Speaker 1: You can't see it on an X ray. You can't
Speaker 1: put a band aid or a cast on it, but
Speaker 1: it hurts like a broken bone. And you're in the valley.
Speaker 1: Anytime someone's in the valley, I always love to say,
Speaker 1: time will go by, the sun will come up, like
Speaker 1: Chad said, and you will heal. Welcome back to the podcast.
Speaker 1: This is the first one I've done, and I don't
Speaker 1: know how many that I've had a guest back, and
Speaker 1: it's one of everyone's favorite. Faster Chad, you remember how
Speaker 1: to do this? Somebody else here, I think, So I
Speaker 1: got to look this way right, Okay, yeah, faster Chad
Speaker 1: sitting to my left and one of one of our
Speaker 1: our few multi repeat guests. And everyone loves you. I
Speaker 1: go to meet and greets and they're like, hey, tell
Speaker 1: pastor Chad, Hi really yeah, that's cool. Everyone loves you
Speaker 1: and Bernie so so welcome back. I had a fan experience.
Speaker 1: I've never had a half outside of my kids and
Speaker 1: my wife. So I was in the coffee shop here
Speaker 1: in town and I was getting ready to meet with somebody,
Speaker 1: and I'm in this coffee shop affair amount and I'll
Speaker 1: have meetings or appointments or one on ones there and
Speaker 1: so I'm standing in line and this guy is kind
Speaker 1: of looking at me, and I figure he's probably looking
Speaker 1: at somebody behind me. So I kind of looked behind
Speaker 1: me and I realized, no, he's he's locked on right,
Speaker 1: he's he sees me and I'm and so I kind
Speaker 1: of look away and I pretend like I'm looking at
Speaker 1: the menu, although I know exactly what I'm going to go,
Speaker 1: what my order is. So I'm standing there and I
Speaker 1: noticed that on my peripheral. He gets up and he
Speaker 1: starts making his way towards me, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I wonder if he's waiting on somebody. And he comes
Speaker 1: up and he goes, are you pastor Chad? And so
Speaker 1: now I'm thinking, well, maybe maybe he's somebody that's new
Speaker 1: to the church and I just haven't met him yet.
Speaker 1: And he goes because I heard you on Granger Smith podcast,
Speaker 1: and I was like, really, And I thought about in
Speaker 1: the moment, well, not in the moment, but afterwards, I
Speaker 1: should have got his autograph, To get the autograph of
Speaker 1: my first like the first person that recognized me, Well,
Speaker 1: I could attest a lot of people feel that way.
Speaker 1: They're just not all of them are in Georgetown, Texas.
Speaker 1: They're all it was a neat experience. Well, everyone loves you.
Speaker 1: And the format of this podcast is we answer your
Speaker 1: questions the listener email Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com
Speaker 1: and we will. We'll jump right into it, Chad and
Speaker 1: are going to answer it like the three of us
Speaker 1: are sitting around a campfire and you walk up and
Speaker 1: you go, you know, something's been on my mind. Can
Speaker 1: I run this by you? And it could be about
Speaker 1: any subject. As you'll see today, we have a lot,
Speaker 1: so I have I have someone cue. I'm just going
Speaker 1: to randomly hit them, Okay, and then I'm going to
Speaker 1: ask you to read some subject lines and see which one. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start with this one. Once again, we don't
Speaker 1: have notes in front of us. I don't know, I
Speaker 1: don't know what's about to hit us. But this one
Speaker 1: subject line is is my chance ruined? Hey Grangeer, I'd
Speaker 1: like to stay anonymous. Sixteen years old. I love your
Speaker 1: podcast and your music. I'm born and raised in a
Speaker 1: Christian home, basically memorized every verse in the Bible, and
Speaker 1: I know every answer to every question. It's pretty much
Speaker 1: been ingrained in me. I have not been rebellious or
Speaker 1: anything like that, but I've fallen away from God during
Speaker 1: that I did not save myself for marriage. I know
Speaker 1: that I love God and I will love him for
Speaker 1: the rest of my life. But now my question is
Speaker 1: whether a godly, fantastic woman would want to be with me?
Speaker 1: Will I have to be with someone who's already made
Speaker 1: the same mistakes as me? With gratitude, mister anonymous sixteen,
Speaker 1: Thanks for emailing. Thanks for emailing. It's a good question.
Speaker 1: I want to I want to first. I want to
Speaker 1: first address the way you asked it, because everyone is
Speaker 1: this is not me, this is not Chad, this is
Speaker 1: everyone that's listening is thinking to themselves. You're sixteen, and
Speaker 1: you have every answer already figured out. You've already memorized
Speaker 1: every verse in the Bible. Buddy, we got to start
Speaker 1: with air. We got we gotta start there before we
Speaker 1: go into the main part of the question. But then,
Speaker 1: the reason, the reason I want to start there is
Speaker 1: because that could be the root of other problems. In fact,
Speaker 1: it probably is because when we when we read through
Speaker 1: the Bible, we see we see only a few themes
Speaker 1: that that resurface in all sixty six books over and over,
Speaker 1: and it's it's we're thankful that there's only a few
Speaker 1: because it keeps the entire canon cohesive to each other,
Speaker 1: and and it pulls everything together so that we could
Speaker 1: read Matthew and there and then go back and read Exodus,
Speaker 1: and we could find similarities in that way. So there's
Speaker 1: a few things. And one of those very few things
Speaker 1: is be humble. You gotta be humble, humble yourself to God.
Speaker 1: Don't ever think about telling God in a prayer. I've
Speaker 1: got it all figured out. I've got all the answers,
Speaker 1: and I've memorized every verse. What else? What else do
Speaker 1: you have for me? God? You know? And and maybe
Speaker 1: you do. Maybe maybe you're just a just a complete
Speaker 1: prod prodigy. I don't think you are no offense. But
Speaker 1: maybe you have every you have the whole Bible memorize,
Speaker 1: like that movie a book of eli book. Maybe you
Speaker 1: have the whole book memorized. So then you still go
Speaker 1: to God with a humble heart, and you go, I've
Speaker 1: memorized these words, but show me the wisdom behind them.
Speaker 1: Show it to me so that it's revealed deeper to
Speaker 1: me as I get older, as I as I learned
Speaker 1: to as I crave to understand you more. So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna start with just just that humbleness of coming to
Speaker 1: comingto this and come into this problem and coming to
Speaker 1: you and just going for you just to say I
Speaker 1: am broken, I'm a sinner. God, I have nothing without you,
Speaker 1: humble me before you enlarge my heart so that so
Speaker 1: I could better understand my depravity, my brokenness. And you'll
Speaker 1: see that if you go through the Psalms. You see
Speaker 1: this over and over with King David. King David was
Speaker 1: so humble in the heart, and he was he was
Speaker 1: such a servant of God that God so many times
Speaker 1: rewarded him with so many, so many blessings, and his
Speaker 1: son Solomon with so many blessings because of that humbleness.
Speaker 1: When when when God asked Solomon, what do you want,
Speaker 1: I'll give you anything, and he said, I just want
Speaker 1: wisdom to understand you. And God said, because of because
Speaker 1: you asked for wisdom, I'm going to give you much
Speaker 1: more than that. We see that theme reoccurring all the
Speaker 1: way through Jesus, in the New Testament and through the Epistles.
Speaker 1: So I want to start there and just make sure
Speaker 1: and I don't Buddy, I don't think you meant it
Speaker 1: in any arrogant way. I think you're trying to tell
Speaker 1: me and Chad that you understand the different doctrines and
Speaker 1: you understand the different concepts. But now we're going to
Speaker 1: dig into what your question is, which reveals that maybe
Speaker 1: you don't totally understand the doctrines, especially that of total
Speaker 1: depravity and forgiveness, and the fact that we are all fallen.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't take your email for you to tell
Speaker 1: us what you did. It doesn't take that for us
Speaker 1: to already know that you're already a sinner and that
Speaker 1: you already have plenty of things that you will be
Speaker 1: doing that you will mess up as you go on
Speaker 1: your journey from sixteen forward. But Chad, do you want
Speaker 1: to jump in? Yeah? I think I mean to highlight
Speaker 1: what you've said Granger, that humility is a theme and
Speaker 1: the proper response of any human before a mighty God.
Speaker 1: And so humility is where it begins Micah six 's eight.
Speaker 1: If you've got that verse memorized, then you know it
Speaker 1: well right. The idea of and priority of seeking kindness,
Speaker 1: loving justice, and walking humbly with your God. That's what
Speaker 1: he requires of us, and that's what He desires for us.
Speaker 1: And so beginning with that humility and that humility is
Speaker 1: a right understanding of who I am. I am a
Speaker 1: broken sinner in need of grace, and grace implies that
Speaker 1: it's not a gift that I deserve. And so that's
Speaker 1: what you're wondering. If God can be gracious about my situation?
Speaker 1: Is there any woman out there that can be gracious
Speaker 1: about my situation? And so you've got to understand and
Speaker 1: believe that. Man, if you go to God with humility
Speaker 1: and brokenness and say I messed up big time, please,
Speaker 1: please Lord help me. We know that the blood of
Speaker 1: Christ washes you clean and that you stand as a
Speaker 1: new creation in Christ. There anything that we learn about
Speaker 1: the Gospel, it's that God is a god of second
Speaker 1: chances and third and fourth and fifth, and that repentance
Speaker 1: is the regular normal activity of a Christian to say, yep,
Speaker 1: I see the sin in my life. I see that
Speaker 1: as sin, I call it sin, I repent, I turn
Speaker 1: from it to Christ and follow him. And so, yes,
Speaker 1: this is what's going on. But what your fear is
Speaker 1: is that there's no godly woman out there that will
Speaker 1: exercise the same kind of grace. And my question is,
Speaker 1: what if the roles were reversed. What if you had
Speaker 1: saved yourself and you met an amazing, amazing girl and
Speaker 1: you guys started dating, and you find out although she
Speaker 1: loves the Lord, this thing in her past that she
Speaker 1: did not wait. How would you respond? Because that's a
Speaker 1: heart check. Have you do you truly accept and receive
Speaker 1: the grace of God? And are you truly humbled about
Speaker 1: your own brokenness? Because I guarantee there are women out
Speaker 1: there that are that gracious, that do enjoy the gift
Speaker 1: of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and are giving grace
Speaker 1: and forgiveness. But I wonder if you wrestle with that yourself.
Speaker 1: That's so good that you you've kind of categorized, mister anonymous.
Speaker 1: You've kind of categorized women into two categories, A godly
Speaker 1: fantastic woman and someone who's already made mistakes like you,
Speaker 1: And and hey, I want you to I want you
Speaker 1: to consider that you could have both, that there are both,
Speaker 1: and and there's many there's many people listening right now,
Speaker 1: raising their hand. Hopefully everyone is raising their hand. Going me,
Speaker 1: I've made mistakes, but I could still be a godly,
Speaker 1: fantastic person. And I think Pastor Chad, you know, he
Speaker 1: just nailed it that that either you you could find
Speaker 1: a fantastic to godly woman that has waited, or you
Speaker 1: can find a fantastic, godly woman that has made mistakes
Speaker 1: but it's now repented. And I want you to I
Speaker 1: want you to open your mind. I think I think
Speaker 1: Chad and I both kind of think that there's probably
Speaker 1: other things going on underlying. And I don't blame you
Speaker 1: at all because you're sixteen. You know, I walked through
Speaker 1: the age sixteen like I had horse blinders on it.
Speaker 1: I couldn't see anything around me. I was just walking,
Speaker 1: you know, like this, like I only thought about football
Speaker 1: and guitar. And that's okay, because those blinders are going
Speaker 1: to start peeling away, and you're going to start seeing
Speaker 1: more and more of the world, and you're gonna start
Speaker 1: understanding more of the world. And that's just a good thing.
Speaker 1: So I appreciate your brother, and thanks thanks for kicking
Speaker 1: off this podcast. Yeah, good question. Let me let me
Speaker 1: throw out a couple to you. What's the right path
Speaker 1: ideas on how to propose our country life. We propose
Speaker 1: propose fun right into it. Huh yeah, okay, says Granger.
Speaker 1: I love your music and I love you take you
Speaker 1: use your platform to spread the gospel. I've been lucky
Speaker 1: enough to attend your last concert of twenty twenty one
Speaker 1: and Lincoln, Nebraska, and your first concert in twenty twenty
Speaker 1: two in Columbus, Ohio. Even I even able to attend
Speaker 1: Adventure Church and listen to your sermon. Your message was
Speaker 1: actually something I needed to hear at that time. I
Speaker 1: hope that I could be an encouragement when I say
Speaker 1: that it's evident that you're being used by God to
Speaker 1: continue on. Thank you very much, brother, he says. So
Speaker 1: I'm looking to propose and wondering if you and your
Speaker 1: guest have any ideas on how to do so. I
Speaker 1: have several ideas in mind, but just not sure. One
Speaker 1: of them is to do it at your concert whenever
Speaker 1: you come to Nebraska. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
Speaker 1: This is Jerry. Okay, Well, you've got the idea of
Speaker 1: going to Paris. I mean kind of like Parker, just
Speaker 1: rock and roll, Eiffel Tower romance. But if that's not
Speaker 1: in your budget, man, Jerry, this to me, this is
Speaker 1: a this comes down to the personality of the girl
Speaker 1: in a lot of ways, yes, and you'll you know her,
Speaker 1: does she like is she the kind of girl that
Speaker 1: would love her parents to be there? And it's like
Speaker 1: at you know, Christmas Eve and everyone's having dinner and
Speaker 1: the cousins are in town and your grandmother's there. Is
Speaker 1: maybe she's that kind of girl. Or maybe she's a
Speaker 1: girl that doesn't really like a lot of attention brought
Speaker 1: on her that makes her uncomfortable and she she would
Speaker 1: rather a nice stroll in the park and you get
Speaker 1: down on a knee. That's actually what I did. Amber
Speaker 1: and I were taking a walk and got in front
Speaker 1: of a church and I took a knee And that's
Speaker 1: Amber's personality. Like, Amber is not the kind of girl
Speaker 1: that like that wants a surprise birthday party. She would
Speaker 1: she would not like that. She would get mad at
Speaker 1: me afterwards, like why did you put me through that
Speaker 1: awkward situation surprise birthday party? So some girls like, you know,
Speaker 1: to be at the football game and you do it
Speaker 1: on the jumbo tron, They just love it. They will
Speaker 1: remember that the rest of their lives. But it really
Speaker 1: it really comes down to her and what you're willing
Speaker 1: to sacrifice with her personality. I think that's spot on
Speaker 1: because the either you're going to prioritize yourself and is
Speaker 1: this proposal about you and how that makes you look
Speaker 1: and kind of as the as you imagine retelling this
Speaker 1: story in years to come, and you know, is it
Speaker 1: is it about kind of you? Or does it prioritize her?
Speaker 1: And what would be the biggest win for her? How
Speaker 1: would she feel in that moment? How would she retell
Speaker 1: this story? How do you want this toy story to
Speaker 1: be retold? And who's the biggest priority? Is you think
Speaker 1: about that and it should be her. She's the priority.
Speaker 1: She's the princess. And so think in terms of man,
Speaker 1: how do you want her to retell the story? Or
Speaker 1: how would she be most excited about retelling this story
Speaker 1: to other people? And what makes her most feel most
Speaker 1: loved and understood in that moment? Love it? That's good,
Speaker 1: just saying, Jerry. I have hosted probably hundreds of engagements
Speaker 1: on our stage. Email Chris at grangersmith dot com. If
Speaker 1: that's something you're interested in. It is so like free
Speaker 1: of charge you do that. Yeah, we've done it many times.
Speaker 1: When we had a single called happens like that. And
Speaker 1: during the life of that single, Yeah, during the life
Speaker 1: of that single, it was literally every night, sometimes twice
Speaker 1: a night. But would they coordinate with you. They would
Speaker 1: coordinate with Chris, and they would go on the side
Speaker 1: of the stage and and they would tell they would
Speaker 1: tell their girlfriend, Oh, hey, we've been we won these tickets.
Speaker 1: We've been invited to watch from the side of the stage.
Speaker 1: But then they didn't know that I was about to
Speaker 1: call them on during the middle of the song and
Speaker 1: I'll just hand him the microphone. Just let him do
Speaker 1: what he needs to do. That's awesome. So that Jerry,
Speaker 1: that's that's still there. But make sure that that's something
Speaker 1: that she's into, like that she's not just going to
Speaker 1: be petrified by standing in front of all these people
Speaker 1: and you're on one knee, right, But it's possible. That's cool.
Speaker 1: I didn't know that was a thing. Congratulations, buddy, that's awesome. Yeah,
Speaker 1: do you want to hit up you wanna hit up
Speaker 1: country life? Yeah? Hey, grand your My name is Sam.
Speaker 1: I'm from Illinois. My family is from the city and
Speaker 1: has no experience living in the country. I love hunting
Speaker 1: and fishing and the idea of living off the land
Speaker 1: and having a farm or a ranch. How could I
Speaker 1: start getting into farm and living in the country. Did
Speaker 1: he say what city he's in from Illinois from? When
Speaker 1: whenever you're from Illinois you say the city you mean Chicago, Chicago.
Speaker 1: So I mean there's urban farming for sure. That seems challenging. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean this is difficult unless we're sitting. We're sitting,
Speaker 1: you know, at the campfire together, me and you, Sam.
Speaker 1: But I would say you could always rent, rent a
Speaker 1: farmhouse and work for somebody. You can always rent a room.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you have a family or not.
Speaker 1: But you know something my dad did. My dad, you know,
Speaker 1: he was he lived in the city, but he was
Speaker 1: a country boy at heart, and so he went out
Speaker 1: on the weekends and he took me and my brothers
Speaker 1: and we would go to and we leased some land
Speaker 1: for deer honey, and we would go out, you know,
Speaker 1: on Friday, and he'd get off work and we'd we
Speaker 1: would get together and drive out somewhere. So that sometimes
Speaker 1: you just got to do it. Sometimes your work, that's
Speaker 1: what your work, you know, only allows you to do.
Speaker 1: Not everybody could be a farmer or a rancher unless
Speaker 1: you're born into that. That costs a lot of money
Speaker 1: to start ranching. Yeah, and if you were here, I
Speaker 1: would ask, so what did it? What is it that
Speaker 1: appeals to you about your perception of this life? Like
Speaker 1: he's he says he likes to live outdoors, wants to
Speaker 1: live off the land, hunting, fishing, like outdoor recreation and sports.
Speaker 1: And it sounds like unless I want to grow crops
Speaker 1: and I want to raise animals, and so there's if
Speaker 1: that's you know, you can go a couple of different
Speaker 1: roads on that. So yeah, I would just I would
Speaker 1: get out every weekend you can and get out and
Speaker 1: do some hunt and fishing and meet people and meet
Speaker 1: guides and meet different people, like minded people. And eventually
Speaker 1: years after doing that, you're going to go then that
Speaker 1: property is for sale. Yeah, I kind of think I
Speaker 1: want to do this. Yeah, and just yeah, like find
Speaker 1: public land if there is some, and throw up a
Speaker 1: tent and just stay the night out there and just
Speaker 1: be out there, listening to the sights and sounds and
Speaker 1: engage it. And then yeah, take more and more trips,
Speaker 1: or plan an outdoor adventure to Colorado and road trip
Speaker 1: it because Nebraska or Illinois is not too I mean
Speaker 1: you can find wilderness, yeah, whether you go north or
Speaker 1: south or west. But yeah, I get out there and
Speaker 1: plan like maybe a week long trip and go and
Speaker 1: just adventure in public land. Yeah. Absolutely, let's hit Let's
Speaker 1: hit one more and take a break. What's the right path,
Speaker 1: it says, Good morning, Granger. My name is Channel. I'm
Speaker 1: twenty three years old, single mom from Auburn, Nebraska. I
Speaker 1: first want to say absolutely love everything you do. Thank
Speaker 1: you very much, she says. So I'm at a crossroads
Speaker 1: in my life right now. I'll do my best to
Speaker 1: keep this short but also include the details. Last year,
Speaker 1: I got into a PTA program and I was injured
Speaker 1: and said program. I ended up having surgery at the
Speaker 1: end of November, and I was forced to take medical
Speaker 1: leave from the program and I'm unable to return until
Speaker 1: January twenty twenty three. At first, I was putting all
Speaker 1: the bad things that happened aside because I wanted so
Speaker 1: bad to be a PTA. But I'm also feeling now
Speaker 1: a huge pull of my heart to not go back.
Speaker 1: In the last year I have I've dove into my
Speaker 1: faith and believe in God's plan, but it's almost like
Speaker 1: I'm waiting for a huge flashing sign to tell me
Speaker 1: what to do. You always give the best advice, so
Speaker 1: I'd love to hear your thoughts. This comes from Channel
Speaker 1: and Chad, what is PTA? I'm guessing physical therapy associate. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I would think like a she was training to be
Speaker 1: a physical therapist, which would be a physical kind of
Speaker 1: job or occupation, so that an injury would kind of
Speaker 1: derail that. Okay, So you're you're you're asking, let me
Speaker 1: summarize this. Channel. You're you're in a job and you
Speaker 1: have a chance to go back, and you're now doubting
Speaker 1: your interest in going back and wanting to trust God.
Speaker 1: But you don't see a huge flashing sign, and so
Speaker 1: now you're confused. And this is it's a good question,
Speaker 1: and it's it's very calm, and especially if I summarize
Speaker 1: it like that, a lot of people could could say
Speaker 1: that's me. I'm in that. And we've talked about this
Speaker 1: because it seems like a lot on this podcast. God's Will,
Speaker 1: God's plan? What is it? Do I need to wait
Speaker 1: for the clouds to start creating letters? Do I need
Speaker 1: a cardinal to fly up to my window with a
Speaker 1: little yellow string in its mouth, and I realize, oh, yeah, yell,
Speaker 1: I remember that podcast where people were seeing things in
Speaker 1: the clouds like they were shaped like words. Yeah, that's right. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And whenever I get to talk to somebody who's at
Speaker 1: a crossroads or is considering whether it's a change in
Speaker 1: occupation or maybe it's the same occupation but they have
Speaker 1: a new opportunity within that field, you know, some things
Speaker 1: to consider would be are you are you considering this
Speaker 1: because you're you're wanting to escape something else, So there's
Speaker 1: something bad that you want to get out of, and
Speaker 1: so you're not necessarily drawn to something else you just
Speaker 1: want to escape, Or are you going towards something else
Speaker 1: because there's some clear indication that that's a desire you
Speaker 1: want to go to that there's nothing necessarily bad about
Speaker 1: what you're in, but there's something great about the potential
Speaker 1: of something else. And so it sounds like there's maybe
Speaker 1: not something bad about returning to what she had, but
Speaker 1: she's just like, maybe that ship is sailed, maybe I
Speaker 1: don't want to do that anymore. And so I think,
Speaker 1: sifting through some of those things, what's the true motivation
Speaker 1: for any kind of movement on this is it running
Speaker 1: from something or running to something. I think is always
Speaker 1: something to consider. I love that twenty twenty thirty January.
Speaker 1: That's a long time. So that's good for you. You You
Speaker 1: don't have to make this decision before spring, you know.
Speaker 1: So it sounds like she's probably getting insurance money, right,
Speaker 1: it sounds like it. Yeah, for a year, you're in
Speaker 1: a really good spot. And now a lot can change
Speaker 1: in these twelve months through a lot of prayer, a
Speaker 1: lot of time spent in the Word, and and and
Speaker 1: just asking God reveal your will to me. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: knowing that it's paganism to think he's actually going to
Speaker 1: write it in the sky. He's not going to write
Speaker 1: it in the sky. He's going to do it by
Speaker 1: giving you the desires of your heart. It's it's so
Speaker 1: often misunderstood how simple that is. But but if we're
Speaker 1: if we're in prayer and we're in the Word, then
Speaker 1: he gives us the desires of our heart. I mean,
Speaker 1: not if it's fleshly in sin. You'll know the difference.
Speaker 1: You'll be able to discern that, but you'll you'll go. Man,
Speaker 1: just all of a sudden, I feel really drawn to teaching.
Speaker 1: I really want to teach and I really don't really
Speaker 1: care about physical therapy anymore. That's the desire of your
Speaker 1: heart that I'm talking about. That's God. God could diminish
Speaker 1: some passions and raise others. And you go, and so
Speaker 1: what do you do at that point? You go one
Speaker 1: step at a time. You go, I guess I'll get
Speaker 1: my teaching certificate or I'll make I'll shoot an email
Speaker 1: off to art the process of my teaching certificate and
Speaker 1: see if there's any huge roadblocks in that and if
Speaker 1: and if someone goes, actually we have an extra opening,
Speaker 1: and you go in and then you go, I love this,
Speaker 1: and then you and then someone says the Junior highs
Speaker 1: hiring a seventh grade teacher. You'll see things like this
Speaker 1: start to happen. And in the good news for you,
Speaker 1: as you you have twelve months. No, that's the greatest
Speaker 1: gift right now that she has time to explore what
Speaker 1: passions she has that can become a paycheck. Right that
Speaker 1: there are ways in which you can go, I'm passionate
Speaker 1: about this and passion and just make a list and
Speaker 1: then start going, Okay, in these fields, are there occupations
Speaker 1: that kind of line up with passions like this that
Speaker 1: I either have opportunity for or man, I've never even
Speaker 1: thought about that, I'd like to give it and can
Speaker 1: you can you try it out, like, for instance, if
Speaker 1: it's a teaching situation and you can oftentimes go to
Speaker 1: a school, you can sign up to be a sub
Speaker 1: and you can go. I don't have to sign a
Speaker 1: full contract for the next twelve months. I could sub
Speaker 1: every once in a while, or yeah I want to coach,
Speaker 1: yeah something, or who knows what it is, but I
Speaker 1: love it. I'm guessing if you're in the field of
Speaker 1: serving people this way and wanting to help people through
Speaker 1: the route of physical therapy, that you're probably wired to
Speaker 1: serve and help and you want to see people flourish,
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Speaker 1: We like to call it the Grangersmith Podcast two point zero, Yeah,
Speaker 1: or the the Grandchild like you're it's. Yeah, it's related
Speaker 1: to your podcast, but it's deeper. It's it's it's deeper
Speaker 1: into the word. And so the format is actually getting
Speaker 1: into a block of scripture, reading it slowly and discussing
Speaker 1: it without notes, without any kind of reference and no preparation,
Speaker 1: no preparation, and as an example of what we could
Speaker 1: all do on our own. Yes, that's the goal. The
Speaker 1: goal is to get more and more people comfortable approaching
Speaker 1: their Bible and to get them in it to take
Speaker 1: and read the Bible for themselves. And so we go
Speaker 1: through a very simple kind of format of taking it,
Speaker 1: reading the passage, trying to figure out what it says.
Speaker 1: We try to figure out what it means, and then
Speaker 1: what do we do about it? Very simple approach, and
Speaker 1: it is it's live. It's no prep. I a couple
Speaker 1: episodes ago, I had a guest on and they asked
Speaker 1: me a question that I did not anticipate and I
Speaker 1: had made. I was like, I think it was at
Speaker 1: the Calling of the Disciples, and I'm looking at this
Speaker 1: the passage in Mark and we're looking at it and
Speaker 1: it's identifying Levi, and I was like, well, also known
Speaker 1: as Matthew. And Kurt, who was my guest at the time,
Speaker 1: he goes, how do you know that? And I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: everyone knows that. He goes, yeah, it doesn't say here.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, all right, and so now I'm
Speaker 1: starting to sweat and I'm like okay. So I start
Speaker 1: flipping and I go back in and I find it
Speaker 1: in the gosp well Matthew the references Levi is also Matthew.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I mean, it's live. It's like
Speaker 1: stuff the pastor so it is. It's a lot of fun,
Speaker 1: and uh yeah, take and read podcast. You guys, check
Speaker 1: it out, and we're gonna get you back on there.
Speaker 1: I'll be back on back on there soon. Now that
Speaker 1: you've come out of the woods with your fuzzy face
Speaker 1: and like John the Baptist over here, just not eating locust. Okay,
Speaker 1: speaking of let's go to this. One subject line is
Speaker 1: fear of leaving the Catholic Faith. I don't know that
Speaker 1: well why that was speaking of John the Baptist, but
Speaker 1: it's an interesting Yeah, the religious traditions, yes, very age. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: it says, Hey Granger, please leave me anonymous. I'm a
Speaker 1: huge fan of your music, Thank you very much. The
Speaker 1: last six years of my life I had a pretty
Speaker 1: rockery rocky relationship with God and my faith. I grew
Speaker 1: up in a Catholic church. I was baptized, went to
Speaker 1: CCD every week, church every Sunday, volunteered, did readings, etc.
Speaker 1: Once college hit, I stopped going to church altogether. I
Speaker 1: never prayed, never read the Bible except when I was
Speaker 1: asking for help. I started questioning a lot, mostly question
Speaker 1: the long term values and traditions the Catholic Faith holds.
Speaker 1: I found there's a lot of things I didn't agree with. Fortunately,
Speaker 1: this past year I found my way back to God
Speaker 1: slowly but surely, attended Mass every Sunday, and I truly
Speaker 1: feel a sense of calm in my life. However, I
Speaker 1: still find myself questioning the Catholic faith and grew up
Speaker 1: knowing that it was wrong to leave the Catholic Church.
Speaker 1: But to me, if I believe in our One God
Speaker 1: and put my faith in him, I don't think it
Speaker 1: should matter what denomination I identify with or what church
Speaker 1: I choose to go to on Sundays. I'm not sure
Speaker 1: what to do if I leave the Catholic Church for
Speaker 1: another branch of religion. I feel like I'm turning my
Speaker 1: back on at least twenty four years of my life.
Speaker 1: I also feel like part of me doesn't want to leave.
Speaker 1: It's important to me to be a Catholic because of
Speaker 1: my family. It's important to me to be a Catholic
Speaker 1: since it's where I grew up. And I feel like
Speaker 1: a hypocrite staying with a religion where there are certain
Speaker 1: things I don't necessarily agree with. Is it wrong for
Speaker 1: me to continue with the Catholic faith? Is it silly
Speaker 1: to fear leaving? Any advice would be appreciated. This is
Speaker 1: coming from Cassie. Yeah, great question, Cassie. I'm so glad
Speaker 1: you asked it. I want to kind of dig into
Speaker 1: this piece by piece. First of all, acknowledging your good
Speaker 1: question and acknowledging your sensitivity to it. And I'm not
Speaker 1: I've never been a Catholic, but I've been around a
Speaker 1: lot of them. I've been very good friends with a
Speaker 1: lot of them, and I know that just like being Jewish,
Speaker 1: in a lot of ways, Catholicism could become a heritage
Speaker 1: for you and your family. It becomes a a tradition,
Speaker 1: a heritage in your lineage. It's like you feel like, well,
Speaker 1: why are you a Catholic because my granddad was and
Speaker 1: the granddad before him, and that's that's why I am.
Speaker 1: And you and I both know that that's not that's
Speaker 1: not the answer of why you would you would go
Speaker 1: to church every Sunday. It's because your granddad went to
Speaker 1: that church. So I do want to say that there
Speaker 1: is this component that you don't have to disconnect with
Speaker 1: your family and your heritage of being a Catholic. But
Speaker 1: it's going to come down to how you practice. Because
Speaker 1: here comes the emails already to me. But here's a thing.
Speaker 1: I believe that your your discernment and your your questions
Speaker 1: are valid and what you're wondering because it because if
Speaker 1: you are reading the Bible and you're seeing certain things
Speaker 1: that aren't practiced in that way. You're wondering why it
Speaker 1: happens that way, and that's you're wrestling with that, and
Speaker 1: I understand it. Yeah, I think what you're hitting on
Speaker 1: is there's a couple of points of tension. Right. There's
Speaker 1: the the family and kind of tradition and the familiarity
Speaker 1: with Catholicism that you have since that's what you grew
Speaker 1: up in, that's what your your family and your your
Speaker 1: network of support. That's the world that they're from and
Speaker 1: the worldview they're from. And now you're also wrestling with
Speaker 1: but there are some things that you are now identifying
Speaker 1: biblically that you go, that's not right, that's not And
Speaker 1: so now there's this sense of allegiance, like, well, do
Speaker 1: I maintain this allegiance to family and tradition and familiarity,
Speaker 1: or I've got this tension because I want to be
Speaker 1: I want my allegiance to be to the truth. And
Speaker 1: so we don't want to minimize that because that is
Speaker 1: a real tension. However, you have to be beholden to
Speaker 1: the word of God alone, and you are going to
Speaker 1: stand before the Lord and you're gonna give account for
Speaker 1: what you know and what you did with what you know.
Speaker 1: That's something that's true for all believers and all people.
Speaker 1: And so although that tension exists, don't minimize the sense
Speaker 1: of wrestling with that and following. What the Lord is
Speaker 1: doing is he reveals things to you in his word,
Speaker 1: because he's intentionally showing you things. And so there's a
Speaker 1: reason why I'm not a Catholic. My dad's side of
Speaker 1: the family was all Catholic and my grandmother, my dad's mom,
Speaker 1: absolute devout Catholic. She was one hundred percent born again,
Speaker 1: absolutely know that she loved Jesus and she trusted it
Speaker 1: to him alone. But she was also a very development
Speaker 1: So I would say this that just because somebody is
Speaker 1: Catholic doesn't mean they cannot be born again. But I
Speaker 1: would say there are certain doctrinal things that I think
Speaker 1: are contrary to the scriptures, and so you have to
Speaker 1: be mindful of that. And if you're somebody who is
Speaker 1: aware of those things, you can't just turn a blind
Speaker 1: eye to it. And so you're going to have to
Speaker 1: determine where your allegiance is. Yeah, that's so good. Go
Speaker 1: read a biography on Martin Luther and you'll see the
Speaker 1: similarities in your thoughts and what he started thinking and
Speaker 1: what he started thinking as because back then in the
Speaker 1: fourteen hundreds, not everyone had access to a Bible. In fact,
Speaker 1: very few had access to a Bible at all, the
Speaker 1: pure word of God that was only heard read aloud
Speaker 1: in the church. And so as guys like Martin Luther
Speaker 1: started up in the church and reading the Bible for themselves,
Speaker 1: it wasn't just him. People started seeing things and questioning
Speaker 1: if that is what we're hearing in church, or if
Speaker 1: that's what we're actually practicing in church. And it's a
Speaker 1: fascinating historical story. Regardless of your faith, it is fascinating
Speaker 1: in human history to read about Martin Luther and what
Speaker 1: happened to him, and then what the ripple effect that
Speaker 1: had on us today because of what he saw, the
Speaker 1: differences in what he was reading and what he was hearing.
Speaker 1: I want to address one more thing here, Cassie. You said,
Speaker 1: I feel like I would be turning my back on
Speaker 1: the last twenty four years of my life. This is
Speaker 1: such a microcosm of so many people's thoughts about anything
Speaker 1: in life, and I want to I just want to
Speaker 1: encourage you and say that when you're seeking the truth.
Speaker 1: When you're finding something that's real and that's a new
Speaker 1: passion or something that's grounded in truth, it's never a
Speaker 1: waste up until that point. And that doesn't matter if
Speaker 1: you're You could hear this in relationships like I've been
Speaker 1: in this bad relationship for three and a half years,
Speaker 1: this abusive relationship, but I feel like if I get out,
Speaker 1: I'm just wasted three and a half years of my life.
Speaker 1: It's never a waste. You just came to the understanding
Speaker 1: a little bit later and you're better for it, So
Speaker 1: you're now better for those twenty four years. It's never
Speaker 1: a waste. So we can never walk through life ever
Speaker 1: and think I hate this job, but I sure can't
Speaker 1: quit it because I've been here fifteen years and that
Speaker 1: would be a waste. No, it's not a waste. It
Speaker 1: was the perfect time for you to come to the
Speaker 1: realization that you needed to get out. Same thing here.
Speaker 1: That's what these twenty four years are. That is a
Speaker 1: relevant to your question if that's a waste or not,
Speaker 1: because you're talking about your eternal life here. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: I think it's if you read like you're talking about grandeur.
Speaker 1: If you go back and look at history. The Catholic
Speaker 1: Church is a part of every Christian today. It's a
Speaker 1: part of your history, it's a part of our heritage.
Speaker 1: That there were things that occurred because God used and
Speaker 1: worked through the Catholic Church throughout history. But there was
Speaker 1: a turning point and Martin Luther played a huge role
Speaker 1: in that, along with others like John Huss and John
Speaker 1: Knox and William Tindale and others that came to that
Speaker 1: point of tension where they could no longer just turn
Speaker 1: away from what they could see in the scriptures versus
Speaker 1: what was happening in their tradition and so fascinating, Cassie,
Speaker 1: great question, and yeah, I'm so glad you emailed it.
Speaker 1: Would you say it's been a waste of your adult
Speaker 1: life that you haven't grown a beard until this time? Yes,
Speaker 1: I feel like I've wasted my life. Terrible comment below.
Speaker 1: We don't call it and say comment below if you're
Speaker 1: like more Beard from Granger more Beard, I've secretly been
Speaker 1: taking little pieces of it off. Let's go to this
Speaker 1: young man needing some advice. Hey, Graindred like to remain anonymous.
Speaker 1: We've had a lot of anonymous today, like three Yeah,
Speaker 1: I like on that last one she called out anonymous
Speaker 1: and then you said her name at the end. Is
Speaker 1: that did she sign it? Oh? Man, I'm sorry, I'm
Speaker 1: so bad at that. I love it. Okay, guys, if
Speaker 1: you put anonymous, just don't put your name at all.
Speaker 1: That good call, says hey, grangered like to remain anonymous. Yes,
Speaker 1: I listened to your podcast on the way home from
Speaker 1: work every morning that a new one is available, and
Speaker 1: I love it. Just looking for some advice from you.
Speaker 1: I'm nineteen years old, I have a state job, and
Speaker 1: I'm genuinely happy where I am in my life at
Speaker 1: my age, except for one thing. I've never been in
Speaker 1: a relationship, and I don't know what to do. I've
Speaker 1: talked to many girls, but none seem to get past
Speaker 1: that stage. All my buddi seem to be in happy relationships.
Speaker 1: I have no idea where even to start. How can
Speaker 1: I find someone to build my life with? So it
Speaker 1: seems like he's pretty content. And if you were here
Speaker 1: and we were at the campfire, I would ask some
Speaker 1: questions like well, do you do you want companionship? Like
Speaker 1: what's your what do you want in a relationship? Like
Speaker 1: what why? Now you look around and you see other
Speaker 1: people having great relationships, so you're just kind of feel
Speaker 1: like you missing you're missing something, uh or are is
Speaker 1: there have there been ladies that have really stuck out
Speaker 1: and you've wanted to kind of pursue relationship and it's
Speaker 1: something that man, they didn't check all the boxes, or
Speaker 1: maybe you didn't check the boxes. There's so many yeah, questions,
Speaker 1: and it's not that odd that you're nineteen and you've
Speaker 1: never been in a relationship. That's not that crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that, Uh, I think there's a lot of people,
Speaker 1: maybe they wouldn't want to admit it. There's a lot
Speaker 1: of people that that's that's a healthy thing. You're still
Speaker 1: a teen at the end of it, and you haven't
Speaker 1: been in a relationship. Hey, good on you in a
Speaker 1: lot of ways. You you've skipped a lot of bad stuff,
Speaker 1: as you've heard me read on these podcasts. You've gotten
Speaker 1: to skip a lot of a lot of rough breakups
Speaker 1: and misunderstandings and awkwardness, and and you've you've got to
Speaker 1: put pour all your time into your friends and hobbies.
Speaker 1: So no, no guy, no older man is looking at you, going, man,
Speaker 1: what's wrong with you? We're looking at you going Hey,
Speaker 1: good on you man. What what hobbies? Hey? You save
Speaker 1: some money? Yeah, you save some money. You've gotten to
Speaker 1: fish a little bit more than most people have. Your
Speaker 1: Valentine's days have been great. Yeah, you're like, what's the
Speaker 1: big deal? Seriously, you're not in a bad spot. But
Speaker 1: I'm know that when you look out you see other
Speaker 1: people and you just think, must be nice. What's it
Speaker 1: like I? And and part of you that that's that
Speaker 1: is the human in you. That's the human that that is,
Speaker 1: you know, just the caveman part of you is looking
Speaker 1: for a mate, you know, and so that's that's what
Speaker 1: is accessing you right now. Is this this caveman piece
Speaker 1: of you that's that's just in you. It's it's inherently
Speaker 1: in you that one day I get breeding age and
Speaker 1: I find mate, and so that's a good thing. That's
Speaker 1: the call of the wild, you know, calling from within
Speaker 1: you saying it's about time. It's about time to be looking.
Speaker 1: So don't ignore that, don't suppress that. But uh, you know,
Speaker 1: Chad said the right word at the very beginning. It's
Speaker 1: it's it's all about you being content and it sounds
Speaker 1: like you are. And if you're if you're content where
Speaker 1: you are right now and you have this great state job,
Speaker 1: and you're you're you're happy where you are, You're life,
Speaker 1: you say, and you've now you've got this call the
Speaker 1: wild kind of you know, brushing over you, saying it's
Speaker 1: time to find a mate. Hey, but there's no rush.
Speaker 1: You're in it. You're in a really good spot. And
Speaker 1: I would just I would encourage you to to continue
Speaker 1: to cultivate that that gratitude and that contentment inside yourself,
Speaker 1: and that is going to be so attractive to someone
Speaker 1: because as soon as you start getting out and looking
Speaker 1: and becoming desperate and trying to say the right words
Speaker 1: and not mumble through a conversation, you just it just
Speaker 1: turns people off. Yeah, I think that's a good word content.
Speaker 1: Let's go to man that this one's called I Messed Up?
Speaker 1: What could this be about? Hey, grade, your name is Tyler.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty one. I'm from New York. Long story short,
Speaker 1: I've always been able to get the girl, but I
Speaker 1: always lose them. So so there you go to the
Speaker 1: last person. Until now, I've never really felt heartbreak, but
Speaker 1: I met this girl who totally flipped my world upside down.
Speaker 1: We agree to take it slow because she struggles to
Speaker 1: open up. We got talking about life and being together,
Speaker 1: and I got scared that we were not officially dating
Speaker 1: and that maybe she didn't like me at all. I
Speaker 1: brought this up to her and the totally wrong way
Speaker 1: by calling her out. We were best friends. Now it's
Speaker 1: been for four months and I go to college and
Speaker 1: I can't get over her. There's so many things that
Speaker 1: remind me of her. We've always felt like we were
Speaker 1: made for each other. I just don't know how to
Speaker 1: move on or even if that's the right move at all.
Speaker 1: I just don't know. I don't want to be another
Speaker 1: heartbreak story. This feels so different. So my question is
Speaker 1: to you. So my question for you is do you
Speaker 1: think we have one? Okay, let me try to say
Speaker 1: this right. My question is do you think there's one
Speaker 1: person for each of us? I think that's what you're
Speaker 1: trying to say. Do you think there's one person out
Speaker 1: there for each of us? And what you we do? Okay, Uh,
Speaker 1: walk work through this. First of all, No, I don't
Speaker 1: think there's one person for each of us. I think
Speaker 1: that is in the movie Cinderella. I think that is
Speaker 1: a total fairy tale that has been made up by
Speaker 1: Disney and different in the notebook, you know, like I think,
Speaker 1: I think it's humans. Well there's seven there's three and
Speaker 1: a half billion girls and three and a half billion
Speaker 1: of guys, and and just do the math. I think
Speaker 1: you could find one that you're physically attracted to and
Speaker 1: mentally attracted to, and then after that you make it
Speaker 1: work and we decide, we decide that this is this
Speaker 1: is the relationship I want to be in. And so
Speaker 1: I know that is the most unromantic way to say
Speaker 1: that ever, but I believe it's that's just the truth.
Speaker 1: And and you you lost this one, and you think,
Speaker 1: is there a chance that that was the only one
Speaker 1: created for you? And the answer is no, it's not.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of them. And listen to any old man,
Speaker 1: he's gonna say there's a lot of fish in the sea.
Speaker 1: That's why they say it. They've lived, They've lived long
Speaker 1: enough to see it. You see this with people that
Speaker 1: with a widow that loses a spouse, and the spouse
Speaker 1: was their whole world. And I just met a couple
Speaker 1: like this recently. It was their whole world and they
Speaker 1: were just the widow was crushed and then years go by,
Speaker 1: and then you meet somebody and they have a similar story,
Speaker 1: and then you come together and you bond in that way,
Speaker 1: and then you fall in love again and it doesn't
Speaker 1: ever replace the other person. It's different, But it's just
Speaker 1: a small example of we're resilient creatures and we could
Speaker 1: we could rebound, and we could rework and find somebody else. Man,
Speaker 1: you say the this is not just another heartbreak story.
Speaker 1: This feels different. That's just because you're in it. And
Speaker 1: I don't want to minimize that. I don't want to
Speaker 1: minimize everything you've said, because this sounds terrible. You know,
Speaker 1: you're you're not eating and you're not sleeping, and you're
Speaker 1: just thinking about her and you're going over in your
Speaker 1: mind what you said to her, and you said it
Speaker 1: the wrong way and you went and none of that
Speaker 1: is relevant because this is just what happened. And you
Speaker 1: can't go back on what you said because she didn't
Speaker 1: want to be with you and it didn't matter if
Speaker 1: you worded it differently. But somebody out there does want
Speaker 1: to be with you. Yeah, that's the beauty of this story.
Speaker 1: And ultimately, and I read these stories all the time
Speaker 1: on this podcast, But ultimately, you're just in the valley
Speaker 1: right now. You haven't come out yet. You're just you're
Speaker 1: four months in and that's like the time you see that.
Speaker 1: There's like this window between two and eight months and
Speaker 1: when you're in that valley, give it a year, give
Speaker 1: it a year. Yeah, but right now you just can't
Speaker 1: see out of this valley that you're in. But just
Speaker 1: keep walking one foot in front of the other and
Speaker 1: uh and and you're asking if you should move on? Yes,
Speaker 1: yeah you should. Yeah, there isn't just one. You didn't
Speaker 1: mess up your life for good, and you just now
Speaker 1: have to walk this this world and this earth alone.
Speaker 1: Like that's not that's not how it works. You need
Speaker 1: to go through this process of your morning and you're
Speaker 1: you're in regret and you're in pain, and and then
Speaker 1: you're gonna move on, And the sun's gonna come out tomorrow. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's gonna continue to The sun's going to rise
Speaker 1: the next day and the next day, and eventually you'll
Speaker 1: get your appetite back and eventually instead of replaying it
Speaker 1: every hour, maybe it'll just be a couple times a
Speaker 1: day and then you'll move on. And like we said
Speaker 1: to an earlier caller, it's not a waste that you're
Speaker 1: learning a lot about yourself. Uh this can you know,
Speaker 1: this can be an opportunity where you you really kind
Speaker 1: of lean into other friendships and and develop those that
Speaker 1: you know, other connections and yeah, he mentions, this is
Speaker 1: my I've never really felt heartbreak. Well, so so great.
Speaker 1: You have this in your tool shed. Now you have
Speaker 1: this pain, and this pain will work for you one day,
Speaker 1: because one day, when you find your future wife, you're
Speaker 1: gonna you're gonna butt heads one day and you're gonna
Speaker 1: fill this tension and you'll be able to access the
Speaker 1: memory of this heartbreak long ago, and you'll you could
Speaker 1: you could use that memory for your benefit in that
Speaker 1: situation with your your wife, because you can go, oh,
Speaker 1: I remember the pain of losing a girl a long
Speaker 1: time ago, and and that girl is nothing compared to
Speaker 1: my wife. So I want to do everything I can
Speaker 1: to avoid that injury again. And that's what humans do
Speaker 1: with any injury. You touch fire one time as a toddler,
Speaker 1: and you don't touch it again because your memory accesses
Speaker 1: that pain and goes, oh, I don't want to touch
Speaker 1: the fire. That's what happened to me, burned me and
Speaker 1: so this is something that's gonna work for you. It's
Speaker 1: hard to see right now because you still have the
Speaker 1: bandage on. But another thing we got to say too
Speaker 1: is don't jump into a new relationship right now until
Speaker 1: you're healed. Yeah, you're gonna know when you're healed, because
Speaker 1: you're gonna wake up one morning and go, I think
Speaker 1: I'm ready for breakfast. Tough, I actually feel better. You'll
Speaker 1: know when you're healed, and then you're ready to talk
Speaker 1: to another girl. But don't do it now because you're
Speaker 1: damaged goods and this process of heartbreak, Like Ranger said that,
Speaker 1: the more you can just process through it, and unfortunately
Speaker 1: you just have to feel. You have to feel it
Speaker 1: all the way. But you're gonna be able to comfort
Speaker 1: others after you emerge out of this that when they
Speaker 1: go through heartbreak, and someday you may have a son
Speaker 1: or a daughter that has to go through heartbreak and
Speaker 1: you're gonna be able to walk with them, to empathize
Speaker 1: and to counsel them through that and just be a
Speaker 1: support to them. So it's not fun, no doubt. There's
Speaker 1: nothing that hurts quite like a broken heart. It's crazy
Speaker 1: and you can't you can't see it on an X ray.
Speaker 1: You can't put a band aid or a cast on it.
Speaker 1: But it hurts like a broken bone. And you're in
Speaker 1: the valley. Anytime someone's in the valley, I always love
Speaker 1: to say, read Psalm twenty three and and feel feel
Speaker 1: the peace and the comfort in that block of scripture,
Speaker 1: and feel that humility and feel the the ultimate surrender.
Speaker 1: You didn't mention anything about faith, but go find it.
Speaker 1: Go google it. That's the great thing. Now you just
Speaker 1: google Psalm twenty three, do it and just read it
Speaker 1: to yourself and feel the comfort in those words. Time
Speaker 1: will go by, the sun will come up, like Chad said,
Speaker 1: and you will heal. Everyone does. Everyone heals from heartbreak. Yep,
Speaker 1: that's all the time we have. That was fun, bro,
Speaker 1: It's good to be back. Good to see you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: my Montana country boy. Yeah, come and join us on
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