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Speaker 1: are a deal breaker for me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I

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Speaker 1: I have lived with my fiance for two years. We

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. There was a family of baby roaches on

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Speaker 1: know that this man doesn't have anywhere else to go.

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Speaker 1: That's not my problem. My fiance has questioned my family

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Speaker 1: Please advise, No, you're not. You're not being unreasonable, not

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Speaker 1: If if he has the nerve to question your family

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Speaker 1: you should absolutely reconsider marrying him. Question him why why

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Speaker 1: His wife probably couldn't take it anymore either. Uh And

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Speaker 1: when when is your When is your fiance going to

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Speaker 1: That's what you need to reconsider because this whole letter,

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Speaker 1: no more, mister nice guy. Now you all need to

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Speaker 1: Two years they finally bought their first house together. Everything

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Speaker 1: Two weeks to turn into two months. He's nasty, the

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Speaker 1: They have lived together, they bought their first house. His

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Speaker 1: That's probably something else that ain't just feet. He ain't

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Speaker 1: that is just when you take a shower twice a week.

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Speaker 1: I hate it when the kitchen because he leaves a mess.

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Speaker 1: You you're just describing a tray fulling person. Final the straws.

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Speaker 1: But here the worst part, Stephen Sherley, that was a family. Now,

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Speaker 1: Roaches is a deal breaker for most people. I'd have

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Speaker 1: Then when you saw the you screamed so loud your

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Speaker 1: funky in fun that he wanted to. Let's just use

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Speaker 1: as an acronym to use to the man that's in

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Speaker 1: now and you walk past his doing it man like

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Speaker 1: Feet has a very similar smell to ass from a distance.

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Speaker 1: As I want you to understand what that is. Okay,

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Speaker 1: If you smell it up close, it's just like somebody's

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