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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 1: I'm Meila, and happy.

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Speaker 2: Hump Day, hump Day. How are you. I'm good. I'm good.

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Speaker 1: I feel accomplished today. I feel like a whole adult.

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Speaker 1: I'm a little tired. But I went to Digital Hollywood,

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Speaker 1: a little conference at Squirreball, and they recently added a

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Speaker 1: podcast aspect.

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Speaker 2: It was very informative. There was a lot of big

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Speaker 2: wigs in the podcast, and the red used that word before.

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Speaker 2: I thought I'd try tonight. It's a very press and

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Speaker 2: there are a lot of big wigs today in the

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Speaker 2: podcasting industry. I learned a lot of information.

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Speaker 1: I learned that women in podcasting right now are magic.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of growth to be had. I want

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Speaker 1: to say, it's like a six hundred million dollar industry

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Speaker 1: and it's expected to like increase rapidly in twenty twenty one.

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Speaker 2: Wow, I need some of that six hundred million. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I need about thirty This is cool. Thirty, Well take fifteen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you gonna go half on a goat. We don't

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Speaker 1: need to buy the guy. I just want to like

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Speaker 1: charter it for a month.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Well, filled with bus make more.

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Speaker 1: Money, right, we could we could, Like I had this vision,

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Speaker 1: mark my words, everyone. I was driving on the backstreets

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Speaker 1: of Valley Vista and they have such like beautiful you know,

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Speaker 1: value Vista, and I was look at these like two

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Speaker 1: like there's some really like houses that have a lot

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Speaker 2: You can tell they're long and big. And it's like

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Speaker 2: me and Erica.

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Speaker 1: She could live there and I could live a couple

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Speaker 1: of doors down, and that way it will make podcasting

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Speaker 1: still very we'll be rich.

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Speaker 2: I like that idea. Yes, that's that, Erica, come in

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Speaker 2: the balcony. I have to tell you something. I have

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Speaker 2: an idea past. Yeah, but like, these are the thoughts

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Speaker 2: that I have really because I feel like that is

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Speaker 2: you speaking it right now, You're speaking it out into existence.

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Speaker 2: Just keep talking about it.

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Speaker 1: I also had another vision today we're going on Joe Rogan.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, yeah, there's a lot to talk about, a

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Speaker 2: lot of examples, and Joe Rogan was a lot of

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Speaker 2: the e and I was like, he's one of the

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Speaker 2: biggest podcasts in the world. Yeah. I was like, well,

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Speaker 2: we can make that happen. We're making that happen. At

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Speaker 2: this point, I'm confident in our stalkership. Our stokership is

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Speaker 2: higher point and so there's basically the only I could

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Speaker 2: like my stockership could translate to like dating right now,

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Speaker 2: but we can't stock men. It doesn't work. I'm not

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Speaker 2: good at like. I don't have game when it comes

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Speaker 2: to dating so like, but apparently have a really good

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Speaker 2: DM game when it comes to like getting podcast guests.

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Speaker 1: I'm right, but uh, I want to say, speaking of men,

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Speaker 1: I guess we can get to that.

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Speaker 2: How about your day? I worked, I did yoga because

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Speaker 2: I need it. You did it in the backyard. I

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Speaker 2: went to a class which one the heat of yoga.

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Speaker 2: I go to down the street corpar ivor okay, by

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Speaker 2: I went to work. So I was working. I was

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Speaker 1: Speaking of yoga, we have a yoga event coming up

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Speaker 1: yes on December seventh.

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Speaker 2: Checking with us for more details.

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Speaker 1: If you're in the LA area, We're gonna do a

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Speaker 1: nice little CBD No.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not CBD, THHC PHC and yoga collab. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: do a little THHC listine strips specifically, they're well, they're

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Speaker 2: like listing trips. They dissolving your mouth. They're basically edibles,

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Speaker 2: but they hit your body within ten minutes, and they're

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Speaker 2: gonna go to yoga and it's gonna be fun, wonderful.

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Speaker 2: I need. I need a lot of yoga the past

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Speaker 2: this week has been very interesting for me. You know,

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Speaker 2: I remember, like a few episodes ago, I was talking

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Speaker 2: like me, turning thirty two was really a year and

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Speaker 2: confirmation to me that I need to follow my intuition.

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Speaker 2: where do I begin? Have we just getting right to it?

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Speaker 2: Once upon a time? I feel like this is a

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Speaker 1: Have we talked about this person? Did we talk about

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Speaker 2: Briefly? Okay? So so people people have asked us if

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Speaker 2: we've ever slept with someone that we've met on the podcast, right,

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Speaker 2: for another time. But people ask us too, like, have

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Speaker 1: And if you if you're like one of our people people,

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Speaker 1: you know, if you're on social that we do interact

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Speaker 1: so of course that includes men too. I mean it's

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Speaker 2: God, you make us on like prostitute regular pod. I

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Speaker 2: saw them on regular this week podcast, Prostitutes. You know what.

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Speaker 2: I have a friend that always DMS me.

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Speaker 1: Oh, actually, our friend who got us videographer in Atlanta.

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Speaker 2: This is how this is where she gets fucked up.

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Speaker 2: We think everybody's our friend, but he lives in Orange County.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, if I'm ever in Orange County,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to give him a call because we're

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Speaker 1: But I'm like, so, this is one of those cases

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Speaker 1: that has never happened before but gone wrong.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, gone terribly terribly wrong. So take it away, Take

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Speaker 3: it away, Erica. So so okay.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'll start it. So those of you who don't know.

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Speaker 1: We're on Patreon high Patreon.

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Speaker 2: If you haven't joined our Patreon, you should. You can

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Speaker 2: see you can watch this episode tonight. You can watch

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Speaker 2: this episode and we get into classic Camera, so you

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Speaker 2: might want to get up on there. Yeah, so you

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Speaker 2: can watch all our episodes on Patreon and go ahead.

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Speaker 1: So when we first decided to get on Patreon, our

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Speaker 2: Eric has like, there's this guy he's for his Patreon. Well,

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Speaker 2: first of all, I thought it was a girl.

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Speaker 1: It was a girl, but then she continued to converse

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Speaker 2: There was really very vague profile, no pictures. I thought

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Speaker 2: support us. He began to like converse with Erica. He

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Speaker 1: He was fine, to the point where I was like,

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Speaker 1: how many times day are you facetiming this person?

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Speaker 2: No, it wasn't not. Don't relax. How many times? How

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Speaker 2: many times have I Facebook? Okay? I mean we definitely facetimeed,

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Speaker 2: Was he consistently texting you? And yeah? Yeah he was? Okay.

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Speaker 2: So in the beginning though, it was like slow, Like okay,

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Speaker 2: There were things that I wasn't sure about, and I'm specific,

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Speaker 2: Fuck it, we're gonna tell the story. We're telling a

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Speaker 2: And by no means are we discriminating against the different

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Speaker 1: He made a reservation literally like four weeks in advance.

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Speaker 2: For dinner for two. Right, So this guy too, like

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Speaker 2: because yeah, he gave us advice about shit, you know,

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Speaker 2: So now he's back to being a son. Hey, I

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Speaker 2: forgive her? Like, would you do you think you could

429
00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:21,480
Speaker 2: ever get back together with it? No? I asked her,

430
00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:24,439
Speaker 2: are you in love with her still? And he was

431
00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:26,159
Speaker 2: like no, No, He's like, of course I love her,

432
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:27,840
Speaker 2: I have love for her, but I'm not in love

433
00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:29,679
Speaker 2: with her. You know what she did to me, She

434
00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:33,840
Speaker 2: like moved to London and like left me over a weekend.

435
00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:36,800
Speaker 2: I could never I could never forgive her for that.

436
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:38,840
Speaker 2: And I was like, well, you know, I mean I

437
00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:41,080
Speaker 2: get it because if you were in love with her,

438
00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:43,200
Speaker 2: I would understand because I have a lot. I'm still

439
00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,199
Speaker 2: untangling this relationship with my baby daddy and like trying

440
00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:49,119
Speaker 2: to like, you know, close that chapter. So I get it.

441
00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:50,879
Speaker 2: You know, we're just talking as because I feel like

442
00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:56,320
Speaker 2: we're having some experience, you know. Anyway, So we he

443
00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:58,399
Speaker 2: just tells me he's coming to La which is actually

444
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:02,200
Speaker 2: this week. So this is after after Atlanta. This after Atlanta,

445
00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:05,040
Speaker 2: he tells me, I'm going to to LA for work

446
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:08,520
Speaker 2: and I would love to see you. So I'm like, okay,

447
00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:11,040
Speaker 2: let's do it. So because he's such a fucking planner,

448
00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:14,080
Speaker 2: he sends me notes and like wants me to fill

449
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 2: in the days of like what we can do on

450
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:18,040
Speaker 2: the calendar, restaurants we can go to. But he would

451
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 2: you mean like in your note. Yeah, he sends me

452
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:21,920
Speaker 2: Apple notes. You know I'm talking about. Yeah, I'm getting

453
00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:24,760
Speaker 2: a little friends. Yeah yeah, this is oh wait, oh

454
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:27,720
Speaker 2: so like, uh I'm free. No it like literally says

455
00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 2: Monday airport drop off seven am, check in a hotel

456
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 2: like eleven eleven am, uh, find bluesy like, eat breakfast

457
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 2: at a breakfast spot, find good music. Ask Erica like

458
00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,119
Speaker 2: literally detailed, like he needs to know what he's doing

459
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:48,880
Speaker 2: all day every day. Yeah you know, okay, keep going,

460
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:50,400
Speaker 2: Like you know that kind of speaks to my heart.

461
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 2: But also like I'm kind of that person, but I'm

462
00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 2: mostly not. I need a little bit of that, but

463
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 2: I also need to go with the fucking flow. So

464
00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 2: I was also trying to encourage him. I said, what if,

465
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,359
Speaker 2: like we do something crazy and we don't plan some shit.

466
00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 2: Well we know why the nigga has to plan everything,

467
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,679
Speaker 2: So anyway we plan. He's excited to come to LA.

468
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:13,920
Speaker 2: So I'm not really that excited because even through all

469
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 2: of this, even though I know he's a good like

470
00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 2: he's checks out on a lot of boxes, there's something

471
00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:20,520
Speaker 2: that's off like our I don't know, like he seems

472
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 2: like nervous and he's not like he's not funny, which

473
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,920
Speaker 2: is really important to me what it is, Like he'd

474
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:29,000
Speaker 2: like our conversations are fun. I think I'm the funny

475
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 2: one in the conversation. Like he's amused by me, right,

476
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:35,159
Speaker 2: and like he knows you. He thinks he knows you

477
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 2: because he's listened. He is he like really listens to

478
00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 2: the podcast. He knows all of me and Jamila's businesses

479
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,680
Speaker 2: like business like hat like all of our bays, all

480
00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 2: of our shit. Okay he really he really? Yeah? Okay.

481
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 2: So I end up I end up not being finding

482
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:56,400
Speaker 2: out I'm not going to be in LA when he's here.

483
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,120
Speaker 2: So I call him and I tell him, like, hey,

484
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:00,720
Speaker 2: so I found out actually have to go to LA

485
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,879
Speaker 2: to New York. During that time, I'm literally like leaving

486
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 2: the day you come and he like has a like

487
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 2: a meltdown over the phone. Can you give you an

488
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:09,720
Speaker 2: instant replay?

489
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 4: Oh oh okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, wow wow.

490
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,920
Speaker 2: Bitch the sound effects. I was on the other end

491
00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:38,400
Speaker 2: like is this happening? Like what's is he? Okay? Because

492
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 2: it was like it's like a horse over there, Like

493
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 2: I've never heard like these type of sounds, like as

494
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:51,880
Speaker 2: a reaction to disappointment. And I heard it again after

495
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:55,760
Speaker 2: that too something else like it's a thing which I

496
00:24:55,800 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 2: don't know whatever, So I'm like, okay, so that was

497
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 2: weird and I talked about it later because I was like,

498
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 2: that was really weird, Like I said, you aren't making

499
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 2: all these noises, and also like what are your expectations exactly,

500
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 2: like like where you can see each other another time?

501
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:16,840
Speaker 2: And that also let me know too, because you know,

502
00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 2: i'd be obsessed. I'm not obsessed. I didn't like you're

503
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:25,199
Speaker 2: obsessed or you're not. Yeah, I'm not obsessed. So I

504
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:29,399
Speaker 2: was like, you need to chill. So he apologized and

505
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:34,440
Speaker 2: was like, yeah, you know that reaction. There's a lot

506
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 2: going on that day. Some things happened that day. I

507
00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 2: mean I had a hard day at work, and then

508
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 2: I found out I'm not going to see my son

509
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:44,120
Speaker 2: and until Christmas. Now until after Christmas. Wait, I thought

510
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 2: he had the son because she was going to the

511
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 2: club a lot. Okay, No, this is okay, my timelines off.

512
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:50,920
Speaker 2: This is like maybe like a week before he got

513
00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 2: his son. Okay, So I just said his son just

514
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 2: happened recently. I just got his son back. Okay, recently, Okay,

515
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 2: like recently to this very moment. Okay, Okay. So I'm like,

516
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 2: he's like, I'd found out I'm not going to have

517
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 2: my son, and it was just then then I get that,

518
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 2: and it was just all these blows and I just

519
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 2: I just didn't take it. Well. I'm sorry. I want

520
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,359
Speaker 2: you to know I don't have any expectations. I know,

521
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 2: like you know, you're not looking for anything serious. I'm

522
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,679
Speaker 2: not gonna I'm not envisioning us getting married in your

523
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 2: backyard or anything like that, because I had said if

524
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 2: I ever get married and again, I would just get

525
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 2: married in my backyard. And I'm like, okay, that's a

526
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:28,200
Speaker 2: strange reference that you remembered. That was weird. Okay, You're

527
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 2: not gonna get married in your backyard. I mean, it's

528
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,240
Speaker 2: not like that, it's not like that. I'm like, okay, cool.

529
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:36,159
Speaker 2: So I'm like, well then we'll see each other some

530
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 2: other time. So what happened? I'm going to New York.

531
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 2: We're calling each other.

532
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:45,879
Speaker 1: No wait, there was a text message like after that

533
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 1: there was like listen, I know da da da, but

534
00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 1: I would really like, oh.

535
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 2: Yes, he's he's He texts me and then called me

536
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: and said that, look, I know you're not going to

537
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 2: be here, but like I really want to see you again.

538
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 2: Can we How can we make that happen if I

539
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,720
Speaker 2: have to come, Like, I can make the accommodations to

540
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 2: make it happen. And you know, like I a bitch

541
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 2: likes the word accommodation. Yeah, and also like I'm not

542
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 2: used to that. This is also I'm over here thinking like,

543
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 2: is this naging checking off my manifestation list because he

544
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 2: said accommodation. He's saying accommodations. You know we're basic. Hello Hello,

545
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 2: did you say accommodations? Hold on one second, I think

546
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 2: I'm getting married. Yeah, well, actually I'm free because you

547
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 2: just said the magic motherfucking word accommodations. Oh god, it's

548
00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 2: true though. Oh it's so sad. I'm actually embarrassed. It's okay,

549
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 2: we gotta grow. We're growing. But not only that, my

550
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 2: friends were like telling me I was being too hard

551
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,800
Speaker 2: on him, like because I would tell him like there's

552
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 2: this guy. I don't know why I would say that, Okay,

553
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 2: so so so much so that like the reason Okay.

554
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,239
Speaker 2: So at some point he said that to me, and

555
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,719
Speaker 2: I still was like I'm not going to see him, Like, well,

556
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:10,400
Speaker 2: I'll see him some other time, not like I'm never

557
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 2: gonna okay, but a little bit You're like a little

558
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:14,479
Speaker 2: bit no, for sure. I was like, Okay, that's kind

559
00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 2: of sexy, but also like I have to go back

560
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 2: and see like my daughter's coming to the East Coast,

561
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:21,879
Speaker 2: Like i gotta get back to Pennsylvania. I'm not going

562
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 2: to extend my trip whatever. Oh because he then he

563
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 2: suggested to come there. Yeah, he was like he was

564
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,399
Speaker 2: like snow Alegra was playing at Webster Hall on the

565
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 2: twenty fourth. Wait I want to take you? Wait was

566
00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 2: sorry November twenty fourth at Webster Hall. Get us two tickets? Okay,

567
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 2: got it? So anyway, so I'm like I don't know.

568
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 2: So that I told my mom about him, so I

569
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,719
Speaker 2: was like, Mom, like I met this guy and like,

570
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 2: I don't know. I showed him her. I showed her

571
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 2: his picture. He's like he's cute. He's cute, and I'm like,

572
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 2: he's like he's a corporate job, like has a good job.

573
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 2: Like he's the same dad. Is that a rapper? Shots that? Wow?

574
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,239
Speaker 2: He could be the one. Wait did you say did

575
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 2: you say Bank of America? Did you say Sellars? Saying

576
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 2: health in Hell? Yeah, I said health and sure did

577
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 2: own his own. Yeah, So all he was checking up

578
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 2: all these boxes, you know, and he's young, Like he's

579
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:23,920
Speaker 2: like yeah, anyway, So I told him. She's like, I

580
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 2: was like, mom, I really I like him, but like

581
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 2: his voice, I don't know, I can't you know, you know,

582
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 2: it's a thing. I was like, his voice kind of

583
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:34,680
Speaker 2: irritates me. And she was like, what do you She's like,

584
00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 2: call him, call him right now? You did? You know?

585
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:39,360
Speaker 2: Everybody said that when you said it. I was like, well,

586
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 2: call him, let speak or anything. Well first because I called.

587
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 2: The first time I called was Sebastian and his ass

588
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 2: is so motherfucking extra. I called and then he was

589
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 2: like hello, and I had to hang up the phone

590
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 2: because he was so goddamn loud. And then I was,

591
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 2: and then he was like I called it back. He's like,

592
00:29:56,400 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 2: are you okay?

593
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 1: So anyway, I have to think somewhere trying to talk

594
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 1: like the very white I'm all the rest of.

595
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 2: His life, Jesus, look he better, And I know your

596
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 2: mother fucking listening and your voice fucking sucks. Hate you

597
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 2: huh yeah yeah, but don't open it right now. It's

598
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 2: not Christmas. Okay, close the door. Close the door, please

599
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 2: close the door. Why is just their tops off? You know,

600
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,880
Speaker 2: but just the top because she likes her skirt on.

601
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 2: If it were parents have just of course with Iri

602
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 2: just does whatever Luna does, Like, oh my god. Anyway,

603
00:30:40,120 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 2: so I call him. I'm in the car with my

604
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 2: mom and I call him on speakerphone and he says

605
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 2: a few things that I know my mom liked. First

606
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 2: number one, please please, I didn't hear this. I was

607
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 2: telling him was I'm going to get my nails done,

608
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 2: and I'm like, he's like, what color you gonna do?

609
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 2: And I was like this basic nude and he's like,

610
00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 2: it's not basic, baby, it's classic excession thing a mom

611
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 2: and be like she was like I saw her like

612
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 2: start nodding her head like yes, bitch, yes classic friend

613
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 2: Chip never on too basic classic And then he was

614
00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 2: talking about him. He was like, yeah, he went shopping

615
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 2: and I don't know, he was just talking about shit whatever.

616
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 2: So we hang up the phone. My mom's like, he

617
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 2: is his voice is not that bad. Okay, you're being

618
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 2: so hard. Why are you so hard on everyone? You're

619
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 2: never gonna find someone to do this hard on someone.

620
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 2: She's like, what's what's the hold up? Just go to

621
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 2: the concert. And I was like what she's like, but

622
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 2: it's fine. I would have been like snow there. So

623
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:46,960
Speaker 2: she gave me the green line and I was like,

624
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 2: we canna watch my baby? Okay. Well I can't say no,

625
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 2: so I said okay. So I called him that next

626
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 2: day and I was like, I'm going I'll stay. I'll

627
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:55,800
Speaker 2: stay an extra day. And I was like, you know what,

628
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:57,479
Speaker 2: maybe I am being too hard on him, Like let

629
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 2: me just like just stop, just just stop thinking, stop feeling,

630
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:11,000
Speaker 2: stop overthinking, and just go with it. So that's what

631
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 2: I do. So he books his ticket and we're planning,

632
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 2: sends his adds adds the plans to the calendar. We're

633
00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 2: looking forward to it. Oh. He also buys me a

634
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 2: birthday present. He bought me a whip, which you did

635
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 2: not tell me this. We were going to keep this

636
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:28,360
Speaker 2: a secret. Yeah, why no, it wasn't. I wasn't. But yeah,

637
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:32,560
Speaker 2: he bought me a whip. Wait wait, wait, hold up,

638
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 2: hold the fuck up? A whip as an yep, my

639
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 2: flog like the one like King has with multiple Okay, okay,

640
00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 2: he sent it to your house. Well, I don't know

641
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: if he's gonna send it anymore.

642
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 1: But oh oh, but he said he a dude like

643
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 1: this one from online.

644
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 2: Well he was like, I bought it. I'm give me

645
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 2: your address. So I sent him the office address. Thank god.

646
00:32:57,520 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 3: Wait.

647
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,240
Speaker 1: Also, if you're listening, we can take that flow and

648
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 1: we'll take those tickets.

649
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:05,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know where to send them? Yeah, send them, bitch. Okay,

650
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 2: let's finish his story. We're getting off, but I'm kidding. Okay,

651
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 2: So whatever. Just really sweet though, things like that, like

652
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 2: remembering my birthday, buying me something apparently, you know, for

653
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 2: my birthday, and like driving to Atland. I'm like, okay,

654
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 2: I'm being too hard. Let me just go with it

655
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 2: was a.

656
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: Flag for you or for him for me to use

657
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 1: on him, to use on him, to use on me

658
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 1: for him to use.

659
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 2: He knows I'm gonna sub. Hey. Okay, So anyway, so yesterday,

660
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 2: this is his birthday, but I forgot, so I call him.

661
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 2: I'm talking, I'm asking him about his plans to New York,

662
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 2: like what time he's landing. He changed his flight because

663
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 2: originally was gonna leave really early, and then I was like,

664
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 2: you don't have to rush to leave. And then I

665
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 2: even was like, you can stay at my hotel, which

666
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 2: you know, like I was iffy about, but I was

667
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:59,239
Speaker 2: trying to be open because I was like, you know what,

668
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 2: let me just stuff. Then the universe said, bitch, fuck you.

669
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:05,640
Speaker 2: I didn't know. I didn't know. You offered a lot,

670
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:07,959
Speaker 2: saved your hotel. I did, okay, but then a good night.

671
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 2: Yeah it was one night. Literally, I just think all

672
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 2: the details, bitch. Sorry, Well, we got to save them

673
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 2: for everyone else, a secret whip to save them for

674
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 2: everyone else listening. So then I'm calling, I'm on the phone,

675
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:23,359
Speaker 2: I'm at the office, and I'm telling I'm like, okay, bye,

676
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,240
Speaker 2: like I haven't said a happy birthday because I didn't.

677
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 2: I realized I forgot, which tells you a lot as well.

678
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 2: So I was like, okay, well, I got to go

679
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:33,360
Speaker 2: and he's like, oh you aren't you forgetting something? And

680
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:36,319
Speaker 2: I was like uh And I was like, oh shit,

681
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:39,479
Speaker 2: it's your birthday. Oh my god, I'm so sorry. Fuck

682
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 2: happy birthday. Oh my god. I felt so bad. So

683
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:44,839
Speaker 2: we hung up the phone and this girl that works

684
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 2: with us at you know, at the office, she's like,

685
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:49,920
Speaker 2: you forgot his birthday. She's like, you have to send

686
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 2: him something because I told him about him the night

687
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 2: the day before and she and I showed her his

688
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 2: picture and she was like, he's the best. What is

689
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,359
Speaker 2: wrong with you? Like she was all teen hitm look

690
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:02,480
Speaker 2: at God. And she was like, we have to send

691
00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 2: him cupcakes. I was like, I don't know his a

692
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 2: dress and she was like, oh, I can find that,

693
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 2: don't worry. And I was like, well, actually she is

694
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:11,399
Speaker 2: like she's crazy. I love her so fucking much. Thank

695
00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 2: God for her. Actually, but I was like, no, I

696
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 2: know his one of his friend's Instagram. So we all

697
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 2: like DM him and tell him. I want to like

698
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 2: send him something. I couldn't find it. I could not

699
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 2: find this motherfucker's DM. So she's still like steady googling him.

700
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 2: She's like, doesn't he know what his homeows. I'm sure

701
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 2: there's like homeowner records, Charlotte. But then in the process

702
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,879
Speaker 2: of in the process of just searching his name, which

703
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 2: by the way, I have done, but I did. I

704
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 2: guess I didn't look very hard, She's like, oh, he

705
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 2: has an engagement website, and so she clicks on it

706
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:46,319
Speaker 2: and it's him and baby mama engagement photos and and

707
00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 2: I'd never seen her before. I don't even know her name, Okay,

708
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 2: so I asked. I told her. I was like, oh, yeah,

709
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 2: well he was engaged. I knew that. I was like, yeah,

710
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 2: they probably took engagement photos. That didn't really shock me.

711
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 2: I was more intrigued, like, oh, what does she look like?

712
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 2: You know, bitches, you know we're so basic and shit,

713
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 2: what does she look like? So basic? And I was

714
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 2: She's like, you never listened her Instagram. I was like,

715
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 2: I've never seen her before. I don't even know what

716
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 2: her name is. And I was like, okay, well, let's

717
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,360
Speaker 2: just get the address I want to send the fucking cupcakes.

718
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 2: So she pushes that aside. She fucking finds his address, bitch,

719
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 2: because it's just crazy. It's just crazy. She finds his address.

720
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 2: I know it's the right one because of this photo

721
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:24,600
Speaker 2: he sent me up. I know, I saw like a stalk.

722
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:28,240
Speaker 2: Well what was the photo? He like took a video

723
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 2: outside of his house because it was raining on Halloween.

724
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 2: Who oh, and it was like a cul de.

725
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 1: Sac and she was from how he fris Okay, you

726
00:36:34,960 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 1: knew it was the street reversed.

727
00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so he was like, it's raining outside, and

728
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 2: so this is Halloween, which, by the way, Halloween he

729
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:44,760
Speaker 2: told me him and his son addressing up as Martin characters,

730
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 2: and that he went to a party and there were

731
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 2: all these moms hitting on him because he's a single dad,

732
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 2: and you know, they were like trying to be stepmama.

733
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 2: And this is the whole thing he told me. So anyway,

734
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 2: just keep that in mind, guys, remember that story. So

735
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 2: we finally Dy, we call the cupcake place, we tell

736
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 2: them to send it. I know he's out of town,

737
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:04,799
Speaker 2: but he's going to be back that night. So I

738
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 2: asked that they they'll send it to the latest driver.

739
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:10,839
Speaker 2: And I write a note and I write, I bet

740
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 2: you thought, I bet you thought I forgot can't wait

741
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 2: to see you in New York, Love Erica. So then

742
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 2: we should we get those We get that handled pay

743
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:22,080
Speaker 2: for that. So then so then she's like, okay, wait,

744
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:23,920
Speaker 2: so let's go back to the girl because I love

745
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 2: this bitch. And she's like, who is this bitch? And

746
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know the baby mama. She's like,

747
00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 2: let's give her instagram.

748
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:33,440
Speaker 1: I love us women. Okay, you gotta give us a minute, right,

749
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,320
Speaker 1: one second? Five minutes?

750
00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 2: Close the door, and I want to literally, we're the bitch.

751
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 2: I wonder if I could control it, for she's gonna

752
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 2: be dirty, looks through the glass. I'm scared trying to

753
00:37:49,560 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 2: control the vote anyway, Okay, so go So we look

754
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 2: up her Instagram and she pulls it up and it

755
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 2: says it's her, she's a beautiful girl, and it says

756
00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:11,520
Speaker 2: like she lives in North Carolina and she's a fashion blogger.

757
00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 2: And I'm like she's like, no, she lives in North Carolina.

758
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:15,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, she lives in London. So she's clicking pictures.

759
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 2: She's like, oh maybe that's no, that's my New York.

760
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:21,400
Speaker 2: Oh that's not London. And then I'm like, wait, what

761
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 2: do you I don't see any London. And then I'm like,

762
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 2: wait is that him? And it's a picture of them

763
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 2: as a family, but not like a co parenting picture,

764
00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 2: like I'm fucking married picture, and I just keep digging. No.

765
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,720
Speaker 2: Then she goes, okay, well, oh wait, let's click her blog.

766
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:42,399
Speaker 2: So let me click her blog and it says they're

767
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,439
Speaker 2: like one of the posts is the Bahamas and that's

768
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 2: where he told me they did the exchange and it

769
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,720
Speaker 2: was this year. So I click on the fucking blog, bitch.

770
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,360
Speaker 2: For first of all, it's broken up by day. So

771
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 2: day one, Day one, me and my husband Keishan went

772
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,160
Speaker 2: on a boat. Today there's a picture of the I'm

773
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,960
Speaker 2: on a boat like cheers in Champagne and he's laughing.

774
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 2: She's fucking looking fucking fashionable and they look like a

775
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 2: fucking Instagram ad and I'm and then day two my

776
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 2: my my Insta husband because he guess he takes all

777
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 2: of her pictures. She literally my Insta husband, like my

778
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 2: Insta Bay husband, some ship like that. Because you know,

779
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 2: I clicked the blog.

780
00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 1: I looked through some of those pictures, girl, but I

781
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 1: did not read.

782
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,319
Speaker 2: I read that was that was in the buttons, like

783
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 2: you know, he pressed the buttons and you can see

784
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:34,840
Speaker 2: like video, Oh there's videos up there Bahama trip. I

785
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 2: would have to look at that again. Wait, bitch, what

786
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 2: were they doing like on vacation. They're just on vacation together.

787
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 2: They're on a trip together. Was a child there? I

788
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:47,399
Speaker 2: didn't even see any pictures of the kid. I think

789
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,439
Speaker 2: maybe he said it was a family vacation. I don't

790
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 2: I don't remember. I used zoned out. All I just

791
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 2: saw was that. Then I saw Halloween photo and it

792
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 2: was not just him as Martin and his son as

793
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 2: a Martin character. She was fucking genu bitch, she was Gina.

794
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:04,400
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, you just left out Gina. You

795
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 2: just well the fact that he said me and my

796
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:08,880
Speaker 2: son are Martin. I knew that that was bizarre. You

797
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 2: can't have Martin without Gina. You're so right, right like

798
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:14,280
Speaker 2: the fact that you guys.

799
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:19,080
Speaker 1: Were just Martin, Like nah, yeah, like there has to

800
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 1: be a Gina.

801
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 2: And who who was this?

802
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 1: I thought he said the son of Spider Man. He

803
00:40:24,719 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 1: was so he was just Martin. He doesn't even have

804
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,920
Speaker 1: that much character to be Martin by himself on Halloween.

805
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 1: And I hope you hears.

806
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 2: A character on Martin too. I don't know, I just

807
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:37,280
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter. All I know is the nigga's married.

808
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 2: He's been married for five years, the entire time, happily married,

809
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 2: with his child, living in his home, with his wife,

810
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 2: who lives in North Carolina, who does not fucking live

811
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 2: in London, who never took her kid away from him,

812
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:53,400
Speaker 2: who never had an abortion, who never got pregnant by

813
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 2: a soccer player, And it's probably a wonderful mother and

814
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 2: a great fucking wife for being with the fucking sociopath.

815
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 2: You didn't even put the rest of it on there.

816
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: What that he FaceTime with you and showed like said, like,

817
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:08,319
Speaker 1: oh right, yeah, he's this.

818
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,799
Speaker 2: Nick was facetiming me while he was hanging out with

819
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 2: his son, Like I saw I interacted with his son

820
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 2: on FaceTime, and like, I just can't believe someone would

821
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:21,839
Speaker 2: do that. I would never ever ever do that, even

822
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 2: as a single person I'm conscious of, Like even who

823
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: I allow her to see or hear me talk to

824
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,319
Speaker 2: the fact that you would allow me to engage and

825
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 2: you're married in your home in the like, it's just

826
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 2: mind fucking blowing that he painted this entire picture of

827
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:40,320
Speaker 2: himself being the single father too, like preyed upon my

828
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 2: singleness in a way. Knew that that was a common ground, Yeah,

829
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:49,600
Speaker 2: a common ground or like something for empathy, for empathy,

830
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 2: which I'm like, I don't want your fucking empathy or

831
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:54,239
Speaker 2: for empathy for him. But I'm just saying, but that's

832
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:57,320
Speaker 2: how he viewed singleness, right, Like it's so it's so terrible.

833
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 2: I'm it's so hard. I don't know what I'm gonna do.

834
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 2: It's just like I was literally on the like I

835
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:06,320
Speaker 2: fell to the floor. I was like, shut the f.

836
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 2: I was laughing because I was like, this can't be happening.

837
00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 1: You're kidding and to sink You're about to go spend

838
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:13,719
Speaker 1: another night with this man.

839
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 2: He's changed your flights, he's flying, he's changing his flight

840
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 2: from LA to go back home to LA to go

841
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:20,800
Speaker 2: see me in New York for one night.

842
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 1: A snow a Legra ticket. Nigga, I still want you

843
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 1: to form I love snow Legra. You know what's the most.

844
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 2: Jaw dropping thing to me is it's just one thing

845
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:36,479
Speaker 2: to lie.

846
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 1: You wanna be sneaky, you wanna get some pussy, you

847
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: want to have maybe a sidelife. Maybe your life is

848
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 1: that boring, not maybe obviously clearly, but for you to

849
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: just pull out of the clear blue black asshole of

850
00:42:53,080 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 1: your asshole lies, blatant phantom see from a fantasy book

851
00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 1: of your motherfucking psycho.

852
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:06,880
Speaker 2: Mind, and then like, you know what really makes a

853
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:08,359
Speaker 2: couple lies that I don't even ask you to make

854
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:13,920
Speaker 2: Like I've had such a hard day, you have you have? You? Like?

855
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:17,799
Speaker 2: What is this? Like? Literally like he told me he's

856
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 2: an actor one night he told me, Like, I was like,

857
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:22,400
Speaker 2: how is he doing? He's like, thanks for asking. No

858
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 2: one ever asks me, do you know how he's doing?

859
00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 2: I'm like, they don't. She barely FaceTime? Yeah, He's like

860
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 2: I barely even see her. She I don't even know.

861
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 2: I haven't talked to her in like a week or two.

862
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 2: And even told me like when he oh goday, So

863
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 2: he told me that, Like I was like, how is

864
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,239
Speaker 2: he doing adjusting to being back with you? And he's like,

865
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:44,959
Speaker 2: you know, he still asks for her. Still he still

866
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 2: asks for his mom at night. I'm like, thinking back

867
00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 2: on these moments, how sick you have to be to

868
00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 2: usual child as a bait for a bitch like I

869
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:57,200
Speaker 2: have bait for pussy, as a bait for attention, as

870
00:43:57,200 --> 00:44:01,399
Speaker 2: a bait for whatever imaginary relationship or fucking idea you've

871
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:03,839
Speaker 2: had in your head about what this or we could

872
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 2: be because I know you thought about it. I know

873
00:44:06,960 --> 00:44:09,399
Speaker 2: he envisioned what our shit would be, Like how fun

874
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 2: I felt, how exciting I felt to him, right, he

875
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 2: was so excited was the idea of me. Right, And

876
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 2: that's really sad. It's it's just.

877
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 1: And but the thing is it's had to go to

878
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:26,279
Speaker 1: those lengths to just get a little piece of it.

879
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:29,480
Speaker 2: And I and I really and like for me, like

880
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 2: my gut told me, no, I went against it, but

881
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 2: not only that, like I was, I was really like

882
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:38,839
Speaker 2: I cared about him because you're human. Yeah, like maybe

883
00:44:38,840 --> 00:44:42,320
Speaker 2: it's not like a way of like I even told myself,

884
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 2: I was like, you know, I don't know about what

885
00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:47,399
Speaker 2: we have here romantically, but like the fact that this

886
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 2: man is taking care of his son on his own,

887
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 2: like that's admirable. Like I'm proud to have someone even

888
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 2: like listening to us that, Like you know, it's taking

889
00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 2: in what we say as mothers and cares like that.

890
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 2: I felt that you with that, Yeah, wow, Like I

891
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 2: don't know, I just I'm happy I'm reaching the single

892
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 2: dads too. But it's just so crazy how I don't

893
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 2: know what he thought in his head, what how this

894
00:45:15,719 --> 00:45:17,440
Speaker 2: was going to turn out? But anyway, So after I

895
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 2: found out all this shit, right, oh okay, let's get

896
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 2: back onto the store. So after I found out all

897
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:26,359
Speaker 2: this shit, I was like, what the fuck? And I

898
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,479
Speaker 2: didn't know what to do except call the cupcake place

899
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:31,840
Speaker 2: and make sure they expedited the cupcakes immediately to his

900
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 2: home because I wanted to make sure they got there

901
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:36,880
Speaker 2: before he did. And you know, part of me was like,

902
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 2: that's a bitch move. But then I said, you know what, Erica,

903
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:45,920
Speaker 2: you're always so fucking nice. No, someone needs to know,

904
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 2: and that's someone. It's probably his wife, because I'm worried

905
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 2: for her. I am. I am her because this person,

906
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 2: this isn't the first time he's done that, and he

907
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:57,880
Speaker 2: has no concept of real ill a fake Instagram account

908
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 2: where I'm sure he's reaching out to multiple women he follows.

909
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 2: I saw when I looked at his following list on there,

910
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:05,400
Speaker 2: because one day I was like, he's not following anyone

911
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 2: or followed by anyone, but he's following like sixty something

912
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:10,919
Speaker 2: people and they're all like a lot of more podcasts.

913
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:16,839
Speaker 2: They're all men's podcast h yep, and other things. Other

914
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 2: male things like that he wants to keep up with

915
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 2: like sports things, but a lot of women. And I

916
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:24,799
Speaker 2: was like, hmm, Now, looking back, it all makes sense.

917
00:46:24,800 --> 00:46:26,839
Speaker 2: He has a secret Instagram account that his wife doesn't

918
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 2: know about because he probably has already gotten in trouble

919
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 2: for being on Instagram doing dumb shit, doing some dumb shit.

920
00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:33,480
Speaker 2: So now he has a secret account where he reaches

921
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 2: out to people. Fuck it has Patreon where he like,

922
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 2: that's how he lures the men in, like supporting the dream,

923
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:44,319
Speaker 2: right right, supporting the cause, supporting the dream, and he

924
00:46:44,440 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 2: happens to be fine a little bit. I don't know

925
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 2: about that voice, but he happens to be fine a

926
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:53,319
Speaker 2: little bit, and I feel like I don't know, Like

927
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:57,000
Speaker 2: I don't know. I've I was so disappointed with myself.

928
00:46:57,040 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 2: I was like, how did I not? But then I'm

929
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 2: looking back and I'm like, no, I didn't do anything wrong.

930
00:47:01,040 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 2: I went by I went into this with like a

931
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:06,040
Speaker 2: pure heart, pure intentions. I didn't follow my gut. Yes,

932
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 2: that was It challenged me because I was like, am

933
00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 2: I being shallow? I'm trying to push through this, you know,

934
00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:15,279
Speaker 2: and whatever. So he texts me after I find out

935
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 2: because he has no idea I've found out. So we

936
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:20,879
Speaker 2: had talked about Frozen earlier because we're parents and that's

937
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:23,360
Speaker 2: what we do. And I told him I fucking hate Frozen.

938
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 2: I really just don't like that movie. I'm ready for

939
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 2: it to be done. And I can't believe there's a

940
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 2: whole other one coming out. Like I thought we were

941
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:31,880
Speaker 2: off the Frozen train. I reach back on it, right.

942
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 2: So he sends me a link to some Frozen memes

943
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 2: and writes in capital letters, just to fuck with you.

944
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 2: So I send him a link to his wife's instagram

945
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 2: them dressed up like Martin characters and write in caps,

946
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:49,560
Speaker 2: just to fuck with you. And I texted Mela this

947
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 2: and I'm like, bitch, look what I said. I'm like,

948
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 2: She's like, did he answer? What the fuck? What is

949
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:56,359
Speaker 2: he doing? Radio me the fucking silent? But I saw

950
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:58,279
Speaker 2: that he read it. Because I don't know if one

951
00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:00,279
Speaker 2: of you motherfuckers that has listened to right listening to

952
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 2: this podcast right now, if you have your messages capable

953
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:05,800
Speaker 2: of people knowing that you read them, why, I don't

954
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:09,440
Speaker 2: understand that. Do you understand you ever did that? No? No,

955
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:11,719
Speaker 2: it's great for me because I know you read it,

956
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 2: but like, I've never understood the logic in it. I

957
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 2: don't want you to know what the fuck I'm doing

958
00:48:16,520 --> 00:48:18,560
Speaker 2: it all right, right right, I don't want you to

959
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:22,320
Speaker 2: know that I'm not responding anyway. Tell me that's a

960
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:24,319
Speaker 2: red flag. That's like a red flag for me. If

961
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 2: you keep your messages on red, you're maybe a serial

962
00:48:27,600 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 2: killer anyway. So he so, then nothing, he says nothing.

963
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 2: Then I go back to my Instagram because I had

964
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 2: sent the link of the girl's instagram to Jamila, like

965
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:40,799
Speaker 2: can you believe this shit? And the link is expired,

966
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:45,320
Speaker 2: like her instagram no longer exists. So I'm like, wait,

967
00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 2: did she block me? Like? How does she know who

968
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 2: I am? Already? What did he tell her? Like? What

969
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:51,799
Speaker 2: the fuck? So then Jamila goes on her Instagram and

970
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:54,839
Speaker 2: she's also blocked, and then Sebastian goes on his. He

971
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:59,920
Speaker 2: blocked all my friends from her instagram specifically. So I'm

972
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 2: just like, I don't know, Like I was just in

973
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:04,080
Speaker 2: pure shock.

974
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 1: Honestly, is this considered well, at guess this is not

975
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 1: catfish because it's him.

976
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:09,400
Speaker 2: No, I've been having this conversation with someone today too,

977
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:13,120
Speaker 2: because it's like emotional catfishing. Can we call it something?

978
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 2: It's not like physical catfishing. It's like mind trick cat

979
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:25,279
Speaker 2: I don't know, just fucking make a catfish, dogfish, dogs dogfish, dogfish.

980
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 2: It's lies of the heart, your lies. So I I

981
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 2: emailed him. I have his email because he's bought things

982
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:41,399
Speaker 2: from us, so we have I have multiple email But well,

983
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 2: he was our og Patreon, he bought tickets to go

984
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:50,880
Speaker 2: to our show, sent us money from Vegas. Oh he

985
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 2: was so invested. Listen. I forgot about that. Oh my god,

986
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 2: he was so invested.

987
00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 1: Not so he was invested in us and giving us

988
00:49:58,880 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 1: fucking branding advice because now we know because he's a

989
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 1: fucking husband inst today. He one time he was like

990
00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:10,839
Speaker 1: winning in Vegas. We're like, okay, we're going to send

991
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:12,760
Speaker 1: you fifty dollars. We need some money.

992
00:50:12,760 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 2: We want to, like, you know, put some money on

993
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 2: the book rush for fresh show.

994
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:19,520
Speaker 1: And I'm like, okay, let's just gamble it, fuck it,

995
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 1: let's see what happens. So he made us like what

996
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:23,479
Speaker 1: one hundred and fifty two hundred dollars.

997
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:27,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, anyway, So you emailed him and said, I just said,

998
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:30,520
Speaker 2: I said, why I put the subject why And I said,

999
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 2: why would you do this to me? Like why would

1000
00:50:32,600 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 2: you go above and beyond to just blatantly make up

1001
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:39,759
Speaker 2: elaborate lies. I was like, you know my history, you

1002
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 2: know I have trust issues. You know I've been on

1003
00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:45,640
Speaker 2: the other side of this, Like what is wrong with you?

1004
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 2: And I was like, and the fact that you had

1005
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:50,560
Speaker 2: your son in front of me, like what is actually

1006
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 2: what are you doing? And I was like, I deserve

1007
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 2: an explanation. I'm a good person. Call me right now.

1008
00:50:57,360 --> 00:50:59,960
Speaker 2: And he did no hered this, So he called me

1009
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:06,840
Speaker 2: and he was like, hey, I don't I don't. I know.

1010
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 2: I can't apologize or I didn't apology. I can't apologize that.

1011
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:11,800
Speaker 2: It's not gonna make anything better. I don't even know

1012
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 2: what to say. And I was like, yeah, I don't

1013
00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 2: know what the fuck you are doing. I don't know

1014
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:18,840
Speaker 2: what the fuck to say either. You are a sociopath.

1015
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:21,840
Speaker 2: You disgusted me, You had your son in front of me.

1016
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:24,840
Speaker 2: You talked about your wife as if she was basically

1017
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 2: like a deadbeat mom. Meanwhile, she's living in your fucking home,

1018
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 2: you're married. And he was like, I just I got

1019
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:34,799
Speaker 2: into deep and I didn't know how to get out

1020
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, got into deep.

1021
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, you slam you physically yourself. No one asked you

1022
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:43,360
Speaker 1: to tom over here. You made so much I was

1023
00:51:43,520 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 1: of anything. I like was like, okay, we'll see each other.

1024
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:53,480
Speaker 2: We see each other. You literally made accommodations to see me. Like,

1025
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 2: what the fuck is wrong with you? You are a fucking psychopath.

1026
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 2: You are a fan. She said this, She said, you're

1027
00:52:01,719 --> 00:52:05,759
Speaker 2: a fan, and that is the truth, like you have.

1028
00:52:06,960 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 2: I'm so scared for her, for his wife. Honest, that's

1029
00:52:10,280 --> 00:52:12,959
Speaker 2: scary because this, if he's capable of this, this isn't

1030
00:52:13,000 --> 00:52:16,360
Speaker 2: the first time he's done some fuck ass weird shit

1031
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 2: like this. Like I wonder, oh my god, this is

1032
00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:22,680
Speaker 2: you guys, if there's any podcasts out here listening and

1033
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 2: this sound this story sounds anything familiar, let us know,

1034
00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 2: we need to make Wait, what if he's done this

1035
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:31,840
Speaker 2: to other all other women that he listens to.

1036
00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:33,560
Speaker 1: You said he listened to a lot of women podcast

1037
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 1: So what if like he got in touch and like

1038
00:52:38,120 --> 00:52:41,400
Speaker 1: you said, god on Patreons supported he he ha, you know,

1039
00:52:42,040 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 1: and what if someone else has discovered this and you're like,

1040
00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:48,320
Speaker 1: not his first victim.

1041
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:52,399
Speaker 2: I need to know the details. All I know is

1042
00:52:53,000 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 2: that shit is crazy. I are you hear I hear

1043
00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:01,360
Speaker 2: about things like this, but I never think it's gonna

1044
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:06,799
Speaker 2: be me. And it's just I can't believe, like your

1045
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 2: whole like you're married, you're so like you're fucking married,

1046
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:11,360
Speaker 2: and we're so green.

1047
00:53:11,440 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 1: I just think like even when I met him, he

1048
00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 1: seemed rather normal. We sound cool, like we all like

1049
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:18,440
Speaker 1: laughed and chilled. Like granted we'd both a.

1050
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 2: Level of compartmentalizing that that man can do is a

1051
00:53:23,200 --> 00:53:26,880
Speaker 2: scary thing and it's deep.

1052
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 1: And it's scary for us as just single women, like

1053
00:53:30,320 --> 00:53:33,879
Speaker 1: you could only have what someone gives you to go

1054
00:53:33,960 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 1: for us, unless you're Christina and you know how to

1055
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:39,320
Speaker 1: dig deep into the googles, you know what I'm saying,

1056
00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 1: Like you you just take something for face value and

1057
00:53:42,680 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 1: you have to believe it and then come to find

1058
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:49,759
Speaker 1: out who knows who niggas are. That's that's scary, you know,

1059
00:53:50,000 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 1: fucking sex traffickings at all time, highs, kidnappers.

1060
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 2: It's just all times, it's just too weird. It's just

1061
00:53:55,120 --> 00:53:57,759
Speaker 2: too easy. And like this week I've just had like

1062
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:01,520
Speaker 2: some weird things too, like a hinge guy messaged me

1063
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 2: and like it's just like I have people like that

1064
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:08,200
Speaker 2: are like low key kind of like obsessed with my

1065
00:54:08,239 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 2: baby daddy, And then I wonder like, are they just

1066
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 2: trying to like fuck with me to say that they

1067
00:54:12,719 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 2: didn't like that's and like I'm like, is this people?

1068
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 2: I never even thought I had to think about this

1069
00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:21,520
Speaker 2: type of ship, Like what like people say like, oh,

1070
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 2: is that his daughter? I'm like that was my fucking daughter,

1071
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 2: and like, you know, it's just too much. It's just

1072
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:31,360
Speaker 2: too much. So this week was just really stressful. I

1073
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:36,320
Speaker 2: didn't honestly, when I talked to him, I got emotional

1074
00:54:36,480 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 2: because first of all, I felt triggered as fuck. I

1075
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:42,720
Speaker 2: was like, god damn, like being on the other side

1076
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:46,480
Speaker 2: of this, but like obviously what happened to me in

1077
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 2: my last relationship and there being another woman, you know,

1078
00:54:51,280 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 2: she knew about me, where is this I had? But

1079
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:57,480
Speaker 2: she had the option to say I'm good right this

1080
00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:03,040
Speaker 2: y he took advantage of me and like tried to

1081
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:08,920
Speaker 2: like manipulate the situation and tapping into things that you

1082
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:14,400
Speaker 2: on the podcast From the podcast, yeah, that's really scary.

1083
00:55:14,400 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, And it's just like it made me sad

1084
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:21,080
Speaker 2: because I was like, wow, is this what men are

1085
00:55:21,520 --> 00:55:27,919
Speaker 2: men are so hos currently always like he's a nerdy ass. Yeah,

1086
00:55:27,920 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 2: he's not like something with a lot of swag. No,

1087
00:55:30,040 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 2: he wasn't like something like I need to think it

1088
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:34,399
Speaker 2: was it was the player, you know, and that's why too.

1089
00:55:34,440 --> 00:55:36,080
Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, he's different, he's not like most

1090
00:55:36,120 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 2: of them, because that's the kind of thing I usually like,

1091
00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:42,239
Speaker 2: like I must conquer. But I just it made me

1092
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:46,600
Speaker 2: feel like, is this like humanity? What I Is this

1093
00:55:46,640 --> 00:55:48,719
Speaker 2: all I'm going to get? And also like why is

1094
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 2: it that I keep attracting weird people like this, like narcissists,

1095
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:54,960
Speaker 2: and like, I just it's like I felt betrayed.

1096
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 1: I was just like, if this is out there, if

1097
00:55:57,120 --> 00:55:59,440
Speaker 1: this happened to Erica, this happened right under our noses,

1098
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:03,600
Speaker 1: this is creaty trust no one, it didn't.

1099
00:56:03,360 --> 00:56:05,520
Speaker 2: Even happen to me. I was just like, I just don't, like,

1100
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:09,799
Speaker 2: I feel like my trust is totally like demolished right

1101
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:13,960
Speaker 2: now for men, so much so that like even to Loombay.

1102
00:56:14,560 --> 00:56:19,840
Speaker 2: I called to Loombay right after this and I literally

1103
00:56:19,960 --> 00:56:22,239
Speaker 2: cursed him out. I was like, who are you? He's

1104
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:25,000
Speaker 2: like what, I'm like, who are you? Are you? Who

1105
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 2: you say you are. He's like, what are you talking about?

1106
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 2: She researched all the hood. I literally was like, I

1107
00:56:30,800 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 2: googled you and there's no information. Who the fuck are you?

1108
00:56:34,600 --> 00:56:36,239
Speaker 2: Are you who you say you are? And he's like,

1109
00:56:36,520 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 2: even if I was, if I didn't, if I was

1110
00:56:38,960 --> 00:56:40,399
Speaker 2: a liar, do you think i'd tell you the truth

1111
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:45,479
Speaker 2: right now? And that's a good point. Actually you caught

1112
00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:47,480
Speaker 2: me because that guy that you're dating, the other guy.

1113
00:56:50,280 --> 00:56:52,800
Speaker 2: But I got emotional because I just was like, wow,

1114
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:58,800
Speaker 2: like I just I don't know, I just I'm trying

1115
00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 2: to be vulnerable and I'm trying not to let things

1116
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 2: like this jade me from love. I know, because you

1117
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 2: already are like, don't trust people, right, And it's just

1118
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:07,319
Speaker 2: like I don't want things like this jading me from love.

1119
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 2: I want my heart to be okay.

1120
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:11,680
Speaker 1: I mean, Eric can be looking at every moment the side,

1121
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:14,000
Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't, no, no, I do.

1122
00:57:14,200 --> 00:57:16,800
Speaker 2: I go off energy. I know energy, and I'm like,

1123
00:57:17,120 --> 00:57:19,960
Speaker 2: there's something dark about that energy. There's something you're not

1124
00:57:20,160 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 2: telling me, and I don't like that. And for him,

1125
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:29,280
Speaker 2: like I felt like he my body wouldn't let me

1126
00:57:29,320 --> 00:57:31,840
Speaker 2: get close to him in that way. I felt he

1127
00:57:32,720 --> 00:57:38,800
Speaker 2: was not emotionally available for me. It, yeah, I know.

1128
00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 2: And that just brings it back to that whole concept

1129
00:57:42,840 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 2: of that fucking airplane. That's a hell opdah. It just

1130
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 2: brings me back to that whole idea of like thirty

1131
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:55,479
Speaker 2: two for me and this next year really honing in

1132
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 2: on my instincts and not questioning it and not letting

1133
00:57:58,960 --> 00:58:01,520
Speaker 2: people make me feel like I look at everyone with

1134
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:04,240
Speaker 2: the side eye, because no, whenever I don't look at

1135
00:58:04,240 --> 00:58:06,480
Speaker 2: someone with the side eye and not to not and

1136
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 2: I really don't look at everyone's side. But when I

1137
00:58:08,720 --> 00:58:11,720
Speaker 2: go against my gut, I know who my people are

1138
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:15,080
Speaker 2: and who aren't. I think, I know, like sometimes my people,

1139
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:17,640
Speaker 2: your people might not be my people, you know what

1140
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:19,760
Speaker 2: I mean, Like some people that you connect with just

1141
00:58:19,840 --> 00:58:21,680
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna connect with it. And I just I

1142
00:58:21,760 --> 00:58:24,480
Speaker 2: know what kind of energy I can work with and

1143
00:58:24,520 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 2: be around. Obviously his energy isn't for anyone. Yeah, he's

1144
00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:31,080
Speaker 2: literally just fucking with you know what. That's the thing, Like,

1145
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:32,840
Speaker 2: that's the thing that's what's scary.

1146
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 1: I think, like we're both energy people as water signs.

1147
00:58:36,960 --> 00:58:40,640
Speaker 2: As and he's a scorpion. But even like no, but

1148
00:58:40,720 --> 00:58:43,840
Speaker 2: this other he's a scorpion, and I don't ever fuck

1149
00:58:43,880 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 2: with male scorpios because male scorpios are notoriously known to

1150
00:58:48,440 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 2: be That's where that lying shit, that's where that lies.

1151
00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:55,520
Speaker 2: It's in the male side. I mean women lie to

1152
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:57,480
Speaker 2: don't get me to twisted. Of course, people always have

1153
00:58:57,560 --> 00:58:59,920
Speaker 2: men to say about a scorpio, but I've always told

1154
00:58:59,920 --> 00:59:04,040
Speaker 2: me meant scorpio men are liars, and like this this

1155
00:59:04,320 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 2: like and I you know, like I try not to

1156
00:59:06,920 --> 00:59:09,360
Speaker 2: just be live my life through horoscope, but truly I

1157
00:59:09,400 --> 00:59:13,520
Speaker 2: don't November. Look, this was like confirmation there's a reason

1158
00:59:13,560 --> 00:59:16,120
Speaker 2: why I've never fucked with a scorpio except for the

1159
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:18,560
Speaker 2: person I lost my virginity to virginity too, and like

1160
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:22,560
Speaker 2: that was it. It just was too we both can't

1161
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:26,160
Speaker 2: be dark, we both can't be moody. We like we

1162
00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:28,480
Speaker 2: need I need someone who balances it out. That's why

1163
00:59:28,720 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 2: someone who makes me laugh is important, because it really

1164
00:59:31,280 --> 00:59:33,360
Speaker 2: is like, I know I'm funny, but like I need

1165
00:59:33,400 --> 00:59:36,240
Speaker 2: someone that's a little like lighthearted, lighthearted, more lighthearted than

1166
00:59:36,280 --> 00:59:38,200
Speaker 2: I am. So but it's hard.

1167
00:59:38,200 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 1: It feels like you're like even though now you can

1168
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:42,960
Speaker 1: look back and say I knew in my in my gut.

1169
00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:45,920
Speaker 2: I knew something wasn't resonating in my body. I think it.

1170
00:59:45,920 --> 00:59:50,240
Speaker 1: Feels hurtful because you feel deceived because usually you're really

1171
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:53,720
Speaker 1: good at reading people, and it's like, damn, I might

1172
00:59:53,760 --> 00:59:54,520
Speaker 1: need to sharpen up this.

1173
00:59:54,680 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 2: Well, you know, it's not even that it's men, you

1174
00:59:57,280 --> 00:59:59,080
Speaker 2: know what. I made me feel like I don't trust

1175
00:59:59,120 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 2: myself with men. It's like time and time again, I'm like,

1176
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 2: how the fuck do I keep doing this? How? And

1177
01:00:10,720 --> 01:00:13,560
Speaker 2: but but I know that, like that's not true too.

1178
01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:16,160
Speaker 2: I know that I've done the work and that like

1179
01:00:16,200 --> 01:00:18,800
Speaker 2: even I have met really I've met men with really

1180
01:00:18,840 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 2: great traits and great qualities and they might not be

1181
01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:27,320
Speaker 2: the men for me, but I've still met, like I've

1182
01:00:27,360 --> 01:00:29,200
Speaker 2: had met men that have given me like hope and

1183
01:00:29,280 --> 01:00:31,320
Speaker 2: like oh wow, like oh I can't ask for that.

1184
01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 2: It goes back to that list that we write like,

1185
01:00:33,760 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 2: oh this is actually possible. I know I can do

1186
01:00:36,360 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 2: that because I know I can't have because it's right

1187
01:00:39,280 --> 01:00:43,760
Speaker 2: and it was just I don't know, but I think

1188
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:47,160
Speaker 2: the lesson for me was like, yeah, trusting your intuition

1189
01:00:47,360 --> 01:00:51,200
Speaker 2: and also probably not like fucking at your workplace, because

1190
01:00:51,280 --> 01:00:54,840
Speaker 2: essentially that's what it is don't fuck at your workplace

1191
01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:58,760
Speaker 2: for podcasting. That means don't funk the listeners. Okay, don't

1192
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:02,000
Speaker 2: do that shit. I'm cool. If you're listening, I'm not

1193
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:11,280
Speaker 2: fucking you. Don't fucking st no listener, no fuck rule.

1194
01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:15,000
Speaker 1: And today, no today, we are to hear about declaring

1195
01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:18,040
Speaker 1: none of that, none of that frisky in.

1196
01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:22,840
Speaker 2: December, I mean November fourteenth, there'll be no good mom,

1197
01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:25,960
Speaker 2: bad choices, listener frisky business.

1198
01:01:27,040 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 1: Unless you have on Saturday, unless you want to make up,

1199
01:01:31,280 --> 01:01:33,480
Speaker 1: unless there's maybe a makeup.

1200
01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:42,320
Speaker 2: Making UT's fine, yeah, so that okay? So then so

1201
01:01:42,440 --> 01:01:46,760
Speaker 2: then okay, this I'm not proud of. This is like

1202
01:01:46,880 --> 01:01:49,840
Speaker 2: this part of not so proud of. And I've like

1203
01:01:49,960 --> 01:01:52,240
Speaker 2: battled with this all day and it's stressed me out

1204
01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:54,440
Speaker 2: because all this should happened yesterday. Guys, I don't know

1205
01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:56,800
Speaker 2: when we're putting this out, but it's not far from here.

1206
01:01:58,600 --> 01:02:05,400
Speaker 2: And I so my friend, my best friend, Sebastian. I

1207
01:02:05,480 --> 01:02:12,040
Speaker 2: love him so mother fucking much, this beautiful man. He

1208
01:02:12,240 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 2: is such a ride or die for me, Like I

1209
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:18,400
Speaker 2: don't know how I've been blessed with this friend. Like

1210
01:02:18,520 --> 01:02:22,400
Speaker 2: he's just a ride or die type of nigga. Okay

1211
01:02:22,880 --> 01:02:25,160
Speaker 2: he I told him the story and he was like, oh,

1212
01:02:25,320 --> 01:02:27,880
Speaker 2: hell no. He's like this, why I don't fuck with niggas.

1213
01:02:27,920 --> 01:02:30,480
Speaker 2: This one niggas ain't shit. You know what you women,

1214
01:02:30,720 --> 01:02:33,920
Speaker 2: you just put up with so much shit and we

1215
01:02:34,080 --> 01:02:38,120
Speaker 2: just keep doing this bullshit. He's like, no, no, no, no,

1216
01:02:38,160 --> 01:02:40,560
Speaker 2: it's not today. He's like, you know what, you were

1217
01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:42,560
Speaker 2: really nice with your ex and you didn't you didn't

1218
01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:44,400
Speaker 2: go down that route. But you don't know this nigga

1219
01:02:44,400 --> 01:02:47,360
Speaker 2: shit and someone needs to know and it's his wife.

1220
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:49,520
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh my god, I don't know. Wait,

1221
01:02:49,560 --> 01:02:51,320
Speaker 2: you need to be if you want to be convinced

1222
01:02:51,320 --> 01:02:55,920
Speaker 2: to do some shit. Concobaba, should I keep this niggas

1223
01:02:55,920 --> 01:03:01,040
Speaker 2: car hold on? Let me Sebastian that's gone said, look

1224
01:03:01,120 --> 01:03:06,640
Speaker 2: how many keys should I write? I'm here? Should I

1225
01:03:06,640 --> 01:03:07,360
Speaker 2: pop the tires?

1226
01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:07,480
Speaker 4: Bo?

1227
01:03:07,480 --> 01:03:09,800
Speaker 2: I'm at it? I brought some sugar for the gas

1228
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:13,520
Speaker 2: take right now we have about gasoline. Were gonna like

1229
01:03:13,560 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 2: this shut on fire? So uh, he was like no,

1230
01:03:20,240 --> 01:03:23,720
Speaker 2: she she needs to know. And I'm like, oh my god,

1231
01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:26,640
Speaker 2: I'm not writing this fucking letter. You know. I was like,

1232
01:03:26,680 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 2: I'm blocked on everything. You know. It's He's like, no, no, no, no, no.

1233
01:03:31,080 --> 01:03:32,880
Speaker 2: I looked. I looked on her blog and she has

1234
01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:34,840
Speaker 2: an email address, and I was like, well, the way

1235
01:03:34,880 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 2: this nigga went in her fucking Instagram, I'm sure he

1236
01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:40,440
Speaker 2: can block the bitch like block, I'm sure he has

1237
01:03:40,520 --> 01:03:43,520
Speaker 2: access to her email. I was thinking that. No, I

1238
01:03:43,880 --> 01:03:46,920
Speaker 2: thought that too. I think he probably got the email. Anyway,

1239
01:03:46,960 --> 01:03:51,640
Speaker 2: Sebastian wrote an email on his own behalf as my friend,

1240
01:03:52,600 --> 01:03:56,520
Speaker 2: breaking down the storyline, the timeline, and why her nigga

1241
01:03:56,600 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 2: is crazy and that she needs to be careful and

1242
01:04:00,080 --> 01:04:02,080
Speaker 2: basically it was like, I'm not saying this to ruin

1243
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:04,680
Speaker 2: your marriage. I'm just saying this because I feel like

1244
01:04:04,720 --> 01:04:07,880
Speaker 2: you should probably know what's going on. And my friend

1245
01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:11,640
Speaker 2: is hurt, not really hurt, not really hurt, but like

1246
01:04:11,760 --> 01:04:14,840
Speaker 2: you need to know pauls and know. I was like

1247
01:04:14,880 --> 01:04:20,840
Speaker 2: conflicted about it because you know, my ex's mistress messaged

1248
01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:25,600
Speaker 2: me and it was really hurtful. She also is vindictive

1249
01:04:25,600 --> 01:04:28,480
Speaker 2: and had an agenda. Yeah, she was really hurtful. But

1250
01:04:28,800 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, I'm glad it happened.

1251
01:04:30,120 --> 01:04:33,160
Speaker 2: It had to happen like it had to, and I'm

1252
01:04:33,200 --> 01:04:35,000
Speaker 2: a better woman for it. And I'm not here to

1253
01:04:35,120 --> 01:04:37,360
Speaker 2: have this woman make a choice about her life. Whatever

1254
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:39,840
Speaker 2: she might very well stay with the man. God bless

1255
01:04:39,880 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 2: you if you do, because you go need a girl.

1256
01:04:42,040 --> 01:04:45,360
Speaker 2: But I feel like she should know. But I do

1257
01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:48,040
Speaker 2: feel like I should have written that letter. I just

1258
01:04:48,120 --> 01:04:50,760
Speaker 2: last night was just too overwhelmed. He wanted to do it.

1259
01:04:50,840 --> 01:04:52,800
Speaker 2: I didn't give a fuck. He was over there typing,

1260
01:04:52,880 --> 01:04:54,680
Speaker 2: not at my like he was on FaceTime, like.

1261
01:04:55,800 --> 01:05:00,920
Speaker 1: He should have put it from you as you. I

1262
01:05:00,960 --> 01:05:03,000
Speaker 1: haven't heard the letter, So can we hear the letter?

1263
01:05:03,840 --> 01:05:16,320
Speaker 2: Oh my god, oh God, here it is, Hello Blank.

1264
01:05:17,360 --> 01:05:19,959
Speaker 2: My name is Sebastian. I hate to be the bearer

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01:05:20,000 --> 01:05:22,520
Speaker 2: of bad news, but unfortunately it seems that I have

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01:05:22,600 --> 01:05:25,920
Speaker 2: no choice but too, because the person that should be

1267
01:05:25,960 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 2: telling this news is completely blocked from reaching you. But

1268
01:05:29,280 --> 01:05:35,720
Speaker 2: I have my ways. I can know, but I have

1269
01:05:35,800 --> 01:05:38,480
Speaker 2: my way. In August, my best friend Erica told me

1270
01:05:38,520 --> 01:05:41,760
Speaker 2: about this guy. I'm always in support of her everything

1271
01:05:41,840 --> 01:05:43,680
Speaker 2: because she is a great woman, a great friend, and

1272
01:05:43,840 --> 01:05:47,080
Speaker 2: absolute great single mother. So as she's telling me about

1273
01:05:47,080 --> 01:05:49,880
Speaker 2: this new single man, I'm getting to know him through her.

1274
01:05:50,200 --> 01:05:52,280
Speaker 2: I continue to get an idea of who this man is.

1275
01:05:52,360 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 2: And one of my first questions about him, of course,

1276
01:05:54,680 --> 01:05:57,160
Speaker 2: was is he married? He seemed like too good of

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01:05:57,200 --> 01:05:59,640
Speaker 2: a man to be single. She then explained that he

1278
01:05:59,680 --> 01:06:04,040
Speaker 2: has a and an ex assuming that is you. As

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01:06:04,080 --> 01:06:06,640
Speaker 2: time goes on, he starts to feel comfortable informing Erica

1280
01:06:06,640 --> 01:06:08,680
Speaker 2: about how you left for a soccer player and got

1281
01:06:08,680 --> 01:06:11,640
Speaker 2: pregnant but had a miscarriage. So but it had a

1282
01:06:11,680 --> 01:06:14,720
Speaker 2: miscarriage or something. So of course, her being a single parent,

1283
01:06:14,760 --> 01:06:17,160
Speaker 2: she felt for his She felt for his story, and

1284
01:06:17,200 --> 01:06:19,840
Speaker 2: they continue to talk. As some more time goes by,

1285
01:06:19,920 --> 01:06:22,360
Speaker 2: he then tells Erica that you have his son, and

1286
01:06:22,360 --> 01:06:24,640
Speaker 2: that he spends six months with you and spends six

1287
01:06:25,200 --> 01:06:27,400
Speaker 2: and spends the other six with him, and that he

1288
01:06:27,520 --> 01:06:30,320
Speaker 2: is he is headed if I'm not mistaken, to the

1289
01:06:30,320 --> 01:06:34,160
Speaker 2: Bahamas to do the exchange with the child. So while

1290
01:06:34,200 --> 01:06:36,960
Speaker 2: this is all going on, FaceTime calls have been happening.

1291
01:06:37,120 --> 01:06:40,640
Speaker 2: I Sebastian spoke to him at least twice. Pictures were

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01:06:40,640 --> 01:06:43,240
Speaker 2: sent from what my best friend Erica told me, he

1293
01:06:43,280 --> 01:06:45,520
Speaker 2: even face timed her with your son on the phone

1294
01:06:45,520 --> 01:06:48,440
Speaker 2: and had him say hello to her. Remember, she's going

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01:06:48,480 --> 01:06:51,360
Speaker 2: about this as if he is a confirmed single man.

1296
01:06:51,760 --> 01:07:00,440
Speaker 2: No confirmed, bitious get your confirmations don't just take single.

1297
01:07:00,480 --> 01:07:04,000
Speaker 2: You need to get a confirmation certified. Let a confirmed

1298
01:07:04,240 --> 01:07:08,200
Speaker 2: single man with no woman on his end. Oh my god, this,

1299
01:07:08,360 --> 01:07:11,720
Speaker 2: this run on sentence is giving me anxiety. Single man

1300
01:07:11,880 --> 01:07:15,200
Speaker 2: with no woman on his end. Fast forward. Sometime they

1301
01:07:15,240 --> 01:07:18,520
Speaker 2: find things in common such as music, the single parent life,

1302
01:07:18,840 --> 01:07:20,960
Speaker 2: and other things as well. He calls her on a

1303
01:07:21,040 --> 01:07:24,040
Speaker 2: daily and describes his day to her, sends even more pictures,

1304
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:26,360
Speaker 2: and eventually, one night he felt he was a bit

1305
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:36,160
Speaker 2: lonely and started to do this sexting thing. Why did

1306
01:07:36,160 --> 01:07:39,560
Speaker 2: I let him send this ship? Oh god, you're in

1307
01:07:39,600 --> 01:07:42,520
Speaker 2: the same fucking go Oh my god. As pictures were

1308
01:07:42,560 --> 01:07:45,040
Speaker 2: being sent, I'm guessing the idea of a meetup would

1309
01:07:45,040 --> 01:07:48,240
Speaker 2: be super fun and cool, not super fun and cool.

1310
01:07:48,440 --> 01:07:51,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god. So moving to her. So moving to

1311
01:07:51,720 --> 01:07:53,760
Speaker 2: her arriving in Atlanta. This is oh my god. The

1312
01:07:53,760 --> 01:07:56,200
Speaker 2: way this is written is like like how people talk.

1313
01:07:56,240 --> 01:07:59,720
Speaker 2: It's crazy. Okay. So moving to her arriving to Atlanta

1314
01:07:59,720 --> 01:08:03,800
Speaker 2: for work. But put a little time aside. Wait, I

1315
01:08:03,800 --> 01:08:10,160
Speaker 2: don't know, put some time aside for single? Single? They

1316
01:08:10,280 --> 01:08:12,800
Speaker 2: met up and I will spare the details, but I

1317
01:08:12,800 --> 01:08:15,240
Speaker 2: can't keep the facts away. But they did have sex.

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01:08:17,439 --> 01:08:21,120
Speaker 2: Oh my god, this She had no idea he was

1319
01:08:21,160 --> 01:08:23,839
Speaker 2: in any type of relationship. So fast forward to today.

1320
01:08:24,000 --> 01:08:26,439
Speaker 2: She was reminded that it was his birthday. She sent

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01:08:26,520 --> 01:08:29,120
Speaker 2: a nice little message to him and then thought, hmm,

1322
01:08:29,600 --> 01:08:31,639
Speaker 2: let me go ahead and send a little gift to him.

1323
01:08:31,960 --> 01:08:34,000
Speaker 2: So in search of an address to surprise him with

1324
01:08:34,040 --> 01:08:36,479
Speaker 2: a gift, she comes across something that mentions him being

1325
01:08:36,520 --> 01:08:39,760
Speaker 2: engaged about five years ago. So she's like, Okay, I

1326
01:08:39,800 --> 01:08:43,400
Speaker 2: heard about this, but he's single, with the burning curiosity

1327
01:08:43,439 --> 01:08:47,400
Speaker 2: of what you look like? Burning? Wait? Did he put burning?

1328
01:08:47,760 --> 01:08:52,040
Speaker 2: I hate him? Do not do not read this? Amok

1329
01:08:52,160 --> 01:08:54,120
Speaker 2: he did, but when he read it, I don't know.

1330
01:08:54,160 --> 01:08:57,879
Speaker 2: It just sounded like how we talk. So it's different burning,

1331
01:08:58,120 --> 01:09:01,760
Speaker 2: oh God, with the burning curiosity of what you look

1332
01:09:01,880 --> 01:09:05,519
Speaker 2: like and an idea of who he was with prior Wait,

1333
01:09:05,560 --> 01:09:08,160
Speaker 2: who he was with prior to wait, what you look like?

1334
01:09:08,280 --> 01:09:10,360
Speaker 2: And the idea of who he was with prior to

1335
01:09:10,400 --> 01:09:13,200
Speaker 2: her Erica, she did a bit more digging. Come to

1336
01:09:13,320 --> 01:09:17,200
Speaker 2: find she learns that single is a married man and

1337
01:09:17,200 --> 01:09:20,519
Speaker 2: from your perspective, he's a great husband. Father. You guys

1338
01:09:20,560 --> 01:09:23,280
Speaker 2: just went on a trip together. I'm not telling you

1339
01:09:23,320 --> 01:09:25,479
Speaker 2: this to break your family up. But I'm telling you

1340
01:09:25,520 --> 01:09:29,240
Speaker 2: this so you don't suppress. Oh my god, So you

1341
01:09:29,360 --> 01:09:34,639
Speaker 2: don't so you don't surprise, get hurt with surprise, get

1342
01:09:34,720 --> 01:09:37,200
Speaker 2: hurt when you find out ten women down the line

1343
01:09:37,200 --> 01:09:39,400
Speaker 2: from now. I wish you luck, and if you have

1344
01:09:39,520 --> 01:09:42,800
Speaker 2: any further questions, feel free please feel free to contact

1345
01:09:42,840 --> 01:09:46,040
Speaker 2: me via email. Stay strong, and I'm sorry about this.

1346
01:09:46,600 --> 01:09:53,200
Speaker 2: Not in a dick in their bed? Oh my? Did

1347
01:09:53,200 --> 01:09:58,840
Speaker 2: he cross out your face? He said? You can only

1348
01:09:58,920 --> 01:10:03,120
Speaker 2: see her shoulder? What is the Oh is that music? Does?

1349
01:10:03,120 --> 01:10:05,599
Speaker 2: He sent me a snow a Legra song. God, well,

1350
01:10:05,760 --> 01:10:11,080
Speaker 2: I want you around? Oh my god. Yeah, he was

1351
01:10:11,120 --> 01:10:15,040
Speaker 2: in fake fantasy, sending me pictures of his son in

1352
01:10:15,080 --> 01:10:20,320
Speaker 2: their living room playing just crazy shit. Our flight information,

1353
01:10:21,479 --> 01:10:23,559
Speaker 2: he paid for your ticket to get extended. No, his

1354
01:10:23,560 --> 01:10:24,840
Speaker 2: his flight information.

1355
01:10:26,200 --> 01:10:31,720
Speaker 1: And Sebastian insists and proceeded to attach all of the receipts.

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01:10:32,080 --> 01:10:37,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh god, I should have read that through. I

1357
01:10:37,720 --> 01:10:39,360
Speaker 2: just let him do it because I didn't want to

1358
01:10:39,400 --> 01:10:40,160
Speaker 2: be I just was like.

1359
01:10:40,160 --> 01:10:45,960
Speaker 1: I don't honestly for podcast purposes. It was great, Oh god,

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01:10:46,160 --> 01:10:50,040
Speaker 1: thank you, Sebastian. Oh god, Well, you know it's interesting

1361
01:10:50,080 --> 01:10:52,120
Speaker 1: because initially you're like, should I contact her.

1362
01:10:52,080 --> 01:10:55,760
Speaker 2: I was like, leave him all the fuck alone, let

1363
01:10:55,760 --> 01:10:57,360
Speaker 2: that throw them all the way.

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01:10:58,000 --> 01:11:02,240
Speaker 1: But you know, it's crazy how my mind is like

1365
01:11:02,439 --> 01:11:05,000
Speaker 1: just thought that, because the truth is I wouldn't need

1366
01:11:05,040 --> 01:11:08,880
Speaker 1: to know that. I mean, I wish you would have

1367
01:11:08,880 --> 01:11:13,280
Speaker 1: went into more detail, like to the levels of storytelling,

1368
01:11:13,479 --> 01:11:17,960
Speaker 1: because really that's the scariest part, that fucking level, that

1369
01:11:18,080 --> 01:11:20,120
Speaker 1: complex level of like to the point where he was

1370
01:11:20,120 --> 01:11:23,360
Speaker 1: believing his lies when he was consuming that bullshit that

1371
01:11:23,439 --> 01:11:26,280
Speaker 1: he imagined up in his imaginary weird world.

1372
01:11:26,760 --> 01:11:28,680
Speaker 2: He believed it when he was with you.

1373
01:11:28,800 --> 01:11:34,280
Speaker 1: He was that single, poor single dad living this fun life,

1374
01:11:34,520 --> 01:11:37,720
Speaker 1: and she needs to know she's living with a goddamn sociopath.

1375
01:11:39,479 --> 01:11:43,680
Speaker 2: Run sis run oh for real. Like the lies, the

1376
01:11:43,800 --> 01:11:46,640
Speaker 2: level of lies that I never asked for, Like just

1377
01:11:47,040 --> 01:11:50,240
Speaker 2: calling me to make up shit, just calling me with

1378
01:11:50,280 --> 01:11:52,240
Speaker 2: made ups in aarrs, like hey, guess what I did today?

1379
01:11:52,439 --> 01:11:55,519
Speaker 2: Fake fake fake fake fake fake fake yep, okay bye,

1380
01:11:55,560 --> 01:11:57,840
Speaker 2: Like no one asked you to do that shit. That's

1381
01:11:57,880 --> 01:12:00,519
Speaker 2: the crazy shit that lets me know you are so

1382
01:12:00,640 --> 01:12:02,920
Speaker 2: bored and I feel so bad. He's probably I don't

1383
01:12:02,920 --> 01:12:04,360
Speaker 2: even want to know what kind of husband he is.

1384
01:12:04,400 --> 01:12:08,040
Speaker 2: It's it's it's I don't know. All I know is

1385
01:12:08,080 --> 01:12:10,920
Speaker 2: I dodged a bullet because God be looking out. Thank you,

1386
01:12:12,479 --> 01:12:19,600
Speaker 2: love you, and again like counting my blessings, counting my blessings,

1387
01:12:20,360 --> 01:12:25,320
Speaker 2: like honoring my intuition and the things that I feel

1388
01:12:26,000 --> 01:12:30,360
Speaker 2: and not letting anyone or anything deter me from that

1389
01:12:30,600 --> 01:12:33,879
Speaker 2: because I look sometimes look for people, look to people

1390
01:12:34,600 --> 01:12:37,719
Speaker 2: to validate my feelings, and then it confuses me when

1391
01:12:38,880 --> 01:12:41,479
Speaker 2: their validation is different than what I'm feeling. So then

1392
01:12:41,520 --> 01:12:44,840
Speaker 2: I start to question what I'm feeling. So I'm not

1393
01:12:44,840 --> 01:12:47,919
Speaker 2: doing that anymore. I can't do it anymore. Like this,

1394
01:12:47,920 --> 01:12:53,080
Speaker 2: this is the last straw for real, Like mm hm nope.

1395
01:12:53,240 --> 01:12:55,599
Speaker 2: So I'm just glad that I feel like I dodged

1396
01:12:55,640 --> 01:13:00,880
Speaker 2: that bullet. And that was my week this week. Alright,

1397
01:13:00,880 --> 01:13:05,479
Speaker 2: I'm gonna pose a question. Yes, that's a crazy week.

1398
01:13:05,520 --> 01:13:06,840
Speaker 2: I feel like I was affected by that week.

1399
01:13:06,840 --> 01:13:09,400
Speaker 1: When you just sent me that information, I was I'm like,

1400
01:13:09,479 --> 01:13:10,519
Speaker 1: it's a rap.

1401
01:13:12,960 --> 01:13:13,519
Speaker 2: For okay.

1402
01:13:13,640 --> 01:13:15,320
Speaker 1: So I have a friend. I've known him for a

1403
01:13:15,320 --> 01:13:18,800
Speaker 1: lot of years and he has two kids.

1404
01:13:18,800 --> 01:13:20,880
Speaker 2: He is a single dad. I know this. I've known him.

1405
01:13:21,040 --> 01:13:22,519
Speaker 2: Oh I met him at a B two que concert

1406
01:13:22,560 --> 01:13:24,479
Speaker 2: like a long time ago. You would be two que jesus,

1407
01:13:24,520 --> 01:13:29,200
Speaker 2: I love you, kay, And we've had this long standing

1408
01:13:29,240 --> 01:13:31,920
Speaker 2: like really, I haven't even probably seen this maga five

1409
01:13:32,000 --> 01:13:35,599
Speaker 2: times in our whole eighteen year relationship. So anyway, recently

1410
01:13:35,680 --> 01:13:37,439
Speaker 2: got back with this baby mom. They moved in together.

1411
01:13:37,520 --> 01:13:41,960
Speaker 1: But he always like he always messages me, and you know,

1412
01:13:42,000 --> 01:13:43,680
Speaker 1: we keep up with each other. But like recently we

1413
01:13:43,920 --> 01:13:45,680
Speaker 1: met up for drinks and I was like, you know,

1414
01:13:45,760 --> 01:13:48,240
Speaker 1: how's life living back with your baby mom?

1415
01:13:48,280 --> 01:13:50,200
Speaker 2: How's that working out? And he's like it's good, you.

1416
01:13:50,160 --> 01:13:52,839
Speaker 1: Know, Like but you know, she's not really like sexual,

1417
01:13:53,000 --> 01:13:54,480
Speaker 1: She's not that sexual.

1418
01:13:56,439 --> 01:14:01,160
Speaker 2: Anyway. All this to say, I would rather a man

1419
01:14:02,360 --> 01:14:05,240
Speaker 2: let me know who you are, like he posts her

1420
01:14:05,320 --> 01:14:07,520
Speaker 2: like I think I know he loves her or whatever.

1421
01:14:07,400 --> 01:14:14,240
Speaker 1: Like like giving a bitch the option, like if for all,

1422
01:14:14,240 --> 01:14:15,800
Speaker 1: you know, if you were like a weak minded woman,

1423
01:14:15,840 --> 01:14:18,040
Speaker 1: not a weak minded woman, if you really liked him,

1424
01:14:18,439 --> 01:14:20,800
Speaker 1: you could have fallen in love Loki, you could have

1425
01:14:20,840 --> 01:14:23,200
Speaker 1: been very engaged in that and really.

1426
01:14:23,160 --> 01:14:25,840
Speaker 2: Been emotionally like a known and like known he was married.

1427
01:14:25,920 --> 01:14:28,599
Speaker 1: I mean no, like, oh, like what if you were

1428
01:14:28,640 --> 01:14:29,760
Speaker 1: heartbroken over this shit?

1429
01:14:29,880 --> 01:14:32,320
Speaker 2: Right? I would much rather someone give me.

1430
01:14:32,200 --> 01:14:34,960
Speaker 1: The option to be like da da da da d

1431
01:14:35,280 --> 01:14:37,320
Speaker 1: like And I know like because option.

1432
01:14:37,280 --> 01:14:40,000
Speaker 2: Like, hey, I'm married, I wouldn't I.

1433
01:14:40,040 --> 01:14:42,120
Speaker 1: Respect men so much more. We're going keep it real

1434
01:14:42,240 --> 01:14:44,320
Speaker 1: like I'm married, I'm not happy. I respect my wife.

1435
01:14:44,560 --> 01:14:47,000
Speaker 1: I am happy if you are, like.

1436
01:14:47,160 --> 01:14:49,439
Speaker 2: You respect your wife, but you're cheating on her. I

1437
01:14:49,840 --> 01:14:50,599
Speaker 2: understand like.

1438
01:14:52,680 --> 01:14:55,839
Speaker 1: People loving someone and maybe not being just sexually satisfied.

1439
01:14:55,880 --> 01:14:57,559
Speaker 2: I think little note telling you. Let me tell you.

1440
01:14:57,560 --> 01:14:59,840
Speaker 1: I think the problem with that is sometimes a lot

1441
01:14:59,880 --> 01:15:06,639
Speaker 1: of men try to conduct emotional relationships that mislead women

1442
01:15:06,680 --> 01:15:09,840
Speaker 1: into believing that they're gonna leave their wives, that they

1443
01:15:09,840 --> 01:15:12,160
Speaker 1: don't respect or love their wives, and that their wives

1444
01:15:12,200 --> 01:15:14,000
Speaker 1: are not good people or girlfriends.

1445
01:15:14,400 --> 01:15:18,479
Speaker 2: And I think that is that's fucked up. I mean,

1446
01:15:18,479 --> 01:15:20,920
Speaker 2: that's what happened to me. And I'm saying this.

1447
01:15:20,960 --> 01:15:23,040
Speaker 1: And a lot of times, even if you do put

1448
01:15:23,120 --> 01:15:25,479
Speaker 1: on that front, there are crazy women who are who

1449
01:15:25,640 --> 01:15:28,320
Speaker 1: have in their mind, I'm gonna I'm gonna have what

1450
01:15:28,360 --> 01:15:30,559
Speaker 1: you with that woman has, I'm gonna take that away

1451
01:15:30,560 --> 01:15:33,240
Speaker 1: from you for me. And I'm not saying like I

1452
01:15:33,280 --> 01:15:35,400
Speaker 1: go around sleeping with the people in relationships or with

1453
01:15:35,479 --> 01:15:39,400
Speaker 1: married men, but sometimes like when I know people even

1454
01:15:39,520 --> 01:15:42,240
Speaker 1: friends that I have that their wives, they have open

1455
01:15:42,320 --> 01:15:45,040
Speaker 1: relationships and they are allowed to have this. I'm actually

1456
01:15:45,560 --> 01:15:50,840
Speaker 1: always attracted to men who are very respectful of their

1457
01:15:50,880 --> 01:15:53,879
Speaker 1: women and speak highly of them and speak honestly about

1458
01:15:53,920 --> 01:15:55,800
Speaker 1: what their issues are and that they're in relationships and

1459
01:15:55,800 --> 01:15:57,960
Speaker 1: they don't want to leave those people and from like

1460
01:15:58,000 --> 01:15:59,680
Speaker 1: and some people don't you know what I mean. But it's

1461
01:15:59,800 --> 01:16:02,040
Speaker 1: just actual or it's just that I just feel like,

1462
01:16:02,040 --> 01:16:06,280
Speaker 1: give a bitch is an option, but to create a

1463
01:16:06,479 --> 01:16:09,080
Speaker 1: whole false I think.

1464
01:16:08,920 --> 01:16:11,439
Speaker 2: It's part of the excitement for them. Almost well, I

1465
01:16:11,479 --> 01:16:15,760
Speaker 2: think it's part of the excitement, like the fantasy, like

1466
01:16:15,880 --> 01:16:20,240
Speaker 2: the forbiddenness of it all, Like it's just all of it.

1467
01:16:20,240 --> 01:16:21,840
Speaker 2: I mean even I have a friend right now, a

1468
01:16:21,920 --> 01:16:26,000
Speaker 2: former bay that's sleeping with a married woman and he

1469
01:16:26,080 --> 01:16:27,840
Speaker 2: was telling me about it and he told me today.

1470
01:16:27,840 --> 01:16:29,479
Speaker 2: I asked him today, said are you in love with her?

1471
01:16:29,479 --> 01:16:31,280
Speaker 2: And he said, yeah, I think I am. And I said,

1472
01:16:31,320 --> 01:16:34,040
Speaker 2: do you think it's because it's like forbidden and he

1473
01:16:34,080 --> 01:16:37,120
Speaker 2: said probably a little bit. That's trembling lip bee. And

1474
01:16:37,160 --> 01:16:40,559
Speaker 2: we all know he's a fucking narcissist, But I'm just saying,

1475
01:16:40,640 --> 01:16:44,240
Speaker 2: like that missed that, like that he's like it's always

1476
01:16:44,240 --> 01:16:47,439
Speaker 2: taking out. He's sneaking out to like Chicago to go

1477
01:16:47,560 --> 01:16:51,720
Speaker 2: fuck this married woman and it's exciting and it's exhilarating.

1478
01:16:51,840 --> 01:16:54,160
Speaker 2: And it's like same with this guy, Like he's sneaking

1479
01:16:54,160 --> 01:16:56,160
Speaker 2: out to La to come hang out with me, Like

1480
01:16:56,200 --> 01:16:58,920
Speaker 2: he's he likes that. That that part of it, that's

1481
01:16:59,040 --> 01:17:01,800
Speaker 2: part of the whole story. He's telling himself that it's

1482
01:17:01,840 --> 01:17:05,000
Speaker 2: this fantasy, but he's away. I left my wife for her,

1483
01:17:05,040 --> 01:17:07,360
Speaker 2: and like we raised our own kids together. But it's

1484
01:17:07,400 --> 01:17:09,920
Speaker 2: never really that, like no, never would be now when

1485
01:17:09,920 --> 01:17:12,840
Speaker 2: it's I bet all day yesterday, all he kept thinking

1486
01:17:12,880 --> 01:17:16,160
Speaker 2: about was losing his family and oh my god, oh

1487
01:17:16,200 --> 01:17:18,000
Speaker 2: my god, like I love her, I love her? Fuck

1488
01:17:18,080 --> 01:17:19,800
Speaker 2: fuck fun? What have I What have I done? What

1489
01:17:19,840 --> 01:17:21,400
Speaker 2: have I done? My son? Oh my god, I'm gonna

1490
01:17:21,400 --> 01:17:23,200
Speaker 2: lose everything. And it's like why does it have.

1491
01:17:23,160 --> 01:17:26,320
Speaker 1: To take a fucking sociopath. And he didn't think any

1492
01:17:26,360 --> 01:17:28,200
Speaker 1: of that at all. Oh my god, he was like,

1493
01:17:28,400 --> 01:17:32,960
Speaker 1: I don't know, she's crazy. That guy is crazy and

1494
01:17:33,080 --> 01:17:33,479
Speaker 1: her page.

1495
01:17:33,880 --> 01:17:36,280
Speaker 2: I should have reread that email. It sounds like a ramble,

1496
01:17:38,040 --> 01:17:39,960
Speaker 2: does it sounds crazy? Just sounds like a like a

1497
01:17:40,439 --> 01:17:44,040
Speaker 2: like a second sounds like one of those African emails

1498
01:17:44,040 --> 01:17:47,600
Speaker 2: you get. I need I need one hundred thousand dollars.

1499
01:17:48,880 --> 01:17:53,360
Speaker 2: Now here's my fucking cash upp If you need any

1500
01:17:53,400 --> 01:17:56,360
Speaker 2: more any more questions, call me. If you have anywhere questions,

1501
01:17:56,560 --> 01:18:05,240
Speaker 2: call Larry Parker. Here's my cat chat. You're welcome. It's

1502
01:18:05,280 --> 01:18:06,000
Speaker 2: this spam.

1503
01:18:06,160 --> 01:18:11,599
Speaker 1: No, you've went in with details and proof. Yeah, oh

1504
01:18:11,640 --> 01:18:13,800
Speaker 1: my god, my last brand makes me sound like a

1505
01:18:13,840 --> 01:18:14,559
Speaker 1: homewrecking bitch.

1506
01:18:14,560 --> 01:18:15,720
Speaker 2: What I'm saying is, if you don't want to take

1507
01:18:15,720 --> 01:18:18,679
Speaker 2: someone's husband and they're just physically stepping out for physical

1508
01:18:18,960 --> 01:18:21,519
Speaker 2: I would much rather my husband be that guy than

1509
01:18:21,560 --> 01:18:24,799
Speaker 2: this fucking psychopath. Oh absolutely, absolutely, you know what I'm.

1510
01:18:24,640 --> 01:18:27,400
Speaker 1: Saying, Like, if you want to fuck a little whatever,

1511
01:18:27,560 --> 01:18:30,160
Speaker 1: you need some outside excitement, keep it real about who

1512
01:18:30,200 --> 01:18:32,200
Speaker 1: the fuck I am and how you feel, how we

1513
01:18:32,240 --> 01:18:34,000
Speaker 1: feel about it. Like, you know what I'm saying, at

1514
01:18:34,080 --> 01:18:38,080
Speaker 1: least give me that much respect. And I am your wife.

1515
01:18:38,400 --> 01:18:40,559
Speaker 1: You did get down on one knee and it's supposed

1516
01:18:40,600 --> 01:18:41,679
Speaker 1: to marry that man.

1517
01:18:41,720 --> 01:18:45,000
Speaker 2: Will do for some pussy. Even be careful in picking

1518
01:18:45,040 --> 01:18:46,799
Speaker 2: your side. Hose you nigga.

1519
01:18:46,880 --> 01:18:49,000
Speaker 1: You pick a fucking psycho bitch that thinks she's gonna

1520
01:18:49,040 --> 01:18:50,599
Speaker 1: take my place or pick a bitch.

1521
01:18:50,600 --> 01:18:53,000
Speaker 2: She was like, I'm not thinking about you, like let's

1522
01:18:53,040 --> 01:18:55,040
Speaker 2: do this, and you know I don't. I know you

1523
01:18:55,080 --> 01:18:57,280
Speaker 2: have a relationship and I'm cool with that, right And

1524
01:18:57,320 --> 01:18:59,639
Speaker 2: I'm not trying to spend time with you and get

1525
01:18:59,640 --> 01:19:01,840
Speaker 2: things for you and conquer you.

1526
01:19:01,880 --> 01:19:06,479
Speaker 1: Get a respectful mistress, nigga, one of some sense, not

1527
01:19:06,560 --> 01:19:07,360
Speaker 1: one with a podcast.

1528
01:19:07,360 --> 01:19:10,040
Speaker 2: It's gonna talk about you later. I'm gonna talk about you.

1529
01:19:10,400 --> 01:19:14,200
Speaker 2: It's gonna be live on the internet forever. Oh shit,

1530
01:19:14,680 --> 01:19:19,760
Speaker 2: Oh it's my it's my audio diary, guys. So here

1531
01:19:19,760 --> 01:19:23,920
Speaker 2: it is lessons and love, lessons and love and research deep,

1532
01:19:24,080 --> 01:19:28,599
Speaker 2: Google deep and hard. You know what. Google Absolutely, I'm

1533
01:19:28,680 --> 01:19:32,240
Speaker 2: encouraging everyone now if you've just gotten to a relationship,

1534
01:19:32,520 --> 01:19:36,120
Speaker 2: google that, nigga. Not just no, and for real, don't

1535
01:19:36,120 --> 01:19:38,280
Speaker 2: feel bad about it. Don't think it's weird. Because we

1536
01:19:38,320 --> 01:19:40,760
Speaker 2: live in a weird world and sex trafficking is at

1537
01:19:40,800 --> 01:19:44,000
Speaker 2: all time high. We live in a weird world. Guys,

1538
01:19:44,280 --> 01:19:47,920
Speaker 2: Google that shit, because if only I googled a little harder,

1539
01:19:48,000 --> 01:19:51,080
Speaker 2: I could have I could have found this out day one.

1540
01:19:51,360 --> 01:19:52,880
Speaker 2: Low key, well would you even know?

1541
01:19:52,960 --> 01:19:54,920
Speaker 1: In those Well, I mean, I'm happily we just got

1542
01:19:54,960 --> 01:19:59,120
Speaker 1: a fucking school on googling finding the house proceeeds.

1543
01:19:59,000 --> 01:20:02,080
Speaker 2: Find apparently you own a house you're waits her name

1544
01:20:02,120 --> 01:20:04,800
Speaker 2: on it too, Yes, okay, and that's how she found

1545
01:20:04,800 --> 01:20:08,840
Speaker 2: her name. No, I found her name on the engagement Okay, okay,

1546
01:20:08,960 --> 01:20:11,280
Speaker 2: it's not even engaging website. It's her blog. And that's

1547
01:20:11,280 --> 01:20:12,920
Speaker 2: where I found all the other pictures of them on

1548
01:20:13,040 --> 01:20:16,240
Speaker 2: vacations blogging being a family blog.

1549
01:20:16,680 --> 01:20:21,439
Speaker 1: By the way, that made me really giggle. I was like, wait,

1550
01:20:22,160 --> 01:20:26,640
Speaker 1: he took these pictures. He's one of those fucking Facebook boyfriends.

1551
01:20:26,640 --> 01:20:31,479
Speaker 1: He's an instant boyfriend. Not only are you just married

1552
01:20:31,600 --> 01:20:34,880
Speaker 1: and obviously bored to death, but you pretend to be

1553
01:20:35,000 --> 01:20:38,200
Speaker 1: involved by taking blog photos.

1554
01:20:38,280 --> 01:20:39,480
Speaker 2: It's so strange.

1555
01:20:39,600 --> 01:20:44,639
Speaker 1: He's living a double fucking life and that's scary.

1556
01:20:47,920 --> 01:20:53,080
Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, I think I'm gonna just I think I

1557
01:20:53,080 --> 01:20:55,719
Speaker 2: need to take a break. I mean, not a break.

1558
01:20:55,760 --> 01:20:58,360
Speaker 2: I'm not even really dating, but like I'm taking a break.

1559
01:20:58,400 --> 01:21:04,000
Speaker 2: It's just I'm taking stepping back, like I No, No,

1560
01:21:04,360 --> 01:21:07,759
Speaker 2: any of the guys, any of our guys that listen

1561
01:21:07,920 --> 01:21:10,960
Speaker 2: that might think about sliding in the DMS just don't know. Actually,

1562
01:21:10,960 --> 01:21:12,960
Speaker 2: you could still just send the dick pics, but don't

1563
01:21:12,960 --> 01:21:15,160
Speaker 2: think anything's happening. We'll take the pics. Then we'll take

1564
01:21:15,160 --> 01:21:24,120
Speaker 2: the pics. But that's it. That's it. I'm scared. Yeah,

1565
01:21:24,640 --> 01:21:28,920
Speaker 2: I don't know. I wish him well. I hope that

1566
01:21:29,000 --> 01:21:34,120
Speaker 2: he oh and that he can go to therapy and

1567
01:21:34,200 --> 01:21:38,559
Speaker 2: work through his freaking issues because he clearly has a lot.

1568
01:21:38,600 --> 01:21:41,080
Speaker 2: There's something there. I feel like it's in childhood. You

1569
01:21:41,479 --> 01:21:45,559
Speaker 2: forgot to stop telling stories. He does have some childhood shit,

1570
01:21:45,680 --> 01:21:48,160
Speaker 2: some traumas that he shared with me. If they're true

1571
01:21:48,240 --> 01:21:51,200
Speaker 2: or not, I don't know, but whatever they are, I

1572
01:21:51,240 --> 01:21:55,360
Speaker 2: hope that he finds some sort of peace.

1573
01:21:55,360 --> 01:21:59,559
Speaker 1: And clarity because and in all reality, for real, ladies,

1574
01:21:59,600 --> 01:22:01,559
Speaker 1: because now that I'm thinking about it, I have another

1575
01:22:01,600 --> 01:22:05,200
Speaker 1: friend who had a situation, not to this extreme, but

1576
01:22:05,320 --> 01:22:08,240
Speaker 1: kind of just that he wasn't married. And the level

1577
01:22:08,479 --> 01:22:13,280
Speaker 1: of comfortable lying natural lying to the point where the

1578
01:22:13,320 --> 01:22:17,960
Speaker 1: individuals are actually believing the lies is something that stems

1579
01:22:17,960 --> 01:22:20,240
Speaker 1: from childhood trauma. A lot of times, if a child

1580
01:22:20,240 --> 01:22:23,680
Speaker 1: has experienced really serious trauma to check out, they can

1581
01:22:23,760 --> 01:22:28,639
Speaker 1: create these faults like these, like alter lives, because whatever

1582
01:22:28,640 --> 01:22:31,760
Speaker 1: they're going through is too much for a child to experience.

1583
01:22:32,320 --> 01:22:36,200
Speaker 1: So sometimes it's carried on into adulthood to a place

1584
01:22:36,200 --> 01:22:39,479
Speaker 1: where it's they believe it's so hard themselves that delivering

1585
01:22:39,520 --> 01:22:41,920
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel or seem like a lie to them,

1586
01:22:42,200 --> 01:22:43,840
Speaker 1: and so it won't feel like a lie to you,

1587
01:22:44,080 --> 01:22:46,240
Speaker 1: and then they can dive deep into it and it's.

1588
01:22:46,120 --> 01:22:51,280
Speaker 2: Really it's called a sociopath. But the point is is

1589
01:22:51,320 --> 01:22:53,040
Speaker 2: like these people are out there and they come in

1590
01:22:53,080 --> 01:22:56,800
Speaker 2: girlfriends too, you know. So that's why that fucking googleshit

1591
01:22:56,920 --> 01:23:00,880
Speaker 2: is super super important, because you gotta be researching and

1592
01:23:00,920 --> 01:23:02,960
Speaker 2: you gotta like, you know, sometimes you're like, oh, maybe

1593
01:23:03,000 --> 01:23:05,880
Speaker 2: he didn't say that, Like oh, like, oh, it must

1594
01:23:05,880 --> 01:23:09,800
Speaker 2: be true, not nigga. You need confirmation. If a nigga

1595
01:23:09,840 --> 01:23:11,720
Speaker 2: says he doesn't have a confirm, he needs to be

1596
01:23:11,760 --> 01:23:15,120
Speaker 2: confirmed single. If he confirmed confirmed, he says he doesn't

1597
01:23:15,160 --> 01:23:17,519
Speaker 2: have Instagram. I mean, I'm not saying that everyone has Instagram,

1598
01:23:17,520 --> 01:23:21,320
Speaker 2: because they don't. But just make sure check that phone

1599
01:23:21,560 --> 01:23:25,800
Speaker 2: and check out them. Just google that name because if

1600
01:23:25,800 --> 01:23:28,800
Speaker 2: I had just scrolled out a few more. But you know,

1601
01:23:29,000 --> 01:23:31,439
Speaker 2: everything happens how it happens, I believe, you know, we're

1602
01:23:31,439 --> 01:23:33,960
Speaker 2: approaching the end of the year, we're cleaning up house,

1603
01:23:34,479 --> 01:23:36,320
Speaker 2: getting rid of everything that we don't need to bring

1604
01:23:36,360 --> 01:23:38,680
Speaker 2: with us into the next year. And I feel like

1605
01:23:39,439 --> 01:23:41,400
Speaker 2: I feel like I am I'm coming to a closing

1606
01:23:41,640 --> 01:23:45,000
Speaker 2: of what I've learned and then last three hundred and

1607
01:23:45,000 --> 01:23:50,120
Speaker 2: sixty five days about myself and in conclusion and what

1608
01:23:50,160 --> 01:23:52,920
Speaker 2: I what I what I need, and also in my

1609
01:23:53,000 --> 01:23:55,800
Speaker 2: single in my journey being single, you know, like it's

1610
01:23:55,880 --> 01:23:58,960
Speaker 2: really been a journey. It really has, and I'm actually

1611
01:23:59,080 --> 01:24:02,280
Speaker 2: enjoying it. It's kind of crazy and sad and scary

1612
01:24:02,640 --> 01:24:05,320
Speaker 2: and like I want I cry a lot, but then

1613
01:24:05,360 --> 01:24:07,639
Speaker 2: also like there's moments Where'm like, oh God, thank God

1614
01:24:07,680 --> 01:24:13,760
Speaker 2: I'm single. It's like I'm enjoying the journey. And if

1615
01:24:13,760 --> 01:24:18,320
Speaker 2: I don't even single, podcasting, all the things that can happen,

1616
01:24:18,479 --> 01:24:25,960
Speaker 2: you know, So I don't know, I just who I

1617
01:24:26,000 --> 01:24:28,120
Speaker 2: feel like, did I tell? Did I tell everybody that

1618
01:24:29,520 --> 01:24:31,800
Speaker 2: I had get it out? What the fuck are you

1619
01:24:31,840 --> 01:24:34,080
Speaker 2: trying to say? I would just like to say that

1620
01:24:34,240 --> 01:24:37,559
Speaker 2: I know we're saying people are crazy and we shouldn't

1621
01:24:37,560 --> 01:24:40,679
Speaker 2: sleep with listeners, but I did sleep with listener one time,

1622
01:24:41,400 --> 01:24:44,360
Speaker 2: and I knew he was married and they're an open

1623
01:24:44,360 --> 01:24:47,400
Speaker 2: marriage and it was open and he's not crazy. He's

1624
01:24:47,520 --> 01:24:52,400
Speaker 2: just regular. It was fine. And even though he said

1625
01:24:52,479 --> 01:24:55,280
Speaker 2: she didn't ask, she didn't tell her. Wait, she asked,

1626
01:24:55,320 --> 01:24:57,040
Speaker 2: he said, I said, did you tell her? He said, no,

1627
01:24:57,439 --> 01:25:00,000
Speaker 2: she didn't ask. But so is that how they navigate

1628
01:25:00,120 --> 01:25:02,320
Speaker 2: through I'm assuming so because if you have an open

1629
01:25:02,320 --> 01:25:05,120
Speaker 2: mariage and I even have like a girlfriend. But I mean, I.

1630
01:25:05,080 --> 01:25:07,160
Speaker 1: Just want to say, for the record, like everyone's not

1631
01:25:07,160 --> 01:25:09,439
Speaker 1: going to be crazy, and there's a perfect example of

1632
01:25:09,479 --> 01:25:13,280
Speaker 1: a healthy married, a healthy honest mary.

1633
01:25:13,400 --> 01:25:15,720
Speaker 2: Okay, I know that they exist, but I just feel like, no, no,

1634
01:25:15,760 --> 01:25:17,160
Speaker 2: I'm saying this is this is crazy.

1635
01:25:17,360 --> 01:25:19,400
Speaker 1: I still feel like for me, no, we're not. We're

1636
01:25:19,439 --> 01:25:23,480
Speaker 1: not doing any more. No, we've we've overcome that thresholder

1637
01:25:24,280 --> 01:25:25,720
Speaker 1: I'm sleeping it sucking at work.

1638
01:25:26,000 --> 01:25:28,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's really what it comes down to. It's

1639
01:25:29,600 --> 01:25:31,920
Speaker 2: I don't know, we'll make out. I say that now

1640
01:25:32,000 --> 01:25:35,360
Speaker 2: until I like meet But you're like, so, I look,

1641
01:25:35,479 --> 01:25:37,519
Speaker 2: so he's normal.

1642
01:25:38,080 --> 01:25:39,960
Speaker 1: I mean, but the truth is, we do kind of

1643
01:25:40,000 --> 01:25:44,439
Speaker 1: have to be careful about that type of ship because

1644
01:25:44,479 --> 01:25:49,400
Speaker 1: people like can be like thinking they really know every

1645
01:25:49,439 --> 01:25:51,479
Speaker 1: single detail about you, And I know we tell a

1646
01:25:51,479 --> 01:25:54,599
Speaker 1: lot of details about us, but not everything you know,

1647
01:25:54,680 --> 01:25:58,760
Speaker 1: there's still things that you don't know, right, and this

1648
01:25:58,840 --> 01:25:59,280
Speaker 1: is just.

1649
01:25:59,320 --> 01:26:01,800
Speaker 2: A very certain first level of who we are, you know.

1650
01:26:01,920 --> 01:26:04,320
Speaker 2: It's well, no, I think it's a deep level of

1651
01:26:04,320 --> 01:26:06,439
Speaker 2: who we are for sure, but I do there are

1652
01:26:06,520 --> 01:26:08,240
Speaker 2: things that you don't know. There are things that I

1653
01:26:08,240 --> 01:26:11,479
Speaker 2: don't share. There's only so much you can grasp over.

1654
01:26:11,320 --> 01:26:15,080
Speaker 5: A microphone right right, and without really without touching me,

1655
01:26:15,600 --> 01:26:18,679
Speaker 5: feeling me and feeling our energies together and like knowing

1656
01:26:18,680 --> 01:26:25,120
Speaker 5: how I react to his situations and things.

1657
01:26:22,800 --> 01:26:25,439
Speaker 2: Like really humanizing because we have a child, I have

1658
01:26:25,520 --> 01:26:29,519
Speaker 2: a life, you know, and it's like it's just it's

1659
01:26:29,600 --> 01:26:34,160
Speaker 2: just crazy. It's crazy sometimes. But I'm sorry that happened

1660
01:26:34,160 --> 01:26:36,160
Speaker 2: to you. That's okay, And I'm sorry for all the

1661
01:26:36,240 --> 01:26:38,040
Speaker 2: single women out there that have to do. I know

1662
01:26:38,080 --> 01:26:40,160
Speaker 2: I'm not the only one. I'm sure so many women

1663
01:26:40,240 --> 01:26:43,479
Speaker 2: right now are listening. We're saying, I a nigked lie

1664
01:26:43,520 --> 01:26:45,480
Speaker 2: to me is that he was And I don't know,

1665
01:26:44,920 --> 01:26:45,639
Speaker 2: we just that.

1666
01:26:45,640 --> 01:26:50,240
Speaker 1: Was whate our our whatever, our listeners just just told

1667
01:26:50,320 --> 01:26:52,519
Speaker 1: us that basic buddy, Oh yeah, and the.

1668
01:26:52,520 --> 01:26:55,200
Speaker 2: Basic same thing. But it was like two years right, Yeah,

1669
01:26:55,280 --> 01:26:57,400
Speaker 2: that went wedding ring shopping. Yeah, and she'd been to

1670
01:26:57,439 --> 01:26:59,200
Speaker 2: his house or a year and she'd been to his house.

1671
01:26:59,240 --> 01:27:01,160
Speaker 2: I mean, that's even worse. That's crazy.

1672
01:27:01,160 --> 01:27:02,960
Speaker 1: And speaking of basic basic, Betty, I don't know if

1673
01:27:03,000 --> 01:27:05,200
Speaker 1: we mentioned this before. We forgot to tell you. Yes,

1674
01:27:05,360 --> 01:27:06,559
Speaker 1: Oh my god, we need to look that up when

1675
01:27:06,560 --> 01:27:09,880
Speaker 1: he's gonna be there. King Noir offered on the house

1676
01:27:09,920 --> 01:27:10,920
Speaker 1: because he heard your story.

1677
01:27:11,000 --> 01:27:12,880
Speaker 2: And King Noir, if you don't know who King Noir is,

1678
01:27:12,920 --> 01:27:15,880
Speaker 2: he's uh, the King of King. He's a porn star

1679
01:27:16,080 --> 01:27:19,560
Speaker 2: and the king of King and a beautiful dom and

1680
01:27:19,600 --> 01:27:22,479
Speaker 2: he's fine as hell. And he has a beautiful toy

1681
01:27:22,560 --> 01:27:24,960
Speaker 2: that's molded up, his beautiful dick, and.

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Speaker 1: You can go look for him. It's King Noir with

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Speaker 1: at the end. And you should find that beautiful replica bomb.

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Speaker 2: You can go buy his dick, Go buy it. What

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Speaker 2: a gift, What a gift to the world he's given, honestly, Like, honestly,

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Speaker 2: I've never been really into dildo's like that. I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: get that. I'm actually gonna get that, Like I think

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Speaker 2: it's a I want to know. I want to know

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Speaker 2: what King war feels like. Do I do too? I mean,

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Speaker 2: who doesn't put that baby on the wall.

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Speaker 1: Oh, okay, never mind, okay, okay, okay, Well, the kids

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Speaker 1: are here, but Basic Betty, Basic Betty, he offered on

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Speaker 1: the house when they come to DC.

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Speaker 2: When he comes to d C, he's gonna he got

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Speaker 2: something for you because he's the King of Kink. So

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Speaker 2: Tree of your Pride, hit us up. We'll connect to

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Speaker 2: the dots for you, Basic Betty. Anyway, it's almost bad

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Speaker 2: time and my daughter has now snuck into Did you

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Speaker 2: eat your dinner? No quarter? Did you eat carroty? Did

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Speaker 2: you eat all the carrots? Why? Where's you need to

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Speaker 2: eat carrots? I did eat care you saw me do it?

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Speaker 2: I know you need to eat like three of them. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'll eat three of them, thank god, Yes, well of them.

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Speaker 2: I think three is the magic number. Okay.

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Speaker 2: Be careful out there, ladies. Niggas is lying.

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Speaker 1: Men are Still Lives Part two, Bye bye ye two