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Speaker 1: and so run with that passion if that's what it is,

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Speaker 1: and figure out what opportunities are around you. Love it.

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Speaker 1: We'll take a break for you right back. This podcast

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Speaker 1: Read podcast himself. Yeah, buddy man, it's an awesome podcast.

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Speaker 1: We like to call it the Grangersmith Podcast two point zero, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: or the the Grandchild like you're it's. Yeah, it's related

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Speaker 1: to your podcast, but it's deeper. It's it's it's deeper

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Speaker 1: And I was like, I mean, it's live. It's like

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Speaker 1: and uh yeah, take and read podcast. You guys, check

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Speaker 1: it out, and we're gonna get you back on there.

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Speaker 1: speaking of let's go to this. One subject line is

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Speaker 1: fear of leaving the Catholic Faith. I don't know that

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Speaker 1: well why that was speaking of John the Baptist, but

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Speaker 1: it says, Hey Granger, please leave me anonymous. I'm a

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Speaker 1: huge fan of your music, Thank you very much. The

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Speaker 1: last six years of my life I had a pretty

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Speaker 1: rockery rocky relationship with God and my faith. I grew

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Speaker 1: up in a Catholic church. I was baptized, went to

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Speaker 1: asking for help. I started questioning a lot, mostly question

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Speaker 1: the long term values and traditions the Catholic Faith holds.

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Speaker 1: this past year I found my way back to God

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Speaker 1: slowly but surely, attended Mass every Sunday, and I truly

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Speaker 1: feel a sense of calm in my life. However, I

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Speaker 1: still find myself questioning the Catholic faith and grew up

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Speaker 1: knowing that it was wrong to leave the Catholic Church.

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Speaker 1: But to me, if I believe in our One God

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Speaker 1: and put my faith in him, I don't think it

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Speaker 1: should matter what denomination I identify with or what church

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Speaker 1: I choose to go to on Sundays. I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: what to do if I leave the Catholic Church for

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Speaker 1: another branch of religion. I feel like I'm turning my

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Speaker 1: back on at least twenty four years of my life.

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Speaker 1: I also feel like part of me doesn't want to leave.

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Speaker 1: It's important to me to be a Catholic because of

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Speaker 1: my family. It's important to me to be a Catholic

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Speaker 1: since it's where I grew up. And I feel like

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Speaker 1: a hypocrite staying with a religion where there are certain

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Speaker 1: things I don't necessarily agree with. Is it wrong for

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Speaker 1: me to continue with the Catholic faith? Is it silly

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Speaker 1: to fear leaving? Any advice would be appreciated. This is

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Speaker 1: coming from Cassie. Yeah, great question, Cassie. I'm so glad

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Speaker 1: question and acknowledging your sensitivity to it. And I'm not

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Speaker 1: I've never been a Catholic, but I've been around a

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Speaker 1: lot of them. I've been very good friends with a

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Speaker 1: lot of them, and I know that just like being Jewish,

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Speaker 1: in a lot of ways, Catholicism could become a heritage

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Speaker 1: for you and your family. It becomes a a tradition,

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Speaker 1: a heritage in your lineage. It's like you feel like, well,

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Speaker 1: why are you a Catholic because my granddad was and

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Speaker 1: the granddad before him, and that's that's why I am.

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Speaker 1: And you and I both know that that's not that's

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Speaker 1: not the answer of why you would you would go

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Speaker 1: to church every Sunday. It's because your granddad went to

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Speaker 1: that church. So I do want to say that there

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Speaker 1: is this component that you don't have to disconnect with

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Speaker 1: your family and your heritage of being a Catholic. But

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Speaker 1: it's going to come down to how you practice. Because

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Speaker 1: here comes the emails already to me. But here's a thing.

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Speaker 1: I believe that your your discernment and your your questions

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Speaker 1: are valid and what you're wondering because it because if

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Speaker 1: that aren't practiced in that way. You're wondering why it

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Speaker 1: I understand it. Yeah, I think what you're hitting on

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Speaker 1: network of support. That's the world that they're from and

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Speaker 1: the worldview they're from. And now you're also wrestling with

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Speaker 1: so now there's this sense of allegiance, like, well, do

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Speaker 1: I want my allegiance to be to the truth. And

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Speaker 1: so we don't want to minimize that because that is

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Speaker 1: a real tension. However, you have to be beholden to

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Speaker 1: the word of God alone, and you are going to

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Speaker 1: stand before the Lord and you're gonna give account for

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Speaker 1: what you know and what you did with what you know.

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Speaker 1: That's something that's true for all believers and all people.

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Speaker 1: And so although that tension exists, don't minimize the sense

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Speaker 1: of wrestling with that and following. What the Lord is

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Speaker 1: doing is he reveals things to you in his word,

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Speaker 1: because he's intentionally showing you things. And so there's a

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Speaker 1: reason why I'm not a Catholic. My dad's side of

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Speaker 1: the family was all Catholic and my grandmother, my dad's mom,

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Speaker 1: absolute devout Catholic. She was one hundred percent born again,

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Speaker 1: absolutely know that she loved Jesus and she trusted it

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Speaker 1: to him alone. But she was also a very development

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Speaker 1: So I would say this that just because somebody is

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Speaker 1: Catholic doesn't mean they cannot be born again. But I

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Speaker 1: would say there are certain doctrinal things that I think

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Speaker 1: be mindful of that. And if you're somebody who is

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Speaker 1: aware of those things, you can't just turn a blind

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Speaker 1: eye to it. And so you're going to have to

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Speaker 1: determine where your allegiance is. Yeah, that's so good. Go

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Speaker 1: similarities in your thoughts and what he started thinking and

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Speaker 1: pure word of God that was only heard read aloud

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Speaker 1: in the church. And so as guys like Martin Luther

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Speaker 1: started up in the church and reading the Bible for themselves,

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Speaker 1: it wasn't just him. People started seeing things and questioning

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Speaker 1: if that is what we're hearing in church, or if

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Speaker 1: that's what we're actually practicing in church. And it's a

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Speaker 1: fascinating historical story. Regardless of your faith, it is fascinating

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Speaker 1: in human history to read about Martin Luther and what

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Speaker 1: happened to him, and then what the ripple effect that

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Speaker 1: had on us today because of what he saw, the

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Speaker 1: differences in what he was reading and what he was hearing.

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Speaker 1: I want to address one more thing here, Cassie. You said,

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Speaker 1: I feel like I would be turning my back on

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Speaker 1: the last twenty four years of my life. This is

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Speaker 1: such a microcosm of so many people's thoughts about anything

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Speaker 1: in life, and I want to I just want to

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Speaker 1: encourage you and say that when you're seeking the truth.

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Speaker 1: When you're finding something that's real and that's a new

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Speaker 1: passion or something that's grounded in truth, it's never a

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Speaker 1: waste up until that point. And that doesn't matter if

642
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: you're You could hear this in relationships like I've been

643
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:10,600
Speaker 1: in this bad relationship for three and a half years,

644
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 1: this abusive relationship, but I feel like if I get out,

645
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 1: I'm just wasted three and a half years of my life.

646
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:20,799
Speaker 1: It's never a waste. You just came to the understanding

647
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 1: a little bit later and you're better for it, So

648
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:26,399
Speaker 1: you're now better for those twenty four years. It's never

649
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,799
Speaker 1: a waste. So we can never walk through life ever

650
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:33,359
Speaker 1: and think I hate this job, but I sure can't

651
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 1: quit it because I've been here fifteen years and that

652
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 1: would be a waste. No, it's not a waste. It

653
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 1: was the perfect time for you to come to the

654
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:44,399
Speaker 1: realization that you needed to get out. Same thing here.

655
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 1: That's what these twenty four years are. That is a

656
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:49,880
Speaker 1: relevant to your question if that's a waste or not,

657
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:54,400
Speaker 1: because you're talking about your eternal life here. Yeah, And

658
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:58,120
Speaker 1: I think it's if you read like you're talking about grandeur.

659
00:37:58,160 --> 00:38:00,880
Speaker 1: If you go back and look at history. The Catholic

660
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 1: Church is a part of every Christian today. It's a

661
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 1: part of your history, it's a part of our heritage.

662
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:10,880
Speaker 1: That there were things that occurred because God used and

663
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: worked through the Catholic Church throughout history. But there was

664
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 1: a turning point and Martin Luther played a huge role

665
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:20,839
Speaker 1: in that, along with others like John Huss and John

666
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 1: Knox and William Tindale and others that came to that

667
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 1: point of tension where they could no longer just turn

668
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 1: away from what they could see in the scriptures versus

669
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 1: what was happening in their tradition and so fascinating, Cassie,

670
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 1: great question, and yeah, I'm so glad you emailed it.

671
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 1: Would you say it's been a waste of your adult

672
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,919
Speaker 1: life that you haven't grown a beard until this time? Yes,

673
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: I feel like I've wasted my life. Terrible comment below.

674
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 1: We don't call it and say comment below if you're

675
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:06,719
Speaker 1: like more Beard from Granger more Beard, I've secretly been

676
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 1: taking little pieces of it off. Let's go to this

677
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:17,320
Speaker 1: young man needing some advice. Hey, Graindred like to remain anonymous.

678
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 1: We've had a lot of anonymous today, like three Yeah,

679
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 1: I like on that last one she called out anonymous

680
00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: and then you said her name at the end. Is

681
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 1: that did she sign it? Oh? Man, I'm sorry, I'm

682
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:32,839
Speaker 1: so bad at that. I love it. Okay, guys, if

683
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 1: you put anonymous, just don't put your name at all.

684
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:38,840
Speaker 1: That good call, says hey, grangered like to remain anonymous. Yes,

685
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 1: I listened to your podcast on the way home from

686
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 1: work every morning that a new one is available, and

687
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 1: I love it. Just looking for some advice from you.

688
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 1: I'm nineteen years old, I have a state job, and

689
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 1: I'm genuinely happy where I am in my life at

690
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 1: my age, except for one thing. I've never been in

691
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,719
Speaker 1: a relationship, and I don't know what to do. I've

692
00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:59,279
Speaker 1: talked to many girls, but none seem to get past

693
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 1: that stage. All my buddi seem to be in happy relationships.

694
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 1: I have no idea where even to start. How can

695
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:10,400
Speaker 1: I find someone to build my life with? So it

696
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: seems like he's pretty content. And if you were here

697
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 1: and we were at the campfire, I would ask some

698
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:21,719
Speaker 1: questions like well, do you do you want companionship? Like

699
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 1: what's your what do you want in a relationship? Like

700
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:29,399
Speaker 1: what why? Now you look around and you see other

701
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,879
Speaker 1: people having great relationships, so you're just kind of feel

702
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 1: like you missing you're missing something, uh or are is

703
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 1: there have there been ladies that have really stuck out

704
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:43,839
Speaker 1: and you've wanted to kind of pursue relationship and it's

705
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 1: something that man, they didn't check all the boxes, or

706
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 1: maybe you didn't check the boxes. There's so many yeah, questions,

707
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:54,799
Speaker 1: and it's not that odd that you're nineteen and you've

708
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 1: never been in a relationship. That's not that crazy. Yeah,

709
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:02,440
Speaker 1: I think that, Uh, I think there's a lot of people,

710
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 1: maybe they wouldn't want to admit it. There's a lot

711
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:08,520
Speaker 1: of people that that's that's a healthy thing. You're still

712
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 1: a teen at the end of it, and you haven't

713
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:13,880
Speaker 1: been in a relationship. Hey, good on you in a

714
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 1: lot of ways. You you've skipped a lot of bad stuff,

715
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 1: as you've heard me read on these podcasts. You've gotten

716
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 1: to skip a lot of a lot of rough breakups

717
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 1: and misunderstandings and awkwardness, and and you've you've got to

718
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:32,800
Speaker 1: put pour all your time into your friends and hobbies.

719
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:38,600
Speaker 1: So no, no guy, no older man is looking at you, going, man,

720
00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 1: what's wrong with you? We're looking at you going Hey,

721
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:44,640
Speaker 1: good on you man. What what hobbies? Hey? You save

722
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 1: some money? Yeah, you save some money. You've gotten to

723
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,760
Speaker 1: fish a little bit more than most people have. Your

724
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: Valentine's days have been great. Yeah, you're like, what's the

725
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 1: big deal? Seriously, you're not in a bad spot. But

726
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 1: I'm know that when you look out you see other

727
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 1: people and you just think, must be nice. What's it

728
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 1: like I? And and part of you that that's that

729
00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 1: is the human in you. That's the human that that is,

730
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 1: you know, just the caveman part of you is looking

731
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 1: for a mate, you know, and so that's that's what

732
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: is accessing you right now. Is this this caveman piece

733
00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 1: of you that's that's just in you. It's it's inherently

734
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 1: in you that one day I get breeding age and

735
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 1: I find mate, and so that's a good thing. That's

736
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: the call of the wild, you know, calling from within

737
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: you saying it's about time. It's about time to be looking.

738
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:46,160
Speaker 1: So don't ignore that, don't suppress that. But uh, you know,

739
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 1: Chad said the right word at the very beginning. It's

740
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:50,360
Speaker 1: it's it's all about you being content and it sounds

741
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 1: like you are. And if you're if you're content where

742
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 1: you are right now and you have this great state job,

743
00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:00,400
Speaker 1: and you're you're you're happy where you are, You're life,

744
00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 1: you say, and you've now you've got this call the

745
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 1: wild kind of you know, brushing over you, saying it's

746
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 1: time to find a mate. Hey, but there's no rush.

747
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 1: You're in it. You're in a really good spot. And

748
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 1: I would just I would encourage you to to continue

749
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 1: to cultivate that that gratitude and that contentment inside yourself,

750
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 1: and that is going to be so attractive to someone

751
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 1: because as soon as you start getting out and looking

752
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:30,040
Speaker 1: and becoming desperate and trying to say the right words

753
00:43:30,080 --> 00:43:34,239
Speaker 1: and not mumble through a conversation, you just it just

754
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:39,000
Speaker 1: turns people off. Yeah, I think that's a good word content.

755
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: Let's go to man that this one's called I Messed Up?

756
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: What could this be about? Hey, grade, your name is Tyler.

757
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 1: I'm twenty one. I'm from New York. Long story short,

758
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 1: I've always been able to get the girl, but I

759
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 1: always lose them. So so there you go to the

760
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 1: last person. Until now, I've never really felt heartbreak, but

761
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,959
Speaker 1: I met this girl who totally flipped my world upside down.

762
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:08,120
Speaker 1: We agree to take it slow because she struggles to

763
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 1: open up. We got talking about life and being together,

764
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:13,760
Speaker 1: and I got scared that we were not officially dating

765
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: and that maybe she didn't like me at all. I

766
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 1: brought this up to her and the totally wrong way

767
00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: by calling her out. We were best friends. Now it's

768
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:26,520
Speaker 1: been for four months and I go to college and

769
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 1: I can't get over her. There's so many things that

770
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,279
Speaker 1: remind me of her. We've always felt like we were

771
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:33,319
Speaker 1: made for each other. I just don't know how to

772
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 1: move on or even if that's the right move at all.

773
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 1: I just don't know. I don't want to be another

774
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 1: heartbreak story. This feels so different. So my question is

775
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 1: to you. So my question for you is do you

776
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:51,279
Speaker 1: think we have one? Okay, let me try to say

777
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 1: this right. My question is do you think there's one

778
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 1: person for each of us? I think that's what you're

779
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:57,879
Speaker 1: trying to say. Do you think there's one person out

780
00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 1: there for each of us? And what you we do? Okay, Uh,

781
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:09,319
Speaker 1: walk work through this. First of all, No, I don't

782
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:12,359
Speaker 1: think there's one person for each of us. I think

783
00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 1: that is in the movie Cinderella. I think that is

784
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: a total fairy tale that has been made up by

785
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:22,760
Speaker 1: Disney and different in the notebook, you know, like I think,

786
00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:26,279
Speaker 1: I think it's humans. Well there's seven there's three and

787
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:28,360
Speaker 1: a half billion girls and three and a half billion

788
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 1: of guys, and and just do the math. I think

789
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 1: you could find one that you're physically attracted to and

790
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: mentally attracted to, and then after that you make it

791
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:41,359
Speaker 1: work and we decide, we decide that this is this

792
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:43,600
Speaker 1: is the relationship I want to be in. And so

793
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 1: I know that is the most unromantic way to say

794
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:50,720
Speaker 1: that ever, but I believe it's that's just the truth.

795
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:56,560
Speaker 1: And and you you lost this one, and you think,

796
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:58,839
Speaker 1: is there a chance that that was the only one

797
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 1: created for you? And the answer is no, it's not.

798
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,399
Speaker 1: There's a lot of them. And listen to any old man,

799
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: he's gonna say there's a lot of fish in the sea.

800
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 1: That's why they say it. They've lived, They've lived long

801
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:14,279
Speaker 1: enough to see it. You see this with people that

802
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 1: with a widow that loses a spouse, and the spouse

803
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 1: was their whole world. And I just met a couple

804
00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 1: like this recently. It was their whole world and they

805
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 1: were just the widow was crushed and then years go by,

806
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:37,280
Speaker 1: and then you meet somebody and they have a similar story,

807
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 1: and then you come together and you bond in that way,

808
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:44,280
Speaker 1: and then you fall in love again and it doesn't

809
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 1: ever replace the other person. It's different, But it's just

810
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:53,280
Speaker 1: a small example of we're resilient creatures and we could

811
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 1: we could rebound, and we could rework and find somebody else. Man,

812
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:01,720
Speaker 1: you say the this is not just another heartbreak story.

813
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 1: This feels different. That's just because you're in it. And

814
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:08,360
Speaker 1: I don't want to minimize that. I don't want to

815
00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 1: minimize everything you've said, because this sounds terrible. You know,

816
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:14,839
Speaker 1: you're you're not eating and you're not sleeping, and you're

817
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:17,160
Speaker 1: just thinking about her and you're going over in your

818
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 1: mind what you said to her, and you said it

819
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 1: the wrong way and you went and none of that

820
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: is relevant because this is just what happened. And you

821
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 1: can't go back on what you said because she didn't

822
00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:33,839
Speaker 1: want to be with you and it didn't matter if

823
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:37,359
Speaker 1: you worded it differently. But somebody out there does want

824
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 1: to be with you. Yeah, that's the beauty of this story.

825
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:44,640
Speaker 1: And ultimately, and I read these stories all the time

826
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: on this podcast, But ultimately, you're just in the valley

827
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:50,520
Speaker 1: right now. You haven't come out yet. You're just you're

828
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 1: four months in and that's like the time you see that.

829
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 1: There's like this window between two and eight months and

830
00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: when you're in that valley, give it a year, give

831
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:02,120
Speaker 1: it a year. Yeah, but right now you just can't

832
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:05,320
Speaker 1: see out of this valley that you're in. But just

833
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:08,760
Speaker 1: keep walking one foot in front of the other and

834
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: uh and and you're asking if you should move on? Yes,

835
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:15,320
Speaker 1: yeah you should. Yeah, there isn't just one. You didn't

836
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 1: mess up your life for good, and you just now

837
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:21,760
Speaker 1: have to walk this this world and this earth alone.

838
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 1: Like that's not that's not how it works. You need

839
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:27,720
Speaker 1: to go through this process of your morning and you're

840
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:31,560
Speaker 1: you're in regret and you're in pain, and and then

841
00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:35,680
Speaker 1: you're gonna move on, And the sun's gonna come out tomorrow. Yeah,

842
00:48:35,760 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: and it's gonna continue to The sun's going to rise

843
00:48:38,640 --> 00:48:41,879
Speaker 1: the next day and the next day, and eventually you'll

844
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 1: get your appetite back and eventually instead of replaying it

845
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:47,840
Speaker 1: every hour, maybe it'll just be a couple times a

846
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 1: day and then you'll move on. And like we said

847
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,879
Speaker 1: to an earlier caller, it's not a waste that you're

848
00:48:57,000 --> 00:49:02,000
Speaker 1: learning a lot about yourself. Uh this can you know,

849
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 1: this can be an opportunity where you you really kind

850
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:09,719
Speaker 1: of lean into other friendships and and develop those that

851
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 1: you know, other connections and yeah, he mentions, this is

852
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Speaker 1: my I've never really felt heartbreak. Well, so so great.

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00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 1: You have this in your tool shed. Now you have

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00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 1: this pain, and this pain will work for you one day,

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00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:27,640
Speaker 1: because one day, when you find your future wife, you're

856
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,319
Speaker 1: gonna you're gonna butt heads one day and you're gonna

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00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:33,600
Speaker 1: fill this tension and you'll be able to access the

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00:49:33,760 --> 00:49:37,279
Speaker 1: memory of this heartbreak long ago, and you'll you could

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00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:41,560
Speaker 1: you could use that memory for your benefit in that

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00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 1: situation with your your wife, because you can go, oh,

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Speaker 1: I remember the pain of losing a girl a long

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00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: time ago, and and that girl is nothing compared to

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00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 1: my wife. So I want to do everything I can

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00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 1: to avoid that injury again. And that's what humans do

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00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 1: with any injury. You touch fire one time as a toddler,

866
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:03,000
Speaker 1: and you don't touch it again because your memory accesses

867
00:50:03,040 --> 00:50:05,399
Speaker 1: that pain and goes, oh, I don't want to touch

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00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,279
Speaker 1: the fire. That's what happened to me, burned me and

869
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Speaker 1: so this is something that's gonna work for you. It's

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Speaker 1: hard to see right now because you still have the

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00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 1: bandage on. But another thing we got to say too

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00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:19,479
Speaker 1: is don't jump into a new relationship right now until

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Speaker 1: you're healed. Yeah, you're gonna know when you're healed, because

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Speaker 1: you're gonna wake up one morning and go, I think

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00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:29,959
Speaker 1: I'm ready for breakfast. Tough, I actually feel better. You'll

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00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:34,799
Speaker 1: know when you're healed, and then you're ready to talk

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00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 1: to another girl. But don't do it now because you're

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00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:42,239
Speaker 1: damaged goods and this process of heartbreak, Like Ranger said that,

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Speaker 1: the more you can just process through it, and unfortunately

880
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:48,279
Speaker 1: you just have to feel. You have to feel it

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00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:51,240
Speaker 1: all the way. But you're gonna be able to comfort

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00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:54,080
Speaker 1: others after you emerge out of this that when they

883
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Speaker 1: go through heartbreak, and someday you may have a son

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00:50:58,520 --> 00:51:01,920
Speaker 1: or a daughter that has to go through heartbreak and

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00:51:01,960 --> 00:51:04,880
Speaker 1: you're gonna be able to walk with them, to empathize

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00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:07,800
Speaker 1: and to counsel them through that and just be a

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00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:12,439
Speaker 1: support to them. So it's not fun, no doubt. There's

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00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 1: nothing that hurts quite like a broken heart. It's crazy

889
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:18,200
Speaker 1: and you can't you can't see it on an X ray.

890
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:20,839
Speaker 1: You can't put a band aid or a cast on it.

891
00:51:21,560 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 1: But it hurts like a broken bone. And you're in

892
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:28,520
Speaker 1: the valley. Anytime someone's in the valley, I always love

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00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: to say, read Psalm twenty three and and feel feel

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00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:37,160
Speaker 1: the peace and the comfort in that block of scripture,

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00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:43,920
Speaker 1: and feel that humility and feel the the ultimate surrender.

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Speaker 1: You didn't mention anything about faith, but go find it.

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00:51:47,800 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 1: Go google it. That's the great thing. Now you just

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00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:53,480
Speaker 1: google Psalm twenty three, do it and just read it

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Speaker 1: to yourself and feel the comfort in those words. Time

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00:51:58,320 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 1: will go by, the sun will come up, like Chad said,

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00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 1: and you will heal. Everyone does. Everyone heals from heartbreak. Yep,

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Speaker 1: that's all the time we have. That was fun, bro,

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Speaker 1: It's good to be back. Good to see you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: my Montana country boy. Yeah, come and join us on

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Speaker 1: the Taking Rea podcast. We're gonna get granger there. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we'll see you guys. Y. Thanks for joining me on

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