Speaker 1: Night.
Speaker 2: Hi there, how are you today? Thank you for finding
Speaker 2: this podcast Loves Someone with Delilah. As you may or
Speaker 2: may not know, I have been on the air at
Speaker 2: night for a long time, playing requests and dedications on
Speaker 2: your radio and I love doing my show, I stink
Speaker 2: and love hosting my show. But one of the things
Speaker 2: that always made me kind of sad and frustrated me
Speaker 2: was the fact that on my radio show at night
Speaker 2: I can only talk for two or three minutes at
Speaker 2: a time, because you know, with the music format, you
Speaker 2: got to play the music. So when podcasts started to
Speaker 2: become a thing, I thought, awesome, Now I can have
Speaker 2: in depth conversations that don't have to stop after two minutes.
Speaker 2: I can talk to somebody about what's important to them,
Speaker 2: what really means. And so we started this podcast Love
Speaker 2: Someone with Delilah, and what we are endeavoring to do.
Speaker 2: What my goal is not just to entertain you, but
Speaker 2: to inspire you. A lot of things are entertaining, but
Speaker 2: once you watch it, you're no better off than when
Speaker 2: you started, or once you listen to it, you're no
Speaker 2: better of a person than before you started listening. And
Speaker 2: with this podcast, what I hope to do is inspire you,
Speaker 2: inspire you to find that thing within you, whatever that is.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's taking care of children, maybe it's taking care
Speaker 2: of the elderly. Maybe it's taking care of our planet.
Speaker 2: Maybe it's being actively involved in education or a feeding program.
Speaker 2: I don't know what that thing is. Maybe you have
Speaker 2: the gift of hospitality. Maybe you're an artist. Maybe your
Speaker 2: talent is singing, and through your voice you make the
Speaker 2: world a better place. Such is the case with our
Speaker 2: guest today. You probably know him from American Idol, maybe
Speaker 2: from his killer music that I have been playing on
Speaker 2: my show for years. Our guest today on this podcast
Speaker 2: Loves Someone with Delilah is Chris Daughtry. Chris not only
Speaker 2: a songwriter, a recording artist, but he's also a humanitarian,
Speaker 2: a husband, a great dad, and he is passionate about
Speaker 2: sharing his heart with others. Chris Daughtry, thank you for
Speaker 2: making your way out to the farm. Thank you for
Speaker 2: coming to my studio. Welcome aboard.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: So let's talk about music and especially I wanted to
Speaker 2: talk to you about your new song, but I'm going
Speaker 2: to be a blubbering mess. Janie sent it to me
Speaker 2: the other day last week, and I cried listening to
Speaker 2: it the first or second time, and I thought, no,
Speaker 2: this can't be saying what I think think it's saying,
Speaker 2: because it's saying it too well. So then I looked
Speaker 2: up the lyrics just to make sure my heart was
Speaker 2: being fillayed.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you were saying everything I want to say
Speaker 2: to my kids. And it's such a beautiful way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's it certainly has has kind of morphed
Speaker 1: into that for us as well. It's I think there's
Speaker 1: so many kids out there that feel just not enough
Speaker 1: or not good enough, or that they're they're not what
Speaker 1: they're supposed to be according to society standards. Are these
Speaker 1: these people? Are these people? And and I just feel
Speaker 1: like love transcends all that, and I just, you know,
Speaker 1: we try to instill that in our own kids.
Speaker 2: And it's not just kids, everyone, it's everyone. Right.
Speaker 1: Well, when we first wrote it, Okay, so a little
Speaker 1: little backstory, my wife had had she had tried to
Speaker 1: kind of it that she wrote stuff when she was younger,
Speaker 1: and she loved writing and doing poetry, and it was
Speaker 1: all about lyrics. And I kind of blew it off
Speaker 1: a little bit, not you know, in almost like I
Speaker 1: write songs. That's that's my territory, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But it just a few years ago she had she
Speaker 1: had brought me some lyrics, and I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna dismiss this this time. I'm you know, there
Speaker 1: might for all I know, I've been missing out on
Speaker 1: some real gold here. And I read these lyrics that
Speaker 1: she had written and and I was like, I had
Speaker 1: the chorus in my head already, and I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is this is something very special. And I went
Speaker 1: to my studio and started writing it and did a
Speaker 1: whole demo and I played it for and she just
Speaker 1: bawled and and for like this this song is almost
Speaker 1: like three years old at this point now, but for
Speaker 1: the first like year, every time I listen to the demo,
Speaker 1: it would always just choke me up.
Speaker 2: I shouldn't be embarrassed about the fact that I was
Speaker 2: sitting here in this chair in the studio bawling. Yeah,
Speaker 2: flayed my heart.
Speaker 1: The only reason I'm not is because I've been through
Speaker 1: the emotions so many times that that I've you know,
Speaker 1: been able to separate. But yeah, and it was this
Speaker 1: internal struggle that she was dealing with that that, you know,
Speaker 1: and she was getting those those feelings out on paper
Speaker 1: and feeling like needed to be a certain way or whatever,
Speaker 1: and and knowing that I wanted her to just be
Speaker 1: who she is and be happy and be like, I
Speaker 1: love you for you, like, don't don't feel like you
Speaker 1: need to be a certain way or or or you
Speaker 1: have to hide this part of yourself or whatever. And
Speaker 1: so it became became that. And it's we've seen, at
Speaker 1: least I've seen in the performances, have had people came
Speaker 1: up to me and it was like, You've helped me
Speaker 1: through this or that. And it's such an amazing feeling
Speaker 1: to see that this has the potential to really affect
Speaker 1: people on a really deep level. Yeah, because oh, I
Speaker 1: just I don't know, like I want people. I want
Speaker 1: people at our shows to all feel welcome, you know,
Speaker 1: and to not feel that they're being judged by this
Speaker 1: person or they don't fit into this group or whatever.
Speaker 1: I want everybody to feel acceptance and love. You know.
Speaker 2: Jamie and I have been besties for almost thirty years now.
Speaker 2: I stole her away from another radio show in Boston
Speaker 2: years ago when we first met, and we were talking
Speaker 2: yesterday and she said, what are we going to do?
Speaker 2: We're talking about how crazy the world is. There was
Speaker 2: a shooting at a college that her niece attends, and
Speaker 2: she said, what are we going to do? And I said,
Speaker 2: We're going to do what we've always do, which is
Speaker 2: tried to use the platform God has given us to
Speaker 2: tell people that love is all that matters. It is
Speaker 2: all that matters, that that all this nonsense that's being
Speaker 2: rammed down our throat about divisiveness, that I'm right and
Speaker 2: you're wrong, that I'm good and you're bad, that I'm
Speaker 2: black and you're white, that I'm left in your right,
Speaker 2: that I'm straight and you're gay, and all this divisive
Speaker 2: nonsense is killing us. It doesn't matter, It doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: What matters the heart of each person's soul and that's
Speaker 1: what matters.
Speaker 2: That's all that matters. That we are all incredibly amazing,
Speaker 2: creative beings that are different. Your fingerprint is different than mine.
Speaker 2: There's no fingerprint in the world like yours, there's no
Speaker 2: Irish print in the world like yours. You are unique.
Speaker 2: So let's celebrate that instead of expecting other people to
Speaker 2: be what we think they should be.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And.
Speaker 2: I was, I was on social media.
Speaker 1: The other day.
Speaker 2: I have friends from high school that I keep in
Speaker 2: touch with, and there's a group of four of us
Speaker 2: that have lost kids and we're just we support each other.
Speaker 2: And one of the moms said, you know, I just
Speaker 2: feel like I'm not enough, and I had to, you know,
Speaker 2: not on the public forum, but just reach out and say, Okay,
Speaker 2: You've always been enough. You are so awesome. I've known
Speaker 2: you since you were, you know, at eleven years old,
Speaker 2: and you're awesome, just so awesome. But even you know,
Speaker 2: it's not just kids that feel that, it's all of us.
Speaker 1: Oh, I feel like we don't Oh my gosh, I
Speaker 1: went I went through so much self doubt just making
Speaker 1: this record and just trying to figure out who I
Speaker 1: was as a human being, and you know, reconciling my
Speaker 1: own limiting beliefs growing up. And we all go through
Speaker 1: feeling like not part of the the group or the
Speaker 1: kid yeah yeah or yeah or as the cool kids
Speaker 1: say it now fomo, you know, you feel like, am
Speaker 1: I doing enough? Am I? Am I? Am I teaching
Speaker 1: my kids enough? Am I doing this right? Am I?
Speaker 1: You know? There's always that question in life, so it's
Speaker 1: good to have someone say that you are enough. You
Speaker 1: are right now, how you are, where you are.
Speaker 2: Chris Daughtry, hold that thought. I just want to give
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Speaker 2: with me on today's episode of Love Someone with Delia
Speaker 2: in the studio with me is Chris Daughtry, And I
Speaker 2: was just asking you if you sound different to you
Speaker 2: on the headphones? Oh yeah, Like do you like your
Speaker 2: voice better on the headphone when you hear yourself?
Speaker 1: I I feel like it makes me want to talk differently.
Speaker 1: That's it's so weird. Hearing your voice now because I
Speaker 1: listened to you a lot growing up.
Speaker 2: Because you wanted to Chris, or confession session, because your
Speaker 2: mom confession session.
Speaker 1: It was in the dentist office.
Speaker 2: And in the backseat of the car and mom make home.
Speaker 1: Nobody made me listen to the radio. We always had
Speaker 1: some sort of pop radio on in the house. It
Speaker 1: was always like I was always into catchy songs, So
Speaker 1: it was it was either love songs or pop radio
Speaker 1: or country music.
Speaker 2: Because a lot of when I went we're going to
Speaker 2: talk about the military in a minute, but when I
Speaker 2: went overseas and when I traveled with the troops, ninety
Speaker 2: nine point nine percent of the young men in uniform said,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, my mom made us listen to you
Speaker 2: when we were coming home from football practice. My mom
Speaker 2: always made me listen to you when we were coming
Speaker 2: home from the swim team or whatever.
Speaker 1: It sounds like all of my fans' kids, my mom,
Speaker 1: My mom makes me listen to you guys, And we
Speaker 1: hear that all the time. Yeah, So when anybody ever asked, like,
Speaker 1: what band are you in, I always say, your mom's
Speaker 1: favorite band.
Speaker 2: There you go, there you go. So when you're not performing,
Speaker 2: when you're not touring, you're parenting. You have three at home?
Speaker 1: Now three at home?
Speaker 2: How old twins are?
Speaker 1: Eight? And four?
Speaker 2: Twins are boys? Girls?
Speaker 1: Boy and a girl, a boy and a girl, and
Speaker 1: then youngest is a boy?
Speaker 2: And so soccer do we do this soccer thing?
Speaker 1: Sports? I was a soccer dad for like two or
Speaker 1: three weeks, and then Adeline realized she didn't like soccer
Speaker 1: as much as she thought she did, so she decided
Speaker 1: to bail on it.
Speaker 2: So I was, is it that she didn't like soccer,
Speaker 2: she didn't like getting up on Saturday mornings and spending
Speaker 2: her whole week and being cold on the soccer field?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would. I was watching her and I was like,
Speaker 1: she's just kind of wandering around, like kicking dirt. I
Speaker 1: don't think she likes this as much as the idea
Speaker 1: of liking this.
Speaker 2: It well good for her.
Speaker 1: First I tried it, and I was like, baby, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to force you to be out here if
Speaker 1: you don't want to be out here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, you.
Speaker 1: Obviously don't like but I do like soccer. I'm like,
Speaker 1: what do you like about it? You're just you're not
Speaker 1: doing anything. But but yeah, but she's a great singer
Speaker 1: and really, yes she is, and oh that is awesome.
Speaker 1: She's she's taken some voice lessons and wants to get
Speaker 1: back into that. And so you actually we actually wrote
Speaker 1: a song and recorded it for her class. It was
Speaker 1: it was the cutest thing ever about Koala bears.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you wrote a song about Koala bears. Yes, me
Speaker 2: here just like a.
Speaker 1: Well, she had the melody in her head and I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, so you she had a list of
Speaker 1: things that she could choose to write about or do
Speaker 1: for her homework, and she chose to do a song.
Speaker 2: How cool is that the schools are realizing that's to learn.
Speaker 2: And so I love that my kids come home and
Speaker 2: they're like, well I could write a paper or I
Speaker 2: could do a video presentation. I'm like, oh, we are
Speaker 2: so down with that. Let's get out the drone.
Speaker 1: So I said, okay, so I'll help you with this,
Speaker 1: you know, being the songwriter that I am, I will
Speaker 1: help you concoct this and and and we'll record and
Speaker 1: it'll be a whole thing. I said, just think about,
Speaker 1: you know, some some little pointers, some little facts about
Speaker 1: Kohala bears and if you had and she said, I
Speaker 1: already got it figured out. She's like, Kohalas are brave Koalas,
Speaker 1: look sweet kohala is ukuaa lipt his leaves And I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, never mind, you got this. Obviously had
Speaker 1: the mess. She's eight, but she was seven at the time.
Speaker 1: She had the melody worked out and I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: let's tweak some stuff here. And it was one take
Speaker 1: and she was like okay, Daddy love you by walked
Speaker 1: out in my studio. I'm like, okay, that just happened.
Speaker 1: And that just happened. And then the next day she
Speaker 1: turned it in and they wanted her to sing it
Speaker 1: on the morning announcements and I was like, she's not gonna.
Speaker 1: She was in front of that camera within like seconds
Speaker 1: saying it to the whole and then they took her
Speaker 1: around to different classes and she sang it. It was
Speaker 1: the cutest thing ever. So she obviously has zero problem
Speaker 1: with stage fright.
Speaker 2: Well, I told you about my uh my love for
Speaker 2: being on stage. I was actually I think if I
Speaker 2: had any of that DNA genetic testing done, they would
Speaker 2: discover I was born with the show off gene. It's
Speaker 2: labeled like in two five something. There is definitely a
Speaker 2: gene that your daughter and I daughter I share. But
Speaker 2: my daughter, who is named after me but is adopted
Speaker 2: from Africa, she was born with the show off gene.
Speaker 2: And unlike your daughter that can sing and come up
Speaker 2: with the melody, my daughter is just like me. She
Speaker 2: can't dance, though she can. She's got rhythm. Girlfriend's got rhythms.
Speaker 2: So she's taken dance, She's taken you know, cheerleading, she's
Speaker 2: taken gymnastics. I'm like just.
Speaker 1: Growing.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I think I made.
Speaker 1: Because you should water the other one too, because it's dying.
Speaker 2: But your family's in Nashville. Now, you got three kids
Speaker 2: at home and some that are grown. Yeah, and you're
Speaker 2: on the road a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but this year has been pretty chill. Last year
Speaker 1: we spent a good I think seven months out of
Speaker 1: the year on the road, but we were all over
Speaker 1: the world. We were in South Africa and UK and Europe.
Speaker 1: It was fun.
Speaker 2: And does your wife get to go on those really
Speaker 2: cool South Africa.
Speaker 1: UK You know she hasn't, which is why we're trying
Speaker 1: to like figure life out right now. We're like trying
Speaker 1: to restructure things because we want our kids to be
Speaker 1: able to travel more we want her to be able
Speaker 1: to experience this stuff more as a family and kind
Speaker 1: of incorporate it a little bit more so it's not
Speaker 1: so separated home school. That's that I didn't want to
Speaker 1: say it before home school time. Right now, Yeah, we're
Speaker 1: thinking about that.
Speaker 2: And if if your wife is anything like me, you
Speaker 2: really need to find someone.
Speaker 1: We're already in the process. Yeah, I didn't want to
Speaker 1: get too personal, but yeah I did come on it.
Speaker 2: Deep.
Speaker 1: We've we've Yeah, the kids are super pumped and uh cool,
Speaker 1: yeah cool.
Speaker 2: Bought us a motor home. Well, we had a thirty
Speaker 2: year old motor home that we took a family road
Speaker 2: trip in a couple of years ago. Yeah, and my godson,
Speaker 2: you met Ryan other engineered, not Jeff because he would
Speaker 2: rather have needles stuck in his eye than go on
Speaker 2: a road trip with seventeen children. But we took a
Speaker 2: road trip with my kids, my godkids, seventeen kids.
Speaker 1: All on one motor home.
Speaker 2: Well, we had the motorhome and a thirteen passenger van,
Speaker 2: and the motorhome broke down about every two hundred miles. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you couldn't help us out. The guys told you what
Speaker 2: it would Yeah, get fixed. Duck tape was our best friend.
Speaker 2: So after that, Paul bought a lesser old motor home.
Speaker 2: It's like eighteen years old and it's beautiful, nice, and
Speaker 2: he's like, okay, so as soon as the kids are
Speaker 2: grown and not in school, we're going to take off.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, honey, that will be a thousand years old.
Speaker 1: That's exactly what my wife says. We got to get
Speaker 1: a RV and we want to go travel, and you know,
Speaker 1: when the kids are cross.
Speaker 2: You got to do it.
Speaker 1: We're gonna be she's older than me, so she's she'll
Speaker 1: be forty six this year.
Speaker 2: You just can't wait.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, we did it because you're.
Speaker 2: Youngest is in kindergarten.
Speaker 1: He hasn't started. He'll be five.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so next year kindergarten. So so you're talking eighteen
Speaker 2: years baby. Paul's not even in preschool yet, so that's
Speaker 2: you know, for me, twenty years. No, we got to
Speaker 2: do it now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So we've talked about it. We did get an
Speaker 1: RV last this past summer and went camping and tried
Speaker 1: it out. It was more glamping than camping, but it
Speaker 1: was still they loved it. They loved it, so I
Speaker 1: know that they would they would thrive. I was.
Speaker 2: I was a camper, backpacker, girl, scout hiker for years
Speaker 2: and now I'm like, oh no, a bed, a bet,
Speaker 2: a real bed, not a mattress on the ground, but
Speaker 2: a real bad it's happened.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not about that. Life's I like my sleep
Speaker 1: too much.
Speaker 2: Yeah, glamping is heaven exactly.
Speaker 1: And I have the option. I have a bed.
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you if you want to go lay on
Speaker 2: the ground, that's that's fine. But you got the option.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't have to prove anything. You ever
Speaker 1: watch that show Naked and Afraid, I'm like, I have
Speaker 1: no you ever seen it where they go out in
Speaker 1: the wilderness and they have to just survive, survive, like
Speaker 1: completely survive, sunburn, all the bites, everything in the jungle,
Speaker 1: no things. It's not even worth it. No, no, nothing
Speaker 1: to prove if that, if I'm forced to do that,
Speaker 1: then I'll die. I'll probably not survive very long.
Speaker 2: Well, if it was in the woods around here and
Speaker 2: you were with me, you would survive because I know
Speaker 2: how to forage.
Speaker 1: I could teach you, okay.
Speaker 2: A thousand plants that you can eat and probably ten
Speaker 2: or fifteen that you should never eat. Okay, yeah, so
Speaker 2: it would be fine, and you're vegetarian, so yeah it
Speaker 2: would be great. Wow. I just had a visual of
Speaker 2: us doing one of those reality shows, not the naked part,
Speaker 2: but the foraging and the bug bite, and.
Speaker 1: You teaching me what no, no, no no.
Speaker 2: Here, here's a real simple rule. Anything red when you're
Speaker 2: in the forest. Any berry that's red, almost all of
Speaker 2: them are poisonous.
Speaker 1: Okay, good to know, to know.
Speaker 2: It's like, you know, a bad trick.
Speaker 1: A red berry is red berries are almost table, which
Speaker 1: is the color for stop. So I mean that makes
Speaker 1: there you go.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Chris Daughtry, I can't thank you enough for supporting
Speaker 2: Point Hope and for loving kids, for sharing your amazing
Speaker 2: gift of music with all of us. I hope to
Speaker 2: see you back here in the studio very very soon,
Speaker 2: and I wish you the best of luck with your
Speaker 2: new song. It's so beautiful.