Speaker 1: Hey there, folks, shit is Saturday, November first, Saturday November first,
Speaker 1: aka too damn early to be putting up Christmas decorations.
Speaker 1: And with that, welcome everybody to this episode of Aby
Speaker 1: and TJ Robe. Let's get the let's get the rule right.
Speaker 1: What would you say? Is the general rule? Everybody understands
Speaker 1: when do Christmas decorations go up?
Speaker 2: So my understanding always was after Thanksgiving? Yes, so yes,
Speaker 2: you have your Thanksgiving meal and then the Friday after
Speaker 2: Thanksgiving you were given permission, so to speak, to go
Speaker 2: get your Christmas tree, cut it down, whatever, and start
Speaker 2: decorating for Christmas. But that has changed, dramatic.
Speaker 1: It's changed. Okay, that's the general rule. What has yours been?
Speaker 1: Has that been yours?
Speaker 2: Oh? That's always okay.
Speaker 1: We don't mess with, we don't touch, we don't deal with,
Speaker 1: We don't talk about Christmas.
Speaker 2: Until Thanksgiving is done. So like the day after Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's November first, that we said, and we talk,
Speaker 1: and there are people out there getting Christmas trees, There
Speaker 1: are people out there putting up Christmas decorations. There are
Speaker 1: people out there getting in the Christmas spirit, to which
Speaker 1: you say, what to those people?
Speaker 2: Too soon.
Speaker 1: You think it's too soon.
Speaker 2: Let's enjoy the harvest. So yes, because already I believe
Speaker 2: it started yesterday today I started hearing my first jingle
Speaker 2: bell Christmas commercials and they're like, wait, no, I'm sorry. No.
Speaker 2: Literally the day after Halloween I heard my first Christmas commercial.
Speaker 1: Okay, now, let me ask you what. Okay, you say
Speaker 1: that now, But in the moment when you hear a
Speaker 1: Christmas song, when you hear it, come on, what did
Speaker 1: it make you feel?
Speaker 2: Well? Yes, that's the thing. I don't want to I
Speaker 2: don't want to be too indulgent because wait, because it
Speaker 2: is absolutely a sound that elicits joy and.
Speaker 1: Elier because it feels.
Speaker 2: Too soon, and then you feel like you're being taken advantage.
Speaker 1: Of Oh stop, stop, stop stopping.
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe this is like I'm falling prey
Speaker 2: to the marketing bullshit of the season versus me actually
Speaker 2: just loving this season. And right now, I would say,
Speaker 2: we are in harvest season. So give me your apple picking,
Speaker 2: give me your pumpkin spice latte, give me your Thanksgiving
Speaker 2: corn whatever yet, harvest related anything, I'm all in.
Speaker 1: Are you telling you you're not mad? Okay? I got
Speaker 1: to back up on a few things here. You just
Speaker 1: told me there's something that makes you actually feel good
Speaker 1: and puts you in a good mood and makes you
Speaker 1: feel joyous. Aka Christmas music, Christmas spirit, Christmas tunes. So
Speaker 1: why wouldn't you accept and I'm getting at something because
Speaker 1: that is a part of a lot of research that
Speaker 1: has been done that people do get into a better
Speaker 1: mood earlier. It's not just a Christmas spirit, but it
Speaker 1: puts them in a better mood. Is actually good for
Speaker 1: your health and mental health. Why wouldn't you want that earlier?
Speaker 2: Because it needs to be authentic, and for it to
Speaker 2: be authentic, it has to be at the right time
Speaker 2: of the year. Don't fool me into thinking I'm already
Speaker 2: in Christmas mode when I haven't even had Thanksgiving anticipation.
Speaker 1: We're getting there, We're building up to it. It's not
Speaker 1: like it's may fish.
Speaker 2: If you rush it, it feels forced, and if it
Speaker 2: feels it wors it doesn't feel authentic. And if it
Speaker 2: doesn't feel authentic, then it isn't real to me. Period.
Speaker 1: Wow, it feels like you should drop your mic. It
Speaker 1: felt like that was a moment.
Speaker 2: If I could have, I would have.
Speaker 1: But this is the argument. Now. Obviously we have here
Speaker 1: and there seen some jingle bells. Right even before Halloween
Speaker 1: came around, you see some things here or there. But
Speaker 1: now things are really going to ramp up.
Speaker 2: Oh, it's on now from here on out for Christmas.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you think, Okay, So a big part of it
Speaker 1: for you, that was the other thing. I just actually
Speaker 1: dritted it down here. A big part of it for
Speaker 1: you is not just a matter of being fooled into
Speaker 1: this other season. You think. The earlier you start talking
Speaker 1: about Christmas, you are negating. You're throwing away a whole
Speaker 1: season in the middle.
Speaker 2: You're making it less special. And there is is something
Speaker 2: really authentic and cool about that autumnal Thanksgiving period that
Speaker 2: doesn't have anything to do with Christmas. So we're like
Speaker 2: just throwing that almost like I don't know, under the bed,
Speaker 2: we're sweeping it under the rug, and we're not enjoying it.
Speaker 2: And there's some beauty in that, Like I just think
Speaker 2: about even like from a like what you eat standpoint,
Speaker 2: what you drink standpoint, Like, yes, let's not bring pumpkin
Speaker 2: spice lattes to Starbucks in August. Let's wait until September
Speaker 2: and then let's let them ride until December and then
Speaker 2: we can move over into the peppermint whatever. Like I
Speaker 2: get it, But like I think we try to like
Speaker 2: jump ahead of what is because we're trying to I
Speaker 2: don't know, like somehow get more enjoyment out of the anticipation.
Speaker 2: But then somehow you negate the anticipation or the excitement
Speaker 2: of what act is going to be, and you don't
Speaker 2: you forget to actually enjoy what is. I think we're
Speaker 2: just jumping ahead too quickly in general period.
Speaker 1: I mean when historically for you, your family, when do
Speaker 1: you get a Christmas tree?
Speaker 2: So my mom, this is why I love a real one,
Speaker 2: because my mom always didn't like the messiness and had
Speaker 2: a fake one. But she brought it out and we
Speaker 2: decorated it the weekend after Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1: Say, I brought it out.
Speaker 2: That's my mom had it like perfectly packaged and stored artificial.
Speaker 1: Yes, you grew up on an artificial tree.
Speaker 2: I grew up.
Speaker 1: I did that.
Speaker 2: Doesn't it make so much sense now?
Speaker 1: Holy hell? I did not. Oh wow, I rarely find
Speaker 1: a moment that I learned something about you. I did
Speaker 1: not know that. Holy hell.
Speaker 2: Yes, So it was brought out on the Friday or
Speaker 2: the Saturday after Thanksgiving, and then it was already pre lit,
Speaker 2: so then you would just have to just you know,
Speaker 2: be a part of this kind of quasi ceremonial hanging
Speaker 2: of the ornaments. Yes, that's what we did. How about
Speaker 2: you that.
Speaker 1: I think as a kid, it was always never before Thanksgiving. Ever, ever,
Speaker 1: I don't think we all went out and it was
Speaker 1: a thing to do it the day after, but it
Speaker 1: was never the anytime before. So I think those are
Speaker 1: the traditional times. The majority of people say, yes, you
Speaker 1: should get it that even the day certainly not before Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1: The majority say after Thanksgiving. I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people traditionally do do it the day immediately after. It's
Speaker 1: a fun it.
Speaker 2: Is a fun next step in the tradition of the
Speaker 2: calendar year.
Speaker 1: And then some people wait and say the first of December,
Speaker 1: like December rolls around the first day of that to
Speaker 1: do it. Then all of those I can understand. I
Speaker 1: struggle if anybody here on November first is running out
Speaker 1: and getting a Christmas tree.
Speaker 2: I think there are plenty of people who are doing that.
Speaker 1: You think, so you known anybody who do say we just.
Speaker 2: Went to pottery barn it was two weeks ago. How
Speaker 2: big was the Christmas section when you first watch it
Speaker 2: was the first thing you saw. It was everything. This
Speaker 2: was two full weeks.
Speaker 1: Okay, that was retail. Okay, they're getting ready for the season.
Speaker 1: But do you have you ever known anybody to get
Speaker 1: a Christmas tree before? Thanks here?
Speaker 2: Yes, after Halloween? Yes, there are. There is a contingency
Speaker 2: of folks who get their Christmas trees after Halloween.
Speaker 1: Well, you've known somebody, That's what I'm asking. Yeah, you've known.
Speaker 2: Somebody decorations from Halloween to Christmas. This weekend whenever the
Speaker 2: next weekend is Yes.
Speaker 1: You're still friends with these people.
Speaker 2: They're just really into the seasons.
Speaker 1: Why skip right? Why is what does the decoration look like?
Speaker 1: How about this? Because we have pumpkins here, we write
Speaker 1: we decorated kind of for Halloween ish, but it was
Speaker 1: more autumn. What is the transition from Halloween? If you've
Speaker 1: got ghosts and goblins and spiders and things like that,
Speaker 1: and cobwebs around the house, what is the transition that
Speaker 1: gets you to Christmas?
Speaker 2: I guess you could have pumpkins and evergreens collected together.
Speaker 2: That would look pretty, and you could merge the two
Speaker 2: that way, just the.
Speaker 1: Thought, oh boy, all right, well you might not folks,
Speaker 1: wherever you are, you might not be alone. We there
Speaker 1: is some polling, there are some surveys, There is some
Speaker 1: research that has been done on this matter to help
Speaker 1: us understand just how many folks out there think now
Speaker 1: it's too early. Stay with us, folks will tell you
Speaker 1: how many of you are in that same boat. We'll
Speaker 1: be right back, all right, folks, welcome back. We continue
Speaker 1: with our I guess debate. I guess we're on the
Speaker 1: same page. You're not on the same page right about this?
Speaker 1: When should you decorate for Christmas?
Speaker 2: Absolutely only the day after Thanksgiving? Period? I will not
Speaker 2: actually accept any conversation that says it should be sooner.
Speaker 1: Really, so if I wanted to do so, you take issue.
Speaker 2: I would have a hard time with that. Yes, I
Speaker 2: would say, babe, don't rush something that's so great, like,
Speaker 2: let it be what it is, all right?
Speaker 1: So would you be surprised to hear that about it's
Speaker 1: about fifty to fifty of people who think it's okay
Speaker 1: to decorate before Thanksgiving?
Speaker 2: Yes, I am surprised by that.
Speaker 1: It's okay to decorate before Thanksgiving?
Speaker 2: What if your spouse disagrees with you. How does that
Speaker 2: go over in a household?
Speaker 1: Well, in a healthy relationship, it should be fine because
Speaker 1: I don't think holiday decoration is not going to be
Speaker 1: the thing they get you. And if it is, there's
Speaker 1: another problem.
Speaker 2: You're right, you never argue about what you're actually a part.
Speaker 2: It is about period. Okay, that's fair. It's how you
Speaker 2: handle conflict.
Speaker 1: But you're surprised to hear if that many people are
Speaker 1: actually interested? Are okay with decorating?
Speaker 2: Hi?
Speaker 1: Before thank you?
Speaker 2: Oh my? Yes? Before? Yes? Because Thanksgiving to me is
Speaker 2: as soon as it should begin. A Christmas decorations, yes
Speaker 2: or guess yes, Holli god Christmas?
Speaker 1: Yes, I'll be dawns. Well we have now, folks. A.
Speaker 1: I don't think robes a dilemma in this house necessarily.
Speaker 1: I am the day after, like, I want to make
Speaker 1: an event to actually go find a Christmas tree the
Speaker 1: day after Thanksgiving.
Speaker 2: I like that too.
Speaker 1: Okay, you're on board with that.
Speaker 2: We're in yes, same page.
Speaker 1: If you wanted to do it ahead of time Christmas decorations.
Speaker 1: What if I wanted to go get the Christmas tree
Speaker 1: ahead of time? Would you be opposed to doing so?
Speaker 2: I guess I think just yes, instinctively, yes, but if
Speaker 2: it was really important to you, it would be something
Speaker 2: I could can see it on.
Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, then where are you on the idea that
Speaker 1: it is more so than autumn or Thanksgiving decorations. Putting
Speaker 1: up Christmas decorations actually is a mood booster. It actually
Speaker 1: is something that helps people's energy, their mental health and
Speaker 1: going about their day. It absolutely does, So why not
Speaker 1: why shouldn't we do it as early as possible?
Speaker 2: That's so funny? Obviously, Yes, of course I agree it's
Speaker 2: a mood booster, just like I'm somebody who loves planting
Speaker 2: plants and flowers. Those are mood boosters when you start
Speaker 2: like embracing the season. So I think when you fully
Speaker 2: start bringing the inside out the outside in, you start
Speaker 2: like recognizing. So yes, part of a Christmas tree is
Speaker 2: bringing the outside in. When you are indoors and you
Speaker 2: can't be outside as often, you can bring the nature
Speaker 2: into you. So yes, I'm bracet but I think pushing
Speaker 2: it or forcing it before it's necessary is kind of
Speaker 2: like almost a neediness that I don't love.
Speaker 1: But why you say forcing? Why do you have to
Speaker 1: use the word forcing?
Speaker 2: Because I don't know. I just feel like there's a
Speaker 2: season for things.
Speaker 1: Well, if you can't wait to get to it, you're
Speaker 1: not forcing it. It's just, oh my god, I am
Speaker 1: anticipating this so much that I'm jumping in that weird way.
Speaker 2: I feel like you lessen the impact of it or
Speaker 2: the effectiveness of it, because you're diluting it by making
Speaker 2: it last longer or bringing it sooner, or almost having
Speaker 2: it meet your needs versus you being excited about its existence.
Speaker 2: So if you knew every year on December first, this
Speaker 2: is when the tree came out or whatever, you get
Speaker 2: to anticipate it. But if you were like, I want
Speaker 2: it now, I don't know. There's something about like having
Speaker 2: milestones or moments from a seasonal standpoint almost fit your
Speaker 2: needs versus you anticipating their existence. There might be some
Speaker 2: self reflection necessary, that's all geez tute.
Speaker 1: I'm just maybe I just like Christmas lights. Why do
Speaker 1: I have to go seek out a therapist because you
Speaker 1: don't have an understanding of why I like Christmas lights
Speaker 1: On November the second.
Speaker 2: If you want a room with fairy lights and Christmas lights,
Speaker 2: I am all ears like I do get the joy
Speaker 2: they bring and there is some fun in having rooms
Speaker 2: like that, Like we're about to actually have a room
Speaker 2: with some neon lights, Like, I get it, Like there
Speaker 2: is some fun having certain kinds of lights in rooms.
Speaker 2: Like I get how. I am such a believer in
Speaker 2: your surroundings impacting your mood and your peace and your
Speaker 2: joy and all of that. So, yeah, decorate. Decorating is fun. Yes,
Speaker 2: decorate for every season and like, lean into it wholeheartedly.
Speaker 2: I love that we've done that for fall here in
Speaker 2: our place, and we will do it when winter is
Speaker 2: upon us. And yes, it's fun.
Speaker 1: Something I didn't think about until now is the fact
Speaker 1: that maybe fall isn't somebody's season. Yeah, Like there's some
Speaker 1: seasons that just starnt your jam, right, and maybe, yeah,
Speaker 1: this isn't my thing. I actually like that one, So
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna skip ahead. I didn't think about that
Speaker 1: that as Actually you and I have talked about this
Speaker 1: and that I think right, Fall is that.
Speaker 2: Your favorite fall is my favorite?
Speaker 1: Yes, follows your favorite thing. You would hate to skip
Speaker 1: over fall?
Speaker 2: Oh, I don't want to, Like, I don't want to
Speaker 2: jump ahead to winter?
Speaker 1: Correct, Okay, so that informs kind of your opinion.
Speaker 2: Head to the Christmas tree when you can still have pumpkins. Okay,
Speaker 2: but that's you, right, that may very well be true
Speaker 2: and okay.
Speaker 1: Very much informed your thought process on this thing, yes,
Speaker 1: but you take autumn away from me?
Speaker 2: What's your favorite season?
Speaker 1: I need springing, Some are bad, some are for sure.
Speaker 1: Winter is a distant fourth, but I need spring in
Speaker 1: summer for sure, and again fall autumn. What is the
Speaker 1: word you love using? Autumn?
Speaker 2: Autumnal? I love that word. It creates an ambiance that
Speaker 2: is just so cozy and fun and I love it. Yes,
Speaker 2: and that's exactly what's upon us right now as we
Speaker 2: depart from Halloween and head into Thanksgiving. And yes, Christmas
Speaker 2: is not that far behind, but let's embrace let's embrace November,
Speaker 2: and let's embrace Thanksgiving.
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. All right, y'all, So you think out there,
Speaker 1: but if you want to decorate, knock yourselves out if
Speaker 1: you want to wait until the after Thanksgiving like most
Speaker 1: normal folks do that as well. But no matter what,
Speaker 1: we always always appreciate you spending some time with us.
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