1 00:00:08,080 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: It's your girl, Ebene from the Professional Home Girl podcast, 2 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: the only place where you would hear interviews from women 3 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 1: of color anonymously on stories that will enlighten, and expand 4 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 1: on taboo topics. Now, if you hear someone that sounds familiar, 5 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:25,080 Speaker 1: mind the business that pays your child. Now, please keep 6 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 1: in mind that all of my guests are anonymous. So 7 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: let's begin this week's episode. I am super excited to 8 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,160 Speaker 1: have my guests on the show. Today, my guests will 9 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 1: be sharing her story on being a rupture brain aneurysm survivor. 10 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: So to my guests, how are you doing, I'm good, 11 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: good morning. How are you good? Good? Good all as well. 12 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:47,400 Speaker 1: I'm super excited to having you on the show. She's 13 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: like a big sister to me, guys, So this is 14 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 1: gonna be a very special episode. Now, can you please 15 00:00:53,320 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: explain what a rupture brain aneurysm is so eruption brain aneurysm. Basically, 16 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 1: to put a visual tool, it looks like a bubble 17 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:10,039 Speaker 1: on the vein. It's a weakened vessel in your brain. 18 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:14,919 Speaker 1: And what happens is after like when with constant blood 19 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:23,640 Speaker 1: flow that weakened area in your brain vessel. First which 20 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:27,120 Speaker 1: causes a hemorrhage, your blue thing on your brain basically, 21 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:30,399 Speaker 1: you know. And I was preparing for our conversation. I was, 22 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: you know, obviously doing research, and I was looking at 23 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:36,840 Speaker 1: pictures and I'm like, oh my god, that looks painful. Well, 24 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: they describe it as the worst headache of your life. 25 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 1: So if you've ever had a migraine, have you ever 26 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: had a migraine? Okay, so a migraine is a really 27 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: really bad headache, but that time is like a thousand 28 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: it's literally the and it comes out of nowhere, the 29 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: worst headache of your life. And what causes them a 30 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 1: lot of different things, um, high blood pressure, a lot 31 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 1: of things. In my case, they were unable to attribute 32 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:18,320 Speaker 1: what caused mine. They pretty much um that I might 33 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 1: have just been born with it. But it's the type 34 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: of thing that you don't check until you need to check, right, right, 35 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: But they don't exactly they don't. They don't you know, 36 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: when you go through your you know, regular physicals and 37 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: so forth, they don't check your like the inside of 38 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: your health. They're checking other things. So they weren't really 39 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 1: able to figure out what clause mine. I mean, I 40 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:43,800 Speaker 1: had self suffered from um like headaches for all my life. So, 41 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: I mean, maybe I was born with that weekend vessel, 42 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: but over time it got weak and eruption. And I 43 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: didn't know this, but brain and the rhythms can be inherit. 44 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,839 Speaker 1: So does this run in your family? Girl? Okay, so 45 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: you go straight to the well, you know what, No, 46 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: we're jumping ahead, but you know we I'm flowing with yourself. Yeah. So, 47 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: interestingly enough, no one in my family up until twenty 48 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: twenty had any type of anneurisms to my knowledge. My 49 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: mom actually passed away in August to twenty twenty. She 50 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 1: did have a rupshed anneurism and she passed. And so 51 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 1: since then, because what happens is they won't test your family. 52 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 1: So let's talk about I mean, you can have a 53 00:03:29,960 --> 00:03:34,679 Speaker 1: whole podcast on the American healthcare system and health insurance 54 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: and all of that stuff, but they won't scan you. 55 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: It's a very expensive procedure, and they won't scan you 56 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:44,080 Speaker 1: unless there's a pattern. So one doesn't make a pattern. 57 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: So there was no reason for them to think that 58 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 1: anyone else in my family pad this. And so after 59 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: my mom passed, she we forced we ensured that my 60 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 1: sister and my niece went through a scan, which was 61 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 1: a fight. We had to actually fight to get it done, 62 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 1: but they did and they're okay, and my condolences, thank you. 63 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: Did your mom know? Do you know if your mom 64 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: knew about this in her family or in your family? No? 65 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:17,400 Speaker 1: M m own belt? And how crazy it is? Did it? 66 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:23,480 Speaker 1: You have to fight just to get a test right? Right? Right? 67 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 1: It's true? Or even that it's so extensive, right, like literally, 68 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:32,039 Speaker 1: I mean healthcare in general. What I first of all, 69 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: when I came home from the hospital, I got home 70 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 1: and had a stack of medical bills on my table. 71 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, y'all trying to put me back in 72 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 1: the hospital and what And I have I have really 73 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 1: good health insurance through life, through my job, and so 74 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:53,320 Speaker 1: that was like a whole other stressful point in trying 75 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 1: just to get through figuring out how I was going 76 00:04:56,120 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 1: to pay over one hundred thousand dollars after my health 77 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:04,400 Speaker 1: insurance paid out a million. Right when I did the math, 78 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: it came out to my health insurance paid out one 79 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: point three million dollars. Wow, for you know the surgery. 80 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 1: My hospital stay to ask the care that I needed, 81 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: and I still was responsible for a large portion of 82 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: my health care gills that weren't covered, and thank god 83 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:27,680 Speaker 1: you had insurance indeed, But what I will say is 84 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: if I could probably may have been better if I 85 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:33,480 Speaker 1: didn't have insurance, right, because when you do have insurance, 86 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: they also understand that you have the capacity to pay 87 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 1: your bills. So that's all. That's a whole other conversation. 88 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:46,320 Speaker 1: But I'm just thankful that you know the difference between 89 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 1: living and dying with a brain aneurysm, or living not 90 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 1: dying but not being fully restored. It's timing them finding 91 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:03,920 Speaker 1: it a time um and going through the procedures necessary 92 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 1: to save your life. It's all about timing. And a 93 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:12,920 Speaker 1: story is crazy, like how it all went down is crazy. Okay, 94 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:16,280 Speaker 1: we're gonna get it. You're reading, let me know when 95 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:18,719 Speaker 1: you read. I'm ready. Hold on a couple more questions. 96 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: So what is the difference between enough ruptuhirre and rupture 97 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 1: brain and rhythm because I feel like a lot of 98 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:30,159 Speaker 1: people experience unruptured ane rhysm. Right, yes, oh absolutely, Anything 99 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:32,919 Speaker 1: about it is is you can live your entire life 100 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: with an aneurysm that is unruptured. Right, So you know, 101 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:42,159 Speaker 1: it's just a matter of I mean, I'm sure I 102 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: probably had this uh bubble so to speak, my whole life, 103 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: you know, until it actually ruptured. So I don't have 104 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:57,480 Speaker 1: the data in front of me. But there are many people. 105 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:01,600 Speaker 1: It's a very First of all, anneurisms are very very common. Um. 106 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 1: You know, if you look into it, you'll see that 107 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: there are many people. And sometimes when people's cause and death, 108 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 1: they'll give a very nebulous z. Then for their cause 109 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 1: and death, oftentimes it was from a rupture to angrism. Right. 110 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: It's a very very common occurrence that unfortunately doesn't get 111 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 1: the attention that it deserves. M You would think that 112 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: this type of testing, because hair legs and migraines is 113 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:34,640 Speaker 1: so common amongst everybody, you would think that this test, 114 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: this type of testin would be offered prevention reasons. You 115 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: would think so, but you know, we're not very much 116 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 1: into prevention as we should be a b you know, 117 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 1: I mean, I do get the fact that there you 118 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 1: want to limit the amount of exposure your body gets 119 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 1: to the kind of like ways, you know what I mean, 120 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: Like it's a lot, it's not just it's not just 121 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 1: like a pope. How do you feel they really have 122 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: to do imaging and so that kind of imaging imaging 123 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: is invasive, and so you don't want to put it 124 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 1: out there too much. But I mean, I feel like 125 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 1: if one person in your family has one, it should 126 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: be almost a guarantee that everyone in your family be 127 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 1: tested and not that you can you can prevent the 128 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: So here's the other part, Like the surgery that they 129 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: did for me, So there are two different ways that 130 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 1: they can do it. You can have either a clip 131 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:41,720 Speaker 1: or a coil. Um I had a clip, so basically 132 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: imagine kind of like a paper clip either around the 133 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:48,959 Speaker 1: vessel to like close it off, to close to put 134 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:51,319 Speaker 1: it together and close it off. It's like that's a clip, 135 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:54,960 Speaker 1: m And a coil is just what it what it said, right, 136 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: it's like a built insert like a surporting small metal 137 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 1: like oil right to keep to keep them to keep 138 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 1: the blood flows the way it should be. So I 139 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:14,120 Speaker 1: think when you if you're found with an aneurysm and 140 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 1: they're able to prevent it prior to it rupturing, that's 141 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:24,960 Speaker 1: life saving. But it's also and it also can be invasive. 142 00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 1: Now when it happens to me nine years ago, Um, 143 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 1: they didn't I don't know if they didn't have the 144 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 1: technology or if my anneurysm was that bad that they 145 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:41,320 Speaker 1: had to actually perform like they had to open my 146 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: skull as opposed to like like right now. A friend 147 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: of mine actually had a ruptured aneurism last year and 148 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 1: they were able to go through her groins um to 149 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: perform the surgery. They didn't have to open her up. 150 00:09:55,280 --> 00:10:00,840 Speaker 1: M wow. One thing I learned is is that African 151 00:10:00,880 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 1: Americans and Hispanics are about twice as likely to have 152 00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 1: a rupt your brain in a rhythm compared to Whites. 153 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:13,880 Speaker 1: What are your thoughts on that? Um? I mean, I 154 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: think that because of the way our health care system 155 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:24,200 Speaker 1: is set up. I believe that you know, we're at 156 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:30,360 Speaker 1: risk for you know everything pretty much, I mean pretty much, 157 00:10:31,720 --> 00:10:35,720 Speaker 1: we're wis for everything. Um. And And they say, you 158 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:39,720 Speaker 1: know that more women than men, that's the whole that's that, 159 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 1: that's a whole other thing, right, And I just think 160 00:10:42,559 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 1: I think that the way that our system has set 161 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 1: up a as a woman soul, for example, when it 162 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: happens to me. First of all, I didn't know what 163 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 1: an anneurism was, never heard of it. I didn't know 164 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 1: anyone that had wren like I don't. I don't. This 165 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 1: wasn't in life circle working a common thing. No one 166 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 1: knew what that was, right. Um. And so if I 167 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:13,319 Speaker 1: get a headache, which I've suffered from headaches before, it 168 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: was a headache. Right, I'm gonna take a share with 169 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:20,320 Speaker 1: segrin because I got work to do to stopped by 170 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 1: no headache. Hello, let me pop these ex sgrens real quick. 171 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:26,679 Speaker 1: Maybe I'm dehydrated, maybe i'm maybe I'm I'll we come 172 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 1: up with all of these excuses as to why we're 173 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 1: not feeling our bad selves. So, I mean, I think 174 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:41,320 Speaker 1: I was fortunate to have the privilege I'm gonna call 175 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:45,520 Speaker 1: it privilege, right, and the benefit of good health care, 176 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:49,640 Speaker 1: of understanding the importance of um, listening to your body 177 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: and all of those things. But unfortunately that's not the 178 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: case everywhere. Right, everyone doesn't. Everyone doesn't have that quote 179 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: unquote privilege. Um. And so, yeah, you know, black and Hispanic, 180 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 1: black and Latino, the black and Latino population is certainly 181 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: at risk I mean from you name it, hypertension. And 182 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: the other part of this is all of the things 183 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,680 Speaker 1: that were at risk of which even for the at 184 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: risk for an anthonythm, so high blood pressure, heart disease, 185 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 1: babies fallow. When I was reading this, I was like, 186 00:12:26,640 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: this sounds like black people, like we can't win for losing. 187 00:12:31,760 --> 00:12:35,840 Speaker 1: I can't win for losing, right. And then also research 188 00:12:35,920 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: states that women are protected against anerisms in their reproductive years, 189 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:43,360 Speaker 1: but rises after menopause, And I'm like, yo, women can't 190 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:49,360 Speaker 1: catch a break. Cannot catch a break? Isn't that crazy? Yeah, 191 00:12:51,320 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 1: it's not crazy crazy Wow. And something else that I 192 00:12:56,840 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 1: learned is that sadly, of individual roles shrugged by erupt 193 00:13:01,640 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 1: your brain aneurysm will not survive. So when you hear that, 194 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 1: how does that make you feel? It makes me feel 195 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 1: blessed that I'm on the one side, the survival side 196 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: of the fifty percent, and deeply sad in that I'm 197 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 1: one lives on the other side of the fifty This 198 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:23,680 Speaker 1: is a this is a health condition, a medical condition 199 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:29,760 Speaker 1: that doesn't have to look like that, right, the numbers 200 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: don't have to look And I could have outside you 201 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,720 Speaker 1: something else. I could have easily been on the other 202 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 1: side of the fifty percent, because you know, oftentimes if 203 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:44,080 Speaker 1: you do google brain aneurythm, they're gonna say the worst 204 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:48,080 Speaker 1: headache of your life. If I go to a hospital 205 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:50,680 Speaker 1: and I said, I'm having the worst headache of my life, 206 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 1: the first thing you should do is order a cat stand. 207 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 1: The first thing you should do. I mean, I think, 208 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:01,120 Speaker 1: but but that wasn't you know, that wasn't the case 209 00:14:01,200 --> 00:14:03,599 Speaker 1: for me. That wasn't the case for my mom. And 210 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 1: thank God to the people who were able to help me, 211 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:09,640 Speaker 1: the medical professionals that were able to help me. But 212 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 1: I think that a big part of the issue a 213 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 1: is that we oftentimes don't listen to our bodies and 214 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 1: be that. When we do show up too for healthcare, 215 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:27,480 Speaker 1: they're not as um you know, they try to rule 216 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: things out. But timing is what's most important in saving 217 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 1: people with brain endemism. It's all about timing. It's all 218 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:38,480 Speaker 1: about being able to, you know, um, address the issue 219 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: right away because obviously your brain that controls your entire 220 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:46,480 Speaker 1: your body can't sustain helehging what for so long? For 221 00:14:46,640 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 1: so long? For so now? Tell us about your situation. 222 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:04,840 Speaker 1: What were some of the symptoms that you were experiencing. 223 00:15:05,840 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: It's funny because people remind me that day it happened 224 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:13,120 Speaker 1: in the evening, But that day I was extremely tired. 225 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 1: I mean, what black women working black women, isn't that right, Dane. 226 00:15:19,280 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: I was at work, I'm tired, and I was preparing 227 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:25,400 Speaker 1: to go. I actually was going on a business trip, 228 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 1: so I was getting ready to pack. I said, let 229 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 1: me just sit down for a quick minute before I 230 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:33,760 Speaker 1: pack and get myself together, And just like that, boom. 231 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:39,120 Speaker 1: I was actually sitting downstairs watching Jeopardy and I had 232 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: the worst headache of my life. Out of nowhere, I 233 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 1: saw Old, what's going on, Earn? I don't show well? 234 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 1: So I started to I went to go stand up 235 00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:51,600 Speaker 1: and couldn't stand. Like my entire right side or my 236 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 1: body was like paralyzed, like I just couldn't stand up. 237 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:59,000 Speaker 1: And I remember thinking to myself, they'll never find me 238 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 1: down here, because I thought I was gonna die. Like 239 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 1: its The pain was that excruciating that I thought I 240 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:08,440 Speaker 1: was going to die, and so I crawled up the 241 00:16:08,560 --> 00:16:11,040 Speaker 1: stairs and I said, I need to get upstairs. So 242 00:16:11,160 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 1: I crawled up the strook and even into that pain, 243 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:18,360 Speaker 1: I kept thinking, I need to get a tylenol or 244 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 1: a cedrin and it'll go away. M I mean, I 245 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 1: wasn't thinking, oh, I didn't know anything about this, right, 246 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 1: So I crawled up the stairs and I started to 247 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 1: feel nauseous, so I went into the bathroom and my 248 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: phone started ringing. At that time, this was twenty thirteen, 249 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:39,560 Speaker 1: so at that time I had a house phone, and 250 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:43,200 Speaker 1: my house phone was right outside of the bathroom and 251 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 1: my phone started ringing, and I remember thinking, I don't 252 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:48,560 Speaker 1: care who this is. It could be a bill collector. 253 00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 1: I'm going to tell them to kwame an ambulance, like 254 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:53,240 Speaker 1: I need to go to the hospital. And I picked 255 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:56,480 Speaker 1: up the phone and it was my dad and he's like, 256 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:58,720 Speaker 1: hey babe, like you know old you know chip, but 257 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:00,960 Speaker 1: hey babe, I was gonna come for food. I said, 258 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,080 Speaker 1: I need you to come now, bring your key. I'm 259 00:17:03,120 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: not feeling well. And he knows that they at that time, 260 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:10,119 Speaker 1: I lived very close, so he was here within minutes 261 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: and found me passed out on the bathroom floor. My god, 262 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 1: so now you know his baby girl is laying on 263 00:17:18,680 --> 00:17:22,800 Speaker 1: the bassroom floor and he kind of like kind of 264 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:24,920 Speaker 1: you know, shook me, woke me up, and he's like, 265 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:27,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to call an ambulance, and I kept saying no, no, no, no, 266 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:31,199 Speaker 1: don't call an ambulance. Drives me to the hospital. My car. 267 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:33,320 Speaker 1: I knew to say, like, my car keys are here, 268 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,240 Speaker 1: I need a sweatshirt. So you got me a sweatshirt 269 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:39,880 Speaker 1: and drove me to the hospital and called my mom 270 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:44,359 Speaker 1: and my sister is of the essence. Yes, So I 271 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: get to the hospitals and we went to a hospital 272 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 1: close by here. And first of all, I was literally 273 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:53,439 Speaker 1: sitting in a wheelchair because he went so he had 274 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:55,120 Speaker 1: to go park the cross so he brought me into 275 00:17:55,160 --> 00:17:57,320 Speaker 1: the hospital. They wheeled me in and I sat in 276 00:17:57,440 --> 00:18:01,879 Speaker 1: the middle of the waiting air. Nobody even asked me 277 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:06,960 Speaker 1: what was going on, like I was in excruciating pain. Finally, 278 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:09,840 Speaker 1: they kept telling me that they thought I had food 279 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 1: poisoning because I was nauseous, which is a common side effect, 280 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:18,399 Speaker 1: right and fatigue exactly exactly. So I was kind of 281 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:20,800 Speaker 1: going in out of toniousness and I was nauseous. So 282 00:18:20,840 --> 00:18:23,879 Speaker 1: they kept saying that I had food poisoning, and I'm like, 283 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:26,480 Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't like this is something else. 284 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:30,800 Speaker 1: And to be honest with you, the next thing I remember, 285 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 1: I woke up in another hospital with all types of 286 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:40,159 Speaker 1: white machines around me. And so what I was told 287 00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:44,879 Speaker 1: what ended up happening was eventually after hours, I mean, 288 00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:49,359 Speaker 1: they probably didn't get me to the other hospital until 289 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 1: two in the morning, m one, two o'clock in the morning. 290 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:58,159 Speaker 1: So I was going for Allen's and they actually finally 291 00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:01,400 Speaker 1: did put me through right, so the bleeding on my brain, 292 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 1: but they couldn't handle that kind of traumatic brain injury 293 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: at that hospital, so they sent me to another hospital 294 00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:12,600 Speaker 1: on so side. And I woke up. Um, I opened 295 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 1: my eyes, I had a tool down my throat, I 296 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:17,680 Speaker 1: was intubated, so I couldn't speak, and my family was 297 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:21,280 Speaker 1: around me. And the first thing I thought was, I 298 00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:25,240 Speaker 1: can't see. I was blind in one eye left my 299 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:28,480 Speaker 1: left eye, couldn't see out of my left eye, and 300 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:30,680 Speaker 1: so I couldn't speak, so I kept pointing till my 301 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:34,240 Speaker 1: eye going. So I didn't know what was going on. 302 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:38,600 Speaker 1: Like literally, I remember being at one hospital and the 303 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:41,200 Speaker 1: next thing, you know, like I'm in a change place 304 00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 1: with beeping noises figured like er right with all the 305 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:48,440 Speaker 1: beeping noises and um, and I I was in a 306 00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:52,320 Speaker 1: narrow I see you, and I had I had experience. 307 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:56,199 Speaker 1: I had brain surgery. Wow. So wait, so when did 308 00:19:56,280 --> 00:19:58,000 Speaker 1: they tell you that you was you had erupt your 309 00:19:58,040 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 1: brain the rhythm like or did they tell your family, 310 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 1: or they told my sin, so they told my family 311 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:04,680 Speaker 1: because at that point I was, you know, I was 312 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:08,320 Speaker 1: literally the hemorrha. Jane was so bad. I was literally 313 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 1: in and out of consciousness, like I didn't know the 314 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:13,159 Speaker 1: human brain is something else. I didn't know where I was. 315 00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:16,080 Speaker 1: If you asked me where I was, I would tell 316 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:20,159 Speaker 1: you like um and my dynable the beach, Like I 317 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:24,240 Speaker 1: was creating these stories in my head because my body 318 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 1: was going through such a trauma. Right wow, And you 319 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:32,840 Speaker 1: don't remember anything about the day of your surgery, like 320 00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:36,679 Speaker 1: everything just happened so fast. It happened very very quickly. 321 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: I can tell you that, Oh my mom, it literally 322 00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 1: didn't even look at my insurance. They literally were like, 323 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:48,359 Speaker 1: we need to operate on her now or she is 324 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:54,159 Speaker 1: going to die. And they rushed me into into the 325 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:57,480 Speaker 1: r and you know, my mom said give me one minute, 326 00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:00,359 Speaker 1: and she like laid on top of me because I'm 327 00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:02,720 Speaker 1: you know, I'm her, I'm her eldest, all right, I'm 328 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:05,080 Speaker 1: her first blown And she laid on top of me 329 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,040 Speaker 1: and she's just pled the blood and Jesus over me 330 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:10,080 Speaker 1: and prayed over me and said save my baby. And 331 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:13,440 Speaker 1: they pushed me into the boar. Now that I don't remember, 332 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:17,359 Speaker 1: but that is what I was told. Um happened, and 333 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:20,960 Speaker 1: it was a pretty long surgery because what they have 334 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 1: to do is they need to first drain right, so 335 00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:27,200 Speaker 1: they have to before they can actually perform the surgery. 336 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 1: They have to They had to open my head in 337 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 1: two places to be able to get all of the 338 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,520 Speaker 1: like clear out all of the blood, and then they 339 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:37,639 Speaker 1: were able to kind of do the surgery on me. 340 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:41,520 Speaker 1: M how long did it take for you to fully recover? 341 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:48,359 Speaker 1: You got to be over here tearing up because my god, 342 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:55,479 Speaker 1: that man so so my recovery was was very uh, 343 00:21:55,840 --> 00:22:00,520 Speaker 1: it was very touch and go because um, I spent 344 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:09,200 Speaker 1: about seven weeks and I see you, and throughout I 345 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:13,399 Speaker 1: was having I had a stroke. I had a lot 346 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:17,440 Speaker 1: of different things were happening to me because like my aneurism, 347 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:24,159 Speaker 1: the rupture was just that bad, and then I was 348 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,720 Speaker 1: having like blackouts. My vision came back, I'd say within 349 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:34,240 Speaker 1: a few days. My vision came back, but I was 350 00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,639 Speaker 1: still very like it was. It was very poor and 351 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 1: I was very photo sensitive, meaning like any bright lights, 352 00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:43,159 Speaker 1: I couldn't really I couldn't see that well because like 353 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: bright lights and then I had to go. When they 354 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:50,560 Speaker 1: let me out of the hospital, they sent me straight 355 00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:55,000 Speaker 1: to an m a true rehab, which mean like I 356 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:58,840 Speaker 1: stayed there in this rehab facility, and so they gave 357 00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:05,040 Speaker 1: me pt ot speech. I had to do a lot. 358 00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:09,520 Speaker 1: I was there for about three to four weeks, and 359 00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:12,400 Speaker 1: then I came home. I actually came home right before Christmas. 360 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,600 Speaker 1: Came home right before Christmas, and my mom was like, yeah, 361 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,520 Speaker 1: you know, I'm standing at your house when you're staying 362 00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:24,280 Speaker 1: right here, keep your eye exactly. So I stayed at 363 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:28,000 Speaker 1: her house for maybe like a week, and then I 364 00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:30,200 Speaker 1: was like, can I call home? Like I haven't slept 365 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:34,680 Speaker 1: in my own bed since October, Like I just want 366 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:38,120 Speaker 1: to go home. And so she allowed me to go home, 367 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:41,480 Speaker 1: but she was like, but I'm calling you every thirty seconds. Hey, 368 00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 1: I just need to know that you're okay. And even 369 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: then I wasn't able to go back to work because 370 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,800 Speaker 1: I still had to I was still doing like we 371 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,119 Speaker 1: had kinds of stuff. So I was still in speech, 372 00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:56,080 Speaker 1: I was still doing pet and and olt. You know, 373 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 1: I have a very demanding job, and I just wasn't 374 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:00,200 Speaker 1: I thought in my head that I would be to 375 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,480 Speaker 1: work after the holidays, but I didn't end up going 376 00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:07,080 Speaker 1: back to work until April. So did you have to 377 00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:09,520 Speaker 1: relearn a lot of things like your basic motor skills. 378 00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:14,159 Speaker 1: I had to learn a lot of things. Yeah, I 379 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 1: had to relearn a lot of things. And the human 380 00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 1: brain is amazing, right, like, it goes through these it 381 00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:24,960 Speaker 1: goes through this trauma. First of all, I think between 382 00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 1: I'm a very very spiritual person, and I think though 383 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:33,440 Speaker 1: it was God's protection over me and the brain's protection. 384 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:37,440 Speaker 1: That doesn't allow you to remember certain things or that 385 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,720 Speaker 1: will will protect It's like a it's like a protection, 386 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:44,520 Speaker 1: right see, you now to have to remember all of 387 00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:50,800 Speaker 1: the different like phasing of your recovery. It just allows 388 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:54,280 Speaker 1: you to just recover and you know when the brain 389 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:59,439 Speaker 1: so to see if I had a broken leg, they 390 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:01,480 Speaker 1: can tell you how long my legs and its take 391 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 1: to heal. But working is very different and it requires 392 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:10,399 Speaker 1: a lot of rest, right Like you have to sleep 393 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,959 Speaker 1: a lot. It requires and you can't really tell how 394 00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:16,920 Speaker 1: long it's going to take you to be fully recovered. 395 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,720 Speaker 1: It's just you just can't and you don't know. So 396 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:22,560 Speaker 1: it took me even though I went back to work. 397 00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:25,640 Speaker 1: I went back part time and whatever. But I would 398 00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:30,560 Speaker 1: say it took me probably about a full year, a 399 00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:35,960 Speaker 1: little over a year to feel completely like myself. Right. 400 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:39,719 Speaker 1: The area of my brain that that experienced the trauma 401 00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:46,320 Speaker 1: was my funtal area that controls executive functioning. So a 402 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:50,240 Speaker 1: part of the occupational therapy that I went through taught 403 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:55,719 Speaker 1: me how to do things to help improve my executive functioning. Right. 404 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:57,919 Speaker 1: So there are like different strategies that I had to use. 405 00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:59,919 Speaker 1: I had a lot of memory laws. But what they 406 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:03,120 Speaker 1: things that I had to do in order to perform 407 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,879 Speaker 1: at the level that I needed to perform it, um, 408 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:10,239 Speaker 1: Like I did prior to uh the experience. Who were 409 00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:13,920 Speaker 1: some of the things you have to do? Um? So 410 00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 1: I'm a post it girl, I have I have posted everywhere. 411 00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:20,960 Speaker 1: If my birthday wouldn't happen if I don't put it 412 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,119 Speaker 1: on my phone, like I use my phone a lot 413 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:28,080 Speaker 1: with different alerts. Um. There are different like memory games 414 00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:30,960 Speaker 1: that um you know that on your phone that you 415 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:37,880 Speaker 1: can One was called done. It was called luminosity luminosity. Um. 416 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:39,879 Speaker 1: So there were like a lot of different like memory 417 00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 1: games that I used to kind of build we build 418 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:48,040 Speaker 1: those areas in my brain I have. I carry around 419 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:51,280 Speaker 1: on notebooks. I had to. So if you asked me 420 00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,320 Speaker 1: to do something right now, I mean it could be 421 00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:55,359 Speaker 1: now because I'm just a woman of a certain age. 422 00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:59,600 Speaker 1: But then, but ten years ago, I wouldn't remember like 423 00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 1: you would tell me, oh, I need you. If you 424 00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,760 Speaker 1: give me most steps instructions, I wouldn't remember what you 425 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:06,840 Speaker 1: told me. So I would need to write things down 426 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,600 Speaker 1: and then refer to my notes. And I still use 427 00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:13,399 Speaker 1: that now because it's helpful when you have to multitask 428 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:18,640 Speaker 1: in a way that I do both personally and professionally. Listen, y'all, 429 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,280 Speaker 1: she says she's a woman of a certain age, but 430 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,120 Speaker 1: she's given these young girls a run for their money. 431 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:26,160 Speaker 1: Child were about were looking like the same age. Y'all? 432 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:34,440 Speaker 1: Thank you. Did you experience some level of permanent neurological impairment? 433 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:43,280 Speaker 1: M thankfully, No, I am. I would say that I'm 434 00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:55,359 Speaker 1: probably one of the few survivors that there's nothing. There's 435 00:27:55,440 --> 00:28:00,359 Speaker 1: nothing that anyone that knew me before could say us 436 00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,679 Speaker 1: not right. I know for myself that I'm not at 437 00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:07,159 Speaker 1: the pinnacle where I was as far as like memory 438 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,159 Speaker 1: and stuff like that. But I don't know again is 439 00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:12,280 Speaker 1: it because who knows why I don't think it has 440 00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,520 Speaker 1: anything to do with the with the anneurism at all. 441 00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:21,680 Speaker 1: I would say that I'm one hundred percent back, thank God, Yeah, 442 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:24,639 Speaker 1: thank god. And is it possible that you can have 443 00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:31,480 Speaker 1: another one? It is um is. But so what I 444 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:36,600 Speaker 1: did was in December of so my mom died in August. 445 00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:41,640 Speaker 1: In December of twenty twenty, I went through another procedure 446 00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:45,960 Speaker 1: where they go again through your growing to examine and 447 00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:51,360 Speaker 1: see if there's anything blooding, anything on its way, anything coming. 448 00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:55,120 Speaker 1: And I was assured that the answer was no, right, 449 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:58,320 Speaker 1: so that there was nothing like there was nothing, you know, 450 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:02,280 Speaker 1: the end that procedure can look at this very small 451 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:07,920 Speaker 1: small like it's very very like minusculele vessels, and they said, nope, 452 00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:14,000 Speaker 1: everything looks good. So very anything can happen. But you know, 453 00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,600 Speaker 1: so I know how grief can affect one person because 454 00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:19,480 Speaker 1: I lost my girl brother seven years ago and she 455 00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,200 Speaker 1: was like my mom to me. So how was it 456 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:34,920 Speaker 1: losing your mom to something? Yeah? Oh so a lot 457 00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:41,240 Speaker 1: of survivals guilt. Hum. I was very hard on myself 458 00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,080 Speaker 1: because I remember, you know that I called my mother 459 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:46,680 Speaker 1: every morning. I supposed to her every night, and so 460 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,080 Speaker 1: that morning in particular I'm like, hey, and hepe feelings. 461 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,160 Speaker 1: I don't feels good. Girl have a headache, and so 462 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,440 Speaker 1: well you need to you know, did you take your pressure? 463 00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,240 Speaker 1: Because she had high blood pressure, so I was like, 464 00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:00,520 Speaker 1: did you check your pressure? I'm like, did you eat anything? 465 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:02,760 Speaker 1: So I went through like the usual did you have 466 00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:05,800 Speaker 1: maybe you're dehydrated because the furthest thing from my mind 467 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:10,520 Speaker 1: was an annyisom furthest thing, And so I was very 468 00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:14,000 Speaker 1: guilty that I didn't tell her, like so how would 469 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,120 Speaker 1: I have known? Right? But that was what a part 470 00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:19,080 Speaker 1: of my process, like I just felt terrible like I 471 00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:22,920 Speaker 1: should have known. And then I think, you know, she 472 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 1: collapsed um at the house and my sister and my 473 00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:31,200 Speaker 1: niece who I think my niece was ten so eleven, 474 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:36,480 Speaker 1: she was eleven, um, and so they were they were 475 00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:40,360 Speaker 1: there at the house with her when she collapsed UM, 476 00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,080 Speaker 1: and my sister called nine one one, and you know, 477 00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 1: my niece called me and it was like a whole thing. 478 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:47,480 Speaker 1: But I had seen my mother that morning and you know, 479 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:52,760 Speaker 1: same smile, same laugh, And so I felt guilty that 480 00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:55,560 Speaker 1: I didn't know the next thing is when we got 481 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,880 Speaker 1: to the hospital and they told us that it was 482 00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:01,920 Speaker 1: an anneisom like, oh, we got this right, see me 483 00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:08,200 Speaker 1: like you see me, and and so that was a 484 00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:13,040 Speaker 1: really touch pill to swallow. Also, you know, um, it 485 00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:15,880 Speaker 1: was hard, it is it is hard. It's still hard. 486 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:20,480 Speaker 1: It's still hard. Um. But you know, one of the 487 00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,800 Speaker 1: things that I am a full believer in is turning 488 00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:30,160 Speaker 1: your pain into purpose. Right. And so you know, we um, 489 00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:35,240 Speaker 1: my sister and I we go to the Brain Annuurism Walk. 490 00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:38,520 Speaker 1: They have an annual walk and you know, to raise 491 00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:42,400 Speaker 1: funds for brain annualism awareness. That was something that my 492 00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:44,880 Speaker 1: mother was very It was very important to her that 493 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:48,040 Speaker 1: she were there every year. Um. So they didn't lose 494 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,800 Speaker 1: this twenty twenty and twenty twenty one because of the pandemic, 495 00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:55,240 Speaker 1: but we were back in twenty two and we'll you know, 496 00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:58,520 Speaker 1: we'll go every year until we can't walk her head. 497 00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:13,760 Speaker 1: And you know, just being a voice for the voiceless. 498 00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,240 Speaker 1: I don't think that you go through things. You know, 499 00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,000 Speaker 1: all of our stories matter, and I don't think that 500 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:20,160 Speaker 1: you go through things to keep them to yourself. They're 501 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,000 Speaker 1: meant to be shared. And so you know, anyone that 502 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:27,000 Speaker 1: that you know listens to this particular podcast, you know, 503 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:31,120 Speaker 1: I hope that this inspires you, that it informs you. 504 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:34,720 Speaker 1: I think, you know, I've been able to speak to people. 505 00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,200 Speaker 1: You're a friend of mine, a co worker and that's 506 00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:41,760 Speaker 1: also a friend of mine experience of brain aneurism last spring, 507 00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,120 Speaker 1: and um, you know, I was able to talk her 508 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:48,400 Speaker 1: family through certain things that my family didn't have the 509 00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:54,000 Speaker 1: language right then, or the knowledge or anything right. Um. 510 00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:57,400 Speaker 1: And you know, thank God, she is healing and she 511 00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,440 Speaker 1: isn't fully restored yet, but she's getting there. And you know, 512 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,800 Speaker 1: and I'm sharing her on when I see her, I 513 00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,200 Speaker 1: go make sure to go check on her. I'm sharing 514 00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:08,360 Speaker 1: her on. So my point is, I think that you know, 515 00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:11,240 Speaker 1: trying to turn this payments and purpose is important to me. 516 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:12,720 Speaker 1: And I don't know what that's going to look like 517 00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:16,840 Speaker 1: in the future as far as um you know, different 518 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:21,480 Speaker 1: philanthropic ventures that we may take in the future. But 519 00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:25,240 Speaker 1: but I definitely have no problem dan a spokesperson and 520 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:28,520 Speaker 1: being a voice for the works list. Now, how does 521 00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:38,000 Speaker 1: this experience affect you personally? UM? So I say, I 522 00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:43,320 Speaker 1: definitively do not take life for granted. Um, I've always 523 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:50,400 Speaker 1: been connected to or haiting father, but this connected me 524 00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:55,160 Speaker 1: even more because you know, I went through a whole 525 00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:56,960 Speaker 1: point where I was kind of like, all right, so 526 00:33:57,120 --> 00:33:59,760 Speaker 1: why me, God, because oh, I didn't even tell you 527 00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:01,640 Speaker 1: this when I was in the they have one of 528 00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:06,479 Speaker 1: my friends actually passed away from a rupship braining. They 529 00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:08,920 Speaker 1: found her in her in her apartment. She lived alone, 530 00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:11,960 Speaker 1: you know, they sound her in her in her apartment. 531 00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:17,719 Speaker 1: So like why why? Why me? Like why did you 532 00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:20,000 Speaker 1: spare me? What is my purpose? What is it that 533 00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:21,719 Speaker 1: you want me to do? Who is it to you 534 00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,640 Speaker 1: want me to touch? What is it? What is my assignment? 535 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,520 Speaker 1: And so I've done a lot of work, um in 536 00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,840 Speaker 1: trying to figure out what that purpose is, what that 537 00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:34,359 Speaker 1: assignment is, um, trying to just hear his voice, I think, 538 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:38,560 Speaker 1: because it's definitely made me more current. Um made me 539 00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:43,160 Speaker 1: you know, uppu civill up pussil then. And you know 540 00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:46,440 Speaker 1: I looked a pretty okay life, right, not okay, a 541 00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:50,360 Speaker 1: very okay, a wonderful life, and so like for me, 542 00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:52,880 Speaker 1: I never ever once said like God, why is this 543 00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,799 Speaker 1: happening to me? For me, it was like, okay, why 544 00:34:55,880 --> 00:35:00,440 Speaker 1: not me? Why not me? Right, I've never I've never 545 00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:02,520 Speaker 1: had anything it happened to me. You know, there are 546 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:04,960 Speaker 1: people who lost people y'all and grew up without their 547 00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:09,840 Speaker 1: parents and they experience all types of physical ailments. And 548 00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 1: I'm not nothernet so you know, for me, it's very 549 00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:23,239 Speaker 1: important that you grow through what you go through. And 550 00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:26,520 Speaker 1: I think that my story. And when I tell people this, 551 00:35:26,680 --> 00:35:30,560 Speaker 1: they're like, wait, you had what When you told me, 552 00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:34,279 Speaker 1: I was like, wait, what happened? Yeah? You know, I 553 00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:37,919 Speaker 1: just you know, I like to be able to represent possibility, 554 00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:42,080 Speaker 1: to represent survival. You know. One of the things that 555 00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:46,239 Speaker 1: I talked to I have a girls group that that 556 00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:50,720 Speaker 1: I created and advise, and I talk to them about 557 00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:53,800 Speaker 1: survival and I talk to them about, you know, the 558 00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,360 Speaker 1: fact that you can and just because you don't have 559 00:35:56,440 --> 00:36:00,719 Speaker 1: a survivor story like me, we're surviving things every day, right, 560 00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:02,880 Speaker 1: and you need to be proud about proud of that, 561 00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,360 Speaker 1: you know, like that you that you survived. Um. And 562 00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,239 Speaker 1: so we do a whole lesson and we do a 563 00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:12,200 Speaker 1: whole group about things that we've survived, and we celebrate 564 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:14,799 Speaker 1: each other because I don't think we often celebrate each 565 00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:19,120 Speaker 1: other enough. But I was, what we've been through, and 566 00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:26,400 Speaker 1: how did this affect you professionally? Oh? So? Um? Professionally, 567 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,520 Speaker 1: First of all, I was blessed to UM have been 568 00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:35,480 Speaker 1: led to work in a place, you know, of community 569 00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,360 Speaker 1: where they you know, I wasn't a knew I wasn't 570 00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:41,000 Speaker 1: I was well, I am I not was? I am 571 00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:44,560 Speaker 1: well respected there and so they really extended me a 572 00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:47,759 Speaker 1: lot of grace as I tried to UM, as I 573 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:54,640 Speaker 1: recovered and I focused on me UM professionally, it has 574 00:36:54,680 --> 00:37:05,400 Speaker 1: inspired me to be UM explore other leadership opportunities I 575 00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:10,480 Speaker 1: could UM. I think you know, I shared with you 576 00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:15,120 Speaker 1: that I recently successfully defended a dissertation that was something 577 00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:18,880 Speaker 1: that you know, I've may have toyed with before, but 578 00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:22,440 Speaker 1: I needed to prove to myself that I could perform 579 00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:27,320 Speaker 1: at a high level academically, right. It was me stretching 580 00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:30,840 Speaker 1: my brain a little bit, like and so you know, 581 00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:34,960 Speaker 1: Zad has opened up many doors for me professionally. UM. 582 00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:37,399 Speaker 1: She's coming back on the show, y'all, So we're gonna 583 00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:42,960 Speaker 1: talk about that because man, the topic, yeah, oh yeah, 584 00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,759 Speaker 1: oh yeah. I just you know, it's for me. I 585 00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:54,319 Speaker 1: think that it has made me understand going through things. Right. 586 00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:57,719 Speaker 1: So I'm I'm a supervisor. I'm a boss people, you know, 587 00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:02,200 Speaker 1: I supervise. I'm responsible for about thirty people people going 588 00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:05,279 Speaker 1: through things every day and it helped it is it 589 00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:11,040 Speaker 1: humbled me, like my survival story humbled me into understanding 590 00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:16,239 Speaker 1: what it takes to be able to balance being a 591 00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:22,960 Speaker 1: human and being an employee. Right, it's a fine learning 592 00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:26,800 Speaker 1: and so and so I think you know my staff 593 00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:32,239 Speaker 1: would say that that definitely it changed me, um and 594 00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:34,920 Speaker 1: how I approached the day, how I approach every day, 595 00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:39,720 Speaker 1: both personally and procession, because I know you was a savage. Okay, 596 00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:45,920 Speaker 1: I know that mouthpiece was crazy. Listen, let's get the 597 00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:48,080 Speaker 1: job done. We have a job to do. People, Let's 598 00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:51,400 Speaker 1: go right right now. You probably be like, so, what 599 00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:57,759 Speaker 1: can we do to get this complete? Exactly exactly exactly right? 600 00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,239 Speaker 1: What would you say? It is the biggest thing that 601 00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:10,839 Speaker 1: you learned from this experience. Listen to your body when 602 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:15,040 Speaker 1: your body tells you that you need to rest rep 603 00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:21,840 Speaker 1: You know I was when I talk about savage, like 604 00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:25,279 Speaker 1: I'm a work a whole it right, Like I was 605 00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:30,640 Speaker 1: working like a crazy person, and you know, I got 606 00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,080 Speaker 1: different signs and I didn't listen off like I signed 607 00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:36,560 Speaker 1: beds and guys was like, really, okay, let me show 608 00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:39,759 Speaker 1: your signs. Wait what signs did you get? Well, you know, 609 00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:42,440 Speaker 1: I got signs that I was working too hard, you know, 610 00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:45,560 Speaker 1: just being exhausted, just trying to still pushing through. I'd 611 00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,719 Speaker 1: suffer from insomnia, but I'd go to work anyway. I 612 00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:51,160 Speaker 1: got the only reason I was able to even be 613 00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:53,080 Speaker 1: out of work for eight months. I never took any 614 00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:56,160 Speaker 1: days off. I had so many sick days in my 615 00:39:56,280 --> 00:40:00,399 Speaker 1: bank because I wasn't self care is important. You wake 616 00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:02,560 Speaker 1: up in the morning and you feel like, you know 617 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 1: what I can, I just can't do it today. You 618 00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:09,239 Speaker 1: do thick days. That's what they're there for, not just 619 00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:11,480 Speaker 1: for when you're really thick. And I'm not saying to 620 00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:15,759 Speaker 1: do that, you know, excessively, but you do have to 621 00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:17,640 Speaker 1: take care of you in order to you to be 622 00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:22,439 Speaker 1: able to be there for others. So they've definitely taught 623 00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:24,799 Speaker 1: me that self care is important. You got to listen 624 00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:29,440 Speaker 1: to your body. Um and that's to Lar's not promise, 625 00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:35,120 Speaker 1: So Lars not promise, right. Um. It Also, you know, 626 00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,320 Speaker 1: when you go through things like that, it shows you 627 00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:41,439 Speaker 1: who your people are. And so I'm you know, I'm 628 00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:46,440 Speaker 1: blessed to be surrounded by a village that you know, 629 00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:52,240 Speaker 1: there was a person at my hotel, at my hospital 630 00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:57,800 Speaker 1: and my hospital were with me every night. Someone stayed 631 00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:01,719 Speaker 1: with me at it. I told you I was in 632 00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:07,080 Speaker 1: the hospital for eight weeks, almost close to eight meets. 633 00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:11,600 Speaker 1: There was someone with me every day every day because 634 00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:16,719 Speaker 1: they knew that I couldn't advocate for myself. It would 635 00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:21,759 Speaker 1: with me every day. They took turns, my dad, my mom, 636 00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:25,759 Speaker 1: my sister, A few of my best friends, like like 637 00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:29,840 Speaker 1: my village came together like voltrons to protect me. And 638 00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:34,279 Speaker 1: so you know, I just I saved them, you know 639 00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:37,880 Speaker 1: when I do. We do these all at the aneurysm 640 00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:42,440 Speaker 1: walk every year, like I celebrate them because God protected me. 641 00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:44,560 Speaker 1: I don't have a lot of memory of everything that 642 00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:48,880 Speaker 1: I went through, but they do right their trauma. I 643 00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:55,360 Speaker 1: experienced the trauma physically, but it took an emotional scar 644 00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:59,920 Speaker 1: to them. So I saved them bottom of my heart 645 00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:03,640 Speaker 1: to just you know, never is leaving my side and 646 00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:07,399 Speaker 1: so holding me down because they did. My sister, my sister, 647 00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:10,040 Speaker 1: she took over my bank account. Thank god, she didn't 648 00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:13,919 Speaker 1: you know, go with check one, you know, Louis bag 649 00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,480 Speaker 1: or something. You know, she made sure what all of 650 00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:18,919 Speaker 1: my bills were paid, that I didn't miss a Zach, 651 00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,400 Speaker 1: I didn't miss a beat, she communicated with all of 652 00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:28,720 Speaker 1: my friends and family, you know, I mean, she was incredible, 653 00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:31,320 Speaker 1: she stepped up in a major way, and so you know, 654 00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:36,560 Speaker 1: I'm just incredibly grateful or you know, from my village 655 00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:40,920 Speaker 1: and last but our least, what is your advice to 656 00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:44,160 Speaker 1: the listeners on not ignoring her body and listening to it? 657 00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:51,359 Speaker 1: So I think we're so we get so caught up 658 00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:56,120 Speaker 1: in um. I've been listening actually to this book called 659 00:42:56,239 --> 00:43:05,640 Speaker 1: Restless Resistance and they talk a lot about culture. Yeah right, yes, yeah, 660 00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:07,800 Speaker 1: And I can't think of her name right now. I 661 00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:14,680 Speaker 1: know exactly she she is on I g uh that ministry. Yeah, yeah, 662 00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:21,000 Speaker 1: I mean, as you should. I just you know, I 663 00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:24,399 Speaker 1: think I think that we were so consoled with our 664 00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,879 Speaker 1: to do list and productivity that sometimes we don't take 665 00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:29,680 Speaker 1: the time to listen to our bodies. And when you 666 00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:32,920 Speaker 1: don't do that, your body will always give you a 667 00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:37,839 Speaker 1: sign that something's wrong, and not that you want every 668 00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:41,440 Speaker 1: two seconds to go to the er either, right, But 669 00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:45,719 Speaker 1: you know, just pay attention to different things. Pay attention 670 00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:51,640 Speaker 1: to you know, different feelings, different aches, different pains, whatever. 671 00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:56,560 Speaker 1: Pay attention and don't take everything lightly. Like everything can't 672 00:43:56,600 --> 00:44:00,640 Speaker 1: be sexually et cetera in the town all and if 673 00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:05,800 Speaker 1: it's something that is recurring, go see that doctor please. 674 00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:08,960 Speaker 1: How often I mean, especially people tell me on something 675 00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:10,400 Speaker 1: like you had that shirt, why don't you go to 676 00:44:10,480 --> 00:44:17,320 Speaker 1: the doctor. Go to the doctor, figure it out? And 677 00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:22,560 Speaker 1: it's better than O than not. No, right, So I 678 00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:26,040 Speaker 1: mean I just to me, I think that it can 679 00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:30,480 Speaker 1: save your life. And you know, we got a lot 680 00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:33,000 Speaker 1: of we got a lot of life to let Okay, 681 00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:37,000 Speaker 1: we still got to be in these shreets. I mean, 682 00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:42,879 Speaker 1: hello outside, it's calling this SHOs be calling my name. Okay, right, 683 00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:47,160 Speaker 1: so you gotta take care of yourself, listen to your body. 684 00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:51,200 Speaker 1: When I appreciate you, I think this was a beautiful conversation. 685 00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,239 Speaker 1: I definitely think that this is going to bring more 686 00:44:54,280 --> 00:44:58,040 Speaker 1: awareness to aneurysm, especially when it comes to our community. 687 00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:02,320 Speaker 1: So I appreciate you for sharing a story. Oh, thank you, 688 00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:06,000 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. After this was fun. Yeah, I 689 00:45:06,120 --> 00:45:08,920 Speaker 1: can't wait to come back and talk about that dissertation 690 00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:12,600 Speaker 1: topic though, because that right there, Oh my god, y'all, 691 00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:15,640 Speaker 1: I'm telling y'all, like and the time, it couldn't have 692 00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:20,160 Speaker 1: been better because I released an episode on I Am 693 00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:23,279 Speaker 1: a Survivor of Sex trafficking, and then me and my 694 00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,560 Speaker 1: guests who's on the show now, we went out to 695 00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:28,480 Speaker 1: eat and she was just talking about her dissertation and 696 00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:31,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, like it was just insane, 697 00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,160 Speaker 1: like amazing. So I cannot wait to have you back 698 00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:36,479 Speaker 1: on the show because I think a lot of people 699 00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:38,560 Speaker 1: are gonna be a lot of black women, especially are 700 00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,640 Speaker 1: gonna be able to relate to it. Yeah, thank you 701 00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:44,640 Speaker 1: so much. Yes, And if y'all have any questions coming 702 00:45:44,719 --> 00:45:46,799 Speaker 1: so concerns, so you're gonna say hey girl, Hey, make 703 00:45:46,840 --> 00:45:49,200 Speaker 1: sure to email me at hello at the PSD podcast 704 00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:55,360 Speaker 1: dot com. And until next time, everyone later, you're not 705 00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:59,759 Speaker 1: gonna say bye bye, thank you, thanks for having me. 706 00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:09,640 Speaker 1: The Professional Homegirl Podcast is the production of the Black 707 00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:13,800 Speaker 1: Effect podcast Network. 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