Speaker 1: Below, which is Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez below got
Speaker 1: commitment tattoos. Does that make you think immediately that it's
Speaker 1: going to work or does that make you think immediately
Speaker 1: that it's not going to work. I root for them
Speaker 1: because I root for love, and I love a story,
Speaker 1: and I love them coming around again and all that.
Speaker 1: But I want to know if commitment tattoos like giant
Speaker 1: giant crazy weddings makes me think divorced because I remember
Speaker 1: back in my time when we were all twenty five
Speaker 1: and twenty six and the whole group was getting married.
Speaker 1: The people who had the crazy million dollars at a
Speaker 1: control weddings, those are the ones that got divorced. The soonest,
Speaker 1: so the Megan Fox and the machine gun so big,
Speaker 1: so much, you know. But then Courtney and Travis I've
Speaker 1: been together. I mean, but it's funny because I think
Speaker 1: they've been been together for a while. Because they've been
Speaker 1: together for like two years. It feels like they've been
Speaker 1: together for twenty years. So I guess you can't know.
Speaker 1: But in my experience, the bigger it's like when someone
Speaker 1: really wants to show you how much money they have,
Speaker 1: they usually don't really have a lot of money. The
Speaker 1: people that really have money, you're not hearing about it
Speaker 1: and you just know. So I feel like that about relationships.
Speaker 1: So people that know that they're very public and that
Speaker 1: are going to publicly share commitment tattoos. That feels a
Speaker 1: little bit like going to Italy and July when you
Speaker 1: get together and walking through paparazzi groups where you know
Speaker 1: they'll be. So I don't know what side I'm on it.
Speaker 1: Part of me says, they've been together for a minute
Speaker 1: this time around, So if they had gotten the tattoos
Speaker 1: in the very beginning, that would have been questionable. But
Speaker 1: now that it's been a while, that makes it better
Speaker 1: and seem more like they're going to be together for
Speaker 1: a while. But I'll say I guarantee you. I think
Speaker 1: Paul and I thought about getting tattoos in the beginning,
Speaker 1: and not even like the total beginning, actually our second beginning,
Speaker 1: because we had a relationship, broke up and then got
Speaker 1: back together, and that was the time that we thought
Speaker 1: about that. Now we would if I call Paul right
Speaker 1: now and ask him if he wants to get a tattoo,
Speaker 1: I mean he would get a tattoo for me. But
Speaker 1: like it's not something we're really talking about that much now.
Speaker 1: So I feel like that's the kind of thing that
Speaker 1: you do when your relationship still has the new car smell.
Speaker 1: There are some people, I think years ago Tamera on
Speaker 1: The Housewives got a tattoo with her husband on the Housewives,
Speaker 1: which of course is where you would do that sort
Speaker 1: of thing, and then they got them removed in their
Speaker 1: respective new relationships. So what do you think about tattoos?
Speaker 1: Also here I go again about the age. I know
Speaker 1: there's no age, but like it just doesn't feel like
Speaker 1: a very in your fifties thing to do. It feels
Speaker 1: like a very in your twenties and maybe thirties type
Speaker 1: things to do. If any of my friends who are
Speaker 1: over fifty or like, we're gonna get tattoos. People in
Speaker 1: Hollywood don't want to be thought of is in their fifties.
Speaker 1: They just want to be sort of like age. But
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's only about plastic surgery. Like
Speaker 1: I've considered plastic surgery and will get plastic surgery, but
Speaker 1: I still think I'm very open about my age, and
Speaker 1: age isn't just about what you look like. It's how
Speaker 1: you dress and how you present yourself and how you
Speaker 1: talk and you know all that stuff. And I was
Speaker 1: going to say, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be young,
Speaker 1: or is there is there something wrong with being seventy
Speaker 1: acting forty? Like? Is there something wrong with a seventy
Speaker 1: five year old wearing a thong? Or It's like everyone
Speaker 1: could say do what, do what you want to do
Speaker 1: to each their own, but you know you're gonna judge,
Speaker 1: So is there something wrong with the seventy five year
Speaker 1: all wearing a thong? I want to talk about place
Speaker 1: of yes attitude at work. I had an experience working
Speaker 1: with someone and the first thing that they would always say,
Speaker 1: not with the word no, but with the vibe was no,
Speaker 1: Like you say, hey, I want to do this. I
Speaker 1: just spoke to whoever, and I think this is an
Speaker 1: amazing idea, And you own the company and you're the president,
Speaker 1: you're the founder, you're the one paying everyone's checks, and
Speaker 1: this is how they I don't know the thing is
Speaker 1: that's really challenging because of that, and I'm not sure
Speaker 1: and I'm thinking and now I don't want or have
Speaker 1: yes people around me because that is worse than what
Speaker 1: I'm talking about, Because you want pushback. You want creative minds,
Speaker 1: you want thought partners, you want crowdsourcing partners. But there's
Speaker 1: something to be said for someone who always and you
Speaker 1: know who this is in some way and even sometimes
Speaker 1: in friends, in relationships, in people that you're working with
Speaker 1: on the PTA, coworkers, whatever, that person that doesn't come
Speaker 1: from a place of yes, meaning if it's got. If
Speaker 1: I've come to somebody that I work with to say
Speaker 1: I want to get this done, it can get done.
Speaker 1: I'm not asking. There's times and I'm like, hey, is
Speaker 1: this crazy? Or do you think we could do this?
Speaker 1: Or what do you think of this idea? Then it's open.
Speaker 1: But when I come on, I'm like him, so I
Speaker 1: want to do this, and I think you need to
Speaker 1: send this person this and just send an email that
Speaker 1: says this, Oh yeah, I don't know because I think
Speaker 1: that that and I'm not sure and I don't place.
Speaker 1: I didn't. I don't care about the sauce. That's all sausage.
Speaker 1: That's how the sausage gets made. That's the weeds. I
Speaker 1: don't want to serve me the sausage cooked because I
Speaker 1: already know that it's possible, and it's a tonal thing like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: I will get into that right now. And then if
Speaker 1: come back to you and ran against a brick wall
Speaker 1: for many reasons or something went on, no problem, But
Speaker 1: I don't like an initial place of no. And it
Speaker 1: really is something that you may not even realize is
Speaker 1: happening at work and in relationships and friendships, because it's
Speaker 1: just something that may not be the word no, but
Speaker 1: it's tonal. It happened, It can happen in a restaurant, Hey,
Speaker 1: is there any way to get Like Paul my fiance,
Speaker 1: it doesn't like stuff all over his food, So he
Speaker 1: might say, is there any way to get the roast
Speaker 1: of potatoes instead of the scalop potatoes? Now, that's not
Speaker 1: even a good example, because that's a hard one to
Speaker 1: do if you don't have roast potatoes. It takes forty
Speaker 1: five minutes. I'm talking about something like can I get
Speaker 1: a simple plain chicken? Or can I get it whatever?
Speaker 1: But and the server, oh, well yeah, they usually don't
Speaker 1: and I and then okay, well could you go ask them?
Speaker 1: Then they ask him, they come back like, no problem,
Speaker 1: Like we don't need that little four play of no.
Speaker 1: Let's just start with yes and get excited and if
Speaker 1: it doesn't work out, it still doesn't work out. But
Speaker 1: we don't want to start with no. That's like starting
Speaker 1: a hike with a big, heavy pack on your back.
Speaker 1: Let me know if you have experienced that. So I'm
Speaker 1: fortunate enough to go to good hotels, and I often
Speaker 1: think about the types of places that I like to go,
Speaker 1: and they're not always the fanciest, they're not always the
Speaker 1: most expensive because I don't like too much service. I
Speaker 1: want to know if you are, if you vacation, and
Speaker 1: what you like and want on a vacation, Like do
Speaker 1: you want your ass kiss twenty four hours a day?
Speaker 1: Do you want someone talking to you and serving you
Speaker 1: and coming up to you? And I don't mean like
Speaker 1: you can't find someone to get a drink, that's bad service.
Speaker 1: I just mean like someone's available but not really at
Speaker 1: your beck and call when you're on vacation. What a
Speaker 1: restaurant as a fine line between picking up your dish
Speaker 1: when you're done at a restaurant, like clearing and like
Speaker 1: you still have an asparaged spear in your mouth and
Speaker 1: someone's grabbing the plate. You know, Like there's a fine
Speaker 1: line between picking up addition and everybody else hasn't eaten
Speaker 1: yet and leaving a pile of gross plates on the
Speaker 1: table for a long time. Like same thing when you
Speaker 1: see someone like in fancy restaurant, they're like standing right
Speaker 1: over you behind, and you feel like they can hear everything.
Speaker 1: There's a fine line between how much you want to transact.
Speaker 1: I'm not a transactional person. I don't like to return
Speaker 1: things because I don't want to get into a conversation
Speaker 1: and have some sort of a debate. I don't like
Speaker 1: to transact a lot. I don't know what that's from.
Speaker 1: It sounds crazy like Paul will do most of the
Speaker 1: transacting in our relationship. He'll do the interacting and talking.
Speaker 1: Let's say you're calling to get room service. I'll invariably
Speaker 1: forget that I'm even on the phone. It's been going on,
Speaker 1: I'll forget that I'm even on the phone, and then
Speaker 1: I'll forget what the conversation isn't forget what I ordered.
Speaker 1: Like he's just better at that sort of thing, But
Speaker 1: I'm better at if like this needs to get done.
Speaker 1: We need to get the ticket changed four ways, not
Speaker 1: six hundred dollars non refundable fees, Like I'm better at
Speaker 1: like that kind of like I'm good at the fine
Speaker 1: eggling like American race transacting if it involves some like
Speaker 1: big dilemma, Like I said, I don't like to return things.
Speaker 1: If there's an issue with like something something was was fake,
Speaker 1: or there's some sort of quagmire within the return, then
Speaker 1: it's really me. But like a just normal transactional return,
Speaker 1: I'm not the girl. If there's a if there's a
Speaker 1: serious problem that involves like some algorithm to change playing
Speaker 1: seats and get a refund and something like that, that's me.
Speaker 1: Paul will be reading the fine print on the contract.
Speaker 1: I will be finding loopholes around that. Another thing about
Speaker 1: getting to be a certain age, you become less selfish. Well,
Speaker 1: you become more selfish because you want to do what
Speaker 1: you want to do and you know that time is
Speaker 1: valuable in it's a commodity. But you become less selfish
Speaker 1: because you're really about your kids. You think about your kids,
Speaker 1: and your life changes because your kids, not just because
Speaker 1: you pick up and drop off and what they're doing
Speaker 1: and that you love them and that you know you're
Speaker 1: spending a lot of time with them, but the way
Speaker 1: that you're living, the healthy way that you're living is
Speaker 1: no longer so you can look good and be hot
Speaker 1: or for me and like be superficial about it. Your
Speaker 1: health and your sleep and your wellness is because you
Speaker 1: want to be around for your kids and to be
Speaker 1: healthy and not get sick for your kids. Because when
Speaker 1: I get sick, like I have this thing called pots
Speaker 1: and my blood pressure crashes and I'm very dehydrated, and
Speaker 1: I it's a little dangerous and I have some health issues,
Speaker 1: I think about my daughter, like that's what I think about.
Speaker 1: I don't really think about myself. So when I make
Speaker 1: healthy changes to my sleep, to my consumption, to my eating, etc.
Speaker 1: To my living, to my stress level, it's really for
Speaker 1: my daughter and for just I don't want to say fear,
Speaker 1: but yes, fear and caution about wanting to be healthy
Speaker 1: for her for her like for her to be around longer.
Speaker 1: And also when you have a child later. I'd my
Speaker 1: daughter in late thirties, which isn't even that late in
Speaker 1: my mind, but for many people it is. You think
Speaker 1: of things differently.