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Speaker 1: Do you think my dad is a bad dad? And

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Speaker 1: this actually is a listener submission. Your mom is Shrek.

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Speaker 1: They submitted to our slash Okop show on Reddit, and

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Speaker 1: so we're gonna this is actually the second story that

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Speaker 1: we've read from Your mom is Shrek. So yeah, your

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Speaker 1: mama Shrek. Thank you for being so active in all

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Speaker 1: of the little community. We love you absolutely. Okay, but

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Speaker 1: this one, this one gets a little serious. So Johnny

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Speaker 1: you ready, I'm buckled in. Yeah, hey guys, again, I

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Speaker 1: just wanted to say thank you so much for the advice.

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Speaker 1: My best friend told me how they were so proud

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Speaker 1: of me for posting my story because I struggled to

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Speaker 1: talk about it. We're proud of you too, So on

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Speaker 1: to the story. Since what happened to my mom, my

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Speaker 1: dad has taken me in. He was also going through

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Speaker 1: a divorce. He was not getting a divorce with my mom.

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Speaker 1: They were getting a divorce because they were not happy

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Speaker 1: and had a miscarriage. Geez. Rough. My dad was very depressed,

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Speaker 1: which I did not see because I was a very

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Speaker 1: happy seven year old. Okay, so I guess we're back

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Speaker 1: in time a little bit. He basically straight up after

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Speaker 1: getting divorced got into a relationship. I liked her, she

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Speaker 1: taught me a lot, but she was not my mom

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Speaker 1: and more of a friend. On New Year's in twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty two, they broke up. He told me the worst

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Speaker 1: things about her, and I could not say anything because

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Speaker 1: it was not my place to which actually, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's probably not like a great thing for your dad

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Speaker 1: to do, oh not in general, to like, you know,

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Speaker 1: trash talk someone he dated. Like you know, I get,

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Speaker 1: I get maybe being a little angry if the breakup

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Speaker 1: was bad, but not the best thing to tell your kid.

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Speaker 2: Agreed.

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Speaker 1: After they broke up, her son had to move out,

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Speaker 1: which took around six to eight months. I was very

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Speaker 1: depressed because my dad has become a bit of an

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Speaker 1: alcoholic and his ex girlfriend would feel unsafe. She would

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Speaker 1: shout at me and call the police, but I didn't.

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Speaker 1: When they moved out, my dad started dating NonStop, and

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Speaker 1: he brings a new girl every week, and I'm tired

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Speaker 1: of it. I'd be tired of my roommate bringing someone

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Speaker 1: home new every week, too, Honestly. I tried to talk

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Speaker 1: to him, but he says I'm stopping him from finding love,

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Speaker 1: which I think is b yes, my dad said of

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Speaker 1: the family is fifty to fifty. So I don't know

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Speaker 1: what to do. I have been talking with my friends

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Speaker 1: and they say he's a bad dad. So is my

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Speaker 1: dad a bad dad? I mean, we only have so

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Speaker 1: much information on this, right yeah. Yeah, so we can't

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Speaker 1: give sweeping generalized advice or you know, designations if someone's

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Speaker 1: a bad dad. But before we give our breakdown, love

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Speaker 1: to hear what you guys in the comment think. This is.

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Speaker 1: This is one of our own. This is from the

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Speaker 1: Okay gang, So let us know what you think your

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Speaker 1: mom is Shrek should do? John, what are your thoughts?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man, I mean definitely, like so talking to your

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Speaker 2: family saying it was fifty to fifty and once again

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Speaker 2: you know we're not experts, but of course you ask

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Speaker 2: and we will always share our thoughts and opinions because

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Speaker 2: we love you. I think if there's fifty percent of

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Speaker 2: the family that does agreeing basically that it's like not

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Speaker 2: a good environment essentially, that's I think what it kind

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Speaker 2: of boils down to, Like I wonder if talking to

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Speaker 2: them more and seeing like, is there a way where

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Speaker 2: like potentially living with one of them, if there's a

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Speaker 2: better situation or even even just their advice, because it

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Speaker 2: sounds like they again from all.

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Speaker 1: They would have more information, you know.

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Speaker 2: They would have more information exactly, And you know, from everything,

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Speaker 2: it sounds like this is not a good environment or

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Speaker 2: one that you deserve to grow up. And I think,

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Speaker 2: if I remember correctly from the first story, op is eleven.

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Speaker 1: Right now, Yeah, my memory serves me correct.

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Speaker 2: So I think talking with the fifty percent of the

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Speaker 2: family that does agree with you for just advice and

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Speaker 2: just just talk to them in general, I feel like

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Speaker 2: would be a good move.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so too. You know, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to say anyone is bad. A lot of us are

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Speaker 1: just doing the best we can with the circumstances we're given.

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Speaker 1: But it doesn't seem like your dad is like being

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Speaker 1: as good of a role model as he could be,

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Speaker 1: you know. And you know, parenting is hard and it

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Speaker 1: takes a lot of like dedication and poor thought. And

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Speaker 1: I think think from what you're saying, like you know,

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Speaker 1: from the alcoholism to shouting at his ex girlfriend to

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Speaker 1: you know, talking really terribly about that ex girlfriend to

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Speaker 1: bringing home a new girl every week, he just doesn't

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Speaker 1: sound like the most stable environment. And like you know,

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Speaker 1: as a kid, you need a stable environment. So I

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Speaker 1: would definitely talk to like what John said, talk to

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Speaker 1: that other side of the family, see what they can

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Speaker 1: do to help, because this is not an ideal environment

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Speaker 1: I think for you exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's the way to look at it,

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Speaker 2: whether it's like like maybe even not even specifically about

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Speaker 2: your dad, but is this the best place? Is this

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Speaker 2: the best yeah environment for you to be in right now?

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Speaker 2: Half your family sounds like they're in your corner, so

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Speaker 2: I would talk to that for sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Keep us updated, op, please do, and also anyone

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Speaker 1: watching it, feel free to give some advice if you've

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Speaker 1: been in a situation similar, or if you haven't, just

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Speaker 1: have something that you want to say. I would love

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Speaker 1: to hear from you, absolutely,