WEBVTT - An Unlikely Affair: Mercury Retrograde Made Me Do It 0:00:01.440 --> 0:00:06.000 Hi Amber, Hilalah, Welcome to an Unlikely Affair. 0:00:09.720 --> 0:00:13.160 Good morning everybody. Welcome to another episode of an Unlikely Affair. 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:17.840 Hi Loala, Oh Puffy Puffy first, Hello Amber. 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:22.720 Wow, I'm excited for this one. Oh man, I am 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:24.160 so stoked. Guys. 0:00:24.239 --> 0:00:27.480 Today we have Jill Winterstein on the podcast and if 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:30.960 you don't know her, you're going to and you will 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.680 thank us later. She is someone who has helped millions 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:39.040 of people reconnect with themselves through astrology. And it's not 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:41.920 like a psychic where she predicts the future, but she 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:46.160 has tools to help you with your healing, your self awareness, 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:51.639 and really just your spiritual growth. She is the founder 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:54.800 of an amazing company and brand called Spirit Daughter. She's 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:57.080 a best selling author and a spiritual teacher who has 0:00:57.080 --> 0:01:03.520 built an incredible community by making astrology just feel not 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:07.600 like woo woo crazy stuff, it's like deeply human and 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:08.400 I'm so excited. 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:10.920 She's going to read your chart, your natal chart, in 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:11.680 my natal chart. 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:14.560 So oh, because we're doing a podcast swap today, right. 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:17.720 Oh yes, that's right. Thank you for doing a swap. 0:01:18.040 --> 0:01:20.720 I love a good swap. All right, let's bring her in, Jill. 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:23.680 I'm so excited to have you on the podcast. I 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:26.920 have been following you on Instagram and like, you're my 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:33.080 daily dose of spiritual astrology and I've become a little obsessed. 0:01:33.240 --> 0:01:36.080 But first I want to ask you something. You were 0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:38.040 a neuroscientist before. 0:01:38.760 --> 0:01:42.120 Ah, that's my my background's in. Yeah, that's what I studied. 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:44.560 I was a norwege and a next researcher. Like this 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:49.960 is like over twenty years ago, so it's like a 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:52.800 previous lifetime at this point, and then I did a 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:56.240 whole bunch of other crazy stuff in between, you know 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:57.000 that and this. 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:00.320 I mean, that is so incredible to me. 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:03.680 So then what made you want to do the switch 0:02:03.840 --> 0:02:08.040 over to astrology? And basically, I mean what you're doing. 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:09.960 You probably don't realize this, or maybe you do, but 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:12.040 like really healing people's souls. 0:02:13.600 --> 0:02:17.040 I think I always wanted to do that in some way. 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:18.880 I mean, I guess thank you for that. 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:19.880 I like that. 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:24.520 I like that reframe of astrology. You know, I started 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:27.520 out in like I got into astrology when I was sixteen, 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:30.280 So I was a kid, you know, I just was 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:32.800 like a hippie hippie kid, and I would just go 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:35.560 to the woods with my crystals and my astrology books 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:37.919 and smoke weed and you know, vibe. 0:02:37.720 --> 0:02:39.080 Out my girl. 0:02:39.120 --> 0:02:44.160 Where did you grow up outside of Philadelphia? So Pennsylvania, 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:46.560 So I was like in the woods of PA and 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:49.720 like astrology wasn't cool back then. This is like nineteen 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:52.200 ninety six, so there was no Internet, there was no 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:56.160 social media, there was no spirit daughter following obviously, and 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:57.840 then you know, I was time to go to school, 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:00.959 and you know, my mom was like, you got it. 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:02.959 You can't go to school for astrology. I'm like, yeah, 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:04.520 I guess you're right. So I went to school for 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:10.760 psychology and then that landed me in studying neuroscience because 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:12.400 I was like, let's figure this out. And I really 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:15.160 was like on a quest to find out, like what 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:18.240 is human consciousness? Like why are we the way we are? 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:20.400 Why do we think the way we think? And that's why, 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:23.119 like it all kind of fit, like everything I've done 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:27.160 fits in that wheelhouse of like oh yeah, we're just 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:31.840 understanding human consciousness right through the lens of astrology, through 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:34.480 the lens of psychology, through the lens of neuroscience, through 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:38.920 the lens of Chinese medicine, aw Youurvedic medicine, like drugs, 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:43.520 pot LSD, like just whatever, like throw it all in there. 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:47.200 We're just looking at you know, human consciousness. 0:03:47.560 --> 0:03:50.560 So do you think that Okay, So if you started 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:54.440 first in studying, like you know, playing with crystals and 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.960 understanding the power and where they come from, and then 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:02.160 going into neuroscience, do you think that that solidified? Did 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:06.320 that help amplify your belief in astrology? 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:10.600 I think so. I mean I think that I think it. 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:12.760 I don't have an amplify my belief, but it gives 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:17.680 me like an interesting perspective because I believe in astrology. 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:19.240 At the end of the day, though, I believe in 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:22.599 the power of our minds, and like our brain is 0:04:22.640 --> 0:04:25.880 like the single most powerful tool we have, and so 0:04:26.000 --> 0:04:29.560 if we believe it, it's real. And so when you 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:32.640 pair that out with something like astrology, and like a 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:37.000 lot of astrologers who use it as predictive or as 0:04:37.080 --> 0:04:39.360 like doomsday or as this is the way it has 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:41.560 to be, I'm very much like, no, this is just 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:45.239 like a lens to view yourself through, and like choose 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:48.440 what you want and choose what works for you. And 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.720 that's why I think that's why my account's done so well, 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:53.480 because I put a very positive spin on like everything, 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:57.200 because I'm like, you know, if what we believe happens, like, 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:01.320 let's believe the best possible and you know, learn about 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:04.240 our son's signs and be like what resonates with me 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:07.520 from that? And what do I want to believe I'm 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:10.040 capable of through the lens of astrology. 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:11.880 I love that. 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:14.200 I love that because lately I don't know what's going on. 0:05:14.240 --> 0:05:16.360 So it's I just had my birthday this past weekend. 0:05:16.520 --> 0:05:19.200 Yes, happy birthday. I have your chart, so it's like, oh, 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:20.760 thank you. Oh yeah, that's right, thank you. 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:25.600 I have been struggling, like I've gone through some shit 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:27.480 in my life and I've struggled. I feel like I'm 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:30.240 doing it all over again. But it's now being condensed 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:33.600 in like three weeks. And this was prior to me 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:38.080 realizing it was Mercury was in retrograde? 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:43.240 But why why does it feel so heavy for our listeners? 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:46.280 Can you explain what it means? Because you see it 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:51.320 all over when that happens, like Mercury's in retrograde? Can 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:54.280 you break that down for dummies? What does that mean? 0:05:55.760 --> 0:06:00.400 Well, Mercury first of all all planets station retrograde point 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:03.560 throughout the year, except for vnsmrs, they kind of usually 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:06.479 skip a year, but they also station retrograde, just not 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:10.839 every single year, so it's not specific to Mercury. Mercury 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:13.440 just has like a really great PR person. And I 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:15.720 always say this because it's just like that's all me 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:19.919 here about. It happens three times a year, so it 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:23.440 does happen often than any of the other retrogrades, and 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:27.080 it lasts for about three weeks. And Mercury is the 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:32.720 planet of communication, so it rules exchange of energy, tech education, 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:35.840 leaving this whole setup we're doing now, you know, we're 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:39.479 speaking with each other. We had appointment times, meeting times, 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:42.640 like that's all under Mercury's umbrella, you know, all the 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:46.200 tech involved, zoom, any kind of like platform. That's why 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:50.480 they tend to go down during Mercury retrograde. Retrograde energy 0:06:50.680 --> 0:06:53.120 spins the energy of a planet inward, and so when 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:56.600 you're working with Mercury, which is a very outward facing energy, 0:06:57.839 --> 0:06:59.680 it spins an inward and kind of like creates some 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:04.760 and that's why it seems like everything technological breaks down, 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:07.560 you know, or we miss meetings or this misunderstandings or 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:12.840 miscommunications or text texts, you know, you know our ex 0:07:12.960 --> 0:07:16.040 texts us back. It's like a little tongue twister there. 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:20.800 So that like all you know happens during mercury retrograde 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:23.920 every time, and I hear about it is the is 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:25.520 the planet actually moving backwards? 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:25.640 No? 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:27.920 And so when you look at the sky it looks 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:31.720 like Mercury is moving backwards, it's actually not. It's an 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:35.160 optical illusion. So it's when like you know, when you're 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:38.360 passing a car, or like two trains are passing each 0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:40.880 other and you're on one and just as like the 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:43.800 one car train like overtakes the other, there's like that 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:48.400 split second or it seems like it's moving backward. That's 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:50.880 that's the phenomenon of mercury retrograde. So it's it's an 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:56.080 optical illusion, and everybody kind of blames becomes this catch 0:07:56.080 --> 0:07:59.400 all bucket where it's like anything that goes wrong, it's like, oh, 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:02.240 mercury grade. And so it is this like time to 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:06.000 kind of throw everything in that bucket. And I have 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:09.840 definitely seen in charting it where it's like oh yeah, 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:13.520 that tech issue comes up, Oh yeah, like misunderstanding and 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:16.640 like oh yeah, the X resurfaces from the past, like 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:20.000 always throwing mercy retrograde. So I think some things are like, 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:24.040 there's something to this, and I think other things are, oh, 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:27.520 we've got like something happening, Like let's just blame that. 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:31.960 It's hormones too. It's either mercury or it's my hormones. 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:33.520 That's my two options. 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:36.120 That's your two options, and it's probably both and they're 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:36.920 working together. 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:41.839 We just like to blame something for when we're feeling off. 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:47.000 Yeah, yeah, And it usually is a lot deeper. There's 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:49.720 usually like something in your charts, Like when I do 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:53.760 natal chart readings, I'll usually find it. So what I 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:56.640 really like to look at is the current sky. So 0:08:56.840 --> 0:09:00.280 murcury retrograde's happening now, we have some interesting things happening 0:09:00.760 --> 0:09:03.760 with a lot of the other planets, and I look 0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:06.920 at that and how that's hitting and affecting your chart. 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:10.840 So mercury retrograde this time around is happening in cancer, 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:14.319 and so Amber, you're gonna feel it more because it's 0:09:14.360 --> 0:09:18.400 happening in your sun placement. Your sun sign is cancer, 0:09:18.480 --> 0:09:21.800 and so it doesn't always happen in cancer. You know, 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:24.080 the next one won't be in cancer. But when mercury 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:27.320 retrograde happens in your sun sign or a sign that 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:29.480 you have a lot of placements in, say your mercury, 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:32.360 your venus, whatever, then you're going to feel it a 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:35.720 little bit more than a murcury retrograde that say happens 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:40.040 in like scorpio or virgo. You know, so because that 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:41.440 those aren't your sun signs. 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:44.959 Well, just like like feelings, this is gonna pass, right, 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:48.040 It's just not ninety seconds, it's like three weeks. 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:53.080 It's gonna pass. It's gonna pass. And you know, yes, 0:09:53.160 --> 0:09:57.440 that's a perfect, perfect thing. I have that tattoo on 0:09:57.480 --> 0:10:01.240 my arm this too, shell pass because it all my grandmother. 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:03.120 Used to say. I love that you have that. 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:05.200 Yeah, And it also goes back to what you were 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:11.240 saying about the mind being one of our most powerful tools. 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.199 Is you have to kind of tap into that. And 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.040 you know, there are moments where I have to remind 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:18.880 myself that if my mind is powerful enough to take 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:21.199 me to a dark place, is certainly powerful enough to 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:24.360 take me out of it, right, And it's really hard 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:28.360 to put that to use though, And I love that 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:31.439 you that you brought that into play. Is if we 0:10:31.480 --> 0:10:32.640 believe it, then it's real. 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:35.720 Yeah, yeah, I mean if we believe it, it's real. 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:39.400 Our brain doesn't know the difference between what we're imagining 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:43.720 and reality. And so this is where I love intention setting, 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:47.200 and that's what you know I do mainly on the 0:10:47.240 --> 0:10:49.560 New Moons is you know what I'm known for is 0:10:49.600 --> 0:10:54.199 setting intentions and working with visualization. And when we set intentions, 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:56.960 we're doing something really powerful, like not only are we 0:10:57.040 --> 0:10:59.320 working with the new Moon energy, but we're working with 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:02.280 our brain. And so a lot of what I've come 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:06.960 to do is pair lunar manifestation, so working with the 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:12.760 lunar cycle to manifest and neural manifestation, which is basically 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:16.160 training your brain to create something in your life and 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:18.160 believe that you're capable of doing that. 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:30.480 Can you give me an example of setting intentions? 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:33.560 And I know that sounds like you so stupid, Amber, Yeah, 0:11:33.559 --> 0:11:36.120 because I'm a fucking weird Okay, we're. 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.839 Going to go over them at the end of the podcast. 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:42.720 I am such a but honestly, like I think, sometimes 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:46.319 I get confused by the word intentions and if I'm 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:48.120 going to confuse maybe other people are. So will you 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:50.400 give me just one example of what setting an intention 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:51.600 would sound. 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:55.640 Like, yeah. So the way I set intentions is I'll 0:11:55.720 --> 0:12:00.320 lead people through an exercise where they see themselves six months, 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:05.160 a year, five years sometimes if needed, and you know 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:08.160 that kind of varies by the person, but generally on 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:10.240 a new moon, I'll say six months to a year, 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:14.920 and you see yourself in a scene where what you 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:19.120 want has manifested. You're there and you use all of 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:22.840 your senses, so you know, you see the room, you 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.319 see the colors, you feel the texture of your clothes, 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:30.319 your pasture, how you feel emotionally. That's so key because 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:34.080 that sensory input to your brain is very important. And 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:36.920 so when you feel gratitude and you feel happiness, your 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:40.000 brain kind of flags that like, oh, let's confirm this, 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:44.080 let's make this happen. This is real, and so so 0:12:44.360 --> 0:12:47.360 holding that vision and that's what that holding the vision is. 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:50.640 But you move throughout your day, for instance, you taste 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:53.680 your coffee, you you know people you're talking to, check 0:12:53.720 --> 0:12:56.040 your phone, you see your bank account balance, like whatever 0:12:56.040 --> 0:13:00.560 you're trying to manifest, right, it's in the vision. And 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:03.120 and then you hold that and you rehearse that over 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:07.000 and over again. The point is to feel the feeling 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:10.920 to get into the frequency. And so the vision itself 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:14.680 is really a container for how you want to feel 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:17.000 and the frequency of the vibe you want to be 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.120 at and exist at. So, if you want to be 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:22.199 in a frequency of abundance and you want to feel 0:13:22.559 --> 0:13:25.440 financially stable, which you know, we get a lot like 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:30.520 people either want money, they want relationships, health, or you know, 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:33.160 they want to be thin, right, and so that's kind 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:38.280 of like that's our buckets of manifestation and what I 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:40.800 get the most questions about anyway. And so if you 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.920 want to get into that vibration of say, abundance, like 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:46.080 you want to feel it, what does that feel like? 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:49.199 Is that a certain home you live in? Is that 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:52.280 how you feel when you do open up a bill, 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:54.520 like what does that feel like? And you go through 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.920 each of the points, And it's not that you're intending 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:01.880 for all these detailed things to happen specifically, sometimes they do, 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:07.120 but what you're really intending is to feel that way, right, 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:11.480 to feel abundant. And so it's not necessarily like a goal. 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:14.400 It's different. It's not like, oh, you know, I want 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:17.640 the house with the bathtub, you know that looks like this, 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:21.400 I want the relationship that checks all these boxes, right, 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:24.560 it's good to have that detail, but what you're really 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.720 focused on is the feeling. So it's like the vision, 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:32.320 the checkboxes, like they all contribute to the feeling and 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:35.640 that's what you're really holding when we say hold the vision. 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:38.480 So we set the intention and then you hold the vision. 0:14:38.640 --> 0:14:43.000 And so I'll actually coach people in staying with that 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:45.920 vision for thirty days where they're just in the vision 0:14:46.120 --> 0:14:50.480 every day. They downregulate their nervous system, because we can't 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:54.480 manifest from an upregulated, dysregulated nervous system. We need to 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:58.400 be relaxed. And so that's great because people are often 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:02.520 asking me manifest like some horrible thing. I'm like, no, 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:06.080 because you're probably like in flight or fight when you're 0:15:06.120 --> 0:15:10.960 thinking about that horrible thing. Right, Oh that's interesting, yeah, yeah, 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:13.240 And so that always makes people feel a lot better 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:17.600 because the power of our mind, right, our power to 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:20.720 manifest anything is scary, and that's one of the things 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:21.720 that comes up a lot. 0:15:22.640 --> 0:15:24.320 Yeah, it's funny. That just made me think. 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:27.760 I remember I heard someone saying like, if you're just 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:30.000 having a bit, it's like sometimes it's hard to be happy, 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:32.000 like you were just human in some days it's like, 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:33.840 I'm just not happy. But they say, like if you 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:35.640 were to grab a pen and you put it in 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:39.400 your mouth and you force yourself to smile, it sends 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.360 the chemicals in your brain, yeah, that you're smiling, and 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:44.480 so eventually your state changes. 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:45.960 I don't know if you believe that or not, but 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:47.080 I thought that was awesome. 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:49.640 I do are laughing, Like if you just fake laugh 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:53.240 for like a minute, then you're happy. It's the same thing. 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:57.280 Also, skipping. Have you ever tried to skip when you're upset? 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:03.560 Immediately takes you to like a really like goofy and 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:07.000 childlike state where you can't not laugh and smile. 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:09.560 Yeah. Yeah, that's actually hysterical. 0:16:09.720 --> 0:16:13.440 I love that. But we can't always be happy all 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:15.600 the time. And I don't think that's the point right 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:17.760 where we have a full range of emotions for a 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:20.800 reason and we want to explore them all. I think 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:23.560 what's important is to remember that they all pass and 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:27.320 we're not our emotions. You know, these are just things 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:31.840 coming in and out, feelings, vibrations, sensations that are just 0:16:31.920 --> 0:16:33.120 they're not who we are. 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:38.080 And I know because when you think about it, any 0:16:38.160 --> 0:16:41.040 time you're feeling any emotion other than like I feel 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:44.560 good and happy. Like the quickest thing to go to 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:47.760 is like how do I how do I get happy? 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:50.280 Or people asking what can I do to make you happy? 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:54.520 And there Amber and I are both in the program 0:16:54.560 --> 0:16:57.320 of sobriety and we go through all of these steps 0:16:57.360 --> 0:17:00.000 and do our thing. But there are moments where I'm like, 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:02.480 today's just a shit day, and I'm going to lean 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.240 into that, and I'm not. I don't need to try 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:08.240 to get back to like happy because I'm a person 0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:11.640 and I'm affected and maybe I can't pinpoint why. But again, 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:13.720 Tomorrow's a new day, and this too shall pass. 0:17:14.119 --> 0:17:17.280 Yeah, Tomorrow's a new day. And you know, there's just 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:20.159 a range of emotions. It's just sensations. Right at the 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:22.640 end of the day, there's just energy is moving through you. 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:26.119 And so I think as humans were so quick to 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:29.159 label positive or negative, I oh, I feel sad. I 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:31.879 shouldn't feel that way. That's bad. You know, I have 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:34.479 to get happy. And people around us are like, what 0:17:34.480 --> 0:17:36.160 can I do for you to get you out of this, 0:17:36.240 --> 0:17:38.399 and it's like, well, sometimes part of the process of 0:17:38.440 --> 0:17:41.560 being human is just to sit with the energy of sadness. 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:44.720 And let it move through us and maybe it unlocks something, 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:47.639 Maybe it unlocks a new level of our inner knowing 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:51.280 or an intuition. Our intuition is felt, so you know, 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:54.119 it goes with all the other emotions we have to 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:54.640 feel it. 0:17:55.640 --> 0:17:58.000 But that starts at a very young age if you 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:00.439 don't have parents that teach you that it's okay to 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:03.439 be upset or okay to have feelings. And that is 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:07.240 probably why that so many of us walk around dysregulated 0:18:07.400 --> 0:18:10.040 or on antidepressants or whatever it is, because it's like 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:14.399 we have a hard time experiencing. I mean, just for 0:18:14.480 --> 0:18:17.640 me being when I'm in a relationship, it's like when 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:21.040 the other person's having a bad day, I'm so quick 0:18:21.080 --> 0:18:23.760 to take that on. And now I'm learning I could 0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:26.800 let them have that experience and still be okay over here, 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:30.000 yeah right, and just be you know, of support in 0:18:30.040 --> 0:18:31.400 whatever the way they need. 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:33.480 So we need to start sending our kids into the 0:18:33.520 --> 0:18:37.159 woods with crystals. It sounds like, yeah, I know, I 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:40.320 had that big crystal collection before I moved to Montana. 0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:43.560 You should have seen my crystal collection. It was massive, 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:44.640 and then I had to get rid of it because 0:18:44.640 --> 0:18:45.840 I was afraid they were all going to break in 0:18:45.880 --> 0:18:46.200 the move. 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:49.320 Oh no, you can move them, Jill. 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:52.520 I have a question because my the first thing I 0:18:52.520 --> 0:18:56.199 asked when I start talking to a new man is 0:18:56.920 --> 0:19:00.639 what is your what's your sign? And a lot of 0:19:00.640 --> 0:19:03.080 people look at you like, actually, this is the biggest 0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:03.560 one I get. 0:19:03.880 --> 0:19:05.119 Oh no, you're one. 0:19:05.000 --> 0:19:08.560 Of those, and I'm like, yeah, because I fucking refuse 0:19:08.640 --> 0:19:13.800 to date in ares me too, I'm you too, I'm 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:22.440 a boarding mission. How accurate is the compatibility with signs? 0:19:22.520 --> 0:19:25.160 Would you say? Because I know that there are usually three. 0:19:25.240 --> 0:19:27.359 It's like you have your sun, your moon, and you're 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:30.520 rising and they all come into play, and I'm into 0:19:30.560 --> 0:19:33.479 all of it, but let's just keep it basic. The 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:36.280 sun what we all came into the world as. How 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:37.159 accurate is that? 0:19:38.200 --> 0:19:40.720 I think that's pretty accurate if we look at it 0:19:40.760 --> 0:19:43.040 as like the core of who you are. So we 0:19:43.080 --> 0:19:45.439 have the rising sign, which is how you dawn on people. 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:47.800 That's what's rising through you. That's like kind of what 0:19:47.840 --> 0:19:51.320 you project outward and then and that's also what we're 0:19:51.400 --> 0:19:53.879 learning in a lot of ways, like we're rising into 0:19:53.960 --> 0:19:56.320 our rising sign. The sun is the core of who 0:19:56.320 --> 0:19:58.159 we are, so it's the center of us it's what 0:19:58.320 --> 0:20:01.440 keeps us together, and so we do want to look 0:20:01.480 --> 0:20:04.679 at that in terms of compatibility. The moon sign I 0:20:04.800 --> 0:20:07.480 find to be very very important with the compatibility because 0:20:07.520 --> 0:20:09.960 the moon is our emotions. The Moon's who you are 0:20:10.000 --> 0:20:12.280 when no one's watching. It's who you are when you're 0:20:12.320 --> 0:20:15.280 sitting around, you know, eating ice cream, watching TV and 0:20:15.320 --> 0:20:18.359 your pajamas on the couch. And so that's why that 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:23.760 can be so important for relationships because that's how we 0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:26.320 interact with people, That's how we tell people what we 0:20:26.440 --> 0:20:30.800 need emotionally, that's how we vibe emotionally with others. 0:20:31.400 --> 0:20:33.760 So it's their moon sign. Sorry, just to clarify the 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:35.199 relaon sign, got it? 0:20:35.280 --> 0:20:38.000 Okay, Yeah, so you want to know it all, but 0:20:38.119 --> 0:20:40.879 like on a first can you know you might not 0:20:41.000 --> 0:20:43.120 want to ask them their birth time and like pull 0:20:43.200 --> 0:20:44.280 up your charting app on. 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:44.920 The first day. 0:20:45.400 --> 0:20:50.359 I totally have. I obviously have call your mom. I 0:20:50.520 --> 0:20:51.760 need I need the time. 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:54.920 I have done that before and clearly the relationship didn't 0:20:54.920 --> 0:20:56.320 work out because they were like, dude, that's a red 0:20:56.359 --> 0:20:58.040 flag for ren for it's. 0:20:57.880 --> 0:20:59.800 A red flag that you can't ask your mom for your. 0:20:59.760 --> 0:21:00.640 Both time and place. 0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:04.520 Listen, I'm saving us all time. Guys, let's just be real, like, 0:21:04.600 --> 0:21:06.399 let's just cut down to the chase. I'm not asking 0:21:06.440 --> 0:21:09.600 for your tax returns. I'm asking for your which, by 0:21:09.640 --> 0:21:13.440 the way, maybe I should, by the way, yeah exactly. 0:21:14.240 --> 0:21:17.960 But yeah, So I do think that anybody can be compatible, 0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:21.320 no matter of their signs. What the signs can show us, though, 0:21:21.440 --> 0:21:24.600 is where the work can be. And and then it's 0:21:24.640 --> 0:21:26.520