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Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous, Welcome back to the bonus episode of We

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Speaker 1: Give Them All, a podcast on the heels of what

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Speaker 1: we spoke about on last week's.

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Speaker 2: Regular old episode.

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Speaker 1: I want to put out there some fantastic organizations that

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Speaker 1: have been vetted and you can go to and give

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Speaker 1: whatever you possibly can. Los Angeles definitely needs you, guys

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Speaker 1: right now. And remember LA isn't just home to celebrities

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Speaker 1: with a lot of money. People have come from all

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Speaker 1: over the world in hopes for dreams and a better life.

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Speaker 1: And a lot of those people came and have been

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Speaker 1: like us.

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Speaker 2: And I want you to remember that part.

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Speaker 1: Before I give this laundry list of incredible organizations. In

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Speaker 1: the last epis Landon, I cut you off and you

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Speaker 1: weren't able to talk about the incredible firefighter program for inmates.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think we need to talk about that.

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Speaker 3: I think it's really cool, pretty impressive, one awesome that we.

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Speaker 4: Could get additional resources, right and additional manpower to go

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Speaker 4: out and fight it. But this program, I was reading

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Speaker 4: a guy the kind of that used to be in

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Speaker 4: program one CalFire comes in. It's a voluntary program. You

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Speaker 4: have to agree to go into it. So some people

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Speaker 4: were I think talking about it was like, oh, terrible conditions.

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Speaker 5: How can you force these people to go work? Right?

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, So people thought it was like, hey, you

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Speaker 2: And that's not what it's like.

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Speaker 3: No, not what it's like at all.

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Speaker 4: And so be you have to volunteer to go into it,

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Speaker 4: and you have to have less than seven years on

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Speaker 4: your prison sentence left because it reduces the time you

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Speaker 4: have to serve by doing this. And CalFire comes in.

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Speaker 4: They do a short training, not like a full fire training,

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Speaker 4: but a short train and they work only with they

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Speaker 4: don't use water at all, and they're fighting, so they

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Speaker 4: so they go in on the ground. They don't man

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Speaker 4: not just during the wildfires. They're out of prison, out

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Speaker 4: and they're in these wilderness camps where they train, you know,

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Speaker 4: it's a hell of a lot better than the prison system.

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Speaker 4: They get better food out there during fires, they get

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Speaker 3: And they make a little bit of money.

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Speaker 5: It's not a lot. It's five ten dollars a day all.

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Speaker 4: Year round, and then during a wildfire they get additional

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Speaker 6: But the other thing that is great is they're learning

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Speaker 5: Is that something that they Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So it's the program is really awesome because when they

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Speaker 4: of job. But they also have programs, like Ventura County

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Speaker 5: So it's giving them a career as well.

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Speaker 5: That's a way to do it.

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Speaker 4: And I saw TikTok again, going back to last week

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Speaker 4: not violent offenders either, right, you have to be like

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Speaker 5: They couldn't have done anything crazy.

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Speaker 1: And you said that they have to have seven years

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Speaker 1: That is an incredible program and they did. They did

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Speaker 1: make a difference. So here's some ways that you can

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Speaker 1: help out, you guys. Baby to Baby is accepting donations

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Speaker 1: to support children impacted by the wildfires. I have to

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Speaker 1: tell you, Ocean, because we left, and she actually just

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Speaker 1: what happened to you?

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Speaker 5: Do you want to come over here and say hi?

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Speaker 2: She's in Christmas pajamas.

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Speaker 1: She pulls them out because mom, am I allowed to

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Speaker 1: Ocean, what are you going to do with some of

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Speaker 1: your toys and clothes for kids that were affected by

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Speaker 1: So I know a lot of people with kids have

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Speaker 1: how we can help. I mean, it was a tremendous

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Speaker 1: learning experience. I can't say the Ocean at the beginning

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Speaker 2: You can also go to go fund me.

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Speaker 1: They have compiled the list of verified fundraises for people

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Speaker 1: impacted by the fires. Spc ALA's Disaster Animal Response Team.

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Speaker 1: They're looking for donations to support emergency services, temporary animal shelters,

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Speaker 2: Mom was watching the TikTok and.

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Speaker 3: She was like this, this is on the talk. She's on

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Speaker 2: She was like, look at these firefighters. They're saving animals.

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Speaker 2: And it's like I'm like, babe, that's AIS. Not watch

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Speaker 4: Well did you see everybody that thought that the Hollywood

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Speaker 5: Because did you see the AI?

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Speaker 3: I don't like AI, you guys, what's so crazy?

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Speaker 1: The Los Angeles Fire Department Foundation is accepting donations to

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Speaker 1: The California Fire Foundation is looking for donations. The Salvation

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Speaker 1: Bank Direct Relief is also accepting donations Community Organized Relief Effort.

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Speaker 1: All of these links, you guys, are going to be

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Speaker 1: posted on the video. As far as mental health resources,

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Speaker 1: of Public Health, Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health Resources.

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Speaker 2: All of these again are going.

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Speaker 4: It's the little things through hard times, like check in,

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Speaker 5: Why am I here?

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Speaker 5: And those meals taste the best home cooked meals. Wow,

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Speaker 1: It's like, Wow, Jan from three houses down, who I've

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Speaker 5: I'm sleeping in her basement right now.

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Speaker 1: My fiance gifted me his geep because I couldn't afford

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Speaker 5: Health, that's the thing. And like I would just blank

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Speaker 5: And at least that and then yes, you didn't have

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Speaker 6: Didn't have to talk. I didn't have to say anything.

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Speaker 2: I feel for this person because.

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna tell you, did you not feel And I

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Speaker 2: Moved from this situation.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but you and Mom couldn't help because I'd look

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Speaker 5: We're in the same boat sinking. I need somebody else

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Speaker 6: Really, So like that, when Mom went to la I

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Speaker 5: So I had like, well, we did crumble.

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Speaker 2: We we would go through a bottle of champagne.

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Speaker 1: And then we realized when we would go to Ralph's

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Speaker 2: Don't we each just get our own? Why don't we

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Speaker 5: All we can say is it got you through it right?

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Speaker 5: I don't know is when you're dealing with heartache and.

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Speaker 2: You do the best you can, every emotion.

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Speaker 5: Size bottles to another level. You were like, let's just

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Speaker 1: My boss bought me a last minute ticket home to

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Speaker 1: That is the nicest thing. Plane tickets are so beyond expensive.

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Speaker 1: You literally plan you don't expect a parent or a

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Speaker 5: That was really people to say that though they just

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Speaker 1: We're back, We're back on they give them all a

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Speaker 5: Shade, But no, it really it's incredible.

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Speaker 6: But also to be noticed, like you have to be

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Speaker 5: I'm glad that her boss could do that because now

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Speaker 1: And I feel like there's a lot of times that

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Speaker 5: I just did.

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Speaker 6: One thing that mom stuck with that, she said that

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Speaker 2: That sounds golden. And a rule is that gold rule.

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Speaker 4: That that's like that sounds like a Michael Scott quote

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Speaker 4: when he's like when he's like, what's what's he says

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Speaker 4: Wayne Gretzky, you know, treat people you want to be treated,

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Speaker 5: Much, Yeah, exactly right.

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Speaker 1: Stuck in Kenya airport credit card canceled due to fraud.

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Speaker 1: Oh and it stranger bought my flight home.

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Speaker 5: Wow, did you add that's.

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Speaker 2: That is another level.

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Speaker 3: I hope you've kept in contact, stranger.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's that's an acquaintance. Now. That was not cheap.

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Speaker 4: That is I'm sending them a Christmas gift every year

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for real, that is so kind.

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Speaker 1: But even that like pay it forward, where like you're

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Speaker 6: The person who paid for the plane ticket? What if

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Speaker 1: Did it on the other foot, and maybe it's really

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Speaker 2: I can absolutely afford to do this for.

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Speaker 5: Very fucking, very grand deed.

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Speaker 2: This one is a long one.

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Speaker 1: I also want to say a lot of you guys

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Speaker 1: It's like you can't fit it all in one thing.

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Speaker 1: That's what this person did. My grandmother and I were

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Speaker 1: about three months. I'd arrive from San Francisco in LA

447
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Speaker 1: at six am on Mondays and head straight to my

448
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Speaker 1: job at an LA agency, where I worked in the

449
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 1: mailroom for just seven dollars per hour. Even though we

450
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:37,440
Speaker 1: both earned very little. My coworker slash gusband would buy

451
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Speaker 1: me a large Starbucks coffee and leave it on my

452
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Speaker 1: desk every Monday morning. I know it sounds silly, It doesn't,

453
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Speaker 1: by the way, but this small act of kindness meant

454
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Speaker 1: a lot to me. He had to work for an

455
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Speaker 1: hour just to buy that coffee. Ten years later, they

456
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Speaker 1: are still in the best gusband in psycho bitch marriage.

457
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Speaker 3: Wow oh same them?

458
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Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, yeah good, I relate, No, but that really

459
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Speaker 6: is because when I was in Utah and I was

460
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Speaker 6: working my nine to five, yeah, like I would go

461
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Speaker 6: into my office and like very rarely, like somebody would

462
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Speaker 6: bring me a coffee and like just like a coffee

463
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Speaker 6: for you, just somebody in the office that we were

464
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Speaker 6: close with.

465
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Speaker 5: But I would do it for people as well.

466
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Speaker 6: But it was just crazy to see, like it was

467
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Speaker 6: nice to have like a coffee.

468
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Speaker 2: You're like, oh, okay, let me tell you that's a

469
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Speaker 2: love language.

470
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Speaker 5: No, that is? That is I mean, well even you know.

471
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Speaker 4: It was supposed to start my new job, right yeah,

472
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Speaker 4: on the thirteenth and Saturday Eastern, and I had stayed

473
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Speaker 4: up pretty much all night because we're seeing the flames

474
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Speaker 4: they coming up over the mountain and we're like they

475
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Speaker 4: cut the news at once, like, what the hell is

476
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Speaker 4: going on?

477
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Speaker 5: We see the fire? Is it coming? The evac zone

478
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Speaker 5: is like two blocks from We're laying in bed just

479
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Speaker 5: not sleeping and talking.

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Speaker 1: You know.

481
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Speaker 4: It took a drive at what like three, and we

482
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Speaker 4: see all the police cars blocking it off and getting

483
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Speaker 4: people out of there, very bright, and so we didn't

484
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Speaker 4: really sleep. And so I text the my new boss,

485
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Speaker 4: who I'm supposed to start for in two days, and

486
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Speaker 4: I'm like, hey, I don't know what's going on, Like

487
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Speaker 4: can can we push the start date? And just him

488
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Speaker 4: responding being like this is their start date. It's like

489
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Speaker 4: the least to the of our concerns, like take care

490
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Speaker 4: of you, make sure you're good. He's like a few

491
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Speaker 4: days isn't going to affect anything like just we'll figure

492
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Speaker 4: it out, you know, and like he you know, he's like,

493
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Speaker 4: don't worry about it, and taking.

494
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Speaker 3: That worry off of the weight off of you as.

495
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Speaker 4: I'm already worrying about all this other stuff Like that

496
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Speaker 4: meant a lot to me. And it also going back

497
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Speaker 4: to the person who the boss flew them out, you know,

498
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Speaker 4: to see there, to see their parent before they passed.

499
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Speaker 4: But for me, it's like even before starting this job,

500
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Speaker 4: I'm like, Okay, there's respect he've got. Like it's not

501
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:38,199
Speaker 4: like nope, you've got to start like I don't give

502
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Speaker 4: a shit.

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Speaker 6: You know.

504
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Speaker 2: It's like were you directly that did you? Did you

505
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Speaker 2: have to evacuate it, or were you impacted?

506
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Speaker 5: No?

507
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Speaker 2: But people that I love and just the place that

508
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Speaker 2: I call home.

509
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Speaker 1: I just feel like there's other things we could worry about, right,

510
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Speaker 1: So I feel like it's going to be that's a

511
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Speaker 1: great start.

512
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 2: A bad start, but a great start too.

513
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Speaker 4: I said, we're just getting all the bad for the

514
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Speaker 4: year outright at the beginning, so it's just good from here.

515
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Speaker 5: So that's why I have that I'd rather have the

516
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:15,399
Speaker 5: bad news first, give it to me.

517
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Speaker 2: Do you want the good news or the bad?

518
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Speaker 5: News.

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Speaker 1: First, I'm like, it's bad, bad, What do you mean

520
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Speaker 1: You want to put me on a high and then

521
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Speaker 1: drop me thirty thousand feet?

522
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Speaker 2: No, thank you?

523
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Speaker 1: Drop me thirty thousand Yeah, I.

524
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Speaker 5: Will get to thirty.

525
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Speaker 1: Butteen, this one's really sweet. I teach my aunt tragically

526
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Speaker 1: passed away. My teammate did my lesson plans for two weeks.

527
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Speaker 1: As a teacher, you can't just take off. This helped

528
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Speaker 1: me so much, take off and grieve. The reason why

529
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Speaker 1: some of these may you may be thinking while I

530
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Speaker 1: can't read this is true, but also because you have

531
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Speaker 1: to compact them into such a small space, which is

532
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Speaker 1: why I encourage the d to just DM and send them.

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Speaker 2: But I love you guys.

534
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Speaker 1: Writing it after that is huge because teachers do.

535
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Speaker 3: Not get Teachers should be a year.

536
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Speaker 5: I think I've said it.

537
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:09,680
Speaker 2: I've said it a million times.

538
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:13,719
Speaker 1: How the is Lebron James making so much money dribbling

539
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 1: a basketball but teachers who are responsible for our future,

540
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Speaker 1: these children will be the ones that go on to

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Speaker 1: make a difference in our world.

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Speaker 5: Pay them thirty. It's just.

543
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Speaker 3: How do we bump that up?

544
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Speaker 1: After a domestic violence situation, someone from church as a

545
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Speaker 1: kid took me in until I got an apartment.

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Speaker 2: Huge.

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Speaker 1: I think anytime someone offers up their home a safe

548
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Speaker 1: space and and has someone else come in is like

549
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Speaker 1: the most incredible human on the planet because that is

550
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Speaker 1: as someone who adores their home. And I'm very and

551
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Speaker 1: I'm not saying that this person has bad energy. I'm

552
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Speaker 1: saying anytime you have someone new come into the house

553
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Speaker 1: and it's an extended period of time and you don't know,

554
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Speaker 1: you know what the future holds, how long they'll be there.

555
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: And this is me talking very selfishly, just a little

556
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,480
Speaker 1: bit coming off, and I'm aware of it.

557
00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:19,359
Speaker 3: I don't think it's coming off.

558
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Speaker 1: So anybody who says you are welcome at my home,

559
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Speaker 1: I'm like, that's a good freaking person.

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Speaker 5: It's a great person.

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Speaker 4: And also one thing that I have learned over the

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Speaker 4: last like two years that I've been working on. But

563
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Speaker 4: if somebody's offering you something and I don't really like

564
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Speaker 4: to accept things, it's hard for me. It's really tough

565
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Speaker 4: for me to receive. I love to give, okay, have

566
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Speaker 4: to give. I hate to receive a weird thing. It's

567
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Speaker 4: like I love giving the people, but I read if

568
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Speaker 4: you don't accept something like it feels good to give,

569
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Speaker 4: and if you say no, you're taking away that good

570
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Speaker 4: feeling from that person who's trying to.

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Speaker 5: Give to you.

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Speaker 3: So accept it. Don't feel bad about accepting it.

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Speaker 4: If they're offering it, if they're offering to bring you food,

574
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Speaker 4: if they're offering you a place, take it now. Don't

575
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 4: take advantage of it, but take it, you know, take

576
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Speaker 4: it and let them be generous to you, and in

577
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 4: turn let them have that good deed. Let them have

578
00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:16,439
Speaker 4: that good deed because you like to do it, and

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Speaker 4: then in turn later on remember that and do good

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Speaker 4: for somebody else.

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Speaker 1: I think a lot of people have a hard time

582
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Speaker 1: receiving because they.

583
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Speaker 5: Don't want to feel in need.

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Speaker 1: Like or like they're indebted to somebody, like because I

585
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Speaker 1: did this.

586
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,399
Speaker 2: For you, you then owe me.

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Speaker 6: And what's so crazy, though, is your giving and your giving.

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Speaker 6: I like to think I'm giving as well, but like

589
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,680
Speaker 6: every time your guys are giving, I never feel indebted.

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00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 5: I still don't like you.

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Speaker 3: See, I'm keeping a list. I've got a list.

592
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,440
Speaker 1: Well, what you just said reminded me of Joey Tribiani

593
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Speaker 1: when he's thinking of what he's going to say in

594
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Speaker 1: his speech. When Monica and Chandler get made. He's like,

595
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,679
Speaker 1: it's about giving and receiving, and when you give and

596
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:07,639
Speaker 1: then you receive, you're constantly giving a lot.

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Speaker 5: Of that stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: No, I think anyone opening their home amazing. I opened

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Speaker 1: my home to YouTube fools.

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Speaker 5: We're going to get the hell out. I'm just kidding.

601
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Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. I'm trying to lie rightness.

602
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,480
Speaker 4: The likeness the list of law has on us is

603
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 4: it's getting bigger and bigger every day.

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Speaker 2: I don't keep a list.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, I only I The only time I the

606
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Speaker 1: only time I use a list of everything that I've

607
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:35,679
Speaker 1: done is when I want to force you guys to

608
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Speaker 1: spend more time with me. And like I did this,

609
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Speaker 1: get upstairs and watch a movie with me.

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Speaker 5: And there we are.

611
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Speaker 2: I'm a, I'm a. I like time. I love time together.

612
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 3: She's like, you've only spent eighteen hours to day with me.

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Speaker 5: I need a few more.

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Speaker 3: I need the day's not over.

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00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 1: I got diagnosed with breast cancer last year, and my

616
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: coworkers all made me food, the comfort.

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Speaker 5: Of all things, comfort food.

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Speaker 2: I love this.

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Speaker 1: I was in a really bad car accident a few

620
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 1: years ago and was trapped in my car. An old

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Speaker 1: man who saw the accident manage to get in and

622
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Speaker 1: sit next to me and just held my hand and

623
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Speaker 1: comforted me until I was eventually cut out of my car.

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Speaker 3: Wow, incredible that I'm going to tell you right now.

625
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Speaker 6: I get claustrophobic, I get a whole lot of things,

626
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 6: And if it would have just been me sitting in there,

627
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 6: I would have.

628
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Speaker 5: Had a pancy.

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Speaker 1: Your mind runs wild, and if there's just a person

630
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Speaker 1: who's willing to sit there and take your mind off

631
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Speaker 1: of what's going on. I mean, I love reading these

632
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: because I feel like in times like we're in right now,

633
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:41,240
Speaker 1: we need to talk about people who like still make

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Speaker 1: a difference.

635
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 2: One infertility.

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Speaker 1: After spending forty five thousand dollars on IVF five times

637
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 1: and seven EUIs, my mom helped us adopt our two

638
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 1: boys by pulling from her retirement.

639
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 2: She wanted babies just as bad as we did. Oh, Mama,

640
00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 2: the mama always pulls through.

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Speaker 5: Hey, if a mom can be a grandma, it's.

642
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Speaker 1: It's like a different form of love, mom said. I

643
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 1: asked her, what what does it mean to you to like?

644
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 1: What is the feeling that you get? She's like, I

645
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 1: can't describe it. It would be like trying to describe

646
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:20,959
Speaker 1: the love a mom has to someone who hasn't yet experienced.

647
00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 2: Being a mom if they want to be a mom.

648
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 2: She was like, you can't explain it.

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00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's what she told me.

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Speaker 6: She was like, the love I have for Ocean is

651
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Speaker 6: just very different, yeah, but very Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I loved all of those.

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Speaker 1: I want to thank you guys for writing in and

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Speaker 1: participating in our bonus episode. There were a lot of

655
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Speaker 1: people who wrote in and that makes me extremely extremely grateful.

656
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 2: I love you guys.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning into another episode to give.

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Speaker 2: Them La La bonus episode. Landy, thank you for it

659
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Speaker 2: was fun having.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 3: It was fun to be here. Go give, go, help

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Speaker 3: do something.

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Speaker 1: So amen, Amen, Easton, thank you for showing up again.

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Speaker 1: You guys have the best week on the planet. I

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Speaker 1: love you and I'm gonna catch you on Wednesday.

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Speaker 5: Bye bye,