1 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: Below, which is Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez below got 2 00:00:18,160 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: commitment tattoos. Does that make you think immediately that it's 3 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:27,040 Speaker 1: going to work or does that make you think immediately 4 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: that it's not going to work. I root for them 5 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:32,519 Speaker 1: because I root for love, and I love a story, 6 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: and I love them coming around again and all that. 7 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:43,240 Speaker 1: But I want to know if commitment tattoos like giant 8 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: giant crazy weddings makes me think divorced because I remember 9 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:49,479 Speaker 1: back in my time when we were all twenty five 10 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 1: and twenty six and the whole group was getting married. 11 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: The people who had the crazy million dollars at a 12 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 1: control weddings, those are the ones that got divorced. The soonest, 13 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 1: so the Megan Fox and the machine gun so big, 14 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 1: so much, you know. But then Courtney and Travis I've 15 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: been together. I mean, but it's funny because I think 16 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:13,640 Speaker 1: they've been been together for a while. Because they've been 17 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 1: together for like two years. It feels like they've been 18 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: together for twenty years. So I guess you can't know. 19 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 1: But in my experience, the bigger it's like when someone 20 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: really wants to show you how much money they have, 21 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: they usually don't really have a lot of money. The 22 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: people that really have money, you're not hearing about it 23 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 1: and you just know. So I feel like that about relationships. 24 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 1: So people that know that they're very public and that 25 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: are going to publicly share commitment tattoos. That feels a 26 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: little bit like going to Italy and July when you 27 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: get together and walking through paparazzi groups where you know 28 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:49,680 Speaker 1: they'll be. So I don't know what side I'm on it. 29 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: Part of me says, they've been together for a minute 30 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 1: this time around, So if they had gotten the tattoos 31 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: in the very beginning, that would have been questionable. But 32 00:01:57,880 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: now that it's been a while, that makes it better 33 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: and seem more like they're going to be together for 34 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:08,799 Speaker 1: a while. But I'll say I guarantee you. I think 35 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:10,800 Speaker 1: Paul and I thought about getting tattoos in the beginning, 36 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: and not even like the total beginning, actually our second beginning, 37 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: because we had a relationship, broke up and then got 38 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: back together, and that was the time that we thought 39 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:21,800 Speaker 1: about that. Now we would if I call Paul right 40 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: now and ask him if he wants to get a tattoo, 41 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: I mean he would get a tattoo for me. But 42 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: like it's not something we're really talking about that much now. 43 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:31,120 Speaker 1: So I feel like that's the kind of thing that 44 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:34,560 Speaker 1: you do when your relationship still has the new car smell. 45 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,360 Speaker 1: There are some people, I think years ago Tamera on 46 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:43,480 Speaker 1: The Housewives got a tattoo with her husband on the Housewives, 47 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 1: which of course is where you would do that sort 48 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 1: of thing, and then they got them removed in their 49 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: respective new relationships. So what do you think about tattoos? 50 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: Also here I go again about the age. I know 51 00:02:57,320 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 1: there's no age, but like it just doesn't feel like 52 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: a very in your fifties thing to do. It feels 53 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 1: like a very in your twenties and maybe thirties type 54 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 1: things to do. If any of my friends who are 55 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: over fifty or like, we're gonna get tattoos. People in 56 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,079 Speaker 1: Hollywood don't want to be thought of is in their fifties. 57 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: They just want to be sort of like age. But 58 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's only about plastic surgery. Like 59 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 1: I've considered plastic surgery and will get plastic surgery, but 60 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 1: I still think I'm very open about my age, and 61 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 1: age isn't just about what you look like. It's how 62 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 1: you dress and how you present yourself and how you 63 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:35,200 Speaker 1: talk and you know all that stuff. And I was 64 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: going to say, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be young, 65 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: or is there is there something wrong with being seventy 66 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: acting forty? Like? Is there something wrong with a seventy 67 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: five year old wearing a thong? Or It's like everyone 68 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: could say do what, do what you want to do 69 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: to each their own, but you know you're gonna judge, 70 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:56,720 Speaker 1: So is there something wrong with the seventy five year 71 00:03:56,760 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: all wearing a thong? I want to talk about place 72 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 1: of yes attitude at work. I had an experience working 73 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:10,839 Speaker 1: with someone and the first thing that they would always say, 74 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: not with the word no, but with the vibe was no, 75 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 1: Like you say, hey, I want to do this. I 76 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 1: just spoke to whoever, and I think this is an 77 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: amazing idea, And you own the company and you're the president, 78 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: you're the founder, you're the one paying everyone's checks, and 79 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 1: this is how they I don't know the thing is 80 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:31,160 Speaker 1: that's really challenging because of that, and I'm not sure 81 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:33,919 Speaker 1: and I'm thinking and now I don't want or have 82 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 1: yes people around me because that is worse than what 83 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: I'm talking about, Because you want pushback. You want creative minds, 84 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:44,479 Speaker 1: you want thought partners, you want crowdsourcing partners. But there's 85 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: something to be said for someone who always and you 86 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: know who this is in some way and even sometimes 87 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: in friends, in relationships, in people that you're working with 88 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:57,480 Speaker 1: on the PTA, coworkers, whatever, that person that doesn't come 89 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 1: from a place of yes, meaning if it's got. If 90 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:02,600 Speaker 1: I've come to somebody that I work with to say 91 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:04,159 Speaker 1: I want to get this done, it can get done. 92 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 1: I'm not asking. There's times and I'm like, hey, is 93 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:08,360 Speaker 1: this crazy? Or do you think we could do this? 94 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 1: Or what do you think of this idea? Then it's open. 95 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:13,720 Speaker 1: But when I come on, I'm like him, so I 96 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: want to do this, and I think you need to 97 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 1: send this person this and just send an email that 98 00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 1: says this, Oh yeah, I don't know because I think 99 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:22,360 Speaker 1: that that and I'm not sure and I don't place. 100 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: I didn't. I don't care about the sauce. That's all sausage. 101 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: That's how the sausage gets made. That's the weeds. I 102 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:30,760 Speaker 1: don't want to serve me the sausage cooked because I 103 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: already know that it's possible, and it's a tonal thing like, oh, okay, 104 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:38,480 Speaker 1: I will get into that right now. And then if 105 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: come back to you and ran against a brick wall 106 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 1: for many reasons or something went on, no problem, But 107 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: I don't like an initial place of no. And it 108 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 1: really is something that you may not even realize is 109 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: happening at work and in relationships and friendships, because it's 110 00:05:57,560 --> 00:06:01,159 Speaker 1: just something that may not be the word no, but 111 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: it's tonal. It happened, It can happen in a restaurant, Hey, 112 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: is there any way to get Like Paul my fiance, 113 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: it doesn't like stuff all over his food, So he 114 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 1: might say, is there any way to get the roast 115 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:19,400 Speaker 1: of potatoes instead of the scalop potatoes? Now, that's not 116 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:20,800 Speaker 1: even a good example, because that's a hard one to 117 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 1: do if you don't have roast potatoes. It takes forty 118 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: five minutes. I'm talking about something like can I get 119 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 1: a simple plain chicken? Or can I get it whatever? 120 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:30,560 Speaker 1: But and the server, oh, well yeah, they usually don't 121 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:33,040 Speaker 1: and I and then okay, well could you go ask them? 122 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:34,719 Speaker 1: Then they ask him, they come back like, no problem, 123 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 1: Like we don't need that little four play of no. 124 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: Let's just start with yes and get excited and if 125 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 1: it doesn't work out, it still doesn't work out. But 126 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:44,239 Speaker 1: we don't want to start with no. That's like starting 127 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:46,800 Speaker 1: a hike with a big, heavy pack on your back. 128 00:06:47,440 --> 00:07:03,360 Speaker 1: Let me know if you have experienced that. So I'm 129 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:06,360 Speaker 1: fortunate enough to go to good hotels, and I often 130 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: think about the types of places that I like to go, 131 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 1: and they're not always the fanciest, they're not always the 132 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: most expensive because I don't like too much service. I 133 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 1: want to know if you are, if you vacation, and 134 00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:25,120 Speaker 1: what you like and want on a vacation, Like do 135 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 1: you want your ass kiss twenty four hours a day? 136 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 1: Do you want someone talking to you and serving you 137 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: and coming up to you? And I don't mean like 138 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 1: you can't find someone to get a drink, that's bad service. 139 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 1: I just mean like someone's available but not really at 140 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: your beck and call when you're on vacation. What a 141 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: restaurant as a fine line between picking up your dish 142 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: when you're done at a restaurant, like clearing and like 143 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: you still have an asparaged spear in your mouth and 144 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 1: someone's grabbing the plate. You know, Like there's a fine 145 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: line between picking up addition and everybody else hasn't eaten 146 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 1: yet and leaving a pile of gross plates on the 147 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: table for a long time. Like same thing when you 148 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 1: see someone like in fancy restaurant, they're like standing right 149 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 1: over you behind, and you feel like they can hear everything. 150 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:16,960 Speaker 1: There's a fine line between how much you want to transact. 151 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: I'm not a transactional person. I don't like to return 152 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 1: things because I don't want to get into a conversation 153 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:24,320 Speaker 1: and have some sort of a debate. I don't like 154 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 1: to transact a lot. I don't know what that's from. 155 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 1: It sounds crazy like Paul will do most of the 156 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 1: transacting in our relationship. He'll do the interacting and talking. 157 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 1: Let's say you're calling to get room service. I'll invariably 158 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 1: forget that I'm even on the phone. It's been going on, 159 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:42,560 Speaker 1: I'll forget that I'm even on the phone, and then 160 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:45,080 Speaker 1: I'll forget what the conversation isn't forget what I ordered. 161 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: Like he's just better at that sort of thing, But 162 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:50,240 Speaker 1: I'm better at if like this needs to get done. 163 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: We need to get the ticket changed four ways, not 164 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:58,079 Speaker 1: six hundred dollars non refundable fees, Like I'm better at 165 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: like that kind of like I'm good at the fine 166 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 1: eggling like American race transacting if it involves some like 167 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:07,040 Speaker 1: big dilemma, Like I said, I don't like to return things. 168 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: If there's an issue with like something something was was fake, 169 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 1: or there's some sort of quagmire within the return, then 170 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 1: it's really me. But like a just normal transactional return, 171 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:22,560 Speaker 1: I'm not the girl. If there's a if there's a 172 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:27,079 Speaker 1: serious problem that involves like some algorithm to change playing 173 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:32,080 Speaker 1: seats and get a refund and something like that, that's me. 174 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 1: Paul will be reading the fine print on the contract. 175 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: I will be finding loopholes around that. Another thing about 176 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 1: getting to be a certain age, you become less selfish. Well, 177 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 1: you become more selfish because you want to do what 178 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: you want to do and you know that time is 179 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 1: valuable in it's a commodity. But you become less selfish 180 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: because you're really about your kids. You think about your kids, 181 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:04,959 Speaker 1: and your life changes because your kids, not just because 182 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 1: you pick up and drop off and what they're doing 183 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: and that you love them and that you know you're 184 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 1: spending a lot of time with them, but the way 185 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 1: that you're living, the healthy way that you're living is 186 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:16,160 Speaker 1: no longer so you can look good and be hot 187 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:19,680 Speaker 1: or for me and like be superficial about it. Your 188 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 1: health and your sleep and your wellness is because you 189 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:25,120 Speaker 1: want to be around for your kids and to be 190 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 1: healthy and not get sick for your kids. Because when 191 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 1: I get sick, like I have this thing called pots 192 00:10:32,440 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 1: and my blood pressure crashes and I'm very dehydrated, and 193 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 1: I it's a little dangerous and I have some health issues, 194 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:41,560 Speaker 1: I think about my daughter, like that's what I think about. 195 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:43,760 Speaker 1: I don't really think about myself. So when I make 196 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:47,680 Speaker 1: healthy changes to my sleep, to my consumption, to my eating, etc. 197 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:51,680 Speaker 1: To my living, to my stress level, it's really for 198 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 1: my daughter and for just I don't want to say fear, 199 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: but yes, fear and caution about wanting to be healthy 200 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 1: for her for her like for her to be around longer. 201 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:05,960 Speaker 1: And also when you have a child later. I'd my 202 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:08,920 Speaker 1: daughter in late thirties, which isn't even that late in 203 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:11,360 Speaker 1: my mind, but for many people it is. You think 204 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: of things differently.