WEBVTT - BONUS: I’ll Be There For You! 0:00:05.880 --> 0:00:08.320 Hello, gorgeous, Welcome back to the bonus episode of We 0:00:08.360 --> 0:00:11.239 Give Them All, a podcast on the heels of what 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:13.680 we spoke about on last week's. 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:14.800 Regular old episode. 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:19.480 I want to put out there some fantastic organizations that 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:23.160 have been vetted and you can go to and give 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:29.040 whatever you possibly can. Los Angeles definitely needs you, guys 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:33.960 right now. And remember LA isn't just home to celebrities 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:36.760 with a lot of money. People have come from all 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:42.560 over the world in hopes for dreams and a better life. 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:44.839 And a lot of those people came and have been 0:00:44.880 --> 0:00:49.560 in their homes for decades and they're just regular people 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:50.280 like us. 0:00:50.360 --> 0:00:53.519 And I want you to remember that part. 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:58.960 Before I give this laundry list of incredible organizations. In 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:04.040 the last epis Landon, I cut you off and you 0:01:04.080 --> 0:01:08.399 weren't able to talk about the incredible firefighter program for inmates. 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:10.759 Yeah, and I think we need to talk about that. 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:15.399 I think it's really cool, pretty impressive, one awesome that we. 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:18.000 Could get additional resources, right and additional manpower to go 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:20.320 out and fight it. But this program, I was reading 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:22.399 a guy the kind of that used to be in 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.480 and he's out now, and he was detailing how it 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:28.160 works and it was really really cool. And so this 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:31.720 program one CalFire comes in. It's a voluntary program. You 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:33.520 have to agree to go into it. So some people 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:36.240 were I think talking about it was like, oh, terrible conditions. 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:38.040 How can you force these people to go work? Right? 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:40.720 Oh okay, So people thought it was like, hey, you 0:01:40.880 --> 0:01:43.360 inmate four seven, five six, get your ass out there. 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:44.480 And that's not what it's like. 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:46.000 No, not what it's like at all. 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:48.480 And so be you have to volunteer to go into it, 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:50.760 and you have to have less than seven years on 0:01:50.800 --> 0:01:53.800 your prison sentence left because it reduces the time you 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:57.160 have to serve by doing this. And CalFire comes in. 0:01:57.160 --> 0:01:59.320 They do a short training, not like a full fire training, 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:01.760 but a short train and they work only with they 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:05.240 don't use water at all, and they're fighting, so they 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.440 get like hand tools to like clean the brush so 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:12.320 they prevent the fire from spreading more got us, So 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.160 so they go in on the ground. They don't man 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:17.160 an engine or anything like that. But once they get 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:20.959 into the program, they go into these fire camps. It's 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:23.840 not just during the wildfires. They're out of prison, out 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:26.760 of the prison system, or not the prison system, but 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:29.040 out of the prison walls for the rest of their sentence, 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:32.320 and they're in these wilderness camps where they train, you know, 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:34.639 and they're there and doing stuff year round. They're living 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:37.440 in the wilderness, which sounds you know from this one guy, 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:40.120 it's a hell of a lot better than the prison system. 0:02:40.520 --> 0:02:43.000 They get better food out there during fires, they get 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:44.240 really good food, he was saying. 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:46.320 And they make a little bit of money. 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:50.200 It's not a lot. It's five ten dollars a day all. 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:52.840 Year round, and then during a wildfire they get additional 0:02:52.919 --> 0:02:55.760 one dollar per hour when they're actively fighting it. 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.680 But the other thing that is great is they're learning 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:02.040 and they could can Can they be firefighters when they're 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:02.760 out of prison? 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:04.360 Is that something that they Yeah. 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:07.480 So it's the program is really awesome because when they 0:03:07.880 --> 0:03:10.640 get out, they're eligible to get their record completely expunged, 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:12.359 which makes it a lot easier to get any type 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:15.880 of job. But they also have programs, like Ventura County 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:17.760 has one that'll take them in to help them actually 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:19.919 become official firefighters when they get out. 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:22.320 So it's giving them a career as well. 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:23.320 Really awesome. 0:03:23.320 --> 0:03:24.520 That's a way to do it. 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:28.400 And I saw TikTok again, going back to last week 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:31.040 when we were talking about TikTok going away, but interviewing 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:34.120 some of these inmates that were fighting, and a lot 0:03:34.200 --> 0:03:36.600 of them were like, I found my passion, Like I 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:40.000 really love doing this, Like I'm helping people. And they're 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:42.200 not violent offenders either, right, you have to be like 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:43.040 minimum security. 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:44.480 They couldn't have done anything crazy. 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:46.840 So there's stipulations on who's eligible. 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:49.280 Yeah, it's not just hey, we'll take anybody, right, you know, 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:53.440 it's stipulation on who's eligible. But a few of the 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:55.240 people were like, yeah, I'm excited. I'm I get to 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.320 go into the Ventura County program. When I get out, 0:03:57.640 --> 0:04:00.280 my record's going to be cleaned. I'm like, like I 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:02.520 get a fresh start and I get and I found 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:04.800 something that I love and that I can help people. 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:06.920 Like what an awesome thing that is. 0:04:07.080 --> 0:04:09.840 And you said that they have to have seven years 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:11.680 or less on their sentence, right, seven. 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:14.240 Years or less to be elegy left, So like say 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:16.520 you went for ten and then you served, and now 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:17.560 you can do it. 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:19.480 Yeah, okay, yeah, makes sense. 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:22.120 That is an incredible program and they did. They did 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:26.320 make a difference. So here's some ways that you can 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.320 help out, you guys. Baby to Baby is accepting donations 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:32.159 to support children impacted by the wildfires. I have to 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:36.120 tell you, Ocean, because we left, and she actually just 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:39.080 had the fire department at her school, so she's very 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:42.000 into telling me that. You know, when she knew about 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:44.240 the fire, she said, Mom, we have to call nine 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:45.719 one one and we have to tell them. And I 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:49.120 tried to explain the best way that I could. Hi, Baby, 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:51.040 what happened to you? 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:52.719 Do you want to come over here and say hi? 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:55.160 She's in Christmas pajamas. 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:57.800 She pulls them out because mom, am I allowed to 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:00.800 wear Christmas pajamas because I. 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:02.000 Said, you can wear whatever you want. 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:04.160 Ocean, what are you going to do with some of 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:07.160 your toys and clothes for kids that were affected by 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:12.680 the fire? I kinda give a little bit toys away. 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:14.239 I love that. 0:05:14.240 --> 0:05:15.440 That's so great. 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:18.560 So I know a lot of people with kids have 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:20.920 been trying to explain the best way they can, and 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:23.200 I think, you know, we need to explain to our 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:25.680 kids who are old enough without making it scary, but 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:29.640 how we can help. I mean, it was a tremendous 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:32.480 learning experience. I can't say the Ocean at the beginning 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:34.680 when I said we're going to clear your toys out, 0:05:34.880 --> 0:05:37.600 was excited about it, and then we had to sit 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:39.920 down and had a very productive conversation. 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:42.120 You can also go to go fund me. 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:47.080 They have compiled the list of verified fundraises for people 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:52.919 impacted by the fires. Spc ALA's Disaster Animal Response Team. 0:05:53.240 --> 0:05:59.000 They're looking for donations to support emergency services, temporary animal shelters, 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.400 and front line and veterinary care. 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:05.640 Mom was watching the TikTok and. 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:07.159 She was like this, this is on the talk. She's on 0:06:07.200 --> 0:06:08.280 the top talk. 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:12.320 She was like, look at these firefighters. They're saving animals. 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:16.680 And it's like I'm like, babe, that's AIS. Not watch 0:06:17.680 --> 0:06:20.919 but then no comment. I went into the comments section. 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:24.000 Actually most people did believe it. There were only like 0:06:24.040 --> 0:06:25.599 two people that were like, guys, it's AI. 0:06:25.839 --> 0:06:27.760 Well did you see everybody that thought that the Hollywood 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:28.480 sign was on fire? 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:29.760 Because did you see the AI? 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:32.839 Yeah, it was in flames, and people are like it's gone, 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:35.400 and then other people are like, it's right here. 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:38.880 I don't like AI, you guys, what's so crazy? 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:40.159 Is work near it? 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:42.000 And I saw the Hollywood Sign on fire and I 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:43.400 was like, it's got to be real. 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:47.920 It's got to be and I had to wait till 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:53.640 the next lot. Yeah, it was so crazy, anything was possible. 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:57.000 The Los Angeles Fire Department Foundation is accepting donations to 0:06:57.000 --> 0:07:00.839 support firefighters on the front lines. The found is seeking 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:06.640 monetary donations wildland brush tools, hydration backpacks, and emergency fire shelters. 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:10.560 The California Fire Foundation is looking for donations. The Salvation 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:16.440 Army World Central Kitchen that's spearheaded by chef Jose Andres. 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:19.400 He has a relief team in southern California to assist 0:07:19.480 --> 0:07:23.400 first responders in their families. The Los Angeles Regional Food 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:28.800 Bank Direct Relief is also accepting donations Community Organized Relief Effort. 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:31.360 All of these links, you guys, are going to be 0:07:31.400 --> 0:07:35.760 posted on the video. As far as mental health resources, 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:39.640 Los Angeles County Access Center will put that phone number 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:43.280 up nine to eight eight Suicide and Crisis Hotline you 0:07:43.320 --> 0:07:47.240 can call or text them. That'll be posted California Department 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:52.080 of Public Health, Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health Resources. 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:54.040 All of these again are going. 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:56.280 To be posted on the video that also comes out 0:07:56.320 --> 0:08:00.560 today on YouTube. I'll make sure on my Instagram at 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:01.920 Give Them La La Pod will. 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:02.480 Post all of it. 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.760 So I wanted to talk about good hearts in the 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:10.880 world right because we don't see them, I feel as 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:14.239 much as we should. They're definitely highlighted on the news. 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:17.040 When you watch the news, you see great people who 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:20.520 have come together and they're doing their thing. A lot 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:23.600 of us don't watch the news anymore. We only get 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:27.000 our news from social media platforms, and you go into 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:31.920 the comments section and it is a cesspool of people 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:35.360 who are just not that kind. It's okay, I'm not 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:37.080 going to judge them. I'm going to leave it at that. 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:41.800 But I asked people on Instagram some stories, so I'm 0:08:41.800 --> 0:08:43.880 going to read some of those while I do that. Easton, 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:47.880 can you tell me a time that you were meeting 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:49.200 someone and they showed up for you? 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:51.920 Yeah? 0:08:51.160 --> 0:08:55.959 When Dad passed, Okay, I had Alec Russin and Taylor 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:59.560 Apcood and I will say their names because they saved. 0:08:59.200 --> 0:09:01.280 Me because we say them all all the time. 0:09:01.320 --> 0:09:04.920 But yes, those two after Dad passed and I found 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:09.960 him in the morning, I because Mom and you you 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:13.240 wanted to be at the grand and then you guys 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:16.680 left and I was just there and Taylor and Alex 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:18.280 slept over at the house for. 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:19.040 Like two weeks straight. 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:22.559 Yeah, as I was like waking up in night terrors 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:25.040 and they'd wake up with me. Yeah. 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:27.440 So they were the ones who good people. 0:09:27.679 --> 0:09:27.880 Yeah. 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:29.319 They yeah, pulled through. 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:34.320 I mean Alex took work off and to just help 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:37.360 me and yeah just be Yeah, even if I was 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.920 just sitting there, they were just there, you know blank 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:43.240 stare so yes, And I'm glad that we did this 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:45.520 podcast because I. 0:09:44.960 --> 0:09:47.240 Kind of forgot about it. You know, well use time 0:09:47.240 --> 0:09:50.120 goes on. Yeah, but yeah, no, they showed up for you. 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:51.280 I love that. 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:52.959 Do you have a time planned? 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:56.080 Yeah. I mean after my my parents split, I was 0:09:56.120 --> 0:10:00.800 twelve and you know, just a very very rough time, 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:05.160 rough for my parents as well, and unfortunately, I think, 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:07.120 you know, more common than not, but the kids kind 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:10.760 of get forgotten about in the whole thing of it. 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:12.840 You know, my parents are great, I love them, but 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:15.960 they were going through a tough time. But just my community, 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:18.240 you know, my teachers at school really took extra time 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:19.640 with me to you know, to make sure I was okay. 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:22.320 I remember those conversations, you know, them keeping me after 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:24.920 class and checking in, you know, making sure I was good. 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:27.520 Other people in my community making sure you know, I 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:30.040 still stayed active in like sports and things like that, 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:32.400 so that I wasn't just following. 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:34.360 Off sitting at home and emotions. 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:37.280 Unfortunately, I saw other people. I had a couple other 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:41.400 close friends that all within the same year our parents split, and. 0:10:43.480 --> 0:10:46.120 You know, not one had. 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:48.920 A good community support system as well, and he's turned 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:49.400 out great. 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:50.400 The other did not. 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:51.959 And he's the other one. 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:52.560 You I'm just. 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:55.080 Kidding, But the other one he's been you know, he 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:56.800 went to drugs and he's been in and out of prison. 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:59.680 And I think, you know, with good support team is 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:04.040 without that, I could have gone down that same exact past. 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:04.880 Yeah. 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:07.880 And they didn't need to do that, right, They didn't 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:09.959 need to come and take that extra time, but they did. 0:11:10.160 --> 0:11:13.600 They did it because they have good hearts. I think 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:17.360 for me, it was when dad passed away and I 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:22.559 was very deep into the bottle and we came out 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:27.560 to Utah for his wake and people who I haven't 0:11:27.600 --> 0:11:31.600 seen in years, who just you know, even from high school, 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:34.720 where it was like you're here right now, And it 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:36.920 also made me open my eyes like, wow, I need 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:40.080 to show up a little bit harder for people, because 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:44.880 people can look very strong and on the inside they're crumbling, and. 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:47.679 It's the little things through hard times, like check in, 0:11:48.440 --> 0:11:52.920 send the text, yeah, call somebody like don't just you know, 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:54.720 I know we talked about last week that people, you know, 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:57.360 once the news stops covering it, it's the long term 0:11:57.360 --> 0:11:59.560 stuff like continue to check in. I'm glad you said 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:03.800 like a mental health resource on that list, because I 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:07.760 think what people think about the physical destruction, but for teenagers, 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:12.000 for little kids, for anybody really, but the trauma that 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:13.880 people went through during oh this is going that is 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:15.840 going to be a long term effect and check in 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:16.520 on those people. 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:19.160 It's going to be a battle. Well. Not her mom, 0:12:19.240 --> 0:12:21.079 my mom's mom, me me. 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:24.200 She lost her home in a fire when she was 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.880 young and we were talking about it and it still 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:30.720 impacted her through my mom being alive, and it was 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:31.319 before that. 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:35.800 So it's incredible what this devastation can do. 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:40.600 My oldest sister McCall, she was living in Florida for 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:42.839 a year doing a year of college out there at 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:46.480 my grandparents when a tornado came through and destroyed my grandparents' home. 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:50.240 Terrible thing, but it struck it. I think like three 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:55.320 thirty seven or something in the morning, and for years years, 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:57.200 my sister would wake up at that hour every single 0:12:57.320 --> 0:13:00.160 night because of the trauma. Of course, you know, I'm 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:02.440 good night tre for the people in the palace heads. 0:13:02.440 --> 0:13:04.400 It was a nighttime thing for the people in Altadina, 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:08.400 you know. I mean, it's those effects will be long lasting. 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:11.800 And get the help you need. Don't be afraid to 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:13.760 get the help. And also if you know somebody that 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:16.720 you think could use it, encourage them be a help. 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:20.000 Not just money either. It's take care of your brain. 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:23.000 Right, yeah, because I hope, and I just hope a 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:26.960 lot of people that have lost things keep their mental 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.160 and I hope a lot of people make it easy 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:32.400 for them to keep their mental Like with all the 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:34.160 loss that they've had, the last. 0:13:33.880 --> 0:13:37.080 Thing you want to do is go down a darker route, right, 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:39.960 you know. And that's the thing. It's like, we were 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.520 going to be in. 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:44.080 A very tough situation for the next five to ten 0:13:44.160 --> 0:13:49.959 years plus, and it's very big to keep everybody mentally 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:54.280 saying and not go down the path of you've lost everything. 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:55.240 Why am I here? 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:57.679 Yeah, no, you're absolutely right. 0:13:57.760 --> 0:13:59.920 So I had a lot of people write in and 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:04.080 these are I said, big, big or small? Because even 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:08.359 something small could be something huge, right, Hey, a dollar. 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:11.520 From everybody in this country would be in an enormous. 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:14.080 But even like land in set a text friends bringing 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:17.800 meals over after my three week hospitalization a premium nick 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:19.720 you two and a half months. 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:20.920 Isn't it wild? 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:24.000 Where it's like someone just showing up to be like 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:28.200 anything you need, You need a meal, you need a 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:31.080 phone call, that's just like, hey, let me vent and 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:33.920 just like you being a soundboard for me makes all 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:34.360 the difference. 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:40.440 And those meals taste the best home cooked meals. Wow, 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:44.320 you cared for me, you thought of me. This food 0:14:44.400 --> 0:14:45.280 really tastes great. 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:46.240 Yeah. 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.800 House fire summer before senior year and the church community 0:14:49.880 --> 0:14:53.880 helped dogs clothes housing. There were a lot of people 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:57.720 that wrote in about experiencing their houses burning down and 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:01.600 how their community a lot of people saying the church 0:15:01.920 --> 0:15:03.720 that they were a part of really stepped up to 0:15:03.760 --> 0:15:08.040 the play. And I think that that's amazing that, you know, 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:11.600 it's times like that were your community maybe people that 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:12.359 you didn't. 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:13.200 Expect to show up for you. 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:16.960 It's like, Wow, Jan from three houses down, who I've 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:21.400 said three words too, is like really showing or. 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:23.840 I'm sleeping in her basement right now. 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:24.480 Yeah, exactly. 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:28.360 My fiance gifted me his geep because I couldn't afford 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:32.960 to buy a new car, very kind. My marriage fell apart, 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:35.200 my best friend came and stayed the night with me. 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:37.400 That goes back to what you were talking about Easton. 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:41.160 Isn't it wild what someone's just mere presence? Oh, it's 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:42.600 just for your mental. 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:45.120 Health, that's the thing. And like I would just blank 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:46.880 stare at the TV. 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:49.880 It was on, but right like I just wasn't there, 0:15:50.480 --> 0:15:53.080 and I could feel my emotions start and like everything 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:57.320 starting to just melt and like just anxiety starting. And 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.440 I would look left and I would see the two 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:02.920 people or somebody that was taking the time, and just 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:05.480 looking at them would reset me right. 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:08.000 And at least that and then yes, you didn't have 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:08.320 to talk. 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:10.520 Didn't have to talk. I didn't have to say anything. 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:13.760 Just looking over at them and just seeing them even 0:16:13.840 --> 0:16:17.760 scrolling their phone, I knew it was like, Okay, things 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:18.440 are normal. 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:21.960 I feel for this person because. 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:26.960 After Dad passed away, I always hated the night coming 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:30.080 because it meant everybody was going to go to bed 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:33.520 and shut down and I was going to feel alone 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:38.680 and having mom and you that was great, but it's 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:41.400 like you guys are also very vulnerable. 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:43.280 I'm gonna tell you, did you not feel And I 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:45.600 know it sounds weird, but I felt like when we 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:48.160 were together it was great, but like when I was 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:52.160 going down a terrible anxiety or depression. 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:54.360 Moved from this situation. 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:56.440 Yeah, but you and Mom couldn't help because I'd look 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:57.880 at you and it's like, what help are you going 0:16:57.920 --> 0:16:58.320 to give me? 0:16:58.440 --> 0:17:01.040 We're in the same boat sinking. I need somebody else 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:01.560 over here. 0:17:01.560 --> 0:17:04.159 Really, So like that, when Mom went to la I 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:07.280 was like, I cannot because I will crumble. 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:09.400 So I had like, well, we did crumble. 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:12.280 We we would go through a bottle of champagne. 0:17:12.359 --> 0:17:14.560 And then we realized when we would go to Ralph's 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:15.920 the genius idea of why. 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:18.840 Don't we each just get our own? Why don't we 0:17:18.920 --> 0:17:19.680 each get too? 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:22.960 All we can say is it got you through it right? 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:26.960 I don't know is when you're dealing with heartache and. 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:30.360 You do the best you can, every emotion. 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:32.919 Size bottles to another level. You were like, let's just 0:17:32.920 --> 0:17:36.520 get the big one. Lauren loved falling downstairs. 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:39.600 Literally, and. 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:44.879 My boss bought me a last minute ticket home to 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:48.120 Alaska from North Carolina to say goodbye to my dad. 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:53.760 That is the nicest thing. Plane tickets are so beyond expensive. 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:55.359 That's a distance too, and. 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:58.600 You literally plan you don't expect a parent or a 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:01.960 loved one to pass away, right, And you kind of 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:03.600 go through your year and you're like, Okay, I'm going 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:07.080 to go home for Christmas, so I save my money 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:09.560 to go home for Christmas. And most people they either 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:13.399 go home for Thanksgiving or Christmas, like they don't do 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:15.200 both because flights are expensive. 0:18:15.359 --> 0:18:17.680 That was really people to say that though they just 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:19.400 don't want to see their family twice. 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:23.000 We're back, We're back on they give them all a 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:23.800 podcast The. 0:18:23.960 --> 0:18:26.639 Shade, But no, it really it's incredible. 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:31.200 But also to be noticed, like you have to be 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:34.199 a very decent employee, I feel like as well, so 0:18:34.680 --> 0:18:36.040 she's an amazing employee. 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:38.920 I'm glad that her boss could do that because now 0:18:38.960 --> 0:18:43.640 you feel like you're scene as well. You know you're valued, Yeah, 0:18:43.680 --> 0:18:46.480 you know they care about you. Yes, So that's yes, 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:49.320 good to both of them on that well. 0:18:49.800 --> 0:18:52.800 And people just it goes back to what moms taught 0:18:52.840 --> 0:18:55.800 us forever, and sometimes you don't do it in the 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:58.480 moment but as long as you learn from it where 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:01.080 it's like shoe on the other foot in this moment, 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:04.560 what would I want someone to do for me? How 0:19:04.560 --> 0:19:08.160 would I want someone to respond to me right now? 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:10.879 And I feel like there's a lot of times that 0:19:10.920 --> 0:19:12.760 we don't do that. There's been many times where I 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:14.159 don't do that, and I look back and I'm like, 0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:17.560