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Speaker 1: It's that easy.

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Speaker 2: The first episode from last week was a feedback show

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Speaker 2: of course, twenty seven thirty five six Degrees of Black

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Speaker 1: Oh shit, who you think the first to a Fromia?

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Speaker 1: You got it right, Karen.

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Speaker 2: When I was a very young Appia, I used to

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Speaker 2: date potential.

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Speaker 1: And I do not recommend it.

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Speaker 2: I used to want to change the style of men,

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Speaker 2: for example, see them as a project. I always thought

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Speaker 2: that when I break up with them, the next woman

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Speaker 2: will get a better man. My present to the whole womanhood.

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Speaker 2: Now work on myself. So that's better when you are

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Speaker 2: under twenty five and do it, okay, but stop eventually.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you know.

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Speaker 2: First of all, all advice is basically advice to our

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Speaker 2: younger selves. But I think it's interesting because, like I said,

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Speaker 2: and we don't see as vanity because of how it's

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Speaker 2: couched in this idea of making the other person better.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and women have a tendency not the men don't,

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Speaker 3: that I bea is talking about more than men, because

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Speaker 3: I can speak for myself. Kind of growing up and

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Speaker 3: being raised as as a straight woman is almost like.

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Speaker 1: Your quote unquote life is dedicated to a man.

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Speaker 3: Your whole purpose and well being is to is to

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Speaker 3: basically have children, almost like you have no other purpose

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Speaker 3: outside of that. And so you know, when it comes

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Speaker 3: to men, it's one of them things where people say men.

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Speaker 1: Men are boys.

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Speaker 3: It's like you excuse a lot of bad and toxic behavior.

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Speaker 3: You excuse a lot of childish behavior. You see red

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Speaker 3: flags and shit like that, because what I've realized is

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Speaker 3: like a lot of times girls they have to mature early,

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Speaker 3: like they don't have a choice. They have to because

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Speaker 3: a lot of times, a lot of the quote unquote

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Speaker 3: home stuff like the cleaning, a lot of times that's

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Speaker 3: to do certain things. You're forced to mature, You're forced

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Speaker 3: to use your words, You're forced to tap into these emotions,

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Speaker 3: like you are forced to do all these different things

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Speaker 1: And the thing is you're.

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Speaker 3: Not These tools aren't given to you to make you

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Speaker 3: a quote unquote better human being.

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Speaker 1: A lot of times it is to make you better

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Speaker 2: I also think though, the thing I'm trying to get

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Speaker 2: altruism when that is also about control. It is like

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Speaker 2: he'll be a better person for me. To me, I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna change them to help myself. How people look at

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Speaker 2: him when they see him with me, it's still very

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Speaker 2: much focused on the me of it, not like no

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Speaker 2: one's doing fucking charity relationships now out here, Like I

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Speaker 2: just want to up we now. People lie when it's

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Speaker 2: that we'll be like, oh, no, poor you, he went

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Speaker 2: and got married to another woman immediately after with all

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Speaker 2: You you're just a charity case that is helping men

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Speaker 2: be better people. It's like, that's not really true. It's like,

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Speaker 2: better as a relationship and all this stuff. And I

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Speaker 2: think often when men do it, it's seen as it's

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Speaker 2: only seen as control, like I'm just trying to control

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Speaker 2: this woman because of what. But it's still the same

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Speaker 2: narcissistic tendency of like what does it say for me?

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Speaker 2: What does my woman have on say about me? It's

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Speaker 2: not really about her, it's really on house. She navigates

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Speaker 2: the world. It's not about making her a better person.

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Speaker 2: It's literally just it says I have either a lack

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Speaker 2: free or makes me feel insecure. And I think there's

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Speaker 2: different versions of that. But the stories we tell ourselves

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Speaker 2: But you know, I think you know, like I said,

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Speaker 1: Because I know what it looks like and why we

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Speaker 2: It's very patently elfish and on its face is no,

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Speaker 2: there's nothing else to it. But I just wonder what

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Speaker 3: Anyway, go ahead say And also to an extent, particularly

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Speaker 3: when women do it, they might not view it like this.

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Speaker 3: It's still a form of patriarchy because it's still about you.

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Speaker 3: But it's a reflection of Hey, I have to do

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Speaker 3: these things to make my man look good because of patriarchy,

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Speaker 3: because if he quote unquote look good like you say,

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Speaker 3: it's reflection on me as a woman. So you know, technically,

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Speaker 3: if you want to get down to the root cause

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Speaker 1: The patriarchy bullshit.

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Speaker 2: And at the end of the day, a lot of

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Speaker 2: times people are mad that you went on with whatever

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Speaker 2: lessons you learned in that relationship and became happy with

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Speaker 2: someone other than them. So it's still about control because

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Speaker 1: Ego is what I mean, and that's a better word.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Apia says Luckily I always liked the way mister

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Speaker 2: Appia looked in dressed. Now for the last year he

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Speaker 2: decided to grow. It's let his hair grow. It's not

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Speaker 2: has full hair, so at least that's good. I'm glad

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Speaker 2: that after seventeen years, I still think my husband looks great.

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Speaker 2: I only complained when in winter he wears sweaters that

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Speaker 2: my business. Once again, what people decide in their house

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Speaker 2: is not really I'm just more surprised people like broadcasting

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Speaker 2: of ecky situations that go against people's politics and their

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Speaker 2: personal relationships that you probably just should keep to yourself.

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Speaker 2: end of workers of relationship perfectly fine. Y'all are both

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Speaker 2: consending adults. But once you start spreading us out to

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Speaker 2: how people judge each other. I just don't see what

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Speaker 3: And also it's one of those things where in your

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Speaker 3: Is as long as nothing is against anybody who's will

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Speaker 3: or nobody's forced to do anything. Most relationship, most relationships

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Speaker 3: have some form of shit that's politically incorrect quote unquote

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Speaker 3: to somebody. To somebody, you have stuff that people consider

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Speaker 3: a very patriarchy to somebody. You know, you have something

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Speaker 2: it's a good college relationship, but that shit ain't gonna last, right,

435
00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:01,880
Speaker 2: And she was like, I said, do you love them?

436
00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:02,879
Speaker 1: Because it just seemed like.

437
00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,160
Speaker 2: You're going through so much to be with this nigga,

438
00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:07,680
Speaker 2: and it just seemed like, you know, like a waste

439
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,400
Speaker 2: of time almost, And she was like, I love him

440
00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:12,680
Speaker 2: for what I know love to be right now. And

441
00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:14,680
Speaker 2: I was like, that's the dumbest shit I ever heard

442
00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:18,280
Speaker 2: of my life. And now, all these years later, I'm like,

443
00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 2: that's one of the smartest, most profound things any person

444
00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:22,680
Speaker 2: has ever said.

445
00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 1: That is all of us.

446
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:27,760
Speaker 2: We're all out here on the limb, loving people for

447
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 2: what we know it to be. Now. What you thought

448
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 2: love was when you first met your husband is different

449
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:35,920
Speaker 2: than the love you have now because you've learned so much,

450
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:39,800
Speaker 2: You've practiced so much, much like you know, doing yoga

451
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 2: is something what you can do in yoga on day

452
00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,680
Speaker 2: one versus year three is just a different form, right,

453
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:49,000
Speaker 2: you learn something else. And I think that's what doesn't

454
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:53,200
Speaker 2: come up in these conversations. Everything so third grade elementary,

455
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:56,480
Speaker 2: black and white, right and wrong, and it's just it's

456
00:22:56,520 --> 00:23:00,119
Speaker 2: not really that for people. So yeah, I love that

457
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,440
Speaker 2: you shared that, and I appreciate it and me too.

458
00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:04,880
Speaker 2: Like I said, it doesn't always, it won't always add

459
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 2: up to people on the outside. But you know, there

460
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 2: would have been people that say, to your husband, leave her,

461
00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 2: you know, and now look at.

462
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:14,520
Speaker 3: Y'all right, And it's also one of those things to

463
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:21,679
Speaker 3: where uh, you acknowledged it and thought about it and

464
00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:24,440
Speaker 3: processed it and went through the steps and realized, hey,

465
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 3: there's something wrong with my behavior. Because like I say,

466
00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:33,800
Speaker 3: over the years, I've kind of learned myself and be like, hey,

467
00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 3: you know what, this behavior does not look good.

468
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:39,399
Speaker 1: It looks like you are.

469
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 3: Crazy to other people around you, Like hey, like toney,

470
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,720
Speaker 3: also out do some internal work and this.

471
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,119
Speaker 2: Like I said, this doesn't sound good on the outside

472
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 2: looking at it. But also I would I adjust some

473
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:53,360
Speaker 2: of my behavior, like Okay, if you don't feel comfortable

474
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:56,200
Speaker 2: with me hanging out with this person by ourselves or

475
00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 2: too long or whatever. I'm not gonna be like, well

476
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:00,960
Speaker 2: fuck it. Then you just need to learn to get over.

477
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,679
Speaker 2: I know people as they get older might feel that

478
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:04,920
Speaker 2: way because you have more time.

479
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: To me, you've been single longer.

480
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 2: That makes total sense. But we were young, and so

481
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:12,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, come hang with us, like see what we're doing.

482
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:16,480
Speaker 2: We ain't doing shit, were playing fucking I remember one

483
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:19,239
Speaker 2: of my favorite days, me and Rashida invented I say

484
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 2: invented because I ain't never seen nobody else do this,

485
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 2: but we invented tag Team pac Man and we hopped

486
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,000
Speaker 2: on Miss pac Man, and like every time somebody lost

487
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:27,440
Speaker 2: a life, it would be the other person turned to

488
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 2: take over, and then the person that's playing the other

489
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,159
Speaker 2: person would root for them all crazy and shit and

490
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,640
Speaker 2: it's arcade like come on man, you know, and then

491
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 2: it's your turn, you know. And so like we were

492
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 2: doing dumb shit like that, it was like it was go,

493
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 2: wasn't anything to it, you know, having we were just

494
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:45,399
Speaker 2: having fun.

495
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:50,439
Speaker 3: And as soon as that may sound, I went and

496
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,880
Speaker 3: kicked it with them. And when I tell you, I

497
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:58,400
Speaker 3: was like, oh, I see what he sees in her? Yeah,

498
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 3: And it was one of those things. I was like, Oh,

499
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,239
Speaker 3: she's a great human being, Like I actually got to

500
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 3: know her.

501
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was cool, Like sometimes everybody, I think people

502
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 2: have these people in your life. Sometimes you just have

503
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 2: friends that you almost speak your own language with, yes,

504
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:14,719
Speaker 2: and you enjoy kicking it with them, and it's just

505
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 2: that's it, Like that's the height and the beauty of

506
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:18,160
Speaker 2: the relationship is that.

507
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:18,919
Speaker 1: That is it.

508
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 2: And be honest, I'm blessed to have several relationships like

509
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 2: that at this point. And it's something I learned earlier.

510
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:29,640
Speaker 2: It's just, you know, I still I can't help how

511
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: the worldview shit. I still remember when I was an

512
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 2: intern and it was me, this other dude named Solomon

513
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:42,200
Speaker 2: who people didn't really like, and then three black girls.

514
00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:47,880
Speaker 2: We were all black, and me and the three black girls,

515
00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:51,920
Speaker 2: Rashida Chanelle and I forget the other ones. We used

516
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 2: to kick it. We go to lunch every day, and

517
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 2: I remember people in the office one time, like they

518
00:25:57,520 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 2: sometimes would pull me to the side and be like, oh, man,

519
00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 2: so you must be like a really lucky guy to

520
00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:03,879
Speaker 2: get all this attention with these women. I was like,

521
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 2: I'm not getting attention. We're going to lunch together as friends.

522
00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 2: If all three of them just went to lunch together

523
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:11,240
Speaker 2: every day, it wouldn't be a thing.

524
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 1: Correct.

525
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 2: Once you throw me in there, y'all want to add

526
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,400
Speaker 2: some weird romantic sexual shit to it.

527
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:17,480
Speaker 1: That's not happening.

528
00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 2: But it's just how people view shit, you know, And

529
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 2: there's nothing you can do about that. But I know

530
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 2: how I feel on the inside, and you just want

531
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 2: to make sure that you know that's what that's that's

532
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 2: the thing that matters the most.

533
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also for me, I say this and then

534
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:36,240
Speaker 3: we can move on. Something I realized a lot of

535
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 3: times in relationships, people don't realize the importance of your spouse,

536
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 3: significant other, or others having friendships and relationships outside of you.

537
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:52,960
Speaker 3: You cannot be they're all in all. You cannot be

538
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:57,119
Speaker 3: everything to them. Yes, you might be their best friend,

539
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,400
Speaker 3: their love blah blah blah blah blah blah. But there

540
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:03,199
Speaker 3: are some things that they might want to discuss, talk about,

541
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 3: go through that they might not want to talk to

542
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 3: with you. There's nothing wrong with you. They might talk

543
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 3: to their friends and they can help them view you differently,

544
00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 3: understand you better. And a lot of times they can't

545
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 3: get that sometimes from coming to you. So I can't

546
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:23,160
Speaker 3: speak for nobody else, but I appreciate the outside relationship

547
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:27,760
Speaker 3: relationships that Roderick have with other people, because all dr aside,

548
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:29,159
Speaker 3: there's things that they talk about.

549
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 1: I don't give fuck about. I'm not trying funny, don't

550
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,199
Speaker 1: give fuck about, don't care. I could care less, you know.

551
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 3: But he needs somebody to talk to about those things

552
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,360
Speaker 3: outside of me. And a lot of times people get

553
00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:41,159
Speaker 3: these relationships because of their past and the things they

554
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 3: go through. They want to shut everything and everyone outside

555
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:48,240
Speaker 3: of them. That's stupid, that's crazy. Life does a function

556
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,400
Speaker 3: like that, and you both will be miserable, or however

557
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:53,680
Speaker 3: many people in their relationship, you'll be miserable because you

558
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 3: are not the only person in the world.

559
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 1: You are not the only person they will be a

560
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,959
Speaker 1: friend with or will be friends with them.

561
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:01,879
Speaker 2: And the last time, the last thing to me is

562
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:06,200
Speaker 2: this you don't It's also, just like I said with

563
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:10,119
Speaker 2: Jonah Hill, an illusion of control, because honestly, if you

564
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,439
Speaker 2: got the kind of man that's gonna fuck other women,

565
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 2: you throwing a tantrum ain't gonna stop him. Like there

566
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 2: aren't people, I doubt that there's a lot of people

567
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 2: out there who are like, the only thing stopping me

568
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 2: from cheating is that my woman tries to make me

569
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 2: miserable every time she can talk to another woman.

570
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 1: Those kind of.

571
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 2: People just cheat. They don't give a fuck. You be miserable,

572
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 2: you throw out the tantrus, and they're still gonna be

573
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 2: out cheating. And so it makes you feel like you're

574
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 2: in control, because anger makes people feel in control, but

575
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 2: you're not in control.

576
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: Ramsey d Jingis has five stars.

577
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Speaker 2: So greatful the you care, the chat and anyone that

578
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Speaker 2: does not mind share information and resource regarding our history.

579
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Speaker 1: I love drape domania a drape domaniacs.

580
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Speaker 2: I cannot wait for Michael Harritt to become a reggae

581
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Speaker 2: on the blackout to his ps appy. I tried to

582
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 2: be something I was not when I was young and

583
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: missing formed in my twenties. So glad for growth experiences,

584
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Speaker 2: education therapy in books, The Poe because we got no

585
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 2: comments on this one on YouTube The Poe. Have you

586
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 2: ever had someone try to change you in a relationship?

587
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 2: Fifty seven percent of people, yes, forty three percent of

588
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 2: people know that sounds right, you know, and like I said,

589
00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 2: I don't think it's just a gender thing. I think

590
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 2: people try to change each other for some semblance of control.

591
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:23,600
Speaker 2: Now on the people with money sixty seven percent yes,

592
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 2: thirty three percent.

593
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 3: No, they try to take y'all money. That's why they

594
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 3: want to They want you to change the.

595
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 1: Q and A.

596
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Speaker 2: There is truth in jest. Sidney says, so we try

597
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 2: everything you mentioned at to start the episodes, because we

598
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 2: talked about going to Flying Biscuit and eating those pancake

599
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Speaker 2: tacos and shit flames. Karen voice thanks for the hookup.

600
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Speaker 2: He has Drake the MANIACX ten out of ten. Thank you, yay.

601
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Speaker 1: Marvin W.

602
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Speaker 2: Says just wanted to recommend Transformers Exodus, great book that

603
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Speaker 2: addressed the unspoken issue. The Netflix Transformer series hinted that

604
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 2: but didn't define happy prom Raphael says, damn right. That's

605
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 2: why they say the truth shall set you free. I'll respond, yes,

606
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 2: if you give me US dollars, British pounds and euros,

607
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 2: I'll accept. Go to No Silver or Crypto or Arby's Magnificent.

608
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 2: Bree says, the wild thing about the ice cream date

609
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 2: is he never invited her. He said it's hot and

610
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 2: he feels like getting some ice cream, and she invited

611
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 2: herself and then declined I didn't even pick up on that. Damn,

612
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 2: that's deep. I did assume that she was being invited,

613
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 2: but maybe I just went off of her assumption assumption.

614
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 2: But yeah, that was the comments on that episode. Let's

615
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:35,479
Speaker 2: go to the next episode, which is ice Cream Dates

616
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 2: Catching Strays. But I forgot we need music to it's

617
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Speaker 2: hurt this thing so we can know where to put

618
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Speaker 2: the commercials. I had to let it play for a second.

619
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Speaker 4: Look, Bumble knows you're exhausted by dating all the must

620
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 4: not take yourself too seriously and six one since that matters?

621
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Speaker 4: And what do I even say other than hey, well,

622
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 4: that's why they're introducing an all new Bumble with exciting

623
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Speaker 4: features to make compatibility easier, starting the chat better, and

624
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 4: dating safer. They've changed so you don't have to down

625
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 4: the new Bumble now straight.

626
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 2: So, like I said, episode two thirty seven, two seven

627
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 2: thirty six, blah blah blah, ice Cream Dates Catching Straight.

628
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Speaker 2: It's got four comments, Appia says, I hope none of

629
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:14,280
Speaker 2: these critical people ever see a pick of my friends

630
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 2: working family that are all white. I have no other options.

631
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 2: I promise I'm the diversity friend for others because I

632
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 2: was born in Poland. That's how bad it is. Oh,

633
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 2: we get it. It's very white over there. I think

634
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 2: pretty smart, says I forgot. I had this thought about

635
00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 2: ice cream gate, but that young woman was likely responding

636
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 2: to that individual based on what she had seen and

637
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 2: heard on the internet from the Blue Ball podcast that

638
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 2: bros These past for years. I was told by Amentee

639
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 2: a while ago that these cats bragg on doing the

640
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 2: least With my newest secondhand exposure to these date options,

641
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 2: it seems like that is what the woman was responding to.

642
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 2: So basically, like she was like, oh, ice cream date

643
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 2: is the least valuable. It's them doing the least amount

644
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 2: of effort. And because I'm looking at dating from the

645
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 2: perspective of like these and fit motherfuckers, you're not gonna

646
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 2: get one over on me.

647
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 1: I'll see what you're saying.

648
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 2: As a result, us older folks not getting the level

649
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Speaker 2: of her outrage might be coming to the schedule with

650
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Speaker 2: a different set of rationale for why someone would mention

651
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 2: ice cream shorter podcast Bros Must be stopped. Yeah, I

652
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 2: hear exactly what you're saying. That being said, that sounds

653
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:23,480
Speaker 2: like her insecurity though right. I mean essentially that's her

654
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 2: going this nigga's a secret podcast bro, and I have

655
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 2: to do everything I can to keep him out of bros. Yeah,

656
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 2: I have to keep him out of my life, immediately,

657
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 2: tell and dismiss him, which is fine. But you know

658
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 2: what else if a nigga, If a nigga says I'm

659
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:42,960
Speaker 2: gonna take her out on a nice date, there's a podcast,

660
00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:44,640
Speaker 2: bro saying I take them on nice day so I

661
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 2: can fuck them and then I treat them like shit.

662
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:49,560
Speaker 2: If if motherfuckers say I'll tell I love her, there's

663
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,000
Speaker 2: a podcast bro, like, I'll tell these bitches anything like.

664
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:52,959
Speaker 2: I don't know.

665
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 1: I think if you if you look.

666
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 2: At something for bad faith, you'll always find it. That

667
00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 2: being said, all rejection is a favorite. She did him

668
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 2: a favor by just saying I don't vibe like this,

669
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 2: blah blah blah, because if it wasn't gonna be that,

670
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 2: it was gonna be some other little shit that that

671
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 2: he thought was normal that she would have taken in

672
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 2: the most worst way. And I know there's people that

673
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 2: think that's empowering. I think that's just a great warning

674
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 2: sign to let me know, not the fuck with you know,

675
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:24,279
Speaker 2: no offense to her, but thank you. You know, like

676
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 2: I don't you know, I think we all have met

677
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:29,839
Speaker 2: people where you're like, they get they have a thing

678
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:32,799
Speaker 2: peeve or something and it's just to you. It just

679
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:35,680
Speaker 2: lets you know, like, oh, we're so not the same

680
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:39,280
Speaker 2: because to me this would have been a casual discussion

681
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 2: and to you just was goodbye, you're dismissed or whatever.

682
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:45,439
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, okay, thank you. Ramsey Djingis has five

683
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:48,239
Speaker 2: stars Missed Alive. Mary says, I'm so curious about all

684
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:51,799
Speaker 2: these the things post pandemic, including what would happen to

685
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 2: all the office space. I feel like, with a little

686
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 2: outside the box thinking, these spaces could be converted to

687
00:34:57,360 --> 00:34:59,440
Speaker 2: good use. Here in La, I've watched the high end

688
00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,440
Speaker 2: mall across from our firm renovated a couple of times,

689
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 2: adjusted the market when online shopping exploded pre pandemic, brick

690
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 2: and mortar stores got converted to outdoor hangout spaces with comfy,

691
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 2: comfy lounges and music and large TV screens. You could

692
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 2: take your laptop there, eating, hangout all day.

693
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

694
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:21,399
Speaker 2: I know in Charlotte, the place where I grew up,

695
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:24,440
Speaker 2: not too far up the street from here had a

696
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 2: lot of factories and warehouses not too far from it,

697
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:32,760
Speaker 2: and now they've converted almost all of that to restaurants,

698
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:35,799
Speaker 2: condos and breweries.

699
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 3: So many fucking breweries, with almost the number one brewery

700
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 3: placing the country.

701
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 1: It's ridiculous with.

702
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 2: Almost no parking by the way. No, it's ridiculous, annoying

703
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:50,080
Speaker 2: and shit. But but it is nice, you know, it's nice.

704
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:50,760
Speaker 1: And it wasn't.

705
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:53,640
Speaker 2: This isn't I know, gentrification is terrible, blah bah blah,

706
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:57,400
Speaker 2: but this wasn't the residential gentrification. This was like literally

707
00:35:57,440 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 2: an industrial area that they turned into like they're trying

708
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:05,400
Speaker 2: to turn into like a like a living center of commerce.

709
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 2: Now there's still gonna be some fallout and stuff because capitalism,

710
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:11,799
Speaker 2: but my point being like, yeah, I wonder if we'll

711
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 2: see some of that stuff in a quote unquote post pandemic,

712
00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:15,400
Speaker 2: you know.

713
00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also something they would never do because I

714
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 3: think it's not profitable and beneficial and nobody really gives a.

715
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 1: Fuck about human beings.

716
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:27,040
Speaker 3: A lot of this shit they could actually change, particularly

717
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 3: all these all across the country. It's big as Walmart

718
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 3: box stores, it's big as malls. You can change a

719
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:37,720
Speaker 3: lot of these shit to residential, low income mixed housing,

720
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 3: but they rather tell them bitches down and put up

721
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 3: specific as condo mediums, you know, like, but everybody goes

722
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:45,879
Speaker 3: it's a housing problem. We got all these wholeless people

723
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 3: in the streets, like, well, bitch's things here that actually accommodated,

724
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,360
Speaker 3: but you don't want to do that because it's not profitable.

725
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:54,759
Speaker 2: It honestly seems so simple and straightforward that it makes

726
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,400
Speaker 2: you wonder what the fuck right? You know, because I

727
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: that's such a common idea. I've heard it a million

728
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 2: times from a million different people, people smarter than me,

729
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:06,760
Speaker 2: people not as smart as me. We all see the problem,

730
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 2: we all see the.

731
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 1: Solution, and yet here we are.

732
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 2: I don't know what it would take, and I'm sure

733
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 2: there's some type of drawback. I don't understand, you know

734
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 2: what I mean. I'm sure there is. But it seemed

735
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 2: like a problem in or solution that go hand in hand.

736
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 1: But who knows.

737
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can tell you that d okay. Post pandemic,

738
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 2: with even less retail market, these spaces are being converted

739
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:35,400
Speaker 2: to health and wellness services, urgent centers, boutique gems like

740
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,360
Speaker 2: Orange Theory, Botox, filler spots. In fact, one of our

741
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 2: attorneys got her eggs frozen at them all. Anyway, all

742
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 2: this to say, office space in LA can be reconfigured.

743
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:47,240
Speaker 1: We don't need to drag in staff. I agree, Yeah,

744
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: I agree.

745
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 3: And there's so many things that you can do because

746
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 3: everybody sees the cost of living going up, but nobody

747
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,719
Speaker 3: wants to dress the fucking cost of living going up,

748
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 3: and everybody want to act like it's imaginary that all

749
00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:05,320
Speaker 3: this shit is expensive, even though when you talk to people,

750
00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 3: everybody's groceries is high and living is high. Everything's high,

751
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 3: but nobody's thinking what can we do actually to lower

752
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 3: these prices and make them more sustainable for people and

753
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 3: make it where somebody should and not.

754
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,879
Speaker 1: Have to work two or three jobs just to.

755
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,880
Speaker 3: Be able to live in a one bedroom apartment with

756
00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,919
Speaker 3: kids and things like that. Like it's one of those

757
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 3: things where like I designed the like I told you,

758
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 3: the whole point is to get people enslaved to debt,

759
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 3: enslaved to being on the system, because, particularly here in America,

760
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:43,800
Speaker 3: the way our system is, if you need a lookup,

761
00:38:43,840 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 3: bitch of help, we can't help you at all.

762
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:47,399
Speaker 1: You can't do shit.

763
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 3: You better get out there and figure it out. Like like,

764
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,479
Speaker 3: if you're somebody you go with a you know, six

765
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 3: six six months of food stamps dog, like that's all

766
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:58,680
Speaker 3: I need to go. We can't help you. But if

767
00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 3: you're like I live in a cardboard box, so I'm

768
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 3: to the point where I have no choice.

769
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 1: You, they will assist you, but they will control you too.

770
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:11,960
Speaker 3: And it's very, very frustrating sometimes when you you know,

771
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 3: you look at these situations because it's like a big

772
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:18,200
Speaker 3: ass joke because the American people voting should demand that

773
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:21,319
Speaker 3: these things be addressed. But yet, you know, you walk

774
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 3: down the street, you see homeless people sitting and things

775
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:25,359
Speaker 3: like that. People walk over them and walk by them

776
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 3: and shove them to the side, like, oh, well, these

777
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:30,759
Speaker 3: issues can be addressed, but people just don't want to

778
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 3: address them because most people they walk past them is

779
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 3: a paychecker two away from being just like them. They

780
00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:37,360
Speaker 3: just think they're above them for them.

781
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, man, I think we see that all the time.

782
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:44,200
Speaker 2: And uh, it's like like I said to me that

783
00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 2: some of the solutions seem simple, and I know one

784
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 2: of the big hold ups is half of this country,

785
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,280
Speaker 2: if not more, I say more than half to be honest,

786
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 2: do not like or resent.

787
00:39:57,440 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 1: They just don't the.

788
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 2: Fact that people are home liss or low income or whatever.

789
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 2: They see it as a personal moral feeling, and they

790
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:10,200
Speaker 2: see it as something to be punished, and they think

791
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 2: the punishment will motivate people because they just think it's

792
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 2: a lack of motivation. And it's like, I read this

793
00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:21,880
Speaker 2: book called Poorly Misunderstood about poverty and the Myths of

794
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 2: Poverty in America, and it's a really good book. Each

795
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 2: chapter they break down one of the myths of poverty

796
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 2: in America, the myths about the solutions and all that stuff.

797
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 2: And it's such a great book because it's just flat

798
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 2: out and it's not like a lot of new information

799
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:37,960
Speaker 2: other than like statistically proven things that I already had

800
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:41,359
Speaker 2: thought so you have the numbers to back it up.

801
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 2: But yeah, it's just a lot of it's a lot

802
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:46,920
Speaker 2: of that people just think it's not me. I can

803
00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 2: do better than this, and so I would never do

804
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:53,120
Speaker 2: blankety blank. And you look at people and there against

805
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 2: raising them in a wage, They're against government raising government

806
00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 2: assistance for people. They're against government housing in their neighborhood.

807
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:03,839
Speaker 2: Like it's a lot of stuff like that, and these

808
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 2: are not all just staunch right wing Republicans. Many of

809
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 2: these people vote Democrat are would consider themselves liberal. But

810
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:13,760
Speaker 2: when the rubber meets the road and it's we're gonna

811
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 2: put this place for people that to be housed up

812
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 2: the street from you, it's like not here. Booklyn Shoeba says,

813
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:22,920
Speaker 2: I'm fifty years old and trying to date again. I'm

814
00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:26,160
Speaker 2: also broke, So you treating I'm eating as long as

815
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:28,759
Speaker 2: it's lactose free ice cream. Lol. I think it's a

816
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:31,279
Speaker 2: cute at wholesome day. I don't think I would have

817
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 2: screen captain and shared a pretty probably generational thing. That's

818
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:35,720
Speaker 2: definitely the last part.

819
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 1: And I don't know, man.

820
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 2: I think that's also an influence of the Internet, because

821
00:41:40,160 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 2: I know people my age that do stuff like that

822
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 2: are used to I don't see it as often anymore,

823
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:46,960
Speaker 2: but it's like when they're people are doing their dating chronicles,

824
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 2: it's content to them. They're screen cappin sharing everything. And

825
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 2: I think the thing that always resonates to me is

826
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 2: you sharing shit, but you don't share the shit that

827
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:57,360
Speaker 2: make you look bad, right, You're sharing the shit that,

828
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 2: like somebody said to you that was crazy, but it's.

829
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:02,920
Speaker 1: Somewhere on somebody else screen. You didn't say it.

830
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:04,959
Speaker 2: Or did some shit that they like, look at this shit.

831
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 2: I don't know. We're hopeless. Even he says, even though

832
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 2: I saw people give long explanation of why Christian's Bell

833
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:13,600
Speaker 2: party was harmful, all I saw was a bunch of

834
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 2: white people having dinner. Besides, I noticed the bland food

835
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 2: on the table. Understand why no people of color were there?

836
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 1: Yeah?

837
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:24,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, that dinner party thing. I think, Like I said,

838
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 2: I think I summed it up as best as I could.

839
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 2: We got one comment on YouTube. Alicia says, I love

840
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 2: how all these Karens and Darren's be getting fired. I

841
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 2: hope this keeps happening and causing to think twice for questioning.

842
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: The black person.

843
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:42,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, because we had a white woman go out on

844
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 2: a dude that was fishing and she ended up getting

845
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 2: fired from her job. The pole Should there be an

846
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 2: age limit on over the counter birth control? Yes or no?

847
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:57,840
Speaker 1: Twenty eight percent?

848
00:42:57,920 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 2: Yes, seventy two?

849
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I say no, And I know that's gonna

850
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:03,280
Speaker 3: cause all types of problems.

851
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 2: I don't think it's gonna cause a lot of problems.

852
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 2: Can I really think you're right? Uh? If condoms don't

853
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 2: have a fucking thing. I don't know, Like, maybe that

854
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 2: sounds extreme, but I think.

855
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 3: You're right going by condoms. Don't nobody be like, are

856
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 3: you over eighteen?

857
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I think you're right because

858
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:24,440
Speaker 2: the person who's buying that is buying it for a

859
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 2: fucking reason that they're being responsible and who knows what's

860
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: happening in their household that may be making it where

861
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,600
Speaker 2: they have to do it for themselves, as opposed like

862
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 2: if you might have a super religious, fundamentalist Christian parent

863
00:43:37,080 --> 00:43:39,359
Speaker 2: that is in the now about the fact you're having sex,

864
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 2: and it's either you're gonna pop up with a fucking

865
00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 2: baby that they're gonna make you raised, or you can

866
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 2: be on birth control without them knowing. And honest to God,

867
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:49,400
Speaker 2: I get it. So I you know, it's up to

868
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 2: each individual and their parents and their family and shit,

869
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:55,920
Speaker 2: but I understand the need and the necessity of having

870
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:59,280
Speaker 2: the option, and so yeah, I get.

871
00:43:59,160 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 3: It well because that there are too many extreme parents

872
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 3: out there and people pee everybody want to act like

873
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 3: they're the best parent ever. Okay, that's you, but there

874
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 3: are parents out there that are abusive all types of

875
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 3: shit happening in these households. They all children are in

876
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 3: the system, getting sexually abused, all types of shit where

877
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 3: they go.

878
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:20,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to have children.

879
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 3: They should be able to protect themselves.

880
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 2: So on the people with money thirty four percent yes,

881
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:31,399
Speaker 2: sixty six percent No, Still fairly close, Almost the same.

882
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 2: The Q and A was Keith Tory Lanes, Sandy says,

883
00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 2: go off, caring tens across the board. You don't get

884
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 2: off my time. If you can't be flexible with me.

885
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 2: You want me in office eight to five, you get

886
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:45,919
Speaker 2: eight to five. Don't ask me about staying late over time.

887
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:49,880
Speaker 1: Nothing nothing, not a We'm sitting in fucking traffic. No,

888
00:44:50,000 --> 00:44:51,280
Speaker 1: thank you, Tanya says.

889
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 2: Behind bars for Tory Lanes, Jane says, away from Megan

890
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:58,719
Speaker 2: Sidney says, as someone who dabbled in sex work in

891
00:44:58,760 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 2: their twenties, I think a lot of women have started

892
00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:04,399
Speaker 2: to confuse transactional principles of sex work and dating for love.

893
00:45:04,760 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 2: Do you want a partner or a trick? Questions of

894
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 2: need answer. That's a great fucking point, because I do

895
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 2: think a lot of the a lot of the proliference

896
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:19,440
Speaker 2: of how we discussed what we term as sex work,

897
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 2: which is such a broad term by the way, everyone's

898
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 2: not talking about the same thing when they talk about it,

899
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 2: and different people have different various levels of privilege within

900
00:45:27,719 --> 00:45:30,240
Speaker 2: that spectrum of what we call sex work. Right, there's

901
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 2: people that have done things online that have been relatively

902
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 2: low danger compared to people that have done like been

903
00:45:37,680 --> 00:45:41,880
Speaker 2: pimped or trafficked or something that would you know, would

904
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 2: you would not want to, you would not consider that

905
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 2: empowering and height of that. That's part of it. But

906
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:50,480
Speaker 2: also like it is and I always thought this was funny,

907
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 2: and I never it's something I never said or brought

908
00:45:52,560 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 2: into but you know those people that say shit, like

909
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:57,799
Speaker 2: even if a woman is in a relationship with a

910
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 2: man and their marriage to love in each other, whatever

911
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 2: reciprocal things are happening, they still describe it as like

912
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:05,720
Speaker 2: she's a prostitute.

913
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,320
Speaker 1: That is giving this man sex for money.

914
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:10,839
Speaker 2: Like so it's still like, yeah, y'all are married, but

915
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:14,239
Speaker 2: that's really about a woman using her pussy to get

916
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 2: half of a man's stuff or what just some like

917
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 2: regressive notion of it that is, like you know where

918
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:21,319
Speaker 2: you see people say all women are prostitutes and shit,

919
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:23,759
Speaker 2: and I always found that to be like not only

920
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:27,360
Speaker 2: reductive and shortsighted, but wrong. I just think it's wrong, Like,

921
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 2: and it's just such a transactional way of looking at

922
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:36,719
Speaker 2: a relationship that once again completely fees in the patriarchy,

923
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:41,640
Speaker 2: completely feel fees into the agency of men but not women.

924
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 2: Completely says heteronormative, Like it's such a regressive point of view.

925
00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 2: And I think people used to say as comedians and

926
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,800
Speaker 2: rappers and shit because they thought it was like a cool, funny,

927
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 2: pimp thing to say, but just in real life, it's like, no,

928
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:59,399
Speaker 2: there's a big difference between somebody who is like prostituting

929
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 2: themselves and somebody that's in a relationship to me.

930
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 3: The same, and also a percentage of those people they're

931
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:14,840
Speaker 3: projecting because this is a way to disconnect like from

932
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:17,399
Speaker 3: like we have sex and it's a transational and it's

933
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:21,720
Speaker 3: a disconnect. Everybody separate, everybody goes down. Okay, that's cool,

934
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 3: but everybody don't want that, Like like like if you're

935
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 3: choosing to do this, so be it. Some people go,

936
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:30,800
Speaker 3: I don't want that. I want a relationship with love

937
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:33,880
Speaker 3: and all the other things that go with that, And

938
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 3: you don't want to come out and rightfully call me stupid.

939
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:40,240
Speaker 3: But for some of them, that's the way of saying

940
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:43,279
Speaker 3: you're stupid or you're doing the same thing I'm doing

941
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 3: to justify their actions. I'm not judging you, baby, you

942
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 3: do you, But a lot of times it's them reflecting

943
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:53,600
Speaker 3: on being judged, on being looked down upon and shit

944
00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 3: like that, which I'm not doing. But there are people

945
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 3: who do feel that way, so I understand that perspective,

946
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 3: but most people don't give a fuck about who you're fucking.

947
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:05,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a clapback, and I'm glad you pointed

948
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 2: that out. I'd written that down to say, but it was.

949
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:10,160
Speaker 2: It started out as a clapback to women who were

950
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:14,480
Speaker 2: preachy and prude and judgmental and you know, religious and

951
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:17,200
Speaker 2: will this stuff, saying to people that are sex workers,

952
00:48:17,239 --> 00:48:19,760
Speaker 2: like look at look, you should be ashamed of yourself morally.

953
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 2: But the clapback was you basically a whole too. And

954
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:25,799
Speaker 2: it's like, okay, that's not true, and that's all right,

955
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 2: like fuck them, you know, but but yeah, I think

956
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 2: that's a great point back to this, though, Waller says

957
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 2: that all White Dinner. Oh and also with the podcast Bros,

958
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 2: that's the way they talk about sex and relationships is transactionally,

959
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 2: and I feel like we do them, We do the

960
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 2: world of disservice by letting them set the plate and

961
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 2: set the table for the discussion. Waller says that all

962
00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 2: white dinner party are members of the arveys have who

963
00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 2: don't vote in the scientific Poe Aaron says, as the wise,

964
00:48:56,160 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 2: Karen said, go back to Canada, Keith Tory, Lanez throwaway

965
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 2: meet Mel says, Keisha on Canada. Raphael says, after he

966
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 2: has done, sir, oh, keep him in Canada, after he's

967
00:49:08,239 --> 00:49:11,320
Speaker 2: done serving time here, he can use more that maple syrup,

968
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:13,759
Speaker 2: the real kind of his life and go fight some wildfires.

969
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 2: Just stay there, Bye bye. Kara says, come take little

970
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 2: Boosy Chris Brown and a few others with him. All right,

971
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:23,400
Speaker 2: let's go to the next episode. Got two more left?

972
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 2: Nick Flation Episode twenty seven thirty seven four comments. Apia says,

973
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:33,320
Speaker 2: what is it would some black people being in the Hitler?

974
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 2: Now stop the cultural appropriation of the culture of my country.

975
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 1: That's true. Oh no, what is happening here? German should

976
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 1: be offended.

977
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,640
Speaker 2: We have better stuff to offer now, like now, like

978
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:47,560
Speaker 2: being good at recycling, but seriously, stop, He was like,

979
00:49:47,680 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 2: really bad, just read any books besides minecom.

980
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: It's a fiat there, gonna stop it. Stop it right now.

981
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:58,439
Speaker 1: This is ridiculous. This is absolutely ridiculous. Get get out

982
00:49:58,440 --> 00:50:03,320
Speaker 1: of here. We are going this is this is stupid.

983
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:09,279
Speaker 1: This is absolutely ridiculous.

984
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:11,719
Speaker 2: Get out of here.

985
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 4: We are a don't and this is ridiculous.

986
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 1: Keep the crap.

987
00:50:16,160 --> 00:50:18,400
Speaker 3: I don't blame y'all feel that same way too, You

988
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:19,879
Speaker 3: like the fuck is happening here?

989
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:20,440
Speaker 1: Stop this?

990
00:50:20,880 --> 00:50:22,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is such a I don't get it either.

991
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 2: I am black, I am American. I see the people

992
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 2: that picked us up, and I'm always it's to me,

993
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:35,239
Speaker 2: it's a surprising being into the KKK. Or you don't

994
00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:38,440
Speaker 2: like this, I'll never get it, and I don't. I

995
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:41,480
Speaker 2: don't even get how black people hate Jews. I'm be real.

996
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:46,640
Speaker 2: I know Muslim people have a thing the Nation Islam.

997
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 2: Some of them have a thing about it. That was,

998
00:50:49,520 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 2: honestly the thing that made turn me off of the

999
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 2: Nation of Islam. I had a friend that was his

1000
00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:56,400
Speaker 2: brother was in the Nation of Islam, and he was

1001
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:59,480
Speaker 2: talking about being a Muslim and trying to like relay

1002
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 2: some ship to me and he started going about something

1003
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 2: about yakub and the Coggs Mountains. I was like, bro,

1004
00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 2: I don't I don't have I don't even know the

1005
00:51:08,040 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 2: difference between all these white folks. I'm good. IBB just

1006
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:15,040
Speaker 2: says I'm not even big in the PPP culture expert.

1007
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 2: But I remember even white Taylor Swift was in the

1008
00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:21,800
Speaker 2: past criticized a lot oh pop culture restport okay a

1009
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 2: lot for not speaking out about political issues and wanting

1010
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:26,040
Speaker 2: to pill the both sides until she showed us support

1011
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 2: for LGBTQ plus community, and even then some people thought

1012
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:31,880
Speaker 2: it was too little, too late. Yeah, these motherfuckers just

1013
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 2: loved the ship on a pop culture person like they

1014
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:37,239
Speaker 2: like I said, they treat pop culture people like they politicians,

1015
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 2: and politicians like their pop culture people. And uh, that

1016
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 2: shit is a bar, it's a gem, it's a Joe.

1017
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:43,919
Speaker 2: Put that shit on the T shirt.

1018
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 1: I know.

1019
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 2: When I said that shit, I said something, And it's

1020
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:50,000
Speaker 2: never gonna like for these folks, it's never gonna change.

1021
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 2: But once you see it, all the stuff they talk

1022
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:55,320
Speaker 2: about makes so much sense to you.

1023
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 1: Does everything start clicking?

1024
00:51:57,200 --> 00:52:00,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, because you go you're demanding something of somebody who

1025
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:03,840
Speaker 3: don't have no power, can't vote, can't pass any laws,

1026
00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 3: and then the people that can, we treat them like

1027
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:07,720
Speaker 3: the pop stars.

1028
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 1: This shit is ridiculous.

1029
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 2: The pop the pop star stuff is very like cultural

1030
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:15,600
Speaker 2: influence stuff is as power as opposed to like people

1031
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:18,440
Speaker 2: willed and actual laws as power. Correct, we supposed to

1032
00:52:18,520 --> 00:52:21,759
Speaker 2: root for ALC like she's Beyonce, but we're going to

1033
00:52:21,880 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 2: demand Beyonce have the have the political uh, political activism

1034
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:29,520
Speaker 2: and the political influence of an ALC.

1035
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: And that's ridiculous to me.

1036
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 2: Sir Tanya says, I voted knowing the poll. We'll get

1037
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 2: to the poll in the second, but I'm not sure

1038
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:38,719
Speaker 2: if it counts because I'm white. Even he says, I

1039
00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:42,160
Speaker 2: can't name a no name song, and I only ever

1040
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:45,480
Speaker 2: hear her name when she's criticizing other artists, kind of

1041
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 2: like Azelia Banks. I remember her going in on Beyonce,

1042
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:51,960
Speaker 2: and most circrates came off as jealous because she's always

1043
00:52:52,000 --> 00:52:54,520
Speaker 2: seen to have something negative to say, even if some

1044
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:58,719
Speaker 2: of what she says may be valid. Yeah, I don't

1045
00:52:58,719 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 2: remember I said this on the show the time. I

1046
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 2: think I did, But when she was going doing that

1047
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:05,839
Speaker 2: shit with Beyonce, that was my big Like I told

1048
00:53:05,920 --> 00:53:07,800
Speaker 2: y'all she was gonna go too far. And when I

1049
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 2: was when she was doing with j Colen Kendrick, people

1050
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:13,360
Speaker 2: was lining up on the gender war side, being like

1051
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:15,919
Speaker 2: mm hmm a black woman and I was like, nah,

1052
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 2: this is not that. And when she got out Beyonce,

1053
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:23,719
Speaker 2: the Internet turned on her ass because they was like,

1054
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 2: Beyonce actually does a lot of stuff that you claim

1055
00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 2: to be about and you're still trying to find a

1056
00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 2: way to denegrate it. And I said, yes, she's denigrating

1057
00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 2: because she's jealous. She wants that pull. All these people

1058
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 2: she's talking about doing bigger and better than her, especially

1059
00:53:38,680 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 2: among other black folks. They got a better reputation than

1060
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 2: her amongst other black folks. The only place she's more

1061
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:46,839
Speaker 2: popular was in that really small circle of woke black

1062
00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:48,840
Speaker 2: Twitter that was on her side no matter what she

1063
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 2: said until she turned on Beyonce, and people was like,

1064
00:53:51,880 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 2: the fucking African artist that you're shitting.

1065
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:55,800
Speaker 1: That you're that you're u.

1066
00:53:56,400 --> 00:53:58,719
Speaker 2: This is when she did Black is King, right, Yeah,

1067
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:02,239
Speaker 2: the black artist African artists that you say you're supporting

1068
00:54:02,400 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 2: are telling you, no, we love what Beyonce did. She

1069
00:54:06,040 --> 00:54:09,320
Speaker 2: empowered us she paid us, she respected us, and she

1070
00:54:09,400 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 2: spread our fucking work. And you're on the internet saying

1071
00:54:12,760 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 2: sit you don't know anything about and she refused accept that,

1072
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:17,960
Speaker 2: And I remember, like s I don't remember I said

1073
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 2: that at the time on the show. She hopped in

1074
00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 2: my mentions over that will I don't act, no name

1075
00:54:22,280 --> 00:54:25,360
Speaker 2: or none of this shit, And she had a burner account.

1076
00:54:25,480 --> 00:54:28,920
Speaker 2: And I thought we had a decent discussion, but obviously

1077
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:31,240
Speaker 2: we weren't going to see how to eye. She's younger

1078
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:33,760
Speaker 2: than me, and I just fundamentally see the world differently

1079
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:34,719
Speaker 2: than her.

1080
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 1: But I remember thinking at the time, like the fact.

1081
00:54:37,840 --> 00:54:41,280
Speaker 2: That you're searching your name and going in my mentions

1082
00:54:41,360 --> 00:54:43,640
Speaker 2: when I'm not even a disrespectful person. I didn't call

1083
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:46,360
Speaker 2: you out your name, I didn't say anything bad about you.

1084
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 2: But the fact that you're that hyper aware, you're hyper online.

1085
00:54:51,800 --> 00:54:53,960
Speaker 2: You have to get the fuck off of here. You

1086
00:54:54,040 --> 00:54:57,319
Speaker 2: shouldn't see what everyone thinks about you, because the place

1087
00:54:57,440 --> 00:55:01,839
Speaker 2: is unhealthy. Today. It might feel okay one day, shout

1088
00:55:01,840 --> 00:55:05,279
Speaker 2: out to this week, it's gonna be unhealthy because this

1089
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 2: is not a supportive, friendly environment for anyone. So now

1090
00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:12,560
Speaker 2: they're in your mentions and you're talking about delaying your

1091
00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:15,319
Speaker 2: album and deleting your account and not talking to people

1092
00:55:15,719 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 2: because you too privy to what everyone thinks and partially

1093
00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:21,600
Speaker 2: and one of the reasons this happens to me is, well,

1094
00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 2: this happened to me as well. Being hyper online, you

1095
00:55:24,760 --> 00:55:27,680
Speaker 2: start thinking everyone is and everyone should be aware of

1096
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 2: all the thoughts and all the feelings and all the

1097
00:55:29,719 --> 00:55:31,839
Speaker 2: words and all the discussions and all their interactions all

1098
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 2: the time, and you start thinking that that's a realistic way.

1099
00:55:35,200 --> 00:55:38,200
Speaker 2: So you believe, why isn't j Cole like that? Why

1100
00:55:38,320 --> 00:55:40,720
Speaker 2: isn't Kendrick like that? Why isn't Beyonce like that? Because

1101
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 2: they're not fucking online all the time. They don't need

1102
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:46,120
Speaker 2: to or want to see all that unhealthy shit all

1103
00:55:46,160 --> 00:55:48,440
Speaker 2: the time. You're seeing it, and you're convinced that it's

1104
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 2: the only way, and you're convinced that it's a good thing.

1105
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:53,359
Speaker 2: And I just posit that both of those things are wrong.

1106
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:56,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, you convinced that this is normal, and it's not.

1107
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 1: It's actually abnormal. Yeah.

1108
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:01,920
Speaker 2: I don't want to engage with Tau from Randos on Twitter.

1109
00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:03,959
Speaker 1: Right to have no investment in my life.

1110
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:07,240
Speaker 2: Imagine if I was fucking looking up game theories, hashtag

1111
00:56:07,320 --> 00:56:09,120
Speaker 2: every day to see what the fuck the racist thought.

1112
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:11,520
Speaker 2: I'm at some point, you're just like, man, I don't

1113
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 2: know if if it ain't a fucking executive or somebody

1114
00:56:14,239 --> 00:56:16,160
Speaker 2: to get paid to talk to me about what we

1115
00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:18,600
Speaker 2: write it the show, I really don't give a fuck

1116
00:56:19,239 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 2: because you have no power or I can't. At the

1117
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:26,320
Speaker 2: very least, it seems performative. Maybe now she'll realize that

1118
00:56:26,400 --> 00:56:29,200
Speaker 2: people online she's performing for are some of the same

1119
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:31,879
Speaker 2: ones that tear you down the second you do something

1120
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:34,560
Speaker 2: they don't like. I call the Twitter the outrage machine,

1121
00:56:34,880 --> 00:56:37,080
Speaker 2: because the more negative people are, the more attention. Every

1122
00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:41,720
Speaker 2: city valid points were made. Comments on YouTube of service

1123
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:44,359
Speaker 2: Spoonful said white people were in that bag that day.

1124
00:56:44,640 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 2: They were in that brown paper bag. Test Rod, please

1125
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:48,440
Speaker 2: laugh my ass off. Thank you.

1126
00:56:49,480 --> 00:56:50,800
Speaker 1: I think I have bars sometimes.

1127
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:54,760
Speaker 2: Brenttelligence says, it's so cool to get the blackout tips

1128
00:56:54,840 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 2: on YouTube. Thank you, glad you enjoying it. And then

1129
00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:01,919
Speaker 2: the poll was have you ever called a white person

1130
00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:02,800
Speaker 2: you're in word.

1131
00:57:04,400 --> 00:57:05,040
Speaker 1: Yes or no?

1132
00:57:06,360 --> 00:57:12,000
Speaker 2: Nineteen percent yes, eighty percent no, so but like nineteen twenty,

1133
00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:14,719
Speaker 2: I guess honor and then you know what I mean, guy,

1134
00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 2: it's twenty percent eighty and very close on Spotify twenty

1135
00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:22,240
Speaker 2: three percent and seventy seven percent. Now, I think it's

1136
00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:24,560
Speaker 2: probably even higher because I think a lot of y'all

1137
00:57:24,600 --> 00:57:28,200
Speaker 2: are scared to say you did it, and because you

1138
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 2: you know the way the poe would work. There's more

1139
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 2: people that would be like, I ain't gonna tell y'all

1140
00:57:32,000 --> 00:57:36,040
Speaker 2: I said that than there are the opposite. But yeah,

1141
00:57:36,120 --> 00:57:38,360
Speaker 2: that's still a pretty hard percentage. I'm pretty sure I've

1142
00:57:38,360 --> 00:57:40,960
Speaker 2: done it at least once or twice, definitely during basketball.

1143
00:57:41,240 --> 00:57:42,600
Speaker 1: Now, I've never had a white person.

1144
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 2: Say it back, because I think they know, and I

1145
00:57:44,720 --> 00:57:51,880
Speaker 2: know I would probably act crazy. I know that's not

1146
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:55,200
Speaker 2: fair to those that don't understand how racial dynamics work,

1147
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 2: but it makes a lot of sense in my fucking mind.

1148
00:57:58,080 --> 00:57:58,160
Speaker 3: Uh.

1149
00:57:58,400 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 2: And I've never had to experience the other way around,

1150
00:58:00,920 --> 00:58:04,400
Speaker 2: you know, of someone trying me like that. Uh. But

1151
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:07,880
Speaker 2: you know, but I've been around when other black people

1152
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 2: had white people that said it back to them, and

1153
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:13,640
Speaker 2: I just look at them like, uh, string of bell

1154
00:58:13,720 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 2: in that one scene with the glasses, like Okay, the pope,

1155
00:58:19,080 --> 00:58:20,800
Speaker 2: I mean the Q and A, the Prince of the end.

1156
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:23,280
Speaker 2: The price of the N word. Man, I fucked this up.

1157
00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:24,200
Speaker 1: She just said the price.

1158
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 2: It said the princes of the N word.

1159
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:28,760
Speaker 1: God damn, can you edit edit it.

1160
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:34,280
Speaker 2: Anyway? The price of the N word going down? Oh wait,

1161
00:58:34,400 --> 00:58:36,840
Speaker 2: maybe I can't edit it. It's too late. Anyway, they

1162
00:58:36,960 --> 00:58:39,960
Speaker 2: understood I put the prints of the N word, and uh,

1163
00:58:40,520 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 2: let's be honest, guys, that didn't make sense and y'all

1164
00:58:42,680 --> 00:58:42,920
Speaker 2: knew it.

1165
00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 3: Uh.

1166
00:58:45,760 --> 00:58:49,840
Speaker 2: Q and A's responses can't be edited. Same my mistake

1167
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:52,120
Speaker 2: and Shrine and forever on Spotify.

1168
00:58:53,000 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 1: You tried to correct that, y'all.

1169
00:58:54,520 --> 00:58:57,560
Speaker 2: Theron says you meant price? Then yes, oh, Toron, what

1170
00:58:57,640 --> 00:58:58,560
Speaker 2: the fuck could I mean?

1171
00:58:59,520 --> 00:58:59,640
Speaker 3: Uh?

1172
00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 2: Did you listen to the episode?

1173
00:59:03,080 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 1: Who the fuck is the prince of.

1174
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 2: The N word? Who would even be the prince of

1175
00:59:07,720 --> 00:59:08,200
Speaker 2: the N word?

1176
00:59:08,240 --> 00:59:10,280
Speaker 1: At this point? Who said nigga? Who would be the

1177
00:59:10,360 --> 00:59:11,880
Speaker 1: who would be the prince of the N word?

1178
00:59:11,960 --> 00:59:14,160
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think who says nigga? The most? Okay?

1179
00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 2: Ty Flojan says, there goes the neighborhood. What Quentin Tarantino

1180
00:59:19,640 --> 00:59:22,080
Speaker 2: nasens is? This says James Flying A Boss is the

1181
00:59:22,160 --> 00:59:25,080
Speaker 2: girl rap group says can Coo. All of their songs

1182
00:59:25,080 --> 00:59:27,680
Speaker 2: are fun. Instagram recommended them to me because I follow

1183
00:59:27,720 --> 00:59:30,479
Speaker 2: a Nico Rico Nasty meet me at the Altar Indo.

1184
00:59:30,680 --> 00:59:36,240
Speaker 2: She Katian says, real quick, Italy Saint Sex Union laws

1185
00:59:36,280 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 2: of twenty sixteen is literally only one year behind America

1186
00:59:38,680 --> 00:59:42,520
Speaker 2: Scotis rul in twenty fifteen. H Saint Tam says, I've

1187
00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:44,760
Speaker 2: never called a white person my n word to that face,

1188
00:59:45,040 --> 00:59:47,360
Speaker 2: but definitely said the phrase my n word Kyle to

1189
00:59:47,480 --> 00:59:49,680
Speaker 2: black people in my closest personal circles. Can't say it

1190
00:59:49,720 --> 00:59:53,920
Speaker 2: around everyone. Definitely can't say it around everyone. Yeah, I

1191
00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:55,960
Speaker 2: say nigga a lot, but I can turn it off.

1192
00:59:56,280 --> 00:59:59,320
Speaker 2: I've had corporate jobs. Shit, I go on Karen Hunter Show,

1193
00:59:59,360 --> 00:59:59,640
Speaker 2: I don't.

1194
00:59:59,720 --> 01:00:00,760
Speaker 1: I don't get cast slipping.

1195
01:00:00,840 --> 01:00:02,880
Speaker 2: I know it's real easy to me to turn off

1196
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:05,440
Speaker 2: because it's situational. To certain people you can say it

1197
01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:07,800
Speaker 2: with and they they get it and they kind of

1198
01:00:07,840 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 2: respect the unspoken rules. And some motherfuckers you you slip

1199
01:00:13,280 --> 01:00:15,000
Speaker 2: up and be like, oh that's Kyle, you know, you

1200
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:17,200
Speaker 2: my nigga. Next thing you know, he's saying the N

1201
01:00:17,240 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 2: word to you all the time, and now you feel

1202
01:00:18,800 --> 01:00:19,479
Speaker 2: like it's your fault.

1203
01:00:20,440 --> 01:00:22,120
Speaker 1: Carry says, I went to a tire shot.

1204
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 2: With enough money to buy single tie to replace a blowout.

1205
01:00:24,480 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 2: White dude gave me a whole brand new set for free.

1206
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:30,280
Speaker 2: Never call told him, But he's my nigga, right, you don't.

1207
01:00:30,320 --> 01:00:33,280
Speaker 2: You don't tell him, you know now, because he might

1208
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:36,600
Speaker 2: go on TikTok. Now, I say even bigger, it's even

1209
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:37,920
Speaker 2: bigger reason not to tell them.

1210
01:00:37,960 --> 01:00:39,400
Speaker 1: They got right.

1211
01:00:40,040 --> 01:00:43,720
Speaker 2: They're out here putting you on blast. Last episode two

1212
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:47,360
Speaker 2: comments twenty seven thirty eight. Over we have Mike Lawrence

1213
01:00:47,400 --> 01:00:50,520
Speaker 2: on APPA, says, Mike sounds pretty happy. Overall, that's great.

1214
01:00:50,560 --> 01:00:52,680
Speaker 2: I understand the strike with no job security. The writers

1215
01:00:52,760 --> 01:00:53,240
Speaker 2: need to make.

1216
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:55,400
Speaker 1: Good money because they never know and the next job

1217
01:00:55,440 --> 01:00:56,360
Speaker 1: will be thank you.

1218
01:00:56,560 --> 01:00:58,240
Speaker 2: That's another thing, yep.

1219
01:00:58,600 --> 01:01:01,720
Speaker 3: And they consistently change in jobs and consistently looking for

1220
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:05,360
Speaker 3: work like it is really really difficult. And a lot

1221
01:01:05,440 --> 01:01:08,360
Speaker 3: of people, like I said before, had these theories, and

1222
01:01:08,840 --> 01:01:11,040
Speaker 3: you know, looking at Rogic and learning the things that

1223
01:01:11,120 --> 01:01:14,760
Speaker 3: I'm learning, I'm kind of like Rogic. Oh, y'all, niggas

1224
01:01:14,760 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 3: don't know what y'all talking about. People boutom shit.

1225
01:01:17,720 --> 01:01:19,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I'm like I said, I've seen the comparisons

1226
01:01:20,040 --> 01:01:23,200
Speaker 2: to like other industries like well, what about these people

1227
01:01:23,200 --> 01:01:25,040
Speaker 2: don't have a union? First of all, why are you

1228
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:28,120
Speaker 2: talking to us like we're the fucking problem. That's the

1229
01:01:28,240 --> 01:01:32,240
Speaker 2: corporate class, that's the government that that's not us stopping

1230
01:01:32,280 --> 01:01:35,640
Speaker 2: people from unionizing. I guarantee you people in unions like

1231
01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:38,520
Speaker 2: writers will support everybody fucking unionizers. So stop trying to

1232
01:01:38,560 --> 01:01:41,840
Speaker 2: act like it's a like a look at you privileged motherfuckers,

1233
01:01:41,960 --> 01:01:46,080
Speaker 2: Like we currently don't have jobs. We're currently making none

1234
01:01:46,120 --> 01:01:48,720
Speaker 2: of the fucking money we're promised. So that's one of

1235
01:01:48,760 --> 01:01:51,120
Speaker 2: the things. So stop trying to like in fight and

1236
01:01:51,200 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 2: make us the enemy. The second part of that is,

1237
01:01:55,120 --> 01:01:58,920
Speaker 2: even within the context of other industries that should be unionized,

1238
01:01:59,320 --> 01:02:04,000
Speaker 2: not all of them are facing the same type of employment. Uh,

1239
01:02:04,320 --> 01:02:07,760
Speaker 2: the employment environment of writers, like I said, it's not

1240
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:11,880
Speaker 2: even seasonal. Vast majority of writers and actors don't make

1241
01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:15,120
Speaker 2: that money that you're supposed to make to even qualify

1242
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:18,200
Speaker 2: for the fucking insurance and stuff. So you're you're viewing

1243
01:02:18,360 --> 01:02:21,160
Speaker 2: us like we're separate from these other industries and the

1244
01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:24,600
Speaker 2: other struggles. We're very much the same, except our work

1245
01:02:24,720 --> 01:02:28,360
Speaker 2: is even less guaranteed. There's always gonna be a McDonald

1246
01:02:28,480 --> 01:02:32,400
Speaker 2: somewhere there's not always a writing job for people that write,

1247
01:02:32,560 --> 01:02:34,840
Speaker 2: you know, there's not always acting jobs. You got audition,

1248
01:02:35,280 --> 01:02:37,440
Speaker 2: there's no fucking guarantee. There's a lot of people in

1249
01:02:37,560 --> 01:02:40,320
Speaker 2: sad that just don't qualify for shit. So yeah, I

1250
01:02:40,480 --> 01:02:43,000
Speaker 2: just think the whole thing is to keep people from

1251
01:02:43,040 --> 01:02:43,800
Speaker 2: turning on each other.

1252
01:02:43,920 --> 01:02:45,480
Speaker 1: And I think that's a huge part.

1253
01:02:46,120 --> 01:02:48,120
Speaker 2: Like I have, I do have my own qualms with

1254
01:02:49,040 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 2: stuff within the movement for the strike and stuff with

1255
01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:56,920
Speaker 2: the optics and the online antics and certain things that

1256
01:02:56,960 --> 01:03:00,320
Speaker 2: people think are like cute or funny, and I have

1257
01:03:00,560 --> 01:03:03,160
Speaker 2: my issues. I've kept them to myself because I think

1258
01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:07,000
Speaker 2: solidarity is more important than being like I think this

1259
01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:09,920
Speaker 2: person should stop crumping in front of the police at

1260
01:03:09,960 --> 01:03:14,000
Speaker 2: the Black Lives Matter march, like, okay, change nothing.

1261
01:03:14,120 --> 01:03:15,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like that.

1262
01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:17,280
Speaker 2: But at the same time, Lisa out there marching and

1263
01:03:17,320 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, fuck it, it's not

1264
01:03:19,600 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 2: the police are killing us are the ones I got

1265
01:03:21,960 --> 01:03:24,680
Speaker 2: the problem with the brother crumping, that's just his way

1266
01:03:24,720 --> 01:03:29,240
Speaker 2: of showing it. Mary says, why did over the over

1267
01:03:29,360 --> 01:03:29,880
Speaker 2: take me out?

1268
01:03:30,040 --> 01:03:30,360
Speaker 1: Lol?

1269
01:03:30,800 --> 01:03:32,960
Speaker 2: I do love a well crafted joke, but sometimes silly

1270
01:03:33,080 --> 01:03:33,479
Speaker 2: is the best.

1271
01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1272
01:03:34,360 --> 01:03:37,640
Speaker 2: I think Mike was bothered by that, a little hit

1273
01:03:37,800 --> 01:03:40,600
Speaker 2: like that. I know, like I said, there's certain things

1274
01:03:40,840 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 2: he's open about that bothered him because of like specifically autism,

1275
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:49,200
Speaker 2: and I think constantly saying over was gonna like fuck

1276
01:03:49,280 --> 01:03:52,080
Speaker 2: with him. I didn't realize it until like a few

1277
01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:54,000
Speaker 2: overs in he was like, all right, we can stop.

1278
01:03:54,040 --> 01:03:55,000
Speaker 2: But I was like, all right, let's stop.

1279
01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 1: My bad.

1280
01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 2: But to me it was hilarious. I would have done

1281
01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:00,280
Speaker 2: it the whole time because it's just that funny to me.

1282
01:04:00,480 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 2: But the poll, have you ever oh wait comments on YouTube?

1283
01:04:04,440 --> 01:04:05,840
Speaker 2: Let me check last one over?

1284
01:04:07,560 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 1: No comments?

1285
01:04:08,160 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 2: Okay, boo? The poll? Have you ever been part of

1286
01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 2: a worker's rights movement?

1287
01:04:13,200 --> 01:04:13,360
Speaker 1: Yes?

1288
01:04:13,480 --> 01:04:13,600
Speaker 2: Or no?

1289
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:18,640
Speaker 3: No? Haven't been part of a union or any of

1290
01:04:18,720 --> 01:04:21,760
Speaker 3: that type of stuff. You know, I'm pretty sure that

1291
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 3: there are union jobs here a lot of well.

1292
01:04:24,600 --> 01:04:26,520
Speaker 2: I just say part of a union, I say part

1293
01:04:26,560 --> 01:04:30,240
Speaker 2: of a worker's rights movement. That would be a strike. Okay, yeah,

1294
01:04:31,560 --> 01:04:35,400
Speaker 2: so yes, seventy and that sounds about right. I think

1295
01:04:35,440 --> 01:04:40,200
Speaker 2: most people probably have not. And on Spotify seventy eight

1296
01:04:40,200 --> 01:04:42,200
Speaker 2: percent No, And you know that's probably because a lot

1297
01:04:42,200 --> 01:04:45,160
Speaker 2: of them are bosses and they are the people that

1298
01:04:45,440 --> 01:04:49,040
Speaker 2: are being you know, protested against Raphael says. When the

1299
01:04:49,040 --> 01:04:51,600
Speaker 2: franchise explained why they watch something that I don't, I

1300
01:04:51,680 --> 01:04:53,440
Speaker 2: cut them short and remind them that they are allowed

1301
01:04:53,480 --> 01:04:55,560
Speaker 2: to enjoy life too, and I got a license to skip.

1302
01:04:55,760 --> 01:04:58,400
Speaker 2: If it's serious, pay me then I hear you, buddy.

1303
01:04:58,520 --> 01:05:03,840
Speaker 2: All right, all right, let's no voicemails this week.

1304
01:05:04,240 --> 01:05:04,560
Speaker 1: Okay.

1305
01:05:06,200 --> 01:05:09,600
Speaker 2: So I say we get into our new segment that

1306
01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:13,120
Speaker 2: I don't even really have a name for yet, but

1307
01:05:13,840 --> 01:05:15,520
Speaker 2: I'll explain it after this beat.

1308
01:05:45,520 --> 01:05:45,880
Speaker 1: All right.

1309
01:05:46,720 --> 01:05:49,960
Speaker 2: So I started doing something new on our Instagram. I

1310
01:05:50,160 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 2: asked the audience questions and then they leave answers, and

1311
01:05:54,640 --> 01:05:57,919
Speaker 2: I said we can read them on the show. Yay.

1312
01:05:58,680 --> 01:05:59,880
Speaker 1: So I ask two questions.

1313
01:06:00,200 --> 01:06:04,960
Speaker 2: I'll go with the second question first, because I think

1314
01:06:05,080 --> 01:06:08,920
Speaker 2: that's the fun one worst place you've gone on a

1315
01:06:09,000 --> 01:06:12,560
Speaker 2: first date, because we talked about the ice cream date.

1316
01:06:14,120 --> 01:06:14,480
Speaker 1: All right.

1317
01:06:15,320 --> 01:06:17,680
Speaker 2: I won't say y'all's names because I don't want anybody

1318
01:06:17,760 --> 01:06:20,040
Speaker 2: to might fill away, so I'll just say your answers.

1319
01:06:20,120 --> 01:06:20,880
Speaker 1: But you know you are.

1320
01:06:21,640 --> 01:06:24,760
Speaker 2: And our instagram is the black guy who tips. Okay,

1321
01:06:25,240 --> 01:06:29,040
Speaker 2: you can link it in the show notes. Apple Bees.

1322
01:06:29,640 --> 01:06:32,120
Speaker 2: I had just turned twenty one, my first official happy

1323
01:06:32,200 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 2: hour back in college, I thought I arrived. Looking back,

1324
01:06:35,480 --> 01:06:37,840
Speaker 2: maybe it could have been worse. I'm gonna say, not

1325
01:06:38,000 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 2: that bad of a first day. If that's the worst

1326
01:06:39,800 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 2: place you go on the first date, that's a good

1327
01:06:41,840 --> 01:06:42,240
Speaker 2: first day.

1328
01:06:42,360 --> 01:06:42,840
Speaker 1: Not that bad.

1329
01:06:42,880 --> 01:06:45,040
Speaker 3: Two for twenty five, I'm okay at you and you

1330
01:06:45,160 --> 01:06:47,840
Speaker 3: might get dessert, depend on how how it structured. I

1331
01:06:47,880 --> 01:06:49,800
Speaker 3: feel like it's only on social media that they look

1332
01:06:49,880 --> 01:06:52,520
Speaker 3: down on the fucking Apple Bee's and the things that bad.

1333
01:06:52,880 --> 01:06:55,120
Speaker 2: Nigga. I've been plenty of change restaurants and it made

1334
01:06:55,160 --> 01:06:57,240
Speaker 2: it work, God damn it, and it made my budget work.

1335
01:06:57,360 --> 01:06:59,520
Speaker 1: Come on them and Chili's and all the rest of them.

1336
01:06:59,600 --> 01:07:01,840
Speaker 2: Yes, sir, right, Like it might be a lot of sodium,

1337
01:07:02,160 --> 01:07:06,720
Speaker 2: but listen, that shit was making me and Karen and

1338
01:07:06,800 --> 01:07:09,240
Speaker 2: got bound plenty or two for twenty Okay, yes, sir,

1339
01:07:10,960 --> 01:07:14,680
Speaker 2: Damien says Church Revival. Oh that does sound terrible. I

1340
01:07:14,720 --> 01:07:17,160
Speaker 2: ain't even say name, but that do sound bad. Church

1341
01:07:17,240 --> 01:07:21,040
Speaker 2: Revival as a date, I mean, I guess you yeah,

1342
01:07:21,280 --> 01:07:24,520
Speaker 2: but I do hear Church got some freaks though, you know,

1343
01:07:24,680 --> 01:07:28,040
Speaker 2: so I don't know. I know people used to get.

1344
01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:31,200
Speaker 3: Down just because them skirts is loan right, they pull

1345
01:07:31,280 --> 01:07:32,400
Speaker 3: that jean skirt up on you.

1346
01:07:33,040 --> 01:07:34,920
Speaker 1: Somebody tell you just because it's.

1347
01:07:34,840 --> 01:07:40,800
Speaker 2: Long, okay. They take them shackles off them feet okay. Also,

1348
01:07:41,000 --> 01:07:44,560
Speaker 2: like I've heard of many a church sleepover that got freaky.

1349
01:07:44,640 --> 01:07:47,600
Speaker 2: So I don't know them, lock in them, shut them things.

1350
01:07:48,640 --> 01:07:48,960
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1351
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:52,439
Speaker 2: That might not be that bad. The next person says,

1352
01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:53,120
Speaker 2: his house.

1353
01:07:58,320 --> 01:07:59,600
Speaker 1: I thought you in his snacks?

1354
01:08:00,200 --> 01:08:00,720
Speaker 2: His house?

1355
01:08:00,800 --> 01:08:01,920
Speaker 1: Do seem it?

1356
01:08:02,040 --> 01:08:04,360
Speaker 2: Do seem a little dangerous and a little scary for

1357
01:08:04,440 --> 01:08:04,960
Speaker 2: a first day.

1358
01:08:05,400 --> 01:08:07,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're not meeting at your house.

1359
01:08:07,200 --> 01:08:09,920
Speaker 2: I feel like first days should be in neutral territory.

1360
01:08:10,000 --> 01:08:11,640
Speaker 1: But that's just me. I'm old school like that.

1361
01:08:12,800 --> 01:08:15,080
Speaker 2: No home games, no away games. Let's go to some

1362
01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:18,839
Speaker 2: mutral territory. That seemed like more of a tender situation

1363
01:08:18,960 --> 01:08:21,880
Speaker 2: than a date situation. But who knows, you know, save money.

1364
01:08:22,560 --> 01:08:25,120
Speaker 2: If it's a nice person, you know him well enough.

1365
01:08:25,400 --> 01:08:28,240
Speaker 2: Maybe it's like a cowork or a friend or something,

1366
01:08:28,360 --> 01:08:29,439
Speaker 2: and they want to cook for you.

1367
01:08:29,560 --> 01:08:30,400
Speaker 1: It can be romantic.

1368
01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:32,120
Speaker 3: I can see that, but we would have to be

1369
01:08:32,439 --> 01:08:34,240
Speaker 3: doing that for a while, Like, I'm not going to

1370
01:08:34,320 --> 01:08:35,080
Speaker 3: nobody's house.

1371
01:08:35,280 --> 01:08:36,040
Speaker 1: I hear you.

1372
01:08:36,160 --> 01:08:38,519
Speaker 2: Like I said, I can see why it would be

1373
01:08:38,560 --> 01:08:39,760
Speaker 2: a horrible first date as well.

1374
01:08:40,200 --> 01:08:41,280
Speaker 1: I need more details.

1375
01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:43,840
Speaker 2: Was it not clean? Was it just that you know

1376
01:08:43,960 --> 01:08:44,719
Speaker 2: it was too cheap?

1377
01:08:44,760 --> 01:08:47,200
Speaker 1: Could he not cook? I just need to know. Ms

1378
01:08:47,400 --> 01:08:49,559
Speaker 1: Bond says, I had lunch at his job.

1379
01:08:50,960 --> 01:08:56,120
Speaker 2: At his job? Did he work at the restaurant or

1380
01:08:56,439 --> 01:08:56,960
Speaker 2: pack lunch?

1381
01:08:57,000 --> 01:08:59,960
Speaker 1: I don't understand. Yeah, like did you just show up

1382
01:09:00,040 --> 01:09:01,160
Speaker 1: restaurant at the job?

1383
01:09:01,960 --> 01:09:04,080
Speaker 2: Y'all haven't many y'all gotta be more details. I need

1384
01:09:04,160 --> 01:09:07,320
Speaker 2: more questions. Next person says, and I'm sorry about saying

1385
01:09:07,320 --> 01:09:09,080
Speaker 2: your name is what? Y'all know what I'm saying. The

1386
01:09:09,160 --> 01:09:11,200
Speaker 2: next person says his thirtieth birthday party.

1387
01:09:12,960 --> 01:09:18,040
Speaker 3: That sounds like it could be lit, but but you

1388
01:09:18,160 --> 01:09:21,920
Speaker 3: know what go wrong because everybody's there to celebrate right right,

1389
01:09:22,200 --> 01:09:25,439
Speaker 3: not an actual date, like you didn't want to actually

1390
01:09:25,479 --> 01:09:27,920
Speaker 3: take the time because it's almost insulting. You didn't want

1391
01:09:27,960 --> 01:09:30,040
Speaker 3: to take the time to schedule the day after the

1392
01:09:30,160 --> 01:09:33,439
Speaker 3: day before you invited me on your day, So now

1393
01:09:33,560 --> 01:09:35,560
Speaker 3: as the first that I'm supposed to fucking show with

1394
01:09:35,640 --> 01:09:36,960
Speaker 3: a gift, I don't understand.

1395
01:09:37,080 --> 01:09:41,280
Speaker 2: I can see, y'allso from his perspective, in your mind,

1396
01:09:41,720 --> 01:09:44,680
Speaker 2: I'm gonna look like the coolest person ever. Everyone's celebrating

1397
01:09:44,760 --> 01:09:48,320
Speaker 2: me today I'm impressing you, you know, just to get

1398
01:09:48,360 --> 01:09:48,720
Speaker 2: your wet.

1399
01:09:49,280 --> 01:09:52,880
Speaker 1: Everyone's giving me cake and presents, you know.

1400
01:09:53,880 --> 01:09:54,000
Speaker 3: Uh.

1401
01:09:54,240 --> 01:09:57,840
Speaker 2: DJ Joffa says a drum and bass club, don't ask,

1402
01:09:58,040 --> 01:09:59,120
Speaker 2: just no. It was terrible.

1403
01:09:59,160 --> 01:09:59,960
Speaker 1: I couldn't hear a word.

1404
01:10:00,160 --> 01:10:01,719
Speaker 2: She said, Oh that's my nightmare.

1405
01:10:01,840 --> 01:10:03,840
Speaker 3: Oh was that like that sushi placed me went to?

1406
01:10:04,000 --> 01:10:06,080
Speaker 3: But we was right in front of each other's faces

1407
01:10:06,120 --> 01:10:07,000
Speaker 3: and couldn't hear each other.

1408
01:10:07,280 --> 01:10:09,479
Speaker 2: Loud music is on nightmare. I don't even like when

1409
01:10:09,520 --> 01:10:12,080
Speaker 2: people say they want to go hang out at a

1410
01:10:12,160 --> 01:10:14,240
Speaker 2: place that just plays loud music. I'm like, why don't

1411
01:10:14,240 --> 01:10:18,240
Speaker 2: you just not ask me to go? I'm zero fun

1412
01:10:18,320 --> 01:10:19,840
Speaker 2: in those places. I'm the worst.

1413
01:10:20,160 --> 01:10:20,800
Speaker 1: You can't hear me.

1414
01:10:21,200 --> 01:10:24,439
Speaker 2: My voice doesn't carry that loud and I don't like yelling.

1415
01:10:25,400 --> 01:10:28,720
Speaker 2: And much of what makes me good is being a

1416
01:10:28,800 --> 01:10:33,679
Speaker 2: conversationalist and getting good timing on jokes and shit that sucks.

1417
01:10:35,080 --> 01:10:39,280
Speaker 2: Kirky Bella says Chipotle when the when during the food

1418
01:10:39,600 --> 01:10:44,240
Speaker 2: poison at fiasco? Oh yeah, I can see that. I

1419
01:10:44,280 --> 01:10:47,160
Speaker 2: can see that. You know, why not because you got

1420
01:10:47,240 --> 01:10:49,960
Speaker 2: food poisoning? Because you probably didn't, but I would be

1421
01:10:50,000 --> 01:10:52,519
Speaker 2: worried about it. How I'm enjoyed this date. If I'm thinking,

1422
01:10:52,600 --> 01:10:54,000
Speaker 2: like I mean, salmonella right now?

1423
01:10:54,920 --> 01:10:55,439
Speaker 1: No, thank you?

1424
01:10:56,120 --> 01:10:58,040
Speaker 2: This a stare all up in this letters. I know

1425
01:10:58,120 --> 01:11:01,679
Speaker 2: we're gonna die. But what you're saying, you what we're saying?

1426
01:11:02,479 --> 01:11:04,360
Speaker 2: Where you see your something five years or whatever? Fuck

1427
01:11:05,520 --> 01:11:10,400
Speaker 2: uh his sister's house who was a hoarder? Oh who

1428
01:11:10,520 --> 01:11:11,759
Speaker 2: thought that was a good idea.

1429
01:11:13,320 --> 01:11:15,439
Speaker 3: I'm not meeting at nobody's house for the first date.

1430
01:11:15,520 --> 01:11:18,400
Speaker 3: These house dates, like I said, this is my insecurity

1431
01:11:18,439 --> 01:11:21,280
Speaker 3: and I'm projecting I'm not meeting nobody's fucking house.

1432
01:11:21,640 --> 01:11:23,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know the house thing for me. Like

1433
01:11:23,960 --> 01:11:26,040
Speaker 2: I said, there's a lot of stuff that I could see.

1434
01:11:27,120 --> 01:11:29,120
Speaker 2: I could see a house date, but there's a there's

1435
01:11:29,120 --> 01:11:32,439
Speaker 2: stuff that they that we don't know. But like if

1436
01:11:32,479 --> 01:11:34,800
Speaker 2: it's like saying, somebody you known for a while and

1437
01:11:34,880 --> 01:11:38,400
Speaker 2: they decide to ask you out, Like so it's not

1438
01:11:38,640 --> 01:11:42,600
Speaker 2: necessarily like a going to a stranger's house, you know

1439
01:11:42,960 --> 01:11:45,280
Speaker 2: what if it's someone's whose house I've been down before

1440
01:11:45,320 --> 01:11:48,640
Speaker 2: because we're friends. Like, there's reasons I can see a

1441
01:11:48,800 --> 01:11:51,640
Speaker 2: house date by itself, not being dislike.

1442
01:11:52,360 --> 01:11:56,360
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm thinking yeah, first time right, But at the

1443
01:11:56,479 --> 01:12:01,160
Speaker 3: same time, this one is his sister's house.

1444
01:12:01,600 --> 01:12:04,559
Speaker 2: It ain't even his house. Who is a order?

1445
01:12:05,120 --> 01:12:07,680
Speaker 3: So it ain't no telling what you walked into. And

1446
01:12:07,760 --> 01:12:10,080
Speaker 3: I'm telling the oldest that were in there, why did

1447
01:12:10,120 --> 01:12:11,240
Speaker 3: they think this was smart?

1448
01:12:11,640 --> 01:12:12,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like that, mean.

1449
01:12:14,479 --> 01:12:15,960
Speaker 2: That mean from a goofy movie.

1450
01:12:16,280 --> 01:12:17,280
Speaker 1: Bitch, you live like this?

1451
01:12:20,920 --> 01:12:22,519
Speaker 2: How you want to start with that as a first

1452
01:12:22,560 --> 01:12:24,479
Speaker 2: day I guess you know what, If I accept that,

1453
01:12:24,640 --> 01:12:26,840
Speaker 2: then I can't never I can't never try to high

1454
01:12:26,880 --> 01:12:28,800
Speaker 2: sight on you for the rest of our time together.

1455
01:12:29,520 --> 01:12:31,559
Speaker 2: I can't never be like, You're gonna have to treat

1456
01:12:31,600 --> 01:12:33,960
Speaker 2: me better than this, Like you went down my sister's house.

1457
01:12:34,000 --> 01:12:36,000
Speaker 2: It was an order for a first date. So I

1458
01:12:36,120 --> 01:12:38,439
Speaker 2: actually don't need to treat you better than this. Okay,

1459
01:12:39,439 --> 01:12:41,880
Speaker 2: everything is a step up from what the fuck happened

1460
01:12:41,920 --> 01:12:42,400
Speaker 2: the first date?

1461
01:12:43,040 --> 01:12:43,519
Speaker 1: No thank you?

1462
01:12:44,680 --> 01:12:44,800
Speaker 3: Uh?

1463
01:12:45,760 --> 01:12:50,360
Speaker 1: The next person says they got a verified check. Uh. Church,

1464
01:12:51,840 --> 01:12:52,800
Speaker 1: that's just just the end.

1465
01:12:52,960 --> 01:12:54,200
Speaker 2: I heard church where the freaks out.

1466
01:12:54,200 --> 01:12:54,680
Speaker 1: But I hear you.

1467
01:12:54,840 --> 01:12:56,240
Speaker 2: I wouldn't want to go on a church date.

1468
01:12:56,320 --> 01:12:58,120
Speaker 1: The like, no, we're not doing this now. I gotta

1469
01:12:58,160 --> 01:12:59,880
Speaker 1: pretend to like I'm not here the fuck?

1470
01:13:00,040 --> 01:13:02,920
Speaker 2: Come on? Come on, guys, who was playing with here.

1471
01:13:04,360 --> 01:13:07,120
Speaker 2: Why are we even doing this? I gotta spend the

1472
01:13:07,120 --> 01:13:10,280
Speaker 2: whole time pretending to pray. Come on, now, y'all know

1473
01:13:10,320 --> 01:13:16,200
Speaker 2: I'm looking at that butt. Chris says took a vegan

1474
01:13:16,280 --> 01:13:20,680
Speaker 2: girl to a fried chicken hunting fishing theme bar. That

1475
01:13:20,880 --> 01:13:22,400
Speaker 2: fried chicken was hitting.

1476
01:13:24,040 --> 01:13:29,200
Speaker 1: Play like, I don't know what you're gonna eat. Gainst

1477
01:13:29,200 --> 01:13:30,799
Speaker 1: you better eat that mother's fucking napkin.

1478
01:13:32,920 --> 01:13:37,160
Speaker 2: Extra water for my lady over and I'll take two birds.

1479
01:13:38,280 --> 01:13:41,080
Speaker 1: You bet ain't the seasoned it it comes on the side.

1480
01:13:41,520 --> 01:13:43,280
Speaker 2: You want some of the hot sauce because you could

1481
01:13:43,320 --> 01:13:45,240
Speaker 2: just pull like you take a shot of this hot sauce.

1482
01:13:45,680 --> 01:13:49,240
Speaker 2: I bet you that's vegan. Oh my god, did you

1483
01:13:49,439 --> 01:13:50,320
Speaker 2: know she was vegan?

1484
01:13:50,479 --> 01:13:53,479
Speaker 1: Nothing to eat at all? Did you know she was.

1485
01:13:53,560 --> 01:13:55,120
Speaker 2: Vegan when you made this decision?

1486
01:13:55,240 --> 01:13:57,599
Speaker 3: Or did she did she show up and was like, oh,

1487
01:13:57,680 --> 01:14:00,439
Speaker 3: by the way, I'm vegan. Yeah, that's what that's sound like.

1488
01:14:00,760 --> 01:14:03,640
Speaker 1: You mustn't you know if it was.

1489
01:14:03,640 --> 01:14:07,640
Speaker 2: A fried chicken hunting fishing theme bar. Yeah, that like,

1490
01:14:08,720 --> 01:14:10,880
Speaker 2: you can't even trust the vegetables at a place like that.

1491
01:14:12,280 --> 01:14:16,360
Speaker 2: I'll take some greens. The greens got hog malls in them. Okay, okay,

1492
01:14:17,240 --> 01:14:20,719
Speaker 2: never mind. What about the green means fat back and bacon.

1493
01:14:21,160 --> 01:14:21,479
Speaker 2: What else?

1494
01:14:21,520 --> 01:14:21,760
Speaker 3: You want?

1495
01:14:22,080 --> 01:14:25,439
Speaker 1: Everything touching? I mean, come on, look at the name, the.

1496
01:14:25,479 --> 01:14:28,040
Speaker 2: Master potatoes, got got, got sauceage, gravy.

1497
01:14:28,520 --> 01:14:29,720
Speaker 1: Is that gonna work right?

1498
01:14:29,960 --> 01:14:31,200
Speaker 2: Do enough for you?

1499
01:14:31,880 --> 01:14:32,040
Speaker 1: Oh?

1500
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:38,160
Speaker 2: No, audum, says Denny's. He called it a meet and greet, not.

1501
01:14:38,400 --> 01:14:43,040
Speaker 3: The dentist, not the grand slam where he wasn't grand

1502
01:14:43,080 --> 01:14:44,760
Speaker 3: slamming nothing nothing.

1503
01:14:44,520 --> 01:14:48,960
Speaker 2: On you wasn't absolutely not. The moon's over Miami.

1504
01:14:49,040 --> 01:14:50,519
Speaker 1: He ain't gonna get no no moon.

1505
01:14:50,600 --> 01:14:52,160
Speaker 2: He ain't gonna see that moon that night.

1506
01:14:54,479 --> 01:14:57,000
Speaker 1: Sunny side up. Ain't nothing, ain't no ass gonna be

1507
01:14:57,080 --> 01:14:57,639
Speaker 1: up in that one.

1508
01:14:57,920 --> 01:14:59,960
Speaker 2: And someone replied I liked the idea of a meat

1509
01:15:00,240 --> 01:15:03,200
Speaker 2: and great and then she said I do too, But

1510
01:15:03,360 --> 01:15:05,360
Speaker 2: I would have preferred another spot. Could have been a

1511
01:15:05,479 --> 01:15:06,360
Speaker 2: cheaper spot.

1512
01:15:06,240 --> 01:15:06,920
Speaker 1: Just not Denny's.

1513
01:15:07,120 --> 01:15:09,160
Speaker 2: Also Denny's race like got a history of.

1514
01:15:09,200 --> 01:15:13,200
Speaker 1: Racism, Like I'm a class action lawsuit as a.

1515
01:15:13,240 --> 01:15:16,839
Speaker 2: Black, I'm not me and you at Denny's. I'd honestly

1516
01:15:16,960 --> 01:15:18,960
Speaker 2: rather meet a Cracker Barrel if I had to pick.

1517
01:15:19,080 --> 01:15:21,360
Speaker 2: And I don't want to meet there either, But if

1518
01:15:21,400 --> 01:15:21,760
Speaker 2: I had.

1519
01:15:21,680 --> 01:15:24,120
Speaker 1: To pick, I'd go to Cracker Barrel. For Denny's the same.

1520
01:15:24,320 --> 01:15:27,080
Speaker 3: And also we actually used to have a Denny's up

1521
01:15:27,160 --> 01:15:30,439
Speaker 3: the street and we When I tell you, never, I

1522
01:15:30,600 --> 01:15:32,320
Speaker 3: hadn't never stepped the foot in that bitch.

1523
01:15:32,439 --> 01:15:35,320
Speaker 2: I had it one time by myself. I think it

1524
01:15:35,479 --> 01:15:38,120
Speaker 2: was when you were working outside of the house and

1525
01:15:38,240 --> 01:15:40,560
Speaker 2: I thought, oh, I'll take my kindle and read, I

1526
01:15:40,600 --> 01:15:43,080
Speaker 2: don't feel like cooking myself breakfast this morning. Sometimes I

1527
01:15:43,200 --> 01:15:46,120
Speaker 2: used to go to restaurants and just read, drink coffee,

1528
01:15:46,360 --> 01:15:49,120
Speaker 2: have like some eggs and bacon. When I tell you

1529
01:15:49,520 --> 01:15:52,479
Speaker 2: worst breakfast I've ever had in my mother fucking life,

1530
01:15:52,840 --> 01:15:55,080
Speaker 2: I honest to god, I've never had.

1531
01:15:55,000 --> 01:15:56,960
Speaker 1: A worst breakfast. What was period?

1532
01:15:57,439 --> 01:15:59,840
Speaker 2: The pancakes might as well have been fucking like car

1533
01:16:00,080 --> 01:16:01,440
Speaker 2: boord microwave pancakes.

1534
01:16:02,280 --> 01:16:02,400
Speaker 3: Uh.

1535
01:16:02,920 --> 01:16:06,519
Speaker 2: The egg everything was too salty, Everything was too How

1536
01:16:06,560 --> 01:16:10,400
Speaker 2: the fuck is everything too salty? Like every it was

1537
01:16:10,560 --> 01:16:15,080
Speaker 2: ineditible to me? Okay, and you know me, I tried

1538
01:16:15,120 --> 01:16:16,640
Speaker 2: to eat it like I'm not one of them, Like

1539
01:16:16,720 --> 01:16:19,200
Speaker 2: I'm not. I mean, look at me, I'm not picky.

1540
01:16:19,280 --> 01:16:20,400
Speaker 2: I'm not like, oh my god.

1541
01:16:20,560 --> 01:16:20,600
Speaker 1: No.

1542
01:16:20,960 --> 01:16:22,760
Speaker 2: I was like maybe on trip and I'll just try

1543
01:16:22,760 --> 01:16:26,120
Speaker 2: another bid. Nope, Nope, still nasty. And I wasted this money.

1544
01:16:26,360 --> 01:16:27,519
Speaker 2: Good news as it was cheap.

1545
01:16:28,960 --> 01:16:30,519
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I can leave.

1546
01:16:30,400 --> 01:16:32,640
Speaker 2: Here and go buy real breakfast somewhere, or just go

1547
01:16:32,800 --> 01:16:35,400
Speaker 2: home and take this al But yeah, terrible.

1548
01:16:35,439 --> 01:16:39,320
Speaker 1: I was one up on the head. I was like, no, bitch.

1549
01:16:39,479 --> 01:16:43,280
Speaker 2: The next person says, a dog park. The woman kept

1550
01:16:43,360 --> 01:16:45,800
Speaker 2: running back and forth after her dog because the other

1551
01:16:45,920 --> 01:16:47,200
Speaker 2: dogs kept humping the dog.

1552
01:16:50,360 --> 01:16:52,000
Speaker 1: Also, I liked hilarious.

1553
01:16:52,240 --> 01:16:54,720
Speaker 2: Also, I like to note I do not own a

1554
01:16:54,800 --> 01:16:58,760
Speaker 2: dog either, So you just went on a dog park date.

1555
01:16:59,000 --> 01:17:01,560
Speaker 2: You don't even have a dog, and this person is

1556
01:17:01,640 --> 01:17:05,200
Speaker 2: chasing around after the dog getting humped by other dogs.

1557
01:17:05,280 --> 01:17:08,000
Speaker 1: Oh yes, why did we think this is a good idea?

1558
01:17:09,320 --> 01:17:10,800
Speaker 2: No, at least you knew what you was in for

1559
01:17:10,920 --> 01:17:14,120
Speaker 2: after if you chose to state kept dick. They The

1560
01:17:14,200 --> 01:17:17,559
Speaker 2: next person said, movies not bad movies.

1561
01:17:17,640 --> 01:17:18,920
Speaker 1: Is in a bad day? I can deal with the.

1562
01:17:18,960 --> 01:17:21,200
Speaker 2: Movie with his mom and one of his twin sisters

1563
01:17:22,520 --> 01:17:23,240
Speaker 2: for a first date.

1564
01:17:23,600 --> 01:17:27,200
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, I knowed that movies okay, but

1565
01:17:28,320 --> 01:17:30,040
Speaker 3: we didn't know this is gonna be for a family

1566
01:17:30,080 --> 01:17:30,439
Speaker 3: of folks.

1567
01:17:30,439 --> 01:17:30,760
Speaker 1: I'm good.

1568
01:17:30,840 --> 01:17:32,720
Speaker 2: Did you get out the car looking like a clown car?

1569
01:17:32,880 --> 01:17:33,200
Speaker 4: Like I?

1570
01:17:34,720 --> 01:17:36,160
Speaker 1: You get out with your makeup home.

1571
01:17:36,520 --> 01:17:39,679
Speaker 2: I feel like I feel like also, they're definitely letting

1572
01:17:39,720 --> 01:17:40,759
Speaker 2: you know where you staying.

1573
01:17:41,320 --> 01:17:43,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a statement. You are not the top pro.

1574
01:17:43,640 --> 01:17:47,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a mama's and sisters. Boy, I don't like that.

1575
01:17:47,880 --> 01:17:48,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, i'd have been.

1576
01:17:48,920 --> 01:17:51,360
Speaker 3: I remember, you know what, I got to go. God

1577
01:17:51,520 --> 01:17:53,760
Speaker 3: went to the bathroom and they've never seen me again. Oh,

1578
01:17:53,840 --> 01:17:56,920
Speaker 3: I had an emergency that you, your mama and your

1579
01:17:57,040 --> 01:17:59,840
Speaker 3: sister and I could see if it was something where

1580
01:18:00,080 --> 01:18:02,360
Speaker 3: we had been danged for a while. And you go, oh,

1581
01:18:02,400 --> 01:18:05,000
Speaker 3: my mama's sister want to go, but don't surprise them

1582
01:18:05,080 --> 01:18:05,280
Speaker 3: on me.

1583
01:18:05,640 --> 01:18:09,719
Speaker 2: This is the outcast song me and you, your mama

1584
01:18:09,760 --> 01:18:11,040
Speaker 2: and your playing sister too.

1585
01:18:15,080 --> 01:18:18,160
Speaker 1: No, no, thank you. That was been smart.

1586
01:18:18,479 --> 01:18:22,439
Speaker 2: The next heard says karaoke hated it but married him. Well, ship,

1587
01:18:22,479 --> 01:18:24,920
Speaker 2: I guess you won. And I don't know. I don't

1588
01:18:24,920 --> 01:18:26,960
Speaker 2: even know how to. I don't think.

1589
01:18:26,840 --> 01:18:29,760
Speaker 1: Karaoke necessarily sounds like a bad first date, but I've

1590
01:18:29,880 --> 01:18:32,000
Speaker 1: never did karok. Maybe it's just the type of person

1591
01:18:32,080 --> 01:18:34,439
Speaker 1: you are, but karaoke sound kind of fun to me.

1592
01:18:35,080 --> 01:18:36,479
Speaker 1: How gonna do it? One day? Well?

1593
01:18:36,479 --> 01:18:39,880
Speaker 2: I know what, carry they got karaoke bars rooms at

1594
01:18:39,920 --> 01:18:44,400
Speaker 2: the Soul Meat factory so so food. Maybe we could

1595
01:18:44,439 --> 01:18:52,200
Speaker 2: go there. Yes, uh it's Mecca, says bar TRIVIAH Bar

1596
01:18:52,400 --> 01:18:57,599
Speaker 2: trivia is a sneaky bad date because it could be fun.

1597
01:18:58,560 --> 01:19:00,800
Speaker 2: But that's because when you left your house, in your mind,

1598
01:19:00,840 --> 01:19:05,120
Speaker 2: you was gonna get them all right, But instead it's

1599
01:19:05,200 --> 01:19:07,800
Speaker 2: like getting drunk and playing monopoly because you probably suck

1600
01:19:07,880 --> 01:19:10,519
Speaker 2: at it because other people are weirdly good at it.

1601
01:19:11,120 --> 01:19:14,000
Speaker 2: You probably took took it serious. And if people get

1602
01:19:14,040 --> 01:19:16,560
Speaker 2: too competitive, they start looking at you like, why you

1603
01:19:16,720 --> 01:19:19,599
Speaker 2: fucking up the crew? You don't know shit. Now don't

1604
01:19:20,160 --> 01:19:22,439
Speaker 2: forget that I don't know shit, but you also don't

1605
01:19:22,479 --> 01:19:25,439
Speaker 2: know shit. And now it's animosity happening on this day,

1606
01:19:25,479 --> 01:19:28,320
Speaker 2: as opposed to we're just having a good time, you know.

1607
01:19:28,880 --> 01:19:32,040
Speaker 2: Like I think if you were went to a it's

1608
01:19:32,120 --> 01:19:38,679
Speaker 2: like if you went bowling and you both were trying

1609
01:19:38,800 --> 01:19:40,840
Speaker 2: to be great at bowling and neither of you were.

1610
01:19:41,240 --> 01:19:44,160
Speaker 2: That's what bar trivia is like, as opposed to, like,

1611
01:19:44,280 --> 01:19:45,920
Speaker 2: if you went bowling, you both were just having a

1612
01:19:45,960 --> 01:19:47,880
Speaker 2: silly time and it was okay that y'all were rolling

1613
01:19:47,920 --> 01:19:50,479
Speaker 2: gutter balls every time, and you can laugh about it.

1614
01:19:50,840 --> 01:19:54,280
Speaker 2: That's a good day, trivia. Bar trivia. I'm afraid people

1615
01:19:54,400 --> 01:19:56,080
Speaker 2: really do want to get there get it right, and

1616
01:19:56,160 --> 01:19:56,720
Speaker 2: that would suck.

1617
01:19:57,479 --> 01:20:00,559
Speaker 1: Yes, not unless you're with somebody who though I don't

1618
01:20:00,600 --> 01:20:02,240
Speaker 1: know shit and you don't know shit. Let's see what

1619
01:20:02,320 --> 01:20:02,760
Speaker 1: we can get.

1620
01:20:03,160 --> 01:20:06,000
Speaker 2: Another person that's both got food poison on our first date. Now,

1621
01:20:06,080 --> 01:20:08,479
Speaker 2: that's not the worst place I need to know. The

1622
01:20:08,600 --> 01:20:13,040
Speaker 2: name says, Okay, did you get food poisoning from where? Okay,

1623
01:20:13,320 --> 01:20:17,719
Speaker 2: shame them location. The next person says, the mall. Worst

1624
01:20:17,760 --> 01:20:18,840
Speaker 2: place they go on the first date?

1625
01:20:18,920 --> 01:20:19,320
Speaker 1: The mall.

1626
01:20:19,479 --> 01:20:22,599
Speaker 2: Man, that's like high school? That was that a Were

1627
01:20:22,600 --> 01:20:25,040
Speaker 2: you are an adult when this happened? Or were you

1628
01:20:25,120 --> 01:20:27,200
Speaker 2: a kid? Because I feel like a kid going on

1629
01:20:27,280 --> 01:20:30,800
Speaker 2: the mall date is perfectly acceptable. But I do wonder

1630
01:20:30,880 --> 01:20:34,280
Speaker 2: if at like fortyes actual day, it's like, nigga, what

1631
01:20:35,560 --> 01:20:38,920
Speaker 2: are you serious? What were you gonna do?

1632
01:20:39,080 --> 01:20:42,200
Speaker 1: Stop by the gap? Like, come on, man, all.

1633
01:20:42,200 --> 01:20:45,639
Speaker 3: Right, stop by five seven nine if that still even

1634
01:20:45,760 --> 01:20:46,479
Speaker 3: exists anymore?

1635
01:20:46,560 --> 01:20:48,840
Speaker 1: And I can't get in five sevens or nine it's

1636
01:20:48,920 --> 01:20:49,280
Speaker 1: not yet.

1637
01:20:49,280 --> 01:20:51,439
Speaker 2: I don't wanna walk by American ego at you for

1638
01:20:51,560 --> 01:20:54,040
Speaker 2: a date, or you just gonna go sit in a

1639
01:20:54,120 --> 01:20:58,920
Speaker 2: food court and need some Soborro's pizza, right, Jay says

1640
01:20:59,040 --> 01:21:01,880
Speaker 2: for my Baltimore Old Town mall, and my defense, I

1641
01:21:01,920 --> 01:21:04,360
Speaker 2: ain't no. Oh so you in this case, you are

1642
01:21:04,400 --> 01:21:07,719
Speaker 2: the person that proposed the location. Oh see, we haven't

1643
01:21:07,720 --> 01:21:10,600
Speaker 2: had anybody admit to that yet. Everybody else been like,

1644
01:21:10,720 --> 01:21:12,640
Speaker 2: this is where I got asked to go. Jay is

1645
01:21:12,680 --> 01:21:16,160
Speaker 2: actually admitting I chose a horrible place. Supposedly there was

1646
01:21:16,160 --> 01:21:18,240
Speaker 2: a pop up art event. We're married now, so it

1647
01:21:18,320 --> 01:21:20,960
Speaker 2: worked out in the end. Somebody replied, knew to Baltimore,

1648
01:21:21,040 --> 01:21:21,880
Speaker 2: so thanks for the one, and.

1649
01:21:21,920 --> 01:21:23,760
Speaker 1: It was that it was that?

1650
01:21:24,160 --> 01:21:26,040
Speaker 2: Was that an endorsement since it worked out for you

1651
01:21:26,240 --> 01:21:29,160
Speaker 2: even in the end, and he replied, welcome man. Now

1652
01:21:29,320 --> 01:21:30,360
Speaker 2: old Town looks like.

1653
01:21:30,479 --> 01:21:32,120
Speaker 1: A scene out of I am legend.

1654
01:21:32,760 --> 01:21:35,240
Speaker 2: Luckily I was able to salvage our date by going

1655
01:21:35,280 --> 01:21:39,040
Speaker 2: to Charles Theatre and a quaint diner. And the person responded,

1656
01:21:39,080 --> 01:21:40,479
Speaker 2: I've driven past it a few.

1657
01:21:40,400 --> 01:21:42,840
Speaker 1: Times wondering what that what that was?

1658
01:21:43,320 --> 01:21:48,040
Speaker 2: So yeah, so and then to top it off, let's

1659
01:21:48,080 --> 01:21:50,760
Speaker 2: finish it off with some good stuff. The first question

1660
01:21:50,840 --> 01:21:53,639
Speaker 2: I asked for the wik was your favorite first day

1661
01:21:53,760 --> 01:21:59,679
Speaker 2: ideas go there's an arcade bar nearby that's fun.

1662
01:22:00,080 --> 01:22:01,000
Speaker 1: That sounds our.

1663
01:22:00,920 --> 01:22:02,760
Speaker 2: Cavee bar sounds great. Yeah, I can do urkade bar

1664
01:22:03,000 --> 01:22:04,080
Speaker 2: neighbors because we're nerds.

1665
01:22:04,200 --> 01:22:05,560
Speaker 1: Whatever. Yes, I would like that.

1666
01:22:06,360 --> 01:22:08,840
Speaker 2: U and the next person in Pressville's flint that says

1667
01:22:08,920 --> 01:22:12,519
Speaker 2: Delaware Waterfront River Rink in Philadelphia has a Ferris Wheal

1668
01:22:12,680 --> 01:22:18,200
Speaker 2: outdoor rolling, skating, skating rides and food coffee, says Ms.

1669
01:22:18,400 --> 01:22:18,759
Speaker 1: Barnes.

1670
01:22:19,840 --> 01:22:22,400
Speaker 2: Well, you know that's beneath me as a twenty six

1671
01:22:22,520 --> 01:22:23,880
Speaker 2: year old. I need more effort.

1672
01:22:24,080 --> 01:22:26,920
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean you talked to Luke Cage. We

1673
01:22:27,040 --> 01:22:28,120
Speaker 1: know what happened when you get to.

1674
01:22:28,160 --> 01:22:31,880
Speaker 2: Call Falcus Diva says when the weather permits a nice

1675
01:22:31,920 --> 01:22:35,280
Speaker 2: walk on the trail and if I enjoyed convoke coffee

1676
01:22:35,360 --> 01:22:38,800
Speaker 2: and breakfast slash bunch after sounds cool. I'm not a

1677
01:22:38,880 --> 01:22:40,760
Speaker 2: walk on the trail person, and I think I watched

1678
01:22:40,760 --> 01:22:43,280
Speaker 2: too much true crime. I'd be worried nigga about to

1679
01:22:43,320 --> 01:22:44,040
Speaker 2: kill me in the woods.

1680
01:22:47,320 --> 01:22:49,240
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't mind the trail as long as

1681
01:22:49,280 --> 01:22:52,639
Speaker 3: the trail is paved and they are signed so my ants.

1682
01:22:52,439 --> 01:22:53,120
Speaker 1: Won't get lost.

1683
01:22:53,280 --> 01:22:55,280
Speaker 2: I'm scared. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not going with

1684
01:22:55,400 --> 01:22:57,400
Speaker 2: nobody in the woods. I've seen too much fatal attraction

1685
01:22:57,880 --> 01:22:58,960
Speaker 2: where they find the body.

1686
01:22:59,040 --> 01:23:00,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, we know, we ain't talk no random walking in

1687
01:23:00,960 --> 01:23:01,320
Speaker 1: the woods.

1688
01:23:01,840 --> 01:23:03,679
Speaker 2: It be by the trail. They be finding the body

1689
01:23:03,760 --> 01:23:04,840
Speaker 2: by the trails, everybody.

1690
01:23:04,520 --> 01:23:06,719
Speaker 1: I'm talking about where you have runners and bikers rolling

1691
01:23:06,800 --> 01:23:07,240
Speaker 1: around car.

1692
01:23:07,439 --> 01:23:09,519
Speaker 2: Don't watch car, don't watch fatal tracks. And I'm listening

1693
01:23:09,560 --> 01:23:13,599
Speaker 2: to bad I do guess who finds it? The runners

1694
01:23:13,640 --> 01:23:14,759
Speaker 2: and bikers the next morning?

1695
01:23:15,040 --> 01:23:17,760
Speaker 1: Oh no, it won't finding your body, my bad.

1696
01:23:17,960 --> 01:23:20,640
Speaker 2: I'm not doing I personally. Trail not not good for

1697
01:23:20,720 --> 01:23:21,439
Speaker 2: first a for me.

1698
01:23:21,720 --> 01:23:23,160
Speaker 1: When they jockey at three am.

1699
01:23:23,560 --> 01:23:26,080
Speaker 2: I'd rather meet you at a gym with plenty of

1700
01:23:26,160 --> 01:23:30,120
Speaker 2: of bailers and witnesses. I understand White Label America says

1701
01:23:30,160 --> 01:23:33,000
Speaker 2: free food with the movie screening, but don't say anything

1702
01:23:33,000 --> 01:23:35,120
Speaker 2: about the free part might make a profit If it

1703
01:23:35,200 --> 01:23:38,880
Speaker 2: doesn't work out, God damn you be hustling, man.

1704
01:23:38,920 --> 01:23:41,040
Speaker 1: God do you ever turn it off on?

1705
01:23:41,680 --> 01:23:44,640
Speaker 2: Nope? The grind really never stops with I feel man,

1706
01:23:44,720 --> 01:23:45,280
Speaker 2: I can't I.

1707
01:23:45,360 --> 01:23:47,479
Speaker 1: Never stopped, can't stop, won't stop.

1708
01:23:48,960 --> 01:23:51,479
Speaker 2: You can take some what you can take somebody to

1709
01:23:51,560 --> 01:23:54,360
Speaker 2: a free movie screening. First of all, the free movie

1710
01:23:54,360 --> 01:23:56,160
Speaker 2: screen is I feel like you will get busted because

1711
01:23:56,160 --> 01:23:58,360
Speaker 2: they be having weird rules at the free movie screen

1712
01:23:58,360 --> 01:24:00,400
Speaker 2: They're like, you can't bring yourself on it, and you

1713
01:24:00,439 --> 01:24:03,080
Speaker 2: gotta sign a sheet and she gonna notice something like

1714
01:24:03,200 --> 01:24:05,960
Speaker 2: this ain't no real movie, nigga. This is just they

1715
01:24:06,000 --> 01:24:07,800
Speaker 2: don't take your phones and take you give you a

1716
01:24:07,880 --> 01:24:10,000
Speaker 2: fucking like make sure you turn your phone off speech

1717
01:24:10,000 --> 01:24:12,920
Speaker 2: before a movie. They don't have trailers before them free

1718
01:24:13,000 --> 01:24:13,719
Speaker 2: movie screenings.

1719
01:24:14,720 --> 01:24:15,599
Speaker 1: You don't get busted.

1720
01:24:16,880 --> 01:24:21,080
Speaker 2: Uh, our girl, Sidney says, Camp North End, candle making classes,

1721
01:24:21,439 --> 01:24:23,720
Speaker 2: duck Donuts, and then the park. The list goes on.

1722
01:24:23,960 --> 01:24:28,200
Speaker 2: I do love sounds fun. Duck Donuts Donuts is absolutely

1723
01:24:28,800 --> 01:24:30,120
Speaker 2: they'll be here if you can get them when they

1724
01:24:30,240 --> 01:24:34,799
Speaker 2: fresh too. God, you want some duckt donuts right now, nigga,

1725
01:24:34,840 --> 01:24:37,240
Speaker 2: what duck donuts? You know, duck Donuts be hitting because

1726
01:24:37,320 --> 01:24:39,320
Speaker 2: if you show they don't close to like three or whatever.

1727
01:24:39,360 --> 01:24:41,240
Speaker 2: But if you show up at like one day out

1728
01:24:41,320 --> 01:24:42,200
Speaker 2: of donuts.

1729
01:24:42,280 --> 01:24:45,400
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but they're like, yeah we open put like

1730
01:24:45,479 --> 01:24:47,640
Speaker 1: this it's three or two. We sell out. Like when

1731
01:24:47,720 --> 01:24:49,840
Speaker 1: you sell out of donuts, they just closed their doors.

1732
01:24:49,920 --> 01:24:51,840
Speaker 2: They like, we made all the donuts we was making

1733
01:24:51,880 --> 01:24:52,160
Speaker 2: to day.

1734
01:24:52,280 --> 01:24:55,400
Speaker 3: Yeah we sold out. So I'm sorry you came over here.

1735
01:24:55,439 --> 01:24:56,679
Speaker 3: We got zero donuts.

1736
01:24:56,920 --> 01:24:59,280
Speaker 2: Asks throwing, got to see if he can defend me.

1737
01:25:00,760 --> 01:25:05,240
Speaker 1: You different, I'm not going to ask throwing. That ship

1738
01:25:05,360 --> 01:25:07,360
Speaker 1: looks fucking dangerous. I don't even want to go to

1739
01:25:07,479 --> 01:25:07,920
Speaker 1: ax throwing.

1740
01:25:08,080 --> 01:25:10,280
Speaker 2: And we've been together for I'm scared.

1741
01:25:10,640 --> 01:25:14,839
Speaker 3: Yes, it's an ax throwing by the uh Hornet Stadium

1742
01:25:14,880 --> 01:25:16,639
Speaker 3: and I see that ship, like, what happened if them

1743
01:25:16,680 --> 01:25:17,599
Speaker 3: bitches bounce back?

1744
01:25:17,640 --> 01:25:20,280
Speaker 1: And I'm good dogs And they be drinking in that too.

1745
01:25:20,280 --> 01:25:23,200
Speaker 2: So there has to be some type of ax throwing

1746
01:25:23,280 --> 01:25:25,599
Speaker 2: waiver you had to sign so you can't see or something.

1747
01:25:25,680 --> 01:25:27,880
Speaker 1: I'm be like, nobody get fucked up in that bitch, No,

1748
01:25:28,040 --> 01:25:28,320
Speaker 1: thank you.

1749
01:25:28,640 --> 01:25:31,880
Speaker 2: Right, I'm afraid just somebody gonna find out who you

1750
01:25:32,040 --> 01:25:34,639
Speaker 2: taxing and to just start chopping somebody in the background

1751
01:25:35,680 --> 01:25:40,240
Speaker 2: little league baseball games for a first date. I can't

1752
01:25:40,280 --> 01:25:43,200
Speaker 2: see it, And is it your kid? Like, why the

1753
01:25:43,280 --> 01:25:45,160
Speaker 2: fuck are we going to a little league baseball?

1754
01:25:45,400 --> 01:25:45,519
Speaker 3: Kid?

1755
01:25:45,560 --> 01:25:48,360
Speaker 1: We're gonna see somebody cousin? Why are we here? Yeah?

1756
01:25:48,640 --> 01:25:50,800
Speaker 1: Kids like I want like you want to meet me?

1757
01:25:51,000 --> 01:25:53,519
Speaker 1: I'm a kid? Could it could be cultural?

1758
01:25:53,720 --> 01:25:57,200
Speaker 2: Like maybe in some cities, little league baseball is a

1759
01:25:57,240 --> 01:25:59,479
Speaker 2: big deal and I just don't know it because here

1760
01:25:59,600 --> 01:26:01,880
Speaker 2: it's bad baketball and football. But I couldn't even see

1761
01:26:01,920 --> 01:26:03,519
Speaker 2: myself going, you want't go on a date to a

1762
01:26:03,600 --> 01:26:06,880
Speaker 2: little league basketball game? It's like, what, fuck them little niggas.

1763
01:26:08,160 --> 01:26:10,000
Speaker 1: She's just be having weird hours and knowing my knees

1764
01:26:10,040 --> 01:26:11,840
Speaker 1: and was like eight am on a Saturday. Bitch, I'm

1765
01:26:11,880 --> 01:26:13,360
Speaker 1: not going to that for what why?

1766
01:26:13,640 --> 01:26:18,160
Speaker 2: Dj Jova says ice cream. The same person that said

1767
01:26:18,160 --> 01:26:21,439
Speaker 2: little league basketball baseball games black beer Travelers also had

1768
01:26:21,439 --> 01:26:23,680
Speaker 2: another suggestion food court to local mall.

1769
01:26:23,760 --> 01:26:25,880
Speaker 1: So at this point, I think this person's trolling.

1770
01:26:27,120 --> 01:26:29,880
Speaker 2: The public library. Okay, they just saying anything, all right,

1771
01:26:30,439 --> 01:26:34,200
Speaker 2: very funny. I enjoyed you on the show as a guest,

1772
01:26:34,320 --> 01:26:37,280
Speaker 2: but get out of my very serious Instagram threats.

1773
01:26:37,880 --> 01:26:41,479
Speaker 1: Uh, mama, fuck it up. The comments.

1774
01:26:41,560 --> 01:26:45,559
Speaker 2: Yeah, look at these free museums. These are not real suggestions. Well,

1775
01:26:45,600 --> 01:26:46,880
Speaker 2: free museums actually might work.

1776
01:26:46,920 --> 01:26:47,599
Speaker 1: I'll take that back.

1777
01:26:48,000 --> 01:26:50,240
Speaker 2: The public library is ridiculous. No one's ever gone on

1778
01:26:50,280 --> 01:26:52,000
Speaker 2: a date there that ended up happy.

1779
01:26:52,120 --> 01:26:53,120
Speaker 1: Okay, you know what I mean.

1780
01:26:54,160 --> 01:26:57,120
Speaker 2: Uh, listen mucho, Mama says listening to black outils Rod's

1781
01:26:57,240 --> 01:26:58,560
Speaker 2: Edible just hit episodes.

1782
01:26:59,160 --> 01:27:00,640
Speaker 1: Oh that is a great day. Do that?

1783
01:27:00,840 --> 01:27:04,479
Speaker 2: Everybody breakfast hard emojis. That's not a place. That's a

1784
01:27:04,720 --> 01:27:05,720
Speaker 2: that's a that's a meal.

1785
01:27:06,120 --> 01:27:07,519
Speaker 1: Now this is a place called breakfast.

1786
01:27:08,600 --> 01:27:11,960
Speaker 2: Need a little more detailed. Going to a bookstore? Okay,

1787
01:27:12,040 --> 01:27:14,120
Speaker 2: I get it. You're a nerd, you know how to read,

1788
01:27:15,080 --> 01:27:16,840
Speaker 2: but that's not a word? Is that a good wor?

1789
01:27:17,040 --> 01:27:18,360
Speaker 1: Actually you know what?

1790
01:27:18,560 --> 01:27:20,920
Speaker 2: I take it back, you right? Because they be having

1791
01:27:21,000 --> 01:27:23,880
Speaker 2: coffee in there, they be having places to sit. That

1792
01:27:23,960 --> 01:27:24,360
Speaker 2: could work.

1793
01:27:24,720 --> 01:27:25,759
Speaker 1: I take it back. I'm sorry.

1794
01:27:25,920 --> 01:27:28,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, and unless the library has this too, I can

1795
01:27:28,760 --> 01:27:31,200
Speaker 3: see it. But if it's like the library I'm thinking about,

1796
01:27:31,320 --> 01:27:32,000
Speaker 3: I don't know them.

1797
01:27:32,200 --> 01:27:33,800
Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't know any library like that. And I

1798
01:27:33,880 --> 01:27:36,320
Speaker 2: think we need to stop trying to make excuses for

1799
01:27:36,360 --> 01:27:41,719
Speaker 2: that terrible suggestion. Uh PhD says. Museum or botanical garden

1800
01:27:42,040 --> 01:27:42,640
Speaker 2: or bookstore?

1801
01:27:45,080 --> 01:27:45,559
Speaker 1: Sound fun?

1802
01:27:45,800 --> 01:27:46,400
Speaker 2: All that could work.

1803
01:27:46,520 --> 01:27:49,000
Speaker 1: Museum could work. Uh let's see.

1804
01:27:49,000 --> 01:27:51,000
Speaker 2: I'm a Brooklyn girl and I love Coney Allen in

1805
01:27:51,040 --> 01:27:54,040
Speaker 2: the summer, but a nice lounge in the winter. Ah,

1806
01:27:54,080 --> 01:27:58,120
Speaker 2: you gonna get you a Coney Island hot dog. Although

1807
01:27:58,200 --> 01:28:00,240
Speaker 2: I heard Coney Island is far away from every thing,

1808
01:28:00,439 --> 01:28:05,839
Speaker 2: so me too. Gelato, that which is not ice creams

1809
01:28:06,240 --> 01:28:11,120
Speaker 2: per Snickitty fencil and it is not at lastly Bookstar bookstore,

1810
01:28:11,400 --> 01:28:14,840
Speaker 2: my job in the lobby just in case, so you

1811
01:28:15,040 --> 01:28:18,000
Speaker 2: work in a bookstore or your the lobby.

1812
01:28:17,800 --> 01:28:19,680
Speaker 1: Is where you work. I don't know. That was a

1813
01:28:19,680 --> 01:28:20,519
Speaker 1: little confusing, but.

1814
01:28:21,000 --> 01:28:22,679
Speaker 2: It was a lot of laughing emoji, so I feel

1815
01:28:22,680 --> 01:28:24,160
Speaker 2: like it's an inside jump that worked for them.

1816
01:28:24,880 --> 01:28:28,080
Speaker 1: And that's the end of that segment. Carrie, you have

1817
01:28:28,160 --> 01:28:29,719
Speaker 1: any idea we should name that segment.

1818
01:28:29,760 --> 01:28:33,320
Speaker 2: I don't know, Question of the week, right, question of

1819
01:28:33,360 --> 01:28:36,840
Speaker 2: the week, question of today, I don't know.

1820
01:28:37,240 --> 01:28:37,800
Speaker 1: Think about it.

1821
01:28:38,360 --> 01:28:40,920
Speaker 2: We'll come up with a name at some point. All right,

1822
01:28:41,280 --> 01:28:43,919
Speaker 2: that's go. Let's go to the final segment, which is emails.

1823
01:29:18,600 --> 01:29:20,679
Speaker 2: Just did a poll of the audience to ask did they.

1824
01:29:20,680 --> 01:29:21,599
Speaker 1: Enjoy that new segment?

1825
01:29:21,880 --> 01:29:24,479
Speaker 2: If so, will repeat it. I have a new question

1826
01:29:24,640 --> 01:29:27,599
Speaker 2: already in mind. We'll see, and it's a good way

1827
01:29:27,600 --> 01:29:31,559
Speaker 2: to get some Instagram engagement. Six Degrees of Black History

1828
01:29:31,680 --> 01:29:36,120
Speaker 2: is the title of this email Karen from b who says, Hi,

1829
01:29:36,360 --> 01:29:38,840
Speaker 2: Rod and Karen, I meant to write in last week

1830
01:29:38,920 --> 01:29:41,600
Speaker 2: and say, Drake Thomaniac is a phenomenal project. Karen, you

1831
01:29:41,680 --> 01:29:45,000
Speaker 2: were so right. I'm very much looking forward to coming episodes, Rod,

1832
01:29:45,520 --> 01:29:47,799
Speaker 2: wishing you and your team the very best on the journey.

1833
01:29:47,840 --> 01:29:50,240
Speaker 2: There's a dearth of in the variety of Black history

1834
01:29:50,280 --> 01:29:54,360
Speaker 2: stories between the fifteenth and eighteenth centuries, especially even earlier

1835
01:29:54,479 --> 01:29:57,639
Speaker 2: time Piers and Sorry, Cleopatrick doesn't count. So I find

1836
01:29:57,680 --> 01:29:59,960
Speaker 2: creative approaches to owning and telling you stories.

1837
01:30:00,000 --> 01:30:00,679
Speaker 1: It's so refreshing.

1838
01:30:01,439 --> 01:30:05,200
Speaker 2: When I couldn't find a good Easter egg breakdown for

1839
01:30:05,320 --> 01:30:07,800
Speaker 2: the Woman King movie, I created my own and threw

1840
01:30:07,880 --> 01:30:11,680
Speaker 2: up a history podcast. I worked on Zion Podcasts, and

1841
01:30:11,840 --> 01:30:14,639
Speaker 2: that was such a fun experience and personally so Cathartic

1842
01:30:15,640 --> 01:30:17,599
Speaker 2: relationship corner this week was fire.

1843
01:30:17,880 --> 01:30:18,200
Speaker 1: Thank you.

1844
01:30:19,040 --> 01:30:24,280
Speaker 2: Your continued discussion on parasocial pressures, influencing data, dating and

1845
01:30:24,439 --> 01:30:27,160
Speaker 2: couple dynamics, including your personal anecdotes, left me feeling a

1846
01:30:27,200 --> 01:30:29,560
Speaker 2: bit wiser and all the more thoughtful. Even in my

1847
01:30:29,640 --> 01:30:32,439
Speaker 2: big age as a forty something single, the dating scene

1848
01:30:32,479 --> 01:30:35,760
Speaker 2: only gets harder. So Hulu and hang Netflix and chill,

1849
01:30:35,880 --> 01:30:38,439
Speaker 2: take out and make out for me all mean peace

1850
01:30:38,479 --> 01:30:40,280
Speaker 2: of mind and a good time my own company.

1851
01:30:40,360 --> 01:30:43,760
Speaker 1: Peace. Yeah, b do what you gotta do. I'm glad you.

1852
01:30:45,240 --> 01:30:48,920
Speaker 2: You know, glad glad that our discussion was able to

1853
01:30:48,920 --> 01:30:51,840
Speaker 2: at least provide some insight for you. And you know,

1854
01:30:52,479 --> 01:30:54,840
Speaker 2: we try to provide a bit different perspective and an

1855
01:30:54,840 --> 01:30:58,200
Speaker 2: authentic perspective. And we're not trying to be like relationship

1856
01:30:58,200 --> 01:31:01,240
Speaker 2: advice people or coaches or come on like we got

1857
01:31:01,320 --> 01:31:03,519
Speaker 2: it all figured out and nobody else does so.

1858
01:31:03,880 --> 01:31:06,160
Speaker 1: Chad, we don't. This is a forever learning lesson.

1859
01:31:06,320 --> 01:31:09,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, so hopefully I think it adds something to the

1860
01:31:09,680 --> 01:31:11,519
Speaker 2: conversation you're not getting from a lot of these so

1861
01:31:11,640 --> 01:31:15,599
Speaker 2: called experts and shit. They also wrote in hi Rod

1862
01:31:15,640 --> 01:31:17,760
Speaker 2: and care about those white people in the picture that

1863
01:31:17,800 --> 01:31:19,760
Speaker 2: went viral. I can understand why some people might have

1864
01:31:19,800 --> 01:31:21,880
Speaker 2: felt a way about it for various reasons. I'm on

1865
01:31:22,000 --> 01:31:24,280
Speaker 2: the side of not being bothered that other races were

1866
01:31:24,320 --> 01:31:26,560
Speaker 2: not at the table, but can understand feeling jealous or

1867
01:31:26,600 --> 01:31:30,960
Speaker 2: resentful of the parent ease so casually on display, I

1868
01:31:31,080 --> 01:31:33,720
Speaker 2: want you to peep the words you use. Jealous and resentful.

1869
01:31:34,600 --> 01:31:41,040
Speaker 2: Jealous and resentful, those are emotions from internal insecurities. Those

1870
01:31:41,080 --> 01:31:44,320
Speaker 2: are not emotions other people are responsible for or should

1871
01:31:44,400 --> 01:31:48,080
Speaker 2: navigate their lives by, especially those not in relationship with you.

1872
01:31:49,000 --> 01:31:51,000
Speaker 2: You know what else I see this is something I

1873
01:31:51,120 --> 01:31:53,800
Speaker 2: distanced myself from people online that say stuff like and

1874
01:31:53,880 --> 01:31:55,840
Speaker 2: I'm not saying this is what you're saying, but these

1875
01:31:55,880 --> 01:31:58,880
Speaker 2: are words for me that are red flags, like when

1876
01:31:58,920 --> 01:32:01,080
Speaker 2: people say, you know, if I go on my Instagram

1877
01:32:01,120 --> 01:32:03,519
Speaker 2: and I see people getting married or going on dates

1878
01:32:03,680 --> 01:32:06,920
Speaker 2: or traveling, I get jealous and I have to close

1879
01:32:06,960 --> 01:32:09,360
Speaker 2: the app, and I go, it's good that you know

1880
01:32:09,600 --> 01:32:11,920
Speaker 2: that you need to close the app or whatever, But

1881
01:32:12,439 --> 01:32:17,080
Speaker 2: also I don't need to navigate my life worried about

1882
01:32:17,160 --> 01:32:20,680
Speaker 2: who's jealous that I'm just living my life. I've never

1883
01:32:20,840 --> 01:32:24,120
Speaker 2: eaten a meal to make someone else feel bad. I've

1884
01:32:24,200 --> 01:32:27,680
Speaker 2: never traveled someplace hoping that the people that saw me

1885
01:32:27,800 --> 01:32:31,120
Speaker 2: traveling would be like, oh my god, I wish I

1886
01:32:31,160 --> 01:32:33,479
Speaker 2: could be that. God, damn fuck my life. Ain't shit.

1887
01:32:33,920 --> 01:32:36,639
Speaker 2: I've never done that And the fact that some people

1888
01:32:36,760 --> 01:32:40,160
Speaker 2: might feel that way is not really my responsibility.

1889
01:32:39,439 --> 01:32:42,439
Speaker 1: Of my concern. And I think when you're coming from a.

1890
01:32:44,280 --> 01:32:48,519
Speaker 2: Balanced, healthy place, seeing a table of people moving with

1891
01:32:48,680 --> 01:32:51,760
Speaker 2: ease and having fun isn't a thing to be jealous of.

1892
01:32:52,920 --> 01:32:57,559
Speaker 2: It's just their existence. And I aspire to and try

1893
01:32:57,640 --> 01:33:00,960
Speaker 2: to live my life in that same form of ease.

1894
01:33:01,200 --> 01:33:03,719
Speaker 2: But it's never a how can you have this ease

1895
01:33:03,760 --> 01:33:05,000
Speaker 2: and I haven't achieved it yet.

1896
01:33:05,120 --> 01:33:05,760
Speaker 1: I don't like that.

1897
01:33:06,200 --> 01:33:09,479
Speaker 2: Also, it's your perception. You don't know the internal struggles

1898
01:33:09,520 --> 01:33:12,559
Speaker 2: of anyone at that table. We don't actually know those

1899
01:33:12,640 --> 01:33:15,880
Speaker 2: people or their inner dynamics or their workings. We're just

1900
01:33:16,040 --> 01:33:19,679
Speaker 2: assuming from a steal shot. And we know a picture

1901
01:33:19,800 --> 01:33:22,840
Speaker 2: tells a thousand words, but many of the times those

1902
01:33:22,920 --> 01:33:23,679
Speaker 2: words are lies.

1903
01:33:25,439 --> 01:33:30,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's also one of the things where this

1904
01:33:31,080 --> 01:33:36,360
Speaker 1: was not in any professional business atmosphere. This was leisure time.

1905
01:33:36,800 --> 01:33:40,400
Speaker 1: People put pictures of their family all the times.

1906
01:33:40,720 --> 01:33:44,120
Speaker 3: I'm just speak hypathetically. You put a picture of you

1907
01:33:44,400 --> 01:33:46,080
Speaker 3: and all your friends. Let's say all your friends have

1908
01:33:46,240 --> 01:33:49,639
Speaker 3: to be black or of the same race. You would

1909
01:33:49,680 --> 01:33:52,200
Speaker 3: think it was fucking ridiculous. If people just come by.

1910
01:33:52,320 --> 01:33:54,240
Speaker 1: Why ain't no white people whind you whined? You got

1911
01:33:54,320 --> 01:33:55,320
Speaker 1: no white people throwing up it?

1912
01:33:55,479 --> 01:33:58,240
Speaker 2: You would think it was the stupid things or like,

1913
01:33:58,600 --> 01:34:01,800
Speaker 2: let's look because like that's the power dynamic that black

1914
01:34:01,840 --> 01:34:04,200
Speaker 2: people will a jet. Oh I have to have white people,

1915
01:34:04,280 --> 01:34:06,320
Speaker 2: I tell you, in a world is racist. But no, no, no,

1916
01:34:06,720 --> 01:34:08,920
Speaker 2: because I'm saying they're not wrong. Can I'm saying I

1917
01:34:09,000 --> 01:34:12,040
Speaker 2: get that because there's a power dynamic of we were

1918
01:34:12,120 --> 01:34:14,439
Speaker 2: like a black space. There's nothing wrong with the black space,

1919
01:34:15,000 --> 01:34:17,679
Speaker 2: but there's something that they see wrong about a privileged

1920
01:34:17,720 --> 01:34:20,680
Speaker 2: space of white people. Okay, cool, Let's say I looked

1921
01:34:20,720 --> 01:34:22,759
Speaker 2: at that table and said, I don't see nobody outwardly

1922
01:34:22,960 --> 01:34:25,800
Speaker 2: gay word the trans people at their table or something

1923
01:34:25,880 --> 01:34:29,080
Speaker 2: like that, and it's like, so my life is now

1924
01:34:29,439 --> 01:34:34,120
Speaker 2: about pokemon collecting different versions of marginalized people, so that

1925
01:34:34,240 --> 01:34:37,599
Speaker 2: when we have a photo op, a snapshot, a still

1926
01:34:37,680 --> 01:34:40,200
Speaker 2: shot of one moment of my life, it needs to

1927
01:34:40,280 --> 01:34:45,040
Speaker 2: be representative of all this other stuff constantly or else

1928
01:34:45,080 --> 01:34:47,680
Speaker 2: I can't even put it on my Instagram. To me,

1929
01:34:48,240 --> 01:34:52,280
Speaker 2: that is such a ridiculous point of view to try

1930
01:34:52,360 --> 01:34:55,880
Speaker 2: to like extrapolate everybody's politics and shit out by that.

1931
01:34:56,400 --> 01:34:59,320
Speaker 2: And it's mostly about the jealous and envy that the

1932
01:34:59,360 --> 01:35:03,400
Speaker 2: person express early. I'm not navigating my life through jealousy

1933
01:35:03,520 --> 01:35:05,400
Speaker 2: or resentment. That's not gonna happen for me.

1934
01:35:05,520 --> 01:35:08,040
Speaker 1: I don't have time, so I'll never be able to.

1935
01:35:08,360 --> 01:35:12,120
Speaker 2: Relate or empower that point of view on the show,

1936
01:35:12,439 --> 01:35:13,960
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like, it's just not gonna

1937
01:35:13,960 --> 01:35:17,160
Speaker 2: happen because I've tried my best to excise that from

1938
01:35:17,200 --> 01:35:20,280
Speaker 2: my life. I know I felt a kind of jealousy,

1939
01:35:20,320 --> 01:35:22,400
Speaker 2: but not envy, not because they were in an r

1940
01:35:22,439 --> 01:35:24,080
Speaker 2: white group of rich silaries or even a bunch of

1941
01:35:24,120 --> 01:35:26,920
Speaker 2: people that look genuine happy, but of the bigger picture.

1942
01:35:27,000 --> 01:35:29,960
Speaker 2: I guess what is the bigger picture than that?

1943
01:35:30,400 --> 01:35:30,559
Speaker 1: Right?

1944
01:35:30,720 --> 01:35:33,599
Speaker 3: And and it's also one of the things to where

1945
01:35:35,240 --> 01:35:37,840
Speaker 3: racists in America has felt people up so bad that

1946
01:35:38,040 --> 01:35:43,920
Speaker 3: white people just being white and taking a picture, people

1947
01:35:44,200 --> 01:35:47,679
Speaker 3: make the connection between that and racism because we in America,

1948
01:35:48,479 --> 01:35:50,599
Speaker 3: and I think that a lot of times people look

1949
01:35:50,640 --> 01:35:53,160
Speaker 3: at this and they just automatically soume that everybody in

1950
01:35:53,240 --> 01:35:54,439
Speaker 3: there has a problem with black people.

1951
01:35:54,439 --> 01:35:55,679
Speaker 1: Alahlah.

1952
01:35:55,680 --> 01:35:57,920
Speaker 2: I just think we conflate micro and macro a lot

1953
01:35:58,000 --> 01:36:00,439
Speaker 2: on a lot of issues. Social media does a lot,

1954
01:36:00,520 --> 01:36:05,120
Speaker 2: and social commentary does this a lot. And most individual

1955
01:36:05,160 --> 01:36:08,679
Speaker 2: people that aren't living their lives in that manner period,

1956
01:36:08,840 --> 01:36:11,360
Speaker 2: Not you, not anybody. And it's hard for us to

1957
01:36:11,479 --> 01:36:14,800
Speaker 2: imagine people of privilege not moving their lives that way

1958
01:36:15,520 --> 01:36:18,439
Speaker 2: and then look at ourselves and put ourselves to our

1959
01:36:18,520 --> 01:36:21,320
Speaker 2: own rigorous standards. You won't no one will pass because

1960
01:36:21,360 --> 01:36:24,920
Speaker 2: you're just living your life. Maybe here's where there Here

1961
01:36:25,200 --> 01:36:28,160
Speaker 2: was the apparent casualist, juxtapost, the luxury of the surroundings

1962
01:36:28,200 --> 01:36:30,479
Speaker 2: a table, probably card from a whole, last tree, etc.

1963
01:36:31,240 --> 01:36:33,839
Speaker 2: Whiteness sometimes can manage to lend a type of obscenity

1964
01:36:33,920 --> 01:36:37,080
Speaker 2: to an innocent to even innocent acts like a dinner party,

1965
01:36:37,160 --> 01:36:40,280
Speaker 2: presumably among friends. Or maybe that's just something I'm experiencing

1966
01:36:40,400 --> 01:36:43,240
Speaker 2: or projecting. You're definitely projecting that. I couldn't help but

1967
01:36:43,320 --> 01:36:45,439
Speaker 2: look up the chocolate putdo your reference in your tweet rod.

1968
01:36:45,560 --> 01:36:47,680
Speaker 2: That was a shocking sight. Didn't read up in the

1969
01:36:47,720 --> 01:36:50,200
Speaker 2: context of that dinner table, but in trying to rationalize

1970
01:36:50,240 --> 01:36:52,320
Speaker 2: for the sake of all mental health, I wondered if

1971
01:36:52,360 --> 01:36:55,240
Speaker 2: there were They were going for a theme related to

1972
01:36:55,320 --> 01:36:58,800
Speaker 2: the nineteen eighty nine spoiler alert film to Cook the Thief,

1973
01:36:59,080 --> 01:37:01,320
Speaker 2: his wife and her lover. Anyway, whatever they were going for,

1974
01:37:01,439 --> 01:37:02,240
Speaker 2: their image was grim.

1975
01:37:02,640 --> 01:37:05,679
Speaker 1: Keep up the great work you two, Thank you sweetie.

1976
01:37:05,720 --> 01:37:08,439
Speaker 1: But yeah, you you actually addressed your own thing, a

1977
01:37:08,520 --> 01:37:08,880
Speaker 1: lot of it.

1978
01:37:09,439 --> 01:37:13,280
Speaker 3: Like most people seeing a picture of white people, it

1979
01:37:13,439 --> 01:37:15,640
Speaker 3: struck something within you, like a lot of people, and

1980
01:37:15,720 --> 01:37:18,320
Speaker 3: they just felt like, well, I have to say something

1981
01:37:18,520 --> 01:37:21,200
Speaker 3: like you said, be a jealousy, be an envy, be

1982
01:37:21,360 --> 01:37:27,560
Speaker 3: it white supremacies like it's something, but your internal struggles

1983
01:37:28,920 --> 01:37:30,280
Speaker 3: not trying funny, has nothing.

1984
01:37:30,080 --> 01:37:33,240
Speaker 1: To do with the photo or the people in the photo.

1985
01:37:34,200 --> 01:37:36,759
Speaker 1: You know, I feel like they should be able.

1986
01:37:36,600 --> 01:37:40,559
Speaker 3: To live their lives, just living their lives with their friends,

1987
01:37:41,600 --> 01:37:43,280
Speaker 3: and this and this right here might not be a

1988
01:37:43,280 --> 01:37:44,599
Speaker 3: reflection of all their friends.

1989
01:37:44,640 --> 01:37:46,559
Speaker 1: This is right by be a reflection of the people

1990
01:37:46,640 --> 01:37:48,200
Speaker 1: that were here at this time.

1991
01:37:48,479 --> 01:37:50,120
Speaker 3: Who knows they might, like right said, We don't know

1992
01:37:50,160 --> 01:37:52,000
Speaker 3: if they they might have invited other people and they

1993
01:37:52,040 --> 01:37:52,599
Speaker 3: just couldn't come.

1994
01:37:52,720 --> 01:37:55,160
Speaker 1: We don't know. A lot of it is just projecting.

1995
01:37:56,120 --> 01:37:59,439
Speaker 2: To me, it's just a representation. It's a representation as

1996
01:37:59,479 --> 01:38:02,640
Speaker 2: the person for out of their own insecurities. And I

1997
01:38:02,800 --> 01:38:05,960
Speaker 2: acknowledge and have empathy for people's insecurities because we all have.

1998
01:38:06,040 --> 01:38:06,639
Speaker 1: Them, agreed.

1999
01:38:07,000 --> 01:38:12,240
Speaker 2: That being said, there are responsibilities, and I think the

2000
01:38:12,360 --> 01:38:15,400
Speaker 2: examination you have to do with yourself is why do

2001
01:38:15,560 --> 01:38:20,320
Speaker 2: I feel insecure about someone else's picture of them and

2002
01:38:20,360 --> 01:38:24,240
Speaker 2: their friends or coworkers or whatever. And in this case

2003
01:38:24,280 --> 01:38:27,080
Speaker 2: it was friends, so not even coworkers. Why, you know,

2004
01:38:27,600 --> 01:38:31,160
Speaker 2: why do I feel the need to be upset about this?

2005
01:38:31,960 --> 01:38:34,080
Speaker 2: And a lot of those reasons you pointed out to me,

2006
01:38:34,439 --> 01:38:38,960
Speaker 2: are internalized reasons that I think when you don't have,

2007
01:38:41,240 --> 01:38:46,120
Speaker 2: when you don't have an envy or a need to

2008
01:38:46,240 --> 01:38:50,439
Speaker 2: be acknowledged by or belong or represented at that table,

2009
01:38:51,160 --> 01:38:53,720
Speaker 2: none of it doesn't bother me. If I go out

2010
01:38:53,720 --> 01:38:55,040
Speaker 2: to a dinner and I'll see a table full of

2011
01:38:55,080 --> 01:38:57,960
Speaker 2: white people having dinner, I don't think anything good or

2012
01:38:58,040 --> 01:39:02,639
Speaker 2: bad about them. They're just having dinner unless something happens.

2013
01:39:02,640 --> 01:39:04,920
Speaker 2: If somebody says something, it doesn't mean shit to me,

2014
01:39:05,520 --> 01:39:08,400
Speaker 2: cause it's just I refuse to walk around with that

2015
01:39:08,640 --> 01:39:13,040
Speaker 2: level of our most racial paranoia because I feel like

2016
01:39:13,120 --> 01:39:15,360
Speaker 2: I'm giving them my brain space, I'm giving them my

2017
01:39:15,479 --> 01:39:19,240
Speaker 2: emotional space, I'm giving them everything. I'm giving them too

2018
01:39:19,479 --> 01:39:22,639
Speaker 2: much when a picture of them sets me off into

2019
01:39:22,720 --> 01:39:27,960
Speaker 2: a journey of insecurity. And it's just America's taken so

2020
01:39:28,320 --> 01:39:33,599
Speaker 2: much from us, so much. The last bastion is our minds.

2021
01:39:33,800 --> 01:39:37,000
Speaker 2: I don't want to give them that, you know, And

2022
01:39:37,800 --> 01:39:41,080
Speaker 2: I'm being honest like I never like try to be

2023
01:39:43,240 --> 01:39:46,320
Speaker 2: I never. I'm telling you my honest feelings is what

2024
01:39:46,360 --> 01:39:48,639
Speaker 2: I'm saying. I try to be authentic with this meaning

2025
01:39:48,680 --> 01:39:50,360
Speaker 2: when we play like fucking with black people, if something

2026
01:39:50,400 --> 01:39:52,439
Speaker 2: does fuck with me I'll say it, but I try.

2027
01:39:52,560 --> 01:39:56,000
Speaker 2: Even in those episodes, y'all hear me trying to rationalize, like, Okay,

2028
01:39:56,840 --> 01:39:59,960
Speaker 2: what specifically would be bother me if something was bothering me,

2029
01:40:00,479 --> 01:40:01,600
Speaker 2: why would it be bothering me?

2030
01:40:02,240 --> 01:40:02,280
Speaker 1: What?

2031
01:40:03,240 --> 01:40:04,320
Speaker 2: And how much of that is me?

2032
01:40:04,560 --> 01:40:06,559
Speaker 1: And how much of that is this actual situation?

2033
01:40:07,200 --> 01:40:09,400
Speaker 2: Stuff like that, you know, And I think in this case,

2034
01:40:10,000 --> 01:40:11,720
Speaker 2: this one didn't bother me. I can see how it

2035
01:40:11,720 --> 01:40:14,040
Speaker 2: would bother somebody. It might have been something that would

2036
01:40:14,040 --> 01:40:15,840
Speaker 2: have bothered me ten years ago, but it don't bother

2037
01:40:15,920 --> 01:40:19,160
Speaker 2: me today. And it took a lot of work decolonizing

2038
01:40:19,240 --> 01:40:20,920
Speaker 2: my mind to be able to say, I don't give

2039
01:40:20,920 --> 01:40:22,439
Speaker 2: a fuck with the white people up too, as long

2040
01:40:22,439 --> 01:40:25,439
Speaker 2: as it ain't hurting nobody. What would it matter if

2041
01:40:25,439 --> 01:40:27,400
Speaker 2: they was all wearing clan ropes, I'd be upset, But

2042
01:40:27,479 --> 01:40:31,280
Speaker 2: these motherfuckers are just having dinner. It actually, Loki, I

2043
01:40:31,360 --> 01:40:32,479
Speaker 2: probably don't want to be there.

2044
01:40:33,640 --> 01:40:37,160
Speaker 3: And also it's one of the things, like I said before,

2045
01:40:37,640 --> 01:40:39,840
Speaker 3: just because you're aware of something and just because you

2046
01:40:39,920 --> 01:40:42,200
Speaker 3: can acknowledge your feeling, just because you can point it

2047
01:40:42,280 --> 01:40:45,479
Speaker 3: out now comes the hard part the work. And what

2048
01:40:45,680 --> 01:40:49,200
Speaker 3: I realized, once you require people to take the extra

2049
01:40:49,439 --> 01:40:54,920
Speaker 3: step and require people to critically think and actually analyze.

2050
01:40:55,800 --> 01:40:58,080
Speaker 3: I've just come to the conclusion people just don't want

2051
01:40:58,080 --> 01:40:59,479
Speaker 3: to do that work. And when people don't want to

2052
01:40:59,520 --> 01:41:01,639
Speaker 3: do that work, they go in to circle, they going

2053
01:41:01,680 --> 01:41:05,160
Speaker 3: to cycle, and this happens again again again again, and

2054
01:41:05,240 --> 01:41:07,840
Speaker 3: they don't understand why. And at some period of time,

2055
01:41:08,520 --> 01:41:12,519
Speaker 3: you know, you, I know, I wanted to get off

2056
01:41:12,520 --> 01:41:14,280
Speaker 3: the roller coaster, so I was like, I'm tired of

2057
01:41:14,360 --> 01:41:15,920
Speaker 3: the same motherfucking roller coaster ride.

2058
01:41:15,960 --> 01:41:16,360
Speaker 1: What can I do?

2059
01:41:16,560 --> 01:41:20,240
Speaker 2: I think Also, the social media anger thing algorithm needs

2060
01:41:20,320 --> 01:41:21,800
Speaker 2: more food, and that was food that day.

2061
01:41:21,880 --> 01:41:22,280
Speaker 1: I agreed.

2062
01:41:22,400 --> 01:41:24,880
Speaker 2: It wasn't really that controversial. It's just they needed to

2063
01:41:24,960 --> 01:41:27,000
Speaker 2: eat and there was gonna be some outrage. And that's

2064
01:41:27,040 --> 01:41:29,560
Speaker 2: what they call an outrage machine. It was gonna be

2065
01:41:29,600 --> 01:41:34,120
Speaker 2: the outrage machine fuel that day. And you know, even

2066
01:41:34,160 --> 01:41:36,000
Speaker 2: when people try to make it an industry thing, like

2067
01:41:36,120 --> 01:41:39,320
Speaker 2: these people are gatekeepers, these people are such and such.

2068
01:41:39,560 --> 01:41:42,880
Speaker 2: So is Ray. When Ray had them all black boat parties,

2069
01:41:42,920 --> 01:41:45,200
Speaker 2: I've never once stopped to myself, we need to make

2070
01:41:45,240 --> 01:41:47,800
Speaker 2: sure some Latino people are here and some age and

2071
01:41:48,320 --> 01:41:52,600
Speaker 2: why they're having fun with their fucking friends. This is

2072
01:41:52,720 --> 01:41:56,720
Speaker 2: not the time now, it was a boardroom maybe, but

2073
01:41:56,840 --> 01:41:59,960
Speaker 2: they're just chilling, and that's okay. Not every move people

2074
01:42:00,200 --> 01:42:05,479
Speaker 2: make is for the DEI moment, you know, all right.

2075
01:42:06,000 --> 01:42:09,400
Speaker 2: Next one is from Dante, who says episode twenty seven

2076
01:42:09,600 --> 01:42:12,760
Speaker 2: thirty seven Nick fleationin what Up Karen and Rod, I too,

2077
01:42:12,840 --> 01:42:15,759
Speaker 2: am disturbed by how some of these my nigga sluts

2078
01:42:16,080 --> 01:42:18,280
Speaker 2: be out in these streets giving it up for minimal effort.

2079
01:42:19,240 --> 01:42:21,160
Speaker 2: If this isn't check, it could be become the ice

2080
01:42:21,200 --> 01:42:25,120
Speaker 2: cream date of endearments for real. I agree. I propose

2081
01:42:25,360 --> 01:42:27,719
Speaker 2: something like with the tab on nuance, since the dentists

2082
01:42:28,040 --> 01:42:31,559
Speaker 2: would clearly give have that. Charlie Stern talking about Nordic

2083
01:42:31,680 --> 01:42:35,320
Speaker 2: strains fast and furiously as a nigga who's been a

2084
01:42:36,120 --> 01:42:39,599
Speaker 2: seen a fiord, I propose when he rushes a crown,

2085
01:42:39,720 --> 01:42:45,000
Speaker 2: we call that Nordic nigga my ne yorga. We can

2086
01:42:45,600 --> 01:42:49,800
Speaker 2: maybe set the exchange rate at every four or five

2087
01:42:49,920 --> 01:42:54,800
Speaker 2: my nigga moments earning a deserved my nejorga. This way

2088
01:42:55,000 --> 01:42:58,240
Speaker 2: we keep the shit, we culturally reclaim. The Nick economy

2089
01:42:58,439 --> 01:43:02,360
Speaker 2: bubble remains un I love that word Nick economy, and

2090
01:43:02,560 --> 01:43:08,880
Speaker 2: thor dentist un Stell's dentist Son still has feels to chase.

2091
01:43:09,200 --> 01:43:11,559
Speaker 1: Y'all are the bestest peace of little my niggas. That's hilarious.

2092
01:43:11,960 --> 01:43:14,599
Speaker 2: No, I won't be calling anybody in New Yoga. That's

2093
01:43:14,640 --> 01:43:18,960
Speaker 2: not gonna happen, but I appreciate you. Lastly, this is

2094
01:43:19,000 --> 01:43:23,160
Speaker 2: for my girl, Caretha Professor. She says, Dear Rod and Karen,

2095
01:43:23,200 --> 01:43:25,040
Speaker 2: I hope this message finds you well. I'm excited about

2096
01:43:25,040 --> 01:43:27,760
Speaker 2: taking advantage of some resources right now, so I just

2097
01:43:27,840 --> 01:43:30,760
Speaker 2: had to share. Upon hearing Karen talk about pair ofmenopause,

2098
01:43:31,320 --> 01:43:34,080
Speaker 2: Lord knows I'm in that same boat. Karen Hunter interviewed

2099
01:43:34,120 --> 01:43:36,040
Speaker 2: the founder of this amazing group that gives women to

2100
01:43:36,120 --> 01:43:38,479
Speaker 2: kind of care that's always hard to get, especially if

2101
01:43:38,479 --> 01:43:41,880
Speaker 2: you're not having devastating problems. It's like we have to

2102
01:43:41,960 --> 01:43:45,360
Speaker 2: be in distress before anything becomes available. Right Anyway, I

2103
01:43:45,439 --> 01:43:47,760
Speaker 2: heard the conversation right before a movement, so I saved it,

2104
01:43:48,040 --> 01:43:50,360
Speaker 2: but didn't order to test until after I moved. I

2105
01:43:50,479 --> 01:43:53,320
Speaker 2: remember return my blood tests in early July and have

2106
01:43:53,439 --> 01:43:55,880
Speaker 2: finally set up my appointment to discuss my results with

2107
01:43:56,040 --> 01:43:59,360
Speaker 2: a coach on August third. By taking the at home

2108
01:43:59,400 --> 01:44:01,840
Speaker 2: blood test, I can see which hormones are low and

2109
01:44:01,920 --> 01:44:04,479
Speaker 2: which are high. But I look forward to learning and

2110
01:44:04,560 --> 01:44:06,800
Speaker 2: conversation with the care coach what exactly that means and

2111
01:44:06,840 --> 01:44:09,360
Speaker 2: how I can address it. Anyway, maybe worth checking out

2112
01:44:09,400 --> 01:44:11,880
Speaker 2: blow us the screenshot I say when the founder was

2113
01:44:11,920 --> 01:44:15,880
Speaker 2: on the Karen Hunter show, Caritha, and it looks like

2114
01:44:15,920 --> 01:44:18,800
Speaker 2: it's a well site called Nola donula dot com n

2115
01:44:18,920 --> 01:44:22,040
Speaker 2: O U l a dot com and you can use

2116
01:44:22,120 --> 01:44:26,320
Speaker 2: cold Karen Hunter and get fifteen dollars off. So that's

2117
01:44:26,560 --> 01:44:27,880
Speaker 2: to the whole audience at Karen.

2118
01:44:29,000 --> 01:44:32,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, because for the pregame, for the pregame.

2119
01:44:32,520 --> 01:44:35,280
Speaker 2: People, y'all need to get behind that motherfucker paywall, okay,

2120
01:44:36,000 --> 01:44:39,040
Speaker 2: because we over there talking about things, and y'all y'all

2121
01:44:39,160 --> 01:44:43,400
Speaker 2: lay if you yeah, y'all don't know what's going on

2122
01:44:43,560 --> 01:44:45,720
Speaker 2: over there, and you're not gonna know because I'm not

2123
01:44:45,800 --> 01:44:46,240
Speaker 2: gonna tell you.

2124
01:44:46,320 --> 01:44:48,479
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let Karen tell you. You gotta go

2125
01:44:48,760 --> 01:44:49,719
Speaker 1: pay for it to listen.

2126
01:44:51,520 --> 01:44:53,200
Speaker 2: I don't know if you heard. I ain't getting right

2127
01:44:53,240 --> 01:44:58,479
Speaker 2: in checks no more. Okay, this this ain't free, okay,

2128
01:45:00,000 --> 01:45:02,519
Speaker 2: all right. Last thing is, actually we got some stuff

2129
01:45:02,560 --> 01:45:07,960
Speaker 2: in the mail. Look what came in the mail. The

2130
01:45:08,040 --> 01:45:11,000
Speaker 2: physical address is on our website, the blackoutils dot com

2131
01:45:11,080 --> 01:45:16,040
Speaker 2: slash about section. And you know we have an Amazon

2132
01:45:16,120 --> 01:45:19,360
Speaker 2: wishless as well. My birthday is coming up next month.

2133
01:45:19,640 --> 01:45:22,400
Speaker 2: The show anniversary is coming up next month.

2134
01:45:22,600 --> 01:45:23,799
Speaker 1: So I mean, if you're.

2135
01:45:23,640 --> 01:45:28,080
Speaker 2: Feeling generous, you know what I'm saying. We much like

2136
01:45:28,160 --> 01:45:31,040
Speaker 2: a much like sex working in Dayton, we offer we

2137
01:45:31,160 --> 01:45:35,559
Speaker 2: offer sale over here. So yeah, this is a package

2138
01:45:35,600 --> 01:45:41,519
Speaker 2: we got from our man jail coven. And it's a book.

2139
01:45:42,720 --> 01:45:42,840
Speaker 3: Uh.

2140
01:45:43,080 --> 01:45:47,160
Speaker 2: It's called the two hundred and seventy two. Oh.

2141
01:45:47,200 --> 01:45:49,160
Speaker 1: I think this is from this might be the book

2142
01:45:49,240 --> 01:45:50,320
Speaker 1: by his sister in law.

2143
01:45:51,760 --> 01:45:53,840
Speaker 2: He didn't leave a note or a message or anything

2144
01:45:53,920 --> 01:45:58,520
Speaker 2: with this, I don't see. But it's by Rachel L. Swarns,

2145
01:45:59,040 --> 01:46:01,760
Speaker 2: the families who were in sold and the families who

2146
01:46:01,800 --> 01:46:04,519
Speaker 2: were enslaved and sold to build the American Catholic Church,

2147
01:46:04,600 --> 01:46:05,519
Speaker 2: the two seventy two.

2148
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Speaker 1: Oh damn, the Catholic Church.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's real, all right. I normally don't mess with

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Speaker 2: physical books, but I appreciate this. I'm gonna put it

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Speaker 2: on my shelf. It's gonna make me look smarter than

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna buy it on kindle.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 2: So we have that, and then there's another package as well.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if it's the same book, so that

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Speaker 2: Karen can put it on her specific bookshelf for what.

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Speaker 2: You never know what Karen? She she also loves to

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Speaker 2: put things on shelves or give it to my mom. Oh,

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Speaker 2: it's what Doesn't Kill You makes You Blacker, a book

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Speaker 2: I have read already and that I have a physical

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Speaker 2: copy of because Damon gave me a gave me a copy.

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Speaker 1: You don't have a physical copy, Well, Karen won't, I

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Speaker 1: won't that one.

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Speaker 2: We can give it to my mom, my dad, somebody

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Speaker 2: else actually read it. Karens are harder and she just

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Speaker 2: likes to keep things in our house. Guys, well, thank you.

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Speaker 2: We will make sure that these books find homes. I'm

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Speaker 2: sure Jail probably already read them. And I don't see

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Speaker 2: any notes in here, so he probably didn't learn anything

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Speaker 2: from these books. He's probably somewhere saying Tom Cruise is

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Speaker 2: better than Mountain Morale. You know, so, as you know

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Speaker 2: he does, these kind of messages a wasted on him.

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Speaker 2: But thanks for listening to everybody. Thank you, jam We'll

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Speaker 2: be back tomorrow at eleven. A m our guess is

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Speaker 2: gonna be bossy.

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Speaker 1: It be yay. Bssy. Yes, And if you're.

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Speaker 2: Around on Wednesday, our guest is gonna be che Way

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Speaker 2: and Gast from the War Report.

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Speaker 1: Yay. He can't wait for me that that should be fun.

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Speaker 2: It's been a bit of a sausage fast with the

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Speaker 2: guests lately, so I've been trying to It's not for

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Speaker 2: lack of trying, and we just couldn't get the scheduled

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Speaker 2: together for some some of the women that we tried

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Speaker 2: to book. But yeah, so I'm looking forward to this

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Speaker 2: and we'll talk to y'all soon. Until next time, I

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Speaker 2: love you you