WEBVTT - Second Cup: Clean for yourself

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to clean for yourself. Think of cleaning as

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<v Speaker 1>an act of kindness to your future self, because it

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<v Speaker 1>makes your home a place where you can lead the

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<v Speaker 1>life that you want. Today's tip comes from an episode

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<v Speaker 1>of n PR's Life Kit featuring a conversation between host

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<v Speaker 1>Mariel Cigara and Casey Davis, a therapist an author of

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<v Speaker 1>How to Keep House While Drowning. Casey Davis noted that

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<v Speaker 1>what we want from a space may vary from person

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<v Speaker 1>to person, but cleaning tends to let us use our space.

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<v Speaker 1>It is hard to enjoy great meals if you can't

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<v Speaker 1>find a clean plate, it is hard to relax and

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<v Speaker 1>wind down for bed if your bed is covered with

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<v Speaker 1>dirty laundry, and it is hard to stay on top

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<v Speaker 1>of papers and tasks when bills and mail could be anywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>With that in mind, cleaning isn't something required to impress

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<v Speaker 1>an external audience, and cleaning isn't a moral obligation. Having

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<v Speaker 1>a messy house doesn't make you a bad person any

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<v Speaker 1>more than having a clean house makes you a saint.

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<v Speaker 1>I imagine there are some mean people with spotless houses. Instead,

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<v Speaker 1>having a clean house simply lets you use your house.

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<v Speaker 1>In other words, you don't exist to serve your space.

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<v Speaker 1>It exists to serve you. What matters, according to Davis,

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<v Speaker 1>is whether my house is functioning and whether I'm able

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<v Speaker 1>to live the kind of life I want to inside

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<v Speaker 1>of it. I love that if you are able to

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<v Speaker 1>find what you need, gather with friends and family and

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<v Speaker 1>the way you want to relax, sleep well, get work done,

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<v Speaker 1>and do whatever else you ask of your home, then

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<v Speaker 1>your home is in good shape. Davis offers a helpful

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<v Speaker 1>shift in language that reinforces the reason for keeping house.

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<v Speaker 1>Rather than cleaning up after yourself, clean up for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>After all. You will appreciate clean clothes that you can wear.

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<v Speaker 1>You deserve a kitchen with plenty of clean dishes and

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<v Speaker 1>clear surfaces that make it easy and pleasant to cook.

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<v Speaker 1>You will feel healthier in a home free from dust

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<v Speaker 1>and animal hair other allergens. You will be more productive

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<v Speaker 1>in a workspace where you can do your job. Cleaning

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<v Speaker 1>sets the scene for your future self well. When you

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<v Speaker 1>think of cleaning your home as something that makes your

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<v Speaker 1>life better, you can let go of any sense of

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<v Speaker 1>guilt for not doing it well enough, for any sense

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<v Speaker 1>of obligation to clean to standards that don't serve you.

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<v Speaker 1>If you tried thinking of cleaning up as something you

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<v Speaker 1>do for yourself instead of an obligation, I'd love to

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<v Speaker 1>hear how it goes. You can reach me at Laura

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<v Speaker 1>at Laura vandercam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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