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Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we could be reading your letter live on the air,

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Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: All right, let's go buckle up and hold on tight.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: Tell me, tell me, yes, here's what I'm gonna do today.

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Speaker 1: I've never done this ever before in the history of

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Speaker 1: this show, since I've heard so much about you doing

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter today today only, I'm gonna sit here

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Speaker 1: and see how you handle or Strawberry letter, so I

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Speaker 1: know what's going on. When I ain't here, Ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: Nephew Torby will do. Yeah, you're gonna do the Strawbany

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Speaker 1: in your place, and yeah you'll no more work. All right,

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Speaker 1: we'll prepare myself, nephew. All right. Subjects. Your baby isn't

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Speaker 1: cute at all. Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a thirty

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Speaker 1: year old married woman and my husband and I need

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Speaker 1: your advice on an issue with our closest friends. Our friends,

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Speaker 1: our first time parents, and their daughter is a toddler. Now.

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Speaker 1: Since the child was born, we've been at a group

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Speaker 1: text with the couple and fifteen other people. My husband

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Speaker 1: and I both hate text groups, but we humored the

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Speaker 1: couple because they are really nice people. The couple started

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Speaker 1: the group chat so they could send us pictures of

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Speaker 1: their newborn daughter. We got pictures of the child almost daily,

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Speaker 1: and the mother would send us a text message if

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Speaker 1: we didn't respond. They've always bragged about how beautiful this

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Speaker 1: child is, and I don't want to be rude, but

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Speaker 1: she's not cute at all. When we got her newborn picture,

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Speaker 1: my husband darn near screamed. And whenever we see this

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Speaker 1: little girl in person, I have to watch my facial expressions.

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Speaker 1: This little girl looks like an older woman in the face.

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Speaker 1: She never smiles, and her afro is lopsided and dry

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Speaker 1: all the time, and her face looks ashy. She's two

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Speaker 1: years old now and we're still getting pictures. We want

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Speaker 1: to kindly ask that we'd be removed from the text group.

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Speaker 1: If I see one more picture of this child looking crazy,

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Speaker 1: I might just have to pull them aside and suggest

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Speaker 1: they fix their daughter up a bit. It's nothing to

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Speaker 1: brush a little grease in her hair and add a

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Speaker 1: few burettes in it, and maybe put some vasiline on

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Speaker 1: her lips. Maybe they should also tickle the baby so

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Speaker 1: she will smile on some of her pictures. But forget

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Speaker 1: all of that. We know we want to I just

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Speaker 1: want okay, let me finish. Maybe they should also tickle

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Speaker 1: but forget all of that. Okay, we want to leave

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Speaker 1: the texting group altogether. We just don't want to upset

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Speaker 1: our friends. I'm sure we are not the only ones

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Speaker 1: that want the pictures to stop. I'm embarrassed for feeling

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Speaker 1: this way with an innocent child. What should we do? All?

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Speaker 1: This is so sad, This is so sad. I'm with

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Speaker 1: you on one thing. I do not like group text

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Speaker 1: messages either. I don't. I would. I would step up

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Speaker 1: and say something about that. Just leave me out, or

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Speaker 1: stop responding, or just stop responding to the group text messages.

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Speaker 1: Even if they text you back and say did you

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Speaker 1: get it? Just stop responding. I think they'll get the

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Speaker 1: message about the text texting group sooner or later. But

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Speaker 1: about the baby that you say is not cute, it's

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Speaker 1: not the baby's fault. It just really isn't be as

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Speaker 1: sweet to the baby as you possibly can when you

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Speaker 1: see hers her fault. You said, she looks like an

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Speaker 1: older woman in the face. I think maybe one day

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Speaker 1: she'll grow into her face. I you know, I told

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Speaker 1: you guys, I think was yesterday. I had really really

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Speaker 1: big eyes when I was at baby Baby. I grew

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Speaker 1: into my eyes, but I grew into them, Steve, I did,

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Speaker 1: I did? Um, Yeah, I'm trying all this little baby.

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Speaker 1: It's not her fault. Just leave the texting group if

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Speaker 1: that's really all you want to do, just leave there.

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Speaker 1: Uh and you know, yeah, to feel this way about

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Speaker 1: an innocent child, I mean I understand that, and it

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Speaker 1: is again not the child's fault. What should you do?

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Speaker 1: First and foremost, get out of the text group. Okay,

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Speaker 1: if they ask you what's wrong, just say you get

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Speaker 1: second thing, Shirley and all I'm saying, in time you

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Speaker 1: the picture and the baby never smiles. Yeah, that's what

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Speaker 1: it said. That's called she knows. He found out. She knows.

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Speaker 1: She went by the mirror in the stroller in the mall.

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Speaker 1: She looked over the head went, I be I know

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Speaker 1: they ain't pushing me around this mall looking like this.

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Speaker 1: I ain't got no lotion on, I ain't got this

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Speaker 1: damn bonnet. This my afro. Come to me. I'm sitting

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Speaker 1: over here looking like a little man. If you don't

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Speaker 1: take my ass to the house, yeah, maybe your friends

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Speaker 1: can keep the baby. And like my daddy, I'm a

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Speaker 1: two year old girl. My father, I thought you only

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Speaker 1: had two things to say. Okay, I'm sorry. Tommy's gonna

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Speaker 1: do the letter right, we come back, all right, listen,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna come back with part two of this letter.

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Speaker 1: Steve's gonna give Tommy his chance to respond to this

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Speaker 1: letter subject your baby isn't cute at all. We'll be

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Speaker 1: back at twenty three minutes after the hour, right after

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Speaker 1: this and two years. I ain't got a compliment you're

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Speaker 1: listening to. All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter, subject to your baby is not cute at all? Wow, Well,

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Speaker 1: time going to go this A little baby that show

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Speaker 1: years old, it's over. Shirley tried to relate to the

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Speaker 1: fact that she had big ass when she was a baby.

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Speaker 1: You didn't. You still got ass, and that leaves no

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Speaker 1: hope for this baby growing up. The baby looked like

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Speaker 1: a little man right now. She couldn't looked like a

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Speaker 1: little old man. Laid on, she said, woman at the face.

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Speaker 1: Go ahead, and Tommy, all right, I think what we

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Speaker 1: have here is a situation where I've been taught early

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Speaker 1: with five. You're gonna have to fight ugly with some

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Speaker 1: more luggy, because that makes sense so far right. But

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Speaker 1: when you see these ugly pictures coming, don't just sit

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Speaker 1: Come back with some more ugly all right, when they

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Speaker 1: sending that baby, pitch out, boom, first one, you hit back,

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Speaker 1: Dennis Rodman, you're gonna you're gonna play your ugly card

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Speaker 1: against day ugly card. He coming with it. As soon

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Speaker 1: as they send another picture of that baby. Oh lord,

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Speaker 1: hit them back. We can win you to East. You

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Speaker 1: just keep coming with more ugly. It's enough ugly people

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Speaker 1: I promise you they are going to be saying you've

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Speaker 1: been doing what we've been wanting to be due how

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Speaker 1: many people? How many ugly people do y'all know? You know,

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Speaker 1: A bunch out of them then died, then did up

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Speaker 1: against these ugly babies. Yes, this ain't about the baby.

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Speaker 1: It's about the parents just sending the baby. The baby

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Speaker 1: don't know we're sending these ugly pictures back. Send some

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Speaker 1: ugly pictures to fight these ugly Uncle Steve, when you

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Speaker 1: used to get baseball card, then you trade them in

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Speaker 1: with other baseball card which other ones was good against

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Speaker 1: the other one? Didn't you do that with your boys? Yes?

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Speaker 1: But ugly pictures, but quite ugly. More pictures, Tommy. Huh.

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Speaker 1: The parents think she's beautiful, and if you're sending enough

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Speaker 1: ugly pictures, they're gonna get the picture. Other people don't

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Speaker 1: recognize beauty, and enough pictures and they'll get the picture.

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Speaker 1: Your baby ugly, all right, and sometimes you might have

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Speaker 1: to just blatantly come on out with it in test

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Speaker 1: text back, Please don't send me no more of the

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Speaker 1: ugly baby pictures. Oh I've been trying since the baby

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Speaker 1: got here, but damn it, I got to say it now. Huh,

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Speaker 1: said thank you. So you're proud of him. You're proud

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Speaker 1: of him. The thing I've ever seen him do? What ugly?

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Speaker 1: Be goots ugly, Shirley, you know, but not if you

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Speaker 1: don't know that they're ugly. But that's the problem, Shirley.

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Speaker 1: Even the people that own the baby don't know the

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Speaker 1: be a sin for two people, two ugly people, to

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Speaker 1: get together, because you bring another the baby. Don't with

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Speaker 1: two ugly people, mate, they bring in another ugly one

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Speaker 1: ugly or he ugly yet. They don't know that yet. Okay,

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Speaker 1: and what the last thing wait, wait and wait on

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Speaker 1: the last thing you want to do is tickle an

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Speaker 1: ugly baby. Do you know what you FINDI get something

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Speaker 1: funny ass ugly. Now that's what you finding it? You

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Speaker 1: got funny ugly falling after the dog gonna stroll. Do

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Speaker 1: you hit me? Cookle he ugly baby? And see what

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Speaker 1: no mirrors and stuff in that baby room. Well let that,

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Speaker 1: Brush their teeth, turned the head the other way. But

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Speaker 1: comb this baby hair. Get them as pretty ugly as

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Speaker 1: you can comb the hair, wash their face, put some

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Speaker 1: lotion on. Get I'm ready for school. That's as pretty

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Speaker 1: ugly as you can get. She said. Her afro is lopsided.

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Speaker 1: And I'll put a wig on the baby. That might

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Speaker 1: baby wigs? Hey, what else we got? They got baby? Quick?

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Speaker 1: Get o baby wigs and do it like that? What

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Speaker 1: a baby? What a baby whig? You get a baby wig?

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Speaker 1: That baby gonna look a whole lot better than way

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Speaker 1: they're looking. Now you're still proud. I'm just checking uncle.

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Speaker 1: You're still happy with your nephews. Well, you know, I

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Speaker 1: got it. I want to say thank you man, you

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Speaker 1: made me proud. What baby Prody says some stuff that

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Speaker 1: I would have said, yes, yeah, yeah, Sometimes you have

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Speaker 1: to do it like that. That ain't our problem. We

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Speaker 1: are not supporting ugly children. Give me my money, give

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Speaker 1: me my donation right back. Stand up, you guys are

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