WEBVTT - Do You Know Your 'Stress Language'?

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<v Speaker 1>One of two point seven kiss fans? What is your

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<v Speaker 1>love language? You remember mine?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? Uh? You were? Was he acts of service? Mark?

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<v Speaker 1>But you just said yes, you're a remember I do?

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<v Speaker 2>It was either acts of service or words of affirm

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<v Speaker 2>No as words of affirmation?

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<v Speaker 1>What's yours? Ruby? Mine's acts of service? What's yours? Tanya?

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<v Speaker 2>Mine's acts of service?

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<v Speaker 1>All right? What's mine? Mark?

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<v Speaker 3>Words of affirmation? At least you got to know it.

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<v Speaker 3>I should probably memorize that. So you know, body language,

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<v Speaker 3>there's love language. Well, now everybody's talking about stress language.

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<v Speaker 3>How do you deal with stress? Stress language is the

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<v Speaker 3>way you respond to challenges, right, Ruby, exactly.

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<v Speaker 4>So if you've ever been in an argument with someone

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<v Speaker 4>and you just feel like you're both speaking different languages,

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<v Speaker 4>it could be because you have different stress languages, especially

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<v Speaker 4>if you're, you know, trying to deal with like a

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<v Speaker 4>difficult situation.

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<v Speaker 1>So what did they different languages? Like? What are different

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<v Speaker 1>ways that you language stress?

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<v Speaker 4>So there's five categories of stress languages. The first one

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<v Speaker 4>is the imploder. So this is a freeze response to

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<v Speaker 4>a stressful situation. You feel hopeless, helpless and kind of paralyzed.

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<v Speaker 3>Well that's a panic to me. Yes, exactly. And is

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<v Speaker 3>anybody an imploder here.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd say I'm adjacent to that. Yeah, well, why.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't we hear them all because we're probably a combination

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<v Speaker 3>of Yeah, all right, so that's one.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, what's another one?

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<v Speaker 4>The next one is the exploder, So this is fight

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<v Speaker 4>or flight responds to a stressful situation. You get irritable, frustrated,

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<v Speaker 4>or angry, or even just leave a situation that you

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<v Speaker 4>can can't handle.

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<v Speaker 1>These are stress languages, that's for sure, Mark right.

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<v Speaker 5>To explode, Yeah, for sure, Yeah right, yeah, definitely.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like the guy's at lax like when they're.

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<v Speaker 1>Like park here.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, then all these are stress said, love languages,

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<v Speaker 3>stress languages.

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<v Speaker 4>What's the next The next one is the fixer? So

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<v Speaker 4>this is this is definitely a people pleasing approach, overstepping

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<v Speaker 4>boundaries and even mothering people who aren't your kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, definitely, Tanya, what's there's two more?

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<v Speaker 4>And the number as in you numb yourself, right, So

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<v Speaker 4>you're kind of trying to numb yourself from the outside

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<v Speaker 4>world when things aren't going well, and you distract yourself

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<v Speaker 4>by overworking or over exercising.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I do that.

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<v Speaker 2>This is ryan to a t.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, the first step is admitting it.

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<v Speaker 3>We're fine, but I like, but it's not so bad.

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<v Speaker 3>We're working and we're exercising for.

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<v Speaker 4>Us, right, And then the last one is the denier.

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<v Speaker 4>So this is toxic positivity and response to stress. So

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<v Speaker 4>you're overly optimistic to avoid reality toobs that's yours.

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<v Speaker 1>Also, he's a denier.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he's always just like, it's all going to work out,

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<v Speaker 2>It's all gonna be great. It's all It's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it?

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<v Speaker 3>But isn't isn't that positivity? What's the different in denying

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<v Speaker 3>in positivity?

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<v Speaker 2>It's like it's like toxic positivity. You just like you

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<v Speaker 2>just say it's going to be fine, even though it

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<v Speaker 2>might not be fine.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's like, it's fine, it's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>I kind of would rather someone tell me it's going

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<v Speaker 3>to be fine then someone tell me it's not going.

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<v Speaker 1>To be fine.

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<v Speaker 4>I think you need the balance, right, especially if you're

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<v Speaker 4>someone who's like the opposite of that, you kind of

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<v Speaker 4>need that, you know, toxic positivity at times for all.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, So look up your stress language and figure out

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<v Speaker 3>we could be a hybrid of a couple of those.

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