WEBVTT - How To Identify An Evil Person 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.280 They don't want to admit they're bad. They want to 0:00:02.320 --> 0:00:04.480 say they're they're good, and they're trying to fight this 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:07.160 world the urge. But the fact is, it's not the world, 0:00:07.360 --> 0:00:22.160 it's not the culture, it's not society. It's you. What's up, everybody? 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:26.480 Welcome back to the podcast. Episode two two three. Got 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.479 my favorite man, Bernie here, one of my best friends 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:35.200 for decades and a frequent guest on the podcast. 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:38.560 It's an honor privilege every time. I don't take it lightly. 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:42.159 I could tell you mean that because you drive an 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:42.959 hour to get here. 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:46.720 Yeah, it's a privilege and it's so cool. I remember 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:51.159 this whole invitation kind of started with me. I don't 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:53.159 know if you remember this, Like me and you and 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:56.320 Leslie and Amber were just sitting around and we're basically 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:58.600 doing what we're doing now, and I think as Amber 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:01.360 was like, yeah, you should have Bernie on the podcast. 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:03.480 It's like you just do what you're doing. And I 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.880 was like, okay, I'll do that, so yeah, man, And 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:08.480 then it turned into. 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:12.839 This, yeah, so y'all what we do? We answer y'all's 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:16.680 questions and I do not know what I'm about to read. 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:21.280 That's it's intriguing for me. I'm actually excited. Just as 0:01:21.319 --> 0:01:23.240 I said here, I'm like, man, I have no idea 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:26.400 what we're about to get into on this episode, no clue. 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:29.480 I don't see them at all. I used to at 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:32.440 least sort them. I don't even sort them, forgot ant 0:01:32.480 --> 0:01:35.000 Man producing this thing now, so he sorts them, and 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:37.720 I just literally pull it up on this little screen 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:40.039 right here. And if you want to get on this 0:01:40.080 --> 0:01:45.240 little screen right here, email podcast at grangersmith dot com. 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:49.080 Podcast at grangersmith dot com. Submit your questions. It goes 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:51.080 to ant Man, and you may even want to tell 0:01:51.120 --> 0:01:54.520 him hey, But then everything after that is what I'm 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:59.240 about to read. First question comes from Dalton and it says, Hey, Granger, 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.200 I've been a long time watcher of the Smiths and 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:04.640 been a fan of you for a long time. I'm 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:07.600 interested to hear your opinion on tattoos as a Christian, 0:02:08.240 --> 0:02:11.080 since that could be a dicey subject. I'm aware that 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:14.280 you obviously have some meaningful tattoos, and I also have 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:16.680 one that I got from my best friend that passed 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:19.760 away in a car accident in February. I appreciate all 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:21.920 you do and look forward to attending another sermon. Next 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:25.760 time you're in Columbus Burns. You got a tattoo? I do? 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.320 I got a couple couple. Yeah. 0:02:28.440 --> 0:02:31.360 I don't think it's a dicey question subject. 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:34.880 I think culturally maybe there's like I don't know, everything's 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:37.320 polarizing these days. It's like, well, if you don't believe this, 0:02:37.440 --> 0:02:39.200 then you must believe that. And it's like, well, no, 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:41.880 there's nuanced to life and there's so I think that's 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:45.799 probably what he meant by dicey, Like if you say this, then. 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:49.880 Yeah, so you said if you believe this, and you 0:02:49.960 --> 0:02:52.320 must believe this. If you don't believe right. 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:54.560 Well no, people tend to think, well, if you don't 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:57.680 believe this, then you must believe that, and it's like, well, actually, 0:02:57.720 --> 0:02:59.359 maybe I don't believe either of those things. 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:02.520 Yeah. And the other idea is similar to that is 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:07.600 when hey, mister Christian speaking from you know, outside, Hey, 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:10.960 mister Christian, you can't you can't pick and choose what 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:13.240 you want to believe out of the Bible. And if 0:03:13.280 --> 0:03:15.920 you believe this, then you need to believe that. And 0:03:16.080 --> 0:03:18.520 if you don't believe that, then you shouldn't believe anything 0:03:18.520 --> 0:03:21.680 else in the Bible right, And that's a false statement 0:03:22.200 --> 0:03:25.160 because we're called from the Bible itself, as it testifies 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:29.640 to itself, to rightly divide the word of truth. What 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:32.679 does that mean, Well, it means we have to understand 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:35.880 the context of everything we read. We have to we 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:42.240 can't we God intentionally meant everything that's included in the 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:46.080 Bible for an intentional reason, and that intention doesn't always 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:50.120 go straight to us. For example, God commanded Noah to 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:52.960 build an arc. That doesn't mean that we're commanded to 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:57.280 build an arc. He commanded Adam and Eve not to 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:00.480 eat from the tree. He doesn't have any trees that 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:05.160 he's commanded us not to eat from. So there's many 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:07.360 examples like that where we have to understand. Okay, hang on, 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.680 let's divide. Let's rightly divide the word. It's all truth, 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:13.960 all of it, but let's rightly divide it into what 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:17.520 we're supposed to take today. And if we're talking about 0:04:18.040 --> 0:04:24.159 biblical tattoos, we'll start with the context of the Mosaic law, 0:04:24.600 --> 0:04:31.400 which has to be rightly divided into ceremonial and civil 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:36.960 and moral. So if you take those three aspects of 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:40.040 the old Mosaic law, then you have to go okay. 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:43.280 There were certain parts of the law that were civil. 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:45.839 It's like, this is the law of the land. It's 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:51.679 like speeding, don't speed, okay, and then you've got the which, 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:56.400 by the way, speeding changes over generations. A civil law 0:04:56.520 --> 0:05:00.200 is not the same in different civilizations. It changes to 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:03.240 pay attention to the civil law in that place, and 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:07.400 then ceremonial that the people at the time were under 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:11.120 ceremonial law for certain reasons that we are just not 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:15.040 under today. One of those reasons, there's many, but one 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:17.960 of them, tattoos, is a good example of one. That 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:22.000 they were called to be holy. The Bible says, you 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:25.320 shall be holy for I the Lord your God, am holy, holy, 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:31.120 meaning separate, separated, different, be you should be different, and 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:35.160 and tattoos were a symbol at the time of the 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:39.440 paganism of the nations around Israel. So one of the 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:43.400 laws was don't mark yourself because that's what the people, 0:05:43.440 --> 0:05:45.880 that's what the pagans do. And you know how you 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:48.039 want people to know you're different, and you want to 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:51.720 know you're different. Don't get those tattoos because that deliberately 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:54.920 means that you're one of them, not one of us. Okay, 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:58.520 that's easy. And then there's the moral law. The moral law. 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:02.000 Do not kill, do not commit a dirtary. Oh, it's actually, 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:05.360 do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not lie, 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:09.920 do not steal all that stuff, do not make idols. Okay, 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:13.680 those are the moral law that still lasts today, and 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:17.880 we still abide by that law today. So all that 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.680 being said, that that's rightly dividing the truth. Understand the 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:23.920 context of how this stuff was given, and that's why 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:25.960 you might think that this is a dicey subject. It's 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:29.359 actually not. But after all that, this is what I 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:31.560 typically say. I'd get these emails quite a bit on 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:37.599 the podcast. I typically say today, as I read this podcast, 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.640 I do not want to get any more tattoos. I'm 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:43.000 not saying I will not, but I'm saying I have 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:46.000 no desire and I would not recommend it to anyone 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:52.240 because not because it's unbiblical or because it it's not 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:54.040 pleasing to God. I'm not going to go there. It's 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:55.600 too deep. I'm not going to go there. But I'm 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:59.240 going to say it's a it's a permanent mark on 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:02.039 your body for probably a temporary feeling that you're having. 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:06.680 So although I do have some and I don't regret them, 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:10.440 I would say, don't get tattoos. Yeah, that was a 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:11.160 long answer, dude. 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:14.520 I'm sure this may be a time that me and 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:15.480 Griz disagree. 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:17.520 Great, what bring it? Bring it? 0:07:18.000 --> 0:07:22.480 No, I'm not really, but I'm okay with tattoos. 0:07:22.480 --> 0:07:23.280 You want to get one. 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:29.480 I think that what you said is important. Don't make 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:35.840 this a permanent decision based on a temporary feeling. 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:37.160 Okay. 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:42.320 I got buddies that have, you know, cartoon character tattoos 0:07:42.320 --> 0:07:45.280 that they just don't really love those cartoon characters the 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:46.280 way they did it one time. 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:47.760 It's like, I sure done that. 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:52.440 Both of the tattoos that I have are very sentimental, 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:55.960 very meaningful, and I do not regret doing them. 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:57.480 And that's how you kind of want it to be. 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:04.920 I I think they're awesome. I love asking people about them. 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:07.760 You know, the connection that you can find with people 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:11.640 in the conversation starters. And so yeah, I'm going to 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:14.640 differ a little bit maybe and say yes, make sure 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:20.760 that you know you're you know what it means, because 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:22.840 if you get the Chinese writing that you don't know 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:25.520 what it means, and it's like an insult to Chinese people, 0:08:25.560 --> 0:08:27.960 like that's on your body forever, So make sure you 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:30.280 know like all of what it is that you're doing. 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:34.280 But I think it's interesting that he's asking this, but 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:37.960 he already did it or he already has Yeah, he's yeah, 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:42.160 So hopefully he doesn't have like a cartoon or Chinese writing. 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:45.240 He doesn't know. He says, it's his friend that passed away. 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:49.520 Yeah, dude, yeah, yeah. 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:51.520 Dude, I've got I've got the same stuff. Man, we're 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:54.920 you and I Dalton, We're in the same boat. And 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:59.640 so yeah, I'm not saying I I don't agree with tattoo? 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:02.120 Is it over spiritualizing tat I'm not saying. I'm just 0:09:02.160 --> 0:09:05.120 saying as a general advice that I'm going to get 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:07.439 from this microphone on this chair, not yours. I'm just 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:09.520 gonna say, hey, just don't, sir. 0:09:09.480 --> 0:09:11.160 Are you telling me we're not going to get matching 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:11.920 tattoos after this? 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:15.000 We still I thought we still have to get tattoos. 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:20.040 The next questions from anonymous is I'm a twenty one 0:09:20.080 --> 0:09:22.120 year old girl still living at home. I have three 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:25.000 sisters and we have quite a few years apart in 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:29.480 age between us. All I've especially never been close to 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:32.720 my older sister, and it's been a burden to me recently, 0:09:33.240 --> 0:09:36.079 and I'm tired of putting energy or thought into it. 0:09:36.760 --> 0:09:39.880 She's a single, quiet, introvert, and we are quite different. 0:09:40.520 --> 0:09:43.280 She never has been the open type and doesn't put 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:48.280 effort into my life. And what I do point out 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:51.480 is that I just keep praying about it, and I 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:54.800 want to let go of that burden, and it's all 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:59.640 on me right now. I think a friendship needs to 0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:01.400 be a two Oh, I get it. I get it. 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:05.240 I have the fear that the distant relationships in our 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:08.760 family is going to continue when or if I have 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:12.080 a family myself and I have quite a few hard 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:14.320 things that have happened in my life and that have 0:10:14.440 --> 0:10:17.640 shaped the way I think. Here's the question, how do 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:21.360 I move forward in a healthy way when I see 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:25.040 things differently than my own family and I don't feel 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.760 I'm heard when I share my feelings. I love your 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:30.079 podcast and how you're not afraid to be brutally honest, 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:34.760 but it's all in love. Okay, do you understand Anonymous? Here? 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:40.400 I'm tracking enough to kind of answer the question. I guess, 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.400 why don't you just recap and then hit the question. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:49.839 So she's twenty one, still lives at home, three sisters, 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:54.439 she's the oldest, she's the oldest. They're all very different, 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:58.959 and that difference and that distance is now a burden 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:03.720 to her, a weight about that. But she's also tired 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:09.360 of trying to repair things and trying to pull the 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:12.840 family together. She feels like she's not heard when she's 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:15.200 trying to do it, and she has a fear that's 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:21.280 only going to get worse. And she also what is 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:29.240 the one part she said she thinks she's the only one, 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:35.080 and I'm trying to find the one part where she's 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:40.040 she's going on about how this is all about her. 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:42.440 Basically, Yeah, that's what it sounds like. 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:46.400 Okay, so that I got it, I got it all right. 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:50.400 What do you say to anonymous here? Yeah? 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:55.960 I think I appreciate where you're at and you care 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:58.000 enough to email in. 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:03.480 People are just weird, man. 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:08.960 People are annoying, and family, especially like human beings, we 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:13.920 are just like very different, annoying people. And if you 0:12:14.000 --> 0:12:17.319 live with somebody or get close enough to them, you're 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:20.560 going to realize exactly how annoying they are and how 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:25.520 odd and weird and challenging. They are just we're people. 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:30.720 So I think my thought to her is, man, just 0:12:30.760 --> 0:12:34.960 try to put on that lens of gratitude and focus 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:41.480 on the good in them, the gift of relationship and family, 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:44.680 and maybe that kind of ushers in the grace that 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:49.679 you can have for them when you're have different thoughts 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:52.839 or different and really you're just as messed up as 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:53.160 they are. 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:54.360 So that's the bottom line line. 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:57.840 Yeah, that's good. The thing is and so am I 0:12:58.000 --> 0:12:59.920 we all Yeah, yeah, we all deal with this. I 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:03.200 deal with it for sure. The idea that I just 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:06.920 want to be heard, I want so I want to 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:08.640 ask you, like, do you want to be heard or 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:10.800 do you want to fix this relationship? Because those might 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:14.000 be two different things. You say, I don't feel like 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:18.040 i'm heard when I share my feelings and I see 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:21.680 things different than they do. Well, is it was this 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:27.320 ever about you or repairing a family? Because you might 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:29.360 not be able to get both of those things, like 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.400 you can't you might not be able to repair this 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:35.720 and be heard and share your feelings and they all 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:42.520 think you're amazing. So repairing the family might be saying 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:46.080 I'm going to deny myself a little bit here and 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:49.079 just say I love you guys. How could I serve? 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:49.800 Yeah? 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:51.360 What could my role in the family be? 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:56.240 Yeah, grace and move on to a place where you 0:13:56.280 --> 0:14:01.000 do have a little bit healthier communication and you're in 0:14:01.080 --> 0:14:03.640 a better place, because then I think if you focus 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:06.640 on that, you focus on them and serving them and 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:10.079 listening to them, I think they may actually hear your 0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:11.000 feelings a bit a. 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:11.680 Little bit better. 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:16.160 Right, Yeah, Again, you got to find them where they are. 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:20.000 And here's an example. Say one of them is like 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:24.160 really into volleyball, and you're as far from a volleyball 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:27.440 player as anyone could be. Well, what if she's out 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:30.560 in the backyard hypothetically and she's just hitting the volleyball 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:33.960 up against the house. You might want to walk out 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:37.480 there and just go, hey, you need a partner, Hey, 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:39.560 how do I put my hands? How do you do that? 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.120 You put your thumbs like this, and you will you 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:44.840 show me how to hit that. You're coming to her level. 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:48.280 You're meeting her where she is, and you're just breaking 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:51.160 all the barriers by doing that. And inside you're thinking, 0:14:51.200 --> 0:14:53.880 I hate volleyball. This is so stupid. It's cold out here. 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:56.960 Why are we doing just deny all that and go 0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.600 this is about repairing a relationship. That's what you wanted 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:03.880 to begin with. Meet them where they are, and then 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:06.960 watch the barriers breakdown. When Amber and I started getting 0:15:07.000 --> 0:15:10.680 serious and dating, I wrote her a song. And then 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:13.240 whenever we got married and we needed a first dance 0:15:13.280 --> 0:15:15.720 for a wedding, I wrote a song for that. And 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:18.800 then I remember, we got pregnant with London, and I 0:15:18.840 --> 0:15:22.280 wrote London a song. And that's always what I've done. 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:25.400 It's what I've always done and what I still do today. 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:28.920 And those songs have been and still are so special 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:32.640 to me. 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I enjoy all that 0:17:58.960 --> 0:18:01.520 you do to serve the Lord and preach his kingdom. 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:04.680 I too went through a painful loss in January twenty 0:18:04.680 --> 0:18:07.600 twenty as my mom passed away. While it's far different 0:18:07.600 --> 0:18:11.320 from what you went through, it was very deep hurt 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:15.359 for me and crushed me far greater than I ever 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:19.200 could comprehend at the time. It came only a year 0:18:19.280 --> 0:18:23.240 after divorcing my college sweetheart, and losing my home to 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:27.600 a Category five hurricane. For so long, I was in 0:18:27.640 --> 0:18:31.439 a dark place. I was angry with God. I couldn't 0:18:31.480 --> 0:18:34.679 make sense as to why he allowed me to hurt 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:40.520 so much. By his grace, I currently see light that 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:44.000 I'm running to. I honestly just need some encouragement. Man. 0:18:44.320 --> 0:18:47.480 Some days I feel so numb. I started back on 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:51.840 antidepressants and they're helping me, but it's a battle. I 0:18:51.880 --> 0:18:56.240 could use some encouragement. Okay, let me back up here. 0:19:00.000 --> 0:19:02.480 I always always have to clear something up. Anytime I 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:04.040 see this, and I see it quite a bit, I 0:19:04.080 --> 0:19:07.920 always have to clear up the one sentence you wrote 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:11.520 where you said, while it's a far far different pain 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:15.280 than what you went through, it's still a very deep 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:17.240 hurt for me. I gotta say, hang on a second. 0:19:18.680 --> 0:19:24.840 It's always relative. Pain is relative to what you're going 0:19:24.840 --> 0:19:29.280 through in your life. I didn't know your mom, so 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:33.640 therefore I didn't love your mom. You loved your mom, 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:36.520 you didn't love River. I think that's what you're talking about, 0:19:37.400 --> 0:19:41.520 and therefore you can't understand that. So it's all relative. 0:19:41.560 --> 0:19:45.920 But pain is pain. So I I have not lost 0:19:45.920 --> 0:19:48.720 my mom. Bernie has I have not lost my mom, 0:19:48.880 --> 0:19:53.719 so I can't relate to what you're saying. But I 0:19:53.720 --> 0:19:57.640 do know that pain is pain, loss is loss, love 0:19:57.720 --> 0:20:02.040 is love, and losing someone that you love equals grief. Okay, 0:20:02.280 --> 0:20:07.359 So let's just establish that you didn't hurt less than me. Okay, 0:20:10.600 --> 0:20:13.080 you wrote it crushed me far greater than I ever 0:20:13.119 --> 0:20:16.000 could have comprehended at the time. That is a powerful sentence, 0:20:16.040 --> 0:20:20.800 by the way, that is powerful. And then it came 0:20:20.840 --> 0:20:26.000 after you divorced your college sweetheart, your home to a 0:20:26.080 --> 0:20:27.120 Category five hurricane. 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:30.320 Yeah, did they leave the name. 0:20:32.720 --> 0:20:33.080 Travin? 0:20:33.520 --> 0:20:34.639 Travin? Okay? 0:20:35.160 --> 0:20:38.600 I think if what you're looking for, Travin is encouragement, man, 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:43.280 you should be encouraged to be to go through what 0:20:43.359 --> 0:20:48.040 you have been through and to still, as you said, 0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:52.560 see the light and be walking towards it and moving 0:20:52.600 --> 0:20:53.160 towards it. 0:20:54.560 --> 0:20:56.040 I think that that's pretty awesome, man. 0:20:56.280 --> 0:20:58.320 And to be writing in to granture, to be able 0:20:58.560 --> 0:21:02.720 to have the courage to bevulnerable enough with your story, 0:21:02.359 --> 0:21:04.000 it takes a lot. 0:21:03.760 --> 0:21:05.440 And so I hope you're encouraged to just. 0:21:05.480 --> 0:21:10.480 Keep one day, one moment at a time, man, practice 0:21:10.480 --> 0:21:12.960 the presence of God at each step of the. 0:21:12.880 --> 0:21:16.360 Way for him to walk with you. Yeah. Man, I'm 0:21:16.440 --> 0:21:17.479 encouraged by hearing this. 0:21:17.600 --> 0:21:27.400 So we got a similar question last week. Bernie Travin says, 0:21:27.480 --> 0:21:29.560 I was angry at God. I couldn't make sense as 0:21:29.640 --> 0:21:34.680 to why he allowed me to hurt so much. Now, 0:21:35.880 --> 0:21:40.200 we answered that question last week Travin and I could 0:21:40.200 --> 0:21:42.320 send you to that episode. It was episode two twenty two, 0:21:44.160 --> 0:21:45.840 and I'm going to answer it a different way. Now 0:21:45.920 --> 0:21:49.600 I'm gonna give you a new answer that has nothing 0:21:49.600 --> 0:21:52.960 to do with the answer I gave last week about 0:21:53.680 --> 0:21:58.440 why we should answering the question of I'm angry at God? 0:21:58.560 --> 0:22:01.600 Why would he allow me to hurt? And I'll answer 0:22:01.640 --> 0:22:05.400 it in the form of one of my favorite psalms, 0:22:07.000 --> 0:22:09.600 because I personally have found so much peace in the 0:22:09.640 --> 0:22:15.359 psalms and so much encouragement through the psalms, partly because 0:22:15.400 --> 0:22:19.240 we're listening to David, who is what we know is 0:22:19.280 --> 0:22:23.719 a man after God's own heart, and he just struggled, 0:22:25.000 --> 0:22:28.359 but he had a godly struggle. That's a good model 0:22:28.400 --> 0:22:33.240 for us. He suffered, but he had a good godly 0:22:33.440 --> 0:22:38.320 suffering and he suffered well. So you're not promised as 0:22:38.320 --> 0:22:40.240 a Christian that you're not going to suffer. In fact 0:22:40.240 --> 0:22:42.879 that if you ever hear that, that's a huge lie. 0:22:43.000 --> 0:22:45.320 If someone says, follow Jesus and all your suffering will 0:22:45.359 --> 0:22:50.080 be over, Christians laugh, It's like no. Sometimes a lot 0:22:50.119 --> 0:22:53.399 of times it's the opposite. In fact, giving up your 0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:57.639 life for Christ, denying yourself, which offers eternal life and 0:22:57.720 --> 0:23:02.680 offers so much hope and peace joy, giving up yourself 0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:06.000 stings a lot. So there's a lot of pain and 0:23:06.000 --> 0:23:08.880 suffering that goes through that. Let me read Psal. I'm thirteen, 0:23:09.480 --> 0:23:13.200 and you can hear. David. I want you to hear 0:23:13.280 --> 0:23:16.520 how he suffers. Well, I also want you to hear 0:23:17.040 --> 0:23:21.520 how he asks the same questions you're asking. And then 0:23:21.560 --> 0:23:24.000 I want to show you how, even though that's the 0:23:24.000 --> 0:23:26.840 way he feels, I want you to see how he 0:23:26.920 --> 0:23:31.959 reconciles the way he feels with what he knows of 0:23:32.000 --> 0:23:38.880 who God is. It's just six short verses. How long, 0:23:39.400 --> 0:23:45.360