you about your finances, or you're just
Speaker 2: not good at them and you didn't understand them. Somebody
Speaker 2: loses their jobs, someone gets hit by a car, something happens,
Speaker 2: God forbid, there's a medical issue, and you guys need fine,
Speaker 2: you need money, and it's not enough because you weren't
Speaker 2: planning for this. Something happens, somebody gets arrested. You need
Speaker 2: to defend them. Things happen in life that costs money
Speaker 2: that you didn't plan for. If I've done ten renovations
Speaker 2: and I know that every single one had unforeseen costs
Speaker 2: in something that was locked in life has unforseeable costs,
Speaker 2: So you must plan for a disaster.
Speaker 1: But guess what else? Guess what else?
Speaker 2: If you're dating and you don't have money, and you
Speaker 2: see the shiny objects and you hear about a great guy.
Speaker 2: He's super rich, he's a prince, he's a mogul, he's
Speaker 2: a finance guy.
Speaker 1: He's just rich. He's a doctor, he's got a nice car. Whatever.
Speaker 2: It changes the way you act when you feel like
Speaker 2: they're running the show because they've got the money. Because
Speaker 2: guess what, he or she who makes the gold makes
Speaker 2: the rules. You gotta really understand this is for the
Speaker 2: moms that have the young daughters, and this is for
Speaker 2: the young daughters. He who makes the gold makes the rules.
Speaker 2: And there's a dynamic because I see it all the
Speaker 2: time with the girls, like panting and waiting around for
Speaker 2: the gift. I just heard from someone the other day
Speaker 2: that said, like the girl would like every time they
Speaker 2: were going on a date, tell the guy to meet
Speaker 2: her a store so he could buy her stuff. Like
Speaker 2: girls are like gasping and guess what else I've been
Speaker 2: the girl, the broke girl hoping not only that someone
Speaker 2: would pay the bill, that someone would buy me something.
Speaker 2: I'm in a store, you're sort of hinting, you're sort
Speaker 2: of hoping, you're sort of looking, and you feel like
Speaker 2: a desperado. And they can feel it and they know it,
Speaker 2: and it gives them the power. And then it gives
Speaker 2: them the power in the dating dynamic. With the texting,
Speaker 2: you're texting back more often and they don't have to
Speaker 2: because they have the power. They're the ones running the show.
Speaker 2: They can tell you to be ready in an hour
Speaker 2: or tomorrow, or where they're going or where we're going
Speaker 2: on vacation. Why because they run the fucking show, and
Speaker 2: there's a power struggle, and it ends up being resentment
Speaker 2: on all sides. The guy doesn't resent the girl because
Speaker 2: he doesn't respect the fact that he just says, bark
Speaker 2: and you bark, sit and you sit, run and you run.
Speaker 2: And it also becomes boring because the guy wants somebody
Speaker 2: to talk to. And if your whole identity is just
Speaker 2: buying shit and you sit with the girls and talk
Speaker 2: about recipes and shopping, it gets real boring, real fast.
Speaker 2: So be a woman who has your own money, and
Speaker 2: guess what, don't spend it. If you fucking think that
Speaker 2: with any of the men that I date, I spend
Speaker 2: money on the date or on the things, you're gravely mistaken.
Speaker 2: But guess what, I don't need them for the things,
Speaker 2: and I can buy anything I want. And because of that,
Speaker 2: I don't want anything, because I know I can. Half
Speaker 2: the thing is when you can't afford it, you kind
Speaker 2: of want someone else to get it for you. When
Speaker 2: you have the money and you can afford it, you
Speaker 2: really don't give a shit. As I've said sixty five times,
Speaker 2: I've gotten rid of like seventy percent of my stuff.
Speaker 2: I buy shoes on fucking Amazon and then give them
Speaker 2: to the person that's like you know, at the hotel
Speaker 2: because I no longer need the flex of the super
Speaker 2: expensive things to make me feel secure, So I definitely
Speaker 2: don't need anybody else to buy me the shit. Once
Speaker 2: you have your own money, you can afford it. You
Speaker 2: calm down. It's like the money noise. It's like food noise,
Speaker 2: but it's money noise. It calms down, takes a while,
Speaker 2: but you have it. No One else is in control.
Speaker 2: So when the rich guys that I am thinking off
Speaker 2: the top of my head text me and they're big
Speaker 2: baller shop callers, okay, could make your life. We're talking yachts, planes, trains, automobiles.
Speaker 2: They will text and ask you something and then like
Speaker 2: you won't hear from them for a day or two.
Speaker 2: You'll be like, you're fucking in your mind. You're like
Speaker 2: nobody can and they're in shock that I couldn't care less.
Speaker 2: There's no like I'll give a one word answer because
Speaker 2: I don't care. But I can tell you that if
Speaker 2: I was thirty seven, broke and needed a guy for anything,
Speaker 2: I would be panicked. I would have anxiety. I would
Speaker 2: wonder why they're not texting me, I'd think, oh my god,
Speaker 2: is this my Is this the one that's gonna take
Speaker 2: care of me? Is this the one that's gonna save me? Well,
Speaker 2: guess what, I saved myself. I don't need any of that.
Speaker 2: So be that girl. And then if you decide you
Speaker 2: want to stay at home, great, you have a skill set,
Speaker 2: you have a nest egg, do whatever the fuck you want,
Speaker 2: but have options. Options are always good on a menu
Speaker 2: on a vacation, for business and for your financial security.
Speaker 2: So I was the other day waking up and I
Speaker 2: was thinking about Jennifer Aniston. There's no reason why I
Speaker 2: was thinking about Jennifer Aniston, and how I don't know her.
Speaker 2: I met her once for one second. She's successful, she's
Speaker 2: an actress. She was married to Brad Pitt. She has
Speaker 2: had an extraordinary career in the sense that she is
Speaker 2: exceptionally famous and more than other people, not unlike me,
Speaker 2: actually in ways more than other people. On her show,
Speaker 2: which was an iconic show, but it was still the
Speaker 2: one show, and she hasn't had anything else be as
Speaker 2: iconic as that show. But like she's the one, it's
Speaker 2: more well known, and she's Jennifer Anniston, it's just she's
Speaker 2: an A list star, and she's gotten to be an
Speaker 2: a list star by wearing her hat the same way
Speaker 2: every single time and this strapless sheath dress and she's
Speaker 2: got her own just like way about her. And she
Speaker 2: has been in relationships and married and never had a
Speaker 2: kid and is not married and is about my age.
Speaker 2: I remember once seeing her as a struggling actress before
Speaker 2: she was famous at Sue Plantation. If I ever run
Speaker 2: into her, I'm going to just say, will you can someone?
Speaker 2: Just can the internet just ask her? Did she use
Speaker 2: to go to sup Plantation? Because I'm pretty sure it
Speaker 2: was her, And she had a look like she looked
Speaker 2: like a Hollywood actress before she was, and I always
Speaker 2: remembered her, and like later when she became her, I
Speaker 2: was like, I think I used to see that girl
Speaker 2: at supe Plantation. I just need someone to ask her.
Speaker 2: So I wonder if the Internet tries to impose on No,
Speaker 2: I don't wonder. I know like she probably got to
Speaker 2: a point in her life where she was like, I
Speaker 2: don't think I want this anymore. If she wanted to
Speaker 2: have kids, she could have had a kid on her own.
Speaker 2: She didn't want to have a kid, she didn't want
Speaker 2: to be married. And I'm finding that there are so
Speaker 2: many women my age who it's not that they can't,
Speaker 2: they don't want to, and society for different reasons. They're younger,
Speaker 2: they don't know like, oh wow, it's weird, weird she
Speaker 2: never had a kid, weird she never got married. It's
Speaker 2: not weird, it's what she wanted. And also, like or
Speaker 2: people her own age that are married, they either are
Speaker 2: so happy they can't imagine she doesn't want what they have,
Speaker 2: they're so bored they want company, or they're miserable and
Speaker 2: they just like want to act like it's the only
Speaker 2: thing going. And I'm not saying she's happy, and I'm
Speaker 2: not saying she's unhappy. I'm just saying for some reason,
Speaker 2: she came up as someone who's done it her way,
Speaker 2: and I know that she could have gotten married and
Speaker 2: could have had a kid. And the headline is that
Speaker 2: like the world and the internet imposes what they think.
Speaker 1: People should have to be happy.
Speaker 2: And I think, I bet she just is living the
Speaker 2: life that she wants to live. And they are women
Speaker 2: that I meet my age all the time that are like,
Speaker 2: I don't want someone fucking with my peace, like I
Speaker 2: don't want it. It's very popular for everyone to impose
Speaker 2: what they think we should want. I'm not there yet.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I don't want it, but the thought
Speaker 1: has occurred to me. The thought has occurred to me.
Speaker 2: Like I find myself now in the ozembic of dating,
Speaker 2: where it's like I don't know the appaths, I don't care. Yes,
Speaker 2: I went out with a really nice guy on Friday, successful,
Speaker 2: beyond your wildest dreams, tall, funny, nice whatever. Has text
Speaker 2: he wants to get together again, but he's not frothing,
Speaker 2: just like a normal text exchange. And to say that
Speaker 2: I'm not frothing, I've finally gotten to the anti frothing stage.
Speaker 2: I don't really care. I don't even really care if
Speaker 2: I like you do, I not care. Like the days
Speaker 2: of like getting fixated, obsessed, like And that's the thing
Speaker 2: that's where a lot of people are our age.
Speaker 1: And so if there's there are women who are dating.
Speaker 2: People my age, ish, you gotta know that the person
Speaker 2: my age doesn't really give a fuck.
Speaker 1: They really don't. They just don't give a fuck,