WEBVTT - I'm Dating A Married Man

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Meila, and happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Hump Day, hump Day. How are you. I'm good. I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel accomplished today. I feel like a whole adult.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a little tired. But I went to Digital Hollywood,

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<v Speaker 1>a little conference at Squirreball, and they recently added a

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<v Speaker 1>podcast aspect.

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<v Speaker 2>It was very informative. There was a lot of big

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<v Speaker 2>wigs in the podcast, and the red used that word before.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I'd try tonight. It's a very press and

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<v Speaker 2>there are a lot of big wigs today in the

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<v Speaker 2>podcasting industry. I learned a lot of information.

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<v Speaker 1>I learned that women in podcasting right now are magic.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of growth to be had. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to say, it's like a six hundred million dollar industry

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<v Speaker 1>and it's expected to like increase rapidly in twenty twenty one.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, I need some of that six hundred million. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I need about thirty This is cool. Thirty, Well take fifteen.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you gonna go half on a goat. We don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to buy the guy. I just want to like

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<v Speaker 1>charter it for a month.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay, Well, filled with bus make more.

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<v Speaker 1>Money, right, we could we could, Like I had this vision,

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<v Speaker 1>mark my words, everyone. I was driving on the backstreets

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<v Speaker 1>of Valley Vista and they have such like beautiful you know,

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<v Speaker 1>value Vista, and I was look at these like two

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<v Speaker 1>like there's some really like houses that have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of floors.

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<v Speaker 2>You can tell they're long and big. And it's like

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<v Speaker 2>me and Erica.

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<v Speaker 1>She could live there and I could live a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of doors down, and that way it will make podcasting

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<v Speaker 1>still very we'll be rich.

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<v Speaker 2>I like that idea. Yes, that's that, Erica, come in

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<v Speaker 2>the balcony. I have to tell you something. I have

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<v Speaker 2>an idea past. Yeah, but like, these are the thoughts

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<v Speaker 2>that I have really because I feel like that is

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<v Speaker 2>you speaking it right now, You're speaking it out into existence.

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<v Speaker 2>Just keep talking about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I also had another vision today we're going on Joe Rogan.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yes, yeah, there's a lot to talk about, a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of examples, and Joe Rogan was a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>the e and I was like, he's one of the

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<v Speaker 2>biggest podcasts in the world. Yeah. I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>we can make that happen. We're making that happen. At

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<v Speaker 2>this point, I'm confident in our stalkership. Our stokership is

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<v Speaker 2>higher point and so there's basically the only I could

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<v Speaker 2>like my stockership could translate to like dating right now,

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<v Speaker 2>but we can't stock men. It doesn't work. I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>good at like. I don't have game when it comes

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<v Speaker 2>to dating so like, but apparently have a really good

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<v Speaker 2>DM game when it comes to like getting podcast guests.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm right, but uh, I want to say, speaking of men,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess we can get to that.

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<v Speaker 2>How about your day? I worked, I did yoga because

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<v Speaker 2>I need it. You did it in the backyard. I

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<v Speaker 2>went to a class which one the heat of yoga.

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<v Speaker 2>I go to down the street corpar ivor okay, by

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<v Speaker 2>the Encino Plaza. So I did that, and then I, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>I went to work. So I was working. I was

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<v Speaker 2>shooting all day.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of yoga, we have a yoga event coming up

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<v Speaker 1>yes on December seventh.

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<v Speaker 2>Checking with us for more details.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're in the LA area, We're gonna do a

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<v Speaker 1>nice little CBD No.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's not CBD, THHC PHC and yoga collab. Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>do a little THHC listine strips specifically, they're well, they're

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<v Speaker 2>like listing trips. They dissolving your mouth. They're basically edibles,

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<v Speaker 2>but they hit your body within ten minutes, and they're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna go to yoga and it's gonna be fun, wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>I need. I need a lot of yoga the past

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<v Speaker 2>this week has been very interesting for me. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I remember, like a few episodes ago, I was talking

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<v Speaker 2>about how this year, that this this next year, and

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<v Speaker 2>like me, turning thirty two was really a year and

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<v Speaker 2>confirmation to me that I need to follow my intuition.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to follow my gut. I need to follow

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<v Speaker 2>my body because my body really tells me everything before

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<v Speaker 2>anything else. And this week was confirmation of that. So

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<v Speaker 2>where do I begin? Have we just getting right to it?

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<v Speaker 2>Once upon a time? I feel like this is a

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<v Speaker 2>question that's come up.

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<v Speaker 1>Have we talked about this person? Did we talk about

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<v Speaker 1>this in our Atlanta recap?

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<v Speaker 2>Briefly? Okay? So so people people have asked us if

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<v Speaker 2>we've ever slept with someone that we've met on the podcast, right,

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<v Speaker 2>have you ever slept? Well, a lot of people ask us,

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<v Speaker 2>have we slept together? But that's for another story, that's

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<v Speaker 2>for another time. But people ask us too, like, have

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<v Speaker 2>we ever slept with anyone that listens to the podcast

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<v Speaker 2>or like found us on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you if you're like one of our people people,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if you're on social that we do interact

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<v Speaker 1>all the time with everybody because that's our community. Like

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<v Speaker 1>that's it's really cool to meet new people and like

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<v Speaker 1>e meet them and that's a part of it. And

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<v Speaker 1>so of course that includes men too. I mean it's

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<v Speaker 1>mostly women, but there's always we have like men that

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<v Speaker 1>are our regulars.

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<v Speaker 2>God, you make us on like prostitute regular pod. I

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<v Speaker 2>saw them on regular this week podcast, Prostitutes. You know what.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a friend that always DMS me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, actually, our friend who got us videographer in Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 2>This is how this is where she gets fucked up.

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<v Speaker 2>We think everybody's our friend, but he lives in Orange County.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, if I'm ever in Orange County,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have to give him a call because we're

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<v Speaker 2>just such friends.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like, so, this is one of those cases

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<v Speaker 1>that has never happened before but gone wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, gone terribly terribly wrong. So take it away, Take

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<v Speaker 3>it away, Erica. So so okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'll start it. So those of you who don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>We're on Patreon high Patreon.

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<v Speaker 2>If you haven't joined our Patreon, you should. You can

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<v Speaker 2>see you can watch this episode tonight. You can watch

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<v Speaker 2>this episode and we get into classic Camera, so you

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<v Speaker 2>might want to get up on there. Yeah, so you

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<v Speaker 2>can watch all our episodes on Patreon and go ahead.

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<v Speaker 1>So when we first decided to get on Patreon, our

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<v Speaker 1>very first Patreon member was this person and.

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<v Speaker 2>Eric has like, there's this guy he's for his Patreon. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>first of all, I thought it was a girl.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a girl, but then she continued to converse

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<v Speaker 1>with him, and he DMed us.

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<v Speaker 2>There was really very vague profile, no pictures. I thought

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<v Speaker 2>at first, I thought it was like some other person

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<v Speaker 2>that that like be trying to stalk me, you know

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about yah. So I was like I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>trust it at first, but then I was like, oh no,

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<v Speaker 2>this this person is he listens and he wants to

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<v Speaker 2>support us. He began to like converse with Erica. He

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<v Speaker 2>began to give podcast advice essentially, and then I saw

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<v Speaker 2>his picture and I was like, damn, he's like fine.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, damn, he's kind of fine. So Erica

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<v Speaker 2>proceeded to continue to talk to him.

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<v Speaker 1>He was fine, to the point where I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>how many times day are you facetiming this person?

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<v Speaker 2>No, it wasn't not. Don't relax. How many times? How

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<v Speaker 2>many times have I Facebook? Okay? I mean we definitely facetimeed,

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<v Speaker 2>but like we weren't like face time every single day.

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<v Speaker 2>Was he consistently texting you? And yeah? Yeah he was? Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So in the beginning though, it was like slow, Like okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so in the beginning, come he gives a timeline. When

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<v Speaker 2>was this? When did this begin? I think it started

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<v Speaker 2>in August?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So we're in November August, uh, about three months?

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<v Speaker 2>For four months? Okay? Okay. So he told me that

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<v Speaker 2>he found our podcast through Spotify. He was listening to

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<v Speaker 2>some other he listened to a lot of podcasts, so

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<v Speaker 2>he'd found ours through like the search of podcasts, and

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<v Speaker 2>that he really enjoyed our show. That he was a

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<v Speaker 2>single dad raising his son, and that you know, our

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<v Speaker 2>content somehow spoke to him. So I was like, wow,

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<v Speaker 2>that's amazing, Like this is a guy, this is a dad,

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<v Speaker 2>and he was really like supportive of our ship. So,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, we started to get to know each other

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more through text and facetiming. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, it was he was cool. He was cool.

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<v Speaker 2>There were things that I wasn't sure about, and I'm specific,

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<v Speaker 2>Fuck it, we're gonna tell the story. We're telling a

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<v Speaker 2>fucking story. There were she was questioning. He had a

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<v Speaker 2>rather strange octave voice. It was like and when she

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<v Speaker 2>told me this, I was like, what the fuck do

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<v Speaker 2>you mean? What do you mean by that? You need

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<v Speaker 2>to be more specific.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, no, really, like, oh, whoa, You're making it

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<v Speaker 1>way worse.

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<v Speaker 2>It was as you made it worse when you explained

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<v Speaker 2>it to me. Oh god, And I was like, oh whoa.

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<v Speaker 2>And by no means are we discriminating against the different

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<v Speaker 2>octave voices. I'm discriminating. Fuck that shit. I like my

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<v Speaker 2>niggas to have a deep ass voice. That sucks, because

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I know another man who has more. You

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<v Speaker 2>know what, I never realized that voice could really deter

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<v Speaker 2>you until this situation, because it took me a while

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<v Speaker 2>to really warm up to him because his voice annoyed me.

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<v Speaker 2>I never realized, like voice, Okay, I got to add

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<v Speaker 2>that to the list. The manifestation voice, deep voice, low octave.

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<v Speaker 2>So so these exchanges continued.

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<v Speaker 1>And even you know, to the we're obviously we're like

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<v Speaker 1>see each other every fucking single day, every second.

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<v Speaker 2>Like yeah, so basically, you know, we would talk, we'd

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<v Speaker 2>flur I like maybe I got drunk a few times,

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<v Speaker 2>facetimed him. We had sexy talk and shit, and then

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<v Speaker 2>eventually we started talking about like maybe meeting each other

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<v Speaker 2>one day. So you know, me and Smila recently had

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<v Speaker 2>a show in Atlanta, and he lives in North Carolina,

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<v Speaker 2>in Charlotte. So he was like, I'm gonna come to

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<v Speaker 2>the show, which keep in mind is literally like four

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<v Speaker 2>hour so he's driving four hours to come meet me.

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<v Speaker 2>It's our first time meeting me.

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<v Speaker 1>He made a reservation literally like four weeks in advance.

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<v Speaker 2>For dinner for two. Right, So this guy too, like

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<v Speaker 2>he is like thirty three or he just turned thirty

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<v Speaker 2>four yesterday, which I'll get to that and why that's important.

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<v Speaker 2>But he has a really great job, single dad, owns

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<v Speaker 2>his own home, has beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Home, beautiful home, Like you know, I had had a

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<v Speaker 1>really I had a really good job, a good job.

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<v Speaker 2>Like he just checked all the boxes that that were

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<v Speaker 2>important to me and in ways, and I guess in

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<v Speaker 2>like the very surface ways and he made reservations and

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<v Speaker 2>he and I've always wanted a guy that would plan. Although,

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<v Speaker 2>like then he came into my life and I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>this is a lot of planning. I don't know, this

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<v Speaker 2>is too much planning, but he was. He was very

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<v Speaker 2>into planning. Yeah, which makes sense. I mean even like

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<v Speaker 2>I was getting on face, I'm like, hey, what a do?

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think about this? For this, like for Patreon,

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<v Speaker 2>because yeah, he gave us advice about shit, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>so for the sake of this, and what we were

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<v Speaker 2>calling him to each other was our O G. Patrearg.

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<v Speaker 2>It was our O G.

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<v Speaker 1>Patreon Bay because he was the first person to ever sign.

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<v Speaker 2>Up, and he was like giving us tips and tricks

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<v Speaker 2>and what he thinks we should do. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we're open to constructive curticies, right, so we're always like, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so what do you think about this? So continue? Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So we get to Atlanta and I'm getting nervous too.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh my god, like I'm gonna be this guy.

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<v Speaker 1>She's feeling pressure. Could she could tell he's getting excited

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<v Speaker 1>about the meetups? I mean, hence the four week in

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<v Speaker 1>advance table for two at fucking STK because everybody knows

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<v Speaker 1>you need to book out weeks for that.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm like a little nervous, and I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, like what am I doing. I'm meeting some

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<v Speaker 2>random guy whatever. So we met. I meet him at

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<v Speaker 2>STK and you know, I'm gonna keep it real now

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<v Speaker 2>because I was nervous to meet him, and I had

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<v Speaker 2>two of my homegirls coming out and they were I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I'm going to ESDK to meet him. She's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>we'll go too.

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<v Speaker 1>And before this, I kept joking with him like I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, why can't I come?

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<v Speaker 2>Like I kept telling her I'm coming. You know how

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<v Speaker 2>I like to sign myself up for some dinners.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, if he's a pag og patren,

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<v Speaker 1>I need to come to dinner. I kept joking, joking, joking.

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<v Speaker 2>So we go to STK and my go home girls

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<v Speaker 2>come to the restaurant. We act like I acted like

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<v Speaker 2>I told him. I was like, my friends just happened

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<v Speaker 2>to make a reservation here too, but really like I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know you, nigga, So yeah, my friends are about

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<v Speaker 2>to come, and it's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>I ended up going on a date that night with

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<v Speaker 1>it like an old fling, and he We went to

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<v Speaker 1>Cafe inter Mezzo, which used to be down the street

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<v Speaker 1>but it moved literally into the same building as SDK,

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<v Speaker 1>So when we pulled.

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<v Speaker 2>Up, I was like, yes, well that was an accident.

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<v Speaker 2>That was an accident. I wasn't really trying to stalk,

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<v Speaker 2>but my other friend Ashley and Donna coming was on purpose,

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<v Speaker 2>so they come.

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<v Speaker 1>I stopped my ass by because I had to see

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<v Speaker 1>this person in person too.

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<v Speaker 2>So at this point, like we're in front of each other,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, okay, he you know, he looks like his pictures.

0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:29.400
<v Speaker 2>We've allays we'd faced time before, so like I'd already confirmed,

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<v Speaker 2>like he's a real person and not like this phantom

0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:35.840
<v Speaker 2>instagram that he has with no picture and your friends

0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:38.320
<v Speaker 2>met him. He seemed fine. We had cool, Like he

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<v Speaker 2>was cool. I could tell he was like a little nervous,

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<v Speaker 2>but I just like figured, I figured because like it's, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's our first time he fucking drove to see me

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<v Speaker 2>like far, and you know, it's just it's we're in

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<v Speaker 2>a new city. It's exciting. So I'm aggressive, so you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I tell us ask to come over and sit next

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<v Speaker 2>to me. We start making out at the restaurant. Erica

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<v Speaker 2>is really good for me, public makeup. We make out

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<v Speaker 2>at the restaurant and then we, uh, we go out.

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<v Speaker 2>We go out. So we went to like where do

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<v Speaker 2>we go? If you did, you come with us? No,

0:14:09.640 --> 0:14:12.640
<v Speaker 2>I had to go. We went to like this, We

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<v Speaker 2>went to this. Oh, we went to Pals and it

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<v Speaker 2>was like it was it was Pride night, so it

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<v Speaker 2>was like a blot of gays there and we were

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<v Speaker 2>just drinking and ship and after a certain amount of time,

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<v Speaker 2>like I was drunk and I was ready to go.

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<v Speaker 2>So we went back to his hotel and he was

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<v Speaker 2>staying like down the street from where I was staying,

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<v Speaker 2>and uh, yeah, we had sex. We hooked up and

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<v Speaker 2>it was cool. It was good. Actually it was pretty good.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you say. He was like looking deep into your eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>He was like, well, first he didn't want to have

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<v Speaker 2>sex with me. He said, I don't want I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>having sex with you because I wanted to be meaningful.

0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:53.280
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, this is meaningful. Wait wait, I

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<v Speaker 2>assured him. Well, he was trying to be like like

0:14:57.280 --> 0:15:00.720
<v Speaker 2>he cared I wanted to be meaning and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm horny. We've waited, you're not you don't live here,

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<v Speaker 2>We're fucking I'm horny. The end, I'm naked, let's go,

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<v Speaker 2>so you know. And then this was also like one

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<v Speaker 2>of the red flags too, because after we hooked up,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a cuddler, Like I'm super affectionate after sex, especially

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<v Speaker 2>if I enjoyed it, which I did. I didn't even

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<v Speaker 2>want to really cuddle with him, to be honest, Like

0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:27.520
<v Speaker 2>he was trying to cuddle me, and I was like

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<v Speaker 2>I was doing it, but like there was something that

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<v Speaker 2>was like just not right there, you know. And so

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<v Speaker 2>that was like my body couldn't really get into it.

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<v Speaker 2>But whatever. So then the next day we have our

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<v Speaker 2>shal Live show, right, so I talked to him. He's

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<v Speaker 2>asked me how it's going. Me and Jamila are running

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<v Speaker 2>around like fucking crazy bitches, as you already heard, and

0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:49.840
<v Speaker 2>we get to the show. We do the show, and

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<v Speaker 2>at the end of the night, I noticed that he

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't there. The guy I brought to the guy I

0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:57.360
<v Speaker 2>brought to her date was like, oh, where is so

0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:57.800
<v Speaker 2>and so?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I don't know, find it. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like texting. I'm like, don't text me. I'm I'm having

0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:05.960
<v Speaker 1>nervous break down. And then we've.

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<v Speaker 2>Dawned on us later that evening, like, oh, I did

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<v Speaker 2>not see him right, So I text him like, Yo,

0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.360
<v Speaker 2>are you okay? Like what the fuck? I'm thinking, like, damn,

0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:16.880
<v Speaker 2>he just like didn't come with was the sex not bomb?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's me not not an option. He text

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<v Speaker 2>me back and tells me he got in a car

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<v Speaker 2>accident and that he it's crazy. He was with his

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<v Speaker 2>cousin or something and his friend and like, you're at

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<v Speaker 2>the hospital right now. And I'm thinking, like, didn't he

0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:38.600
<v Speaker 2>send you a picture of a like a band or something, yeah,

0:16:38.680 --> 0:16:42.920
<v Speaker 2>like something like a hospital. Yeah. So yeah, So all

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<v Speaker 2>at first my friends were like, he that's bullshit. He

0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:47.600
<v Speaker 2>didn't get a fucking car accident. That sounds like some bullshit.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm like, is it bullshit? But then he sent

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<v Speaker 2>me something like confirmed it wasn't. So whatever, he didn't come.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't get to see him before he left. We

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<v Speaker 2>only had that one night. He goes back to Charlotte,

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<v Speaker 2>I go back to LA. We continue to talking, not

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<v Speaker 2>every single day, but you know, every other day consistently.

0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:07.479
<v Speaker 2>I would say uh at this point, like so he

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<v Speaker 2>told me, oh, I don't even told you this. So

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<v Speaker 2>he told me the reason why he's a single dad

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<v Speaker 2>is because he was engaged and the woman he was

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<v Speaker 2>engaged to, who is the mother of a child. One

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<v Speaker 2>one weekend he went to a concert and he came

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<v Speaker 2>back and she packed up all her shit and moved

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<v Speaker 2>to London with his son. Wait, I hadn't. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>remember this, he said. He just came back into the

0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:32.200
<v Speaker 2>house was empty. Yes, well not the house empty where

0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:33.840
<v Speaker 2>her ship was gone and his son was gone and

0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.920
<v Speaker 2>they were across the pond and she had moved away,

0:17:37.000 --> 0:17:41.800
<v Speaker 2>and he was devastated and that uh yeah, And so

0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:44.320
<v Speaker 2>now he shares his son. When we first started talking,

0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:46.520
<v Speaker 2>he had his son. So he's like, I share my

0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:48.080
<v Speaker 2>son six months out of the year. I get him

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<v Speaker 2>for six months, gets and I recall her be like

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<v Speaker 2>it's a really weird setup. Yeah. I was like every

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<v Speaker 2>six months. I was like, how is it? He's like

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<v Speaker 2>three right, Yeah. She was like, I was like, the

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<v Speaker 2>baby's gonna forget who's who every six months?

0:17:58.520 --> 0:17:58.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like that's I even told him. I like,

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<v Speaker 2>that doesn't seem like a good like co parenting schedule.

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<v Speaker 2>And then didn't. He said, like, you're asking if you

0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:07.040
<v Speaker 2>guys FaceTime a lot, and he said, no, we would

0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:10.560
<v Speaker 2>think I was in the relationship. He said, she's did

0:18:10.560 --> 0:18:13.080
<v Speaker 2>you say she was blocked? No? No, no, no, there's

0:18:13.119 --> 0:18:23.399
<v Speaker 2>somebody else. You're mixing up people. So so yeah, and

0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:25.560
<v Speaker 2>he told me that. So he had a trip plan.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is before Atlanta, Like, let's rewind. So at

0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:29.679
<v Speaker 2>the beginning of us talking, he said he was going

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<v Speaker 2>to the Bahamas. This is like maybe like three weeks

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<v Speaker 2>two or three weeks into us talking, He's like, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to the Bahamas, and uh, this is where we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to do the trade off. I'm going to bring

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<v Speaker 2>my son. She's coming with her new soccer player boyfriend

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<v Speaker 2>and she's going to pick up my son and we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to do the trade there. And I was like, oh,

0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:46.640
<v Speaker 2>that's interesting. And then I was like, is she an immigrant?

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<v Speaker 2>Why can't she come to the States. Why are they

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<v Speaker 2>making up in the Bahamas? I had so many questions, right,

0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:52.119
<v Speaker 2>and so he was like yeah, So he goes to

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<v Speaker 2>the Bahamas. He texts me some photos from the Bahamas.

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<v Speaker 2>I asked him how the trade off went. He said

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<v Speaker 2>it was hard. I didn't like really want to go.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have to work that out. The son didn't

0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:06.480
<v Speaker 2>really want to have to go. The son didn't really

0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:08.080
<v Speaker 2>want to have to go. I didn't really want to go.

0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:10.960
<v Speaker 2>And then like I guess he lost his temper more

0:19:11.000 --> 0:19:14.720
<v Speaker 2>than he wanted to with her. That he's gone now

0:19:14.800 --> 0:19:17.520
<v Speaker 2>and he's with her in London and he's not going

0:19:17.600 --> 0:19:20.960
<v Speaker 2>to see him till Christmas. So I was like, you know,

0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:23.560
<v Speaker 2>that like pulled my heartstrings because I'm like, damn, like

0:19:23.680 --> 0:19:26.240
<v Speaker 2>that must be really hard. I can't imagine being going

0:19:26.280 --> 0:19:28.960
<v Speaker 2>six months without seeing my daughter. So then at some

0:19:29.119 --> 0:19:31.960
<v Speaker 2>point along in the story of their relationship, he tells

0:19:32.000 --> 0:19:35.280
<v Speaker 2>me that she's in DC and that he needs to

0:19:35.280 --> 0:19:37.400
<v Speaker 2>fly down to DC to see her because she has

0:19:37.400 --> 0:19:39.720
<v Speaker 2>something to tell him, and his son is with her,

0:19:39.760 --> 0:19:41.600
<v Speaker 2>and so he just hopped on a plane because it

0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:44.280
<v Speaker 2>was an opportunity to see his son. So he goes

0:19:44.320 --> 0:19:46.720
<v Speaker 2>there and he tells me that, Okay, she told me

0:19:46.760 --> 0:19:52.239
<v Speaker 2>that she's pregnant and she just needs She cried and

0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:54.880
<v Speaker 2>she's a mess, and so I just took our son

0:19:54.960 --> 0:19:56.880
<v Speaker 2>for the day and let her like do her thing.

0:19:57.080 --> 0:20:01.080
<v Speaker 2>She'd confess all this at the hotel. He's asking me

0:20:01.119 --> 0:20:03.199
<v Speaker 2>for advice, like what should I do? And I'm telling him,

0:20:03.240 --> 0:20:05.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, she probably needs you to be her friend

0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:07.640
<v Speaker 2>right now. She doesn't need you to like lecture her,

0:20:07.720 --> 0:20:09.679
<v Speaker 2>Like I'm over here giving him advice about how to

0:20:10.200 --> 0:20:14.120
<v Speaker 2>deal with her. And he's like he calls me back

0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:16.000
<v Speaker 2>later and tells me like, thank you so much for

0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:19.560
<v Speaker 2>that advice. It really was helpful. I really appreciate you.

0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:25.280
<v Speaker 2>Blah blah blah. Okay, So then at some point he tells, like,

0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:28.000
<v Speaker 2>at some point in our talking a few months ago,

0:20:28.040 --> 0:20:30.359
<v Speaker 2>like a month goes by, and he tells me that

0:20:31.240 --> 0:20:33.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what happened, but oh so then we

0:20:33.680 --> 0:20:37.520
<v Speaker 2>were planning to wait this up. No, that's afterwards, when

0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:40.160
<v Speaker 2>was this? At some point, he gets his son back

0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:45.639
<v Speaker 2>because she's a mess. She's partying, she's going out all

0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:47.800
<v Speaker 2>the time. Did she not keep the baby? She's yeah,

0:20:47.840 --> 0:20:49.679
<v Speaker 2>she's not, she's not. Oh yeah, she got an abortion.

0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:53.640
<v Speaker 2>She got an abortion. She's partying all the time. He

0:20:53.720 --> 0:20:55.240
<v Speaker 2>just went to get his son. Now he has his son,

0:20:55.320 --> 0:20:56.520
<v Speaker 2>So now he's back to being a son. Hey, I

0:20:56.560 --> 0:20:57.040
<v Speaker 2>have a question.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, did he say anything about his interaction with the

0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:02.280
<v Speaker 1>soccer player boyfriend in the Bahamas when he got back.

0:21:02.359 --> 0:21:05.680
<v Speaker 2>Was it weird? Yeah? He said that was he cool?

0:21:05.840 --> 0:21:07.920
<v Speaker 2>Like what was that? I can't I don't remember. I

0:21:08.240 --> 0:21:10.080
<v Speaker 2>didn't ask all the details. I remember him saying like

0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:13.840
<v Speaker 2>it was fine, like they just kept to themselves. Okay.

0:21:15.720 --> 0:21:18.320
<v Speaker 2>I also asked him recently, I said, would you ever

0:21:18.359 --> 0:21:19.960
<v Speaker 2>forgive her? Like, would you do you think you could

0:21:19.960 --> 0:21:21.480
<v Speaker 2>ever get back together with it? No? I asked her,

0:21:21.760 --> 0:21:24.439
<v Speaker 2>are you in love with her still? And he was

0:21:24.480 --> 0:21:26.159
<v Speaker 2>like no, No, He's like, of course I love her,

0:21:26.200 --> 0:21:27.840
<v Speaker 2>I have love for her, but I'm not in love

0:21:27.840 --> 0:21:29.679
<v Speaker 2>with her. You know what she did to me, She

0:21:29.960 --> 0:21:33.840
<v Speaker 2>like moved to London and like left me over a weekend.

0:21:34.840 --> 0:21:36.800
<v Speaker 2>I could never I could never forgive her for that.

0:21:37.480 --> 0:21:38.840
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, well, you know, I mean I

0:21:38.920 --> 0:21:41.080
<v Speaker 2>get it because if you were in love with her,

0:21:41.080 --> 0:21:43.200
<v Speaker 2>I would understand because I have a lot. I'm still

0:21:43.280 --> 0:21:46.199
<v Speaker 2>untangling this relationship with my baby daddy and like trying

0:21:46.240 --> 0:21:49.119
<v Speaker 2>to like, you know, close that chapter. So I get it.

0:21:49.280 --> 0:21:50.879
<v Speaker 2>You know, we're just talking as because I feel like

0:21:50.880 --> 0:21:56.320
<v Speaker 2>we're having some experience, you know. Anyway, So we he

0:21:56.359 --> 0:21:58.399
<v Speaker 2>just tells me he's coming to La which is actually

0:21:58.440 --> 0:22:02.200
<v Speaker 2>this week. So this is after after Atlanta. This after Atlanta,

0:22:02.240 --> 0:22:05.040
<v Speaker 2>he tells me, I'm going to to LA for work

0:22:05.680 --> 0:22:08.520
<v Speaker 2>and I would love to see you. So I'm like, okay,

0:22:08.560 --> 0:22:11.040
<v Speaker 2>let's do it. So because he's such a fucking planner,

0:22:11.520 --> 0:22:14.080
<v Speaker 2>he sends me notes and like wants me to fill

0:22:14.080 --> 0:22:15.800
<v Speaker 2>in the days of like what we can do on

0:22:15.880 --> 0:22:18.040
<v Speaker 2>the calendar, restaurants we can go to. But he would

0:22:18.040 --> 0:22:19.800
<v Speaker 2>you mean like in your note. Yeah, he sends me

0:22:19.840 --> 0:22:21.920
<v Speaker 2>Apple notes. You know I'm talking about. Yeah, I'm getting

0:22:21.960 --> 0:22:24.760
<v Speaker 2>a little friends. Yeah yeah, this is oh wait, oh

0:22:24.880 --> 0:22:27.720
<v Speaker 2>so like, uh I'm free. No it like literally says

0:22:27.760 --> 0:22:33.000
<v Speaker 2>Monday airport drop off seven am, check in a hotel

0:22:33.080 --> 0:22:38.080
<v Speaker 2>like eleven eleven am, uh, find bluesy like, eat breakfast

0:22:38.160 --> 0:22:42.600
<v Speaker 2>at a breakfast spot, find good music. Ask Erica like

0:22:42.680 --> 0:22:45.119
<v Speaker 2>literally detailed, like he needs to know what he's doing

0:22:45.320 --> 0:22:48.880
<v Speaker 2>all day every day. Yeah you know, okay, keep going,

0:22:49.040 --> 0:22:50.400
<v Speaker 2>Like you know that kind of speaks to my heart.

0:22:50.440 --> 0:22:53.000
<v Speaker 2>But also like I'm kind of that person, but I'm

0:22:53.040 --> 0:22:55.119
<v Speaker 2>mostly not. I need a little bit of that, but

0:22:55.160 --> 0:22:57.280
<v Speaker 2>I also need to go with the fucking flow. So

0:22:57.359 --> 0:22:59.320
<v Speaker 2>I was also trying to encourage him. I said, what if,

0:22:59.359 --> 0:23:02.359
<v Speaker 2>like we do something crazy and we don't plan some shit.

0:23:03.240 --> 0:23:05.520
<v Speaker 2>Well we know why the nigga has to plan everything,

0:23:06.000 --> 0:23:09.679
<v Speaker 2>So anyway we plan. He's excited to come to LA.

0:23:09.920 --> 0:23:13.920
<v Speaker 2>So I'm not really that excited because even through all

0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:15.720
<v Speaker 2>of this, even though I know he's a good like

0:23:15.760 --> 0:23:18.280
<v Speaker 2>he's checks out on a lot of boxes, there's something

0:23:18.320 --> 0:23:20.520
<v Speaker 2>that's off like our I don't know, like he seems

0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:23.760
<v Speaker 2>like nervous and he's not like he's not funny, which

0:23:23.800 --> 0:23:26.920
<v Speaker 2>is really important to me what it is, Like he'd

0:23:27.000 --> 0:23:29.000
<v Speaker 2>like our conversations are fun. I think I'm the funny

0:23:29.000 --> 0:23:31.320
<v Speaker 2>one in the conversation. Like he's amused by me, right,

0:23:32.359 --> 0:23:35.159
<v Speaker 2>and like he knows you. He thinks he knows you

0:23:35.200 --> 0:23:37.720
<v Speaker 2>because he's listened. He is he like really listens to

0:23:37.760 --> 0:23:40.560
<v Speaker 2>the podcast. He knows all of me and Jamila's businesses

0:23:40.720 --> 0:23:43.680
<v Speaker 2>like business like hat like all of our bays, all

0:23:43.720 --> 0:23:50.440
<v Speaker 2>of our shit. Okay he really he really? Yeah? Okay.

0:23:50.720 --> 0:23:54.720
<v Speaker 2>So I end up I end up not being finding

0:23:54.720 --> 0:23:56.400
<v Speaker 2>out I'm not going to be in LA when he's here.

0:23:56.640 --> 0:23:59.120
<v Speaker 2>So I call him and I tell him, like, hey,

0:23:59.160 --> 0:24:00.720
<v Speaker 2>so I found out actually have to go to LA

0:24:01.440 --> 0:24:03.879
<v Speaker 2>to New York. During that time, I'm literally like leaving

0:24:03.920 --> 0:24:07.000
<v Speaker 2>the day you come and he like has a like

0:24:07.040 --> 0:24:09.080
<v Speaker 2>a meltdown over the phone. Can you give you an

0:24:09.080 --> 0:24:09.720
<v Speaker 2>instant replay?

0:24:10.680 --> 0:24:26.040
<v Speaker 4>Oh oh okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, wow wow.

0:24:32.040 --> 0:24:34.920
<v Speaker 2>Bitch the sound effects. I was on the other end

0:24:35.040 --> 0:24:38.400
<v Speaker 2>like is this happening? Like what's is he? Okay? Because

0:24:38.520 --> 0:24:42.760
<v Speaker 2>it was like it's like a horse over there, Like

0:24:42.920 --> 0:24:47.560
<v Speaker 2>I've never heard like these type of sounds, like as

0:24:47.560 --> 0:24:51.880
<v Speaker 2>a reaction to disappointment. And I heard it again after

0:24:51.920 --> 0:24:55.760
<v Speaker 2>that too something else like it's a thing which I

0:24:55.800 --> 0:25:00.560
<v Speaker 2>don't know whatever, So I'm like, okay, so that was

0:25:00.560 --> 0:25:03.480
<v Speaker 2>weird and I talked about it later because I was like,

0:25:03.480 --> 0:25:07.240
<v Speaker 2>that was really weird, Like I said, you aren't making

0:25:07.240 --> 0:25:11.560
<v Speaker 2>all these noises, and also like what are your expectations exactly,

0:25:11.760 --> 0:25:15.280
<v Speaker 2>like like where you can see each other another time?

0:25:15.359 --> 0:25:16.840
<v Speaker 2>And that also let me know too, because you know,

0:25:16.880 --> 0:25:21.320
<v Speaker 2>i'd be obsessed. I'm not obsessed. I didn't like you're

0:25:21.359 --> 0:25:25.199
<v Speaker 2>obsessed or you're not. Yeah, I'm not obsessed. So I

0:25:25.280 --> 0:25:29.399
<v Speaker 2>was like, you need to chill. So he apologized and

0:25:29.560 --> 0:25:34.440
<v Speaker 2>was like, yeah, you know that reaction. There's a lot

0:25:34.480 --> 0:25:36.560
<v Speaker 2>going on that day. Some things happened that day. I

0:25:36.600 --> 0:25:38.520
<v Speaker 2>mean I had a hard day at work, and then

0:25:38.560 --> 0:25:40.240
<v Speaker 2>I found out I'm not going to see my son

0:25:40.320 --> 0:25:44.120
<v Speaker 2>and until Christmas. Now until after Christmas. Wait, I thought

0:25:44.240 --> 0:25:46.080
<v Speaker 2>he had the son because she was going to the

0:25:46.080 --> 0:25:49.280
<v Speaker 2>club a lot. Okay, No, this is okay, my timelines off.

0:25:49.280 --> 0:25:50.920
<v Speaker 2>This is like maybe like a week before he got

0:25:50.920 --> 0:25:53.240
<v Speaker 2>his son. Okay, So I just said his son just

0:25:53.280 --> 0:25:57.280
<v Speaker 2>happened recently. I just got his son back. Okay, recently, Okay,

0:25:57.359 --> 0:26:01.040
<v Speaker 2>like recently to this very moment. Okay, Okay. So I'm like,

0:26:01.400 --> 0:26:03.040
<v Speaker 2>he's like, I'd found out I'm not going to have

0:26:03.080 --> 0:26:05.159
<v Speaker 2>my son, and it was just then then I get that,

0:26:05.240 --> 0:26:07.280
<v Speaker 2>and it was just all these blows and I just

0:26:07.359 --> 0:26:09.600
<v Speaker 2>I just didn't take it. Well. I'm sorry. I want

0:26:09.600 --> 0:26:12.359
<v Speaker 2>you to know I don't have any expectations. I know,

0:26:12.640 --> 0:26:15.440
<v Speaker 2>like you know, you're not looking for anything serious. I'm

0:26:15.480 --> 0:26:17.679
<v Speaker 2>not gonna I'm not envisioning us getting married in your

0:26:17.720 --> 0:26:19.879
<v Speaker 2>backyard or anything like that, because I had said if

0:26:19.920 --> 0:26:21.600
<v Speaker 2>I ever get married and again, I would just get

0:26:21.600 --> 0:26:24.240
<v Speaker 2>married in my backyard. And I'm like, okay, that's a

0:26:24.240 --> 0:26:28.200
<v Speaker 2>strange reference that you remembered. That was weird. Okay, You're

0:26:28.200 --> 0:26:30.960
<v Speaker 2>not gonna get married in your backyard. I mean, it's

0:26:31.000 --> 0:26:33.240
<v Speaker 2>not like that, it's not like that. I'm like, okay, cool.

0:26:34.000 --> 0:26:36.159
<v Speaker 2>So I'm like, well then we'll see each other some

0:26:36.280 --> 0:26:41.359
<v Speaker 2>other time. So what happened? I'm going to New York.

0:26:41.840 --> 0:26:42.800
<v Speaker 2>We're calling each other.

0:26:43.680 --> 0:26:45.879
<v Speaker 1>No wait, there was a text message like after that

0:26:45.960 --> 0:26:48.600
<v Speaker 1>there was like listen, I know da da da, but

0:26:48.800 --> 0:26:50.720
<v Speaker 1>I would really like, oh.

0:26:50.480 --> 0:26:55.600
<v Speaker 2>Yes, he's he's He texts me and then called me

0:26:56.400 --> 0:26:59.320
<v Speaker 2>and said that, look, I know you're not going to

0:26:59.400 --> 0:27:01.960
<v Speaker 2>be here, but like I really want to see you again.

0:27:02.359 --> 0:27:04.080
<v Speaker 2>Can we How can we make that happen if I

0:27:04.119 --> 0:27:06.720
<v Speaker 2>have to come, Like, I can make the accommodations to

0:27:06.760 --> 0:27:10.320
<v Speaker 2>make it happen. And you know, like I a bitch

0:27:10.440 --> 0:27:12.560
<v Speaker 2>likes the word accommodation. Yeah, and also like I'm not

0:27:12.680 --> 0:27:14.840
<v Speaker 2>used to that. This is also I'm over here thinking like,

0:27:14.920 --> 0:27:17.440
<v Speaker 2>is this naging checking off my manifestation list because he

0:27:17.480 --> 0:27:26.240
<v Speaker 2>said accommodation. He's saying accommodations. You know we're basic. Hello Hello,

0:27:26.320 --> 0:27:30.160
<v Speaker 2>did you say accommodations? Hold on one second, I think

0:27:30.160 --> 0:27:36.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm getting married. Yeah, well, actually I'm free because you

0:27:36.119 --> 0:27:43.080
<v Speaker 2>just said the magic motherfucking word accommodations. Oh god, it's

0:27:43.200 --> 0:27:49.320
<v Speaker 2>true though. Oh it's so sad. I'm actually embarrassed. It's okay,

0:27:49.400 --> 0:27:53.280
<v Speaker 2>we gotta grow. We're growing. But not only that, my

0:27:53.520 --> 0:27:55.840
<v Speaker 2>friends were like telling me I was being too hard

0:27:55.880 --> 0:27:57.800
<v Speaker 2>on him, like because I would tell him like there's

0:27:57.800 --> 0:28:00.760
<v Speaker 2>this guy. I don't know why I would say that, Okay,

0:28:00.800 --> 0:28:03.440
<v Speaker 2>so so so much so that like the reason Okay.

0:28:03.680 --> 0:28:06.239
<v Speaker 2>So at some point he said that to me, and

0:28:06.280 --> 0:28:08.719
<v Speaker 2>I still was like I'm not going to see him, Like, well,

0:28:08.800 --> 0:28:10.400
<v Speaker 2>I'll see him some other time, not like I'm never

0:28:10.400 --> 0:28:12.960
<v Speaker 2>gonna okay, but a little bit You're like a little

0:28:12.960 --> 0:28:14.479
<v Speaker 2>bit no, for sure. I was like, Okay, that's kind

0:28:14.480 --> 0:28:17.000
<v Speaker 2>of sexy, but also like I have to go back

0:28:17.040 --> 0:28:19.840
<v Speaker 2>and see like my daughter's coming to the East Coast,

0:28:19.880 --> 0:28:21.879
<v Speaker 2>Like i gotta get back to Pennsylvania. I'm not going

0:28:21.920 --> 0:28:23.720
<v Speaker 2>to extend my trip whatever. Oh because he then he

0:28:23.760 --> 0:28:26.680
<v Speaker 2>suggested to come there. Yeah, he was like he was

0:28:26.720 --> 0:28:29.399
<v Speaker 2>like snow Alegra was playing at Webster Hall on the

0:28:29.440 --> 0:28:35.879
<v Speaker 2>twenty fourth. Wait I want to take you? Wait was

0:28:36.240 --> 0:28:39.760
<v Speaker 2>sorry November twenty fourth at Webster Hall. Get us two tickets? Okay,

0:28:39.880 --> 0:28:45.360
<v Speaker 2>got it? So anyway, so I'm like I don't know.

0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:47.520
<v Speaker 2>So that I told my mom about him, so I

0:28:47.560 --> 0:28:49.719
<v Speaker 2>was like, Mom, like I met this guy and like,

0:28:50.520 --> 0:28:53.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I showed him her. I showed her

0:28:53.120 --> 0:28:55.800
<v Speaker 2>his picture. He's like he's cute. He's cute, and I'm like,

0:28:55.800 --> 0:28:58.480
<v Speaker 2>he's like he's a corporate job, like has a good job.

0:28:58.640 --> 0:29:03.520
<v Speaker 2>Like he's the same dad. Is that a rapper? Shots that? Wow?

0:29:04.040 --> 0:29:06.239
<v Speaker 2>He could be the one. Wait did you say did

0:29:07.040 --> 0:29:11.720
<v Speaker 2>you say Bank of America? Did you say Sellars? Saying

0:29:11.800 --> 0:29:15.320
<v Speaker 2>health in Hell? Yeah, I said health and sure did

0:29:15.640 --> 0:29:17.120
<v Speaker 2>own his own. Yeah, So all he was checking up

0:29:17.120 --> 0:29:19.360
<v Speaker 2>all these boxes, you know, and he's young, Like he's

0:29:19.400 --> 0:29:23.920
<v Speaker 2>like yeah, anyway, So I told him. She's like, I

0:29:23.920 --> 0:29:25.680
<v Speaker 2>was like, mom, I really I like him, but like

0:29:25.720 --> 0:29:28.920
<v Speaker 2>his voice, I don't know, I can't you know, you know,

0:29:28.960 --> 0:29:31.600
<v Speaker 2>it's a thing. I was like, his voice kind of

0:29:31.640 --> 0:29:34.680
<v Speaker 2>irritates me. And she was like, what do you She's like,

0:29:34.720 --> 0:29:37.360
<v Speaker 2>call him, call him right now? You did? You know?

0:29:37.600 --> 0:29:39.360
<v Speaker 2>Everybody said that when you said it. I was like, well,

0:29:39.360 --> 0:29:41.440
<v Speaker 2>call him, let speak or anything. Well first because I called.

0:29:41.440 --> 0:29:44.040
<v Speaker 2>The first time I called was Sebastian and his ass

0:29:44.080 --> 0:29:47.320
<v Speaker 2>is so motherfucking extra. I called and then he was

0:29:47.320 --> 0:29:51.600
<v Speaker 2>like hello, and I had to hang up the phone

0:29:51.840 --> 0:29:54.280
<v Speaker 2>because he was so goddamn loud. And then I was,

0:29:54.320 --> 0:29:56.120
<v Speaker 2>and then he was like I called it back. He's like,

0:29:56.400 --> 0:30:00.840
<v Speaker 2>are you okay?

0:30:02.440 --> 0:30:05.040
<v Speaker 1>So anyway, I have to think somewhere trying to talk

0:30:05.120 --> 0:30:07.360
<v Speaker 1>like the very white I'm all the rest of.

0:30:07.320 --> 0:30:10.240
<v Speaker 2>His life, Jesus, look he better, And I know your

0:30:10.240 --> 0:30:16.240
<v Speaker 2>mother fucking listening and your voice fucking sucks. Hate you

0:30:16.320 --> 0:30:22.640
<v Speaker 2>huh yeah yeah, but don't open it right now. It's

0:30:22.680 --> 0:30:25.640
<v Speaker 2>not Christmas. Okay, close the door. Close the door, please

0:30:25.920 --> 0:30:28.480
<v Speaker 2>close the door. Why is just their tops off? You know,

0:30:29.120 --> 0:30:31.880
<v Speaker 2>but just the top because she likes her skirt on.

0:30:32.040 --> 0:30:34.320
<v Speaker 2>If it were parents have just of course with Iri

0:30:34.480 --> 0:30:38.240
<v Speaker 2>just does whatever Luna does, Like, oh my god. Anyway,

0:30:40.120 --> 0:30:42.760
<v Speaker 2>so I call him. I'm in the car with my

0:30:42.800 --> 0:30:45.520
<v Speaker 2>mom and I call him on speakerphone and he says

0:30:45.560 --> 0:30:48.600
<v Speaker 2>a few things that I know my mom liked. First

0:30:49.080 --> 0:30:52.320
<v Speaker 2>number one, please please, I didn't hear this. I was

0:30:52.320 --> 0:30:54.040
<v Speaker 2>telling him was I'm going to get my nails done,

0:30:54.000 --> 0:30:55.720
<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, he's like, what color you gonna do?

0:30:55.720 --> 0:30:58.560
<v Speaker 2>And I was like this basic nude and he's like,

0:30:58.920 --> 0:31:03.680
<v Speaker 2>it's not basic, baby, it's classic excession thing a mom

0:31:03.720 --> 0:31:06.280
<v Speaker 2>and be like she was like I saw her like

0:31:06.640 --> 0:31:14.720
<v Speaker 2>start nodding her head like yes, bitch, yes classic friend

0:31:14.880 --> 0:31:20.400
<v Speaker 2>Chip never on too basic classic And then he was

0:31:20.440 --> 0:31:25.040
<v Speaker 2>talking about him. He was like, yeah, he went shopping

0:31:25.600 --> 0:31:27.840
<v Speaker 2>and I don't know, he was just talking about shit whatever.

0:31:28.160 --> 0:31:30.680
<v Speaker 2>So we hang up the phone. My mom's like, he

0:31:30.880 --> 0:31:33.520
<v Speaker 2>is his voice is not that bad. Okay, you're being

0:31:33.640 --> 0:31:35.440
<v Speaker 2>so hard. Why are you so hard on everyone? You're

0:31:35.440 --> 0:31:37.080
<v Speaker 2>never gonna find someone to do this hard on someone.

0:31:37.320 --> 0:31:40.040
<v Speaker 2>She's like, what's what's the hold up? Just go to

0:31:40.040 --> 0:31:42.560
<v Speaker 2>the concert. And I was like what she's like, but

0:31:42.880 --> 0:31:45.400
<v Speaker 2>it's fine. I would have been like snow there. So

0:31:45.760 --> 0:31:46.960
<v Speaker 2>she gave me the green line and I was like,

0:31:47.000 --> 0:31:49.480
<v Speaker 2>we canna watch my baby? Okay. Well I can't say no,

0:31:49.800 --> 0:31:52.000
<v Speaker 2>so I said okay. So I called him that next

0:31:52.080 --> 0:31:54.320
<v Speaker 2>day and I was like, I'm going I'll stay. I'll

0:31:54.320 --> 0:31:55.800
<v Speaker 2>stay an extra day. And I was like, you know what,

0:31:55.880 --> 0:31:57.479
<v Speaker 2>maybe I am being too hard on him, Like let

0:31:57.520 --> 0:32:02.920
<v Speaker 2>me just like just stop, just just stop thinking, stop feeling,

0:32:04.120 --> 0:32:11.000
<v Speaker 2>stop overthinking, and just go with it. So that's what

0:32:11.080 --> 0:32:13.880
<v Speaker 2>I do. So he books his ticket and we're planning,

0:32:14.000 --> 0:32:18.240
<v Speaker 2>sends his adds adds the plans to the calendar. We're

0:32:18.240 --> 0:32:19.720
<v Speaker 2>looking forward to it. Oh. He also buys me a

0:32:19.720 --> 0:32:22.000
<v Speaker 2>birthday present. He bought me a whip, which you did

0:32:22.040 --> 0:32:23.880
<v Speaker 2>not tell me this. We were going to keep this

0:32:23.920 --> 0:32:28.360
<v Speaker 2>a secret. Yeah, why no, it wasn't. I wasn't. But yeah,

0:32:28.840 --> 0:32:32.560
<v Speaker 2>he bought me a whip. Wait wait, wait, hold up,

0:32:32.760 --> 0:32:37.360
<v Speaker 2>hold the fuck up? A whip as an yep, my

0:32:37.440 --> 0:32:42.440
<v Speaker 2>flog like the one like King has with multiple Okay, okay,

0:32:44.280 --> 0:32:46.760
<v Speaker 2>he sent it to your house. Well, I don't know

0:32:46.800 --> 0:32:48.040
<v Speaker 2>if he's gonna send it anymore.

0:32:48.120 --> 0:32:51.120
<v Speaker 1>But oh oh, but he said he a dude like

0:32:51.200 --> 0:32:52.080
<v Speaker 1>this one from online.

0:32:52.200 --> 0:32:53.520
<v Speaker 2>Well he was like, I bought it. I'm give me

0:32:53.520 --> 0:32:56.800
<v Speaker 2>your address. So I sent him the office address. Thank god.

0:32:57.520 --> 0:32:57.720
<v Speaker 3>Wait.

0:32:57.880 --> 0:33:00.240
<v Speaker 1>Also, if you're listening, we can take that flow and

0:33:00.240 --> 0:33:01.200
<v Speaker 1>we'll take those tickets.

0:33:01.320 --> 0:33:05.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know where to send them? Yeah, send them, bitch. Okay,

0:33:05.960 --> 0:33:09.600
<v Speaker 2>let's finish his story. We're getting off, but I'm kidding. Okay,

0:33:10.240 --> 0:33:14.360
<v Speaker 2>So whatever. Just really sweet though, things like that, like

0:33:14.440 --> 0:33:18.040
<v Speaker 2>remembering my birthday, buying me something apparently, you know, for

0:33:18.120 --> 0:33:21.040
<v Speaker 2>my birthday, and like driving to Atland. I'm like, okay,

0:33:21.200 --> 0:33:23.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm being too hard. Let me just go with it

0:33:23.320 --> 0:33:23.560
<v Speaker 2>was a.

0:33:23.480 --> 0:33:25.760
<v Speaker 1>Flag for you or for him for me to use

0:33:25.760 --> 0:33:27.600
<v Speaker 1>on him, to use on him, to use on me

0:33:28.120 --> 0:33:28.640
<v Speaker 1>for him to use.

0:33:28.880 --> 0:33:37.600
<v Speaker 2>He knows I'm gonna sub. Hey. Okay, So anyway, so yesterday,

0:33:38.160 --> 0:33:41.560
<v Speaker 2>this is his birthday, but I forgot, so I call him.

0:33:41.600 --> 0:33:44.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm talking, I'm asking him about his plans to New York,

0:33:44.520 --> 0:33:47.360
<v Speaker 2>like what time he's landing. He changed his flight because

0:33:47.360 --> 0:33:49.520
<v Speaker 2>originally was gonna leave really early, and then I was like,

0:33:49.520 --> 0:33:51.520
<v Speaker 2>you don't have to rush to leave. And then I

0:33:51.560 --> 0:33:53.360
<v Speaker 2>even was like, you can stay at my hotel, which

0:33:53.440 --> 0:33:56.800
<v Speaker 2>you know, like I was iffy about, but I was

0:33:56.840 --> 0:33:59.239
<v Speaker 2>trying to be open because I was like, you know what,

0:33:59.480 --> 0:34:03.880
<v Speaker 2>let me just stuff. Then the universe said, bitch, fuck you.

0:34:04.080 --> 0:34:05.640
<v Speaker 2>I didn't know. I didn't know. You offered a lot,

0:34:05.720 --> 0:34:07.959
<v Speaker 2>saved your hotel. I did, okay, but then a good night.

0:34:08.320 --> 0:34:10.279
<v Speaker 2>Yeah it was one night. Literally, I just think all

0:34:10.280 --> 0:34:12.680
<v Speaker 2>the details, bitch. Sorry, Well, we got to save them

0:34:12.719 --> 0:34:15.319
<v Speaker 2>for everyone else, a secret whip to save them for

0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:21.040
<v Speaker 2>everyone else listening. So then I'm calling, I'm on the phone,

0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:23.359
<v Speaker 2>I'm at the office, and I'm telling I'm like, okay, bye,

0:34:23.400 --> 0:34:25.240
<v Speaker 2>like I haven't said a happy birthday because I didn't.

0:34:25.280 --> 0:34:28.279
<v Speaker 2>I realized I forgot, which tells you a lot as well.

0:34:29.600 --> 0:34:31.680
<v Speaker 2>So I was like, okay, well, I got to go

0:34:31.680 --> 0:34:33.360
<v Speaker 2>and he's like, oh you aren't you forgetting something? And

0:34:33.400 --> 0:34:36.319
<v Speaker 2>I was like uh And I was like, oh shit,

0:34:36.440 --> 0:34:39.479
<v Speaker 2>it's your birthday. Oh my god, I'm so sorry. Fuck

0:34:39.560 --> 0:34:42.440
<v Speaker 2>happy birthday. Oh my god. I felt so bad. So

0:34:42.480 --> 0:34:44.839
<v Speaker 2>we hung up the phone and this girl that works

0:34:44.840 --> 0:34:47.239
<v Speaker 2>with us at you know, at the office, she's like,

0:34:48.000 --> 0:34:49.920
<v Speaker 2>you forgot his birthday. She's like, you have to send

0:34:50.000 --> 0:34:52.759
<v Speaker 2>him something because I told him about him the night

0:34:52.960 --> 0:34:55.160
<v Speaker 2>the day before and she and I showed her his

0:34:55.280 --> 0:34:58.120
<v Speaker 2>picture and she was like, he's the best. What is

0:34:58.160 --> 0:35:00.359
<v Speaker 2>wrong with you? Like she was all teen hitm look

0:35:00.400 --> 0:35:02.480
<v Speaker 2>at God. And she was like, we have to send

0:35:02.560 --> 0:35:04.440
<v Speaker 2>him cupcakes. I was like, I don't know his a

0:35:04.560 --> 0:35:06.960
<v Speaker 2>dress and she was like, oh, I can find that,

0:35:07.000 --> 0:35:08.600
<v Speaker 2>don't worry. And I was like, well, actually she is

0:35:08.719 --> 0:35:11.399
<v Speaker 2>like she's crazy. I love her so fucking much. Thank

0:35:11.400 --> 0:35:14.600
<v Speaker 2>God for her. Actually, but I was like, no, I

0:35:14.600 --> 0:35:16.239
<v Speaker 2>know his one of his friend's Instagram. So we all

0:35:16.320 --> 0:35:17.799
<v Speaker 2>like DM him and tell him. I want to like

0:35:17.840 --> 0:35:20.200
<v Speaker 2>send him something. I couldn't find it. I could not

0:35:20.239 --> 0:35:24.799
<v Speaker 2>find this motherfucker's DM. So she's still like steady googling him.

0:35:24.920 --> 0:35:26.520
<v Speaker 2>She's like, doesn't he know what his homeows. I'm sure

0:35:26.520 --> 0:35:30.400
<v Speaker 2>there's like homeowner records, Charlotte. But then in the process

0:35:30.400 --> 0:35:32.879
<v Speaker 2>of in the process of just searching his name, which

0:35:32.920 --> 0:35:34.560
<v Speaker 2>by the way, I have done, but I did. I

0:35:34.600 --> 0:35:38.560
<v Speaker 2>guess I didn't look very hard, She's like, oh, he

0:35:38.600 --> 0:35:42.080
<v Speaker 2>has an engagement website, and so she clicks on it

0:35:42.120 --> 0:35:46.319
<v Speaker 2>and it's him and baby mama engagement photos and and

0:35:46.320 --> 0:35:49.120
<v Speaker 2>I'd never seen her before. I don't even know her name, Okay,

0:35:49.440 --> 0:35:52.239
<v Speaker 2>so I asked. I told her. I was like, oh, yeah,

0:35:52.239 --> 0:35:54.839
<v Speaker 2>well he was engaged. I knew that. I was like, yeah,

0:35:54.840 --> 0:35:57.000
<v Speaker 2>they probably took engagement photos. That didn't really shock me.

0:35:57.239 --> 0:35:59.120
<v Speaker 2>I was more intrigued, like, oh, what does she look like?

0:35:59.400 --> 0:36:01.279
<v Speaker 2>You know, bitches, you know we're so basic and shit,

0:36:01.640 --> 0:36:05.160
<v Speaker 2>what does she look like? So basic? And I was

0:36:05.239 --> 0:36:07.160
<v Speaker 2>She's like, you never listened her Instagram. I was like,

0:36:08.080 --> 0:36:09.680
<v Speaker 2>I've never seen her before. I don't even know what

0:36:09.680 --> 0:36:11.160
<v Speaker 2>her name is. And I was like, okay, well, let's

0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:13.360
<v Speaker 2>just get the address I want to send the fucking cupcakes.

0:36:13.480 --> 0:36:16.640
<v Speaker 2>So she pushes that aside. She fucking finds his address, bitch,

0:36:16.680 --> 0:36:19.800
<v Speaker 2>because it's just crazy. It's just crazy. She finds his address.

0:36:20.200 --> 0:36:22.600
<v Speaker 2>I know it's the right one because of this photo

0:36:22.640 --> 0:36:24.600
<v Speaker 2>he sent me up. I know, I saw like a stalk.

0:36:25.680 --> 0:36:28.240
<v Speaker 2>Well what was the photo? He like took a video

0:36:28.280 --> 0:36:30.400
<v Speaker 2>outside of his house because it was raining on Halloween.

0:36:30.440 --> 0:36:32.040
<v Speaker 2>Who oh, and it was like a cul de.

0:36:32.120 --> 0:36:34.920
<v Speaker 1>Sac and she was from how he fris Okay, you

0:36:34.960 --> 0:36:36.440
<v Speaker 1>knew it was the street reversed.

0:36:36.560 --> 0:36:40.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and so he was like, it's raining outside, and

0:36:40.320 --> 0:36:42.640
<v Speaker 2>so this is Halloween, which, by the way, Halloween he

0:36:42.680 --> 0:36:44.760
<v Speaker 2>told me him and his son addressing up as Martin characters,

0:36:44.760 --> 0:36:47.279
<v Speaker 2>and that he went to a party and there were

0:36:47.280 --> 0:36:49.600
<v Speaker 2>all these moms hitting on him because he's a single dad,

0:36:49.800 --> 0:36:52.640
<v Speaker 2>and you know, they were like trying to be stepmama.

0:36:53.000 --> 0:36:56.040
<v Speaker 2>And this is the whole thing he told me. So anyway,

0:36:56.320 --> 0:36:58.640
<v Speaker 2>just keep that in mind, guys, remember that story. So

0:36:59.360 --> 0:37:01.799
<v Speaker 2>we finally Dy, we call the cupcake place, we tell

0:37:01.840 --> 0:37:03.480
<v Speaker 2>them to send it. I know he's out of town,

0:37:03.520 --> 0:37:04.799
<v Speaker 2>but he's going to be back that night. So I

0:37:04.800 --> 0:37:07.080
<v Speaker 2>asked that they they'll send it to the latest driver.

0:37:07.200 --> 0:37:10.839
<v Speaker 2>And I write a note and I write, I bet

0:37:10.840 --> 0:37:13.560
<v Speaker 2>you thought, I bet you thought I forgot can't wait

0:37:13.560 --> 0:37:17.520
<v Speaker 2>to see you in New York, Love Erica. So then

0:37:17.560 --> 0:37:19.600
<v Speaker 2>we should we get those We get that handled pay

0:37:19.640 --> 0:37:22.080
<v Speaker 2>for that. So then so then she's like, okay, wait,

0:37:22.160 --> 0:37:23.920
<v Speaker 2>so let's go back to the girl because I love

0:37:23.960 --> 0:37:26.000
<v Speaker 2>this bitch. And she's like, who is this bitch? And

0:37:26.000 --> 0:37:28.160
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't know the baby mama. She's like,

0:37:28.200 --> 0:37:29.040
<v Speaker 2>let's give her instagram.

0:37:29.120 --> 0:37:33.440
<v Speaker 1>I love us women. Okay, you gotta give us a minute, right,

0:37:33.920 --> 0:37:35.320
<v Speaker 1>one second? Five minutes?

0:37:35.320 --> 0:37:43.000
<v Speaker 2>Close the door, and I want to literally, we're the bitch.

0:37:44.320 --> 0:37:47.600
<v Speaker 2>I wonder if I could control it, for she's gonna

0:37:47.600 --> 0:37:49.480
<v Speaker 2>be dirty, looks through the glass. I'm scared trying to

0:37:49.560 --> 0:38:02.440
<v Speaker 2>control the vote anyway, Okay, so go So we look

0:38:02.520 --> 0:38:05.520
<v Speaker 2>up her Instagram and she pulls it up and it

0:38:05.560 --> 0:38:08.120
<v Speaker 2>says it's her, she's a beautiful girl, and it says

0:38:08.239 --> 0:38:11.520
<v Speaker 2>like she lives in North Carolina and she's a fashion blogger.

0:38:11.560 --> 0:38:13.400
<v Speaker 2>And I'm like she's like, no, she lives in North Carolina.

0:38:13.400 --> 0:38:15.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, no, she lives in London. So she's clicking pictures.

0:38:15.360 --> 0:38:17.640
<v Speaker 2>She's like, oh maybe that's no, that's my New York.

0:38:17.920 --> 0:38:21.400
<v Speaker 2>Oh that's not London. And then I'm like, wait, what

0:38:21.520 --> 0:38:23.120
<v Speaker 2>do you I don't see any London. And then I'm like,

0:38:23.239 --> 0:38:26.040
<v Speaker 2>wait is that him? And it's a picture of them

0:38:26.080 --> 0:38:30.200
<v Speaker 2>as a family, but not like a co parenting picture,

0:38:31.120 --> 0:38:36.759
<v Speaker 2>like I'm fucking married picture, and I just keep digging. No.

0:38:36.880 --> 0:38:39.720
<v Speaker 2>Then she goes, okay, well, oh wait, let's click her blog.

0:38:40.239 --> 0:38:42.399
<v Speaker 2>So let me click her blog and it says they're

0:38:42.440 --> 0:38:44.439
<v Speaker 2>like one of the posts is the Bahamas and that's

0:38:44.440 --> 0:38:46.600
<v Speaker 2>where he told me they did the exchange and it

0:38:46.680 --> 0:38:49.720
<v Speaker 2>was this year. So I click on the fucking blog, bitch.

0:38:50.760 --> 0:38:53.360
<v Speaker 2>For first of all, it's broken up by day. So

0:38:53.520 --> 0:38:58.480
<v Speaker 2>day one, Day one, me and my husband Keishan went

0:38:58.520 --> 0:39:00.160
<v Speaker 2>on a boat. Today there's a picture of the I'm

0:39:00.160 --> 0:39:02.960
<v Speaker 2>on a boat like cheers in Champagne and he's laughing.

0:39:03.520 --> 0:39:06.960
<v Speaker 2>She's fucking looking fucking fashionable and they look like a

0:39:06.960 --> 0:39:11.040
<v Speaker 2>fucking Instagram ad and I'm and then day two my

0:39:11.040 --> 0:39:14.080
<v Speaker 2>my my Insta husband because he guess he takes all

0:39:14.120 --> 0:39:17.920
<v Speaker 2>of her pictures. She literally my Insta husband, like my

0:39:18.000 --> 0:39:21.239
<v Speaker 2>Insta Bay husband, some ship like that. Because you know,

0:39:21.280 --> 0:39:22.000
<v Speaker 2>I clicked the blog.

0:39:22.040 --> 0:39:24.000
<v Speaker 1>I looked through some of those pictures, girl, but I

0:39:24.040 --> 0:39:24.680
<v Speaker 1>did not read.

0:39:25.160 --> 0:39:28.319
<v Speaker 2>I read that was that was in the buttons, like

0:39:28.480 --> 0:39:30.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, he pressed the buttons and you can see

0:39:30.160 --> 0:39:34.840
<v Speaker 2>like video, Oh there's videos up there Bahama trip. I

0:39:34.840 --> 0:39:38.920
<v Speaker 2>would have to look at that again. Wait, bitch, what

0:39:38.960 --> 0:39:42.560
<v Speaker 2>were they doing like on vacation. They're just on vacation together.

0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:45.400
<v Speaker 2>They're on a trip together. Was a child there? I

0:39:45.440 --> 0:39:47.399
<v Speaker 2>didn't even see any pictures of the kid. I think

0:39:47.440 --> 0:39:49.439
<v Speaker 2>maybe he said it was a family vacation. I don't

0:39:49.440 --> 0:39:52.239
<v Speaker 2>I don't remember. I used zoned out. All I just

0:39:52.280 --> 0:39:55.120
<v Speaker 2>saw was that. Then I saw Halloween photo and it

0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:57.920
<v Speaker 2>was not just him as Martin and his son as

0:39:57.920 --> 0:40:01.920
<v Speaker 2>a Martin character. She was fucking genu bitch, she was Gina.

0:40:02.640 --> 0:40:04.400
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh, you just left out Gina. You

0:40:04.480 --> 0:40:06.440
<v Speaker 2>just well the fact that he said me and my

0:40:06.480 --> 0:40:08.880
<v Speaker 2>son are Martin. I knew that that was bizarre. You

0:40:08.920 --> 0:40:13.080
<v Speaker 2>can't have Martin without Gina. You're so right, right like

0:40:13.160 --> 0:40:14.280
<v Speaker 2>the fact that you guys.

0:40:14.040 --> 0:40:19.080
<v Speaker 1>Were just Martin, Like nah, yeah, like there has to

0:40:19.160 --> 0:40:19.640
<v Speaker 1>be a Gina.

0:40:20.040 --> 0:40:21.560
<v Speaker 2>And who who was this?

0:40:21.719 --> 0:40:24.520
<v Speaker 1>I thought he said the son of Spider Man. He

0:40:24.719 --> 0:40:27.880
<v Speaker 1>was so he was just Martin. He doesn't even have

0:40:27.920 --> 0:40:30.920
<v Speaker 1>that much character to be Martin by himself on Halloween.

0:40:31.239 --> 0:40:32.200
<v Speaker 1>And I hope you hears.

0:40:32.040 --> 0:40:33.960
<v Speaker 2>A character on Martin too. I don't know, I just

0:40:34.920 --> 0:40:37.280
<v Speaker 2>it doesn't matter. All I know is the nigga's married.

0:40:37.360 --> 0:40:41.000
<v Speaker 2>He's been married for five years, the entire time, happily married,

0:40:41.360 --> 0:40:44.040
<v Speaker 2>with his child, living in his home, with his wife,

0:40:44.080 --> 0:40:47.120
<v Speaker 2>who lives in North Carolina, who does not fucking live

0:40:47.560 --> 0:40:50.200
<v Speaker 2>in London, who never took her kid away from him,

0:40:50.440 --> 0:40:53.400
<v Speaker 2>who never had an abortion, who never got pregnant by

0:40:53.440 --> 0:40:58.160
<v Speaker 2>a soccer player, And it's probably a wonderful mother and

0:40:58.520 --> 0:41:01.239
<v Speaker 2>a great fucking wife for being with the fucking sociopath.

0:41:01.440 --> 0:41:03.160
<v Speaker 2>You didn't even put the rest of it on there.

0:41:03.320 --> 0:41:06.680
<v Speaker 1>What that he FaceTime with you and showed like said, like,

0:41:07.000 --> 0:41:08.319
<v Speaker 1>oh right, yeah, he's this.

0:41:08.320 --> 0:41:10.799
<v Speaker 2>Nick was facetiming me while he was hanging out with

0:41:10.840 --> 0:41:14.160
<v Speaker 2>his son, Like I saw I interacted with his son

0:41:14.200 --> 0:41:17.279
<v Speaker 2>on FaceTime, and like, I just can't believe someone would

0:41:17.320 --> 0:41:21.839
<v Speaker 2>do that. I would never ever ever do that, even

0:41:21.840 --> 0:41:24.480
<v Speaker 2>as a single person I'm conscious of, Like even who

0:41:24.560 --> 0:41:26.480
<v Speaker 2>I allow her to see or hear me talk to

0:41:27.000 --> 0:41:29.319
<v Speaker 2>the fact that you would allow me to engage and

0:41:29.360 --> 0:41:32.680
<v Speaker 2>you're married in your home in the like, it's just

0:41:33.040 --> 0:41:37.000
<v Speaker 2>mind fucking blowing that he painted this entire picture of

0:41:37.080 --> 0:41:40.320
<v Speaker 2>himself being the single father too, like preyed upon my

0:41:40.480 --> 0:41:45.759
<v Speaker 2>singleness in a way. Knew that that was a common ground, Yeah,

0:41:45.760 --> 0:41:49.600
<v Speaker 2>a common ground or like something for empathy, for empathy,

0:41:49.719 --> 0:41:52.160
<v Speaker 2>which I'm like, I don't want your fucking empathy or

0:41:52.200 --> 0:41:54.239
<v Speaker 2>for empathy for him. But I'm just saying, but that's

0:41:54.239 --> 0:41:57.320
<v Speaker 2>how he viewed singleness, right, Like it's so it's so terrible.

0:41:57.400 --> 0:41:59.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm it's so hard. I don't know what I'm gonna do.

0:42:00.360 --> 0:42:04.200
<v Speaker 2>It's just like I was literally on the like I

0:42:04.239 --> 0:42:06.320
<v Speaker 2>fell to the floor. I was like, shut the f.

0:42:06.480 --> 0:42:09.120
<v Speaker 2>I was laughing because I was like, this can't be happening.

0:42:09.200 --> 0:42:12.160
<v Speaker 1>You're kidding and to sink You're about to go spend

0:42:12.239 --> 0:42:13.719
<v Speaker 1>another night with this man.

0:42:14.000 --> 0:42:16.799
<v Speaker 2>He's changed your flights, he's flying, he's changing his flight

0:42:16.840 --> 0:42:19.120
<v Speaker 2>from LA to go back home to LA to go

0:42:19.200 --> 0:42:20.800
<v Speaker 2>see me in New York for one night.

0:42:21.000 --> 0:42:24.080
<v Speaker 1>A snow a Legra ticket. Nigga, I still want you

0:42:24.080 --> 0:42:31.000
<v Speaker 1>to form I love snow Legra. You know what's the most.

0:42:31.239 --> 0:42:36.000
<v Speaker 2>Jaw dropping thing to me is it's just one thing

0:42:36.080 --> 0:42:36.479
<v Speaker 2>to lie.

0:42:37.120 --> 0:42:40.279
<v Speaker 1>You wanna be sneaky, you wanna get some pussy, you

0:42:40.320 --> 0:42:42.560
<v Speaker 1>want to have maybe a sidelife. Maybe your life is

0:42:42.600 --> 0:42:47.480
<v Speaker 1>that boring, not maybe obviously clearly, but for you to

0:42:47.640 --> 0:42:53.040
<v Speaker 1>just pull out of the clear blue black asshole of

0:42:53.080 --> 0:43:02.000
<v Speaker 1>your asshole lies, blatant phantom see from a fantasy book

0:43:02.239 --> 0:43:04.000
<v Speaker 1>of your motherfucking psycho.

0:43:03.800 --> 0:43:06.880
<v Speaker 2>Mind, and then like, you know what really makes a

0:43:06.880 --> 0:43:08.359
<v Speaker 2>couple lies that I don't even ask you to make

0:43:08.680 --> 0:43:13.920
<v Speaker 2>Like I've had such a hard day, you have you have? You? Like?

0:43:14.000 --> 0:43:17.799
<v Speaker 2>What is this? Like? Literally like he told me he's

0:43:17.840 --> 0:43:20.640
<v Speaker 2>an actor one night he told me, Like, I was like,

0:43:20.680 --> 0:43:22.400
<v Speaker 2>how is he doing? He's like, thanks for asking. No

0:43:22.440 --> 0:43:25.279
<v Speaker 2>one ever asks me, do you know how he's doing?

0:43:25.320 --> 0:43:30.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, they don't. She barely FaceTime? Yeah, He's like

0:43:30.200 --> 0:43:31.960
<v Speaker 2>I barely even see her. She I don't even know.

0:43:32.000 --> 0:43:33.520
<v Speaker 2>I haven't talked to her in like a week or two.

0:43:34.120 --> 0:43:37.600
<v Speaker 2>And even told me like when he oh goday, So

0:43:37.640 --> 0:43:40.000
<v Speaker 2>he told me that, Like I was like, how is

0:43:40.040 --> 0:43:42.239
<v Speaker 2>he doing adjusting to being back with you? And he's like,

0:43:42.320 --> 0:43:44.959
<v Speaker 2>you know, he still asks for her. Still he still

0:43:45.000 --> 0:43:47.520
<v Speaker 2>asks for his mom at night. I'm like, thinking back

0:43:47.560 --> 0:43:50.080
<v Speaker 2>on these moments, how sick you have to be to

0:43:50.160 --> 0:43:54.160
<v Speaker 2>usual child as a bait for a bitch like I

0:43:54.280 --> 0:43:57.200
<v Speaker 2>have bait for pussy, as a bait for attention, as

0:43:57.200 --> 0:44:01.399
<v Speaker 2>a bait for whatever imaginary relationship or fucking idea you've

0:44:01.440 --> 0:44:03.839
<v Speaker 2>had in your head about what this or we could

0:44:03.840 --> 0:44:06.680
<v Speaker 2>be because I know you thought about it. I know

0:44:06.960 --> 0:44:09.399
<v Speaker 2>he envisioned what our shit would be, Like how fun

0:44:09.600 --> 0:44:13.680
<v Speaker 2>I felt, how exciting I felt to him, right, he

0:44:13.719 --> 0:44:16.920
<v Speaker 2>was so excited was the idea of me. Right, And

0:44:17.440 --> 0:44:20.160
<v Speaker 2>that's really sad. It's it's just.

0:44:22.080 --> 0:44:23.480
<v Speaker 1>And but the thing is it's had to go to

0:44:23.560 --> 0:44:26.279
<v Speaker 1>those lengths to just get a little piece of it.

0:44:26.640 --> 0:44:29.480
<v Speaker 2>And I and I really and like for me, like

0:44:29.719 --> 0:44:32.120
<v Speaker 2>my gut told me, no, I went against it, but

0:44:32.200 --> 0:44:34.520
<v Speaker 2>not only that, like I was, I was really like

0:44:35.000 --> 0:44:38.839
<v Speaker 2>I cared about him because you're human. Yeah, like maybe

0:44:38.840 --> 0:44:42.320
<v Speaker 2>it's not like a way of like I even told myself,

0:44:42.400 --> 0:44:44.799
<v Speaker 2>I was like, you know, I don't know about what

0:44:44.840 --> 0:44:47.399
<v Speaker 2>we have here romantically, but like the fact that this

0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:49.560
<v Speaker 2>man is taking care of his son on his own,

0:44:50.239 --> 0:44:54.160
<v Speaker 2>like that's admirable. Like I'm proud to have someone even

0:44:54.200 --> 0:44:57.200
<v Speaker 2>like listening to us that, Like you know, it's taking

0:44:57.239 --> 0:44:59.719
<v Speaker 2>in what we say as mothers and cares like that.

0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:04.480
<v Speaker 2>I felt that you with that, Yeah, wow, Like I

0:45:04.480 --> 0:45:07.440
<v Speaker 2>don't know, I just I'm happy I'm reaching the single

0:45:07.520 --> 0:45:13.080
<v Speaker 2>dads too. But it's just so crazy how I don't

0:45:13.120 --> 0:45:15.640
<v Speaker 2>know what he thought in his head, what how this

0:45:15.719 --> 0:45:17.440
<v Speaker 2>was going to turn out? But anyway, So after I

0:45:17.480 --> 0:45:20.040
<v Speaker 2>found out all this shit, right, oh okay, let's get

0:45:20.080 --> 0:45:22.239
<v Speaker 2>back onto the store. So after I found out all

0:45:22.280 --> 0:45:26.359
<v Speaker 2>this shit, I was like, what the fuck? And I

0:45:26.960 --> 0:45:29.479
<v Speaker 2>didn't know what to do except call the cupcake place

0:45:29.480 --> 0:45:31.840
<v Speaker 2>and make sure they expedited the cupcakes immediately to his

0:45:31.880 --> 0:45:33.680
<v Speaker 2>home because I wanted to make sure they got there

0:45:33.719 --> 0:45:36.880
<v Speaker 2>before he did. And you know, part of me was like,

0:45:39.840 --> 0:45:42.319
<v Speaker 2>that's a bitch move. But then I said, you know what, Erica,

0:45:42.400 --> 0:45:45.920
<v Speaker 2>you're always so fucking nice. No, someone needs to know,

0:45:46.560 --> 0:45:49.920
<v Speaker 2>and that's someone. It's probably his wife, because I'm worried

0:45:49.960 --> 0:45:53.440
<v Speaker 2>for her. I am. I am her because this person,

0:45:53.680 --> 0:45:55.120
<v Speaker 2>this isn't the first time he's done that, and he

0:45:55.160 --> 0:45:57.880
<v Speaker 2>has no concept of real ill a fake Instagram account

0:45:57.880 --> 0:46:00.480
<v Speaker 2>where I'm sure he's reaching out to multiple women he follows.

0:46:00.640 --> 0:46:02.759
<v Speaker 2>I saw when I looked at his following list on there,

0:46:02.760 --> 0:46:05.400
<v Speaker 2>because one day I was like, he's not following anyone

0:46:05.680 --> 0:46:08.400
<v Speaker 2>or followed by anyone, but he's following like sixty something

0:46:08.440 --> 0:46:10.919
<v Speaker 2>people and they're all like a lot of more podcasts.

0:46:11.640 --> 0:46:16.839
<v Speaker 2>They're all men's podcast h yep, and other things. Other

0:46:17.000 --> 0:46:18.960
<v Speaker 2>male things like that he wants to keep up with

0:46:19.000 --> 0:46:21.480
<v Speaker 2>like sports things, but a lot of women. And I

0:46:21.560 --> 0:46:24.799
<v Speaker 2>was like, hmm, Now, looking back, it all makes sense.

0:46:24.800 --> 0:46:26.839
<v Speaker 2>He has a secret Instagram account that his wife doesn't

0:46:26.880 --> 0:46:28.880
<v Speaker 2>know about because he probably has already gotten in trouble

0:46:28.880 --> 0:46:31.480
<v Speaker 2>for being on Instagram doing dumb shit, doing some dumb shit.

0:46:31.719 --> 0:46:33.480
<v Speaker 2>So now he has a secret account where he reaches

0:46:33.520 --> 0:46:36.160
<v Speaker 2>out to people. Fuck it has Patreon where he like,

0:46:36.320 --> 0:46:40.120
<v Speaker 2>that's how he lures the men in, like supporting the dream,

0:46:40.239 --> 0:46:44.319
<v Speaker 2>right right, supporting the cause, supporting the dream, and he

0:46:44.440 --> 0:46:46.920
<v Speaker 2>happens to be fine a little bit. I don't know

0:46:46.920 --> 0:46:48.640
<v Speaker 2>about that voice, but he happens to be fine a

0:46:48.680 --> 0:46:53.319
<v Speaker 2>little bit, and I feel like I don't know, Like

0:46:53.360 --> 0:46:57.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I've I was so disappointed with myself.

0:46:57.040 --> 0:46:59.040
<v Speaker 2>I was like, how did I not? But then I'm

0:46:59.040 --> 0:47:01.000
<v Speaker 2>looking back and I'm like, no, I didn't do anything wrong.

0:47:01.040 --> 0:47:02.680
<v Speaker 2>I went by I went into this with like a

0:47:02.760 --> 0:47:06.040
<v Speaker 2>pure heart, pure intentions. I didn't follow my gut. Yes,

0:47:06.040 --> 0:47:08.400
<v Speaker 2>that was It challenged me because I was like, am

0:47:08.400 --> 0:47:11.080
<v Speaker 2>I being shallow? I'm trying to push through this, you know,

0:47:11.800 --> 0:47:15.279
<v Speaker 2>and whatever. So he texts me after I find out

0:47:15.360 --> 0:47:18.160
<v Speaker 2>because he has no idea I've found out. So we

0:47:18.200 --> 0:47:20.879
<v Speaker 2>had talked about Frozen earlier because we're parents and that's

0:47:20.880 --> 0:47:23.360
<v Speaker 2>what we do. And I told him I fucking hate Frozen.

0:47:23.480 --> 0:47:25.480
<v Speaker 2>I really just don't like that movie. I'm ready for

0:47:25.520 --> 0:47:26.840
<v Speaker 2>it to be done. And I can't believe there's a

0:47:26.840 --> 0:47:29.600
<v Speaker 2>whole other one coming out. Like I thought we were

0:47:29.600 --> 0:47:31.880
<v Speaker 2>off the Frozen train. I reach back on it, right.

0:47:31.960 --> 0:47:35.160
<v Speaker 2>So he sends me a link to some Frozen memes

0:47:35.239 --> 0:47:38.000
<v Speaker 2>and writes in capital letters, just to fuck with you.

0:47:39.160 --> 0:47:42.640
<v Speaker 2>So I send him a link to his wife's instagram

0:47:42.920 --> 0:47:46.040
<v Speaker 2>them dressed up like Martin characters and write in caps,

0:47:46.360 --> 0:47:49.560
<v Speaker 2>just to fuck with you. And I texted Mela this

0:47:49.640 --> 0:47:51.120
<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, bitch, look what I said. I'm like,

0:47:51.280 --> 0:47:52.920
<v Speaker 2>She's like, did he answer? What the fuck? What is

0:47:52.920 --> 0:47:56.359
<v Speaker 2>he doing? Radio me the fucking silent? But I saw

0:47:56.360 --> 0:47:58.279
<v Speaker 2>that he read it. Because I don't know if one

0:47:58.280 --> 0:48:00.279
<v Speaker 2>of you motherfuckers that has listened to right listening to

0:48:00.360 --> 0:48:02.960
<v Speaker 2>this podcast right now, if you have your messages capable

0:48:03.000 --> 0:48:05.800
<v Speaker 2>of people knowing that you read them, why, I don't

0:48:05.880 --> 0:48:09.440
<v Speaker 2>understand that. Do you understand you ever did that? No? No,

0:48:09.680 --> 0:48:11.719
<v Speaker 2>it's great for me because I know you read it,

0:48:11.840 --> 0:48:14.319
<v Speaker 2>but like, I've never understood the logic in it. I

0:48:14.360 --> 0:48:16.520
<v Speaker 2>don't want you to know what the fuck I'm doing

0:48:16.520 --> 0:48:18.560
<v Speaker 2>it all right, right right, I don't want you to

0:48:18.600 --> 0:48:22.320
<v Speaker 2>know that I'm not responding anyway. Tell me that's a

0:48:22.360 --> 0:48:24.319
<v Speaker 2>red flag. That's like a red flag for me. If

0:48:24.360 --> 0:48:27.520
<v Speaker 2>you keep your messages on red, you're maybe a serial

0:48:27.600 --> 0:48:33.080
<v Speaker 2>killer anyway. So he so, then nothing, he says nothing.

0:48:33.400 --> 0:48:35.239
<v Speaker 2>Then I go back to my Instagram because I had

0:48:35.239 --> 0:48:38.200
<v Speaker 2>sent the link of the girl's instagram to Jamila, like

0:48:38.239 --> 0:48:40.799
<v Speaker 2>can you believe this shit? And the link is expired,

0:48:40.880 --> 0:48:45.320
<v Speaker 2>like her instagram no longer exists. So I'm like, wait,

0:48:45.600 --> 0:48:47.520
<v Speaker 2>did she block me? Like? How does she know who

0:48:47.520 --> 0:48:49.360
<v Speaker 2>I am? Already? What did he tell her? Like? What

0:48:49.480 --> 0:48:51.799
<v Speaker 2>the fuck? So then Jamila goes on her Instagram and

0:48:51.840 --> 0:48:54.839
<v Speaker 2>she's also blocked, and then Sebastian goes on his. He

0:48:54.880 --> 0:48:59.920
<v Speaker 2>blocked all my friends from her instagram specifically. So I'm

0:49:00.160 --> 0:49:03.200
<v Speaker 2>just like, I don't know, Like I was just in

0:49:03.440 --> 0:49:04.080
<v Speaker 2>pure shock.

0:49:04.200 --> 0:49:06.440
<v Speaker 1>Honestly, is this considered well, at guess this is not

0:49:06.520 --> 0:49:07.560
<v Speaker 1>catfish because it's him.

0:49:07.600 --> 0:49:09.400
<v Speaker 2>No, I've been having this conversation with someone today too,

0:49:09.400 --> 0:49:13.120
<v Speaker 2>because it's like emotional catfishing. Can we call it something?

0:49:13.239 --> 0:49:17.239
<v Speaker 2>It's not like physical catfishing. It's like mind trick cat

0:49:17.360 --> 0:49:25.279
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, just fucking make a catfish, dogfish, dogs dogfish, dogfish.

0:49:25.920 --> 0:49:34.120
<v Speaker 2>It's lies of the heart, your lies. So I I

0:49:34.200 --> 0:49:37.880
<v Speaker 2>emailed him. I have his email because he's bought things

0:49:37.880 --> 0:49:41.399
<v Speaker 2>from us, so we have I have multiple email But well,

0:49:41.440 --> 0:49:45.000
<v Speaker 2>he was our og Patreon, he bought tickets to go

0:49:45.040 --> 0:49:50.880
<v Speaker 2>to our show, sent us money from Vegas. Oh he

0:49:51.000 --> 0:49:54.279
<v Speaker 2>was so invested. Listen. I forgot about that. Oh my god,

0:49:54.520 --> 0:49:55.600
<v Speaker 2>he was so invested.

0:49:55.760 --> 0:49:58.759
<v Speaker 1>Not so he was invested in us and giving us

0:49:58.880 --> 0:50:02.480
<v Speaker 1>fucking branding advice because now we know because he's a

0:50:02.600 --> 0:50:08.920
<v Speaker 1>fucking husband inst today. He one time he was like

0:50:09.000 --> 0:50:10.839
<v Speaker 1>winning in Vegas. We're like, okay, we're going to send

0:50:10.880 --> 0:50:12.760
<v Speaker 1>you fifty dollars. We need some money.

0:50:12.760 --> 0:50:14.960
<v Speaker 2>We want to, like, you know, put some money on

0:50:14.960 --> 0:50:16.560
<v Speaker 2>the book rush for fresh show.

0:50:17.600 --> 0:50:19.520
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, okay, let's just gamble it, fuck it,

0:50:19.560 --> 0:50:21.359
<v Speaker 1>let's see what happens. So he made us like what

0:50:21.480 --> 0:50:23.479
<v Speaker 1>one hundred and fifty two hundred dollars.

0:50:23.600 --> 0:50:27.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, anyway, So you emailed him and said, I just said,

0:50:27.680 --> 0:50:30.520
<v Speaker 2>I said, why I put the subject why And I said,

0:50:30.520 --> 0:50:32.520
<v Speaker 2>why would you do this to me? Like why would

0:50:32.600 --> 0:50:36.520
<v Speaker 2>you go above and beyond to just blatantly make up

0:50:36.560 --> 0:50:39.759
<v Speaker 2>elaborate lies. I was like, you know my history, you

0:50:39.800 --> 0:50:41.960
<v Speaker 2>know I have trust issues. You know I've been on

0:50:42.000 --> 0:50:45.640
<v Speaker 2>the other side of this, Like what is wrong with you?

0:50:46.360 --> 0:50:48.160
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, and the fact that you had

0:50:48.160 --> 0:50:50.560
<v Speaker 2>your son in front of me, like what is actually

0:50:50.800 --> 0:50:53.080
<v Speaker 2>what are you doing? And I was like, I deserve

0:50:53.120 --> 0:50:55.920
<v Speaker 2>an explanation. I'm a good person. Call me right now.

0:50:57.360 --> 0:50:59.960
<v Speaker 2>And he did no hered this, So he called me

0:51:01.400 --> 0:51:06.840
<v Speaker 2>and he was like, hey, I don't I don't. I know.

0:51:06.880 --> 0:51:10.200
<v Speaker 2>I can't apologize or I didn't apology. I can't apologize that.

0:51:10.200 --> 0:51:11.800
<v Speaker 2>It's not gonna make anything better. I don't even know

0:51:11.840 --> 0:51:14.600
<v Speaker 2>what to say. And I was like, yeah, I don't

0:51:14.640 --> 0:51:16.200
<v Speaker 2>know what the fuck you are doing. I don't know

0:51:16.200 --> 0:51:18.840
<v Speaker 2>what the fuck to say either. You are a sociopath.

0:51:19.200 --> 0:51:21.840
<v Speaker 2>You disgusted me, You had your son in front of me.

0:51:22.160 --> 0:51:24.840
<v Speaker 2>You talked about your wife as if she was basically

0:51:24.920 --> 0:51:29.120
<v Speaker 2>like a deadbeat mom. Meanwhile, she's living in your fucking home,

0:51:29.200 --> 0:51:33.160
<v Speaker 2>you're married. And he was like, I just I got

0:51:33.160 --> 0:51:34.799
<v Speaker 2>into deep and I didn't know how to get out

0:51:34.840 --> 0:51:36.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, got into deep.

0:51:36.320 --> 0:51:40.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you slam you physically yourself. No one asked you

0:51:40.320 --> 0:51:43.360
<v Speaker 1>to tom over here. You made so much I was

0:51:43.520 --> 0:51:45.960
<v Speaker 1>of anything. I like was like, okay, we'll see each other.

0:51:46.040 --> 0:51:53.480
<v Speaker 2>We see each other. You literally made accommodations to see me. Like,

0:51:53.560 --> 0:51:58.080
<v Speaker 2>what the fuck is wrong with you? You are a fucking psychopath.

0:51:58.880 --> 0:52:01.680
<v Speaker 2>You are a fan. She said this, She said, you're

0:52:01.719 --> 0:52:05.759
<v Speaker 2>a fan, and that is the truth, like you have.

0:52:06.960 --> 0:52:10.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm so scared for her, for his wife. Honest, that's

0:52:10.280 --> 0:52:12.959
<v Speaker 2>scary because this, if he's capable of this, this isn't

0:52:13.000 --> 0:52:16.360
<v Speaker 2>the first time he's done some fuck ass weird shit

0:52:16.800 --> 0:52:19.560
<v Speaker 2>like this. Like I wonder, oh my god, this is

0:52:19.840 --> 0:52:22.680
<v Speaker 2>you guys, if there's any podcasts out here listening and

0:52:22.719 --> 0:52:27.120
<v Speaker 2>this sound this story sounds anything familiar, let us know,

0:52:27.480 --> 0:52:29.680
<v Speaker 2>we need to make Wait, what if he's done this

0:52:29.680 --> 0:52:31.840
<v Speaker 2>to other all other women that he listens to.

0:52:31.880 --> 0:52:33.560
<v Speaker 1>You said he listened to a lot of women podcast

0:52:34.520 --> 0:52:38.080
<v Speaker 1>So what if like he got in touch and like

0:52:38.120 --> 0:52:41.400
<v Speaker 1>you said, god on Patreons supported he he ha, you know,

0:52:42.040 --> 0:52:45.200
<v Speaker 1>and what if someone else has discovered this and you're like,

0:52:45.239 --> 0:52:48.320
<v Speaker 1>not his first victim.

0:52:48.880 --> 0:52:52.399
<v Speaker 2>I need to know the details. All I know is

0:52:53.000 --> 0:52:57.759
<v Speaker 2>that shit is crazy. I are you hear I hear

0:52:57.800 --> 0:53:01.360
<v Speaker 2>about things like this, but I never think it's gonna

0:53:01.360 --> 0:53:06.799
<v Speaker 2>be me. And it's just I can't believe, like your

0:53:06.920 --> 0:53:10.440
<v Speaker 2>whole like you're married, you're so like you're fucking married,

0:53:10.560 --> 0:53:11.360
<v Speaker 2>and we're so green.

0:53:11.440 --> 0:53:13.120
<v Speaker 1>I just think like even when I met him, he

0:53:13.160 --> 0:53:15.680
<v Speaker 1>seemed rather normal. We sound cool, like we all like

0:53:16.280 --> 0:53:18.440
<v Speaker 1>laughed and chilled. Like granted we'd both a.

0:53:18.719 --> 0:53:23.160
<v Speaker 2>Level of compartmentalizing that that man can do is a

0:53:23.200 --> 0:53:26.880
<v Speaker 2>scary thing and it's deep.

0:53:26.800 --> 0:53:29.640
<v Speaker 1>And it's scary for us as just single women, like

0:53:30.320 --> 0:53:33.879
<v Speaker 1>you could only have what someone gives you to go

0:53:33.960 --> 0:53:36.080
<v Speaker 1>for us, unless you're Christina and you know how to

0:53:36.080 --> 0:53:39.320
<v Speaker 1>dig deep into the googles, you know what I'm saying,

0:53:39.440 --> 0:53:42.640
<v Speaker 1>Like you you just take something for face value and

0:53:42.680 --> 0:53:45.040
<v Speaker 1>you have to believe it and then come to find

0:53:45.040 --> 0:53:49.759
<v Speaker 1>out who knows who niggas are. That's that's scary, you know,

0:53:50.000 --> 0:53:53.680
<v Speaker 1>fucking sex traffickings at all time, highs, kidnappers.

0:53:53.000 --> 0:53:55.040
<v Speaker 2>It's just all times, it's just too weird. It's just

0:53:55.120 --> 0:53:57.759
<v Speaker 2>too easy. And like this week I've just had like

0:53:57.920 --> 0:54:01.520
<v Speaker 2>some weird things too, like a hinge guy messaged me

0:54:01.719 --> 0:54:06.040
<v Speaker 2>and like it's just like I have people like that

0:54:06.080 --> 0:54:08.200
<v Speaker 2>are like low key kind of like obsessed with my

0:54:08.239 --> 0:54:10.680
<v Speaker 2>baby daddy, And then I wonder like, are they just

0:54:10.719 --> 0:54:12.680
<v Speaker 2>trying to like fuck with me to say that they

0:54:12.719 --> 0:54:17.160
<v Speaker 2>didn't like that's and like I'm like, is this people?

0:54:17.160 --> 0:54:18.759
<v Speaker 2>I never even thought I had to think about this

0:54:18.840 --> 0:54:21.520
<v Speaker 2>type of ship, Like what like people say like, oh,

0:54:21.920 --> 0:54:24.840
<v Speaker 2>is that his daughter? I'm like that was my fucking daughter,

0:54:24.920 --> 0:54:27.759
<v Speaker 2>and like, you know, it's just too much. It's just

0:54:27.760 --> 0:54:31.360
<v Speaker 2>too much. So this week was just really stressful. I

0:54:31.400 --> 0:54:36.320
<v Speaker 2>didn't honestly, when I talked to him, I got emotional

0:54:36.480 --> 0:54:39.000
<v Speaker 2>because first of all, I felt triggered as fuck. I

0:54:39.040 --> 0:54:42.720
<v Speaker 2>was like, god damn, like being on the other side

0:54:42.760 --> 0:54:46.480
<v Speaker 2>of this, but like obviously what happened to me in

0:54:46.560 --> 0:54:51.200
<v Speaker 2>my last relationship and there being another woman, you know,

0:54:51.280 --> 0:54:54.279
<v Speaker 2>she knew about me, where is this I had? But

0:54:54.680 --> 0:54:57.480
<v Speaker 2>she had the option to say I'm good right this

0:54:58.080 --> 0:55:03.040
<v Speaker 2>y he took advantage of me and like tried to

0:55:03.160 --> 0:55:08.920
<v Speaker 2>like manipulate the situation and tapping into things that you

0:55:09.400 --> 0:55:14.400
<v Speaker 2>on the podcast From the podcast, yeah, that's really scary.

0:55:14.400 --> 0:55:18.160
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, And it's just like it made me sad

0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:21.080
<v Speaker 2>because I was like, wow, is this what men are

0:55:21.520 --> 0:55:27.919
<v Speaker 2>men are so hos currently always like he's a nerdy ass. Yeah,

0:55:27.920 --> 0:55:29.880
<v Speaker 2>he's not like something with a lot of swag. No,

0:55:30.040 --> 0:55:31.600
<v Speaker 2>he wasn't like something like I need to think it

0:55:31.640 --> 0:55:34.399
<v Speaker 2>was it was the player, you know, and that's why too.

0:55:34.440 --> 0:55:36.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like, Okay, he's different, he's not like most

0:55:36.120 --> 0:55:37.960
<v Speaker 2>of them, because that's the kind of thing I usually like,

0:55:38.360 --> 0:55:42.239
<v Speaker 2>like I must conquer. But I just it made me

0:55:42.280 --> 0:55:46.600
<v Speaker 2>feel like, is this like humanity? What I Is this

0:55:46.640 --> 0:55:48.719
<v Speaker 2>all I'm going to get? And also like why is

0:55:48.719 --> 0:55:52.680
<v Speaker 2>it that I keep attracting weird people like this, like narcissists,

0:55:52.680 --> 0:55:54.960
<v Speaker 2>and like, I just it's like I felt betrayed.

0:55:55.040 --> 0:55:57.120
<v Speaker 1>I was just like, if this is out there, if

0:55:57.120 --> 0:55:59.440
<v Speaker 1>this happened to Erica, this happened right under our noses,

0:56:01.080 --> 0:56:03.600
<v Speaker 1>this is creaty trust no one, it didn't.

0:56:03.360 --> 0:56:05.520
<v Speaker 2>Even happen to me. I was just like, I just don't, like,

0:56:05.640 --> 0:56:09.799
<v Speaker 2>I feel like my trust is totally like demolished right

0:56:09.840 --> 0:56:13.960
<v Speaker 2>now for men, so much so that like even to Loombay.

0:56:14.560 --> 0:56:19.840
<v Speaker 2>I called to Loombay right after this and I literally

0:56:19.960 --> 0:56:22.239
<v Speaker 2>cursed him out. I was like, who are you? He's

0:56:22.280 --> 0:56:25.000
<v Speaker 2>like what, I'm like, who are you? Are you? Who

0:56:25.040 --> 0:56:27.560
<v Speaker 2>you say you are. He's like, what are you talking about?

0:56:27.719 --> 0:56:30.759
<v Speaker 2>She researched all the hood. I literally was like, I

0:56:30.800 --> 0:56:34.480
<v Speaker 2>googled you and there's no information. Who the fuck are you?

0:56:34.600 --> 0:56:36.239
<v Speaker 2>Are you who you say you are? And he's like,

0:56:36.520 --> 0:56:38.920
<v Speaker 2>even if I was, if I didn't, if I was

0:56:38.960 --> 0:56:40.399
<v Speaker 2>a liar, do you think i'd tell you the truth

0:56:40.480 --> 0:56:45.479
<v Speaker 2>right now? And that's a good point. Actually you caught

0:56:45.480 --> 0:56:47.480
<v Speaker 2>me because that guy that you're dating, the other guy.

0:56:50.280 --> 0:56:52.800
<v Speaker 2>But I got emotional because I just was like, wow,

0:56:52.920 --> 0:56:58.800
<v Speaker 2>like I just I don't know, I just I'm trying

0:56:58.800 --> 0:57:01.000
<v Speaker 2>to be vulnerable and I'm trying not to let things

0:57:01.000 --> 0:57:03.080
<v Speaker 2>like this jade me from love. I know, because you

0:57:03.160 --> 0:57:05.520
<v Speaker 2>already are like, don't trust people, right, And it's just

0:57:05.520 --> 0:57:07.319
<v Speaker 2>like I don't want things like this jading me from love.

0:57:07.360 --> 0:57:08.560
<v Speaker 2>I want my heart to be okay.

0:57:08.920 --> 0:57:11.680
<v Speaker 1>I mean, Eric can be looking at every moment the side,

0:57:11.840 --> 0:57:14.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh no, I don't, no, no, I do.

0:57:14.200 --> 0:57:16.800
<v Speaker 2>I go off energy. I know energy, and I'm like,

0:57:17.120 --> 0:57:19.960
<v Speaker 2>there's something dark about that energy. There's something you're not

0:57:20.160 --> 0:57:23.880
<v Speaker 2>telling me, and I don't like that. And for him,

0:57:23.920 --> 0:57:29.280
<v Speaker 2>like I felt like he my body wouldn't let me

0:57:29.320 --> 0:57:31.840
<v Speaker 2>get close to him in that way. I felt he

0:57:32.720 --> 0:57:38.800
<v Speaker 2>was not emotionally available for me. It, yeah, I know.

0:57:39.640 --> 0:57:42.760
<v Speaker 2>And that just brings it back to that whole concept

0:57:42.840 --> 0:57:50.080
<v Speaker 2>of that fucking airplane. That's a hell opdah. It just

0:57:50.120 --> 0:57:52.720
<v Speaker 2>brings me back to that whole idea of like thirty

0:57:52.760 --> 0:57:55.479
<v Speaker 2>two for me and this next year really honing in

0:57:55.560 --> 0:57:58.920
<v Speaker 2>on my instincts and not questioning it and not letting

0:57:58.960 --> 0:58:01.520
<v Speaker 2>people make me feel like I look at everyone with

0:58:01.520 --> 0:58:04.240
<v Speaker 2>the side eye, because no, whenever I don't look at

0:58:04.240 --> 0:58:06.480
<v Speaker 2>someone with the side eye and not to not and

0:58:06.800 --> 0:58:08.560
<v Speaker 2>I really don't look at everyone's side. But when I

0:58:08.720 --> 0:58:11.720
<v Speaker 2>go against my gut, I know who my people are

0:58:11.760 --> 0:58:15.080
<v Speaker 2>and who aren't. I think, I know, like sometimes my people,

0:58:15.840 --> 0:58:17.640
<v Speaker 2>your people might not be my people, you know what

0:58:17.640 --> 0:58:19.760
<v Speaker 2>I mean, Like some people that you connect with just

0:58:19.840 --> 0:58:21.680
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna connect with it. And I just I

0:58:21.760 --> 0:58:24.480
<v Speaker 2>know what kind of energy I can work with and

0:58:24.520 --> 0:58:28.000
<v Speaker 2>be around. Obviously his energy isn't for anyone. Yeah, he's

0:58:28.080 --> 0:58:31.080
<v Speaker 2>literally just fucking with you know what. That's the thing, Like,

0:58:31.200 --> 0:58:32.840
<v Speaker 2>that's the thing that's what's scary.

0:58:32.920 --> 0:58:37.600
<v Speaker 1>I think, like we're both energy people as water signs.

0:58:36.960 --> 0:58:40.640
<v Speaker 2>As and he's a scorpion. But even like no, but

0:58:40.720 --> 0:58:43.840
<v Speaker 2>this other he's a scorpion, and I don't ever fuck

0:58:43.880 --> 0:58:48.320
<v Speaker 2>with male scorpios because male scorpios are notoriously known to

0:58:48.440 --> 0:58:52.200
<v Speaker 2>be That's where that lying shit, that's where that lies.

0:58:53.080 --> 0:58:55.520
<v Speaker 2>It's in the male side. I mean women lie to

0:58:55.600 --> 0:58:57.480
<v Speaker 2>don't get me to twisted. Of course, people always have

0:58:57.560 --> 0:58:59.920
<v Speaker 2>men to say about a scorpio, but I've always told

0:58:59.920 --> 0:59:04.040
<v Speaker 2>me meant scorpio men are liars, and like this this

0:59:04.320 --> 0:59:06.840
<v Speaker 2>like and I you know, like I try not to

0:59:06.920 --> 0:59:09.360
<v Speaker 2>just be live my life through horoscope, but truly I

0:59:09.400 --> 0:59:13.520
<v Speaker 2>don't November. Look, this was like confirmation there's a reason

0:59:13.560 --> 0:59:16.120
<v Speaker 2>why I've never fucked with a scorpio except for the

0:59:16.120 --> 0:59:18.560
<v Speaker 2>person I lost my virginity to virginity too, and like

0:59:19.280 --> 0:59:22.560
<v Speaker 2>that was it. It just was too we both can't

0:59:22.560 --> 0:59:26.160
<v Speaker 2>be dark, we both can't be moody. We like we

0:59:26.240 --> 0:59:28.480
<v Speaker 2>need I need someone who balances it out. That's why

0:59:28.720 --> 0:59:31.160
<v Speaker 2>someone who makes me laugh is important, because it really

0:59:31.280 --> 0:59:33.360
<v Speaker 2>is like, I know I'm funny, but like I need

0:59:33.400 --> 0:59:36.240
<v Speaker 2>someone that's a little like lighthearted, lighthearted, more lighthearted than

0:59:36.280 --> 0:59:38.200
<v Speaker 2>I am. So but it's hard.

0:59:38.200 --> 0:59:40.600
<v Speaker 1>It feels like you're like even though now you can

0:59:40.680 --> 0:59:42.960
<v Speaker 1>look back and say I knew in my in my gut.

0:59:43.040 --> 0:59:45.920
<v Speaker 2>I knew something wasn't resonating in my body. I think it.

0:59:45.920 --> 0:59:50.240
<v Speaker 1>Feels hurtful because you feel deceived because usually you're really

0:59:50.240 --> 0:59:53.720
<v Speaker 1>good at reading people, and it's like, damn, I might

0:59:53.760 --> 0:59:54.520
<v Speaker 1>need to sharpen up this.

0:59:54.680 --> 0:59:57.280
<v Speaker 2>Well, you know, it's not even that it's men, you

0:59:57.280 --> 0:59:59.080
<v Speaker 2>know what. I made me feel like I don't trust

0:59:59.120 --> 1:00:04.080
<v Speaker 2>myself with men. It's like time and time again, I'm like,

1:00:04.240 --> 1:00:09.280
<v Speaker 2>how the fuck do I keep doing this? How? And

1:00:10.720 --> 1:00:13.560
<v Speaker 2>but but I know that, like that's not true too.

1:00:14.160 --> 1:00:16.160
<v Speaker 2>I know that I've done the work and that like

1:00:16.200 --> 1:00:18.800
<v Speaker 2>even I have met really I've met men with really

1:00:18.840 --> 1:00:21.240
<v Speaker 2>great traits and great qualities and they might not be

1:00:21.400 --> 1:00:27.320
<v Speaker 2>the men for me, but I've still met, like I've

1:00:27.360 --> 1:00:29.200
<v Speaker 2>had met men that have given me like hope and

1:00:29.280 --> 1:00:31.320
<v Speaker 2>like oh wow, like oh I can't ask for that.

1:00:31.800 --> 1:00:33.720
<v Speaker 2>It goes back to that list that we write like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh this is actually possible. I know I can do

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<v Speaker 2>that because I know I can't have because it's right

1:00:39.280 --> 1:00:43.760
<v Speaker 2>and it was just I don't know, but I think

1:00:43.800 --> 1:00:47.160
<v Speaker 2>the lesson for me was like, yeah, trusting your intuition

1:00:47.360 --> 1:00:51.200
<v Speaker 2>and also probably not like fucking at your workplace, because

1:00:51.280 --> 1:00:54.840
<v Speaker 2>essentially that's what it is don't fuck at your workplace

1:00:54.880 --> 1:00:58.760
<v Speaker 2>for podcasting. That means don't funk the listeners. Okay, don't

1:00:58.760 --> 1:01:02.000
<v Speaker 2>do that shit. I'm cool. If you're listening, I'm not

1:01:02.120 --> 1:01:11.280
<v Speaker 2>fucking you. Don't fucking st no listener, no fuck rule.

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<v Speaker 1>And today, no today, we are to hear about declaring

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<v Speaker 1>none of that, none of that frisky in.

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<v Speaker 2>December, I mean November fourteenth, there'll be no good mom,

1:01:22.920 --> 1:01:25.960
<v Speaker 2>bad choices, listener frisky business.

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<v Speaker 1>Unless you have on Saturday, unless you want to make up,

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<v Speaker 1>unless there's maybe a makeup.

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<v Speaker 2>Making UT's fine, yeah, so that okay? So then so

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<v Speaker 2>then okay, this I'm not proud of. This is like

1:01:46.880 --> 1:01:49.840
<v Speaker 2>this part of not so proud of. And I've like

1:01:49.960 --> 1:01:52.240
<v Speaker 2>battled with this all day and it's stressed me out

1:01:52.240 --> 1:01:54.440
<v Speaker 2>because all this should happened yesterday. Guys, I don't know

1:01:54.440 --> 1:01:56.800
<v Speaker 2>when we're putting this out, but it's not far from here.

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<v Speaker 2>And I so my friend, my best friend, Sebastian. I

1:02:05.480 --> 1:02:12.040
<v Speaker 2>love him so mother fucking much, this beautiful man. He

1:02:12.240 --> 1:02:15.800
<v Speaker 2>is such a ride or die for me, Like I

1:02:15.800 --> 1:02:18.400
<v Speaker 2>don't know how I've been blessed with this friend. Like

1:02:18.520 --> 1:02:22.400
<v Speaker 2>he's just a ride or die type of nigga. Okay

1:02:22.880 --> 1:02:25.160
<v Speaker 2>he I told him the story and he was like, oh,

1:02:25.320 --> 1:02:27.880
<v Speaker 2>hell no. He's like this, why I don't fuck with niggas.

1:02:27.920 --> 1:02:30.480
<v Speaker 2>This one niggas ain't shit. You know what you women,

1:02:30.720 --> 1:02:33.920
<v Speaker 2>you just put up with so much shit and we

1:02:34.080 --> 1:02:38.120
<v Speaker 2>just keep doing this bullshit. He's like, no, no, no, no,

1:02:38.160 --> 1:02:40.560
<v Speaker 2>it's not today. He's like, you know what, you were

1:02:40.600 --> 1:02:42.560
<v Speaker 2>really nice with your ex and you didn't you didn't

1:02:42.600 --> 1:02:44.400
<v Speaker 2>go down that route. But you don't know this nigga

1:02:44.400 --> 1:02:47.360
<v Speaker 2>shit and someone needs to know and it's his wife.

1:02:47.440 --> 1:02:49.520
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, oh my god, I don't know. Wait,

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<v Speaker 2>you need to be if you want to be convinced

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<v Speaker 2>to do some shit. Concobaba, should I keep this niggas

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<v Speaker 2>car hold on? Let me Sebastian that's gone said, look

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<v Speaker 2>how many keys should I write? I'm here? Should I

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<v Speaker 2>pop the tires?

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<v Speaker 4>Bo?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm at it? I brought some sugar for the gas

1:03:09.880 --> 1:03:13.520
<v Speaker 2>take right now we have about gasoline. Were gonna like

1:03:13.560 --> 1:03:20.000
<v Speaker 2>this shut on fire? So uh, he was like no,

1:03:20.240 --> 1:03:23.720
<v Speaker 2>she she needs to know. And I'm like, oh my god,

1:03:24.040 --> 1:03:26.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm not writing this fucking letter. You know. I was like,

1:03:26.680 --> 1:03:30.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm blocked on everything. You know. It's He's like, no, no, no, no, no.

1:03:31.080 --> 1:03:32.880
<v Speaker 2>I looked. I looked on her blog and she has

1:03:32.920 --> 1:03:34.840
<v Speaker 2>an email address, and I was like, well, the way

1:03:34.880 --> 1:03:37.840
<v Speaker 2>this nigga went in her fucking Instagram, I'm sure he

1:03:37.880 --> 1:03:40.440
<v Speaker 2>can block the bitch like block, I'm sure he has

1:03:40.520 --> 1:03:43.520
<v Speaker 2>access to her email. I was thinking that. No, I

1:03:43.880 --> 1:03:46.920
<v Speaker 2>thought that too. I think he probably got the email. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>Sebastian wrote an email on his own behalf as my friend,

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<v Speaker 2>breaking down the storyline, the timeline, and why her nigga

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<v Speaker 2>is crazy and that she needs to be careful and

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<v Speaker 2>basically it was like, I'm not saying this to ruin

1:04:02.120 --> 1:04:04.680
<v Speaker 2>your marriage. I'm just saying this because I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>you should probably know what's going on. And my friend

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<v Speaker 2>is hurt, not really hurt, not really hurt, but like

1:04:11.760 --> 1:04:14.840
<v Speaker 2>you need to know pauls and know. I was like

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<v Speaker 2>conflicted about it because you know, my ex's mistress messaged

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<v Speaker 2>me and it was really hurtful. She also is vindictive

1:04:25.600 --> 1:04:28.480
<v Speaker 2>and had an agenda. Yeah, she was really hurtful. But

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<v Speaker 2>at the end of the day, I'm glad it happened.

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<v Speaker 2>It had to happen like it had to, and I'm

1:04:33.200 --> 1:04:35.000
<v Speaker 2>a better woman for it. And I'm not here to

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<v Speaker 2>have this woman make a choice about her life. Whatever

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<v Speaker 2>she might very well stay with the man. God bless

1:04:39.880 --> 1:04:41.600
<v Speaker 2>you if you do, because you go need a girl.

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<v Speaker 2>But I feel like she should know. But I do

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<v Speaker 2>feel like I should have written that letter. I just

1:04:48.120 --> 1:04:50.760
<v Speaker 2>last night was just too overwhelmed. He wanted to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't give a fuck. He was over there typing,

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<v Speaker 2>not at my like he was on FaceTime, like.

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<v Speaker 1>He should have put it from you as you. I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't heard the letter, So can we hear the letter?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, oh God, here it is, Hello Blank.

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<v Speaker 2>My name is Sebastian. I hate to be the bearer

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<v Speaker 2>of bad news, but unfortunately it seems that I have

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<v Speaker 2>no choice but too, because the person that should be

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<v Speaker 2>telling this news is completely blocked from reaching you. But

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<v Speaker 2>I have my ways. I can know, but I have

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<v Speaker 2>my way. In August, my best friend Erica told me

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<v Speaker 2>about this guy. I'm always in support of her everything

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<v Speaker 2>because she is a great woman, a great friend, and

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<v Speaker 2>absolute great single mother. So as she's telling me about

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<v Speaker 2>this new single man, I'm getting to know him through her.

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<v Speaker 2>I continue to get an idea of who this man is.

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<v Speaker 2>And one of my first questions about him, of course,

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<v Speaker 2>was is he married? He seemed like too good of

1:05:57.200 --> 1:05:59.640
<v Speaker 2>a man to be single. She then explained that he

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<v Speaker 2>has a and an ex assuming that is you. As

1:06:04.080 --> 1:06:06.640
<v Speaker 2>time goes on, he starts to feel comfortable informing Erica

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<v Speaker 2>about how you left for a soccer player and got

1:06:08.680 --> 1:06:11.640
<v Speaker 2>pregnant but had a miscarriage. So but it had a

1:06:11.680 --> 1:06:14.720
<v Speaker 2>miscarriage or something. So of course, her being a single parent,

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<v Speaker 2>she felt for his She felt for his story, and

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<v Speaker 2>they continue to talk. As some more time goes by,

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<v Speaker 2>he then tells Erica that you have his son, and

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<v Speaker 2>that he spends six months with you and spends six

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<v Speaker 2>and spends the other six with him, and that he

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<v Speaker 2>is he is headed if I'm not mistaken, to the

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<v Speaker 2>Bahamas to do the exchange with the child. So while

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<v Speaker 2>this is all going on, FaceTime calls have been happening.

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<v Speaker 2>I Sebastian spoke to him at least twice. Pictures were

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<v Speaker 2>sent from what my best friend Erica told me, he

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<v Speaker 2>even face timed her with your son on the phone

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<v Speaker 2>and had him say hello to her. Remember, she's going

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<v Speaker 2>about this as if he is a confirmed single man.

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<v Speaker 2>No confirmed, bitious get your confirmations don't just take single.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to get a confirmation certified. Let a confirmed

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<v Speaker 2>single man with no woman on his end. Oh my god, this,

1:07:08.360 --> 1:07:11.720
<v Speaker 2>this run on sentence is giving me anxiety. Single man

1:07:11.880 --> 1:07:15.200
<v Speaker 2>with no woman on his end. Fast forward. Sometime they

1:07:15.240 --> 1:07:18.520
<v Speaker 2>find things in common such as music, the single parent life,

1:07:18.840 --> 1:07:20.960
<v Speaker 2>and other things as well. He calls her on a

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<v Speaker 2>daily and describes his day to her, sends even more pictures,

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<v Speaker 2>and eventually, one night he felt he was a bit

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<v Speaker 2>lonely and started to do this sexting thing. Why did

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<v Speaker 2>I let him send this ship? Oh god, you're in

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<v Speaker 2>the same fucking go Oh my god. As pictures were

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<v Speaker 2>being sent, I'm guessing the idea of a meetup would

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<v Speaker 2>be super fun and cool, not super fun and cool.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god. So moving to her. So moving to

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<v Speaker 2>her arriving in Atlanta. This is oh my god. The

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<v Speaker 2>way this is written is like like how people talk.

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<v Speaker 2>It's crazy. Okay. So moving to her arriving to Atlanta

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<v Speaker 2>for work. But put a little time aside. Wait, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, put some time aside for single? Single? They

1:08:10.280 --> 1:08:12.800
<v Speaker 2>met up and I will spare the details, but I

1:08:12.800 --> 1:08:15.240
<v Speaker 2>can't keep the facts away. But they did have sex.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, this She had no idea he was

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<v Speaker 2>in any type of relationship. So fast forward to today.

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<v Speaker 2>She was reminded that it was his birthday. She sent

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<v Speaker 2>a nice little message to him and then thought, hmm,

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<v Speaker 2>let me go ahead and send a little gift to him.

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<v Speaker 2>So in search of an address to surprise him with

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<v Speaker 2>a gift, she comes across something that mentions him being

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<v Speaker 2>engaged about five years ago. So she's like, Okay, I

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<v Speaker 2>heard about this, but he's single, with the burning curiosity

1:08:43.439 --> 1:08:47.400
<v Speaker 2>of what you look like? Burning? Wait? Did he put burning?

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<v Speaker 2>I hate him? Do not do not read this? Amok

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<v Speaker 2>he did, but when he read it, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It just sounded like how we talk. So it's different burning,

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<v Speaker 2>oh God, with the burning curiosity of what you look

1:09:01.880 --> 1:09:05.519
<v Speaker 2>like and an idea of who he was with prior Wait,

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<v Speaker 2>who he was with prior to wait, what you look like?

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<v Speaker 2>And the idea of who he was with prior to

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<v Speaker 2>her Erica, she did a bit more digging. Come to

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<v Speaker 2>find she learns that single is a married man and

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<v Speaker 2>from your perspective, he's a great husband. Father. You guys

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<v Speaker 2>just went on a trip together. I'm not telling you

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<v Speaker 2>this to break your family up. But I'm telling you

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<v Speaker 2>this so you don't suppress. Oh my god, So you

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<v Speaker 2>don't so you don't surprise, get hurt with surprise, get

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<v Speaker 2>hurt when you find out ten women down the line

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<v Speaker 2>from now. I wish you luck, and if you have

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<v Speaker 2>any further questions, feel free please feel free to contact

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<v Speaker 2>me via email. Stay strong, and I'm sorry about this.

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<v Speaker 2>Not in a dick in their bed? Oh my? Did

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<v Speaker 2>he cross out your face? He said? You can only

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<v Speaker 2>see her shoulder? What is the Oh is that music? Does?

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<v Speaker 2>He sent me a snow a Legra song. God, well,

1:10:05.760 --> 1:10:11.080
<v Speaker 2>I want you around? Oh my god. Yeah, he was

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<v Speaker 2>in fake fantasy, sending me pictures of his son in

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<v Speaker 2>their living room playing just crazy shit. Our flight information,

1:10:21.479 --> 1:10:23.559
<v Speaker 2>he paid for your ticket to get extended. No, his

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<v Speaker 2>his flight information.

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<v Speaker 1>And Sebastian insists and proceeded to attach all of the receipts.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh god, I should have read that through. I

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<v Speaker 2>just let him do it because I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 2>be I just was like.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't honestly for podcast purposes. It was great, Oh god,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, Sebastian. Oh god, Well, you know it's interesting

1:10:50.080 --> 1:10:52.120
<v Speaker 1>because initially you're like, should I contact her.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, leave him all the fuck alone, let

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<v Speaker 2>that throw them all the way.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, it's crazy how my mind is like

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<v Speaker 1>just thought that, because the truth is I wouldn't need

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<v Speaker 1>to know that. I mean, I wish you would have

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<v Speaker 1>went into more detail, like to the levels of storytelling,

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<v Speaker 1>because really that's the scariest part, that fucking level, that

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<v Speaker 1>complex level of like to the point where he was

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<v Speaker 1>believing his lies when he was consuming that bullshit that

1:11:23.439 --> 1:11:26.280
<v Speaker 1>he imagined up in his imaginary weird world.

1:11:26.760 --> 1:11:28.680
<v Speaker 2>He believed it when he was with you.

1:11:28.800 --> 1:11:34.280
<v Speaker 1>He was that single, poor single dad living this fun life,

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<v Speaker 1>and she needs to know she's living with a goddamn sociopath.

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<v Speaker 2>Run sis run oh for real. Like the lies, the

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<v Speaker 2>level of lies that I never asked for, Like just

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<v Speaker 2>calling me to make up shit, just calling me with

1:11:50.280 --> 1:11:52.240
<v Speaker 2>made ups in aarrs, like hey, guess what I did today?

1:11:52.439 --> 1:11:55.519
<v Speaker 2>Fake fake fake fake fake fake fake yep, okay bye,

1:11:55.560 --> 1:11:57.840
<v Speaker 2>Like no one asked you to do that shit. That's

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<v Speaker 2>the crazy shit that lets me know you are so

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<v Speaker 2>bored and I feel so bad. He's probably I don't

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<v Speaker 2>even want to know what kind of husband he is.

1:12:04.400 --> 1:12:08.040
<v Speaker 2>It's it's it's I don't know. All I know is

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<v Speaker 2>I dodged a bullet because God be looking out. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 2>love you, and again like counting my blessings, counting my blessings,

1:12:20.360 --> 1:12:25.320
<v Speaker 2>like honoring my intuition and the things that I feel

1:12:26.000 --> 1:12:30.360
<v Speaker 2>and not letting anyone or anything deter me from that

1:12:30.600 --> 1:12:33.879
<v Speaker 2>because I look sometimes look for people, look to people

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<v Speaker 2>to validate my feelings, and then it confuses me when

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<v Speaker 2>their validation is different than what I'm feeling. So then

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<v Speaker 2>I start to question what I'm feeling. So I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>doing that anymore. I can't do it anymore. Like this,

1:12:47.920 --> 1:12:53.080
<v Speaker 2>this is the last straw for real, Like mm hm nope.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm just glad that I feel like I dodged

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<v Speaker 2>that bullet. And that was my week this week. Alright,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna pose a question. Yes, that's a crazy week.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I was affected by that week.

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<v Speaker 1>When you just sent me that information, I was I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a rap.

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<v Speaker 2>For okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have a friend. I've known him for a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of years and he has two kids.

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<v Speaker 2>He is a single dad. I know this. I've known him.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I met him at a B two que concert

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<v Speaker 2>like a long time ago. You would be two que jesus,

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<v Speaker 2>I love you, kay, And we've had this long standing

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<v Speaker 2>like really, I haven't even probably seen this maga five

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<v Speaker 2>times in our whole eighteen year relationship. So anyway, recently

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<v Speaker 2>got back with this baby mom. They moved in together.

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<v Speaker 1>But he always like he always messages me, and you know,

1:13:42.000 --> 1:13:43.680
<v Speaker 1>we keep up with each other. But like recently we

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<v Speaker 1>met up for drinks and I was like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>how's life living back with your baby mom?

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<v Speaker 2>How's that working out? And he's like it's good, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, Like but you know, she's not really like sexual,

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<v Speaker 1>She's not that sexual.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway. All this to say, I would rather a man

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<v Speaker 2>let me know who you are, like he posts her

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<v Speaker 2>like I think I know he loves her or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>Like like giving a bitch the option, like if for all,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if you were like a weak minded woman,

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<v Speaker 1>not a weak minded woman, if you really liked him,

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<v Speaker 1>you could have fallen in love Loki, you could have

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<v Speaker 1>been very engaged in that and really.

1:14:23.160 --> 1:14:25.840
<v Speaker 2>Been emotionally like a known and like known he was married.

1:14:25.920 --> 1:14:28.599
<v Speaker 1>I mean no, like, oh, like what if you were

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<v Speaker 1>heartbroken over this shit?

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<v Speaker 2>Right? I would much rather someone give me.

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<v Speaker 1>The option to be like da da da da d

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<v Speaker 1>like And I know like because option.

1:14:37.280 --> 1:14:40.000
<v Speaker 2>Like, hey, I'm married, I wouldn't I.

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<v Speaker 1>Respect men so much more. We're going keep it real

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm married, I'm not happy. I respect my wife.

1:14:44.560 --> 1:14:47.000
<v Speaker 1>I am happy if you are, like.

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<v Speaker 2>You respect your wife, but you're cheating on her. I

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<v Speaker 2>understand like.

1:14:52.680 --> 1:14:55.839
<v Speaker 1>People loving someone and maybe not being just sexually satisfied.

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<v Speaker 2>I think little note telling you. Let me tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the problem with that is sometimes a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of men try to conduct emotional relationships that mislead women

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<v Speaker 1>into believing that they're gonna leave their wives, that they

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<v Speaker 1>don't respect or love their wives, and that their wives

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<v Speaker 1>are not good people or girlfriends.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that is that's fucked up. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>that's what happened to me. And I'm saying this.

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<v Speaker 1>And a lot of times, even if you do put

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<v Speaker 1>on that front, there are crazy women who are who

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<v Speaker 1>have in their mind, I'm gonna I'm gonna have what

1:15:28.360 --> 1:15:30.559
<v Speaker 1>you with that woman has, I'm gonna take that away

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<v Speaker 1>from you for me. And I'm not saying like I

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<v Speaker 1>go around sleeping with the people in relationships or with

1:15:35.479 --> 1:15:39.400
<v Speaker 1>married men, but sometimes like when I know people even

1:15:39.520 --> 1:15:42.240
<v Speaker 1>friends that I have that their wives, they have open

1:15:42.320 --> 1:15:45.040
<v Speaker 1>relationships and they are allowed to have this. I'm actually

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<v Speaker 1>always attracted to men who are very respectful of their

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<v Speaker 1>women and speak highly of them and speak honestly about

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<v Speaker 1>what their issues are and that they're in relationships and

1:15:55.800 --> 1:15:57.960
<v Speaker 1>they don't want to leave those people and from like

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<v Speaker 1>and some people don't you know what I mean. But it's

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<v Speaker 1>just actual or it's just that I just feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>give a bitch is an option, but to create a

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<v Speaker 1>whole false I think.

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<v Speaker 2>It's part of the excitement for them. Almost well, I

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<v Speaker 2>think it's part of the excitement, like the fantasy, like

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<v Speaker 2>the forbiddenness of it all, Like it's just all of it.

1:16:20.240 --> 1:16:21.840
<v Speaker 2>I mean even I have a friend right now, a

1:16:21.920 --> 1:16:26.000
<v Speaker 2>former bay that's sleeping with a married woman and he

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<v Speaker 2>was telling me about it and he told me today.

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<v Speaker 2>I asked him today, said are you in love with her?

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<v Speaker 2>And he said, yeah, I think I am. And I said,

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<v Speaker 2>do you think it's because it's like forbidden and he

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<v Speaker 2>said probably a little bit. That's trembling lip bee. And

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<v Speaker 2>we all know he's a fucking narcissist, But I'm just saying,

1:16:40.640 --> 1:16:44.240
<v Speaker 2>like that missed that, like that he's like it's always

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<v Speaker 2>taking out. He's sneaking out to like Chicago to go

1:16:47.560 --> 1:16:51.720
<v Speaker 2>fuck this married woman and it's exciting and it's exhilarating.

1:16:51.840 --> 1:16:54.160
<v Speaker 2>And it's like same with this guy, Like he's sneaking

1:16:54.160 --> 1:16:56.160
<v Speaker 2>out to La to come hang out with me, Like

1:16:56.200 --> 1:16:58.920
<v Speaker 2>he's he likes that. That that part of it, that's

1:16:59.040 --> 1:17:01.800
<v Speaker 2>part of the whole story. He's telling himself that it's

1:17:01.840 --> 1:17:05.000
<v Speaker 2>this fantasy, but he's away. I left my wife for her,

1:17:05.040 --> 1:17:07.360
<v Speaker 2>and like we raised our own kids together. But it's

1:17:07.400 --> 1:17:09.920
<v Speaker 2>never really that, like no, never would be now when

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<v Speaker 2>it's I bet all day yesterday, all he kept thinking

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<v Speaker 2>about was losing his family and oh my god, oh

1:17:16.200 --> 1:17:18.000
<v Speaker 2>my god, like I love her, I love her? Fuck

1:17:18.080 --> 1:17:19.800
<v Speaker 2>fuck fun? What have I What have I done? What

1:17:19.840 --> 1:17:21.400
<v Speaker 2>have I done? My son? Oh my god, I'm gonna

1:17:21.400 --> 1:17:23.200
<v Speaker 2>lose everything. And it's like why does it have.

1:17:23.160 --> 1:17:26.320
<v Speaker 1>To take a fucking sociopath. And he didn't think any

1:17:26.360 --> 1:17:28.200
<v Speaker 1>of that at all. Oh my god, he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, she's crazy. That guy is crazy and

1:17:33.080 --> 1:17:33.479
<v Speaker 1>her page.

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<v Speaker 2>I should have reread that email. It sounds like a ramble,

1:17:38.040 --> 1:17:39.960
<v Speaker 2>does it sounds crazy? Just sounds like a like a

1:17:40.439 --> 1:17:44.040
<v Speaker 2>like a second sounds like one of those African emails

1:17:44.040 --> 1:17:47.600
<v Speaker 2>you get. I need I need one hundred thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 2>Now here's my fucking cash upp If you need any

1:17:53.400 --> 1:17:56.360
<v Speaker 2>more any more questions, call me. If you have anywhere questions,

1:17:56.560 --> 1:18:05.240
<v Speaker 2>call Larry Parker. Here's my cat chat. You're welcome. It's

1:18:05.280 --> 1:18:06.000
<v Speaker 2>this spam.

1:18:06.160 --> 1:18:11.599
<v Speaker 1>No, you've went in with details and proof. Yeah, oh

1:18:11.640 --> 1:18:13.800
<v Speaker 1>my god, my last brand makes me sound like a

1:18:13.840 --> 1:18:14.559
<v Speaker 1>homewrecking bitch.

1:18:14.560 --> 1:18:15.720
<v Speaker 2>What I'm saying is, if you don't want to take

1:18:15.720 --> 1:18:18.679
<v Speaker 2>someone's husband and they're just physically stepping out for physical

1:18:18.960 --> 1:18:21.519
<v Speaker 2>I would much rather my husband be that guy than

1:18:21.560 --> 1:18:24.799
<v Speaker 2>this fucking psychopath. Oh absolutely, absolutely, you know what I'm.

1:18:24.640 --> 1:18:27.400
<v Speaker 1>Saying, Like, if you want to fuck a little whatever,

1:18:27.560 --> 1:18:30.160
<v Speaker 1>you need some outside excitement, keep it real about who

1:18:30.200 --> 1:18:32.200
<v Speaker 1>the fuck I am and how you feel, how we

1:18:32.240 --> 1:18:34.000
<v Speaker 1>feel about it. Like, you know what I'm saying, at

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<v Speaker 1>least give me that much respect. And I am your wife.

1:18:38.400 --> 1:18:40.559
<v Speaker 1>You did get down on one knee and it's supposed

1:18:40.600 --> 1:18:41.679
<v Speaker 1>to marry that man.

1:18:41.720 --> 1:18:45.000
<v Speaker 2>Will do for some pussy. Even be careful in picking

1:18:45.040 --> 1:18:46.799
<v Speaker 2>your side. Hose you nigga.

1:18:46.880 --> 1:18:49.000
<v Speaker 1>You pick a fucking psycho bitch that thinks she's gonna

1:18:49.040 --> 1:18:50.599
<v Speaker 1>take my place or pick a bitch.

1:18:50.600 --> 1:18:53.000
<v Speaker 2>She was like, I'm not thinking about you, like let's

1:18:53.040 --> 1:18:55.040
<v Speaker 2>do this, and you know I don't. I know you

1:18:55.080 --> 1:18:57.280
<v Speaker 2>have a relationship and I'm cool with that, right And

1:18:57.320 --> 1:18:59.639
<v Speaker 2>I'm not trying to spend time with you and get

1:18:59.640 --> 1:19:01.840
<v Speaker 2>things for you and conquer you.

1:19:01.880 --> 1:19:06.479
<v Speaker 1>Get a respectful mistress, nigga, one of some sense, not

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<v Speaker 1>one with a podcast.

1:19:07.360 --> 1:19:10.040
<v Speaker 2>It's gonna talk about you later. I'm gonna talk about you.

1:19:10.400 --> 1:19:14.200
<v Speaker 2>It's gonna be live on the internet forever. Oh shit,

1:19:14.680 --> 1:19:19.760
<v Speaker 2>Oh it's my it's my audio diary, guys. So here

1:19:19.760 --> 1:19:23.920
<v Speaker 2>it is lessons and love, lessons and love and research deep,

1:19:24.080 --> 1:19:28.599
<v Speaker 2>Google deep and hard. You know what. Google Absolutely, I'm

1:19:28.680 --> 1:19:32.240
<v Speaker 2>encouraging everyone now if you've just gotten to a relationship,

1:19:32.520 --> 1:19:36.120
<v Speaker 2>google that, nigga. Not just no, and for real, don't

1:19:36.120 --> 1:19:38.280
<v Speaker 2>feel bad about it. Don't think it's weird. Because we

1:19:38.320 --> 1:19:40.760
<v Speaker 2>live in a weird world and sex trafficking is at

1:19:40.800 --> 1:19:44.000
<v Speaker 2>all time high. We live in a weird world. Guys,

1:19:44.280 --> 1:19:47.920
<v Speaker 2>Google that shit, because if only I googled a little harder,

1:19:48.000 --> 1:19:51.080
<v Speaker 2>I could have I could have found this out day one.

1:19:51.360 --> 1:19:52.880
<v Speaker 2>Low key, well would you even know?

1:19:52.960 --> 1:19:54.920
<v Speaker 1>In those Well, I mean, I'm happily we just got

1:19:54.960 --> 1:19:59.120
<v Speaker 1>a fucking school on googling finding the house proceeeds.

1:19:59.000 --> 1:20:02.080
<v Speaker 2>Find apparently you own a house you're waits her name

1:20:02.120 --> 1:20:04.800
<v Speaker 2>on it too, Yes, okay, and that's how she found

1:20:04.800 --> 1:20:08.840
<v Speaker 2>her name. No, I found her name on the engagement Okay, okay,

1:20:08.960 --> 1:20:11.280
<v Speaker 2>it's not even engaging website. It's her blog. And that's

1:20:11.280 --> 1:20:12.920
<v Speaker 2>where I found all the other pictures of them on

1:20:13.040 --> 1:20:16.240
<v Speaker 2>vacations blogging being a family blog.

1:20:16.680 --> 1:20:21.439
<v Speaker 1>By the way, that made me really giggle. I was like, wait,

1:20:22.160 --> 1:20:26.640
<v Speaker 1>he took these pictures. He's one of those fucking Facebook boyfriends.

1:20:26.640 --> 1:20:31.479
<v Speaker 1>He's an instant boyfriend. Not only are you just married

1:20:31.600 --> 1:20:34.880
<v Speaker 1>and obviously bored to death, but you pretend to be

1:20:35.000 --> 1:20:38.200
<v Speaker 1>involved by taking blog photos.

1:20:38.280 --> 1:20:39.480
<v Speaker 2>It's so strange.

1:20:39.600 --> 1:20:44.639
<v Speaker 1>He's living a double fucking life and that's scary.

1:20:47.920 --> 1:20:53.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Well, I think I'm gonna just I think I

1:20:53.080 --> 1:20:55.719
<v Speaker 2>need to take a break. I mean, not a break.

1:20:55.760 --> 1:20:58.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm not even really dating, but like I'm taking a break.

1:20:58.400 --> 1:21:04.000
<v Speaker 2>It's just I'm taking stepping back, like I No, No,

1:21:04.360 --> 1:21:07.759
<v Speaker 2>any of the guys, any of our guys that listen

1:21:07.920 --> 1:21:10.960
<v Speaker 2>that might think about sliding in the DMS just don't know. Actually,

1:21:10.960 --> 1:21:12.960
<v Speaker 2>you could still just send the dick pics, but don't

1:21:12.960 --> 1:21:15.160
<v Speaker 2>think anything's happening. We'll take the pics. Then we'll take

1:21:15.160 --> 1:21:24.120
<v Speaker 2>the pics. But that's it. That's it. I'm scared. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I wish him well. I hope that

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<v Speaker 2>he oh and that he can go to therapy and

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<v Speaker 2>work through his freaking issues because he clearly has a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>There's something there. I feel like it's in childhood. You

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<v Speaker 2>forgot to stop telling stories. He does have some childhood shit,

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<v Speaker 2>some traumas that he shared with me. If they're true

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<v Speaker 2>or not, I don't know, but whatever they are, I

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<v Speaker 2>hope that he finds some sort of peace.

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<v Speaker 1>And clarity because and in all reality, for real, ladies,

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<v Speaker 1>because now that I'm thinking about it, I have another

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<v Speaker 1>friend who had a situation, not to this extreme, but

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<v Speaker 1>kind of just that he wasn't married. And the level

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<v Speaker 1>of comfortable lying natural lying to the point where the

1:22:13.320 --> 1:22:17.960
<v Speaker 1>individuals are actually believing the lies is something that stems

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<v Speaker 1>from childhood trauma. A lot of times, if a child

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<v Speaker 1>has experienced really serious trauma to check out, they can

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<v Speaker 1>create these faults like these, like alter lives, because whatever

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<v Speaker 1>they're going through is too much for a child to experience.

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<v Speaker 1>So sometimes it's carried on into adulthood to a place

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<v Speaker 1>where it's they believe it's so hard themselves that delivering

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't feel or seem like a lie to them,

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<v Speaker 1>and so it won't feel like a lie to you,

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<v Speaker 1>and then they can dive deep into it and it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Really it's called a sociopath. But the point is is

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<v Speaker 2>like these people are out there and they come in

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<v Speaker 2>girlfriends too, you know. So that's why that fucking googleshit

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<v Speaker 2>is super super important, because you gotta be researching and

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<v Speaker 2>you gotta like, you know, sometimes you're like, oh, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>he didn't say that, Like oh, like, oh, it must

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<v Speaker 2>be true, not nigga. You need confirmation. If a nigga

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<v Speaker 2>says he doesn't have a confirm, he needs to be

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<v Speaker 2>confirmed single. If he confirmed confirmed, he says he doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>have Instagram. I mean, I'm not saying that everyone has Instagram,

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<v Speaker 2>because they don't. But just make sure check that phone

1:23:21.560 --> 1:23:25.800
<v Speaker 2>and check out them. Just google that name because if

1:23:25.800 --> 1:23:28.800
<v Speaker 2>I had just scrolled out a few more. But you know,

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<v Speaker 2>everything happens how it happens, I believe, you know, we're

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<v Speaker 2>approaching the end of the year, we're cleaning up house,

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<v Speaker 2>getting rid of everything that we don't need to bring

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<v Speaker 2>with us into the next year. And I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I am I'm coming to a closing

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<v Speaker 2>of what I've learned and then last three hundred and

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<v Speaker 2>sixty five days about myself and in conclusion and what

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<v Speaker 2>I what I what I need, and also in my

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<v Speaker 2>single in my journey being single, you know, like it's

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<v Speaker 2>really been a journey. It really has, and I'm actually

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<v Speaker 2>enjoying it. It's kind of crazy and sad and scary

1:24:02.640 --> 1:24:05.320
<v Speaker 2>and like I want I cry a lot, but then

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<v Speaker 2>also like there's moments Where'm like, oh God, thank God

1:24:07.680 --> 1:24:13.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm single. It's like I'm enjoying the journey. And if

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even single, podcasting, all the things that can happen,

1:24:18.479 --> 1:24:25.960
<v Speaker 2>you know, So I don't know, I just who I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like, did I tell? Did I tell everybody that

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<v Speaker 2>I had get it out? What the fuck are you

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<v Speaker 2>trying to say? I would just like to say that

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<v Speaker 2>I know we're saying people are crazy and we shouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>sleep with listeners, but I did sleep with listener one time,

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<v Speaker 2>and I knew he was married and they're an open

1:24:44.360 --> 1:24:47.400
<v Speaker 2>marriage and it was open and he's not crazy. He's

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<v Speaker 2>just regular. It was fine. And even though he said

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<v Speaker 2>she didn't ask, she didn't tell her. Wait, she asked,

1:24:55.320 --> 1:24:57.040
<v Speaker 2>he said, I said, did you tell her? He said, no,

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<v Speaker 2>she didn't ask. But so is that how they navigate

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<v Speaker 2>through I'm assuming so because if you have an open

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<v Speaker 2>mariage and I even have like a girlfriend. But I mean, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Just want to say, for the record, like everyone's not

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<v Speaker 1>going to be crazy, and there's a perfect example of

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<v Speaker 1>a healthy married, a healthy honest mary.

1:25:13.400 --> 1:25:15.720
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I know that they exist, but I just feel like, no, no,

1:25:15.760 --> 1:25:17.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying this is this is crazy.

1:25:17.360 --> 1:25:19.400
<v Speaker 1>I still feel like for me, no, we're not. We're

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<v Speaker 1>not doing any more. No, we've we've overcome that thresholder

1:25:24.280 --> 1:25:25.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm sleeping it sucking at work.

1:25:26.000 --> 1:25:28.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's that's really what it comes down to. It's

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, we'll make out. I say that now

1:25:32.000 --> 1:25:35.360
<v Speaker 2>until I like meet But you're like, so, I look,

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<v Speaker 2>so he's normal.

1:25:38.080 --> 1:25:39.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean, but the truth is, we do kind of

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<v Speaker 1>have to be careful about that type of ship because

1:25:44.479 --> 1:25:49.400
<v Speaker 1>people like can be like thinking they really know every

1:25:49.439 --> 1:25:51.479
<v Speaker 1>single detail about you, And I know we tell a

1:25:51.479 --> 1:25:54.599
<v Speaker 1>lot of details about us, but not everything you know,

1:25:54.680 --> 1:25:58.760
<v Speaker 1>there's still things that you don't know, right, and this

1:25:58.840 --> 1:25:59.280
<v Speaker 1>is just.

1:25:59.320 --> 1:26:01.800
<v Speaker 2>A very certain first level of who we are, you know.

1:26:01.920 --> 1:26:04.320
<v Speaker 2>It's well, no, I think it's a deep level of

1:26:04.320 --> 1:26:06.439
<v Speaker 2>who we are for sure, but I do there are

1:26:06.520 --> 1:26:08.240
<v Speaker 2>things that you don't know. There are things that I

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<v Speaker 2>don't share. There's only so much you can grasp over.

1:26:11.320 --> 1:26:15.080
<v Speaker 5>A microphone right right, and without really without touching me,

1:26:15.600 --> 1:26:18.679
<v Speaker 5>feeling me and feeling our energies together and like knowing

1:26:18.680 --> 1:26:25.120
<v Speaker 5>how I react to his situations and things.

1:26:22.800 --> 1:26:25.439
<v Speaker 2>Like really humanizing because we have a child, I have

1:26:25.520 --> 1:26:29.519
<v Speaker 2>a life, you know, and it's like it's just it's

1:26:29.600 --> 1:26:34.160
<v Speaker 2>just crazy. It's crazy sometimes. But I'm sorry that happened

1:26:34.160 --> 1:26:36.160
<v Speaker 2>to you. That's okay, And I'm sorry for all the

1:26:36.240 --> 1:26:38.040
<v Speaker 2>single women out there that have to do. I know

1:26:38.080 --> 1:26:40.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm not the only one. I'm sure so many women

1:26:40.240 --> 1:26:43.479
<v Speaker 2>right now are listening. We're saying, I a nigked lie

1:26:43.520 --> 1:26:45.480
<v Speaker 2>to me is that he was And I don't know,

1:26:44.920 --> 1:26:45.639
<v Speaker 2>we just that.

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<v Speaker 1>Was whate our our whatever, our listeners just just told

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<v Speaker 1>us that basic buddy, Oh yeah, and the.

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<v Speaker 2>Basic same thing. But it was like two years right, Yeah,

1:26:55.280 --> 1:26:57.400
<v Speaker 2>that went wedding ring shopping. Yeah, and she'd been to

1:26:57.439 --> 1:26:59.200
<v Speaker 2>his house or a year and she'd been to his house.

1:26:59.240 --> 1:27:01.160
<v Speaker 2>I mean, that's even worse. That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>And speaking of basic basic, Betty, I don't know if

1:27:03.000 --> 1:27:05.200
<v Speaker 1>we mentioned this before. We forgot to tell you. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, we need to look that up when

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<v Speaker 1>he's gonna be there. King Noir offered on the house

1:27:09.920 --> 1:27:10.920
<v Speaker 1>because he heard your story.

1:27:11.000 --> 1:27:12.880
<v Speaker 2>And King Noir, if you don't know who King Noir is,

1:27:12.920 --> 1:27:15.880
<v Speaker 2>he's uh, the King of King. He's a porn star

1:27:16.080 --> 1:27:19.560
<v Speaker 2>and the king of King and a beautiful dom and

1:27:19.600 --> 1:27:22.479
<v Speaker 2>he's fine as hell. And he has a beautiful toy

1:27:22.560 --> 1:27:24.960
<v Speaker 2>that's molded up, his beautiful dick, and.

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<v Speaker 1>You can go look for him. It's King Noir with

1:27:27.000 --> 1:27:30.439
<v Speaker 1>at the end. And you should find that beautiful replica bomb.

1:27:30.439 --> 1:27:32.680
<v Speaker 2>You can go buy his dick, Go buy it. What

1:27:32.760 --> 1:27:36.520
<v Speaker 2>a gift, What a gift to the world he's given, honestly, Like, honestly,

1:27:37.160 --> 1:27:40.840
<v Speaker 2>I've never been really into dildo's like that. I'm gonna

1:27:40.840 --> 1:27:43.679
<v Speaker 2>get that. I'm actually gonna get that, Like I think

1:27:43.680 --> 1:27:45.560
<v Speaker 2>it's a I want to know. I want to know

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<v Speaker 2>what King war feels like. Do I do too? I mean,

1:27:49.280 --> 1:27:53.360
<v Speaker 2>who doesn't put that baby on the wall.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, okay, never mind, okay, okay, okay, Well, the kids

1:27:57.560 --> 1:28:02.120
<v Speaker 1>are here, but Basic Betty, Basic Betty, he offered on

1:28:02.200 --> 1:28:03.760
<v Speaker 1>the house when they come to DC.

1:28:03.880 --> 1:28:06.280
<v Speaker 2>When he comes to d C, he's gonna he got

1:28:06.280 --> 1:28:11.920
<v Speaker 2>something for you because he's the King of Kink. So

1:28:12.640 --> 1:28:15.200
<v Speaker 2>Tree of your Pride, hit us up. We'll connect to

1:28:15.240 --> 1:28:21.120
<v Speaker 2>the dots for you, Basic Betty. Anyway, it's almost bad

1:28:21.160 --> 1:28:26.880
<v Speaker 2>time and my daughter has now snuck into Did you

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<v Speaker 2>eat your dinner? No quarter? Did you eat carroty? Did

1:28:34.240 --> 1:28:39.040
<v Speaker 2>you eat all the carrots? Why? Where's you need to

1:28:39.080 --> 1:28:42.880
<v Speaker 2>eat carrots? I did eat care you saw me do it?

1:28:42.960 --> 1:28:45.280
<v Speaker 2>I know you need to eat like three of them. Okay,

1:28:45.320 --> 1:28:52.200
<v Speaker 2>I'll eat three of them, thank god, Yes, well of them.

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<v Speaker 2>I think three is the magic number. Okay.

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